#abstinence-only

[cubezart]

another doodle dump. really love just drawing ted with the most brainless smug expression

[the-witchhunter]

I still think it’s really funny to imagine some very basic knowledge the scientists forgot to include while making Kon-El

Has a high school education but doesn’t know how to tie his shoes or what gay people are because his sex Ed was from 1993 when he was introduced

[strapped-and-beheaded]

hopeless romantic with dreams of a worry-free lavish life. İt's just daydreaming tho, obviously, Anna's not naive, can't be in this town.

[ratbastarddotfuck]

I keep seeing those posts about "don't ever touch drugs if you have any family history of mental illness at all" and they piss me off to such an extreme degree. so here. an extended version of a reply I left on one of those posts.

this kind of "never touch it ever once" fearmongering of drugs is not helpful and plays heavily into societal fearmongering of mental illness in general.

you will never be certain of your family history of mental illness or how you personally will respond to drugs.

the correct advice is always if you're going to try them, to try them first in moderation & with trusted people; to be aware of exactly what it is you're taking & how it's supposed to impact you; potential negative side effects to watch for & yes, your personal potential risk factors (family history, current physical and mental health, interactions with medications you are on, etc.).

schizophrenia and psychosis are not death sentences that need to be avoided at all cost. your life is not over if you develop psychotic symptoms. it happens to many many people regardless of family history regardless of drug use. the right combination of stressors can snap anyone. they are distressing conditions to experience, yes, but they can be managed, and you will be better off if you go into your drug experience aware of the possibility and understanding that it's not something to be absolutely terrified of.

yes, drugs can be a stressor on the brain, and it is important to decide within yourself whether you think you're up for it. however, they can also be a relaxant. my schizophrenic uncle was prescribed marijuana to manage his hallucinations and tone down his cruel intrusive voices. I use it to tone down my ocd intrusive thoughts. weed is not the "breaks open the head of every person with the potential for psychosis" drug. there is not a drug that does this.

it is good to be cautious. it is not good to be so afraid of drugs or mental illness that it keeps you from seeing the truth of the matter. if anything, the anxiety and fear of these issues is only going to put more stressors into your brain and make a break more likely. if it's an overwhelming concern you have, educate yourself about the reality of both drugs AND psychosis, and relax a little.

much more important than "not even once" is knowing yourself, being aware of your mental state and situation, knowing what you need/want from your experience with drugs, and knowing what you should expect from the experience.

if, in the days weeks or even months after the experience, you feel weird or wrong or are worried for any reason, there is no shame in going to your doctor to ask for help. FYI, a doctor (or other mental health service) should never report drug use to the cops, if that's something you're afraid of.

if some kind of psychotic break is triggered in the moment, that's deeply unfortunate. but it is ALWAYS a risk with any drug and any person. it can happen with alcohol it can happen with fuckin coffee if you're in the wrong mood. this is why we have trip sitters when you're trying something (especially a hallucinogen) for the first time. and again, if it does happen, you're life isn't over. if it becomes an ongoing condition, this is something that can be managed.

"not even once" isn't realistic sex ed, and it's not realistic drug ed either. thorough education and destigmatisation are the only ways forward.

[musashi]

Where are we at as a society that I just got 'erm.... I'm a minor'd because I super casually mentioned to a teenager that sometimes adults meet up to have sex. Like I do not understand. are we just straight up not supposed to talk about anything even slightly adjacent to sex anywhere anymore. What the hell is going on

[southernsolarpunk]

Something embarrassing but important from when I was in middle school I just remembered was that we were taught abstinence-only sex education, and the teacher who taught us told us we could get pregnant from oral sex. She said sperm could travel through organ walls and get to the uterus from the stomach. Like she told us that, dead serious, and I believed it for y e a r s because an authority figure said it.

For a little extra info at the time I lived in the middle of fucking nowhere in a deeply red county in North Carolina. I remember that when people talk about how stupid southerners are and I just want people to know that that is by design. We are taught misinformation and most people don’t unlearn it because once the graduate high school (if they end up finishing, I know many people who didn’t) they’re immediately thrown into the job market, often working hard, physically demanding jobs that don’t allow much downtime. and most people don’t exactly enjoy using the little bit of free time they have for education. This is of course, because the American school system makes learning difficult and not enjoyable, so people end up with an aversion towards education due to the association with American schools.

I don’t know if this is a complete thought that makes sense but I hope it does.

[green-fifteen]

Boomerang

tags: stobin, stobin child, OC, teenager problems idk, not!fic

word count: 795

@stobinmonth prompt: school

I'm thinking about Steve as a middle school teacher only because it's my favorite level to teach. How innocent they are! How evil they can be! And what a nightmare when his own kid shows up in class.

And, okay, Jules would want me to tell you that Steve is NOT her father, he just raised her with her mom and has been there every single day since she was born. It's an IMPORTANT distinction when the man in question is contractually obligated to teach her peers about condoms.

Right after the D.A.R.E. convocation the first week of school (a totally sexless function!), Kelly Nesbit made a button in Home Ec. that read, "JUST SAY YES TO MR. HARRINGTON" with wobbly little hearts in the O's. So you can imagine the kind of thing she is dealing with, here.

She sat her parents down the weekend before 6th grade to let them know the situation.

"Dad, you're not my father."

"I'm not?"

"You're very important to me, but we both agree that I am not related to you."

Robin cut in. "Okay so who am I? By your logic."

"You can be my mother, it's fine. It's on all the paperwork, you enrolled me."

"You do know my signature is on your birth certificate, right?" Steve reminds her.

"Unimportant. I won't be bringing my birth certificate to school and showing it off to my friends. If we're careful, we should be able to pull this off."

Robin and Steve shared a wary glance.

"And what are we pulling off, exactly?"

"Convincing the school that I am not related to a teacher." She gestured at Steve with a offensive amount of dismay. Robin made a mental note to have that 'terrible role model' talk with Erica that she'd been putting off.

Steve was eventually manipulated into agreeing when Jules said something like, "Aunt Nancy was right. She said you'd never agree because you're overly attached to me."

(Which I'm sure you can guess Nancy did not say. Her actual words were like, "If you ask him to pretend he doesn't love you at school, he might actually start crying in the hallways.")

So they don't speak to each other at school outside of 4th period, when Steve is careful to only call on her as much as he would any other student. No one suspects a thing for just over a month, at which point Jules manages to step all over her own careful plan.

It's something like this: it's 4th period. The bell is about to ring and Steve is handing back module one tests from the week before. Jules gets hers and just stares at it for a solid minute. He took off two points for that? FOUR points for THAT? And you see, Julia Buckley is something of a whiz and a perfectionist. A sense of indignation begins to build as she looks over the rest of the marks Steve left on her paper. And sure, she did get some things wrong. But what's the point of your dad being your teacher if he doesn't even let the small stuff slide? It's outrageous.

When she sees the little note at the bottom of the paper, a scribbled nonsensical little Good work, Bluejay! her frustration boils over.

"Dad!"

She yells into the quiet classroom. Everyone turns to look at her and then at Mr. Harrington, who is frozen with his handmade "BEST DAD" mug an inch from his lips. He looks like a raccoon caught in a floodlight.

"Do you think I don't know what peer pressure is? I wrote you a very clear definition. Do you even have a rubric? I want to see it."

Someone laughs or she notices the looks on their faces and realizes she's really done it now. She only has two choices. She can either insist she called the teacher Dad by mistake in the most humiliating way possible and endure the shame of hearing her classmates giggle and spread it all over the school for the rest of the week. Or, she can own up and buy herself a much longer, slower mortification. One that doesn't let up until graduation.

Steve eventually clears his throat. "No rubric-- just the answer sheet, Miss Buckley. If you have a problem with your grade, please see me after class."

And she decides right there, 'Bluejay' in his messy scrawl and 'Miss Buckley' in that strained tone of voice.

"Why bother?" She rolls her eyes and tries to sound casual. "I'll just see you at home."

She doesn't stay to appreciate the wide, surprised look he gives her or the astonished little whispers of her peers. The bell rings like a sign from God and she high-tails it right out of there.

[hubridbunny]

Why does no one ever seem to have a child the normal way. Why’s it always gotta be some shit like “I stole your dna and combined it with mine in a lab”

[heir-of-the-chair]

See I love Pete and Steph and they work so well together because they are the only normal people in all of Hatchetfield

[t3a-gh0st]

I think an aspect of camp that Abstinence Camp fails to show us is the absolute horror of waking up at 6am and the camp counselors bring out the call and response songs.

[itsdefinitely]

do girl jeri and boy jerry exist explicitly to torment me

[justinspoliticalcorner]

Greg Owen at LGBTQ Nation:

The Florida Department of Education (FLDOE) has ordered local school districts to submit their sex education plans to the state for approval. The FLDOE has also said the classes must promote abstinence and cannot include discussion of contraception or pictures of reproductive health organs. The sex-ed takeover removes local discretion when it comes to district sex education classes and materials.

For some time, Florida law has mandated that sex-ed lessons emphasize the “benefits of sexual abstinence as the expected standard and the consequences of teenage pregnancy” for grades 6 through 12. But now the state has removed any local control of additional information school districts can provide their students. A memo written by Broward County administrators obtained by The Orlando Sentinel summarized the district’s verbal interactions with state officials regarding their takeover of sex ed in the state. The state provided no written instructions provided for districts.

“Pictures of external sexual/reproductive anatomy should not be included in any grade level,” the memo recorded state officials as saying. “Contraceptives are not part of any health or science standard” but could be mentioned as a “health resource,” though “pictures, activities, or demonstrations that illustrate their use should not be included in instruction in any grade level,” it said. “Different types of sex (i.e., anal, oral, and vaginal) cannot be part of instruction in any grade level,” state officials added, according to the Broward memo. Orange County schools previously started their lessons in 5th grade with one class devoted to the physical changes of puberty. High schoolers had discussions about contraception and sexually transmitted diseases. Now the state must approve any additional curriculum and they’ll either deny the additions or ignore them, forcing local districts to cancel sex-ed classes altogether until the state addresses their plans.

Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis (R) wages war on accurate sex education in schools, as any sex ed class in Sunshine State schools must mention abstinence and cannot include discussion of contraception or pictures of reproductive health organs.

[heykesl]

LAUREN LOPEZ as MARY NIGHTMARE TIME: EPISODE 2 ABSTINENCE CAMP ( 2022 )

[itsbebebrainrotting]

Ive heard quite a bit of talk about parkour sex and parkour pregnancy and yet no discussions about parkour birth control and parkour abortions. What if the people dont want babies, parkour civilization fandom? What then?

[postsforposting]

in dp1, "you can't buy love but only rent it for three minutes". dancers lend a hand.

you still gotta ask dancers if they want your hand.

calling for resumes but not paying medical/dental is asking to rent a hand without benefits

(everyone but domino got a little death in the end though: that's doing your friends a solid)

you can take advantage of your friends, and that can be forever, but that's only friends with benefits

especially if they're not always there for you

so if you want more than a little death,

you can't rent that, you can't pay for it,

so if you want more than just a little death

you need someone who isn't already married

or currently being nailed by someone else

you need to give it away for free

and dance

if you want a life together

[overly-verbose]

I'm just thinking that Uraume is a great cook, but the real masterpieces are made up of people. I understand that Sukuna will be a little uncomfortable eating people's kebabs (that usually scares teenagers, you know). BUT. The moral mobility of His Evil Majesty's mentality simply says to me: Find the enemy, and the big guy will finally get a nice meal. He worked so hard, he deserves dinner. ("Fu_k, Marry, Eat" game. Start). SO. ONE DAY. People tempura — yes or no? How much Curse is in our King?

Uraume is indeed a great cook, ridiculously even lol

- I mean afaik it's canon that, whilst human meat is supposedly difficult to prepare well, they managed to do it; which is one of the main reasons why Sukuna kept them around aside from the fact that they're a powerful sorcerer lol

(he most probably liked the unaltered taste by itself too (he did in my Series Canon for sure), but Uraume made it additionally enjoyable - so for Mr. I Do What I Want it was definitely a unique plus lol)

As for SIkuna eating people, hmm

Although he's pretty deeply in denial about it, he doesn't actually directly feel anything negative at the prospect

(as showed in Part 4, he actually found the little taste of Yuji's blood he got by accident ridiculously enjoyable, if in terms of Identity Issues and 'Ah Shit That's The Kid's Blood' extremely distressing as well. What a fun combination)

- it's Everything Else around it that makes him uneasy; like the fact that he Knows It's Wrong, The Kids Would Most Freaking Likely Not Like it, and just overall the Character Dissonance he feels about it all

because how the fuck can he be a protective inner marshmallow that would just like to hug the kids, and give them headpats, and heal their wounds, and just overall take care of them as best as he can 🥺

and someone that gets absolutely freaking giddy at the idea and acts of violence and bloodshed (as long as it doesn't involve Some People but especially if it involves Other Ones) at the same time y'know?

(sorry bro, you're not gonna get any less contradictory anytime soon if ever - have fun being yourself, whatever that means, lol

Complex characterisation and all that ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ)

But returning to the topic; I won't say anything about further down the timeline

(he might, he might not, who knows, probably not in a way that would upset the kids too much if anything but ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯)

but there is this one particular, hm, person that would fit all boxes in terms of being a mostly guiltless but still tasty snack, though not as tasty as possible, who miight be meeting him relatively soon (how??)

- and SIkuna wouldn't even need to break any promises with Yuji (oop spoiler 👀) to indeed have a spooky snack!

So, before anything as sophisticated as tempura - there may be moreso sashimi :] *HeeHee HoHo's a bit as lighting strikes in the background and I comically jump in surprise because wtf the sky's clear-????*

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