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May I have your attention, please.

I came across this link in facebook and thought to share it here as I can reach more international people here. I read multiple posts of Nishat Tasnim, for whom the fund is being raised, about her parents tortures and violence against her. She tried to commit suicide multiple times, her therapist even gaslighted her as she's an ex-Muslim and didn't conform to her parent's pressure on getting married, albeit she is legally underaged. Last year she left her family house but had to get back due to pandemic induced financial situation. I even talked with her personally. Currently she's malnourished, physically sick and hallucinates quite often, with severe anxiety and PTSD. If you can, spread the words and help her in her education.

Please take my word when I say that she tried to commit suicide not once but multiple times. I won't share those posts here. Just reading them sent me through spirals. If you can, help her via gofundme or spread this post and get more reach to it. I'll really appreciate it. Thank you!

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Bless you who compiled these🥺🥺🥺💜💜💜🌼🌼🌼

Cleaning

clean bathroom tips

organize your closet

how to fix a leaky faucet

how to keep a clean kitchen

removing stains from your carpet

Money

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

a list of stress relievers

how to get free therapy

how to remove a splinter

how to avoid a hangover

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Food

recipes that take 30 minutes or less

Yummy apple thing

Brownie in a cup

Cookie in a cup

French bread pizza

Egg tacos

panera mac n cheese recipe

different salad recipes

harry potter recipes

healthy recipes

various cookie recipes

chocolate cupcakes w/ eggless cookie dough topping

s’mores pie 

nutella hot chocolate

peanut butter nutella swirl cookies

cookie in a mug

starbucks holiday drinks

fruit leathers 

brownie in a mug

how to make ramen 1000x better

eggless cookie dough (not to bake, just to eat)

make recipes using things you already have

how to put together a very fancy cheese plate 

make different flavored lemonades

various desert recipes

make tiny chocolate chip cookies

20 dishes every cook should know

learn how to make your own tea

Macaroni and cheese in a mug

Study snacks (2)

40 on-the-go breakfast recipes

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants 

Getting an apartment

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap 

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to get a book published

how to knit

how to use a polaroid camera

how to solve a rubik’s cube

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

learn how to do yoga

100 tips for life

learn how to make your own cards

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My 2 cents on Netflix movie Mignonnes/Cuties

Warning : spoiler

I am taking the risk of losing my followers but I'm going to give my two cents anyways because I feel like it'll also clear my conscience. I will try to put my thoughts as objectively as possible without attacking or demeaning any school of thoughts or ideology.

I watched Cuties on Netflix because I wanted to know why it is getting so much backlashes. My conclusion is, I hate this movie and I wish I could unsee this.

Hear me out why.

I did some background checks. This is a French coming-of-age comedy-drama film written and directed by French-Senegalese Maïmouna Doucouré-I am copy pasting this sentence straight from google. The initial poster that Netflix used was really disturbing and points out Netflix’s desperation to draw mass attention-which is plainly disgusting given a room full of people were okay with this idea. Netflix although came up with an apology and replaced the poster, but that doesn’t make this movie any less disturbing for me.

If I want to summarize the plot in a few words- Amy comes from a typical conservative Muslim family which tells her how to act like a Muslim woman. Her father married another woman and her mother was struggling with the reality of raising 3 children in a foreign country on her own. A 11 year old girl is sure to have a lot of confusion about her femininity; a girl that age also feels rebellious given the dysfunctionality of her family. Amy gets drawn to Angelica who was dancing to raggetone while doing laundry. After that, Amy embarked on a journey where she twerked and grinded and made seductive gestures multiple times (which she learned from videos of stripper women wearing little to almost nothing) for dance competition practices with the group, took a picture of her private part and posted it online-just to name a few. These kids wanted to be treated as ‘not just kids’. In the end, Amy had an epiphany (which felt really vague because she started to tear up and left the dance competition for which she did all sorts of questionable things) and began her life as a normal child.

I know that pedophilia, hypersexualization of underage children, child trafficking are all too real issues. I read somewhere that the director wanted to tell this as her story. Did she do a good job? My answer is-not at all. You wanted to tell a story where underage girls dress and act like adults because they feel pressured by society; you could choose documentary style film execution or animated movie. This movie felt like you wanted to say that don’t do serial killing by showing long shots of graphical murder and showing footage from such an angel which feels intentional and at times, I don’t know how to put it in word even, to preach that serial-killing is a crime. It’s a contradiction. You used real underage girls and took uncomfortably long and zoomed shots of their legs spreading, chests and buttocks shaking, grinding on the floor, biting their lips - it felt way too detailed and intentional which I feel like no sane person would want to watch. I couldn’t look at those scenes, it’s really disgusting cause it felt like these girls are way too young to be exposed to this kind of stuff. I heard that a psychotherapist was consulted during shooting this movie but this doesn’t avoid the damage. Children can’t consent, so their parents allowed this to happen, which also felt morally wrong to me. I didn’t want to make a rash decision so I tortured myself to watch it to its entirety and I feel nauseous. I was shocked to see that audiences were clapping while the Cuties group was performing, all actions that I mentioned previously as if it’s normal for some 11 year olds to do these.

This movie has TV-MA certification which means-”This program is intended to be viewed by mature, adult audiences and may be unsuitable for children under 17. Contains content that is unsuitable for children.” So you’re making a movie where some 11/12 year old girls are allowed to do suggestive sexual poses, and only adults can watch it? Why would you endanger children for adult entertainment? Aren’t we supposed to protect kids from harms?

The religious portrayal in this movie is not entirely accurate (I was born and raised as a Muslim) but the movie wanted to depict the underlying conservatism which are superstitious to some extent, and my 2-cents are concerned with these children so I don’t want to drag religion here. Trust me I wanted to make sense of this movie but I couldn’t. My heart broke seeing those girls doing shits like these. Unfollow me if you feel like I’m overreacting with this issue. I just couldn’t swallow it.

EDIT:

If you want to skip my long post, watch this instead. This youtuber articulated the issues thoroughly.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGITudIVBE8

[a-fritterer]

Moodswings in This Order DPR IAN

I'm fucking obsessed with this whole album.

All songs, music videos, aesthetics, story and IAN - okay I can't explain how much I love everything; the feelings is so pure that it has me high.

Christian Yu, I fell in friendship with you man🌼💜You're my friend in the dark🥺

[a-fritterer]

Even if I'm late than most of you out there, I'm glad I've become an army. I do want to see them with my own eyes but if that dream never comes true, I'll still be grateful for what they did for me.

I'm just really thankfull to have bts in my life

[a-fritterer]

I'm looking for a sign. I can't see any. Or may be there is, but I'm either blind or refusing to see that.

I am so scared and I am so sick of that.

Most of the times I don't know why does I feel the way I feel.

[a-fritterer]

Hey there lovely people, I hope you're doing just the way you want to.

If not, that's okay. Not everything we plan goes accordingly and you comes first, not your work or routine. I hope you're loving yourselves dedicatedly.

I tried but I couldn't be able to be regular here. I don't know what went wrong. It's probably my mental health which affected my presence here. Nothing worthwhile in my life happened, it's so dull but I got used to it. Life goes on. It could go worst.

If you're reading this, I want you to take care of yourself. I wish I had at least a ray to go on. There's nothing. But I'm fine. You can dm or send me ask if you want to. Sorry that I didn't respond to all the tag games.

I'm not even active in my sideblog either. The other day I read my bio there, and the pinned post. Damn the change that took place after writing those! It felt so weird. I guess that's how life is. As those blogs weren't getting any reach, I stopped trying.

I'm active in the socials where my original identity is open to the world. I'm trying to cut back as those are draining me. Also, I have to watch out whatever I say or do there, as I'm still in my home country where free speech is threatened, and my family won't accept me for who I am.

Anyways, I'll come up with something to be regular here. I also may try to write something here, can't promise though. I'd love to hear more from you people 🥰

Sending hugs and loves to you 🤗🌸🌺🏵💮

[a-fritterer]

I want to write some of the things that I come across frequently when BTS and Army are involved.

I know about BTS since 2016, but I'm actually an Army since 2020, with O.N kinetic. Since then, these boys are the ones that I'm walking with. I'm not in a good place since last year. These boys, 7 angels managed to make it to my heart. Even in the most sombre days that I faced till today, and I strongly believe that the worst is yet to come, I had BTS with me. They inspired me to learn Korean and give it a shot to my polyglot dream. Be myself. Speak myself. Love myself.

I wish I met them earlier. With them, I have this friendship and I'd love to see them perform live with my own eyes. Right now, I'm watching their old Run episodes. BTS means a lot to me.

An artist experiments and creates. Art is a form of self-expression too. BTS while starting their career had dreams in their eyes while fighting basic necessities. Nothing was a bed of rose for them. I saw videos where they're mistreated; I cried while watching. Quite a few times they thought of disbanding. They didn't give up, and now look at them!

To me, even if BTS didn't manage to stay as chart topper for 6 weeks straight, I won't stop loving them. They support and inspire in ways I can't show or explain. One of my good friends started stanning BTS with Butter, and now she's an Army. BTS also made their way to her heart. I'm happy for that.

The reason that I'm writing all these, is because Army is a huge fandom, and people of various tastes are here. It's a good thing. Sometimes people personally tell me or I see their comments on socials about how they're disappointed about 3 English singles from BTS, or how there's no story-based BTS songs now. I'll try to answer all of these next.

BTS has several albums in Japanese, to me their Japanese singles are excellent. Japanese is a whole other language than Korean, so about those, I didn't see anyone bothered. Japanese is hard too unlike the Korean Hangul language. For the Japanese Army, BTS sang in their language, even produced masterpieces like "Stay Gold" and "Your Eyes Tell". With the pandemic going on, in my country it's getting worst day be a day where the world is coming back to a bit of sanity, BTS made some English songs. I read what RM said that it won't matter whether they're not in No 1 or what language is the song. I see these English singles as them reaching to more people; dance to these to your heart contents. In the Kpop industry, a lot of the artists came from other countries-China, Australia, USA and still sing in multiple languages. I know a lot of you are concerned that BTS may be feeling pressured. If they do, I think they can walk away as artists. When I saw Permission to Dance music video, their joyous faces healed me. That's what I'm talking about. They seem happy and they want us to be so. If their old songs make you happy, you can still listen to those right? I still do that.

Artists time to time experiment. It's part of the growth. I do love the Bangtan Universe but I also love how they're trying out different styles.

I try to grow. Countless times I saw people bashing other fandoms. Once a friend who's an EXOL and been listening to KPOP for over a decade told me that during the IG live of Baekhyun, someone asked him if he's jealous that BTS has been nominated for a Grammy. I felt so annoyed. If you love a band or an artist, I don't think that their awards and recognition determine your love for them, does it? EXO is a great band. Asking BBH about being jealous of BTS was an immature question. It's a given that a large fandom will have people with various traits and ideologies. I don't engage in fandom wars and I don't condone that as well. Just respect others, please.

You can fell out of love from anything and that's okay. You may not like everything that your artists are putting. Artists are humans too. They can't satisfy everyone out there, and being content with their own creations should be a priority too. As humans, you have your concerns and I have mine. I just put my perspective here. My friends who are dealing with depressions and life problems found love in BTS. To me, that's a proud and happy moment. In PTD, BTS thought about the people who can't hear by making sign language movements. Before this, I never put into much thought how people with hearing impairment can dance without music. I love this music video for their love and concern for people from all walks of life.

If you stop being an Army, I wish you the best.

🥰🥰🥰

[a-fritterer]

I just had to take this snap😂😂😂😂If you know, you know😪🥴

[a-fritterer]

On March 9, 1993 in the town of Daegu, a kitty was born named Min Yoongi. It was a Tuesday, just like today.

I wanted to say a lot, but I can't write it. There's nothing much going on in my life. I just wanted to write you a letter, whether you read it or not. You love your music and you want your music to be our comfort. I am living life like one more day to waste oxygen. A while ago I realized that I have no more reason to keep going, but to listen to your voice and words, I will try a bit harder. You're the friend I never met, but your songs are like the hug from that friend.

Dear Min Yoongi, my Agust D, our little meowmeow,

Thank you for being born and existing. Thank you for writing, for motivating, for putting yourself everyday even though you have a lot going on. When I am feeling down, I try to think what you'll do or say if it's you. You're the friend I never met in my life, but I want to, before I die, and have ice Americano.

Happy Birthday Min Yoongi Suga! 💜

[a-fritterer]

My last day as a 26 year old

Within a few hours, I won’t be a 26 year old anymore.

I’m just a few hours away to be 27. According to Korean lunar calendar, I’m actually going to be 28.

28, just like that AgustD song of the mixtape, D-2.

26 is by far the crappiest age in my 20s. And I’m not that far away to turn into 30. Life is yet to become shittier beyond proportion. 

And I thought last December and the subsequent January were my worst.

Never thought this whole 2020 will push me backwards, or I may have stepped forward but I can’t even realize it because I’m inadvertently comparing myself to others and demeaning myself. 

There were days where I used to get up, and just repeat everything, but wasn’t doing anything significant.  And I was constantly hating myself for it. Then something happened which pushed me to literally to my rock bottom, and I’m still not over it. For like, 6/7 months, I am in a state which is basically eating me but I feel numb, guilty and I’m telling myself that I’m fine. I don’t know if it’s the right thing to do, because people are in real problems; this year is a real bitch to even deal with. I’m now at that square one phase where I was, exactly one year ago, only difference is, this year it lasted more than two months, it’s more than seven months where I’m head over heels with my own void. I’m broke, I have no career, I wanted to see myself in a place which now I’m nowhere near, and my mental health is a joke. I am not strong enough to handle this.

26 was just the preview of the craps that are yet to come. I will thank, Suga, for the song ‘So far away’. 

“That’s right, fuck, I live because I can’t die

But I don’t have anything I want to do

I’m in so much pain and loneliness but people around me

Keep telling me to regain my consciousness

I try to vent my anger but I only got myself

So what’s the point of venting my anger

I’m scared to open my eyes everyday and start breathing”

Yeah I live because, I can’t die. 

[a-fritterer]

You have people around you.

You are surrounded by your family.

You're sick, you're tired.

And you realized, there's absolutely no one on whose shoulder you could rest your head.

No one.

[a-fritterer]

For those antis and morons who're throwing Min Yoongi under the bus, you should know that a little learning is a dangerous thing. First teach yourselves fact and then talk. Don't try to sway people's attention away from what's going on. If you can't take this form of artistic expression, don't call yourself a hip-hop or k-pop lover. This form of art is not for you.

That said, there's a quote in the movie Scarface that was used on the cover of Agust D mixtape-

"You need people like me.

You need people like me so you can point your fucking finger and say,' That's the bad guy.' "

[a-fritterer]

Watch "ATEEZ(에이티즈) - 'THANXX’ Official MV" on YouTube

yes sir, yes sir, yes sir

These boys had me killed😭😭😭😭😭😭

[a-fritterer]

Last night I was watching 'BTS in the soop' and I realized that I had a hidden longing for a life like them- staying outside of city in the midst of greenary with people you cared about most. I wish I had a chance like that👀

I wish I could throw this life away for a while.

Seeing the boys enjoying themselves and relaxing was so therapeutic to watch even🤩

[a-fritterer]

Actually, I didn't realize that it's been a while since I had been active. I wasn't busy per se. Lately I'm feeling that my days are going like the movie 'Groundhog Day', each day feels exactly the same, monotonous but days are passing like the reel of a film. I'm sorry that I'm really terrible with words and thus I can't express fully what I want to say.

Extremely sorry for those who messaged me and sent me asks😭I'll get back to them I promise. Thank you for pouring your love for me, it means so much🥰I love all my mutuals and followers💜

Currently I'm trying to fix my blog, which will take some time. I'll be back after that.

Till then, take my love🌸And don't forget to love yourselves. One day, even when I'm really gone, just remember that you people mattered to me and reminded me to take care of myself, so you owe me your self-love, okay?

Light it up like a dynamite! 🧨🧨🧨