#They're assholes

[goodluckclove]

hey man, is that incredibly intense comment you posted online a product of how you would actually talk to another human being standing directly in front of you? or are you just emboldened by the fact that you're operating on a detached, online medium that removes both the full context of the situation and the consequence of saying something to someone that - while maybe being based in truth - is definitely worded to be incredibly passive-aggressive, if not outright cruel?

[leavemetoplaythesims]

hey i went through old screenshots and found angelo and cristian so naturally i remade them eeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

most of you probably don't know who they are, this is what they used to look like three years ago.

[didnt-want-to-sleep-anyway]

Just finished playing Stray

And holy shit, that made me feel things :D

[vizthedatum]

I am so serious about this.

I am at a point right now where I think it is ABLEIST for narcissists (or advocates of UNDIAGNOSED PEOPLE and/or PEOPLE WITH NARCISSISTIC TENDENCIES WHO DO NOT TAKE ANY ACCOUNTABILITY) not to acknowledge that:

they are one

they know that you are empathic and that you have either had a past with codependency issues OR are a codependent

they think your emotions are silly

they impose ultimatums and call it boundaries

Because if you don't acknowledge this, then you're targeting us.

I do not think it is ableist to call out literal narcissists who REFUSE to acknowledge their own patterns of behavior, take any accountability, and straight up use people all for the sake of *control*

And what's more:

Here is an extreme "fuck you" to both of my exes from last year (my ex-spouse and my other partner), who I've identified as undiagnosed narcissists (most likely, covert narcissists). The latter ex-partner may be diagnosed, but who knows since they lie/conceal their DID from people and throw a tantrum when they can't get their way. Read it and weep; both of you are fucking children - call me a villain and a monster when I have TRIED MY UTMOST BEST TO LOVE THE BOTH OF YOU.

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I do have a lot of respect for those with NPD or narcissistic traits WHO LITERALLY ARE DOING THE WORK TO GROW/HEAL - this post is not about them.

[scaryscarecrows]

How healthy is Crane and Kitty’s relationship? From a normal standpoint, like, good communication and the like.

The issue here is that they have a surprisingly healthy relationship. (Then again, they've both taken psych classes and have the sense to use their words. :p)

It's other people that are the problem. They? Get on fine. Enter someone who doesn't use earbuds in public and chooses to blast Bad Pop Music on the subway and, well, they use their words to agree that that person needs to be taught some manners. With fear toxin. Collateral damage be damned.

[vera-dauriac]

Just officially told the Met to not auto renew my streaming subscription at midnight when my year ends, and man, it felt good to tell them why I wasn't renewing.

[rudolphsb9]

the angst about Ahkmenrah not getting to have an afterlife like he probably always expected when he was alive is real rn

[logankisseswade]

if you hate transgender people go fuck yourself

[wiisagi-maiingan]

You are allowed to exist alone in public btw. You're allowed to go to the movies alone and go out to eat alone and hang out in a park alone and go for a walk alone and whatever else. It isn't weird or creepy, it doesn't make you lonely or a loser or whatever. You are allowed to just exist as yourself.

[a-scary-lack-of-common-sense]

I think I made some of you guys a little sad with my last post, so you can have some happy aftermath twins before part 2, as a treat ❤️

[dykekarkat]

the ideal aaron neil dynamic is one where they're constantly bitching at each other like feral cats who hiss and spit whenever they're in the same room. i do not want them to be friends i want them to be mortal enemies that have to play nice at thanksgiving dinner for the rest of their lives. neil sends aaron a picture of an apple once a day for the rest of his life type dynamic do you guys get me

[tofuingho]

My family kept chickens for a while.

The rooster was basically a guard dog because he would run up and attack anyone who visited unannounced.

[lutheban]

None of them are equivalent to eachother but you get the point

[weekend-conspiracy-theorist]

given cass's canonical love of reality tv, I am absolutely certain that every year babs has to go into cbs's recruitment email and delete her survivor audition video

[keferon]

......I found the new fic to lose my sleep over

[teaboot]

do u think physical build is an important part of being security? im 5'5 and think i look very timid, but ive seen some entry level security job listings around me that ive been interested in.

I've only been private security for around five years, so I'm still relatively green compared to my colleagues, but I personally am about 5'3" and I've been doing great!

And again, I'm not incredibly experienced, but if I were to make a hire, I'd be prioritizing a number of things before considering height.

Physically you need to be capable of doing your duties without pain- so if you have chronic pain, foot patrol may not be your bag, but CCTV monitoring might work. If you can't drive, being a site manager may not work, but working door duty somewhere local might be.

Physical presence- in regards to 'looking timid'- is something that you can work on if you want to, but sometimes an unassuming appearance is your advantage.

A "problem demographic" (using HEAVY quotations there) for a lot of places like malls and downtown areas is adult women with trauma, addiction, and mental health issues- they're seen by a lot of clients as "crazy ladies" and treated less like people by the general public, and a good number have very good reason not to trust men ESPECIALLY in uniform, but are more often than not perfectly easy to get along with if you're polite, respectful, and don't come off as a threat or authority figure. Being able to offer menstrual products and having resources around the area you can recommend is good, too.

And if I HAVE to move people out from behind buildings and such, saying "fuck off asshole" like folks imagine is NOT as effective as "Hey, sorry, this area is restricted, but here are some other places that might be okay- I need to do another check in about an hour, so heads up, and the church up the street is doing hot chocolate right now".

Really, if you want to do well in security- at least basic work- I'd say you want to focus on the following:

Wear your uniform and keep it tidy

Show up prepared and on time

Be able to approach strangers and talk to them

Keep a positive, non-agressive attitude, and be willing to give people the benefit of the doubt

Learn deescalation techniques to diffuse conflict

Have a strong handle on your personal emotions and opinions

Kerp calm and rational in an emergency

Learn basic first aid and get certified if you can, it's not technically necessary but I've used that more than I'd like to admit

Keep a strong moral compass

Really, I'd say it boils down to keeping to your sense of ethics, showing up on time, and knowing how to follow orders with nuanced interpretation.

Beyond that, you're golden