#Survivor 2019

[whatthefuckisasweep]

A follow up to my Stan and Eddie napping together drawing : )

@stanstanthebirdman inspired the idea of eddie fussing over stan's bandages and i kinda ran with it and made it an eddie and stan comfort moment :' )

[in-sufficientdata]

Why the Konmari method is pretty useless for people with genuine problems with hoarding and OCD, or OCD tendencies, at least without some caveats and definitions:

Hoarding is defined by a persistent emotional attachment to inanimate objects. Clutterers and hoarders often have an unconscious need to save items, whether for an imagined future ideal use, or just because otherwise they would end up in the landfill.

People with these issues often have difficulty discerning the difference between a truly useful item and something that should be given or thrown away because of their emotional attachment to the item.

They see themselves as the best curator of the items, which may range from useful items like craft supplies, display items, sentimental items, and stuff that is truly just junk.

"Sunk costs" is a term from economics that means that a cost that has already been incurred and cannot be recovered. Although the original term refers to finances, the sunk costs of the time and effort someone has put into an item can influence their decision to keep the item.

Therefore, another factor in this attachment is the sunk costs of money, effort, and time that a person has put into an item. A person may no longer be personally attached to an item, but will keep it because they have always meant to use it or simply because it's not yet ruined.

This is also a reason those with fewer economic advantage tend to be hoarders more than those with a comfortable financial situation. Someone like this realizing they've obtained two of an item will take on the responsibility of curating both instead of getting rid of one.

Because of all these factors, the expression that was translated as "sparks joy" in the English version is too easy for a clutterer to confuse or redefine in their own mind as they work to sort through their items.

In my case, for example, I had a situation where the basement, which was full of our excess saved items, needed to be cleared so the cracked foundation could be repaired. I had to decide what to save in the limited storage space we still had, and what to throw out or donate.

If Konmari had been in vogue at the time (this was in 2004) I'm certain I would have kept far more items than I should have. This language is too easy for a clutterer to massage and redefine in their own mind based on what the item is.

First, clutterers need to be clear-eyed about the fact that they suffer from excess emotional attachment to objects. Flylady's declutter method was in vogue at the time I engaged in this declutter session, and she has a whole checklist of questions to ask oneself about an object:

Do I love this item?

Have I used it in the past year?

Is it really garbage?

Do I have another one that is better?

Should I really keep two?

Does it have sentimental value that causes me to love it?

Or does it give me guilt and make me sad when I see the item?

This may seem needlessly complex to someone who is not a hoarder or clutterer but this addresses many of the reasons that a sufferer would keep an item that they shouldn't.

Another factor is that they are perfectionists. This seems at odds with the idea that they may have a huge mess in their home, but what happens is they often can't deal with their persistent need to have a perfectly clean home that matches their vision.

Because of this they put off starting on the project until it can be done perfectly.

This is why methods like Flylady and Unfuck Your Habitat (which is really just Flylady without the cutesy rhetoric) help these people so much, because people with differences such as ADHD become clutterers because they don't know how to regulate their own time or how to organize.

The emotional attachment to their possessions is, incidentally, why decluttering on behalf of your hoarder friend is a very bad idea. The person will need to work through this process on their own, in order for it to stick.

Getting rid of these items can be intensely emotional and difficult for someone with these tendencies.

Time limits, routines, consistency, and persistence are the best tools for someone who needs to declutter. Don't try to do this all in an afternoon. Not only is it a difficult process, it should become a consistent habit.

For resources and further reading please check out Squalor Survivors (archive.org link).

[rhea-ripley]

Survivor Series || November 24 - 2019

[thatssoyikes]

Im trying this out - posting my current work in progress. Tis a Tanalorr beach day for post game Jedi: Survivor. They deserve good days. Also my first work on my new tablet, NO MORE DRAWING ON A PHONE WHOO. I'll probably be done in 8 years... stand by.

Also lmk whatcha think~ ♡♡♡

[silenthill2ps2]

i still think sable is one of the best designed dbd characters in a while because i know at least 8 trans women that look exactly like this

[redfish-blu]

Did I hallucinate that random week on danger days tumblr like three (four?) years ago where people were going hog wild about killjoys having cartoon logic, like traveling through paintings and straight up roadrunner physics. Or did that actually happen.

[ants-personal]

escape room three where zoey and ben have been able to take the time to kinda move on believing they had shut down minos there hasnt been any games zoey has looked so they both slowly try to live together after everything they both dont want to leave the other alone zoey goes back to her classes and ben tries to hold down a job

meanwhile this entire time Claire has just been testing out games much more privately taking place in remote parts of various countries its enough to keep clients happy promising a bigger better game than ever before only problem is they want zoey back at this point shes like the gladiator of games they want to push her as far as they can

So Claire tries to save zoey she contacts her has a meeting explains it in a way that she hasnt been making rooms and games because she wants to but its bigger than they both thought and to take minos down for good she needs zoey to join her as an assistant of sorts so that way they cant put her in the game

Meanwhile Claire has also set it up so the poor ben is going to forced to take the place of zoey in the game being used as pawn to force to make zoey want to help abd futher her cement her trust in claire believing she can save ben again so we have two storylines zoey and claire and zoey eventually finding out she has been betrayed and used and maybe finally taking down minos and claire

and then you have ben forced into another game this time without zoey he doesnt believe in himself enough to think he can survive this time and maybe he doesn't or maybe he just loses limb trying desperately to be smart and clever like zoey and actually beat the game with more than one survivor

[familythings]

Hurricane Helene: How You Can Help Victims in North Carolina and in Other States

These days I’ve been following all the terrible news arriving from states in the southern USA. Hurricane Helene, despite holding the name of a very beautiful woman, is causing the same level of damage that the ancient Helen brought to Troy. I see lost roads, completely demolished houses, fallen trees, adding number of dead people, and very afraid people in shock asking for help and appealing for…

[parasitefun]

There's such an interesting contrast between Ash Jr.'s relatively nonchalant "Northmoor will be angry at me [...], that's just his way." and Trench's somewhat more serious reminiscince about how "Northmoor hated my guts for [disobeying orders]."

Obviously there's a lot there about Theo knowing Northmoor before he was in power and his supsicion of the Board vs Trench's reliance on the Board and taking Northmoor's authority at face value...

But honestly I think Ash Jr. always getting yelled at when he's hunched over his desk and being eyelevel with Northmoor's Glowing Boss Battle Weak Point is a funnier reason.

[sinestrosmind]

toying with giving Softshell a brother <3

they're both not too sure about it lmao

[baltharino]

Kiyoshi Hikawa performing Genkai Toppa x Survivor Animelo Summer Live 2019 ~STORY~

[mildmayfoxe]

so funny that i have friends that live the length of lay all your love on me (abba 1980), night fever (bee gees 1977) and half of i will survive (gloria gaynor 1978) away and i’ve only been there three times in 15 months

[biosurvive]

Chris being so confident and knowing his worth in his job versus his absolutely shattered image of himself when it comes to both his romantic and familial relationships.

He still thinks he fucked Claire up, he still thinks he's not good enough to have happiness. He definitely thinks the people he loves would be better off without him.

As someone who ALSO struggles with self worth issues, I love giving Chris this obstacle, because I think writing him feeling these things helps me with my own shit fiuhdghjfk

[rhea-ripley]

Survivor Series || November 24 - 2019

[atlasdoe]

For as long as she could remember, Emmeline Vance never wanted to be a witch.

Being a witch is exactly what had driven her mother away. The moment Emmeline started showing signs of magic she ran and took everything but a camera with her. Magic not only robbed Emmeline of a mother but later robbed her of her father and brothers.

If they had only been squibs like her father had hoped then maybe she would be able to see the good in the world as she once did. Maybe her family would be whole as well as her heart.

Screw the Wizarding World, she began to think more often than not. So what if it gave her Marlene and Edgar and Remus and Mary? It was also the very thing that took them all away.

What was the point in anything if it was to end so painfully? She would’ve made friends in the Muggle world. She could’ve met someone to love as much as she did Edgar. And even if those people didn’t live up to the idea of love and friendship as she did in this universe at least she wouldn’t have this to compare it to. She could’ve been happy.

[mikeholloway]

nature healed