#Social Vulnerability

[fumifooms]

What if we were both magic prodigies and it otherized us in different ways and we devoted ourselves to protecting a family member who has general other goals & priorities. What if we both did self-sacrifical devotion in opposite ways.

What if we were dark mirrors of each other and where I've grown overcontrolling you've grown complacent. What if, bought as a servant into a pretty loving home, ownership and control is what love looks like to me, and to you neglected and lonely growing up, love is gratefully taking any scraps of it you’re lent.

By belonging to someone, even if she comes back injured or fails at finding Delgal, she feels like she belongs and is cherished, by owning someone he feels safe in them not leaving him.

She’s what’s tethering him do you see… And he’s the only thing giving her direction and purpose in her state. She needs a compass and he needs a support.

They’re both so out of it 😭 It’s the weirdly intense and unearned mutual trust and reliance on each other?? They’re each other’s weird little comfort codependent teddy bear. Or at least they were headed towards that before SHE DIED THEN HE DIED THEN THEY BOTH FORGOT ABOUT EACH OTHER AND NEVER MET EVER AGAIN. Though she’s also the guard attack hound keeping him safe… And vice versa he heals her and can rewrite her very being with just one wave of his hand. They’re both so so mentally and physically vulnerable both but they cling onto each other. They can’t perceive things accurately but despite it all someway somehow they stumble into something closer to resembling companionship just before they both die. Falin is just that kind and Thistle is just that lonely. Overworked. We both haven’t lived for ourselves in a very long time, haven’t we.

They both have a similar devotion to the people they love but again the difference is that Thistle starts overtsepping while Falin is self-effacing. The other difference between them is that people care about Falin <3 People have given up on Thistle long ago, and he has given people reasons to, while people refuse to give up on Falin. Yaad has a mini arc about it dw about it it’s ok he’s not all alone in the end 😭😭 He reached out for Marcille’s hand but they already all wanted to help him, they just had to be given the chance to, Yaad just had to be given the chance to, it’s okay I’m okay

Hey what if we learned to get in touch with our own identity and the world around us and living in the present again through being in the worst codependent situationship ever.

Falin and Thistle sitting in a tree, sucking on flowers together because they’re h-u-n-g-r-y 💕💕💕

I bet he’s only ever thought of flowers as useless ornaments. Weak weeds. But she shows him they’re tasty and useful and good and pretty in their own right too and deserve existing without proving their worth and waaa <33 Thistles…... Did you know thistles taste sweet if you remove the thorns and eat them?

"Even as a chimera, her kind nature remains" you can’t suppress her in the way that matters. You can’t soothe him in the way that matters. It’s doomed. You’re doomed. It’s all doomed. Save me.

[oneday-yourside]

Harry's world/Bad end

Inspired by Christina's world by Andrew Wyeth

[imaybe5tupid]

keeping schedules ☺️

[artbyblastweave]

Many years ago J. Michael Straczynski wrote a miniseries for Marvel's MAX imprint called Supreme Power, which was itself a spin on the classic Marvel Faux Justice League The Squadron Supreme. And in this miniseries you've got a Flash Expy, The Blur, who in a very compelling way is like the inverse of A-train from The Boys. They're both black speedsters from impoverished backgrounds who use their powers to become walking billboards instead of going directly into conventional superheroism- at least in part because there isn't actually a lot of call for conventional superheroism. They even share a color scheme.

But unlike A-Train, whose moral core is thoroughly corroded by celebrity, Blur's apparent crass commercialism ends up being thematically linked to the fact that he's easily the most moral and considerate of the entire first wave of superheroes, because he's literally the only one of these people who's ever had to work any kind of day job, and thus the only one who's really in any way beholden to the logic of human society and its associated common courtesy.

[spocks-kaathyra]

do u think that um. yk Julian was having a rough time in the later seasons. and ofc he wants to talk abt it, wants someone to help him process it, wants someone to just listen. but it's not easy to talk abt. and he wants to talk to Garak, wants Garak to know what's going on in his life, wants to be vulnerable and be met with support and care. but Garak is so emotionally unavailable and so unwilling to break his pleasant facade and so unwilling to deviate from their little social script. he was taught never to show care or vulnerability. and Julian gets so tired of playing their little game when, god, there's a war going on, his life is falling apart, can't Garak even acknowledge how bad things are for both of them? he doesn't need witty retorts, he needs sincerity. and Garak can't give him that. so he withdraws from their friendship. and it's not that Garak doesn't care. it's not that he doesn't want to help. but sincerity and vulnerability were beaten out of him a long time ago, and he doesn't know how to take off his mask. even just acknowledging genuine emotion is practically impossible for him. and maybe that's why ASIT is the apology that it is. it's saying, here, I've learned to be honest, I've learned to be vulnerable. I know the harm I caused you by refusing to acknowledge pain, so here's a whole book of me acknowledging pain.

[peekychu]

Tfw you are littleguy regressed and like. Kids shouldn’t be on cell phones it’s bad for their small brains, but I’ve lost any way to stimulate my brain without this rectangle. The only option is to Nap and Sleep but also that’s no fun :// It’d be so sick to levitate crayons with my mind

[stuckinapril]

Everything guys do gives me a massive ick this is literally why I’ll die alone like I cannot stand them

[corfisers]

one of the reasons i didn't accept being trans sooner is because i'd look at the cishet men i know and at how they treat women in their lives, at how fucking vile they can get and how casual they are about being blatantly misogynistic, how there are usually absolutely no repercussions for any of it, and i'd think to myself "if this is what being a man is about then i don't want to be one". eventually i'd figure out that no, this isn't what being a man is about, it's just something a lot of them perpetuate, it's not inherent, you don't have to be That. so seeing other trans men who, generally speaking, should've had somewhat similar experiences, come out of it on the opposite end where they gleefully grab onto transmisogyny and have fun with it and feel justified and righteous perpetuating it is fucking baffling

[shalom-iamcominghome]

Yesterday, someone wearing the kippah and a black tuxedo came to our office to teach us a software. He looked like a computer engineer rabbi, it was rad.

It was the first time I saw someone so visibly jewish in a non-jewish professional setting. I was worried that he would not be treated well. I was surprised. Three different persons asked him if he wanted coffee. One of my colleagues was exatic of seeing him for the first time for real instead of over the phone. She was so happy to see him it seemed to warm his heart. At the end we all thanked him and he whispered, "It's always a pleasure to come here". As he went into the corridor to retrieve his stuff, people started saying how nice he was and how good a teacher he was, I think and hope he heard all that. I was worried someone would mention the obvious and say something weird, but it literally never came up.

My colleagues aren't weird about Jews, hoorray! Jokes aside, I feel safer now. I hope this guy who was genuinely such a good teacher by the way, had a great time.

Thought I shared cause we need positive anecdotes as well in the sea of antisemitism these days.

Have a great day! Shabbat Shalom!

Honestly, it's always so nice when people are just... normal, so I understand why that's got you feeling that way!

(And honestly, my favorite thing to do is to "subtly" make it easy for people to eavesdrop on me complimenting them to someone... something about it feels like they might take it more genuinely because they "weren't" supposed to know about how good a person they are. I totally get why you'd hope he'd've heard that!)

Good shabbos, anon, thanks for sharing <3

[watcherglowcloud]

i’m fine i just need to experience verse 6 of drinking song for the socially anxious in real life

[pauls1967moustache]

Some faves from the yoko exhibition

Bagism advertisement that reads like a shitpost (what I’ve learned from this exhibition is Yoko’s kind of a shitpost queen)

Here is me and a drawing outline of my shadow. I realised after I left this was a prime opportunity to do shadow puppets so if anyone goes to the exhibition in the future please find the outline that looks like me and draw a shadow puppet of a dog next to it in my honour ❤️

I love this piece. I reminds me of that scene in the original Charlie and the chocolate factory movie—“you stole fizzy lifting drinks!!” 😡

Ladder to yes you will always be famous!!!!!! (Devo they didn’t let you climb it 😞)

This one was inspired by the refugee crisis and the instruction was to write your hopes and beliefs in the room (there was a boat in the room as well)

This was my mam’s favourite piece. They had a video of people who showed up to the exhibition being confused like “I’m disappointed I wanted to see yoko’s art” and an interviewer being like “well this is yoko’s art. It’s conceptual”. And they were like “well ok.” clearly bothered about it. Let it never be said that Yoko’s not funny figdjahska

Overall, it was a really fun exhibition and I think it gave a decent overview of all her work and her personality. My main take away is that she would love audio erotica and those “wreck this journal” notebooks they always sell in art shops. The stuff where she invites audiences to participate is probably my favourite. Oh to have been there in the 60s when she was doing performance stuff.

[1-lightofjustice]

Using "Sibling Title" in Romantic Relationship Is NOT Incest

You know, interacting with majorly English community about Asian media made me realize that English doesn't have any "sibling title", something that was so common in Asia (and perhaps other continent too cmiiw), thus I noticed some of them have a little difficulty on perceiving what "sibling title" actually meant. Combined with shipping war and incest allegory, many misunderstanding are created. Somehow yesterday I happen to stumble upon two of them in almost the same moment so I wanna make this post to vent my frustration.

First is this :

The segment that they meant is when Kota called Izuku "nii-chan" and Ochako "nee-chan" after Ochako's speech.

Yes, Kota called Izuku "Big Brother" and Ochako with "Big Sister". But really, even the translator clearly explained in their translation that "nii-chan" and "nee-chan" are not only title for older siblings but also title/name for a young teen or 20-ish boy/girl (overall people still in youth). Other people on twitter (X who?) pointed out that Kota means those title in relation to him and not to Izuku-Ochako, which is true, Kota may think of Izuku and Ochako as his big brother and sister at that situation. But even if he's not, he will still use "nii-chan" and "nee-chan" titles toward Izuku and Ochako because that's the title that was correct from person on Kota's age to people on Izuku/Ochako's age. Of course, that doesn't mean Izuku and Ochako are bounded by sibling/familial relationship in any form.

For example, this is a "7 years old" kid Conan ("a young boy" in disguise, for complicated reason) called 18 years old Heiji and Kazuha with "nii-chan" and "nee-chan" while at the same time helping them to hook up. He didn't really think of them as his brother/sister like in personal level, but he still used "sibling title" because that was the appropriate ethic for him.

Next is the example in broader sense, but the point is still because they are "brothers", there's no way Gilgamesh and Enkidu have romantic relationship.

let's pretend it's not completely bizarre to input arabic perception on a story with a language that way predates arabic, with different time, culture, and setting. Let's use arabic now. Brother in Arabic is "akhi", derived from Akkadian "ahu", the language that was used on 12 tablet Epic of Gilgamesh standard version ("Ses" is Hittite/Sumerian version).

This is the excerpt from Epic tablet by Andrew George, when the word "ahu" is used to described Gilgamesh and Enkidu :

The thing is, "ahu" may meant brotherhood, but they don't necessarily mean bounded by familial forbid-to-marry relationship. The word "ahu" can mean brother of same social standing, close male associate, or the proof of companionship, for example King Tushratta used "brother" (ahu in akkadian, shesh in sumerian) to Pharaoh Egypt which they have brother-kingdom relationship. Of course they are not "family" with each other and their family can marry each other.

Even if, as the commenter said, translated into arabic, "akhi" is not meant for strictly brotherly relationship. The word itself means "brother, close male friend, male associate". In fact, there's webtoon in my country (Muslim majority) that has female lead called her love interest "akhi". And this is her pray so God can make her meet her "akhi".

Translation : "There has been 6 years passed but I still haven't meet "akhi". Please God lead him to be close to me"

Of course when the female lead called her crush "akhi" she doesn't mean that there's familial feeling from her to him that prevent her for wanting to marry "akhi". And readers from my country completely expect her to still call her husband "akhi" even after marriage.

Those "sibling title" are not and never strictly platonic. Those are title for almost-familial-but-not-really attachment, usually to emphasis social construct. It just, I don't know the exact term but I call it "polite endearment title". When it comes to romantic relationship/marriage, even with "sibling title" there will be no incest feeling involved as long as the couple are not bounded by blood of close family, share the same mother's milk/wetnurse, nor raised together from before puberty (the latter may depend on situation).

P.S : I wonder, do English users find it weird if we Asian use the exact same title for sibling and for romantic partner? Like, you guys know that Korean fangirls called their idols that they want to date/marry as "oppas" in the same word as they call their "oppa" in home, right? I am Javanese, I call my blood-brother "mas", and I expect to use that word for my husband too, like my sister who called her husband "mas" even though she's older than him.

[chamerionwrites]

Somewhat more controversially - beyond just well-written characters, I think a lot of people find themselves repeatedly drawn to particular Types of characters. And I think the frequency with which those types appear, and the particular flavor of those types, is often (unnecessarily!) gendered. (Sticking with the espionage theme: it’s pretty difficult to find clever, calculating, socially astute female spy characters whose tradecraft doesn’t hinge primarily or at least very heavily on their sex appeal). TL;DR even very well-written female characters are often (unnecessarily!!!) confined to a much more limited set of narrative roles and archetypes.

And while I’m definitely not saying this is something we should all just accept completely uncritically, I do think it’s a pretty undeniable factor in why a lot of people’s lists of favorite blorbos might be kinda dude-heavy.

[moeblob]

Soooooo OCs ahaha.....

Right might be rude and foul-mouthed and glares a lot but he does amuse Brent a lot. So when it turns into Brent realizing it's actually really funny and... endearing (?) when Right bickers with some of their coworkers he thinks it would be inappropriate to smile at the scene. So he doesn't.

And that leads to a lot of their coworkers assuming he just never smiles. But eventually! Right sees him smile and is like "oh ho I know someone who will be SO jealous that you smiled and she didn't see it" and Brent just awkwardly "well you make me want to smile I just normally hold it in". So Right blue screens at the first half. Cause. He's never heard someone say "you make me want to smile" and it was so genuine....

AKA two broken adults find a very weird friendship and then fall in love.

[johannestevans]

went on a lunch date recently where the guy like. didn't mention what job he did on grindr, just that he'd been working late etc, and then when i got there and mentioned it i asked what he did, and he was like "oh well i work for the police" and i was. immediately shut down, understandably

and later on i asked his opinions abt police brutality, police abuse rates, if he thinks the police should be abolished etc, and later was like, yeah, ethically this is a bad match

but idk like. when ppl tell me they're a cop or a gard (or in the military) on grindr i just block them from the off, bc it's like, well, you're cool w brutality, rape, and abuse, there's no reason you could or should be trusted with an intimate partner. and this guy had mentioned he followed me on twitter and didn't at all seem surprised by my open disgust for his profession, and idk if that was why he didn't mention it up front and thought i wouldn't make a big deal about it (as if) or if he just doesn't mention it to anybody

but i'm still so like ??

like my house has a very explicit no cops policy. if sb else brought their partner or brother or whatever to dinner and they were a cop, they would be told to fucking leave. as if i'm gonna fuck one myself

[immediatebreakfast]

Another thing that is surprising for this entry; even more if we take into account the year where this novel is situated, is how Mina after reading every single tragedy that Jonathan saw, and concluded that something very horrible happened to Jonathan to be at the state he is today.

Not madness, nor insanity, nor dellusions. Mina doesn't know if everything written is true, but she is absolutely sure that whatever happened in Transylvania left a deep mental scar on her beloved Jonathan.

She read how this Man practically tortured Jonathan for months. The days of lizard fashion, and the stealing of your visage. The wolves tearing a mother apart because she cried for her baby who was violently eaten by the Weird Sisters. Opening a door to see dozens of wolves ready to kill you. How the light of the moon isn't even safe in the castle. The isolation, the darkness, the mind games, the doubt.

All of the times that Jonathan wrote her name like it was a prayer because god didn't grace the castle. The Weird Sisters almost successful plan of seducing Jonathan to kill him.

This is the victorian era, we know how the mentally ill are treated and seen by society. How they are pushed to dig even further to try and escape the abuse at the hands of an uncaring, and dehumanizing system.

Mina nevers blames Jonathan for nothing, nor expresses disgust or anger, or dissapointment, or anything negative for his actions. Mina's conclusion is Jonathan went through something horrible, and that the Man responsible for the suffering of her husband is in London walking as if nothing had happened.

And something has to be done about that.