#Shyness

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　　　　　　　　𝒄𝒉𝒓𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒏𝒊𝒐𝒍𝒐 x reader

SUMMARY: Where Y/N is shy and Chris loves to tease her for that.

WARNING: None.

REQUESTED?: Yes, by anon.

AUTHOR'S NOTE: That is my work, I DON'T authorize any plagiarism! | English isn't my first language, so I'm sorry if there's any grammar error.

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Y/N walked down the stairs towards her shared room with Chris in slow steps, her mouth forming a pout after she checked the fridge and saw that her sweet was gone.

The girl stopped for a few seconds in front of the white door before knocking lightly twice with her closed fist, turning the handle and opening it.

Her eyes traveled around the room, noticing that the lights were off, the turned on computer serving as the only source of lighting. The loud sound of the video game Chris was playing escaped his headphones, echoing off the walls.

The boy was sitting in his gaming chair with his arms resting on the computer table and his hands working on the keyboard and mouse quickly, his brow furrowed and his tongue between his teeth in concentration.

The girl approached slowly, touching her fingers on his covered shoulder lightly, alerting him to her presence.

Chris looked up, pausing the game and lowering his headphones instantly when he realized it was his girl. A smile appeared on his face as his blue eyes traveled over her silhouette momentarily before focusing on her face.

"Hi baby! Wow, who gave you permission to look that good, huh?" The brunette flirted, a smirk stretching across his cheeks as his tongue escaped between his lips, wetting them quickly.

Y/N felt her blood rush to her cheeks instantly, a reddish hue covering her face and neck. She looked down in shyness, playing with the hem of Chris's t-shirt over her body. The reason why she went to him already forgotten.

"Stop it." Her voice was quieter than she expected, but loud enough for Chris to hear. A laugh escaped his throat as he lifted his own hands, encircling his girlfriend's waist and pulling her closer.

He rested his chin on Y/N's stomach so that his eyes focused on hers, exhaling the scent of her perfume that surrounded her.

"I'm just teasing you, baby. Even though you look more beautiful than ever today." Chris spoke, a smile resting on his lips.

"You always say that." Y/N whispered, bringing her hands to her boyfriend's soft hair and stroking it lightly, feeling her insides melt like ice cream in the summer.

"Because you always look so beautiful." The boy said one as if it were obvious, rolling his eyes playfully. "What did you want, pretty girl?"

"Can you walk me to the bakery down the street? I went to eat my apple pie from there, but it's gone." The girl asked slowly, biting her lower lip as she felt her cheeks burn from asking for the favor.

"Don't do that, sweetheart." Chris's thumb touched the lip trapped by his girlfriend's teeth, releasing it slightly. "'Gonna hurt your pretty lips like that."

Y/N felt her heart speed up at her boyfriend's touch and gentle words, combing his hair to try and hide her shaking fingers.

"Sorry." Her voice was almost null as she lowered her head, her eyes meeting the blue ones she loved so much, receiving a smile in response.

"No need to apologize, my love." He caressed his girl's warm cheek with the thumb he had just used. "Let's go to the bakery and buy an apple pie for the prettiest girl in the world."

He knew how much she hated going to establishments where she would need to talk to a stranger, so he always accompanied her with great pleasure.

Chris got up from the chair slowly so as not to hurt or push his girlfriend's body with his movements. He straightened his hoodie with his hands, smoothing out the small wrinkles from his previous position, before picking up his wallet that was on his computer desk, putting it in the pocket of his pants.

The boy lightly placed his hand on his girlfriend's back, guiding her through the room and up the stairs, even though she didn't need the support.

The gesture made Y/N's heart skip a beat, her hands clenching into fists from the way she felt her fingers shaking and her arms getting goosebumps, she pressed her lips into a thin line to keep from biting them, not wanting to disobey her boyfriend.

Chris always made her feel so loved and safe, and despite her shyness with his kindness, she didn't stop him. He was her exception.

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[ssavaart]

Ever since my videos on Youtube and TikTok started getting popular, people would recognize me out in the wild and then realize that I am SO AWKWARD in person.

I LOVE meeting people... but I never know what to say and I always feel like I've disappointed them afterwards.

So, a few months ago... I printed up cards that I could give to people I meet that has an apology inside.

If you happen to see me, please say hi.

But be patient with me... I'm doing my best to "people" .

Sending Big Hugs from the Hobbit Hole. ♥♥♥

Scott

[behindheterochromiaeyes]

introverts be like

[thatbadadvice]

Dear Advisor,

I tend to be a very reserved and shy person so making friends is super hard. Recently I’ve been wanting to socialize more , but I genuinely don’t know how. Is there any advice that you have that can make me look more approachable and not be scared to talk to people. I’m so stressed about being alone and not having any friends, but I just find it so hard to go up to people and make a conversation. I tried once but it became super awkward. I just really need good advice from someone on how to approach a person and continue a conversation.

Dear Awkward Anonymous,

It would be so easy to get into a whole deep let's-skeetshoot-therapy-on-the-internet session and try to help a total stranger unpack all of the GA-FUCKING-ZILLION ways in which social awkwardness shows up in a person's life. It seems easy, and it even seems meaningful and worthwhile, but to do so I would have to presume a bunch about your life, and make a bunch of assumptions about the ways in which my own experiences maybe/probably track with yours, and it would be a whole big wank-fest, and frankly ... it would be awkward. I'd be like you, standing there at the party, hoping that what I'm saying resonates or lands or even vaguely tracks with anything a stranger has ever known or experienced, presuming (probably rightly!) that it doesn't, and then flailing and blaming myself when I didn't emerge from the interaction with all the world's gold stars.

So here's what: stop talking to other people as a primary social occupation. Going up to people and just talking is fucking terrifying. The Bad Advisor says this as a Certified Extrovert™ who rarely shuts the fuck up.

Instead, find a thing to do with other people that involves some sort of task or goal or activity. Talk about the thing you're doing together, when you're doing it. If it feels okay, maybe introduce one or two of your own relatable-to-the-activity experiences in the process. See who picks up on it. Ask the people who pick up on it genuinely interested questions in response. This is what we awkward people call: engineering a conversation. It is the way, I am told, humans make connections with other humans. I have seen it work in my own life.

Depending on where you live and your ability level and skill set, I bet you have some options! You could seek out an open board game night, pub quiz session, knitting/quilting circle, or mutual aid meetup that's looking for volunteers. Especially look for social activities with strangers that involve a dedicated, pre-prescribed activity (such as a hiking or mall-walking group, stuffing envelopes for a political candidate or cause you care about, planting trees at your local park, or tasting tea/wine/beer/etc.). (Somebody is going to say join a ballroom dancing club or suchlike; I am personally terrified of this, but if you have a higher tolerance for strangers touching you and fewer than two left feet: it's literally an option. Line-dancing, on the other hand ... absofuckinglutely.)

Even if what's available in your area isn't your precise and specific interest, it might be worthwhile to check out something you are decidedly meh about -- you might not be the only meh person there. You can bond over shit that's boring or shitty with other people who find it boring or shitty! Some of my best friends, arguably my very best friends, came out of experiences we mutually loathed or found at least moderately and mutually miserable.

Consider especially finding an activity where you yourself are the manager of operations and/or have a designated task to take care of that is unique to your position! This doesn't have to be complicated or skill-dependent; can you become a voter registrar in your area? Well, bam! You've got paperwork people have to fill out and a good reason to jibber-jabber with folks who have to ask you the questions. Other ideas: join your local neighborhood association board, become a notary public, or see if your local pet rescue is looking for intake line volunteers. Do you have a trustworthy, especially outgoing friend who might agree to play "social glue" for you a couple of times at their activity-centric events? Make it explicit! Ask them if they'll play friendly wing-person for you at their D&D game, fantasy sports league, or some such.

Alternately: Do you have a unique and fun and shareable skillset you can share with others? Are you pretty good at drawing, programming? Simply a font of endless Merlin or NFL or Real Housewives knowledge? You might start a local Discord or other online social group to discuss and share your interests, then move it to the real world in a few weeks once folks get comfortable. You get the idea.

Most of all: Look for stuff that has more-than-just-talking opportunities available outside the designated group jam for you to maintain connections. Perhaps a group chat, a Discord, a Slack, what-have-you, where you can take more time to consider and draft your responses and posts? Connections with humans get made a thousand ways, and talking raw-dog with strangers is but one.

It takes a true social unicorn to be simply good at talking and only talking to other people. There are some of these one-horned wonders out there, to be sure — but let me assure you that the vast majority of folks want to be accepted and seen just as much as you do, and they're staring at the ceiling at night thinking just as much (more, probably) about all the weird, wonky shit they themselves threw at you than they are anything you ever said to them.

[serenityquest]

[literaryvein-reblogs]

Good day, do you have any ways to write someone being flustered or bashful? Please.

Hi. Here's something from my drafts for you. You can consider the following notes when writing characters that are bashful/shy:

Writing Notes: Shyness

Many accomplished people are shy, including singers Barbra Streisand and Bob Dylan, and writer J. D. Salinger (Stocker, 1997).

What shy persons have in common is that they desire friendships and social interactions but are held back by their insecurities and fears.

Consequently, they avoid the spotlight, avoid face-to-face interaction, and ruminate excessively after conversations, worrying about whether they said the right things, made a good impression, or sounded stupid.

The inner experience of a shy person in an interaction is quite different from that of someone else in the same interaction who is not shy.

Shy people are not necessarily introverts (Cheek, 1989).

Introverts prefer to be alone; they enjoy the peace and quiet of solitude. Shy people, on the other hand, want to have contact with others, to be socially involved, and to have friends and be part of the group.

But shy persons’ self-doubt and self-consciousness prompts them to pass up opportunities to socialize.

They handicap themselves; by not entering groups, not speaking to unfamiliar people, not approaching others, they deny themselves the opportunities to learn and practice the very social skills they need to overcome their shyness.

Psychologists studying shyness sometimes prefer the term social anxiety, which is defined as discomfort related to social interactions, or even to the anticipation of social interactions (Chavira, Stein, & Malcarne, 2002).

Adults with social anxiety report that they are nervous or that they feel awkward when talking to others, especially people with whom they are unfamiliar (Cheek & Buss, 1981).

Socially anxious persons appear to be overly concerned about what others will think.

After a conversation, they often conclude that they said something wrong, sounded foolish, or looked stupid (Ritts & Patterson, 1996).

Sometimes the social anxiety is so strong that it shows in various outward signs, such as a trembling voice or jittery movements.

Other people interacting with a socially anxious person often interpret their behavior as unfriendliness, rather than as shyness (Cheek & Buss, 1981).

Sometimes shy persons are so overcome with anxiety that it hinders their ability to carry on a conversation.

They may spend time staring at their shoes, rather than talking, because they cannot think of a thing to say.

Pauses in a conversation can be very discomforting to shy persons.

Shy people also tend to interpret social interactions negatively; they are more likely to interpret a comment as a criticism than as a helpful suggestion.

It seems that shy people are not only reluctant to enter into social interaction but also expect that others will dislike them.

These expectations may lead them to avoid interactions or cut conversations short, losing the very opportunities they need to overcome their shyness.

Psychologists studying the brain have suggested that shy persons have a more reactive amygdala, which is a section of the limbic or emotional system of the brain that is most responsible for fear.

Whatever its causes, shyness can have problematic social implications for the shy person:

Several studies have examined how shy persons use the Internet to avoid face-to-face social interaction (e.g., Caplan, 2002).

One study found that shy persons were more likely to use the Internet for recreation rather than interact with others in face-to-face recreational settings (Scealy, Phillips, & Stevenson, 2002).

7 concrete steps a shy person can take to overcome their difficulties

Adding this resource from Stocker (1997). Maybe it could be useful if your character's arc leads them to overcome their shyness.

Show up. Shy persons want to avoid the situations that make them anxious. However, if you really want to overcome shyness, you’ve got to enter those uncomfortable situations: go to a party or strike up a conversation with a stranger. Often, shy persons overestimate how uncomfortable they will feel; however, once they engage in an interaction, they find that it is not as bad as they had expected.

Give yourself credit. Stop being your own worst critic. In scorning or deriding their own social performance after the fact, shy persons are often very hard on themselves. If they make one little social faux pas, they often blow that misstep out of proportion, ignoring the fact that 99 percent of the interaction went well.

Take baby steps. It is useful to take big goals and break them into smaller steps. Instead of wanting to “become an engaging conversationalist,” maybe try to set some smaller goals, such as going to a meeting of a group you’ve been wanting to join. The first time, you don’t have to talk; just go and listen. The second time, maybe your goal will be to talk, not during the meeting but maybe to someone after the meeting is over. At the third meeting, try to ask a question during the actual meeting by speaking up. The point is to set small goals and experience some small successes along the way.

Give unto others. Shy people, because they are nervous, are focused on themselves during conversations. Shift your attention to others; look at them when they talk, listen carefully to what they say, try to find something interesting and connect to that, ask questions, and give a compliment or a word of support. Paying attention outwardly toward other people will also get your attention off yourself and your own nervousness.

Exude warmth. The nervousness that shy people feel is often interpreted by others as unfriendliness or tension. Try to create a more positive nonverbal impression by smiling, making eye contact, and staying relaxed.

Anticipate failure. Overcoming shyness is a learning process. It will take practice, and small failures are inevitable. If you say something wrong in a conversation, chalk it up to the learning process and get on with more practice.

Join the crowd. Nobody is perfect all the time. There are lots of people who are not perfect conversationalists. Also, you might think that making small talk is a big deal. However, when you really listen to other people’s small talk, you’ll realize that it really is just that—small talk, nothing more.

If these notes inspire you in any way, please tag me, or leave a link in the replies. I would love to read your work!

Writing Notes & References

[geminimoonmadness]

Astrological Indicators Of Shyness

(ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴀᴠᴇ, ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴘʀᴏᴍɪɴᴇɴᴛ ɪᴛ ᴡɪʟʟ ʙᴇ)

⭐️Sun in the 12th, 8th, 4th, 6th

⭐️ Sun in Scorpio, Cancer, Pisces, Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo

⭐️Sun in aspect to Neptune, Pluto, Saturn, Moon

⭐️Cancer, Capricorn, Taurus, Scorpio, Pisces, Virgo Rising

⭐️Stellium in the 12th, 4th, 6th, 8th house

⭐️Stellium in Pisces, Virgo, Cancer

⭐️Moon in Pisces, Scorpio, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn

⭐️Moon in the 12th, 6th, 10th, 8th, 4th

⭐️Strong Neptune, Saturn, Pluto, Moon influence

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[nat111love]

THE ONES WHO LIVE ↳ Season 1 ↳ Episode 3 ↳  Bye

[gatabella]

"I was always a very shy girl, always worrying about what other people thought of me. I’d been ill a lot as a child and hadn’t had much of a chance to mix with people. When I came to Hollywood, I found it so difficult to answer questions about my personal life that the Hollywood Women’s Press Club gave me the lemon one year for being the most uncooperative actress. This really started me making myself over. Not everyone is born with an extrovert personality, or even a personality that attracts. I knew I had to cultivate confidence in the people with whom I came into contact. I discovered that the secret of making people like you is to like people. When a girl is popular, it only means she does not go around feeling mistrustful of people."

-Joan Fontaine, Photoplay, Jan. 1951

[supernightboy08]

[writtenroses1813]

So hard to be quiet and shy and yet yearn for healthy social interaction like Do I Want To Speak To You? Yes. Do I Want To SPEAK To You? I would rather die

[sweethysteria]

[wordofprophet]

Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Shyness does not bring anything except good." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. In a narration of Muslim: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "All of shyness is good."

#hadithoftheday#HadithofProphetMuhammad#islam#muslim#muslimah#iman#Allah#quran#quranquotes#hadith#hadithoftheprophet#hadithreminder#hadees#shy#shyness

[keezybees]

Tbh I don't know where the line is between social anxiety and shyness. I don't have either (I just do generalized anxiety, not social haha) so Izzy was a challenge to write! I tried to think of my worst 'center of attention embarrassment' moments and leaned a lot on perfectionism/uncertainty

[youraverageintrovert]

i wanted to tell him how i love his stupid smile. how i love his stupid face. how i love those stupid small gestures he does. how i love how he seems to manage to comfort me. how i sit in my room waiting to see him again, just for that hug. how much i love that he's my first for almost everything. how i love his weird jokes. how i love that super cute laugh of his. i wanted to tell him i am this shy because i still have the biggest crush on him. even though i know he's mine. i wanted to tell him how i grateful i am for him. and how bloody scared i am of losing him. so much that i cant even stand the mere thought of it. i wanted to tell him that i don't want this day, this night to end. i wanted to tell him that he's my safe place. my happy place.

but i didn’t. instead i just laughed and smiled. instead i just kept quiet.

unknown

[boogie2thewoogie]

To all those people who make ship art of their OC’s with Elliott PLEASE reach out to me I wanna join you guys and be friends 😢