#Pregnant Woman Care

[yuridovewing]

i understand the frustration with “i made this gay pairing cis x trans so they can still have biological babies” with no thought to other methods and how ppl assume thats the case when it comes to mothpool aus where mothwing is also the mother of the three, but also…. idk i kinda dont give a shit if someone wants to do that and i dont really think its inherently transphobic as long as its handled with care and respect.

what really concerns me about this debate is how some people are adamant that you cannot portray trans people having biological children in media or youre being disrespectful. and im gonna say as a nonbinary person who doesnt want children for themself- thats kinda fucking weird? like i understand that for some people, theyre trans themselves and theyre speaking from a place of dysphoria, and i absolutely get that, which is why i think the topic should be handled with nuance and diversity in trans characters, but like…. guys. pregnant trans men exist irl. trans women get people pregnant irl. trans ppl’s ability and right to parent and have biological children are being debated irl. we get denied the opportunity to adopt as well.

in a climate like this, are we SURE we want the stance on rewrites and headcanons in the silly cat books to be “if you portray trans characters having children, especially with a gay couple, youre a transphobic freak no matter what!” does it really matter? especially if its being done by a trans person handling the topic with nuance who has a lot of trans characters with varying perspectives?

obviously yes, remember that thats not the only way certain gay couples can have kids, remember that not every trans person is fully comfortable with it and keep that in mind, remember that surrogacy and adoption are also perfectly valid ways to give fan babies- but remember that there are OPTIONS. not that you need to condemn the idea of transgender parents in the first place unless they fit the very specific criteria of “proper transgender representation” and anything that dares deviate from that is proof the op is a transphobic monster (bonus points if theyre a trans creator bc i mostly see trans people getting shit for this and it kinda pisses me off. although idm if cis people do it either as long as theyre handling it with respect)

[catsithkelpie]

"If you hate them, draw them pregnant" ☑Technically true, but missing something

"If you love your trans gf, make her oc pregnant"✅ Yes, very nice. Gender euphoria

@lilac-the-void-pup @astronomical-jam

[audriandae]

idk if this has been said much or anything but i feel like some people who want to become parents kinda forget that theyre not just getting a baby. theyre getting a baby thats gonna grow into a toddler into a child into a tween and a teenager and an adult and parenting doesnt stop once your kid stops being 'a kid'.

and parenting is a lot more than people think it is. like youre committing yourself to take care of a whole new person. and you're responsible for that whole new person for their whole life- parenting that person maybe stops when they move out or whatever but its not like all ties are cut yknow. you may not be actively involved in every moment of your child's life, you may not be making decisions for them and such, but you're still their touchstone in this world

and what does parenting even mean like its not just giving them a house to live in and food to eat its also taking their emotional needs into account its also taking care of their physical health its also teaching them how to be a person. and everything and anything you say to your kid is The Law. if you make a joke about eating the seeds of a watermelon making a tree grow inside them theyre gonna think that's true. and if you offhandedly comment on something in a negative way theyll take it to heart and holy shit i could go on forever.

there's so much. and some people are aware of the muchness they're getting into when they decide to have a baby. but most people arent i think, and that needs to change

[arttsuka]

Just something that's been bothering me. What's up with the whitewashing in trigun stampede?

Somehow the 1998 version had more diversity in skin colors than the 2023 version

[jgracie]

I sometimes think that Beryl named Jason like that not for Zeus, but for Hera/Juno.

Like, a small attempt to get on her good side

unfortunately in canon it was acc jupiter who named him jason so that juno wouldn’t get mad at him 😣 but i like ur view SO much better i feel like beryl is such a complex character & while her actions r so wrong she does have her reasons yk?! the whole grace family is so tragic fr

[buck-yyyy]

wild how for so many years feminists fought to have people say the words they mean with reference to reproductive health, like saying vagina or uterus out loud, and now if you use those words in a gender-neutral way to describe reproductive health you’ll have people at your fucking throat yelling about how women are getting erased by these terms and “just say WOMAN�� despite the fact that 10 years ago that’s what they would’ve advocated for

wonder would could have possibly caused this change?!???????!!???!?!

[lexa-griffins]

Oh God someone stop me from creating a full backstory for a amnesia au that popped up into my head!!!!😩

[ihamtmus]

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[cowardlycowboys]

GOT CALLED A PASSAGER PRINCESS 😭😭😭😭

[lovelyrotter]

yknow i think a lot of the really far-gone transfemme vs transmasc people who still play by the 6th grade milquetoast "trans women are targeted way more than trans men cause femininity is bad and masculinity is good In Our Society, so trans men get free acceptability passes" feminism forget that trans men/transmascs started life. as. little girls. we were mistaken, from birth, for baby girls. and we were raised by our parents to believe that we were little girls.

a lot of trans men and transmascs then grew up to be teenaged girls

a lot of trans men and transmascs were adult women too

and for a while we *believed* we were girls and women. some of us even WISHED we were girls and women (points at myself). and much more importantly, we were continually seen as girls and women. a lot of the time, we are STILL seen as girls and women, even with full fuckin beards and baritone voices. especially if we need to go to any kind of medical professional. this is what our free acceptability pass looks like?

its just so much more nuanced than these 'boys vs girls' people ever seem to care to think about. even binary trans folks dont have the same sense of cisgendered binary that cis people do. we literally cross from one fake end of the fake-binary to the other. thats where the trans in transgender comes from. i dont know how some other trans folks seem to forget that?? i don't know how, somewhere along the line, we forgot that trans men and transmascs also directly suffer under misogyny?

[hotchocolatelovesyou]

Honestly man, I just wanna go home

[black-salt-cage]

I've got a couple more chapters of squirrelflight's hope left, and it ALMOST made me a bramblestar hater but it seems he's come back to his senses at the end. however, I am now a sworn hater of tiger(heart)star and dovewing

[not-your-average-prolifer]

once again @/bexorcist14 has absolutely no fucking clue what she's talking about

[mostlyinconvenient]

A person becomes pregnant and suddenly their life needs to take a backseat, no matter if they want it or not. They're no longer an independent woman or human being, now they're a dirty whore and an incubator for a precious angel worth far more than themselves.

The mothers life is tainted by the sin of actually living, and is therefore worth less than the fetus at any stage. She can be respected but only if she embraces her role as a good mother should and doesn't fight it. Only if she accepts her place as a lesser being only meant to continue mans legacy.

If she even thinks of abortion, she is worse than a murderer for trying to destroy a life more pure than hers.

When that baby is born and it begins to be selfish and human, it too will lose its purity and it's right to life... but for now, it's life is more than yours and you will pay for failing it

[hanzajesthanza]

pegasus is straight confirmed

[tendercoretroglodyke]

I can't believe I'm still saying this 5 seasons in but. the way at LEAST half of all the disasters on desperate housewives would've been avoided if any one of these women had ever heard of abortion....