#Personal Growth in Marriage

[dc-probate-attorney]

The Realities and Triumphs of Long-Distance Marriages

In a world that’s increasingly interconnected, yet still vast in its geographical expanse, long-distance relationships have become more common than ever before. Among these, long-distance marriages stand out as a testament to the power of love and commitment in the face of physical separation. While distance undoubtedly presents its own set of challenges, these marriages often flourish, proving…

[only1lorrie]

[csuitebitches]

On the Role of Cultural Education in Self Identity and Hypergamy

I’ve been thinking a lot about education lately. Why is it that I’ve spent a decade and half in the traditional education system and still not felt like a “human”? Why is it that when I finally began getting “real world knowledge” it all felt new and that school hasn’t prepared me for any of that? Why did I still feel unrefined as a human being?

I remember being at an HNI event years ago and being absolutely blank faced about what was going on. I didn’t know any of the topics they were talking about. That’s when it first hit me - my education system had failed me in some way. I felt stupid, like a little goldfish in the ocean.

There’s more to life than what we’re taught inside the four walls of a classroom. This year I’m going to heavily focus on my “cultural education.”

For context because I don’t want to mislead anyone: I’m Asian, my parents are HNIs (which explains specific knowledge and accessibility to certain things), I do have privilege which I accept and try to make good out of (such as volunteer work, working on impact-driven businesses).

Cultural knowledge expansion is important because it shapes you as a person. You realise that life is not black and white - there’s so much more to it. You think more about things that truly matter and you focus less on superficial things. You realise that there’s always some historical knowledge you can apply to current times.

Best of all - you’re on track to being smarter, wiser, confident and sociable. Even if you may not know all the answers, at least you know what to question!

I’m at an age where I’ve had families asking my family about my marriage prospects (arranged marriages are common in my culture, I would 90% opt for one at a later age, arranged marriages are NOT forced marriages) and I want to be able to be “too good” for anyone and everyone. In my culture, we don’t marry individuals; we marry families. The family that I would ideally want to get married into should be up to my standard as well. I want a man to earn the right to be my partner, not the other way round, no matter how much money or influence he has. This is something that my father has drilled in my head from day 1 - never settle for just anyone.

However - how can I ask for things if I don’t bring them to the table myself? How can I ask for someone cultured, highly educated, intellectual - if I am not trying to be those things?

Things To Culturally Expand On (and this is exactly what I would teach my future children)

You don’t have to be an expert of any of these. But even knowing the ABCs can take you a long way. I do feel that exploring these would help me connect to my feminine energy further as well. Only classroom knowledge will not build you as a person.

1. Watching indie movies / niche movies on MUBI.com

2. Learning the basics of crafts (embroidery, cooking, etc)

3. Exploring literature (at the moment, eastern literature)

4. Herbal medicines (this does not replace allopathy, but I do think that herbal remedies can be useful for minor things)

5. Poetry

6. Appreciating classical music (I’ve always appreciated western classical music because my mum insisted on my sibling and I learning the violin/piano (my sibling is really gifted)) especially eastern classical

7. Philosophy, eastern and western

8. Understanding and appreciating traditional dances

9. Working more on my native language

10. Being refined in my culture’s history and geography

[mrkmciver]

#Marriage

[teentoospoiled]

There’s a thin line between love and hate.

According to bodycam footage obtained by PLUNDER on YouTube, Kroy is seen informing police officers that Kim has gambled away their financial stability.

I would like to point out that financial hardships have brought many to end their own lives along with others, such as their wife and children. Watching Kroy lash out on the recent bodycam footage TMZ released is not only a reminder, but a red flag of a fatal reality.

They had their own reality show which paid them handsomely over the years. However, poor wealth management has led them to financial ruins today.

Kim’s gambling addiction has been documented on their show “Don’t Be Tardy,” and their lavish spending has been shown off on her social media platforms.

MARRIAGE IS A BUSINESS AGREEMENT

“Kim, these are joint marital assets!”

Kim has accused Kroy of selling her purses and other luxury belongings. Kroy has defended his actions stating he has sold or stashed “joint marital assets” to sell so he can pay off debts.

What are “Joint Marital Assets”?

JMA are items owned by both parties in the marriage due to the items being purchased during the duration of the marriage.

For example, if items are purchased from a joint bank account, it is considered a joint marital asset.

KROY HAS THE LEGAL RIGHT TO SELL THE HANDBAGS

WHY?

Because in the eyes of Georgia law, they are considered ONE. Therefore, Kroy has the authority to stash and sell items that are his.

Just like Kim has the legal authority to call a locksmith to break into a safe she suspects is holding her bags.

Love is useless without logistics

Financial literacy needs to be taught in schools, households and accessible television programs and social media apps. These two have 6 kids together who are now experiencing a major lifestyle shift, along with trauma

Two of the 6 children have had to call the police on their own parents.

TEEN SELF TIP: We all want the riches and luxury lifestyle, calling my hypergamy and spoiled girlies. Prepare for this desired lifestyle by learning how to save and multiply your money. Money from your job and your boo.

BuyMeACoffee, but I prefer wine ;)

[frommyfavoritebooks]

Lessons You Learn From Loving "The Wrong Person"

You learn how to ask for what you need. You also learn how to walk away when you don't receive what you need. Because you now know that your needs will never be too much for the right person.

You learn what you want in a partner. In loving the "wrong person," you come to realize what you value in a partnership because you see what happens in those values' absence.

You learn you can't save people. You now fully understand your role in a relationship is not saving. It is to be loving Caring. Present. There. Nothing more, nothing less.

You learn the power of hope. You saw infinite potential in someone who ultimately could not, and would not, see it through. And that's a beautiful thing.

You learn that love isn't always enough to make something last. You can love someone and still know letting go is thr right thing to do for both of you.

You learn that just because a relationship ends doesn't mean it didn't matter. All of it matters. And it always will.

You learn that there are no "wrong" people to love. There are just people we love, and sometimes it doesn't work out. It is good until suddenly it is not. The sun rises and sets. Our hopes rise and fall. We love, and eventually, we let each other go. And we learn from it all. We still grow.

moments to hold close, molly burford

[mahvaladara]

Local Goddess Throws Sissy fit over desirable local bachelor's rejection. Local Bachelor said he didn't understand her behaviour, while baring his chest like an inflated prize winning peacock at an exotic bird's local fair.

[the--days]

so it's like this.

you're young and you're scared and you're trapped in the feywild (happens to the best of us) with the love of your life. You're a half-elf and she's a fullblooded elf but you don't think about it very much because you're barely surviving day to day. And you get offered a deal to get yourself home again, and you take it. And the price of your freedom is that you leave her still trapped there, alone.

And then five years pass. And you age a century in that time, and you grow, and you change, and you find her again, and you're still in love, and you meet people, and you lose people, and you love them too, and you learn, and you start wanting a future again, and caring again, taking care of yourself, taking care of other people--

and after all of that, at the end of things, you find out the man responsible for all of the misery in your short, sad life has cast a spell which gives him complete control and ownership of you- mind, body, and soul (again. this happens to the best of us). And you are given the choice to stay under his thrall, and live a thousand years-- or to age and die, like humans do, and to be free of him.

And the love of your life is there, and you're married now, and she's still a full blooded elf, and you're still a half-elf, and you think about what that means a lot more than you used to.

And still, after everything you've learned-- you choose your freedom. You choose leaving her behind.

[thunkdeep]

The Unseen Layers: Navigating Emotional Landscapes in Relationships

In this emotionally charged episode of Berry Unearthed: Rooted in Resilience, Phil and Crystal delve into the hidden intricacies of their relationship. They kick things off by discussing the art of eliciting reactions from each other—sometimes for humor and sometimes as a barometer for emotional states. Phil shares his amusement in pushing Crystal's buttons just to see her react, highlighting the childlike joy that can be found in long-term relationships.

As the conversation deepens, Phil and Crystal explore the idea of "emotional mechanics," the unseen forces that keep a relationship ticking. Phil admits to sometimes being the instigator but also appreciates the balance and boundary-setting that Crystal brings to the table. Crystal, in turn, values Phil's provocations as opportunities for self-reflection and growth.

The duo shifts gears to discuss the concept of resilience within relationships. They both agree that resilience isn't just about bouncing back from hardships but also about navigating the day-to-day nuances that come with being in a committed partnership. Phil stresses the importance of not taking things too seriously, while Crystal emphasizes the need for conscious decision-making rather than reacting out of emotional impulse.

In a surprising turn, the episode segues into a broader discussion about societal expectations and how they can strain relationships. Phil criticizes the media's role in polarizing opinions and fostering a culture of outrage, advocating for more independent thinking. Crystal counters by pointing out that genuine change requires a collective effort, something that can be daunting in a society resistant to change.

Throughout the episode, both Phil and Crystal exhibit a level of vulnerability that adds depth to their discussions. They acknowledge the challenges they've faced in their own relationship, from communication breakdowns to differing perspectives on various issues. Yet, they both agree that it's the journey, with its struggles and triumphs, that makes a relationship truly resilient and fulfilling.

In wrapping up, they stress the importance of continuous growth, open communication, and the value of both embracing and challenging each other's viewpoints. This episode serves as a masterclass in maintaining a resilient relationship, making it a must-listen for anyone invested in personal growth and relational dynamics.

Check out this episode!

[poligraf]

Without contraries is no progression. Attraction and repulsion, reason and energy, love and hate, are necessary to human existence.

William Blake, The Marriage of Heaven and Hell

[simplythelittlethings]

Today has been tough. This process has been incredibly challenging. Despite the significant growth and love I've found for my life now, there are still days when I find myself in my car, crying uncontrollably. No one enters a 10-plus-year relationship with their best friend expecting it to end one day. It's something you're never mentally prepared for. I still have sad days.

I'm sharing this here because I know I'm not the only one going through a divorce, and I hope it can help someone else. Growth isn't a straight path; setbacks are normal. When you face them, remember how far you've come and keep moving forward.

If today was rough for you, I am proud of you. If you suffered silently, I am proud of you. If you struggled to piece yourself together, I am proud of you.

Keep going. I promise, you are growing, your life will be beautiful again.

I love you,

Maria.

[roobylavender]

i think one of the things i want to do over break for funsies is like. rewatch every pak drama of the major contemporary writers nationally hailed as progressive (e.g., umera ahmed, farhat ishtiaq, sameera fazal, etc.) and see how many of the male leads i come out actually still liking. like i want to make an excel spreadsheet cataloguing every red flag that went under my radar as a kid. for science

[frenchy-and-the-sea]

I didn't intend to do it, but last night in d&d saw Val 1) actively choosing to broach the topic of a future past the next few months and 2) tentatively offering the possibility of sharing it with Rona.

Which, for someone who had a private crisis several months ago about having a future that the world would be able to rip away and hurt her severely, is GROWTH.

[llycaons]

ig my 'unpopular opinion' (hate that term) is that lwj Should feel bad about how he treated wwx, and I'm glad he does, because that pushes him to grow as a character and make difference choices in the future. he should feel bad that he sided with the passive and corrupt clans instead of trusting wwx and being more proactive in protecting all those people. on the flipside jc's grief and misery surrounding wwx never seems to include regrets about what HE could have done differently, so he doesn't undergo any of that positive character growth, he just blames everyone around him and lashes out and sinks deeper into bitterness and contempt and fury. if he had thought about the consequences of his choices a little more, maybe he could have taken some responsibility for how it all went down too and like. acted differently when wwx returned.

but despite him going on about how family/clan is more important than anything, he doesn't even try to trust wwx, he just assumes the worst of him. and ik he's being manipulated and he's got trauma related to being abandoned, and wwx wasn't the most communicative about what was happening, but clearly he was trying to protect a group of innocent people and a child, so why couldn't jc extend to wwx an iota of good faith and like. back him up since this was clearly so important to him and also there are literal farmers and a toddler being threatened with murder? jc isn't to blame for wen chao or jgy or su she's actions, but he did have a certain amount of power in his role and he seemed determined not to use it. he publicly cut ties with wwx, allowing public sentiment to build against him, and he folded easily to demands that he kill wen ning despite having an actual argument against that. obviously being attached to the burial mounds community is politically disastrous, but lwj was speaking for wwx at the time too so it's not like jc was entirely alone. if he was a great political mind like I've seen people claim he was, he also could have curried favor with jzx through jyl's connection...idk it was important to wwx and I wish jc had been able to stand up for him or at least was capable of critically analyzing his own actions after the fact

[void-tiger]

FUCK IT. I just want to rest in your arms and recharge and not have to mask my Chatter and Silences, alright?! Can I have that? Because guess what you KNOW you can have that from me and if not or you’re denying yourself that out of ✨D i s t r a c t i o n s✨ I aM sMACKING YOU wITH A sLIPPER!!

[teentoospoiled]

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“Daddy is stabbing Mommy,” their daughter told officers on scene

The unalivement of #RobinSimpson , 49 occurred in front of her 8 year old daughter she shared with the man who ended her life, Michael Simpson Jr, age 58.

Robin was a social worker, a dedicated mother and Godmother and a proud Delta sorority member

Michael Simpson Jr, stabbed himself after taking the life of his wife along with her organs, including her heart and brain. He has survived and has since been charged with murder and aggravated assault.

The family questions how long it took for officers to respond, since removing organs is no swift task. Houston Police Department requires a request for this info which has not been released yet.

This Philadelphia native is well loved, respected and would always be remembered for her beauty and kind heart.

May Robin Rest In Peace