#NH Divorce Forms

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NH Divorce Forms vs. Hiring a Lawyer: Which is Best?

Divorce is a difficult and emotional process that can be complicated and confusing. One of the biggest decisions that a couple will face during a divorce is whether to use NH divorce forms or hire a lawyer. This article will explore the pros and cons of each option to help couples decide which is best for their situation.

1. Introduction

Divorce can be a difficult and emotional process that is often accompanied by financial strain. Many couples are hesitant to hire a lawyer due to the high cost, but also worry about the potential mistakes they could make when filing for divorce on their own. This is where NH divorce forms come in. They can be an affordable option for couples who are looking to simplify the process of divorce. However, they are not for everyone. This article will explore the pros and cons of using NH divorce forms versus hiring a lawyer.

2. Understanding NH Divorce Forms

NH divorce forms are pre-printed forms that can be purchased online or from a courthouse. They include all the necessary legal documents needed to file for divorce in the state of New Hampshire. The forms typically include a complaint for divorce, a financial affidavit, a parenting plan, and a marital settlement agreement.

3. Advantages of Using NH Divorce Forms

Cost-effective: NH divorce forms are typically less expensive than hiring a lawyer, which can save couples money in the long run.

Convenience: Filing for divorce using NH divorce forms can be done from the comfort of one's own home.

Control: Filing for divorce with NH divorce forms gives the couple control over their divorce, including the terms of the settlement.

4. Disadvantages of Using NH Divorce Forms

Complexity: Filing for divorce can be complicated, and using NH divorce forms requires some legal knowledge and research.

Errors: Filling out the forms incorrectly can cause delays or even result in the forms being rejected by the court.

Limited Support: Using NH divorce forms means that the couple will not have the support and guidance of a divorce lawyer.

5. Understanding Hiring a Divorce Lawyer

Hiring a divorce lawyer involves hiring an attorney to represent the couple in the divorce process. The lawyer will handle all aspects of the divorce, from filing the necessary paperwork to representing the couple in court.

6. Advantages of Hiring a Divorce Lawyer

Legal Knowledge: A divorce lawyer has the legal knowledge and experience necessary to navigate the complexities of the divorce process.

Guidance: A divorce lawyer can provide guidance and support to the couple throughout the entire divorce process.

Negotiation: A divorce lawyer can negotiate on the couple's behalf to ensure they receive a fair settlement.

7. Disadvantages of Hiring a Divorce Lawyer

Cost: Hiring a divorce lawyer can be expensive, and the cost can add up quickly.

Loss of Control: Hiring a divorce lawyer means that the couple is giving up some control over the divorce process, including the terms of the settlement.

Length of Process: Hiring a divorce lawyer can make the divorce process longer due to legal proceedings and negotiations.

8. Factors to Consider When Choosing Between NH Divorce Forms and a Divorce Lawyer 

Complexity of Case: If the case is complex, it may be best to hire a divorce lawyer who can provide the necessary expertise and experience to handle the case.

Time: If time is a factor, using NH divorce forms may be the quickest way to file for divorce.

Cost: If cost is a major concern, using NH divorce forms may be the most cost-effective option.

Level of Conflict: If the level of conflict between the couple is high, it may be best to hire a divorce lawyer who can act as a mediator and provide guidance in negotiating a fair settlement.

10. FAQs

Q: Are NH divorce forms difficult to fill out?

A: Filling out NH divorce forms can be complicated, and it is important to research and understand the legal requirements before attempting to fill them out.

Q: How long does it take to file for divorce using NH divorce forms?

A: The length of time it takes to file for divorce using NH divorce forms varies, but it typically takes between 1 to 3 months.

Q: Will I need a lawyer if I use NH divorce forms?

A: It is not necessary to hire a lawyer if you use NH divorce forms, but it is recommended to seek legal advice if you have any questions or concerns.

Q: How much does it cost to hire a divorce lawyer in New Hampshire?

A: The cost of hiring a divorce lawyer in New Hampshire varies, but it typically ranges from $200 to $400 per hour.

Q: Where can I find NH divorce forms?

A: NH divorce forms can be found online or at a courthouse in New Hampshire.

Conclusion

choosing between NH divorce forms and hiring a lawyer is a decision that should be based on the specific circumstances of your case. If you need affordable and straightforward options, NH divorce forms might be the right choice for you. However, if you require legal guidance and support, hiring a divorce lawyer might be a better fit. Regardless of your choice, be sure to research and understand the legal requirements before proceeding. If you're interested in using NH divorce forms, consider visiting nhlegalforms.com to learn more and get started today.

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[hjohn3]

Lest We Forget…

Lord Darzi’s NHS Report and the Damage the Tories Did

Source: The Telegraph

By Honest John

LABOUR WON the 2024 General Election for a variety of reasons, but one of the most significant was the state of the NHS after fourteen years of Tory mismanagement. In recognition of this, Keir Starmer’s government commissioned former Labour Minister, eminent surgeon and academic, Professor Lord Ari Darzi, to carry out a review of the state of the health service the new government had inherited and to make recommendations to form the basis of a ten year plan to restore the NHS’ capacity, effectiveness and public reputation. Lord Darzi turned his report around extraordinarily quickly. Wes Streeting commissioned the review just one week after the General Election; the Darzi report was submitted to the Secretary of State just two months later. The conclusions, if somewhat broad, are hard to argue with: Darzi confirms the wisdom of Labour’s stated prevention strategy and a renewed role for public health; he points out the dramatic fall in NHS productivity since the Covid pandemic and the urgent need to address this if Labour’s waiting list commitments are to be met; he recommends improved and focused management and less regulation and recommends significant structural reform, building on the more integrative principles of the 2022 NHS Act.

However the most enlightening and stark passages of Darzi’s review are those that analyse how far the NHS has fallen in terms of hitting performance standards it met relatively comprehensively during Labour’s last period in office and how public satisfaction in the service has collapsed from over 70% in 2010 to less than 30% by 2023. These passages lay bare what health commentators and those who work in the NHS have known for years: that the Conservative stewardship of the NHS since 2010 was an unmitigated disaster both in terms of preserving the resilience of the health service itself, but also with regard to maintaining the overall health of the nation. What makes this brief but forensic summary of Tory failure so powerful is that it appears in a document commissioned by the Department of Health itself, and that its prose is as objective as it is considered; as insightful as it is accurate. No longer is the despair at the clumsy restructuring, needless austerity, thoughtless neglect and systemic incompetence at the heart of Tory health “strategy” the province of think tanks, concerned journalists, NHS bodies and the poor benighted staff and patients themselves, but it is now “official”: a depressing account of insouciant policy failure at every level during the Tory years.

The assault began almost as soon as the Cameron Conservatives slid into power, their minority party supported in government by the useful idiots of the Clegg-led Liberal Democrats. Possessed of the conviction that only major public spending cuts could “save” the British economy, the Coalition inflicted on the U.K. the decade and more fiscal trauma known as “austerity”. Cameron himself was an ideological lightweight and easily bored, but he was surrounded by ideologues, principally his Chancellor George Osborne, but also by the uber-Thatcherite, Health Secretary Andrew Lansley, convinced that more competition, extended internal market mechanisms and the opening up of clinical services to the private sector was the “reform” the NHS needed. His NHS Act of 2010 broke up commissioning bodies into geographically tiny replacements (thereby rendering them effectively useless); required NHS Foundation Trusts to compete for the provision of all services, including cancer care, mental health services and much urgent care, and encouraged commissioners to sell off community health services and diagnostic services to private sector providers, such as Virgin Health under an invidious policy known as “Any Willing Provider”. Along the way, Public Health was transferred to local authorities, fatally divorcing it from the wider health service, small hospitals privatised, and savings targets hiked up.

The NHS had been working within a simulated market for nearly a decade when the Tories took over. It was Labour’s Alan Milburn who believed internal competition and a target culture was key to increasing NHS efficiency and productivity. However, Milburn drew the line at outright privatisation and genuinely sought to turn commissioning into a lever to secure comprehensive health provision sensitive to local needs rather than simply a means to manage the health market. Crucially the Labour government had also pumped significant amounts of new funding into the NHS which enabled Milburn to state credibly that there was enough money in the system for all NHS providers to make a surplus, and that only those slow or uncompetitive would struggle. The Conservative government however turned off the funding taps at the very point at which Lansley was marketising every aspect of the service. This manifested as a decade of below-inflation financial settlements for services for which demand was growing due to demographic factors and whose costs were inexorably rising due to the ever-rising expense of drugs and equipment. All markets - simulated or otherwise- require injections of cash at regular intervals in order to expand and invest and to meet unavoidable costs. Austerity was always an unnecessary and witless strategy for the economy as a whole, but for a health model predicated on growth, the simultaneous marketisation of care with a radical downturn in funding, was catastrophic. The NHS entered a fiscal doom spiral from which it has yet to recover.

The damage inflicted on the NHS by the twin ideological impulses to commercialise public services while at the same reduce public spending was bad enough, but the imposition of a 40% budget reduction on social care over the period of austerity economics, effectively - in the words of Wes Streeting - also “broke” NHS emergency care. With social services defunded to the extent they were barely able to fulfil their statutory duties, the resultant inability of social workers to discharge elderly patients with long term conditions from hospital into other supported accommodation, resulted in over 30% of acute hospital beds being unavailable for patient admission from A&E. With so many beds out of action, waits in Emergency Departments spiralled. Last year, just 58% of patients met the ED waiting time standard of 4 hours; in 2010, 98% of patients had been seen, admitted or discharged from ED within four hours. The crowding in A&E Departments that resulted from this collapse in performance, has led to long ambulance queues outside hospitals and the subsequent terrifying failure of ambulances to respond to so-called “Category 1 and 2” emergencies within fifteen minutes in the community - in fact delays are now counted in hours.

Elective services have fared little better. When Labour left office in 2010, the standard of 92% of patients being seen and treated in secondary care within 18 weeks of a referral by a GP, was broadly being met. That standard has not been met since 2015, and by 2020 had tumbled to less than 75% of patients. Then came Covid - a pandemic for which the NHS was hopelessly ill-prepared thanks to systemic underfunding, a complete absence of planning and a reduction and detachment of Public Health from the core NHS. The panicky and chaotic response to Covid by the Johnson regime saw wholesale cancellation of elective procedures and cancer care to maintain acute and critical care capacity for the anticipated surge in emergency demand. Waiting list numbers have, as a result of this service shut-down, spiralled to 7m patients and waiting time is resembling the ghastly Tory legacy the Blair government addressed over 20 years ago. The fact that the hapless Sunak regime needlessly kept the junior doctors’ dispute running in the belief that being “tough” with medical care givers would somehow increase Tory popularity, only exacerbated patient waits, rubbing salt in the wounds.

These are just the headlines: Darzi could have written whole separate reports about the scandal of under-provisioned and demoralised mental health services trying to keep up with unsustainable demand; the dangers to our children created by a wilful neglect of the ever-increasing needs for paediatric intensive and high dependency care; the attested failures across the country in maternity services and the shambles of a privatised nursing and residential care home sector. The NHS was not perfect in 2010, but the damage wrought upon it over fourteen years of senseless fiscal squeeze, ludicrous ideological experimentation, catastrophic and corrupt responses to a pandemic and, most crippling of all, systematic neglect of British healthcare by the Tories, must rank as one of the worst examples policy failure in recent British history.

The Tory client media immediately accused Darzi of writing a biased and political report aimed at discrediting the Conservatives rather than describing the true state of the last government’s legacy. The real truth is that Darzi only scratched the surface in his description of a service brought to its knees by a cavalcade of ideologues, incompetents and unserious clowns who knew little and cared less about services on which the British people depend. Labour will justifiably be judged on the progress they have made in fixing the “broken” NHS in four years’ time, but let us never forget who broke it so comprehensively in the first place. There is barely an area of British public policy that the procession of ghoulish Tory regimes did not vandalise, degrade or take backwards, but for the crimes they inflicted on our health and social care services alone, for so long a source of collective pride and reassurance, the Conservatives must never, ever, be forgiven.

26th September 2024

[the-almighty-gob-john-langley]

It's Easter Weekend and I'm Stuck on a Crossword Clue. 2 Across - Q. Where Was Jesus Nailed?

It's a Jesus Weekend, and in my role as the ‘Almighty Gob’ I preach comments in typical form from the pulpit of satire. Amen.

Does anyone know what was actually good about Friday? Severe hailstones, perhaps? Our NHS still in dire straits, people continuing to use food banks, and migration sorted?

Never mind, it's all good on Good Friday because Jesus died for us, apparently, and this alone makes all the hardship and misery we now face in the world worthwhile. Knowing what we all know now it should come as no great surprise he was nailed to a cross at that time for what would become arguably some of the greatest crimes against humanity by humanity.

As someone who was brought up as a Roman Catholic, you may well be surprised to read such a bold statement from me. No doubt there will be those who deem me as blasphemous, even a heretic committing the most egregious of cardinal sins, and for this, I should be cast into the fires of hell forever.

To this very day, I still struggle to get my head around the fact that some people in the world choose to believe what's probably one of the best human-control fairy stories ever written. Let alone places called heaven and hell.

Anyway, here we are. It's Easter weekend and I'm stuck on a crossword clue. 2 across - Q. Where was Jesus nailed? This might take a while as it's several years since I last attended church and nearly all memories of religion have since faded. I may well have to put it down to another of the remaining unanswered anomalies. Such as how an ethereal being managed to have a son in real life; so the story goes, through a virgin woman. As stated (among a great many other things) in my book 'The Sexual Philanthropist' such an event nowadays would be a complete sellout at the MGM Grand in Las Vegas.

Better still, it would take one heck of an illusionist to put on a show where he was nailed to a cross, died, and then emerged within a few days full of life and firing on all cylinders as if nothing happened. Pretty damn impressive even by Netflix programme audience popularity. Beat that, Harry and Meghan.

So, what's changed since the Romans vacated Jesus’ territory back in the day? Not a lot really, as two-thousand years or so later quite a few issues related to religion lead the way where conflict is concerned. Such as the location of holy sites and acrimonious divorce-worthy narratives which totally screw the potential for any peace between Islam and Judaism. On one side of the religious divorce battle, extreme Zionists make protestations regarding how the Jewish state should be, while their Islamist co-respondents have their own version of liberating all that's holy to the Zionists, and preach hatred and violence as a means of winning the divorce battle by use of terrorism - and for which they are now proscribed as a terrorist organisation.

All of which brings me on to a growing bunch of airheads who deserve to have their colons cleansed using bleach and wire wool, as it's entirely pointless going any further up their bodies to their heads because compared to the more sane and rational of people in the world, these airheads have spaces in their brains that any alleged signs of previous rationality and commonsense appear to have vacated long ago - if ever there in the first place.

These are the pro-Palestine gormless idiots who espouse the boycott of Israeli goods and services and make two short planks look like the most sophisticated computer technology in the world while using their Apple and Android phones to touch base with other idiots of the same ilk and do their best to influence more normal people into not buying Israeli goods and services, they do so completely oblivious to the fact that the phones they are using include technology developed by Israeli companies. Will these pillocks give up their phones in protest though? Somehow I think not. Oh, and don't use Windows apps either folks. Guess why?

Any chance these lunatics may have a firewall installed on their computers? Take a guess at this too. If your mental capacity has provided you with the means to follow so far and you are not a boycott numpty, it shouldn't take long.

I bet many of them also drive cars, provided they could afford one in the first place. Well, it's more bad news, I'm afraid. It looks like webuyanycar.com and auction sites will be busy in future when the idiots put their cars up for sale because the navigation system was more than likely based on Israeli tech. Oh, and speaking of transport, I wonder how many will cancel their holiday flights abroad this year, since our airport security systems are packed with Israeli technology.

And before I forget. Should any of them, their relatives and friends have cancer they may as well go home, take shit loads of morphine and die in bed. Why? Because it's more than likely cancer treatments offered by the NHS will have been invented in Israel. Equally, anyone who has a stent implanted should get it removed with immediate effect as a boycott protest against Israel, which, by a strange coincidence also invented it.

Ever heard of a 'SniffPhone'? Probably not, but it's a piece of medical equipment that can actually 'sniff out' diseases. It works like a breathalyser and detects cancer of the gastric and lung varieties, as well as Parkinsons, dementia, MS and many other illnesses. What about the 'Pillcam', heard of this? Who'd have guessed it was an Israeli invention in the shape of a minicam that takes photos of the intestinal tract?

Still, as long as the boycott idiots remain all self-satisfied and happily virtue-signalling in blissful ignorance, why should they let facts get in the way of personal feelings and emotional incontinence, huh? Anyway, whatever else these lunatics do, they should not take my sardonic and non-medically trained advice. While remembering at all times that any such attempt at shortening their lives should not be conducted without first seeking the advice of a medically qualified practitioner, and preferably one outside the jurisdiction of Geneva.

With all that said, I now find myself back where I began, whenever that was two thousand or so years ago, and what was good about Friday, again?

[vvienne]

SANGCHENG FIC RECS

flight of a one-winged dove by bloodletter

Talking at someone is only fun for so long. That's all being a sect leader is: talking and talking to people bound by courtesy to listen to you. It's so fucking dull. A relief, then, to face one’s equal, and no less an old friend who is inclined to interrupt you whenever you ramble. He likes it. It’s one of Jiang Cheng’s best qualities.

In the years after Guanyin Temple, Nie Huaisang attends to unfinished business.

whipped by reindeercolin

Jiang Cheng blinks. “Dammit, they do think you’re dating one of us! I hate it when Wei Wuxian is right.” “Excuse me?” Nie Huaisang gives him an incredulous look. “First of all, they think I’m dating you, and if anything, they’re getting more aggressive!”

(or, the one in which Jiang Cheng has too many relatives, not enough patience, goes through a brother-divorce and finds out he has a boyfriend - in that order, more or less.)

Ponder the Manner of Things by Pip (Moirail)

It's not that Jiang Cheng can't do a quadruple flip followed by a triple toeloop. It's that his mother seems to think that's still not good enough.

Jiang Cheng is grateful that Huaisang doesn’t have the same kind of family life that he does, all - messy with expectations and cravings for closeness and nothing but vague filial piety where love is meant to be.

a matter of time and organ donation by nev_longbottom

This is it. The call he’s been waiting for. His brother had ‘an accident’ or ‘died in his sleep’ or some other lie to cover up the murder.

“Please, Mingjue is missing. He got into one of his moods and he was gone when I came back from grocery shopping. He’s not answering his phone. I don’t know if he left or was kidnapped or if something else happened. Huaisang, please, if you’ve heard anything,” Meng Yao begs.

Nie Huaisang hunts his brother's killer.

no tip necessary by tattletold

With all the nervousness of a virgin in a whorehouse, Jiang Cheng closes the door behind himself and enters, sitting on the low seat across from the escort. The pretty young man keeps his face hidden behind the delicate fan, and Jiang Cheng thinks for a moment that he recognizes the design painted onto it now that he’s closer.

It’s only when he lowers the fan and opens his eyes, wide, does Jiang Cheng paralyze with realization.

They speak at the same time in equally horrified tones.

“Jiang Cheng?”

“Nie Huaisang?”

Your Place in the Family of Things by raisedbyhyenas

No matter what happens, no matter the circumstances, Wei Wuxian will always leave and Jiang Cheng will always get stuck trying to rebuild from whatever’s left.

*************

In which Jiang Cheng makes friends; gets a cat; begins to rebuild a relationship; and maybe, possibly, potentially, learns a little bit how to be happy.

sigh yourself to sleep by merthurlin

“Let me take care of you, A-Cheng.”

No one—no one has ever said that, not to Jiang Cheng. He wasn’t a very sickly child, true, but the few times he remembered being sick it was never—he had a-jie, and later on he had Wei Wuxian, for what it was worth, but he never—

halcyon days by serein

They're in a forest, it seems just the two of them.

"You have to be patient," Nie Huaisang says, "I once waited for three days to catch a sparrow."

"Three days?" Jiang Cheng replies, sceptical. He can't imagine Nie Huaisang having the attention span for that.

"It's not that hard," Nie Huaisang says, "if you know what they want, and find a way to get it for them."

[JC stumbles across an array and gets physically de-aged to be 16/17. NHS kindly offers his help to an old friend, but things... escalate.]

To Distraction by isozyme

It’s the third night of Yunmeng’s kite festival celebrations. Nie Huaisang has come visiting, eager to partake in the food, the arts, and Jiang Cheng.

-

Jiang Cheng wants to forget. Nie Huaisang has some new lube and wants to see if he can put his whole fist in somebody’s ass.

Lights, Camera, Kiss by MissMagus

When Nie Huaisang gets paired with straight porn star Jiang Cheng for a five-part series, he’s sure it will be an utter disaster. Until the cameras start rolling and their chemistry alights like wildfire.

(Or, the five times Nie Huaisang and Jiang Cheng have sex for their job, and the first time they have sex outside of it.)

Only the Shallow by hamburglar

When Nie Huaisang gets bored and convinces Jiang Cheng to make out with him, he’s probably not expecting to still be dealing with the guy 16 years later.

OR the story where Jiang Cheng goes into: the Cloud Recesses, denial, some bushes, the private porn library at the Unclean Realm, and subspace.

Blind for Love by manamune

Jiang Cheng is poisoned with an aphrodisiac and needs to orgasm repeatedly in order to flush it from his system.

The first person he thinks of going to for help is Nie Huaisang, who does what any good friend would do: he shoves his three decades worth of feelings for Jiang Cheng deep into the recesses of his mind, locks them up so he can pretend they don’t exist, and then fucks him so hard that he passes out.

Descending by lightningwaltz

“I want to… to not be embarrassed.”

“To not be embarrassed during what?”

“During sex.” There. Jiang Cheng can say it. “In general. Also with you right now.”

“Very good.”

“When did you become so authoritative?” Jiang Cheng wants to sound irked, but can’t quite manage anything beyond nervous curiosity.

dark water by Morgan (duckwhatduck)

There are words, somewhere, for this. Words that would put a shape to the thing that sits between them, would seal their understanding. There are words for sympathy, for friendship, for understanding, for that touch, for this feeling.

Jiang Cheng can feel them, somewhere, fluttering formless at the back of his throat, squirming under his ribcage, but he cannot grasp them. They swim beneath the surface, fish in muddy water - and like fish, they will dart away if he grabs for them incautiously, and leave him nothing but cold splashes and grit.

Or: Why talk about things when you could fuck about it instead?

never knew i was a dancer by isozyme

“What’s a stone butch and why aren’t they real?” Jiang Cheng asks, too buzzed to care too much about not being up on lesbian culture.

Huaisang pats Jiang Cheng on the no-man’s-land between her boobs and her shoulder. “You’re so useless, Jiang Cheng. A stone butch is a fictional hottie who doesn’t make you do any work at all, just wants to give head and fuck you stupid on her strap.”

“Fictional?” Jiang Cheng echoes, having - not a moment, per se, but sort of a problem where her thoughts are going too fast for her poor drunken brain to keep up with.

“Nobody actually wants to fuck a chick who’s too lazy to eat you out after,” Huaisang mumbles.

-

After leaving Wei Ying and Lan Zhan’s bachelorette party, Jiang Cheng and Nie Huaisang decide to experiment with some outdated stereotypical lesbian sex roles.

lights out by rynleaf

“Nie-zongzhu makes the most sense,” Sect Leader Yao nods sagely, to murmurs of assent across the Jin Sect’s gold gilded banquet hall. Jin Ling, clad in opulent robes that look somewhat comical on a boy of sixteen, inclines his head as his scribe makes a notation, and the noise rises as sect leaders pat themselves and each other on the back for a decision well made.

Jiang Cheng groans and downs his cup of wine in one go.

-

In which the Sect Leaders elect a new Chief Cultivator.

shadow eternal by rynleaf

“You want me to distract the Chief Cultivator from the Annual Cultivation Conference, so you and other sect leaders can… what. Sign contracts without adult supervision?”

“If Jiang-zongzhu is amenable,” Sect Leader Ouyang repeats with a nod.

Jiang Cheng pinches the bridge of his nose. The pressure he felt building behind his eyes all morning is swiftly coalescing into a bitch of a headache. “Just what do you all think I’m capable of?”

Sect Leader Ouyang bows with a cheerful smile. “We have utmost faith in Sandu Shengshou’s abilities.”

-

In which a night hunt ends in disaster, Jiang Cheng catches a glimpse of Nie Huaisang's heart, and feelings are discussed after a certain fashion.

Four Days in Lanling by halotolerant

Nie Huaisang looks at him. ‘You are confusing me, Clan Leader Jiang, perhaps I misunderstand, but…’

‘You didn’t misunderstand. You don’t misunderstand. You understand all of it.’ For six months Jiang Cheng has been mulling this over, and now with Nie Huaisang in front of him he can’t figure out if he most wants to knock him down or kneel at his feet. What he does is try and breathe. Clench his hands at his sides. ‘And now I am going to ask you to do something for me. You have to do something for me. You have to help Jin Ling.’

Lean for Love Forever by Pip (Moirail)

Having a crush on your roommate is really embarrassing, except that's apparently the opposite of a problem. Jiang Cheng can't deny that's pretty convenient.

Wei Ying holds it up, a series of straps and buckles and velcro and wow, really a lot of leather. It has absolutely no conceivable form beyond tangled.

Nie Huaisang opens the door at exactly the moment that Wei Ying holds the thing up to Jiang Cheng’s chest, as if he’s trying to imagine how exactly it would fit onto a person, and it falls into a tangled pile between them while they stare at Huaisang in mild mortification.

acquired momentum by mongrelmind

Had Madam Yu known that this is where her son would end up, she would have gouged his eyes out with her bracelet before he made the grave mistake of looking in the direction of Nie Huaisang.

-

in which Nie Huaisang has an art show, Jiang Cheng is begrudgingly topless*, and there are. Shenanigans.

*Nie Huaisang excluded.

[shadowfae]

re: the normal horoscopes blog. I had to unfollow them after they were on some silliness about pop culture paganism. They went from "some people incorporate fictional creatures/beings into their spirit work" and got "worshiping the Disney corporation" out of it. I can only imagine what they think about fictionkind and it's probably just as stupid. Punching down is great exercise for so many people, who knew.

I dunno about you, but I as Pale Noel, greatest mass murderer of the entire Evillious history, am divorcing Mothy and I consider the author a twitching corpse and that’s the end of it.

I also remember that one tribe - it was either South American or African, forgive me I don’t remember exactly - that got access to comic books due to a nearby military base, and proceeded to take the one superhero (who was blue) and paint him onto their shields as a talisman because they loved his strength. He was very much integrated into their cultural spirituality. Is that worshipping Disney, NH? Is it? Or can we all agree that pop culture paganism typically has fuckall to do with the creator?

My canons have nothing to do with the official source, it just happens to be the closest thing to what I experienced. If you don’t understand that you’re an indoraptor, you’ll think you’re some weird cybernetic velociraptor, as Daski has shown and written about exceptionally well. People forget that our relationship to our sources is a form of shorthand, not identity theft.

Idiots, the lot of them. I have no use for NH as a person. Their poetry’s pretty good and I’ll take their reading list. But that doesn’t mean I agree with any opinion they’ve ever had.

[gongroot17]

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When Simon Hughes went to NFM's national workplace last autumn, it was clear from our discussion regarding child-inclusive arbitration that he is absolutely enthusiastic about this - established to make it function. https://cheshire.trusted-mediators.co.uk/ 's something we've been operating at for over thirty years because NFM's development, so naturally we are pleased that the Government has actually now given this undertaking. These actions will certainly aid offer the child the right to form his/her very own future when the family breaks down. However as the creators of youngster inclusive mediation, and as the nationwide organisation that has actually originated as well as evolved the technique, NFM comfortably invited the dedication. Our particularly skilled Arbitrators have the ability to give unbiased Mediation services across the nation, making use of remote platforms. Our expert team of Kid Inclusive Mediators are able to provide objective support during what might be a hard and upsetting time.

The Kid Comprehensive Arbitration Process.

Our core service has a focus on structure trust and understanding to advertise and also sustain effective partnerships and excellent interaction. Direct child assessment gives the chance for the child to speak to an independent individual without needing to filter their feedback as they would to each moms and dad due to the fact that they do not wish to upset them. • Being able totalk on the phonein exclusive to both moms and dads when they desire.

You might additionally experience some concerns with your browser, such as an alert box that a manuscript is taking a long time to run. The Entire Act without Schedules you have actually selected has over 200 provisions and also could spend some time to download and install. The Entire Act you have selected consists of over 200 stipulations and may take some time to download and install. In section 55 and this area "mediation adviser" implies an independent person that can give details as well as advice regarding seeking arbitration.

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The NFJO quick evaluation suggests a move to neutral chairs for PLO conferences and created arrangements drafted WITH families. The Schedules you have actually chosen consists of over 200 stipulations and also might spend some time to download.

the moms and dad or young adult has informed the advisor that he or she does not want to go after mediation. The moms and dad or young adult might make the appeal only if a mediation adviser has issued a certification to him or her under subsection or. the arbitration concerns do not include health care arrangement defined in the strategy or the fact that no health care arrangement, or no healthcare provision of a certain kind, is defined in the plan. the mediation concerns consist of health care stipulation defined in the plan or the fact that no health care arrangement, or no healthcare arrangement of a specific kind, is specified in the strategy. the problems in respect of which she or he wants to seek arbitration (" the mediation concerns"). A youngster's moms and dad or a young adult may interest the First-tier Tribunal against the issues set out in subsection, subject to section 55.

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The views revealed by contributing writers are not necessarily those of Family members Legislation or Jordan Posting and should not be thought about as lawful recommendations. We busily hope any type of post-election changes in Ministerial profiles will not lead child-inclusive arbitration down a dead-end.

What happens if mediation is unsuccessful?

If the mediation is not successful for whatever reason, an accredited Family Dispute Resolution practitioner can issue a certificate to allow an application to be made to a family law court.

Freeths LLP is authorized as well as managed by the Solicitors Law Authority. Our registered workplace is Cumberland Court, 80 Mount Road, Nottingham, NG1 6HH. The term 'partner' is made use of to refer to a participant of the restricted responsibility partnership. Freeths LLP supplies its solutions subject to its Terms of Service. Any type of complaints should be dealt with through the treatment described here. " I was truly pleased with the team. I really felt extremely sustained. Nothing was excessive trouble, as well as I could constantly get hold of the attorneys. They were practical, supportive and friendly, and also they explained every little thing in layperson's terms."

It may be difficult to approve that your kids might really feel in a different way regarding your splitting up than you, and so providing a possibility to share their hopes and also fears is an excellent way to concentrate your focus on their demands. Most importantly else we know they desire you as their parents to assure them that life will take place and also be great-- that they are not responsible for your split, which you are going to interact for them.

Do both parents have to pay for mediation?

One or both participants pay for the mediation as the payments come due. They are then reimbursed out of the assets at the end of the mediation process when they have reached a settlement.

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Responses From Kid Counselling Customers.

The Local Authority have a task to provide disagreement resolution solutions. Rock King can set up face-to-face or digital conferences to fit you. Visit this site to figure out just how we can continue to support every one of our valued clients as usual. Arbitration then provides the possibility to all parties included to deal with one of our qualified and competent arbitrators to aid express concerns and also discover remedies to try to deal with differences as well as repair connections. We have a solid credibility built on years of experience and success assisting deal with dispute in education.

This will provide you a clear suggestion of the distinction in between the Arbitration and also Tribunal. When mediation services london contact us, we will tell you whether you need the MIAS or otherwise. The MIAS is generally done on the telephone and takes about 20 mins. The Suggestions session offers basic information regarding Mediation, as well as you can ask any concerns you may have.

• Beingtreated as a private-- not being under the umbrella of "the kids". Being responsible parents stays a joint job despite the fact that you live apart. A Child-Inclusive Mediator should additionally have an enhanced Wrongdoer Records Bureau check and will be gone along with at the conference with the kid by another participant of staff. Instead, Child-Inclusive Mediation means children can have a chance to speak about their circumstance and feelings with someone neutral. Adjudication is another kind of disagreement resolution where a lawfully educated person decides which ought to be objective after considering all the conditions. The choice is legitimately binding if the proper process is complied with. If none of the exemptions use, or you do not have the required evidence for domestic violence and also none of the other exemptions apply, after that you will need to attend a MIAM.

EEOC Chair Extends Mediation Pilot Program for Bias Claims - Bloomberg Law

EEOC Chair Extends Mediation Pilot Program for Bias Claims.

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Throughout a CIM session youngsters can either be seen by themselves or with siblings to go over exactly how they really feel concerning a circumstance. Household mediation includes a neutral third person-- a mediator-- helping you and your companion talk about as well as concur an outcome to your conflict between yourselves. Good communication amongst parents/carers, institution as well as West Lothian Council Education Providers is the crucial to positive relationships and collaborations. Updates on council solutions, most current news and also information associating with Coronavirus (COVID-19). Our team of certified lawyers & conciliators will help you decide what is the best course of action to take. The Openness Project is a registered charity in England & Wales run greatly by volunteers that likewise have permanent tasks. https://warwickshire.trusted-mediators.co.uk/ striving to safeguard additional funding to ensure that we can keep making household justice more clear for all who make use of the court and also work within it.

This contrasts with the alternative of going straight to court, which is typically a lot more combative, causing unnecessary problem, delay, stress and also economic price. Better Futures gives assistance to those who call for additional help to live independent and also satisfied lives. Our customers are individuals whose life chances including their wellness, employability and also social skills have actually been impoverished by the impact of living in robbed locations as well as on low revenues. Via a community-led method, Concrete assists those without a strategy, without a voice and without a home construct Concrete futures by taking on the underlying concerns that keep people from searching for and safeguarding a residence of their very own.

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Mental Wellness Officer Standing In The 2015 Nhs Pension Scheme.

Taking Early Retirement.

Why End Up Being A Pension System Trustee.

Individuals's Pension Trustee is in charge of running the plan and for looking after all the pots of money held by the scheme. Included on 30 Might 2012, the Trustee Board is composed of the complying with individuals. You may be directly liable for any loss triggered to the scheme if something goes wrong. a plan that has the result of preventing an area 75 financial obligation from setting off-- for instance, 'desertion' of the system. To find out more, including good technique examples, see our support on winding up. Occasionally plan events will certainly cause the need to provide information - for example, specific details should be sent when a system begins to wind up or members are being moved to one more system without their approval. You also need to supply details to people on other events either immediately or if they request it-- for instance, when a member retires, dies or leaves the plan.

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An example of a scheme-related event is two or even more modifications to the article of scheme actuary or auditor within twelve month. other details that we reasonably need to carry out our duties, for instance, to assess the threats for every system. propositions to switch from a salary-related system to a money-purchase system, or vice versa. The code of technique MNT/MND - placing arangementsin area and support on MNTs and MNDstells you much more. If Pensions alexandria best practices or a court fines you as a result of a breach, you can neither pay the fine out of the scheme's properties neither utilize the plan's assets to pay the premiums for a plan insuring you versus penalties.

Psychological Health Policeman Standing In The 2015 Nhs Pension System.

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Can ex wife claim my pension years after divorce?

The Canada Pension Plan (CPP) contributions you and your spouse or common-law partner made during the time you lived together can be equally divided after a divorce or separation. This is called credit splitting.

pensions are one of the most popular terms used in the United Kingdom. A pension is actually a fund from which a fixed amount of money is contributed during the employee's employment years, and from which monthly payments are subsequently drawn to support the former person's retirement in the form of fixed salaries. These payments are generally obtained from the employer, although the former employee may also claim payments from their employer in certain circumstances. Typically, the employer contributes a portion of the former employee's pension at retirement, with the remaining portion going to the employee.

Taking Early Retirement.

If the statement is adverse or certified, the scheme auditor need to offer reasons. A power of amendment will usually lay out just how an arrangement of the scheme can be modified. It is great technique to unite the changes into a single replacement record at least every 5 years.

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Still No Resolution For North Chicago Police Pensioners Told To Work As Dispatchers Or Lose Their Benefits.

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You ought to also upgrade any kind of literature issued to participants at the same time, to maintain consistency in the details offered concerning the system. Our code of practice - Inner controls- offers sensible guidelines concerning taking into location, maintaining and also running inner controls for your plan. specific loan arrangements with 3rd parties which entail the employer. No choice to make an investment needs to be made without initial obtaining and thinking about the correct suggestions. making certain that the scheme properties are spent generally in regulated markets.

Why Become A Pension Scheme Trustee.

The concept of pensions is not limited to any specific age. In fact, it is often possible for people to reach retirement age without having contributed anything to any pension funds. Often, employers will choose to offer a company match up to a certain amount, ensuring that the employee receives the full monthly income they would receive had they been eligible to receive pension benefits.

On top of that, costs subtracted for the transfer are unlikely to be recouped.

PMI Pulse aims to gather the sights of the pension plans industry to evaluate the state of mind as well as state of the pensions sector gradually.

Even more info is readily available on thethe Pensions Regulator web site.

HMRC might bill over half the value of your pension for taking an 'unsanctioned repayment 'from your pension legal rights by doing this.

The violation of count on might be unintended, or it may be caused by neglect or through illegal and also unethical practices. You must adhere to the procedures laid out in the trust act and rules when considering whether to utilize an optional power. As an example, the guidelines may require you to look for medical guidance before reaching a decision on whether to permit a member to retire early on ill-health grounds. Problems of rate of interest is a legally complicated location as well as lawful recommendations need to be sought and also conflicts took care of. The Pensions Regulator has to provide codes of technique about certain demands of the Pensions Act 2004, as well as may provide other codes if it wishes. The codes consist of functional advice on exactly how to comply with the requirements in question, and laid out the criteria The Pensions Regulator expects. This guidance matches our Trustee toolkit, laying out helpful information with links to relevant support on our website, which those that have completed the toolkit will find useful.

Pension Assistant.

There are several types of pensions available in the United Kingdom. Some of these include: life pensions, defined benefit (DB) pensions, and insurance-based pensions. Life pensions are those that provide a fixed amount of money to a beneficiary who will use it for different purposes, such as medical expenses or tuition fees. Defined benefit (DB) pensions provide a set level of income to the former employee who has retired from work, and no additional benefits will be paid out to the employee upon retirement. Insurance-based pensions, on the other hand, do not guarantee any kind of income to the former employee upon retirement; instead, the insurance company pays out a monthly amount to the former employee upon retirement.

Pensions are a popular choice for many employees because it allows them to maintain the same standard of living that they had while working for their employer. Unfortunately, employers have a legal obligation to contribute a certain amount of money to each of their employees' pension plans. The contribution of the employer is based on an employee's performance, age, and the length of the employee's service with the employer. The younger the employee is when he or she retires, the lesser the amount of the pension that the employee will receive upon retirement. Pensions are also subject to retirement expenses, which are pre-paid expenses that the employer will have to pay for after the retirement of the pensioner.

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The principal sorts of professional consultants, and their roles, are described listed below. Our code of method - Coverage breaches of the law- tells you a lot more.

execute their work competently and also in accordance with your policy for selecting financial investments, as laid out in the declaration of financial investment principles. Among your most important obligations is to see to it that the appropriate cash is paid right into the plan at the right time. Our guidance on the auditor's statement as well as audited accounts offers more info on these requirements.

We intend to cover the PMI whole syllabus, making use of sample concerns of the kind used in PMI examinations to encourage interaction as well as discussion, and to bring out the underlying problems. The program includes a full simulated exam, as well as completed with a private test resting overseen by a PMI invigilator. We have actually run this program for many years as well as have a success price of around 98%. We champion and also promote entrepreneurship, concentrating our energy and also know-how on aspirational and growing businesses, helping owners elevate the capital they require to sustain their passions.

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IRA J. DUNHAM                HEROIN.

following  on  from    my first post regarding ira and vices (link),  the time has come for me to dive into his addiction to the class a drug    heroin.  clearly a difficult subject matter,  so drug abuse content warnings apply going forward,  including also issues of sexuality and mental health.

0 1 .    BEGINNING.       right from his initial formative years, it’s clear that ira is the sort of person that struggles with confidence and self-image.  something that is,  generally speaking,  natural to his personality,  but partially driven into him by a childhood that was less than exceptional ;  first and foremostly,  his distaste for self coming largely from a difficult relationship with an emotionally unavailable father figure.  andrew duhnam is a quiet man that says very little,  rarely showing emotion and finding it extremely difficult even to appease his wife and daughter,  let alone a son he finds it impossible to communicate with ;  his own lack of confidence as a husband and father finding it’s way to infecting ira all the same with his own manifestations of it,  teaching him over time to bottle things up as oppose to letting them out,  to keep a tight lid on your emotions and don’t let them spew.  his mother siobhan’s firm bond with her daughter samantha,  the eldest of the two and the most favourable in and outside of school,  causes her unrest when attempting to figure out her son due to her need to compare them ;  especially amplified by andrew’s near non-existence in the family.  as ira grows and discovers in his teenage years that he has an attraction to men,  he is further driven into himself like a hermit crab  ----  too embarrassed even before at the prospect of being a poor son,  now doubly so at the idea of him being even more a deviation to their normal.  a typical middle-to-lower-class family in northern english suburbs in the 90s,  this was just after the conservative government under prime minister margaret thatcher passed section 28 of the local government act ;  banning local authorities from ‘promoting homosexuality’ and prohibiting the funding of educational materials and subjects that were perceived to support it    ----   meaning students like ira couldn’t discuss their changing feelings and wouldn’t receive any help understanding it.

0 2 .   THE NEED FOR DISTANCE.      having made it to an age where he could consider leaving home for university,  a family life that had now become one of almost total avoidance of each other ;  andrew spent more evenings holed up in the working men’s club than he did even looking in his son’s direction ;  ira felt an impending frustration to escape,  and to put up walls between himself and his difficult life at home,  additionally in the midst of his parents bordering on divorce.  having not divulged his attraction to men to anyone beside one of his friends,  of who rejected his attempt at an advance,  ira decided he would disappear to a university three hours down to the south of england in the bustling expanse that is london city   ------   wishing he could study history,  but at the bequest of his mother  ( pleased, at-least, that he was going to study ),  studying law and finance.  the transition from being trapped by absent authorities in his household,  to being met with such consuming freedom,  was overwhelming for him to say the least,  and ira spent a long time hiding most often in his room in the standard student accommodation ;  but as he began to make friends on his course and in his lodgings,  with this came the inevitable hedonism of teenage life.  exclusive to ira however was a need to match his peers and to yet go even further,  perhaps driven by his feelings of frustration for being locked so tightly in his shell,  labelling ira to become something of an ‘enabler’ ;  constantly pushing others to keep drinking more,  and,  eventually,  taking more,  even beyond the point of it being bad for their well-being  ( a total self projection  ---  if he saw someone drinking or taking excessive amounts of substances,  he felt it was suitable for him to do it too ).  ira’s relationship with drugs begins with smoking weed,  but his fascination for people involved in drug dealings opened him to a very different world than what he was used to.  to spite his sheltered life,  and in need of something that cut out the constant feeling of inadequacy,  ira adopted a ‘try anything’ motto ;  that no drug could escape his use,  even if it was just once.  in all actuality,  ira ended up doing just weed,  mdma,  lsd,  and on various occasions cocaine.  but it was a brush one night,  accompanying a friend to somewhere he didn’t know for a party,  that people were injecting themselves there ;  and from what he could see,  the results were quite enviable.  this drug is heroin.  the year,  at this time,  is 2008.

0 3 .    DISGUISING REALITY.        heroin,  also known as smack,  skag,  and gear  ( most common nicknames ira has used for it in the past,  though not the only ones,  as he liked to refer to it often as his ���girlfriend’ ),  is a drug usually in white-brown to brown powder form,  that is made from morphine,  and extracted from opium poppies.  the unrivalled intensity of it’s effects were for ira an immediate success in his efforts to remove himself from life around him ;  to cut out those feelings of self-distaste.  the euphoria it presented him with was unparalleled,  unmatched by any other drug,  any drink,  any feeling ;  to not enhance reality around him or to distort it,  but to simply make him uncaring of it ;   it was always going to be a recipe for disaster.  ira began by smoking it,  inhaling the fumes when burnt on foil,  but soon was introduced to injecting it,  of which the hit is much faster and more intense.  initially cautious and denying injecting heroin at first,  but warming to the prospect over time,  as friends he made that also enjoyed the drug demonstrated it’s tidal wave effects.  when he took heroin,  he found that his anxieties and pains in life were numbed so effectively,  that by the time he came around,  he’d enjoyed life far too much a few hours before,  when these feelings melted into nothing.  it was immediately apparent to ira that life with those thoughts cut out was a much more preferable existence.  heroin’s addictive quality is also simultaneously it’s most destructive,  and it is the feeling of numbness that ira craves the most deeply ;  that illustrious mind wipe,  that ocean of dopamine. so thus a chase is born,  and ira spends the next 6 years of his life on and off this extremely dangerous drug.  it’s likely also that ira becomes so quickly hooked on it as a result of his peers about him using it,  and his need to blend into the background and ‘fit in’ amongst others,  to be unnoticeable,  also fuelled his first few uses of it,  and the beginning of injecting it ;  the drug however eventually demonstrating to him that his life wasn’t just bearable,  but enjoyable,  when using it.

0 4 .     DRUGS OR ME.      ira first attends a rehabilitation clinic,  of which was nhs funded,  at age 24 in 2010,  not too long after leaving university.  this is persuaded of him by his older sister,  of who discovered ira’s intravenous drug use after coming to visit him one day out the blue.  he remains in rehab for the space of a month,  able to kick the withdrawal cycle,  but this pattern doesn’t stick,  and ira would then revisit rehab innumerable times from this point forward.  this being the first year that ira’s family find out about his drug abuse,  sam and his mother siobhan attempt to try and help him as best they can,  offering him a place in their homes,  but most instances such as this are declined,  likely as a result of ira’s shame for his actions,  and for lying about passing his second two years in university.  his father andrew still remains passive and largely uncontactable,  again,  much to siobhan’s downfall,  and this burden then appears to lie most heavily with sam ;  perhaps maternally,  wishing in some way to protect her younger brother.  ira,  however,  still struggling to admit that he feels unconnected to his family and feels as though he doesn’t belong with them,  allows this to underline his actions,  and more often than not ignores them,  leaves texts unanswered,  dodges phonecalls,  unwilling to try.  this allows the void between them to grow,  and in the space where his absence lives,  the anxiety and pain felt by his mother and sister spreads like a vine ;  frustration on all ends ;  ira,  for his guilt and his displacement,  sam for her inability to help and for ira’s self-imposed distance,  and siobhan for her helplessness and pain for her son’s addiction.  as time progresses and ira found his supply of money wearing thin,  he would often pick up communications again,  largely with his mother ;  asking for some pennies here,  some pounds there ;  always with different stories.  siobhan,  though aware of where her money was likely going,  found it impossible to say no to him,  happy enough he was speaking to her and that she could hear his voice,  and sent it over without question ;  though the moment sam found out,  this,  to the largest extent,  stopped.  relations began to deteriorate even further as ira and sam would often have heated arguments over the phone,  and it was clear that life was soon to reach a crescendo.  this came in the form of ira visiting for a weekend,  and stealing things of value from sam’s home,  with the intent to sell them or trade them for drugs.  once this act was discovered,  and sam accused him,  she cut him out of her life completely,  and firmly advised siobhan to do the same.  this happens in 2013.  as it stands ira has still not spoken to sam since this point,  of which up to now has been 7 years.

0 5 .     THE RAT RACE.      addiction,  no matter what to,  is difficult to kick.  in the present day ira has been clean and sober for an impressive 5 years ;  but the thoughts are often still the same,  the reflexes are still the same,  that gut feeling,  that need,  still lingering on.  (  he’s simply gotten better at ignoring it.  )  in ira’s house on a pine bookshelf by his tv is a small wooden box full of the chips he managed to keep from rehab,  small tokens that he found himself unable to dispose of,  a trophy of sorts.  but just the same,  tucked under his bed,  is an old star wars lunchbox that he picked up at a charity shop,  of which contains a spoon,  cotton,  a lighter,  foil,  an old leather belt,  and a tin case with various needles.  sometimes taken out,  sometimes simply looked at,  unopened  ----  sometimes taken apart with waning intent,  then put together and away again.  ira manages to keep a lid on himself for enough time to last him until the deal is made with kel mehmeti,  and now suddenly entrenched in a world themed by the very thing he has spent such time trying to avoid ;  there may well be a 6th chapter to this meta soon.

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How to Fill Out NH Divorce Forms Quickly and Easily

Divorce is never easy, but filling out the necessary paperwork shouldn't have to be a stressful experience. If you're going through a divorce in New Hampshire, it's important to know how to properly fill out the required forms in order to ensure that the process goes as smoothly as possible. In this article, we'll walk you through the steps of filling out NH divorce forms quickly and easily.

Understanding the Basics of NH Divorce Forms

Before we dive into the specifics of filling out NH divorce forms, it's important to have a basic understanding of what these forms are and why they're necessary. In New Hampshire, the divorce process involves filling out a number of different forms that cover everything from child custody and support to property division and spousal support.

Gathering the Necessary Information

Before you start filling out NH divorce forms, it's important to make sure you have all of the necessary information on hand. This includes things like your and your spouse's full legal names, addresses, and social security numbers, as well as information about your children and any assets or debts that need to be divided.

Filling Out the NH Divorce Forms

Once you have all of the necessary information, it's time to start filling out the NH divorce forms. Depending on your situation, you may need to fill out several different forms, including the Petition for Divorce, the Marital Settlement Agreement, and the Financial Affidavit.

Petition for Divorce

The Petition for Divorce is the first form you'll need to fill out. This form officially starts the divorce process and outlines the grounds for the divorce, as well as any other important information about your case. You'll need to provide basic information about you and your spouse, as well as any children you have together.

Marital Settlement Agreement

The Marital Settlement Agreement is a key part of the divorce process, as it outlines the terms of your divorce settlement. This form covers everything from child custody and support to property division and spousal support. You and your spouse will need to come to an agreement on all of these issues before you can finalize your divorce.

Financial Affidavit

The Financial Affidavit is a form that outlines your financial situation. This includes information about your income, expenses, assets, and debts. It's important to be as thorough as possible when filling out this form, as it will be used to determine things like child support and alimony.

Filing Your NH Divorce Forms

Once you've filled out all of the necessary NH divorce forms, it's time to file them with the court. You'll need to make sure you have copies of all of the forms for yourself and your spouse, as well as any additional copies required by the court. You'll also need to pay a filing fee.

FAQs

Can I file for divorce in New Hampshire without an attorney?

Yes, you can file for divorce in New Hampshire without an attorney. However, it's always a good idea to at least consult with an attorney before filing.

What is the filing fee for a divorce in New Hampshire?

The filing fee for a divorce in New Hampshire varies by county, but is generally between $200 and $400.

What happens after I file my NH divorce forms?

After you file your NH divorce forms, you'll need to wait for a response from the court. This can take several weeks or even months, depending on the workload of the court and the complexity of your case.

Can I change my NH divorce forms after I've filed them?

In some cases, you may be able to amend your NH divorce forms after you've filed them. However, it's important to speak with an attorney before doing so to ensure that you're making the right decision.

Conclusion

Filling out NH divorce forms can be a daunting task, but it doesn't have to be. By understanding the basics of the process and following the steps outlined in this article, you can quickly and easily fill out the necessary forms and move forward with your divorce. If you need additional assistance or have questions about the process, don't hesitate to reach out to a qualified attorney for help.

At NH Legal Forms, we understand that the divorce process can be stressful and overwhelming. That's why we offer a wide range of resources and services to help you navigate the process quickly and easily. Our online divorce forms are designed to be user-friendly and easy to understand, so you can get through the process without any unnecessary hassle. Plus, our team of experienced attorneys is always here to answer your questions and provide support whenever you need it.

If you're ready to get started with your NH divorce forms, visit our website today to learn more. With NH Legal Forms, you can be confident that you're getting the support and guidance you need to get through the divorce process quickly and easily.

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Why a Private Investigator?

Here I'm once again trying to explain items to people. But I have to tell that you do not expect excellent writing since that's not what I do. I'm a Private Investigator. Answering questions and putting pen to paper, for an author is straightforward if one is acquainted with the topic or wants to learn in regards to a certain topic. Approximately I'm told. Some may even have resources and methods they alone have access to of how they can gather information. However writing about Private Investigations and what exactly does a private investigator do becomes a daunting task if that is your field of expertise and industry.

I'd like to first engage you in a tiny history class of Private Investigations. The very first known private investigations firm was founded in 1833 by a French crook, soldier, and criminal privateer by the name of Eugène François Vidocq. It had been called Le Bureau Des Renseignments (Office of Intelligence). Naturally most who worked there were also criminals. Vidocq is noted for making the initial plaster casts along with introduced record keeping, ballistics, and criminology. It wasn't until 1850 that Allen Pinkerton established the initial detective/security guard agency in the US this form of discipline was born then slowly perfected around the world.

In the United States this can be a thriving industry. There are many Private Detective agencies here than anywhere else in the world. Sadly enough it's because of lack of good police work, the desire to possess answers if you're a suspicious spouse or partner and the demand in high profile cases where there services are required. Typically Private investigators specialize within certain industries. Whether they are employed in criminal cases or civil cases. This is where specialization comes into play. Personally, i have already been taking care of high profile cases which I'm not at liberty to discuss, however suffice it to state computer forensics and due diligence have played an important role in my success rate. In today's market technology is key. Access to top surveillance equipment alongside strategic thinking and many years of experience are but a few disciplines one will master throughout their career.

In order to understand what why and how we do things one must consider which kind of personality would wish to accomplish this for a living. Consider your sense of adventure and your sharp Sherlock  Ντετεκτιβ Holmes thinking throw in a little bit of espionage and charm shake it around with some criminal background and an knowledge of how criminals and law breakers think and you've an effective Private Detective.

An ordinary day for a private investigator or as most want to call them a PI can verge on the extraordinary, fascinating, mind blowing, and yes even boring. We are hired to find people, to serve people to protect them, sometimes to just watch them. That alone may be fascinating or absolutely boring, but it's a job that's allowed me to travel the nation and the world that I enjoy.

In summary my expertise and 30 years of employed in this industry has given me some happy memories and some not too happy ones. I get involved with each case personally, from small details to finding new ways of utilizing the resources available to me. The breakdowns for specializations are best described in 4 categories. From Criminal Investigations to Corporate Investigations, Insurance Investigations, and last however, not least Civil Investigations.

If you're thinking about Criminal Investigations, then you could be coping with Homicide Robbery Sex Crimes Racketeering. If you wish to get into Corporate Investigations, then you would deal with Security issues to Consulting on Sexual Discrimination, Acquisition, Profiling, and White Collar Crimes. For a long time I worked as an Insurance Investigator and had to work with cases that involved Workers Compensation, Liability Accident - Auto/Fire. The past could be the bread and butter of the industry Civil Investigations, this involved Divorce, Child Custody/Recovery Statements to name a few.

About the writer: Mr. Nickels expertise as a Deputy Sheriff was gained while working for New Hampshire's Strafford County and Hillsborough County Sheriff's Department from 1982 through 1987. In 1987, Nickels Professional Investigations was established in Manchester, NH and is licensed in Maine (ME), New Hampshire (NH), Vermont (VT) and Massachusetts (MA). We're always ready to help you along with your investigative needs.

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Brexit yo

im ranting boys so strap in, sorry not sorry

So Brexit happened yesterday, (or at midnight last night I guess, its whatever), and while I, like most young people, was pro-remain, my opinion is that despite the sham that was the referendum, with literally no independent coverage of the pros and cons of leaving/remaining (love that for our democracy), the results were the results, and as far as I was concerned that was that and we should honour them and move on. cant help whats happened etc, just get it done and move forward, focus on actually funding the NHS and shit. (I respect that not everyone holds that opinion though, and go for it dudes, this is just where im at :)))) 

bit pissed the fuck off now though, bc (no shade to the Tory society at my uni, you do you and express your lil angry political selves or whatever) when I was on campus yesterday I saw them legit out doing a victory march in the piazza like wtf

to contextualise why im pissed: Brexit has been the most polarising and destructive-to-society political change/event or whatever in my living memory: legit its been like watching my parents divorce again- no one is happy, everyone is stressed and upset and arguing, and the people on each spouse’s side automatically are against the other spouse and their friends bc they all disagree- ITS JUST NOT A GOOD SITUATION AND EVERYONE IS BEING HURT BY THE ARGUING AND UNWILLINGNESS BY ANYONE TO TRY AND COMPROMISE BASICALLY BUT YEAH 

 so yeah everyone’s mad, politics is now some cesspit of jabs between politicians and random citizens alike all assigning blame for the country’s problems and defaming each other’s character bc they disagree- literally most of the serious arguments ive had with my parents and family have been about the politics and ideology that informed their decision to vote leave and the putridness of their reaction to any liberal (including me) questioning why they voted leave, but bc at my uni most people are quite intensely left but come from liberal households I almost feel like I have to defend my family bc voting leave doesn't make them bad people, they just have a different perspective than others, and different priorities (as we all do ayy democracy) so its just one big mess and everything’s fucked and the future is so uncertain bc rather than making concrete steps forward everyone’s spent four years arguing, and I don't know how to have opinions and not feel guilty anymore

….and these people are having a fuckin party about it??

ive been seeing pics of people waving their union jack flags, and going to rallies like the pope’s in town for a gav, and they’re acting like this is some kind of ‘victory’ or ‘triumph’ for the united kingdom?? United kingdom my arse bro, we haven't been this divided since (idek when actually, im 19 lol) but POINT BEING this is a fucking shambles and it just makes me angry-

- im angry that despite my attempts to always respect the opinions of the people around me and their voices, their backgrounds, their perspectives on life that I maybe don't share, people aren't willing to do the same for me 

- im angry that people would hold up the union jack, a flag which symbolises in its literal composition the coming together of different demographics into one united kingdom, and wave it as though Brexit has been anything other than the worst and most divisive thing to happen to democracy in 21st century britain

- im angry that some of these people not only hold up this flag, but then legit start referring to yesterday/today as ‘independence day’ like oh my FUCking god do you literally not understand at all the premise of what independence day means to so many people- the words literally represent for so many countries the moment where they, as a nation, took back political agency and control from literal colonisers (spoiler: a shameful amount of those times the coloniser was Britain, so wind your neck in maybe??) and began governing their country again independently of powers who stripped them of their agency against their will. How the fuck, sirs, can one compare Brexit which legit is just pulling out of a CONSENSUAL AGREEMENT WE ENTERED INTO OF OUR OWN FREE WILL, with no resistance from the other party other than the expected attempts to use their power to negotiate (literally we would have done the same, I don't get why ppl were so mad that the EU didn't want us to leave and didn't just hand every perk to us on a silver platter, why would they, our politicians were being dicky and offensive from the get go, how british) but yeah, compare that to LITERAL COLONIALISM WHY DONT YOU- the fucking insensitivity and stupidity just makes me so mad, like read a fucking book.

- also side note, also mad bc people act like they’re the most educated person in the room bc they read the news on facebook, and then dismiss you when you bring up a relevant point that you literally learned from your academic reading and political engagement across a range of news sources from a range of political biases, and then act like formal education is a conspiracy theory formed by the left (its not, and its literally history dude, im not  making it up) 

so yeah, in summary this is just a sad and a shit day, that people are now so divided and polarised that they can look at the hurt and anger caused by the last four years and think of today as a victory. I don't know what it means to be british anymore dudes, other than being angry, frustrated and divided

[niskrp]

:// SEARCHING OPERATIVE …

… searching for AGENT 019 / THE HIGH PRIESTESS. classified files indicate that they go by NAM DAEIL. born in SEOUL, SK, in 1990/05/03, further investigation makes it clear that they joined the agency FOUR YEARS ago. they are an INTELLIGENCE AGENT who specialize in ANALYTIC METHODOLOGY. higher clearance is needed to access further information…

… ENTER PASSWORD TO ACCESS THE COMPLETE FILE.

:// ACCESSING BACKGROUND FILES …

03rd June, 1990 / He’s born the first and only son of Nam Hayoon and Yoo Jaebeom, current CEO and chairman of Yoosang Group, a multi-profile business conglomerate with holdings in arms, defense, chemicals, energy, finance, and investment. He’s also born the only grandson of Admiral Nam Seokwoo, 20th Chief of Naval Operations of the Republic of Korea and first ever platoon leader of then freshly established Republic of Korea Navy Special Warfare Flotilla’s SEAL team 1.

28th September, 1992 - 19th July, 2006 / He’s raised in coastal Jeju-do by his maternal grandparents, childhood uneventful in the best of ways; still remembers the taste of his grandmother’s home-cooked meals, the days he’d spend fishing out at sea with his grandfather, the family outings and morning runs and weekends spent rock-climbing. He grows up loved, so he’s unbothered by the lack of parental presence in his life. His father calls once a week; his mother even less. He timed one once, just for kicks. It lasted a whopping 98 seconds, and yet his parents never forgot to tell him they loved him before hanging up. Unsurprisingly, daeil never replied. He just hung up.

20th July 2006 / It’s already been 3 years since his grandmother’s passing. He wakes up past 9:00 AM for the first time in 16 years to find his grandfather still in bed, smiling. At peace in death, just as in life. The funeral that’s held is a small one, and he sees his parents for the first time in 3 years. He pays them no heed, quiet throughout the ceremony. Stays long after everyone else has left, crying over the grave of the only father he’s ever really known. Luckily, his parents give him the space he needs. Haven’t they always.

21st July 2006 - 15th August 2008 / he moves in with his parents the day after the funeral and spends most of the day actively avoiding the confines of his newfound home. No one but the help is ever there to begin with, and it doesn’t help that whenever his old man does manage to scrape together an hour or two to spend with his son, it’s accompanied with the suffocating weight of awkward parental guilt – a constant cycle of trying too hard and overstepping boundaries with a son he does not know.

So he spends his days preoccupied with school, with extra-curriculars, with psychedelics in the back of a senior’s car.

Private school’s always had its perks, after all. Money, has, too.

16th August 2008 / He graduates from high school, and so does his budding addiction. A 5.0 GPA and an impressive list of extra-curricular achievements see him admitted to Harvard’s class of 2008, and as per Harvard culture, he grows to spend his Sundays getting blackout drunk and his Mondays studying Math 55A: honors abstract algebra.

It’s in January of his freshman year that he’s first introduced to cocaine, and it’s easy enough to think you’re invincible when you’re 19 years old. Crack addiction isn’t a possibility for you. You’re too good for that. Don’t be a fucking pussy, a line never hurt anyone. A line never killed anyone.

Except it has. Except It has.

A 200 word paragraph isn’t enough to portray what addiction is like. He tried to stop, really, he did. But that’s never really enough, is it?

11th december 2010 - 13th August 2011 / Rehab. Then, rehab again. Followed by rehab for a third and final time. He still has a scar on the side of his throat from his second failed attempt. It’s already been months since he’s stopped picking up his father’s calls; weeks since his father’s stopped calling altogether.

15th September 2011 - 26th August 2013 / The last two years of his undergraduate education go by in a blur. It’s busy, hectic. Sobering. He graduates top of his class.

27th August 2013 / It takes him 17 hours to get from Boston to Seoul. He signs up for the PT program at the National Intelligence Service the following day.

He doesn’t really know why he did it. Came back here, of all places.

Perhaps it’s just in his blood.

23rd January 2014 /

NH: Is this about your grandfather, Daeil? ND: Maybe. NH: Maybe? ND: He never told me, you know. I was, what, 14? 15? when i found out? I think it was a year before he died. I never brought it up. He was happy with the idea that I didn’t know and I had no intention of changing that. NH: … ND: Even if I put personal feelings aside for a minute. It doesn’t add up. More than 45 years of service and yet a week after Blackwater is when he’s– [STATIC] NH: Why come back to this now. What difference do you think it’ll make. ND: Dunno. I guess you could say rehab helped me put things back into perspective. / END TAPE.

:// ACCESSING PSYCHOLOGICAL EVALUATION …

REPORT OF PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSESSMENT prepared by: Dr. Kwon Hojoon National Intelligence Service, Seoul, Republic of South Korea. 23rd September, 2014.

confidential material, for professional use only. NAME: Nam Daeil D.O.B: 03rd June, 1990. TRAINEE NUMBER: 14056 CHRONOLOGICAL AGE: 24 years and 3 months. NATIONALITY: South Korean. ETHNICITY: Korean. MOTHER: Nam Hayoon. FATHER: Yoo Jaebeom. EDUCATIONAL LEVEL: Bachelor of Science in Neuroscience, specializing in behavior, perception, and consciousness. REASON FOR REFERRAL: Daeil is a 24 years and 3 months old adult of South Korean descent who was referred for psychological evaluation according to the pt program trainee evaluation process. SOURCES OF INFORMATION: Background information was obtained from government records, as well as from interviews and medical records. Current status of his behavioral patterns and mental state was obtained from observation during testing and from standardized psychological and neuropsychological tests. This information appears to be from reliable sources and valid. BACKGROUND INFORMATION: Family history: Daeil is the only son of Nam Hayoon and Yoo Jaebeom, but was raised in Jeju-do by maternal grandparents since the age of two. Although Daeil’s parents are not divorced, they rarely saw each other or Daeil due to work-related reasons. Daeil’s father is the current CEO and Chairman of Yoosang Group, while his mother is the current Deputy Director of NIS’ Clandestine Division, and has been serving since 1985. It’s worth mentioning that his maternal grandfather, late Admiral Nam Seokwoo, served in the ROK navy and was it’s 20th Chief of Naval Operations. His grandfather was also the first ever platoon leader of the ROK Special Warfare Flotilla’s SEAL team 1 when it was first established in 1955. Admiral Seokwoo was given an OTH discharge from the military during his term as Chief of Naval Operations on charges of corruption in 1997. MEDICAL AND DEVELOPMENTAL HISTORY: Pregnancy and birth history: Daeil’s mother was 25 and his father 29 at the time of his birth. There were no complications of pregnancy or delivery reported and he was born by Caesarean section. His birth weight was normal but he experienced some jaundice following birth. Developmental history: Medical reports show that Daeil had difficulties sleeping as an infant and was brought to the hospital for a check-up after being unable to sleep for more than 2 to 3 hours at a time for the first 3 months of his life. His appetite was also reported as poor. Medical history: He had the usual childhood illnesses of chickenpox, ear infections and strep throat. BEHAVIOURAL OBSERVATIONS: Daeil is an attractive young man, who readily established an easy rapport and was open and easy to communicate with. He was evaluated over a period of three days. He showed no reluctance to perform assigned tasks and failed to show signs of resistance, hyperactivity or distractibility. Most notable was his high speed of information processing and how well he functions and adapts in high-stress situations. In conversation, he maintains eye contact, which, combined with his posture, indicates a high level of confidence and an unlikelihood towards suffering from social anxiety. TESTS ADMINISTERED: AAMD Adaptive Behavior Scale Adult Neuropsychological Questionnaire Beck Anxiety Inventory Beck Depression Inventory - 2nd Ed Beck Hopelessness Scale Bennett Mechanical Comprehension Test Benton Visual Retention Test - 5th Ed Developmental Test of Visual-Motor Integration Frostig Developmental Test of Visual Percepeption Holtzman Inkblot Technique House-Tree-Person Interrogation Form Personality Assessment Inventory Stanford-Binet Intelligence Scale - 5th Ed Stanford Diagnostic Mathematics Test Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale - 3rd Ed Woodcock-Johnson III Tests of Cognitive Abilities TEST RESULTS: Cognitive:

Verbal abilities: Verbal comprehension refers to his ability to listen to a question, draw upon learned information, reason through an answer, and express thoughts verbally. Daeil’s verbal comprehension fell in the high average range and ranked in the 93rd percentile. According to his performance, Daeil is able to express both abstract and concrete ideas clearly and concisely, in simple terms, despite having an extensive vocabulary.

Non-verbal abilities: Perceptual reasoning measures Daeil’s ability to reason using visual cues from the environment; to examine, think about, and solve novel tasks without using words. Daeil’s perceptual reasoning fell in the high range and ranked in the 94th percentile.

Working memory: Daeil’s working memory involves the ability to attend to verbally presented information, hold information in his immediate awareness, and then be able to use that information within a small period of time. Daeil’s working memory fell in the high average range, and ranked in the 85th percentile. His highest scoring task required him to mentally compute math problems within a time limit. His second highest score involved tasks asking him to repeat a 15-digit number verbatim, as state or in reverse order. As expected, the longer the time duration allotted for memorization, the likelier it is that Daeil maintains the subject matter in his long-term memory.

Processing Speed: Processing speed involves the ability to scan, discriminate and process visual information to complete a task. Daeil’s processing speed falls in the high range as well, ranked in the 99th percentile, and is considered a personal strength. His performance suggests that Daeil does not have trouble with concentration, attention or short-term memory nor does he struggle with visual-motor coordination or discrimination.

Social Emotional:

Externalizing problems; hyperactivity, aggression, conduct problems: Daeil’s tendency towards experiencing overall externalizing problems fell in the low range, ranking in the 13th percentile. Daeil scored lowest on measures for hyperactivity. Measures for aggression were consistent and did not indicate a predisposition towards violent behavior. The issue of conduct problems also does not appear to be a noteworthy cause of concern, although some test results indicate that he has a predisposition towards unpredictability.

Internalizing problems; anxiety, depression, somatization, rejection: Daeil’s tendency towards experiencing overall internalizing problems fell in the low range as well, ranking in the 12th percentile. No particular inclination towards anxiety, depression, somatization were noted. Daeil’s results did not indicate a particular fear of rejection either.

Overall problems/maladaptive behavior or emotional disabilities: Daeil appears to have a low level of problem behavior according to the assessments performed. Overall problem behavior combines Daeil’s performance on measures of hyperactivity, aggression, depression, atypicality, and withdrawal. This assessment is supported by another in which Daeil demonstrates low internalizing and externalizing maladaptive behaviors as compared to fellow trainees. Asessments did not indicate maladaptive behavioral tendencies, disturbances in functioning, or pathology. These scores imply that his behavior will not affect his functioning at NIS or negatively impact mission performance. In addition, Daeil does not indicate an emotional disability based on the conducted assessment. With regards to indications of emotional disability, Daeil ranked in the 15th percent when compared to other adults his age. Further evaluation for emotional disabilities was not indicated. This suggests that Daeil’s emotional condition is normal and is not a concern in regards to performance. Adaptive Skills: Daeil’s adaptive skills fall in the high range, ranking in the 90th percentile. These skills include adaptability (ability to readily adapt to environmental changes), social skills, leadership, activities of daily living, and functional communication. Daeil exhibits high coping skills, but indicates a lack of sensitivity, even though empathy levels are considered normal. SUMMARY AND RECOMMENDATIONS: Daeil demonstrates exceptional cognitive abilities and adaptability, as well as a talent for operating under large amounts of stress. His test results indicate a high level of mental and emotional stability, and is considered low-risk; however, his performance does indicate a possibility of developing obsessive tendencies, but test results show inconsistent and conflicting results. A second opinion from a psychologist specializing in personality disorders is recommended. CONCLUSION: Nam Daeil, trainee number 14056, is deemed fit for active duty.

… END OF FILE. CONTACT THE AGENT DIRECTLY FOR MORE.

[katiebrazier]

Anxiety Hypnosis: Does It Work?

What is Anxiety Hypnosis?

According to the NHS website, Generalised Anxiety Disorder or (GAD) is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe. According to the NHS website, Generalised Anxiety Disorder or (GAD) is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe.

Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point in their life – for example, you may feel worried and anxious about sitting an exam, or having a medical test or job interview. During times like these, feeling anxious can be perfectly normal. However, some people find it hard to control their worries. Their feelings of anxiety are more constant and can often affect their daily lives.

Anxiety is the main symptom of several conditions, including:

1: panic disorder

2: phobias – such as agoraphobia or claustrophobia

3: post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

4: social anxiety disorder (social phobia)

In short, Anxiety is often at the root of the disorders most of my patients come to see me to address.

GAD is a common condition, estimated to affect up to 5% of the UK population. Slightly more women are affected than men, and the condition is more common in people from the ages of 35 to 59.

Some Facts about Anxiety in the UK

In 2016, 81.1% of the population was aged 16 and over (65,648,054) that means that some 3,282,403 people in the UK suffered with anxiety. That’s more than the population of some countries (Uruguay, Armenia, Lithuania, Slovenia, Qatar).

Notice the age of sufferers? Anxiety seems to affect us more as life tends to get more serious. The average age of a home buyer in London is 32 and the average age of new parents is 28.6 years (women) and 33.2 years for men. So there could be a direct correlation to additional life stresses, noting that the highest rates of divorce also take place between 30 and 60 years old.

This also shows that anxiety is quite normal. If anxiety is a direct reaction mentally in the body to stress, it happens frequently and readily.

Hypnotherapy for Anxiety

 Anxiety hypnosis treatments are widely accepted and recognisable, as a genuine form of treatment. Hypnotherapy can help a person suffering from anxiety by subliminal messaging to promote confidence and belief in oneself. It also helps anxiety sufferers reduce stress, feelings of fear and intense worry by subconscious persuasion bringing calming thoughts reinforced with the use of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).

Anxiety hypnosis therapy focuses on unlocking the subconscious aspects of your mind using the power of suggestion to instil positive change. Like any form of treatment, it can be a short permanent treatment or sometimes you may need to go back for further sessions. This all depends on the individual.

During the anxiety hypnosis therapy, your hypnotherapist if NLP trained will use positive reinforcement to help change your train of thought, but based on careful consultation prior, to establish the causes of the underlying issues.

Is anxiety hypnosis therapy an alternative to medicine?

Like any form of treatment, there will be varying degrees of success. As more people look for holistic, non-medicated forms of treatment, hypnosis and its value, is becoming far widely adopted. It is even listed as an alternative treatment on the NHS website.

But hypnotherapists are not doctors, we are not medically qualified to discuss anything other than what we understand. Many of us are learned in the study of mental health, have coaching qualifications, NLP qualifications and are strong in experience in dealing with such issues.

If you suffer from anxiety or any of its other forms it presents itself as, feel free to talk to

Katie Brazier - Hypnotherapy, Mindfulness and NLP in Leamington Spa

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[retirednerfherder]

Living in Fear

I had my first panic attack at the age of 19. I remember it vividly. It was May 1995 and I was leaving the house of my then boyfriend. I needed to go home and he was dragging his heels. I got annoyed with him and as I walked into the cold night, I started gasping for air and then collapsed. Luckily his dad caught me. At first, I thought it was just a faint, but then it happened again, and again with alarming intensity often in social situations or before stressful interactions. Sometimes they started in my sleep. I am now 46 and these blips as I call them, have dogged me on and off for the last 27 years. It’s very rare for me to faint now, but the panic attacks always build to a point where I am precariously on the edge of losing consciousness. It is a thoroughly unpleasant sensation, and I will go to great lengths to avoid having a panic attack. This has led to prolonged periods of agoraphobia, losing friends, unemployment, profound loneliness and a great deal of introspection.

I have been extremely lucky throughout my adult life having bagged my dream job at the age of 18 and managing to keep it for nigh on 15 years. I have met and formed friendships with some extraordinary people (it still staggers me that they even care I exist), had romantic relationships with a diverse choice of men, eventually married, divorced, then remarried. I have travelled the world, lived abroad, went back to university and obtained a BSc as a mature student, got onto a Masters course and pretty much fulfilled most of my dreams. I am aware that I have been extremely lucky, but there has always been this dark cloud that has followed me that I have been unable to shake off.

I’m writing about this because I feel like this is my life now. A perpetual state of near panic and avoidance, exacerbated by perimenopause and I seem unable to climb out of the hole I find myself in. HRT and antidepressants take the edge off, but the blips haven’t gone away. Making excuses for how I am living my life is getting exhausting and living in a near constant state of ill mental health is tiring enough without having to explain to people over and over again, why I don’t fancy (couldn’t do) a 9-5 job anymore or travel anywhere.

Getting help for panic attacks is hard. If you’re agoraphobic, it seems impossible. Having a drop in centre for agoraphobics is about as useful as a chocolate teapot. Lockdown helped in that suddenly online access to almost everything was available, but that didn’t mean that the services had improved. Waiting lists to speak face to face with any sort of NHS provided counsellor is two years in my part of England. That’s another two years of existing from day to day, for some people it’s hour to hour, and even then, they may only be offered CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). Medication helps a lot. I have taken several different types of anti-depressant and beta blockers over the years and most times it has knocked the panic on the head long enough for me to return to society as a “functioning” human being. This present cycle of panic is not like the others, it’s not budging, and I’m concerned that it’s taking up residence for good this time. On top of that, bills are sky rocketing, the cost of living is now extortionate and there are no benefits available to me. Apparently, I’m fine and both me and my husband should be able to live on his £20000 salary. At any other time in the recent past I would’ve said, yeah we can get by on that, not anymore. We struggle to pay bills, have racked up some debt on credit cards (not a huge amount, but we can’t pay it back right now), barely eat the last week of most months, and my parents buy cat food for us every month so we can keep our two cats alive! Ideal it is not and it compounds my feelings of guilt at not being able to contribute and I lose sleep over what it’s doing to my marriage.

It can be a vicious circle. Shame is beginning to take root alongside the embarrassment and guilt and it’s now showing on my face. I look like crap. These days I only shower twice a week, to save money.

Despite what you hear about mental health being easier to talk about, most people still don’t understand it. Talking is great, but if you don’t understand it then you can’t treat it and if you don’t want to fund it properly then what’s the point in the annual sound bites that roll around every World Mental Health Day/Hour/Week.

“Why can’t you just pull yourself together? I had one once and I’m fine. We’ll look after you, grow up. If you ignore it it’ll go away. Have you tried meditation? You have to face your fears. Don’t medicalise yourself. Just try. I have anxiety, and I can do it so why can’t you? Don’t be so dramatic. Stop being ridiculous. Just bring a paper bag with you” just a selection of the helpful things that friends and family, as well as employers have said to me recently and in the past.

So, what does a panic attack actually feel like and why are they so debilitating? It’s different for everyone.

In my case they often start with noticing my breath and a sudden surge of adrenaline. It rushes through me like a reverse lightning strike. I feel it in my abdomen first and then it rushes to my chest and into my head. Then I feel very light headed and the palpitations start. At about the same time my hands will convulse, I usually try to disguise it by rubbing my thighs as if I’m wiping my hands. Then the sweats start, followed by intense heat. My mouth will go bone dry and I won’t be able to swallow. All of these things are now happening together at the same time. My shoulders will rise and tense making it harder to get a full breath. My vision will go blurry. Then I will get a get dull ache in my biceps and triceps which will slowly travel down my arms and culminate in numbness of the hands and fingers. This achey arm thing never used to happen until 2018 when I started taking beta blockers. Now it happens whenever I have a panic attack. Joy. Then the tunnel vision begins.

I will either need to leave wherever I am, even if it’s my own living room, and lie down somewhere. If I don’t do this then it’ll switch up another gear. This includes, but is not limited to, hyperventilating, my legs will start to go numb and my knees will buckle beneath me and then I will end up either vomiting, fainting, or a delightful combination of both.

This is followed by the come down. I will shake, relentlessly until all of the surplus adrenaline coursing around my body is used up. I will be extremely thirsty and possibly hungry too. I will require sugar, but not too much. I will need to rest as my body will be exhausted from the tensing and shaking. Then I will get diarrhoea. After that I will feel extremely weak, but also weirdly elated because it’s over and now I can sleep or disassociate. I can stare into a TV for hours and tiktoks seem to release just the right amount of dopamine to keep me on an even keel.

The intrusive thoughts also don’t help. My last panic attack was three days ago and it took me 24 hours to come down and recover fully from it. I was alone the whole time, but I managed because I was in my own home and had cats to distract me. Towards the end of the first adrenaline surge my brain decided to take me back to 2001 when I had an epic meltdown because my then boyfriend had gone snowboarding, and I thought I couldn’t be on my own. It was of course ridiculous and made no sense, but it was massively humiliating as I recall hysterically begging him to come back from Andorra after 24 hours because I was panicky. It’s the first time in two decades that I had thought about that incident, but my brain decided I should relive that excruciating moment. It no longer felt humiliating, it felt petrifying, and I nearly screamed. I calmed myself enough to try and ignore the urge to call my husband and insist that he turn around and come home from his trip up to the Midlands for two days. That didn’t stop the 2nd surge of adrenaline gripping me. The initial panic attack was caused by his brother trying to pressure me into attending a family event that I had already declined because of said panic attacks. He didn’t understand, so tried to convince me again, displaying the typical breath-taking lack of empathy I have come to expect from my Gen X peers. He did apologise.

I am still knackered three days later and the memory of that first surge of adrenaline spiking into my blood stream is still fresh. I am sleeping but waking up groggy. I’ll probably be like this for at least another day. My brain will continue to remind me that I failed myself for letting my fight or flight response overreact yet again. I will be housebound for at least a week in case I have another one. The cycle of panicking over panic has begun again.

One thing I’d like to add at this point is that not everyone that’s having a panic attack thinks that they are about to die. That’s a misconception. A panic attack is a physical response to a situation. That situation isn’t “I’m going to die, must panic”, it’s more “lets make you feel like you’re going to die so that you never do this thing (insert any situation) again”. Which might make sense to some people more than others.

My body will not let me do the thing. For whatever reason, I am stopping myself to protect myself. And this is where it gets weird.

As I said earlier, I have led a pretty charmed life all things considered. I have climbed active volcanoes, camped in the wilds of Botswana amongst predators (and unpredictable herbivores), flown all over the world in big planes and tiny two prop planes, been on dodgy boats in the middle of tropical seas, got stuck up the Amazon river when the transom on our boat snapped off taking the engine with it, had a gun pointed at me in Zimbabwe, skied, snowboarded (badly), snorkelled in shark infested water….the list goes on. My point is that I have never had a panic attack in these situations. I have been, possibly, preternaturally calm. Now I can’t even set foot inside a supermarket without the tingling sensation in my adrenal glands sparking off. I have wondered if I just wasn’t built to live the normal 9-5 slog that this country has become, but then I did just that for years. Maybe I’ve become allergic to it, to work, to just existing like this. Or maybe I’m just broken inside. I feel sad about a lot of things, and I feel lonely often. I never say those two things out loud in case it solidifies my reality.

Reading this, you might be jumping to conclusions about why I feel this way, what treatments might be available to me and coping mechanisms I might use to help. Believe me when I say I have undergone counselling, EMDR therapy, I meditate, I avoid caffeine, I barely touch alcohol anymore, I am on anti depressants, yes I do meditate daily, no I don’t do nearly enough exercise and yes I know it helps, I have done all of the right things to the best of my ability. There are maybe a few things I haven’t tried yet, but not everyone has the resources to start micro-dosing with mushrooms or seeing a private therapist more than once in their lives let alone weekly (which might help immensely by the way).

Panic attacks and anxiety are not the same thing. A lot of people seem to conflate the two, but they are vastly different. Do I suffer from anxiety as well? I have in the past, when I was in my 20’s I was riddled with anxious thoughts, intrusive thoughts, but I was also woefully unprepared for the adult world. Also it was the 90’s and poor mental health was not something taken seriously by anybody. I felt like a mad person, but I cracked on because that’s what I was told that I had to do. And it sort of worked for a bit, until it didn’t. So every two years I would fall into the pit of panic and my life would stop, and no one understood, not even the GP. Things have improved, a lot, but only because more and more people are suffering. Why is that? As much as it’s great that there’s now more “awareness”, more people are in pain. That’s not a good thing. And “awareness” isn’t the same as understanding.

Hence the reason I’m writing this. Can we have some understanding please? If someone says no to something, accept it and move on. It could be for a myriad of reasons, but frankly that’s none of your business. If it’s because they experience anxiety or panic attacks, I can assure you that your tough love approach will almost certainly make them feel worse. Yes, it can be immensely frustrating if you are the friend, partner, or spouse of the afflicted person, but they aren’t doing this on purpose. They don’t enjoy saying no. They don’t enjoy being isolated by their own internal workings. Just because you can’t see a disability, that doesn’t mean it’s not there. Just because you haven’t seen them in full panic attack mode, doesn’t mean that they don’t have them. Just because you have never had one doesn’t mean that they don’t exist or only exist in conditions that you think are conducive to a poor mental state.

Panic attacks can be fleeting, and they can still be debilitating. Long ones, short ones, episodic or otherwise. Be patient and most of all be kind. Fight for better funding for mental health services, vote for a party that actually does take these issues seriously and isn’t just ticking a box. The NHS is currently on its knees after 12 years of cuts and deliberate underfunding by the government. Mental health services have been shredded and the joined-up services that were so desperately needed no longer exist. Benefits have been slashed and mismanaged, financial help for those of us suffering with poor mental health doesn’t exist. Those of us that have been deemed not bad enough to receive any help are being driven into lives that are sad, lonely and unfulfilling, by people that may be “aware”, but don’t understand.

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Do you ever feel angry at people when they choose to leave medicine? I understand they have good reasons but the country needs more doctors and nurses than we have. Its scary. The same goes for teachers (I know some that quit to do YouTube full time... Not the best decision)

No, not really. I have a lot of feelings about this topic, so this will be a long post, but I want to point out that it’s not directed at you personally. It’s an interesting question to ask, and I can completely understand why you asked it, and that’s why I think it deserves a detailed answer. I can understand what you mean, even though I view things differently. At first I was going to say that thinking like that is an outsider’s way of looking at the situation. But I don’t think that’s entirely fair to you, because some insiders also feel that way too. I can see why; if you’re struggling to get by as it is, and people bail out, it’s easy to see it as being abandoned. And some docs (particularly some of the older generation) think like that. That the newer generation are too quick to give up. That we’re not prepared to work hard. That we’re letting the side down, or not living up to some archaic ideal of what a doctor should be. But I don’t believe that wanting to be happy is ‘giving up’ or being weak. And I don’t believe that people who leave are wrong to do so. Because I don’t believe that any of us have to put our work permanently before our own happiness or wellbeing. There’s a lot we can say about how the concept of a calling has changed, but the truth is that medicine isn’t the same as it was 30 years ago. Neither are doctors. Neither is the world we live in. Neither are the patients we treat. So I personally feel that focusing on what medicine once was, rather than what it can be now, is doomed to failure. The days of the village benevolent partriarchal white male doctor working 4968 hours a week whilst his dutiful wife raises his kids but doesn’t actually see him, and whilst his grateful patients don’t complain about his mistakes and shortcomings… just don’t exist, if they ever really did. So I’m not a fan of the idea that docs should put duty above their lives, because it will never be over. Disease never ends. People will always die. And so there’s no ‘putting up with it’ for a finite time for the sake of the greater good. If you expect someone to put up with a job that makes them miserable (or worse) you’re effectively handing them a life sentence. Which is unfair, given that we don’t really expect that of other jobs. And that seems a poor way to thank people who’ve still put a lot of time and effort into helping people. If we value the contribution someone does, then we should value their happiness, too. Don’t get me wrong, i’m not thrilled at all with the fact that everyone is jumping ship, because I’m going to struggle a lot more to do my job if there’s nobody else left in the NHS. None of us can do this alone, after all! But I don’t think the fault is individual; if many people are leaving, that’s a sign of systemic problems, not individual ones. Because if it was a good place to work, and the job was manageable and in line with the pay, and if the conditions were reasonable, then surely almost everyone would stay? So more people leaving means something is worsening, things are not as they were, or could be. Our friends who are leaving are the canaries in the mine; if we don’t work out how to make things better, it’ll be worse for all of us. Perhaps it’s also because I’ve seen it from the other side. Sometimes, during a difficult shift, the thought that you can choose to leave medicine is a welcoming one. This shift won’t last forever. This rotation won’t last forever. Being in medicine, if you choose, won’t last forever. It can literally be the thing that keeps you sane when it all gets to be too much. A shred of control in a field where we often get very little. I suspect that anyone who has ever sat down and counselled a friend or colleague who is spiralling downwards into depression, usually worsened if not outright caused by our job, and who feels that they can’t take any more, I suspect they wouldn’t be able to countenance anger or judgement towards people who leave. I’m trying my hardest to keep my suicidal pals from not forming a permanent exit strategy from medicine that includes death. This is not a rare or isolated occurrence. And unfortunately, there are people, I hear of several every year, who take this path. That’s just not good enough, and each of us needs to look out for each other to make sure that nobody is left behind. So if leaving medicine means that my friends get to take some time out, stabilise their life, find something they are actually happy with, and get the chance to have a fulfilling life which they might not survive to have if they remained in medicine? Then I’m all for them leaving. Of course, I think it’s important to first focus on taking sick leave and getting treatment for depression or anxiety or whatever is causing people to feel suicidal; because some people find that if they take time out, and change speciality, then after they recover they actually still want to be in medicine. But if after time and space they decide medicine is not for them? I fully support their search for happiness elsewhere.  Staying in medicine is not worth anyone’s happiness, health or life. It just isn’t. When people leave, they are leaving behind hopes and dreams. A path that they’ve literally prepared for since they were 16 or so. They’ve spent their entire life working towards this, and now they are walking away; it’s an incredibly scary, conflicting and often heartbreaking decision to make.  To the system, it’s just one more doctor or nurse lost. To a politician, it’s absolutely just a number. As long as ‘Docs in’ : ‘Docs out’ isn’t too messed up and the finances check out, I doubt most people genuinely care for the wellbeing of the people doing the job. The system certainly isn’t set up to look after us, whatever country you choose to look at. Though there are some things in place to keep an eye on us, or help us in some ways, it ultimately falls to us to look after ourselves. But to us? It’s our entire life. It affects how we see ourselves. Where we live. How we live our lives. Our social and romantic lives. The lives of our children. This decision is far too personal, and far too important for us all to farm it out and let society decide if we’re allowed to change jobs, or if we’re allowed to be happy. If there’s anything medicine has taught me, through seeing the intimate workings of many patients’ lives, it’s that unhappiness echoes far further than you might think. And that it’s much harder to do anything, or even get by, if we are deeply unhappy. And that trying to be happy is a perfectly legitimate aim in itself.  You probably don’t want a doctor who is burned out, hates their life, and is tired of medicine but feels forced to stay long after they stopped wanting to see patients. What kind of care would their patients receive? I doubt it would compare to having a doctor who is relatively well-rested, likes their job and generally feels life is worth living. So I don’t ever believe that people should be forced to stay in medicine. Because given our frequently having to move away from support networks, our long hours and relative social isolation, our high level of responsibility and stress, our high divorce rates, our high rates of burnout, mental illness and suicide, I think that would be an incredibly bad idea. And not only would it risk the health and potentially lives of those who are on the edge, but it would entirely demoralise people like me who are holding their own but want to work in a system that isn’t entirely morally bankrupt, and which values our wellbeing not just our ability to keep the system running. I think such a system would make us feel even less valued, and decrease our goodwill, and in the longterm force more of us out of medicine. We work so hard because we feel that what we are doing is worthwhile and valued; take that away and you have a lot less motivation for us to stick around. I agree that we’re facing serious problems with the numbers of  nurses or doctors. But that is something that ultimately needs to be addressed on a much larger scale. That means taking a good long look at why there aren’t enough. Is it because we’re not training enough of them? Are we losing more than we used to? What can we do to get more people to stay and enjoy what they do? And I believe that the answer should never be to try to force people to stay, but to make conditions better so that people want to stay. That would mean things like better support, better staffing, better training, and unfortunately if you asked us all what would improve our working conditions, many of the things we would suggest might increase costs. With the NHS already being funded at less than recommended levels, it’s unlikely we’ll see more funding being made available. Ultimately, if  you want more doctors you have to either train more, or work on keeping the ones you are losing. Unfortunately, the former is expensive and difficult (med schools can only expand so much, and we only have so much training space in hospitals for placements; we can’t expect drastically more doctors to be trained quickly), and we can only poach so many people from other countries. It’s not even ethically sound for us to do so; other countries need their trained staff to maintain their own healthcare systems, and poaching theirs whilst burning our own staff out is a really bad longterm plan. And the latter? well, I’ve yet to see politicians or the media suggest ANY way of getting us to stay that isn’t along the lines of “force them to not leave, even if they are utterly miserable”. The idea of addressing our concerns, giving us better training, or better working conditions, or making us feel valued? It’s like an entirely alien concept. In fact, apart from the odd article pointing out how depressed and burned out doctors are, and how under pressure we are, I’ve really never seen it suggested that improving working conditions would improve retention of highly trained and motivated staff who used to love what they do. It’s truly, truly bizarre. And the total lack of exploration of this as a viable option? I’ll let you draw your own conclusions about why politicians or the media never really focus on this as an option. Even things that might not cost more (like stop faffing around with our contracts and arguably trying to make us work mroe unsociable hours for less money) might help morale; the whole contract debacle a couple of years ago really had a huge effect on our collective goodwill, because for many it felt like our own concerns aabout our working conditions were completely ignored, even when some of those concerns involved patient care. A lot of people voiced how done they were with the system after that. Ultimately, though, I think listening would be a start. Since the contract issues, our peers have shown that they are political, passionate and able and willing to talk about what they feel could be done to make the healthcare system better for its patients and for its staff. We have collectively given many interviews, written many books and articles, blogged and tweeted and proved that we’re willing to share what it’s like from the inside, and what we feel might help.  As for teachers, I understand they also have a really bad attrition rate; so, so many teachers are leaving teaching. Because of stress, pressure, increased paperwork and all sorts of other reasons. I know more than one ex-teacher and some current teachers, and it’s far from easy doing what they do. I’d suggest, likewise, that the government (and schools as employers) need to take a long hard look at what they are doing, and whether they are actively contributing to burnout and driving people out of a job they used to be passionate about. I wouldn’t personally dare to say whether leaving teaching for Youtube is a good or a bad idea; surely whether one makes it on youtube depends a lot on their skills and social media capital. Some people seem to make a decent living on social media whilst others struggle; a lot seems to depend on exactly what it is you offer your subscribers and whether anyone else is doing anything similar. It’s certainly a risky move, but then it seems to work for some people. Whatever their reasons, I hope they did the best they could, and I hope it works out for them.