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[loveadviceforanxiousbeings]

Please read the rules before sending an ask! Welcome to my blog :)

Hi there! My name is Eva, and welcome to my corner of the internet. This is an advice/peer-support blog focused on relationships, sex and love. I will be posting checklists, answers to questions and reblogging information I feel fits the topic of the blog.

About me:

Hi! My name is Eva, I'm an adult cisgender woman (meaning I identify as the gender the doctor yelled at birth) and I use she/her pronouns. I have lived experience with autism, ADHD and CPTSD, and have been in therapy for almost a decade learning how to deal largely with issues of sexuality, love and human connection. I identify as a gay woman, but have had sexual experiences with men, women and non-binary people.

About the blog:

This is a safe place for all good-faith identities and is inclusive of LGBTQ+ identities, including those who are transgender, non-binary and any who identify as non-heterosexual. Any hate speech will be deleted and not given a platform in any way unless it is to educate.

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Harley is my spirit animal! Anybody else?

When everything is going down and neither do I understand the world, nor does it understand me, I still have Harley to lift me up, to in a way identify with, even though she isn´t real and kind of crazy. In the end though, life needs a little bit of madness :D

[imperiobluebutterfly]

Why should I apologize for being a monster, has anyone ever apologized for turning me into one?

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“Why so Serious” -Joker

[porgthespacepenguin]

Thoughts about episode 2.8 (1/3)

Oh, boy. Where to even begin?!

As you'll see, there is a lot to discuss in this episode, nearly as much as 2.7, and that's saying something.

As usual, I'll spend the first post gathering my thoughts about Q and Qcard, and give more attention to the the plot and team Picard in a later post.

Buckle up, folks.

(Spoilers under the cut, obviously.)

Oh, Q

Let's start with the Q-shaped elephant in the custody room.

It turns out @celestialwarzone and I were right about the foreshadowing surrounding Q's fate:

(For the record, I wish we had been wrong. Sorry!)

It gets worse. Q's not just dying, he's fading away:

"I, on the other hand, seems to be disappearing into nothing."

Reminds you of something? It's Maman Picard's story:

"... beaten at his own game, he melted..."

@celestialwarzone speculated last night that, based on the fairy tale, Q may end up disappearing into the timeline, "melting" into nothingness, rather than outright dying.

Which, while heartbreaking, would make for a very compelling Search for Q scenario in season 3, at least.

(By the way, since the fairy tale seems to be telling us exactly what'll happen to Q, I admit I'm exceedingly worried about this part:

"... in time, they'd forget he was ever there."

I don't know what it's in store for Q yet, but it scares me.)

Anyway, Q admits he is essentially dying, although he refutes the term:

"You think I'm dying? I prefer to believe I am on the threshold of the unknowable."

Unknowable?

Now where have we heard that word before?

Oh, okay. I see we're still going for the "subtle as a brick" narrative choices then?

To know and to love

Jokes aside, there is something deeper at work here. The word choice is too pointed, too specific, for it to be random: the show wants us to connect these two statements.

Remember the dark present? They fear what they don't know, and in turn, hate what they fear.

Well, flip that thought upon itself: to love someone, you have to know them first.

In fact, in ancient Hebrew, the concept of "knowing someone" held a much deeper meaning than we ascribe it today. It implied a profound, personal relationship. Love, even.

Knowing someone is the first step towards loving them.

(Brief aside: there's a song called "To know him is to love him" and the lyrics are... interesting, to say the least.

"To (...) know him

Is (...) love him

Just to see him smile

Makes my life worthwhile"

Worthwhile, as in meaningful. Hold that thought, we'll come back to it.)

In episode 2.7, Picard admits outright that he doesn't know Q, not truly:

"I always filed Q as unknowable (...)"

Picard has never let himself know Q, because to know him would be to love him -- and that's too terrifying to contemplate.

If like me, you are a curious little gremlin, you may want to swap the words in Picard's little speech in episode 2.7 and see what happens:

"Love thyself. That's what he wanted. Love myself."

"What if the lesson I take is... love him?"

"I always filed Q as unlovable (...)"

Interesting. It seems, from a narrative standpoint at least, that where Picard is concerned, "know" functions as a symbolic code word for "love".

However, on Q's side, the keyword is different, because Q knows Picard, and he knows that he loves him. That's not in question.

For Q, the important word is "meaning".

Remember Q's iconic speech to Dr. Soong:

"We're all hostages to what we love. The only way to truly be free is to love nothing. How meaningless would that be?"

In Q's own words, love is meaning.

Back to Guinan and Q's discussion about his impeding death, only let's substitute "love" for "meaning", shall we:

"And so I prepared myself to be envelopped in the warm glow of love. Well, that moment has yet to come. Not even a glimmer."

(Notice the references to light!)

Guinan continues:

"This thing you're doing to Picard, it's how you're hoping to find... love in your life?"

Of course, she doesn't get it.

Q is not trying to do anything for himself. He's talking about sacrificing his life for love, and experiencing that redemptive love simply through the act of saving Picard:

He's not expecting to gain anything in return. That's not what this is about.

All he is doing, he is doing for Picard, who has "made his life worthwhile", brought meaning to his life just by existing.

(We'll come back to that.)

Child of the universe

Before we can get back to Q, we have to take a detour through episode 2.7 for a second. Again. (You can pry this episode from my cold, dead hands.)

Near the end of the therapy session, when Estonia tries to comfort baby!Picard, she tells him:

"You do so much with this pain. You save worlds with it."

Her words are the same kind of platitudes -- world-saving aside -- every abuse survivor has heard a million times, and you can see they're not even registering:

At no point does the boy even turn to her. While she kneels next to him in the warm light, he remains bathed in cold white light, as though they aren't even in the same scene.

And emotionally, they're not. She fails, utterly and completely, to comfort him. She means well, but that's not at all what he needs to hear.

This little baby!Picard, waiting alone and forlorn by the door, doesn't need to know that his pain will help others. Because what he will take from this is that his pain was necessary.

That he doesn't come first. What does?

Picard has internalized this so deeply already, it's etched into the very lines of his being. It's heartbreaking.

I'm reminded of a poem by Max Ehrmann, Desiderata:

You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars. You have a right to be here.

This is Q's final lesson: you have a right to be here, to be happy, to be loved -- for everything you are.

Because Picard definitely doesn't know that. Deep down, he fears he must constantly earn his place. And if that means pretending to be perfect, keeping all the darkness, all the wildness behind the door, well -- so be it. Happiness is the cost he has to pay for existing.

Duty comes first, because he doesn't.

And then, Q.

Q, immortal and omnipotent, who tells him instead, with everything but words:

You come first, to me.

You matter above all others, to me.

I don't need your pain; in fact, I'll bear it for you.

No wonder Jean-Luc can't accept Q's love. No wonder he's running away from it.

It's everything he wants, and everything he denies himself, because he thinks he doesn't deserve it.

A dying sun

Back to Q -- remember how @celestialwarzone wrote about him being the sun?

Oh boy, was she right.

Now, I must reveal myself as a literature nerd and present to you the poet Dante Alighieri. In 1295, he wrote Vita nuova (New Life), a poem which deals with the transformative nature of love.

It doesn't matter if love is returned or never acted upon. The very act of loving someone is enough to purify, to transcend.

Later, Dante would go on to write the Divine Comedy, and here's the very last line of the last book:

“Love, that moves the sun and the other stars.”

Love, Dante tells us, is central to all of existence. It is the highest power in life. It drives the universe.

And there you have it...

Q is the sun, moved by love.

He even goes ahead and spells out the comparison for us:

And like a sun, Q is alone in the darkness. After aeons of life, the loneliness of it has become unbearable, until the very thought of death starts to become a relief:

"So I thought to myself: This is good. This is new. Infinite life, after all, has its drawbacks."

What's the title of this week's episode you ask? "Mercy".

(More brick-like subtlety. I don't know what else to tell you.)

Q is not the first to feel this way. In an episode of Voyager, we meet Quinn, another Q, who wants to kill himself, arguing that his life has lost all meaning:

"For us, the disease is immortality."

Reluctant at first, Q ultimately helps him end his life, and tells Captain Janeway he learned something about himself in the process.

And now, Q finds himself facing the same troubles as his old friend: a desperate search for meaning.

Quinn found his own meaning by dying, and so Q naturally wonders if he is meant to follow in his friend's footsteps.

But to his dismay, although he can see death approaching, he's not found anything meaningful about it:

"And so I prepared myself to be envelopped in the warm glow of meaning. Well, that moment has yet to come. Not even a glimmer."

That's because death isn't his answer.

Q has something Quinn didn't: his love for Picard. And just like in Dante's Vita Nova, this love, transformative and transcendental, is what will ultimately bring meaning to his life.

Not death, although he may have to walk its dark path to get his happy ending.

But it's plain as day: Q and Picard are kindred spirits. They need each other, and each other's love, desperately.

If only Picard would open the door...

Wake up, Picard

Guinan tells Picard what she has found out, and Picard... barely reacts.

(PICARD YOU MUPPET)

At first, this really annoyed me. But then I remembered: all this is happening because Picard is cut off from his emotions.

We got a glimpse of this disconnect when Elnor died and Picard (who does care about him a great deal) barely showed any emotion, to Raffi's fury.

And he hasn't realized yet that Q is dying for him. Out of love for him. But even if he did, he wouldn't be able to accept Q's love, because he doesn't love himself. He's not ready.

Picard can't deal with it, any of it. So he just doesn't.

(Now I'm both annoyed at Picard and feeling pity for him. Great.)

Still, this confirms @celestialwarzone's and my suspicions that only witnessing Q's actual death will wake Picard up. But by then, it may very well be too late...

Q, the mad genius

Remember how I compared Q to Cassandra yesterday?

There you have it: just like the prophetess Cassandra, cursed by Apollo to utter truths and not be believed, Q is called crazy for telling Picard and Guinan exactly what is happening and why.

Seriously, you guys don't deserve him right now.

(As an aside, I can't resist gloating a tiny bit at yet another proof of Q's brilliance, even when bereft of his powers.

We had speculated with @celestialwarzone that Q may be in custody in this episode, as clearly the narrative required him to meet Guinan.

But no: Q has infiltrated the FBI instead!

My skin is clear, my crops are watered, Q is a genius and he looks damn good wearing that FBI windbreaker.

Also, it seems Q had to infiltrate the FBI specifically to answer Guinan's Summoning:

"You summoned me?" "You must be Q. Took your damn time. (...) "Why do you think it took me so long to get here?"

I did not see that coming, and it's bloody hilarious. Imagine how grumpy he must have been about the whole thing!)

There's no trap

Moving ahead with Guinan and Q's conversation, Q confirmed another of my theories:

"It's the escape that count."

Picard is stuck. They're all stuck. But the real issue isn't in the past: it's on the Stargazer, with the Borg Queen.

As Guinan asks Q why he brought Picard to the past, Q replies, offended:

I did not bring him to the past. He did that on his own!

The trap, if there is one, is of Picard's own making. The trap is immaterial, because Picard takes his trauma with him wherever he goes. What matters is the escape:

"...even if it's painful. You do the work, because you want to evolve."

I wrote yesterday that Picard needs to reconcile his logic and his emotions in order to get past his trauma and confront his fear.

Only then will he be able to escape and move on.

Progress, maybe

Escape is definitely one of the themes of the episode: Guinan and Picard spend the whole episode in custody, literally trapped, only able to escape when they help FBI!Guy resolve his childhood trauma.

Subtle.

(By the way, surprise! FBI!Guy is exactly who he appears to be, not an agent from the DTI. They're simply played by the same actor. Oops.)

Anyway, FBI!Guy is obsessed with finding proof of alien life, after encountering Vulcans as a child and thinking them hostile.

Childhood trauma mirroring, coming right up.

In the end, Picard helps FBI!Guy understand that the Vulcan he encountered "wasn't a monster" and "wasn't trying to kill [him]". In fact, he was trying to help.

(Look, ma, more mirroring!)

So Picard tells FBI!Guy the truth about what happened to him, and who Picard is, what he has to do. And FBI!Guy lets them go.

Let me rephrase: the truth literally sets Picard free.

Very subtle.

And the clincher? It's Q, through Guinan, who gives Picard the key:

"Humans. They're all trapped in the past."

(They really don't deserve you, Q.)

Still, it's progress: Picard used the lesson he has learned, even if he's not yet ready to apply it to Q. That's something, at least.

Plot! I see plot!

Yes! Finally! We're seeing some movement on the plot front. Not a lot, but still more than last week.

With only two episodes left, I'm wondering how they will ever manage to resolve all the current plot points... maybe in season 3.

Anyway, this post is already way too long, so stay tuned for post 2/2, which will cover the following:

Soong vs. Q -- yet another mirror, darkly

Queen Agnes prepares for war

More mirroring: Raffi and Picard

Rios is in love

And more (probably)

Hope you enjoyed, and thank you for reading. ❤️

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[jemandtheholograms]

LoveJoker > Costume of Clash

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Ship Reference

I've been thinking about possible ship names with my OCs... idk why, but why not?

Gretal x Ku: LovingFox, Gretaku, Kutal, RivalryRush, ScytheDisks, SoulMates/SoulLove,

Gretal x Misaki: Grisaki, MusicalHearts, HeartNote, PinkMetal

Gretal x Harron: Greton, RoyalFlush, BrokenHearts, LoveJoker

Gretal x Kelly: PassionateLove, BurningLove, OrangeHeart, Grelly, Ketal

Gretal x Madoka: PinkHearts, Gredoka, Madotal

Gretal x Sally: Gretally, SuperMoms, UniLove

Gretal x Lisa: GreenMagic, Listal, Gresa

Gretal x Tiffany: RainingHearts, Gretany

Gretal x Bindy: HammerLove, Bindal

Gretal x Chris: Hoven, AgentLove

Gretal x David: AdvanceLove, Davital

Gretal x Rerion: HavenHeart, Rerital

Gretal x Fuki: GracefulStar, Gretaki

Gretal x Ren: Rental, Greten

Gretal x Luna: MoonHeart, FourthDimensional, Lunal

Gretal x Theme: LastSurvivors, EarthlyLove, LovelyEarth, Thetal, Greme

Gretal x Darcy: Gracy, Dartal, ShadowLove, MisunderstoodHeart

Gretal + Chris + Ren: SneakySquad

Gretal + Crystal + Kelly: Pillars of Earth, Magical Warrior Leaders

Gretal + Lisa + Mary: Green Mom Squad, Green Magic Squad

Gretal x Misaki x Harron: Circus Tragedy

Crystal x Kelly: OppositesAttract, FlamingDroplet, SportyMoms, Crilly

Crystal +/x Ku: PureSoul, Crisku, AttentionSeekers

Crystal +/× Mary: ScienceExperiment, NatureSisters, PureNature, Crary

Stella x Haru: Steru, Halla, SolarPrince, SunnySpring, StarrySpotlight

Stella +/x Kelly: SolarSisters, Stelly, Kella

Stella x Ku: Steku, Kulla, ShiningSoul, ChainedScythe

Kelly x Mary: PassionateNature, Kery, Mally, ArrowSpear

Kelly x Tiffany: FireRain, WeatherFlame, Kellany, Tiffelly

Kelly x Bindy: GreenFlame, PowerHouse, Bindlly, Kedy

Kelly x Icy: OppositesAttract, Kecy, IcyFlame, MeltingPoint

Madoka x Aiko: Madoko, Aika, PinkFire, SecretLove

Bindy x Jack: Jack n Jill, HammerBell

Bindy x Tiffany: Binny, Tiffandy, GreenRain, Shockwave

Tom x Keudria: LostArmor, Todria, Keudom, FreedomFighters

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