#Like trans or neurodivergent or something

[infriga]

My friend and I started watching Bodies cause we were curious about it and had just finished House of Usher so we were the mood for something else to watch, and we clocked the 1890's detective as gay so fast it's kinda hilarious. Sir you did not need to eye fuck the journalist like that.

[bipunkharrington]

There's something that infuriates me so much about people mocking characters that fall into the "not like other girls" trap, because the reasons girls take on that stance is because they exist in a society that tries to put womanhood and femininity in a restrictive box that tells them who and how they should be.

They're generally mocked and derided for not wishing to conform to stereotypical femininity, but when they lash out in entirely predictable but ultimately unhelpful ways (by being dismissive and rude about other women and femininity in general) instead of understanding that it's a product of growing up in a society that's restricting them and punishing them for not conforming (either by choice or inability) so many people who claim to be feminists choose to mock them or make them out to be the cause of the problem rather than a symptom. Whether its being mocked in real life, or watching people deride the fictional characters they relate to, this behaviour just alienates those girls even further into thinking that the issue is other women, and confirms their belief that women who are typically feminine will only ever be derisive toward them and that they're somehow fundamentally different from other women.

If you know someone who thinks along those "I'm not like other girls" lines instead of mocking them try directing them towards resources that can help them understand where that harmful rhetoric comes from, and when you're critiquing characters that fit that mold try to consider why they behave that way, and what girls who see themselves in those characters take from your commentary.

[vampirefangs]

i know "i saw the tv glow" is very metaphorical but also if you are/have been mentally ill/delusional enough in just the right ways it can be relatable in a literal sense too

[lainsim]

man this site makes me feel like a complete alien

[impossible-rat-babies]

freaking like. eshka is getting into gender stuff that’s like. hmmmm this is really uhhhh Close and Personal huh

[duskittycat]

i feel it's worth reminding other white people that being part of any minority group does not somehow counteract your whiteness

[moinsbienquekaworu]

I don't know how I do that but I'm friends with so many trans people

[puppetlooselystrung]

i love how werewolves can account for so many things. trans allegory. mental illness/mental disorder allegory. probably could go for neurodivergent allegory too if you ask the right people who think it that way

[boomerang109]

i've felt awful all morning and i just had a full meal and suddenly i feel better? crazy how this adulting thing works

[kalashtars]

current state of politics really got me swerving wildly between "yes I want to present as a man" and "oh god is this even worth it maybe I'm not even really trans" and it's bringing me to my limit

[sirenemale]

Reflecting on how ppl perceive me being a guy is interesting bc largely it is a non thing even in lgbt spaces. So most ppl treating me like a guy has been from me joking about it more, which leads others to joke about it too but the jokes are very much like Masc tm donny hates women jokes. Which I do find funny to a degree obviously bc joking abt the toxic masc standards is funny but I'm also literally like femme gay so it feels slightly surreal that that's the kind of masc affirming joke around yk. Like I want to be at that point where I'm baseline recognized as a femme gay guy bc that's what I am but when I don't pass I guess people would feel like it was misgendering to go for like a girly gay guy joke.

This is like a nothing sentiment though I'm just thinking out loud. I guess even in a jokey way I don't really enjoy the separation lmao. I don't enjoy other lgbt ppl asking me if my pronouns are she/her off the bat or ppl thinking everything in reference to me needs to be as burly masc tm as possible. ig largely I don't like being heavily gendered in any direction. 'they' tends to have the woman lite connotation with me, irl ppl don't use it pronouns typically. Again I want to pass Enough as a guy already so I can feel good about being genderstrange.

[chalkeater]

not wanting to switch bc i like my discord icon too much. smh 😔

[mrblazeflappybird]

I wish I was old enough to put my privilege to use.

[bibiana112]

I have no idea how to phrase it but being on the older end out of the students in this class and seeing a lot of the ones that just left highschool struggling with very similar stuff than I did (because no one in this course is cishet and neurotypical) and then seeing them come to me for support with all that stuff just because I'm outspoken about my experiences and somehow signaled that I'm safe enough of a person to come to all in the third week of class is so much I don't know how I got here but I'm so glad I did

[explorersaremadeofhope]

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[whoviandoodler]

some people need to understand the fact that attaining rights doesn't mean you have to exercise them (not in terms of politics and similar things, which is a different conversation, but in terms of being allowed to drive, or study in STEM, or get married, etc), and that a part of gaining equality is being allowed to live your life as you like and to make the choices you want to make because you HAVE them, and to not always have to strive to prove you deserve them at the cost of your well-being. you're not 'proving stereotypes' by doing what you love and what you think is right for you, you're not making the work your predecessors did meaningless and your choices don't prevent you from advocating for others to have the rights you personally don't want to exercise for whatever reason. honestly, there's no better way to flip off all the bigots of yesteryear and today than doing what fulfills you and makes you happy.