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egophiliac · 8 months ago

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tsum events really are just the best, huh

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #tsumsted wonderland #to be fair this is from mal's card story so it's more...event-adjacent #i-it still counts right #poor malleus tsum is having such a time #first it blows up the kitchen and then it almost gets spin-cycle'd to tsum-death #the poor little guy just wanted to help with the party! it was trying its BEST 😭#and instead it accidentally recreated every other tuesday from my college days #i am so genuinely delighted to read two entire chapters of malleus bragging about knowing how to use household appliances #(he knows what he's doing! he READ the MANUAL)#(you know that manual has copious notes covering the margins in perfect copperplate)#and the callback to his dorm ssr story. perfect.#we all knew this was going to end in malleus punching a washing machine into smithereens #i'm disappointed that the next part is probably just going to be a fun party or whatever #and not malleus showing off how close he is to finally mastering the toaster #twst please where is my spinoff game where we have to help a dragon fae prince learn how to do household tasks #i have an indescribable need to see malleus attempt to use a vacuum #he is very enthusiastic and also very stupid and we love him for it

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giantkillerjack · 2 years ago

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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jade350 · 1 year ago

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Help wanted 2!(Spoiler! Kinda?) Sun shaking!

I made a gif to make it easier to see without having to watch the entire Fusion video.

I wonder if Sun and even Moon may have had trauma from the fire and earthquake, Sun seems pretty scared…

#help wanted 2 #fnaf daycare attendant #fnaf help wanted 2 #fnaf security breach #I'm still learning how to use tags! ;w;

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dazais-crab-addiction · 1 year ago

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Tonight I learned that my 20 yr old partner has never played chess and doesn't know how to play chess. This is mind boggling to me. They claim its not weird for people to not know anything about chess so I. I need to see. Please.

Okay so, I made a mistake in not elaborating the meaning of the options. You do not have to be good or know what you are doing in the slightest to pick that you have played before. The middle three options are for your understanding of the game having never played it at all. The reason there's a percentage on the last option is because my partner made a tumblr so they could pick it because they think they are hilarious.

#crab says words #chess #tumblr polls #i learned how to play in elementary school and so did all my siblings #i use to play chess with random people constantly in highschool #im really bad at chess but its still fun to play ya know #i just am so shocked they literally knew nothing other than “the horses can move in an L shape”#i taught them how to play and made then play with me so dont worry i fixed the situation 😌#pls reblog this 🥺#i take it back!! my notifications will never recover!!! pls stop reblogging this!!!!!!

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drolta · 7 months ago

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#thinking about nothing but them #there was so much danlou this season #and i would still like more 😭💞#i still can’t believe daniel is a vampire now!!! they can talk via telepathy!!!#would love to see how louis discovered he’d been turned #i wonder if daniel used what he heard to learn how to adapt to his new nature #interview with the vampire #louis de pointe du lac #daniel molloy #danlou #iwtv spoilers #iwtv s2 #text post meme

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tiniest-hands-in-all-the-land · 3 months ago

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Been playing FFXIV recently desperately searching for my cunty lil man :)

I love my tiny little friend who insists I come with him for all of his political negotiations where I just sit and nod and occasionally smack a dude senseless

#final fantasy xiv #ffxiv #final fantasy 14 #ff14 #alphinaud leveilleur #ffxiv wol #Her name's Rowan and she's a lot cooler than I will ever be #tinydraws #I'm only 1/3 ish??? through heavensward right now #1/2?? I'm not sure #it's not as easy to tell my progress as it was in ARR #all i know is that i fought some dragons and it was really cool #also i'm still learning how to write the characters' ways of speaking #they use so many words for so simple of concepts and it hasn't quite clicked with my brain yet fhaghhglsflk

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poorly-drawn-mdzs · 26 days ago

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Another year has passed, and with it the opportunity to reflect back on all that has happened. While my growth was not as dramatic as last year, I can still see lots of positive change.

I'll never have enough ways to say thank you for all the love and support you have given me this year. On to 2025!

(2023 summary here!)

#poorly drawn mdzs #art summary #Since last year's independent variable was PD-WWX; this year I used Lan Wangji.#Unfortunately his appearances were not very evenly distributed this year! Lots of LWJ's early in the year #then a dead period in the middle. He is forever my silly rabbit. I love drawing him!#If I have to put a label on this year; I'd describe it as 'experimental'. I pushed myself to do llots of new things!#I drew lots for dungeon meshi and that really boosted my growth. More body types -clothing details - expressions!#Ryoko Kui is a great artist to learn from and It made me realize that I had a lot to gain from doing more studies.#I also started working on a whole new genre of art! While it has taken a backburner spot - I'm working on a game now!#Digital art was my enemy last year but I have been getting a feel for it now.#Goals for this year is to 1) keep working on my personal projects 2) finish PD-MDZS! and 3) practice animation!#I didn't (couldn't) draw as much as I did last year...but I had to take a lesson in humility and taking care of myself.#Drawing is something I do 'for fun' but there were many times it became more stressful than it should.#I'm still learning how to find and maintain balance with everything life throws at me.#We are all works of progress and I am trying very hard to love the process and the journey! I don't really know my destination!#But I will keep taking steps forwards. I never want to be stuck and lost as I once was.#If 2024 was a rough year for you too; We're in this together. Let's keep taking steps together. No matter how small.#Love you all so very much. You've given me strength on the darkest days. Thank you thank you thank you.

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laundrycephalopod · 27 days ago

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I finished this at the beginning of December but completely forgot to post it (>⁠﹏<;⁠) I was inspired by the other fine people making yarnfellows based on @sleepnoises' lovely work and decided to make my own little amigurumi fellow

#sock of the art #fiber art #plushies #crochet #'twas a fun challenge to figure out how to make it from scratch without using a pattern as a base #all made from scrap yarn bc yay stashbusting #still dialing in my gauge for amigurumi work. looser stitches than i would have liked but that's all part of the learning process 😤

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crabsnpersimmons · 18 days ago

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day two of clawing my way out of artblock

tried something a little more ambitious today: i've been thinking of how i can bring my digital art style into my traditional art. so i tried experimenting by drawing chef Moon from my Have You Eaten? AU with markers and colour pencils (because honestly, it's the lineless details in their design that make them harder to draw traditionally, which is why i lined them all with a fineliner in their original drawing, which is fine, but it's a different feel from lineless version of my digital art, so i wanted to see if i can accomplish it)

i was tempted to just leave today's practice at that, but then i decided to note down my thoughts:

(definitely recommend marking up your drawings/studies, or write your notes elsewhere.)

overall i felt kinda dissatisfied with the experiment and marking it up with my thoughts helped pinpoint the problem areas and what i should try for the next time. so i took all that and tried again:

(i also decided last minute to try something with the lineart, adding darker areas by adding a few dots of a darker blue and blending it out. dunno if i'll do that all the time, but it's pretty)

but i'm glad i kept going after the initial experiment. i'm pretty happy with the final one (maybe i'll try Sun and Eclipse in the coming days. you have been thoroughly warned.)

#fnaf moon #fnaf dca #dca fandom #Have You Eaten? AU #Moon Have You Eaten? AU #crab art #traditional art #bright colours #why Moon?#Moon is the easiest to draw #Sun's rays will be the death of me #Eclipse in general will be the death of me #i'm still learning how to use colour pencils and water based markers #like i'm trying to learn how to achieve a certain level of polish with them #i know i can achieve it with watercolour paints but i'm too lazy to break out my brushes and paints #and it annoys me that after all these years i still haven't figured out the best way to use colour pencils #so i'mma give it a try #and hopefully not get carpal tunnel along the way

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lotus-pear · 1 year ago

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yeah sure therapy is nice but teen soukoku is faster and a lot cheaper

#LITERALLY STILL IN SHAMBLES OVER 109 THIS IS HOW IM COPING #thinking abt how much harder teen skk hits bc that's when chuuya started using corruption and they had to learn to trust each other #like with their lives.#not ''hey dazai i'm lending you five bucks so you can get me a coke from the vending machine i trust you'll give me the change''#although i'm sure that's happened and dazai runs off with the change despite being explicitly told not to bc he's an ass #anyway despite not having mutual understanding or even sympathy for the other person they entrusted their lives to each other #also the fact that chuuya isn't likely human but so desperately wants to be and dazai is the tether to his humanity #likewise how dazai was so traumatized to the point where he couldn't feel human #but meeting chuuya made him think living was worth a shot #the parallels are paralleling #bungou stray dogs #bungo stray dogs #nakahara chuuya #chuuya nakahara #soukoku #skk #lotus draws

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teaboot · 2 months ago

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you're so like. inspiring. or i wish i could be inspired. you reblog that post with the blue critter and you're like "im glad i was born on this planet". how do i manage to get that mindset. how do i manage to not want the pain to stop at any cost and enjoy what's still possible to enjoy

It's my first time here and I'm never coming back

#I wanted to write something long and poetic and meaningful #About how I used to be suicidal #And sometimes still get that way #But still find wonder and joy in things #And have just learned to hold on tighter #But like #It's so much simpler than that #I don't believe in reincarnation #Or an afterlife #But I see things every day that are amazing #Things people can do with their hands #Animals I never could have imagined #New food and skills and art and music #And I just remember #Oh yeah #I'm new here #I've never done this before #The universe is infinite and I'm just a speck #And I'm never gonna be able to see it all even if I tried to #And when I'm dead it'll be too late #It's like having ten minutes in a museum before it gets demolished forever with everything in it #I've never been alive before but now I am and it'll be over soon #I'm never coming back #I'm just a tiny piece that gets to think and feel for a while before it's over #It's my very first time living and I'm never coming back #I'm gonna stop existing soon #I'm not gonna have feelings anymore #So what do I wanna do #What do I wanna see before the lights go out

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abnomi · 4 months ago

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another horrifically high effort joke animation for everyone! 😁 hello guys

deleted scene from turbo dating simulator

ORIGINAL ANIMATION THIS WAS BASED ON (by casteranimatez on tiktok!!)

bonus higher res pictures hehehe ... the background is kind of ugly but i wasnt too worried about it because the messiness was going to be obscured in the final product LOL !!! ignore how the kart has no internal details or handles or anything i Did Not Want to Draw any more

ibispaint premium come back to me baby i miss you...TONE CURVE COME BAAACK

#turbo #turbo wir #wreck it ralph #turbo wreck it ralph #animation #my art #sometimes i get an idea and then i dedicate some kind of force beyond my comprehension into making it #i learned how to use alight motion because of this which is something ive wanted to get around to for some time now ^_^#yay #shitpost #this was also somewhat of a style test + expression test bc i have a hard time drawing diff facial expressions w/o changing the--#--characters entire appearance #im still learning!!! im still learning!!#ok this was actually so much fun to make i want to try something like this again sometime #THANK YOU TURBO FOR REVIVING MY ARTISTIC MOTIVATION I LOVE U 💏💋💋💋💋💋#AAAUGHHH ignore the bad cropping I tried my best #silly time 🐛🐛🐛

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littlecrittereli · 3 months ago

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Ask the Guardianship AU!

I just need an excuse to force myself to draw smth also I wanna try out some new brushes... also im kinda stuck on the fanction.... guys im struggling send help

okay so these are a popular thing people on tumblr do but I am like a senior citizen when it comes to social medias so I have never done one of these or even really participated in one. BASICALLY (if im getting this right) you can ask questions and I'll draw out the characters responding or reacting to them or whatever i dont know whats happening

It may take me a little while to do some of these bc im not very fast but idk i think i'd be a fun way to flesh out some lore!!!

#wild kratts #littlecrittereli #chris kratt #martin kratt #kratt brothers #wild kratts au #wk guardianship au #guardianship au #ask the guardianship au #thats gonna be the specific tag i use for this btw #just to.... keep it in one place idk #trying to get some content out on my page i know its been kinda empty lately im sorry #still cannot draw martin consistently maybe someday i will learn how

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lucabyte · 8 months ago

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So does anybody else ever think about how Loop felt the need to demonstrate that the party's deaths wouldn't have any effect on the loops. I know I do but that's besides the point. Anyway I don't think Loop actually needs to bathe, they just like to feel included.