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egophiliac · 6 months ago

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tsum events really are just the best, huh

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #tsumsted wonderland #to be fair this is from mal's card story so it's more...event-adjacent #i-it still counts right #poor malleus tsum is having such a time #first it blows up the kitchen and then it almost gets spin-cycle'd to tsum-death #the poor little guy just wanted to help with the party! it was trying its BEST 😭#and instead it accidentally recreated every other tuesday from my college days #i am so genuinely delighted to read two entire chapters of malleus bragging about knowing how to use household appliances #(he knows what he's doing! he READ the MANUAL)#(you know that manual has copious notes covering the margins in perfect copperplate)#and the callback to his dorm ssr story. perfect.#we all knew this was going to end in malleus punching a washing machine into smithereens #i'm disappointed that the next part is probably just going to be a fun party or whatever #and not malleus showing off how close he is to finally mastering the toaster #twst please where is my spinoff game where we have to help a dragon fae prince learn how to do household tasks #i have an indescribable need to see malleus attempt to use a vacuum #he is very enthusiastic and also very stupid and we love him for it

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giantkillerjack · 2 years ago

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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jade350 · 11 months ago

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Help wanted 2!(Spoiler! Kinda?) Sun shaking!

I made a gif to make it easier to see without having to watch the entire Fusion video.

I wonder if Sun and even Moon may have had trauma from the fire and earthquake, Sun seems pretty scared…

#help wanted 2 #fnaf daycare attendant #fnaf help wanted 2 #fnaf security breach #I'm still learning how to use tags! ;w;

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dazais-crab-addiction · 1 year ago

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Tonight I learned that my 20 yr old partner has never played chess and doesn't know how to play chess. This is mind boggling to me. They claim its not weird for people to not know anything about chess so I. I need to see. Please.

Okay so, I made a mistake in not elaborating the meaning of the options. You do not have to be good or know what you are doing in the slightest to pick that you have played before. The middle three options are for your understanding of the game having never played it at all. The reason there's a percentage on the last option is because my partner made a tumblr so they could pick it because they think they are hilarious.

#crab says words #chess #tumblr polls #i learned how to play in elementary school and so did all my siblings #i use to play chess with random people constantly in highschool #im really bad at chess but its still fun to play ya know #i just am so shocked they literally knew nothing other than “the horses can move in an L shape”#i taught them how to play and made then play with me so dont worry i fixed the situation 😌#pls reblog this 🥺#i take it back!! my notifications will never recover!!! pls stop reblogging this!!!!!!

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hobermallowed · 5 months ago

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#thinking about nothing but them #there was so much danlou this season #and i would still like more 😭💞#i still can’t believe daniel is a vampire now!!! they can talk via telepathy!!!#would love to see how louis discovered he’d been turned #i wonder if daniel used what he heard to learn how to adapt to his new nature #interview with the vampire #louis de pointe du lac #daniel molloy #danlou #iwtv spoilers #iwtv s2 #text post meme

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tiniest-hands-in-all-the-land · 14 days ago

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Been playing FFXIV recently desperately searching for my cunty lil man :)

I love my tiny little friend who insists I come with him for all of his political negotiations where I just sit and nod and occasionally smack a dude senseless

#final fantasy xiv #ffxiv #final fantasy 14 #ff14 #alphinaud leveilleur #ffxiv wol #Her name's Rowan and she's a lot cooler than I will ever be #tinydraws #I'm only 1/3 ish??? through heavensward right now #1/2?? I'm not sure #it's not as easy to tell my progress as it was in ARR #all i know is that i fought some dragons and it was really cool #also i'm still learning how to write the characters' ways of speaking #they use so many words for so simple of concepts and it hasn't quite clicked with my brain yet fhaghhglsflk

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lotus-pear · 1 year ago

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yeah sure therapy is nice but teen soukoku is faster and a lot cheaper

#LITERALLY STILL IN SHAMBLES OVER 109 THIS IS HOW IM COPING #thinking abt how much harder teen skk hits bc that's when chuuya started using corruption and they had to learn to trust each other #like with their lives.#not ''hey dazai i'm lending you five bucks so you can get me a coke from the vending machine i trust you'll give me the change''#although i'm sure that's happened and dazai runs off with the change despite being explicitly told not to bc he's an ass #anyway despite not having mutual understanding or even sympathy for the other person they entrusted their lives to each other #also the fact that chuuya isn't likely human but so desperately wants to be and dazai is the tether to his humanity #likewise how dazai was so traumatized to the point where he couldn't feel human #but meeting chuuya made him think living was worth a shot #the parallels are paralleling #bungou stray dogs #bungo stray dogs #nakahara chuuya #chuuya nakahara #soukoku #skk #lotus draws

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abnomi · 2 months ago

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another horrifically high effort joke animation for everyone! 😁 hello guys

deleted scene from turbo dating simulator

ORIGINAL ANIMATION THIS WAS BASED ON (by casteranimatez on tiktok!!)

bonus higher res pictures hehehe ... the background is kind of ugly but i wasnt too worried about it because the messiness was going to be obscured in the final product LOL !!! ignore how the kart has no internal details or handles or anything i Did Not Want to Draw any more

ibispaint premium come back to me baby i miss you...TONE CURVE COME BAAACK

#turbo #turbo wir #wreck it ralph #turbo wreck it ralph #animation #my art #sometimes i get an idea and then i dedicate some kind of force beyond my comprehension into making it #i learned how to use alight motion because of this which is something ive wanted to get around to for some time now ^_^#yay #shitpost #this was also somewhat of a style test + expression test bc i have a hard time drawing diff facial expressions w/o changing the--#--characters entire appearance #im still learning!!! im still learning!!#ok this was actually so much fun to make i want to try something like this again sometime #THANK YOU TURBO FOR REVIVING MY ARTISTIC MOTIVATION I LOVE U 💏💋💋💋💋💋#AAAUGHHH ignore the bad cropping I tried my best #SILLY TIME

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lucabyte · 5 months ago

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So does anybody else ever think about how Loop felt the need to demonstrate that the party's deaths wouldn't have any effect on the loops. I know I do but that's besides the point. Anyway I don't think Loop actually needs to bathe, they just like to feel included.

#'but lucabyte didnt you already do a comic with this exact same message? that loop has potentially killed their party intentionally before?'#yes i did absolutely do that thank you for noticing. that is what the cannibalism comic is about. no that was not a metaphor. lol #isat #in stars and time #isat spoilers #in stars and time spoilers #sifloop #isat siffrin #isat loop #in stars and time fanart #isat fanart #lucabyteart #ill ramble elsewhere some other time. maybe in a text post. but. long and short of it: even if you assume the answer to 'how do they know'#is that in sasasap isa got frozen once. theres still the fact that the loops are from sif being too distressed. how far gone does a siffrin #have to be before they can witness a party member die and notice it has no effect. how does loop feel to have planned to kill the party #during act 3. why did they NEED to show sif that. are they trying to preemtively stop them from getting the idea in their head #that maybe that might work? when they're out of all other options? when they just get so frustrated and at wits end?#loop helps in subtle ways through the whole game. and in less subtle ways like begging sif not to use the dagger. and while yes the #overarching reason you need to learn that the loops are tied to sif is because you need to figure out wish craft.... loop doesn't know the #actual mechanics of the loops themselves. just what didn't work. the power of friendship. getting the final hit in. being perfect. etc...#and besides all that.. how did loop feel during that hangout. being so deceitful. especially since before the other shoe drops #sif is enjoying themselves. but they know what's coming the whole time.#as for: why bathing? its the obvious imagery for blood on their hands/washing/never being clean. and is a bit of an inversion of the other #piece i just drew with the other casual closeness and nudity being kind. this one is cruel instead.#anyway tag ramble over ill do a masterpost of all my fanwork with some directors commentary sometime i promise. since i know im often vague

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veronicaneptunes · 2 months ago

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A long time ago, we used to be friends... The Veronica Mars pilot aired 20 years ago today- on the 22nd of September, 2004.

#I got weirdly emotional making this... lil tear in my eye maybe- dont tell anyone #God I just loved this show so much since I was like 10 years old and its been 18 yrs and I rewatched 100 times when I used to make gifs #I mean this blog exists becuase this show compelled me enough to learn how to make gifs- i still have an email from 2012 telling WB #we want a movie to finish the series- i donated to the kickstarter i was there for all the fun that entailed I watched the movie i read #the book- god did I love this series. so nostalgic for me now... I felt so bitter after 2019 it almost made me forget the love i had #to begin with- but making this felt good and this show will always be loved by me so Yuh. Happy 20 yrs and happy 10 yrs to this blog #Veronica mars #vmarsedit #vmedit #vm gifs #veronica mars gifs #kristen bell #wallace fennel #logan echolls #eli weevil navarro #lilly kane #jason dohring #VM #tv show edit #tv show gifs

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teaboot · 8 days ago

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you're so like. inspiring. or i wish i could be inspired. you reblog that post with the blue critter and you're like "im glad i was born on this planet". how do i manage to get that mindset. how do i manage to not want the pain to stop at any cost and enjoy what's still possible to enjoy

It's my first time here and I'm never coming back

#I wanted to write something long and poetic and meaningful #About how I used to be suicidal #And sometimes still get that way #But still find wonder and joy in things #And have just learned to hold on tighter #But like #It's so much simpler than that #I don't believe in reincarnation #Or an afterlife #But I see things every day that are amazing #Things people can do with their hands #Animals I never could have imagined #New food and skills and art and music #And I just remember #Oh yeah #I'm new here #I've never done this before #The universe is infinite and I'm just a speck #And I'm never gonna be able to see it all even if I tried to #And when I'm dead it'll be too late #It's like having ten minutes in a museum before it gets demolished forever with everything in it #I've never been alive before but now I am and it'll be over soon #I'm never coming back #I'm just a tiny piece that gets to think and feel for a while before it's over #It's my very first time living and I'm never coming back #I'm gonna stop existing soon #I'm not gonna have feelings anymore #So what do I wanna do #What do I wanna see before the lights go out

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spooksicl-e · 7 months ago

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he was a man of habits, narrow and concentrated habits, and i had become one of them… i was a whetstone for his mind. i stimulated him.

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chalkrub · 7 months ago

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been doodling some bri'ish wildlife - love seeing these guys. because they are the classics aren't they?

#my art #animal art #illustration #''love seeing these guys'' has only ever seen 6 of them #as if the elusive dormouse would ever grace my presence. and i still doubt the existence of snakes in england #drew the fox and pheasant because they're symbolic for two of my silly ocs then was like why not make a whole page of these suckers #lots of fun! if anyone's interested i'm gonna open up some slots to draw animals like this on kofi or something soon #can be pets etc. ocs too maybe but they'll be more expensive. not sure how much i'll charge for them but we shall see #lots of art to come...........i swear on it...........i'm about to go for a walk and maybe i will finally see a grass snake #(it's raining so this will not happen)#animals: ring necked pheasant. grass snake. european badger. red fox. barbastelle bat. mole. red squirrel. hazel dormouse. and hedgehawg #i had to compress this to hell it's so large #i need to take like a base photoshop class to learn how to actually use it cause the size of my files is actualy getting ridiculous #if i didn't compress this it would be 30 mb. this cannot be normal

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chemicalarospec · 1 month ago

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one of the posts on this website that haunts me is the one that claims neurotypicals instinctively know to read faster by reading the first and last paragraphs of an article and then skimming it if confused. I can't even begin to understand how someone would form such a bizarre belief.

#to be clear y'all it was specifically presented as a study hack i believe #not for like. the news #my teacher told us it for academic artilces which have intros summaries and conclusions #My teacher in COLLEGE literally taught us this today. It's a learned skill. for everyone.#also sorry for being controversial i did not expect or intend for this post to get popular #i did change the wording btw to be more clear if u saw a reblog #I said this #tumblr #neurotypical #neurodiversity #can you guys stop reblogging this i have all asks off but i'm getting afriad i accidently stepped on a hornet's nest with them and am about #to get a bazillion reblogs debunking every word i said or somehting #how is this still getting notes

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empyrealwinter · 6 months ago

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Finally living up to my username, I used to to a bunch of winter themed things. Thinking I should go back to that

#etho fanart #ethoslab #hermitcraft etho #life series #im really happy with how the colors turned out in this one #blue isnt really a color pallet i use often #still learning how to do the whole colored line art thing tho

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sunnymainecoonx · 11 days ago

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I know damn well I misunderstood the assignment but we roll, I'll understand it some day

It's killer and dust btw. If you couldn't tell. Which you probably couldn't.. forgor to say but shhh 🤫 Killers having a convo with himself..

..I kinda wanna change my url but idk to what

#I got this compliment once and I was like :3 bc I like compliments. then 4 days later I recognise the name and pfp on #on a tumblr I rlly rlly like bc they're super cool make super cool art and has super cool ideas and I'm just like woah they complement me s #so I search my notifications to find which post they complimented me on and I find out. they're following me. ummm IJWEHFOIWJ #i just can't get over this bc they're literally so cool what #anyways #I got two whole documents of canon dust things and one ao3 of canon things about killer #so I'm learning a way to do justice to the creators image while still putting my own twist on it bc I love fanon and that's how I grew up #I'm literally so passionate about fanon. specifically Gacha fanon bc it's literally so fun and no one else know that #like. literally everyone just like had terrible experience apparently idk how I didn't experience that #am I the only one who knows these characters still had lore Ben though unrelated to anything canon at all #anyways I'm rambling too much whoops #sans au #utmv #undertale au #sanscest #if u want #killer sans #dust sans #kist #if u want...#LOVE affair #teaching myself to use this tag too but eh #did you know Horror is more likely to be a part of the bad Sanses than Dust #Jesus fuck I rambled these tags to hell

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