#If I was allosexual

[masked-alien-lesbian]

As if I'd feel bad for rich people lol

[starsthewitch]

“you can’t be asexual.. relationships like that are basically friendships, you need to have sex in one”

a REAL quote from my mother

it was said after i explained asexuality and just as i was about to tell her that i was ace myself, she said this

and somehow, shes okay with me being a lesbian, but somehow draws the line at me being an asexual one

literally how do i tell her a relationship can still be romantic just without all the sexual aspects

like YES i want to kiss a girl a lot so very very bad and we cuddle on the couch watching our favorite movies

YES i want to be cooking with my future girlfriend and she comes up to me hugging me from the back and kissing me

relationships without sex just sounds so peaceful? like no pressure to one day have sex with that person or to not expect anything like it

allosexual people just dont get it and it sucks

[strangerlsdanger]

As someone who is aroallo I find it interesting (in a negative way) that everytime a non-canonically aspec character says something that either implies or states they aren't interested in romance, a relationship, or so on people default to headcanoning them as aroace, never aroallo, or just aro, or some other aromantic identity that isn't asexual.

Like... they didn't mention sex at all? They didn't say they weren't interested in that? It's fine to headcanon them as asexual but so many of these people are saying that whatever they said means they're canonically aroace which.. no it doesn't... once again they only mentioned romance how does that make them asexual? Why are you literally equating aromantism to asexuality? Why are you saying those things can't be separate? Those things can be separate, do they know that? Do they remember aroallo people exist?

[cluster-fandom]

Aroallos exist, don’t assume someone is asexual when they say they’re aromantic

[super-sootica]

I'm so fascinated (respectfully) by people who experience sexual attraction.

That's wild, you were just going about your business one day and what? The puberty fairy gave you an intense desire to kiss some thighs? You looked around and saw a bum and were like 'nothing would bring me greater pleasure than to grab that bum' It sounds made up.

[thermodynamic-comedian]

do you or a loved one openly identify as aroallo on tumblr dot com? you may be entitled to financial compensation!

[miloway]

Not my video, from kallimaraki on tiktok

[alloaroworlds]

Over the past few years, I've seen umpteen ally-authored positivity posts telling me that my aromantic experience and identity is not lessened, weakened, negated or erased by allosexuality.

But I've been wondering at the wording.

What if we were also told that our aromanticism can be nurtured, empowered, encouraged or even enriched by our allosexuality? That it can be regarded as much more than a not-diminishing-or-erasing accompaniment to my aromanticism?

At any point in my years as an aro, have allies ever told me that my allosexuality holds the potential to enrich my aromantic identity?

(Have I ever conceived of the idea to write this myself, in all the words--fictional and non-fictional--I have devoted to exploring allosexual aromanticism? What would I write about if I took my aromanticism is empowered by my allosexuality as my thesis?)

Over and over again, I am explicitly told that my allosexuality doesn't make me less aromantic than if I were asexual and/or not-allosexual.

(In practice, however, I am still subject to a thundering chorus of implicit messages stating the direct opposite.)

In ally-authored validations directed at allo-aros, messages telling us that we are not a negative concept, or our allosexuality is not a negative concept, are still more common than stand-alone celebratory, affirming language. Positivity less commonly exists without reference to the negative stereotypes, erasure or antagonism we experience as allosexual aromantics.

What I hear is this: I am not the awfulness our allosexuality isn't or shouldn't be (or doesn't actually contribute to), as aromantics. While true, this message is more about what allosexuality is not than what affirming or celebratory things (especially in relationship to our aromantic experiences and identities) it is or can be.

Maybe it's just me--but positivity posts telling me only what my allosexuality isn't no longer feel quite so revolutionary.

[allastoredeer]

I don’t know why but I think it would be hilarious to see how Alastor and Lucifer would react to a reporter asking about their relationship in ur fic, since they would need to keep their facade and such.

Lucifer probably teaching Alastor how to act, since he has ‘more experience’ in romance, while Alastor reminds him that he has been dumped two times and doesn’t trust a single thing. That mental image is so priceless 😆😆

Also imagine a reporter going like “everyone in hell want to know who tops in bed?”, and lucifer almost proud goes “ofc it’s me”, meanwhile Alastor ace ass is confused as hell, cause he isn’t familiar with the term, but feels offended nonetheless lmao

Meanwhile vox is crying and eating ice cream in bed

Yes, Vox is watching this and he is crying, sobbing, on the floor.

Hehehehe Lucifer is going to have his work cut out for him in the fic, though. He's got more experience than Alastor does, and knows how to at least come off as being in a typical, allosexual relationship.

Alastor is sitting there, zoning out, because hhhhhhhhhh why does this require more effort than he thought it would.

Alastor: Let's pretend to be in a relationship

Alastor when he actually has to pretend to be in a relationship:

[show-us-kaidenshenandoah]

every time i watch anything with him in it (admittingly, predominantly from the Dropout app), i am reminded that Lou Wilson is the most handsome man to have ever lived. like, objectively. he just is. i will hear no arguments for any other person to be ranked higher. Lou Wilson: whose face single-handedly shows humanity can go no higher in beauty. he is THE most attractive man in the world. argue with the wall lmao

[selfindulgentraptor]

Alastor's poses in this scene are so viscerally asexual

[gdsplicer]

Aroallo joy exists and you deserve to feel it

[i-suggest-aro]

shout out to heterosexual aromantics btw. shout out to straight aros. to the het-aros, as i like to call em because im a bit silly and i think it sounds fun. but yeah. shouts outs to u guys u guys seem rlly cool and chill

[lovequeerindigo]

i’m not a loveless aro but i agree with their beliefs

[beaft]

bitchy post alert, but "asexual people can still have sex!" is one of those phrases that's like "you can wear makeup every day and still be a feminist!" in that yes, it is technically correct, but i don't understand why it needs to be emphasised so strongly and so often as if it's some sort of praxis

[lovelessrage]

[Image ID: A drawn meme in a simple, doodled style.

In the top section, a standing gymnast is captioned "sex negativity, especially around sexual autonomy, is a global issue". They take a step forward, captioned "aroallophobia is a global issue". They stick their hands out and pose, now captioned "therefore both can be an issue in the aspec community, as all members have been subjected to societal norms".

In the bottom section, a person swings off a gym bar, captioned "if i didn't see it, it doesn't happen". Two people, one leaping in the air and another swinging on the bar by their ankles, is captioned "i'm talking about the allos! no, those allos. yes there's a difference, you don't count as a real allo". A fourth bends their legs upward on a balance beam, captioned "okay but sex is just actually awful and disgusting and only justifiable for reproducing. idk why you'd defend it". A fifth flies over a burning car with a jet pack, captioned "that person was only joking, and jokes can clearly never be bigoted!". /End ID]