#IMPORTANT NAVIGATION HELP

[jalebi-weds-bluetooth]

Hi jalebi! I’m extremely new to your blog but I’ve read up to the remarriage in like 5 days, so you can already guess that I’m an intense fangirl of IPKKND.

Anyway, sorry if I’m wrong but I’m kinda stuck on the remarriage because the link for “During the remarriage track Arnav woke up in the morning of Haldi and couldn’t find his ring. Remember how he got very anxious? And was relieved when Anjali found the ring for him. Do you think there was an in depth meaning to this whole scene?” Isnt working, like it takes you to Iss Edits Ko Kya Naam Doon, which I’m glad I found, (coz its just another way to talk more about IPKKND!) but I still want to know your thinking about that scene.

Love your work Jalebi Ji!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

- Also i have a request, could you call me heart anon! Thanks!

OMG HELLO HEART ANON,

I am screaming because I literally spent 45 minutes searching where that one post is! Fortunately, I found it. It's here

Phew, hope you have a lovely time reading this and thank you love for exactly mentioning the post and letting me know what's not working! Maybe I should call you navigation anon, lol.

Much love,

Jalebi

[shalom-iamcominghome]

I've been doing a lot of reflection as of late, especially after this past class.

This past class was about the Torah and Tanakh in general, and the way the rabbi talked about the commandments (specifically the ten commandments) has made me really reflect on how I interpret them, specifically the fifth commandment, or honoring your mother and father.

This is a commandment I have wrestled with for a long time - in fact, it brought me away from g-d at multiple times. I was severely abused when I was incredibly young by my mother, and I used to feel insulted at the implication that I were to honor her while she got to live a better life. It was hypocritical, in my eyes.

But this rabbi surmised that this particular commandment was because parenthood is an act of creation, something that is like the g-d from which we come from. My realization is this: I don't think we're necessarily meant to take even these commandments literally.

I this particular commandment is more of a call to honor creation - creation is a gift, and like any gift, many people simply will not like it and will discard it. The person who abused me created me, but she did not honor creation. She didn't honor me, but I can still honor it.

I have started to honor creation much more. I'm too young, too unstable, not mature enough to be a father (though I fantasize about it), but I create all the time. I create relationships, I create with my hands through crochet. I create memories, I create my world. And I can honor who I am and where I came from that made me who I am. I've been learning one of the mother tongues of my family (Italian, since part of my family originates there) and it was judaism that inspired me to do this.

I don't think g-d wants me to honor my abuser. I think He wants me to remember the Holy action of creation. When I am a father, that act of creation will be Holy, and indeed, I am already joyful about the thought.

I have seen many people struggle with this particular commandment, but I think this perspective helps me personally. I don't think I ever have to forgive my abusers (plural), and I don't think I am commanded to simply because they happened to be family. I am commanded to recognize the holy, to elevate the mundane. In doing so, I will remember g-d. Through creation, I honor g-d and everything he has done for us, for me, and for our collective people.

[uncanny-tranny]

Honestly, the craziest part of accessibility is that there aren't many abled people (and disabled people who aren't disabled in Every Way Possible) who wouldn't benefit from any of the accessibility options out there

ALT text has made it so much better to navigate image-based pages! I'm not visually-impared, but tumblr is terrible at loading images, and I'm not always connected to WiFi. People who add ALT text make it easy to satiate my curiosity when images don't load! This, coupled with actually learning how blind and visually-impared people navigate the online world, has inspired me to do my best to emulate the things I find helpful, even if the way it helps me is very different than theirs. Having a sense of scale in how it helps me versus how it actually makes the internet usable to the blind and visually-impared is something I do try to keep in mind.

Navigating a world with accessible options is primarily going to help the disabled, and it's imperative to keep this in mind. I do think, though, that illustrating just how much accessibility impacts even abled people's lives can help inspire people to think, "wow, I can't imagine a world without [accessibility option] and I don't need it, but it makes life so much easier." The more I interact with accessibility options I don't need, I still find it so helpful. I can't even imagine how amazing it is when you do need that accessibility and it's actually provided to you.

I don't think that abled people should only be in it for themselves. Again, accessibility should put disabled needs first and foremost. But I can't help but wonder how many people you can get to understand this by first saying how it impacts them, too.

[cherry-treelane]

I find it so ironically funny when hardcore Debbie defenders use the defense that she was just a victimised teenage girl (agreed) and then proceed to slander Fiona and express their hatred for her character and lack of sympathy

as if being an adult magically absolves an individual of the horrifying trauma that precedes them and screws up their mentality and actions

funnily enough these people get mad at others for "expecting Debbie to be an innocent angel and hating on her for acting out as a result of trauma" (also agreed, debbie does deserve more sympathy, she can't be expected to grow up to be a perfect saint when she's been through so much) yet seem to hold Fiona to the same unattainable standards and put her on a pedestal as if she wasnt a child that was forced to intensely grow up while never actually being raised

like lets put this into perspective and remember that fiona grew up surrounded by corrupt morals and insanely screwed up behaviour yet still emerged as messed up, yes, but surprisingly good considering the situation she was in??? she had to navigate basic things such as morals and being a good, responsible person on her own. imagine how difficult it must be to lead a bunch of kids, including yourself, with no previous role model or good example of your own to follow. most of the time, she always tried to do what she thought was best and would have the most desirable outcome

[lettucedloophole]

lov and peace on planat earth... ✌️

[putridpride]

happy (not that stoked) Labor Day to all the mfs that work today. especially if y'all aren't getting time & a half or double time. Thank you for working because it's what u have to do to survive. Labor Day is only a blue collar worker/office job kinda holiday, so bless you all that are working like it's any other day, I promise we see ya and appreciate y'all <3

[teenagefeeling]

that post that starts "i hate child free people as a child free person" really rubs me the wrong way. you don't have to apologize for not wanting children and make it sound like people are only making that decision because they hate children. first of all, it's hypocritical. second of all, it isn't even remotely true and i think you'll find that if u look into people who are proudly child-free you'll discover that it's much more complicated than just liking vs not liking children. currently, social norms place pressure on young people (especially women) to have children. if someone says "hey! i think it's possible to still lead a meaningful and fulfilling life without doing that!" and your reaction is to assume they hate children, i think you're the one with the problem

[petrichorvoices]

It's getting easier to be an adult, and I'm glad for it, considering we're 20 at this point. We still see ourself sometimes as an unprepared kid but there's other times where we're able to actually see ourself as a responsible, capable adult. It feels weird to look back at who we were and what we did as a teenager, even though we're only 20, and to see just how different we were

[carrotpiss]

Hmm

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[thedisablednaturalist]

I would definitely talk to the hiring manger if possible. HR is usually horrible, they are there to protect the company NOT to help you. It sounds like your boss is probably right about the liability thing, so I would not go to HR first if I could help it. It doesn't sound like you have a lot of options on who to go to to get the form filled out, unfortunately. Some doctors don't care at all and will just check the form without even seeing you, others will be more hesitant and detailed. I would come prepared with written out examples of times you have done all those things in your current job, and list accommodations you had to do so, so that if any question comes up you can address it. Wishing you good luck!!

The people I'd actually be working with seem really excited to have me join them, so I am hoping they'll be willing to work with me on this (they already said they are more than willing to work with me on the start date as I do have to, you know..move across the entire country lol). Unfortunately I don't know my doctor very well as I recently switched insurance. She seems very by the book. I've messaged her asking if she is able to fill the form out at our next appointment on Tuesday so we'll see. I'm just waiting to do the interview for the hybrid job position so I can have all my cards laid out on the table before I make any serious decisions. I also got another request for an interview by a different department just last Thursday lol. So I do have options luckily. Also this would be government HR so they may act differently than corporate HR

[dredshirtroberts]

feeling a lot more stable about everything, i decided to forego keeping a bandaid on because my fucking skin cannot take the adhesives for that long omg itches so bad around them

I have a plan in place to replace the bandaids should i require not needing to see my elbow again about it, but i also wanted to see for myself how bad it was.

BOY HOWDY do I bruise purty. That shit is dark where it's not already going greenyellow. looks like I put a sharpie in a chokehold and barely managed to wrangle it into submission like damn.

[uncanny-tranny]

How do you stop caring about what transphobes think? I've never encountered any kind of transphobia irl (other than the typical misgendering and occasional ignorant comment) but every time I see hateful posts online I get scared. Are they going to come after me, next?

Honestly, it comes with experience, I think. I know it's scary, you're right, and there's no reason to be ashamed of being scared.

However, if what you want is to make your online experiences positive, you have to prioritize yourself. I used to be one of those people who almost bragged about "never blocking people," and now I have a block list a mile long because the block function is a tool, not a moral indication of being a Good Internet Person. Blacklist words, block accounts, go on private accounts, unfollow people if they stop sparking joy, and your internet experience will feel less like you're walking a tightrope and more like a positive interaction.

Additionally, I really encourage anybody ymto invest in themselves outside of anything else. What I mean by that is that it is so much easier to devalue trabsphobes when you feel at peace with yourself. Whenever I find myself overwhelmed by transphobia or whatever, the first thing I do is take a step back and do what I can to remove myself from that interaction. I've picked up a ton of hobbies, for instance, that make me feel fulfilled when I engage with them. I'll pluck my bass, or read a non-fictiob book, or play a video game, or play with my cat. Evaluate what in your life makes you feel fulfilled. Experiment with them, and go to them as a way to cleanse your soul. It won't fix everything, yes, but it can help you feel as though you have control, because you do.

Honour the way you feel, anon. You don't need to feel belittled - it sucks to see so much shit. However, you don't need to keep others in mind when you're living. You weren't made to kow tow to every little request.

Basically, my advice is:

Not to entertain people who aren't interested in seeing your humanity

Find a way to fulfill yourself. This could look like a hobby, or a field of study, or anything, so long as it makes you feel fulfilled.

Don't downplay your own emotions. Let yourself be angry, upset, sad, and whatever other emotion you have. Emotions are not bad, there are no such thing as "bad emotions". Give yourself the space to express those emotions in a way that's healthiest to you

This takes time. It's okay to not be at that point where it doesn't affect you strongly. Please reach out to people - friends, family, whomever you feel safe with. Community is important, you are not an island. You aren't alone.

I'm wishing you well, anon. I hope you are treated well

[ourflagmeansgayrights]

Hey so what ever happened to the ship Ed&co were on at the start of the season? Didn’t they have more crew too (izzy refers to some of their men dying when they attacked the spanish to save the crew of the revenge, and i’m sure he would’ve held it over ed if they were the only survivors)? I’m sorry if this is an incredibly basic q but at a certain point I started waiting for it all to reappear and it just never did?

ed’s ship and his crew are like ten feet away from the Revenge for the whole show they’re just right out of frame at all times

[2happyherder]