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you are complaining about complaining too much while complaining about the fact that maybe people dont like you because you complain too much while complaining about being alone. just stop complaining and do something about it. talk to people. reach out. dont just wait for someone to come to you first.
i have tried reaching out to different people in the past year or so but it never works. i understand its my own fault for letting relationships decay because of my own insecurities and issues but that doesn't mean i can just will myself to think or believe different things about myself. it's a self fulfilling prophecy ; i think people don't like me so i don't reach out so people don't like me etc . i am sure you do not want to hear me list all the things i want to say in response so i will put them in the tags.
#every time i try to reach out or talk to someone it goes nowhere. i dont have any social skills anymore and have no clue how to keep a#conversation going. half the time even when i do people stop replying to me. which is fine theydont owe me a reply but still feels likeshit#when i tried to make one new irl friend it just didn't work because they have better options for friends. we spoke occasionally but never#messaged online like ever and would only talk when we happened to be in the same place. i tried multiple times to organize a time to hangou#none of which came to pass. i dont understand why this one didn't work because i thought this person was interested in being my friend but#i guess i was wrong or thought they were more interested than they really were.#i have a problem with reaching out anyway which has been a problem i have had since i was like 11. reaching out to people first doesnt come#easily to me - in the beginning when i was a lot younger i didn't want to bother people with my presence & thought if i were to come to#someone first they would feel pressured into talking to me when they didn't want to. this is stupid of course. but has still not left me as#something i feel is very core to the way i act today. waiting for someone to come to me first feels like my only option because i do not#know how to reach out effectively (my evidence being i have failed every time i have tried) & i am convinced people dont like me in the#first place and do not want me to approach them.#i dont really even know who to reach out to in the first place. my world is extremely narrow. the number of people i know has shrunk#significantly and my standing in their eyes collectively has also shrunk significantly in the past few years. i feel like every person i#was once friends with wants nothing to do with me. i feel as if i have burned every bridge possible.#when it comes to the fact i complain all the time . which i know of course is annoying. its because i cant find any kind of joy in anything#i do or see or whatever. nothing makes me happy - i only see things to complain about. all stimulus seems grating and the world seems#specifically catered to make me miserable. all i can really do is complain. i treat this blog like a stream of consciousness and when most#of that consciousness is occupied with how much i hate being alive the blog will mostly be complaining. its a vicious cycle lol .#anyway . i guess the key theme is low self esteem begets low self esteem in many ways. mental illness begets mental illness.#i am not really saying this to anyone least of all to you anon. i just felt compelled to recount i guess for myself the reasons that came#to mind for why i am like this. i am talking to myself here
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horizon forbidden west | aloy 68/?
#horizon forbidden west#hfw#aloy#mark of pride#tried some different editing here#totally opposite my natural inclinations#my instinct says GO BRIGHTER MORE COLORS MORE CONTRAST#and then I have to try to convince myself to make it darker and reduce some contrast#a true struggle#(at a second glance it's still more contrast-y than i thought lol)#but this shot really benefits from it#(i hope)#hfw aloy#hfw zenith base#hfw out of bounds
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#feeling really lonely lately and idk why#i mean i guess this is what 5 years of complete isolation do to ya lol#but yeah... sometimes it hits me that i don't really have friends (my fault obvs) and i just sit here with no idea how to change that lol#cause i have the curse of being ok while i'm alone and feeling incredibly anxious when i'm with people#so i convince myself that i'm better alone#and i am for the most part#but then 5 years since the last time i met someone that wasn't my mom or my brother go by and i go ''hmm... i don't think this is healthy''#and i spiral into a pit of dispair#like i can't believe that my highschool years when i was an absolute emo ''i hate everybody and everybody hates me'' kind of dude#were healthier than now#because i had online friends whom i talked to for hours about just random shit#and i met incredible people in uni but i haven't talked to them in literally i'm gonna say 5 years?#and the fact that they live 3hs away doesn't help but still#and i fully know I'M the problem#cause i isolate myself and i don't text and i don't hang out when they arrange hang outs#(again being 3hs away. relying on public transport and not feeling comfortable going out at night don't help..)#but also i put waaaayyyy too much pressure on this so that doesn't help at all#and i'm waaaay to awkward and self depricating to even attempt to have a meaningful friendship with anyone...#so i'm left here (by my own actions) alone and sad lol#i might be getting my period btw so maybe that's why i want to die today#but yeah... it's been in my head for a while now and i wanted to get it out so i can move the fuck on#if only i could be a normal person... sigh#angel talks#personal
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yes it's just me whining about the same thing for the billionth time, pls just scroll past nothing new to see here 👋
#i just want to enjoy the summer but i feel like i don't deserve to if i'm not constantly trying to become employed again 😭#''apply for jobs then? problem solved'' uh-huh yes but!! i also hate applying for jobs#job seeking can be so incredibly humiliating#first i have to send them a letter BEGGING to be invited to an interview#and then i have to try and convince them that i am actually competent and good at my job even though you have my cv right there#and then afterwards they call me to tell me they found someone who they liked better than me#(or rather someone who was more competent than me judging by their work history etc.)#it's like ''yes we are hiring but not YOU specifically lol''#like. at school if you take a test you get the grade you deserve based on how you did in the exam.#it's something you can actually directly affect yourself#but if someone who's applying for the same job with me has more work experience or whatever they will get hired over me no matter what i do#(at least that's how it usually works on my field)#in which case it doesn't matter if i do well in the interview or nah. bc the other person was always going to be picked for the job anyway#and yes one could say i can then be satisfied if i did my best but it's little consolation when i'm still unemployed!!#and so every time i apply for a job and get rejected it feels like a personal failure#and to avoid that feeling of failure i want to avoid applying for jobs altogether#so yeah. being active in job seeking is more likely to relieve me from this misery but job seeking is ALSO misery. so 🤷♀️#that on top of the fact i don't even _want_ to apply for all the open positions on my field#but i feel obliged to because it's what i have a degree on. and when i'm unemployed i don't have the luxury to choose which ones i apply fo#i can't afford to be picky#I DON'T DREAM OF LABOUR I JUST NEED MONEY TO LIVE BUT I ALSO DON'T WANT TO DO JUST ANY JOB! I AM NOT STRONG ENOUGH FOR THAT!#i don't want to come home crying from work every day because i hate every single aspect of my life INCLUDING my job 😭#when this semester i actually HAD a job i didn't mind waking up to every morning 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭#it's not fair it's not fair it's not fair#to conclude i don't deserve to enjoy myself in the summer because i'm not doing enough to fix my unemployement situation#(just like i don't deserve to feel sad about being lonely because i don't work hard enough to maintain deep friendships#but that's a crisis for another day! stay tuned ✌️)
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rewatching old all stars f trailers for fun and I did not realize till now that I have most of them memorized.
#guys when I say that I thought abt this movie constantly I mean it. It was all I ever thought abt.#it still is. Whenever there is a lull in my thoughts it’s just replaced with bunny thoughts.#The amount of anticipation I felt… it didnt feel real. I kinda convinced myself I was never gonna see it lol#Anyway happy 2am sigh.
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(i haven't read Whole Cake in a while, and i never really watched it, so bear with me)
I'd love to write a fic with Usopp on Whole Cake. it'd be sooo fucking long and i'd need to refresh myself on the entire arc, but god i'd probably be so satisfied when it's done. specifically for having brought a single moment in my head to life, but we'll get to that.
On Zou, he insists to be taken along on the Sanji rescue team and has worked himself up with a whole bunch of very good reasons as to why he should go there instead of helping in Wano, but of course Luffy just immediately accepts with a "yeah sure"
With Whole Cake, I think he'd be flipping between having fun as part of the idiot trio/quartet (Luffy, Chopper, Carrot), and being terrified with Nami. There wouldn't be that many differences in the arc as a whole, though; some things would be easier/better and some things would be worse- I don't necessarily think Usopp's presence would be overall an advantage or disadvantage, just different. Like, major events would stay mostly the same, but little details would change and maybe those little details would build to a far more drastic change-
for example, maybe one of Big Mom's kids considers themself a great sniper and wants a match with Usopp, or is motivated to work harder because Usopp is around and they want to take him out and boast about it. Maybe it means Sunny takes more damage than canon, or maybe Usopp's help means less damage to Sunny. (idk if i'd really do smth like this, but it's just an example)
skjdhf fuck i'm really not equipped to try and figure this out when i don't remember shit from Whole Cake aaaa
I do know that, despite his penchant for talking and rambling, I'd probably have Usopp be dead silent after his initial shock when Sanji fights Luffy. Everything about that is the same, except Usopp is just watching Sanji the whole time- not panicking, not moving, and not speaking. He doesn't say a word the entire time, doesn't even make a sound, and that, along with Luffy's words and Nami's begging, stick with Sanji.
(Usopp is thinking of his own fight with Luffy in Water 7, he's partially wondering if this was what it was like- if it was this painful to watch from the sidelines- and partially knowing he doesn't have to say a word, because he knew, like he knew back then, that it didn't matter what was said. It wasn't quite the same, but he could tell in the way Sanji moved, in the way he spoke and held himself, that he was putting on a front, trying to be brave in all the wrong ways. Usopp didn't say a word to Sanji because there was nothing he could say that Sanji himself didn't already know. Should've known. And his quiet, direct stare, was more than enough.)
the singular moment i really wanna write, is a scene where Sanji is apologizing for dragging them into his mess- either during the big meeting in Bege's castle or some other time- and Usopp's like "I'll do what you can't, you do what I can't, right?" and Sanji pauses, a little confused, until he remembers Enies Lobby and a stupid mask and cape and-
and tears are gathering in his eyes now, fuck, but he laughs a little. It sounds wet and his face is itchy and they're surrounded by tentative allies, but he- he laughs again and he says, "Fuck, you remembered that?"
Usopp shrugs, a little smile on his face. "They were some wise words from a wise man."
Sanji laughs a third time. "You think I'm wise?"
And they banter a little more before Bege tells them to quit it since they're on a time constraint or something. Quietly, Usopp will ask, "It-it helps. On bad days. And I figured, 'what's a worse day than this?' Ah, not that you getting married would ever be bad per se-"
"Usopp," Sanji says, looking more relaxed and settled. He smiles fondly and grabs his friend in a one armed hug, crushing him to his side. "Thanks."
And yeah, don't remember much beyond that, except the whole "hiding and then busting out of the cake" bit, which would mean Usopp in a cute little tuxedo or smth- maybe with a fedora aaaaaa <- loves fedoras- helping out with the fighting and eventually sailing with everyone to Wano.
He would be so distressed about fixing up Sunny now that the whole thing with Whole Cake is over. Maybe there'd be a gag about him promising Franky to take good care of Sunny while they were gone and being confident, after being Franky's tinkering partner and learning from him over time, that he could handle minor repair work much better than he did the first time around with Merry. And so when he finally takes in all the very-not-minor repairs he has to do, he's certain Franky is gonna strangle him for not keeping his promise. Probably also try to write in some nostalgic 'repairman Usopp' vibes from pre-Water 7.
Also something something, Sanji, wanting to do more for the crew bc he still feels guilty about Whole Cake, decides to take it upon himself to help Usopp not fall into a whole anxiety spiral about the ship. In turn, Usopp ends up helping Sanji not feel so guilty- usually by handing his own words back to him on a silver platter. And, yknow, having the two of them bonding and being buddies again like they so rarely get to be in canon nowadays qwq
#one piece#usopp#whole cake island#nemotime#that bit in bege's castle isn't exactly how it would go. just kinda. trying to get the vibe. also it's wayyy too short lol#the sanuso bit can be platonic or romantic. originally when i was gonna write out this idea a while ago i was thinking romantic with my#'they get engaged/married b4 dressrosa' au but tbh platonic works just as good#im- these guys man. i hate them so much (affectionate)#i'll get to rereading whole cake and finding a way to put him in there but for now. this.#if anyone's got other ideas im all ears#edit from like march 7: thinking about this again#maybe usopp being silent is an indicator for sanji that usopp's really fucking disappointed or shocked or w/e#but for usopp himself it's like being back in water 7. he doesn't even mean to be silent. he's got words built up on the tip of his tongue#but none of them come out. and despite sanji being Right There all he wants to do in that moment. is run.#at the very least he stays and watches the whole confrontation through. but afterwards he probably feels like shit#because he's the guy who's great with words right? he's the guy that can relate the most out of the group who went to WCI. he should be abl#to make a significant difference and help convince sanji to come home. but he feels like he failed. like he's going to lose another friend#and it's going to be all his fault. (again)#[not really. we all know merry wasn't his fault but we love old insecurities rearing their head in this house]#later he'd probably end up saying the words he wanted to say. and maybe it's better that way. that he ended up waiting#until luffy's had a proper shot at scolding sanji first. because then usopp can act as support and reinforcement. which. yknow.#a sniper's duty and all#anyway i got other shit to do so i'm cutting myself off here#wci usopp
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i love when i obsess over stuff that isn't even under my control
#ever since wednesday i haven't been able to stop wondering if my friendship is so unimportant that ppl would rather distance themselves from#me rather than talk about any issue they have w me#i'm never going to force anyone to a relationship w me. if they have an issue but would prefer not talk abt it it's on them i can't take#responsibility for it#but then again i can't help but torture myself that maybe thats the better path. just. stop talking to me!!!!!#and then all i think is this is why i always get so detached from ppl lol!!!!!#i spent months convincing myself it didn't hurt and all but it did hurt!!!!!!!!!!!#and it's funny bcs then ppl say they miss me as a friend but all i can think is then why did u let it get to this point!!!!!!!!!!!#everything could have been avoided if u simply talked to me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#but whatever#if someone doesn't want to communicate whatever issue they have with me it's not my job to find out#jo.txt
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This is your permission to take advantage of some ridiculously harsh sunlight for the specific purpose of posting low-quality cringe
#my mask is on because i'm not about to post my whole face lol. but somehow the mask makes it more cringe#i need one of those little white coifs asdfgdsgdh#anyway say hello to my friend. got him for myself as a birthday present in the summer <33 he does have a name but it's too embarrassing#i can't tell if these pictures are giving me gender euphoria or making me feel even smaller#though i did see a dude on the subway yesterday who was my exact height so that felt good#i might delete this but at least i found an opportunity to wear my green hoodie shirt#it's going to be part of my robin hood costume for halloween if i ever finish it#maybe the sword also. but likely my other sword which is smaller.#if teenagers on tiktok can post thirst traps and not be embarrassed then i can pose with my sword damn it#like you know when you see sun streaks and just turn into a golden retriever?? ye.#i've got this one friend who's convinced i have 'the tism' and if they see this they're gonna go wild sdfgfdsfdgh (because special interest#like every time we go out there's a point when i start going off about the middle ages or something and they just laugh (affectionately)#it's not my fault my dad let me watch monty python and the holy grail at age 7 and bought me knight costumes
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Me holding on to the last threads of my asexual identity so I don't lose the one constant part of how I've identified for as long as I've known I'm queer
#like.. ok.#i don't think atp i can define myself as asexual anymore#and i know you're probably like. but Cian! You run a spicy blog! of course u aren't ace!!#But I need you tp understand that I've identified as asexual for nearly eight years at this point#was fully convinced of it. could never imagine myself in any intimate situations ever.#And a lot of it was for sure just general insecurity and being depressed throughout my teens#But even outside of that I didn't feel attraction!#I also thought i was aromantic for a while#i think some of it is my autism. and my emotions and feelings being foreign to me.#I also have adhd so I always brushed any crush I had off saying it was just a fixation#which sometimes they were#but then I got a crush on my current gf. and every identity I had tried on and swore by was questioned#we got together and i just. got horny?#like I'm someone who just in general madturbates a lot lol that's nothing new but actually being attracted to someone?#baffling to me!#and idk. i don't wanna leave behind the only concrete part of my identity#i switch my labels constantly#nonbinary. agender. genderqueer. transgender. ftm. genderfluid#lesbian. biromantic. panromantic. aromantic. grey aro. demiromantic#but asexual was my one constant. I swore by it.#and now that's... not correct.#I'm just kinda bummed i guess haha
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oh btw anxiety had me by the throat so i haven't really mentioned it yet but i got a new (Real Adult™️) job :'D i'm working w a charity helping adults w intellectual disabilities!!
#ive been working here for the last 2 weeks or so it actually rules#and its so much more chill than working at the grocery store (or god forbid the hardware store)#everyone is SO nice. like they are all so so nice. literally all of the staff And all the clients ive met#and its decent money for entry level. def not the biggest reason i like it but id be lying if i said i wasnt happy w that too lol#levi.txt#took forever for my records check to come back and halfway through i convinced myself i did Secret Crimes and would lose the job over it#so i didnt want to talk too openly abt it in case i jinxed myself i guess?#welcome to my brain its a hellscape#but i think the thing im happiest w tho is that i feel like it actually really matters. its actually smth im proud to say im doing#its going to be so nice to actually see that the work im doing makes a real difference in the world
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Okay... now it's time to go back to my silly little game...
#brawl stars#its the way this game has some of the best character designs Ive ever seen but the lore is basically a puddle#like the kind of puddle you'll find in a pothole after a rain storm#btw i think the ship discourse is insane because Brawl Stars doesn't have a story#but i do like how most people don't have a problem with Mandy/Chester.#but yeah... uh... Fang is definitely a straightie and it's so crazy to see people say hes gay or bi without pulling up evidence#like you actually dont need to show ''evidence'' to justify shipping him with Buster...#the internet has convinced people sexuality is a gauge for someones morality...#especially if you ship m/f as a bisexual person... you dont know how many times a pick me straight has questioned my bisexuality#because i like m/f and dont hate myself LOL
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To go to our town fest completely alone cause my friends either don't live close enough, aren't home, cancelled last minute (like always) or don't like these types of events or to stay home and later regret not going
#myself#my coworker was reallt set on convincing me to come lol#also I just got a random message from a number I don't have saved that just says “shmok” lmao#<- thought that was my brother's friend but it was infact said coworker#also my brother has already left and didn't tell me cause he was mad at me
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#my therapist teaching me a mindfulness technique: so what do u think?#me: this is like how vulcans deal with their emotions. they recognize them and set them side. acknowledge and accept#also i need to send these thoughts away on icebergs in the ocean instead of on clouds in the sky#its the exact opposite of what u were saying but i think abt the terror so god damn much its infected me down to the bone#literally anything she tells me i gotta b like: how can i either relate this to media or fold this into a metaphor?#bc i guess thats just how my brain works idk.#ugh. saw the psychologist and psychiatrist today and now theyre perscribing me ab1lify#hope it works. i dont have the perspiration in hands yet. i wish my brain would just b Normal#but i feel generally better than i did last week already#they think im sensitive to medication. either my body or my mind. ie. i freak myself out and my body reacts#so i convince myself im having a reaction. they haven't said that but im sure theyre thinking it bc im also thinking it lol#cant pin me down. my mind is too slippery#things i did not think would happen to me: a bip0lar diagnosis and prescription for anti psychotics#unrelated
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also it's something (better) like, the exercise of deliberately [art imitates life imitates art] holding up Billions to My IRL Things Perspective and going like whaaat would i want for winston. first answer is you want any character to not have been within the scope of the show in the first place, and to exit it since they are. and you kind of get that in the accidental reward in banishing winston, since like in the end it's just that the show doesn't care about him existing at that point But like it's winston sitting there quietly as everyone leaves & turns out the lights & Then he can leave too; others have peaced out & nobody remembers he exists so Now he can go off & do whatever.
but like in true form i think they definitely accidentally baked in another divine reward for winston in that, like, the way he's kept around as fodder for these fun little [pov: enjoy abusing this guy] asides with him, where it Just So Happens that he's autistic as something they're unaware of but is completely relevant to the expectation we understand him to be inferior(tm), it Just So Happens that he's also ""bad"" at not ""causing"" abuse to be turned on him. he's ""bad"" at staying in line. like well yes Yes that's what i want for him. just like In Real Life it's like yeah Ideally i'd want people to be able to extricate themselves from where they're trapped in power structures & i'd want them to have the perspective about it of understanding they're not Inferior / i.e. they are as much a person as anyone else and they're not corrupting everything good / i.e. it wasn't them Bringing It Upon Themselves and it's not them being Destructive by toppling a jenga tower of a hierarchy that happened to be pressing down on them. and winston is the kind of [the ruinerrrrrr] who is Turned On exactly because he keeps acting like someone who's on the verge of breaking out of the [being in line] someone demands of him as autist, employee, whatever other supposed manifestations of [inferior]
like in the 5 second stretches in which winston's allowed to speak before retaliation, it's because he's like "matter of factly" delivering whatever Information that's useful for another plotline. then he Brings It Upon Himself by making people aware that he's Also existing in his own right as a person rather than what they think serves their own deal / what they want from him at all times, perhaps by expressing his personality (didn't appeal to them! so it was Wrong) or not b/c of anything in particular said or done at present, just b/c people have a constant / accumulating contempt for him so their being in the same room as him & able to see & hear him is already dangerous. the [we're just seeing Any Abusive Dynamic in action] continuing apace.
and it's like, well, right there. he's written as acting like someone who doesn't blame himself for how he's treated, which billions frames as being Rude & Mean, and so too does everyone's abusers lmfao like and that these are his moments that are written to be Bringing It Upon Himself. and it's like hell yeah he doesn't blame himself. hell yeah that his self-esteem can manifest as anger at all. hell yeah that he keeps expressing himself with personality & confidence & doesn't even disguise his having been hurt, & it's this [his ass is Not grey rocking] that billions frames as both him "causing" his abuse & making that abuse "successful" lol, wrow just like real life!! and when like speaking of real life yeah it's not "bad" that people Do engage in strategies to mitigate & survive, including things like blaming themselves or being too "boring" to be anything but a non dialogued background character b/c that's all that goes unpunished, it's bad b/c it's done to them at all, not [ohh they're doing it to themselvesss] and like i'm asking myself like Ideally. what do i want Ideally. and i'd want winston to know that it's being Done To Him & i'd want him to find as much room for his personhood & autonomy as possible. and that's basically how he's written anyways, and billions hates that like You See this is why he deserves it this is why he's doing it to himself. and i'm like my god if that's not Inspiration for like "so what if people don't find you Personally Likable" and not preemptively holding back all personality or anything that'd draw attention as if you exist as a person in your own right & not something that only either gets in the way of or serves their wants of a Real person (someone with more power) like hell yeah you have him out here doing it =']
another fun addendum is like, billions isn't getting into it much b/c it doesn't seem to care much about "what if some people were peers & seem to have a genuine, recipcrocal relationship?" but that it just so happened to be like "oh tuk as the next closest loser who deserves it might be nice to winston" while it's framing winston as the "worse" Loser as being....unconditionally supportive of tuk. while the one downside of billions Also giving bentuk as much as it is is that it also inevitably has that shadow of "but ben is Superior to tuk" and like that it's correct that everyone encourages tuk to Stop Bringing It Upon Himself and start being less of a loser; it's wrong for winston to be like hey let's go have a foursome. like yeah probably don't make a list of the women you work with you'd be dtf but it's not like i'm convinced "ah billions and it's strong anti misogyny stance like" roflmao and billions is Not reflecting on "the downsides of unconditional support?" there when winston was beaten up for criticising taylor earlier like we WILL take his ideas while looting his [beaten unconscious] body there but he WAS wrong to express them as though he's BETTER than taylor!!! mafee's beautiful show of loyalty in kicking his ass even when he might agree with the argument and then benefit when it's adopted by taylor anyways! so it's as usual actually purely based on hierarchy & who gets to be in charge of people. it's correct for ben to be in charge of tuk, unless he has to step aside for that bizarre dead-end subplot about how it's tuk's fault if he's treated badly, b/c it's really his own Failure to have Confidence to know he has good ideas [raising our voice to deliver this message over the sound of breaking desks and chairs and computer monitors over winston because he had the confidence to act like he deserved to talk to someone and because he knows his ideas efforts & results are good & valuable around there] like. and isn't it sooo fucked up to talk about who you're dtf in the episode that has it be neutral if your boss is dtf & lets you know but is nice about it (and you're already Correctly tending to their ego, which you're responsible for!) like hey no possible problem! it's not even so much of a problem for a boss man to have the sex they're entitled to & be rude about their leveraging their power in that acquisition that it Stays a problem into the next season. ew, winston is Known (Inferred) Dtf??? we'll use it to exploit His vulnerability, exacerbate it, & punish him further for good measure in another episode that just revels in abuse & violation with a sexual aspect once again, but like, hey tuk don't do that, winston's such a Bad Influence for being like, shrug, kneejerk intervening with the Good Friendship where the One In Charge leaps in & Tells tuk the Correct thing to do. obviously there's also the tragedy that billions will Never let winston push back against Real Winners like rian or taylor in A Way That Matters (actually gets in their way at all) lol like. one thing that would have really been fun, winston should've literal kneejerk started physically fighting wags in either pertinent scene in 7x03 for real 110%. i wouldn't be like Gasp Violence Is Never The Answer if he just hit someone to hit them b/c fuck you. or broke anything on his way out etc etc. billions would Never let him. which is the other side of the same coin of [why he should get to]
tl;dr how great that winston's being "out of line" means he's basically always noticeably flouting & rebelling against the [He Deserves Abuse] agenda lol. that IS what i want. his being "beyond hope" like ohhh he's sooo stupid he doesn't realize how much he has the bad tastes & wrong interests & annoying personality He Will Always Be This Way like hell yeah!!! billions like oh no winston's personhood will never stay tamped down & locked away such that some godawful person tolerates keeping him in their inventory :( ohhh the ABA will never work :( that's right!!!!!!!!!! although they're not sad about it because it's about relishing the promise there will always be True Inferiors you can enjoy abusing with your righteous power over, but like well you wrote him escaping anyways even while dragging other "better" characters into standing around to serve axe's need for more than 1.8 employees and [crickets, reverberating cough, sneaker scuff] like. another ""wrong"" thing for winston to do, another thing for him to not "deserve," which is itself godawful actually lol like lord what it "rewards" its Good, Deserving characters with, no thanks. meanwhile winston's punishment is that he's autistic and """bad""" at being abused like lmfao good for him, fantastic for him, just what i want
#winston billions#a series that did inadvertently power up the stances of someone who actually is Not a fan of ableism; abuse; authoritarianism; and cetera#real winston billions fans might also get written off the series into the ether....but hey. the power up#the ''i saw the autistic character. i saw the tour de force'' was there & it mattered#myself marked glad to be A Ruinerrrrr; to like be present where other people might be aware & even say & do things & [my personality]#throw it back to the last post like my experience going hahaha >:) but you made one mistake. decade old minivan in my name#enough to Get Outta There....but that naturally if it Wasn't that Would be an avenue of punishing / reeling people back in#hey you Stole this from me. hey winston that's Stolen Time and stolen data who give a shit. it's the principle of [we own winston]#my experience also indeed getting ''''worse'''' at being abused lmao i.e. more conflict & resentment as i was increasingly aware i didn't#deserve it. no thanks to much of anything i learned in; say; interacting with others as an autistic person lmao. hmm!#meanwhile even if exploring like Winston Having Fun Being Himself it's like one thing is just. never having the Site of that be like#first & foremost An Romance lol. like even if it's like sure someone could interpret this as romantic that's like; an extra thing#and it's not The Guideline like; not thinking that for winston to be okay he Needs to get on the soulmate track#(billions does think that lol) and like. while billions says winston Has dated (i do think they meant to imply Multiple Times in 5x05#i just think we see that they usually don't care oh so much abt continuity; certainly not across the board) & that he has a crush#like then uhh yeah sure it's like. well i can readily extrapolate then that he's had abusive dating relationships.#billions does Not put forth that someone treating winston Well is where he gets the bulletproof confidence or anything lol#just cursed like again i'm not. i'm not gonna accept [wild you dropped steph into our Visuals as like 1 Confirmed Winston Ex]#but it's also like well then any Depiction would be The Perspective....not like. the abuse currently happening & in any way that is meant#to be ''''obvious'''' & ''''convincing'''' to someone w/no idea what it looks like anyways. vs the mundane ordinary parts that speak to it#or just the ways that experience & concomitant perspective could manifest outside of it even with No look inside it#running into issues like [good thing riawin didn't even hook up or that'd be More vulnerability in an abusive relationship already]#but what if they did & Montage Of Malaise? well to even brush up against inevitable more ''blatant'' things would then either be like#well immediately move Away from that then. before or after but Exit the [current] situation. Or it'd be like. rian has to Reconsider#but a) the character absolutely does not & based on everything will not. & b) if she actually Does; e.g. in a fic. well it's about her now#but i can think of ''yeah maybe winstuk fic that is also framed with bentuk b/c it's not really about Romance & if it's like sure then why#Not presume winston has experiences w/abuse & violation aplenty b/c that's the full context for the character lol it's then still like#and here's little details in which that could Manifest that would just be [??] or unnoticed to others anyways. just like real life!!''
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hey!! i just wanted to say i really admire your blog! you're always very well-spoken and articulate and you have good takes on topics. i wish i was as comfortable as you are talking about things at length so i could talk in detail on my own blog about the things i'm interested in, but alas, i am not. for now i will read your posts and admire from a distance <3 thank you for your contributions to the community
also kudos to you for putting walls of tags on your reblogged posts. i love to see people's thoughts, especially on posts that are more substantial than the average shitpost because it feels more personal (': pls never stop
🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹 wait this is SO sweet, thank you so much! :D I'm really flattered I come off as well spoken and articulate, I feel like I am constantly just Saying Lots Of Words. I'm not sure I can turn off the verbose-ness, tbh, so I'm really glad it's improving your fandom experience in some way haha.
And hey fwiw, tumblr blogs are for you to have fun, so if you want to go ham chatting about things you enjoy, you know, go for it! And if you don't think that would be enjoyable, I mean, you're not under any rule to do so. I'm pretty shameless about doing it largely because I made this sideblog specifically for myself, just to store/post about Smosh stuff so I'd be able to find it more easily in the future. Being very detailed about stuff I'm enjoying is a gift for future me, and everything else needs to be a bonus, or something I can live with 😅 So that takes a lot of the pressure off, if that explains anything haha. IMO, if energy/time permits, recording details about and diving into the details of things you enjoy and why you enjoy them, tends to be a net positive. Both for the world as a whole (Other people who enjoy that thing get to share enjoyment) and for yourself, to really get a better understanding and appreciation of things you enjoy. And this might also increase appreciation of things you dont enjoy, interestingly enough! Win win. But to each their own, and not wanting to do that in public forum makes perfect sense. Do what works for you :)
I will probably NEVER stop doing the walls of text in tags, so im glad you enjoy it 😅 It's one of my favorite features of tumblr, I love being able to share thoughts in a form where the op/other people dont feel obligated to respond. Triply so for things like art and fic where I'll really enjoy something and it seems like a shame to not express that enjoyment with the maker. Tumblr does all kinds of wack things but the 'talking in tags' culture is a net positive in my book.
anyway. thanks! :D this was really nice to receive.
#this is so nice thank you! :) i really appreciate it#ask tag#nice stuff#:)#im glad these things come off positively to other prople bc i truly. am not sure i know how to turn these things off LOL#anyway what i WILL say about the 'talking at length about things i enjoy' online is that i do strongly recommend being OK with seeing#opposing opinions/having people disagree/living with the fact that people feel differently#it kind of ties back to 'posting for myself' but a stipulation im putting down when i Post Away is that i gotta be ok if people#disagree or are rude or Wrong™#if its not something im gonna be OK about people disagreeing with me on i either gotta commit to eternally trying to convince people.#or i can decide if i think its worth posting publically about vs just telling a friend or even making private posts lol. pick your battles!#anyway. i should have slept 2 hours ago sorry. instead im in ramble city again.#thanks again. sorry for the MULTIPLE walls of text lol
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I'm ready to be 30 tbh
I kept thinking I would want to hang onto my late 20s as much as possible; that being in my 30s would be something scary and hard
but getting older has only gotten easier instead. I am more sure about myself. about what I want and who I am and what makes me happy. sure, there is plenty of difficulty, but now I have experience to fall back on when the going gets tough. now I look forward to the next year, wondering what thing I will reclaim from my lost younger years that I didn't get to fully live in.
my 20s are almost done, and I never thought I'd say it, but I'm looking forward to it
#[static]#truthfully I keep forgetting that I'm Not 30 lol still have a few more months#was terrified of turning 30 up until the end of being 28#and then i realized that it's not so bad and that things only get better even if the world is falling apart#You get better and for all of my teen years and early 20s i didnt believe it could happen#getting older seems scary for a lot of us but it really is a cool and wonderful thing#just having some reflective thoughts on this really beautiful fall day#never thought i'd see myself this old tbh was convinced I'd never see past my early 20s#but the years keep coming and they dont stop coming lmao as the wise ones say
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