#I identify as a binary green male

[pickle-the-lad]

More comfortable for me than identifying as non-binary🤷‍♂️

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Maybinary (mayby/maybies or maybenary): someone who may be binary and/or may not be binary (maynby/maynb or maynonbinary); maybe being aptobinary, maybe not (maybinaryn't/maybenaryn't).

Maybinaries could be yesbinary (ambisobinary, ambinary/ambibinary or mesobinary) and/or nobinary (abinary or exobinary), semibinary (demibinary, half-binary or hemibinary) or seminonbinary (semienby/seminby, demienby/deminby/deminonbinary or heminonbinary/hemienby/heminby), abrobinary or aptobinary (exorgender), or anonbinary (binaryn't nonbinaryn't).

Usually, if someone asks "are you a boy or a girl?" or "are you binary?" you answer "maybe" (or "maybe yes, maybe not") or "so-so" (sobinary/sosobinary).

[angstics]

i finally articulated my opinion on my "is gerard way doing drag" question. my definition of drag is when a person impersonates, exaggerates, or appropriates a mode of gender expression. drag can be artistic or political (or both). drag can be an identity. drag and transgender identity are confused as the same thing. for some, it is. what is considered cross dressing can also be considered drag. it's important to note that drag is essential to queer culture, and how the us government harasses queer people through cross dressing, and now anti-drag, laws. we wouldnt be here talking about pop artists doing drag without drag performers and nonbinary-trans-gnc people.

to some people, a self-identified man in a female-identified dress is drag. "cross dressing" depends on cishet norms. queer people, especially nonbinary-trans-gnc people, have called to dismantle the assignment of gender to clothing. under that lens, a man in a dress is just a man in a dress -- for it to be drag, context and intent matters. that's how you get women doing female drag, or androgynous people doing what gerard way's been doing this last year on tour.

in asking "is gerard way doing drag?", im assigning importance to the topic. does it matter? within my understanding, drag is about intent and context as much as gender presentation. intent and context is what makes something important. therefore: understanding why the question is important solves it.

male music artists have a long history of cross dressing and doing drag. there's a good chance plugging any dude into a search engine with "drag" or "skirt" will bring something up. bowie, queen, nirvana, manic street preachers, placebo. here's a list. newer artists: lil nas x, harry styles, anthony green, pete wentz, young thug. some are impersonating female caricatures, some are masculinizing female clothes (long, ill-fitting, straight). some, like molko and lil nas, wear feminine clothes without exaggerating or masculinizing. gerard is in that same grey area.

male music artists have a long history of cross dressing and doing drag -- photos: "i want to break free" mv by queen (1984) / placebo in london (oct 1998) / lil nas x at audacy beach festival (dec 5, 2021) / fall out boy at rock for people (june 17, 2022)

all that history is why it was so weird when kerrang called gerard's riot fest "dress and heels" "a compelling show of contrarian anti-rock star eccentricity". it is not anti-rock star, at least not as described. it may be compelling, contrarian, and eccentric, but no reviewer really cares to analyze why. the closest they get is by identifying non-binary connection (them.us) and its relation to the "minefield that is American gender politics today" (latimes.com).

fans were struck by way's outfits for a lot of other reasons.

1. we have to get it out of the way that they just looked hot -- gerard is perpetually attractive, skirts are pretty. easy equation.

2. he has a long history of gender nonconformity. more on that in my #mcr queer studies tag. gerard is a 45 year old famously androgynous person who doesnt do labels, aligns himself with gender nonconformity (2014 reddit ama, 2018 advocate article, 2015 he/they tweet), and doesnt seem to care to be known as a man.

3. the tour outfits were well-fitted. many were crafted by skilled designer marina toybina and her team. which leads to ->

4. the outfits were very casual and very feminine. as mentioned, most men opt for masculine, ill-fitting skirts. which is to say they are NOT showing leg and they are definitely not showing ass. gerard doesnt steer clear from shortness or tightness or movement. he also dresses in ways people dress day to day -- the miniskirt is as casual as the shorts as casual as the jeans. there's some discussion to be had about what casual means -- he could be imitating expected presentation or just using basics, like his frequent shirt and pants.

the miniskirt is as casual as the shorts as casual as the jeans -- photos: firefly music festival (sept 23, 2022) / uncasville (sept 1, 2022) / eden project night 1 (may 16, 2022)

5. there was variety. many outfits, many types. he wasnt just doing pure femininity. some looks were high concept, some low concept. some gendered, some genderless. some feminine, some masculine. it was playful. its honesty evident in its fluidity yet cohesiveness. expanded in the next points ->

6. they incorporate elements of masculinity and gender neutrality concurrent with the feminine. his aggressive, energetic performance style often doesnt mind what people are seeing when his skirt lifts or shirt droops. he has little to no make-up -- if he does, it's stage and not glam. the closest he gets is the agender black swan look at boston night 1, the stage contour at wwwy night 3, and dubious lipstick at firefly. he also maintains the same hairstyle: barely styled, not straightened-curled. pinned a few times, gelled back some other times.

he has little to no make-up -- if he does, it's stage and not glam -- photos: boston night 1 (sept 7, 2022) / when we were young night 3 (oct 29, 2022) / firefly music festival (sept 23, 2022)

7. the character outfits weren't caricatures, like green's sleazy hooker or queen's uptight housewives. gerard's characters were appropriated but not exaggerated. cheerleader, nurse, manson girl, jackie o, princess diane, st joan. all figures of pop culture. he wore them as they were. even comparing green and way's similar white-green cheerleader costumes there's a difference in presentation. green wears long leggings, way wears shorts. green's costume is based on a stranger things character, way's is a custom remade vintage outfit. green exhibits the masculinization of feminine clothes which way subverts. this comparison highlights what makes way's outfits different, and therefore exciting to talk about.

green exhibits the masculinization of feminine clothes which way subverts -- photos: saosin in garden grove, ca (oct 27, 2022) / mcr in nashville, tn (aug 23, 2022)

8. and when he played with masculinity, it was in a way that was dubbed "boydrag". the new jersey night 2 casino singer look was a dramatic caricature that heightened masculine features until they were pure style... the defintion of camp. he had a mustache -- thin like john waters or a confirmed bachelor, and drawn on with eyeliner. he had a suit -- a pink-gold, glittery woman's cut jacket with a glittery bowtie and pleated shirt. the dramatic flair is accentuated by the black eye make-up, the frank sinatra "my way" cover, the drum tag: "the house always wins".

the defintion of camp -- photos: new jersey night 2 (sept 21, 2022) 1 / 2

when i asked which outfits others considered drag, all replies identified the casino singer and jackie o as drag and the rest as "just clothes". this relation made me understand why the rest couldnt be drag despite all the connections i talked about above. the jackie o outfit doesnt exaggerate the source like casino singer, but the source itself is both highly dramatic and highly gendered. cheer is gendered but not highly dramatic, st joan dramatic but not highly gendered. diane is gendered and dramatic, but not highly. the list goes on and on. it's a fine line. especially cheer could tip into drag for me.

but the source itself is both highly dramatic and highly gendered -- photos: mcr at riot fest (oct 12, 2022) / jackie kennedy onassis (jan 3, 1971)

if drag is understood in this way, simply wearing gendered clothes isnt drag. the look itself has to be about the performance of gender, however that may be presented. that’s the importance of classification. we can see what the artist is doing.

[foxglove-garden]

I don't know if I am ever actually going to like talk about this again on any of my blogs but I'm technically not a binary trans man.

I often simplify my identity to just "FTM", "trans man" or "transmasculine", but to be completely honest, I'm demi masculine and nonbinary, but just heavily masculine leaning.

I have the demiboy symbol tattooed on my ankle, and I don't plan on getting it covered or changed anytime soon despite the fact that I usually refer to myself as just a transgender man instead of elaborating, because to me it is more accurate of a description for myself.

I identified as non-binary starting at the time I was like 16 years old until I came out as transmasculine at 24 (also should probably mention that I was diagnosed with an intersex variation at 22, which also affected how I viewed my gender identity in a lot of ways), and I still have a lot of nuances and fluidity to my gender, though none of that could be described as feminine or female. The closest that I really get to feminine or female is feeling kind of like a femboy or girlboy, but even that is pretty heavily leaning towards the "boy" side of things.

I guess the best way that I can describe it is that everyone's gender is like a different color in a crayon box, and if binary male was classic Blue, my gender would be more like dark teal or almost emerald green. Like, the blue is definitely there and it almost looks blue, but there's a bit of green in there and it's kind of dark and muddy.

I don't think that this really makes a lot of difference whenever it comes to things on my page but I feel like it's important to me so I wanted to mention it.

I'm a guy. But I'm also non-binary. I'm a non-binary guy. And there's really nothing that weird about that at all.

I know that most people are used to people who are younger identifying as non-binary and either growing out of it or just keeping quiet about it, so I really want to just normalize that I am almost 30, I have children and a family, I use primarily he him pronouns but also sometimes they or it, and I'm a non-binary man.

Just wanted to say that so that other people hopefully don't feel like the only people who are older than 25 with slightly unconventional or mogai identities. You aren't alone. We exist.

[milokissa707]

here to ask your office for examples of non binary malgendering.. i know i experienced it but i'm having trouble putting it into words. only thing that is super obvious is people telling me i have no human rights because all law texts use "he or she".

Of course, I welcome anybody to come and share their experience!

I’ve heard this before, it’s a rather common response to people that don’t use he or she pronouns, i’ve also seen a similar effect, especially in the early days when a lot of of countries were changing their wording around their documents, say the same thing with male or female rep replacing he or she. I have always viewed that specific wording a direct threat, the logical implications of it leaves no good faith interpretation. It is absolutely an instance of malgendering!

A very interesting phenomenon I have noticed in malgendering rhetoric against non male/female people is just the level of dehumanization that they use. A lot of it goes back to this specific rhetoric that the enemy is not human, which is tenant of basically all forms of bigotry, transphobia included! But almost malgendering in non male/female is to fully strip us of our humanity. Saying where you don’t have human right, equating them to animals, aliens, or demons.

I’ll give you a non-common example, people with animals Xenogenders. It’s rehashed hate statement(can’t really think of another word for it) used against non-humans and furrys, the classic

“If you really identified as (insert animal) you’ll let me do (insert some type of violence against that animal usually hunting or even sometimes sexual) to you”

Next i’ll give you a personal example. Probably we should get some pre-text to this, I’m rather androgynous, and I wear make up I wear a lot of make up. I wear face paint basically all day, and it’s fun as hell. So I was visiting Roswell NM, gotta tell you that part of New Mexico is not that progressive. I was really excited to go do a whole photo shoot in the museum there, themed my make up to make me look like an alien and all. I wear my vein badge around because like people stare at me for a little while when they first meet me, wondering what pronouns to call me. I go into this gift shop right, search for a little while this guy at the counter is staring at me the whole time. Again, that’s not unusual, I purposely make myself stand out. I find what I want. I go to the counter and I hear a “ah of course ““they/they””, you look like one aliens out side.” I laughed. I nodded. I handed him the card. I left. The aliens outside was referring to a mural of green little aliens getting out of a spaceship, motherfucker, I wasn’t even Green, you got the color wrong bitch! Hehehe, also we switched while writing this so if the style has changed, yeah!

This is not technically malgendering but it follows a very similar rhetoric pattern

“of course you have blue hair and pronouns”

Now this does not specifically target non-binary people, but it is a very very common throwback to non-binary people. It is at the the end of the day “look at you, of course you hold those opinions, of course you’re trans”, which I would say is a very similar rhetoric to this.

IDK I’m still hurting a lot from the oral surgery that I had not that long ago(we got all four of our wisdom teeth removed), if I probably spent like another hour, staring at this document, I probably could name some more things, buttttt, I am a sinful being and I am lazy and I am hungry and I’m going to get food. 

[wotyoudoinheremate]

New OCs ideas!

Yes! I am still with the mythology/folklore stuff.

That hyperfixation will never die. And there's nothing you all can do about it.

Anyway!

There are two Sniper OCs who are Centaur/Mermaid Crocodiles. The first one is a male Sniper, who is also Albino Crocodile. He is also asexual in a relationship with his mate. He goes by the name "Cuma."

Now! His mate! They go the name "Umber," and they were born female. But in the future, they identified as Non-Binary. They are also kinda chonky. Their body color is green. And Umber was actually the one pursued Cuma.

I also have a small headcanon that Centaur/Mermaid Crocodiles actually fight each other in oder to become mates. For example, Umber was the one who wanted Cuma to be their mate. So they started to fight each other. Soon, Cuma lost the fight, which means he became Umber mate for life.

Also, I WAS planning to give both of them clothes, but I was like... those clothes are just gonna get wet. I searched up Crocodile OCs for examples, and most of them are clothe-less.

Now I decided not to give them clothes. What's the point of clothes, lol?

[sternenschaukler]

What is Cassgender?

🖤💛💚🩶 - FAQ and more:

What does 'cassgender' mean?

Cassgender is a label for people who feel their gender is unimportant or irrelevant to their life. This can include feeling like you have some sort of gender, but it is not something big or important to you. It's possible to feel like you still have a gender to some extent, e.g. you recognize that you're somewhat non-binary/ agender/ demigender/ cis/ trans.. but you don't find it important enough to really "identify" yourself through this.

Cass experiences may include:

- not really identifying as any gender/ not having a strong genderidentity

- feeling like your gender is an irrelevant part of your identity

- Feeling disconnected from other people of your gender, because they put a lot of importance in their genderidentity. (For example they feel very strongly about being male/ female/ agender and not something else)

- feelings of total apathy/ indifference towards gender

- just not caring about gender altogether./ The very concept of gender is unimportant or seems pointless to you.

Some Microlabels under the cassgender umbrella:

Cassflux: The apathy/ indifference towards gender fluctuates.

Cassfluid: Someone who feels indifferent towards their gender, but also knows that their gender is fluid in some way

Demicass: people who partially identify as cassgender but partially also put imortance to being another gender as well

Where does the name "cassgender" come from?

The term "cassgender" combines the Latin prefix "cass-" with "gender."

Latin cass- (cassus/ casso...):

- empty, hollow, devoid of something

- to annul, reject

- useless, fruitless

- to lack

What do the colours of the flag stand for?

- Beige/ tan and slate/ grey both represent apathy towards gender.

- Black for the absence of genderidentity. (This can mean you are genderless (or semi-genderless), not defining yourself through gender, feeling a disconnect from gendered labels and so on. )

- Green for the non-binary spectrum (Alluding to the green in the agender flag. This stripe is also there to include cass people wo still have a gender alongside those who are completely genderless/ unlabeled.)

How does cassgender differ from agender?

While both cassgender and agender involve a lack of connection to traditional gender identities, agender people identify as having no gender at all. In contrast, cassgender individuals may have any gender, or be genderless, but consider this unimportant or irrelevant to their personal identity. (Although cassflux people might fluctuate with how apathetic they are.) Agender people can, and often do, still care about not having a gender.

Do you have to be non binary to be Cassgender?

No, you don't have to identity as non-binary to be cassgender. "Cassgender" is defined by a sense of apathy or indifference towards one's own gender. This identity can be held by people of any gender, whether they are binary (male or female) or non-binary.

How does Cassgender differ from post-modern genders (Pomogender), gender abolitism, gender-fuck/ genderpunk, or similar terms?

- Pomogender people strongly care about not identifying with any existing genders and feel beyond or past gender. Cass people do not particularly care about one's lack of genderidentity.

- Cassgender also says nothing about wanting to get rid of gender as a concept entirely, like gender abolitism does.

- Genderfuck is a culture that has nothing to do with one's actual gender. It's a punk movement that's about actively opposing gendernormativity, resisting gender norms and the like. It's possible to be cass and do genderfuckery at the same time, but the two are not related.

What pronouns should I use?

Cassgender people can use whatever pronouns they like. Pronouns and presentation are not equal to gender. It is possible to have preferred pronouns, or use multiple sets of pronouns, or just accept any pronouns other people use for you.

How is cassgender related to gender dysphoria?

Cassgender individuals may or may not experience gender dysphoria. The key aspect of cassgender is the perceived irrelevance of gender, which can be independent of feelings of dysphoria or comfort with one's body

Cassgender experiences:

(...can, but don't necessarily have to, include: )

some of those points don't really have anything to do with cassgender at all, but are often asked like: "Can I be X and also cass?"

Relatable story by Vilhart: https://youtu.be/hmKix-75dsg?si=F7QJuO-zpjoBt_k2

- Feelings of total apathy/ indifference towards your gender

- Feeling like your gender is an irrelevant part of your identity

- Just not caring about your gender altogether

- You place no value on your gender

- Being (partially-) genderless or agender

- You don't define yourself through gender

- Thinking: because of my AGAB or presentation, people see me as a girl/ boy, so I may as well just be that

- you say you're cis simply because it's safe, easy and comfortable

- "What's your gender/ pronouns?" "Meh, whatever."

- You don't understand gender or why gender and the right pronouns are so important to people

- You are understanding and supportive of other people's gender identity, but you just don't get it

- You don't instinctively know your gender

- You feel like it would be better to redefine gender and gender roles in culture

- You do not care what pronouns people use for you

- You do have a pronoun preference

- When describing yourself as a person, words like man or woman are not an important point on the list

- You can't find a good answer to: "I am X gender because..." that does not involve your body, appearance, or stereotypes

- You can relate to a gender to some degree, (e.g. cis, non-binary, trans, agender, demigenders), but don't find it important enough to need it acknowledged, or to want to socially or medically transition be seen as this gender etc.

- You're feeling a disconnect from gendered labels

- You're feeling like an impostor, or like you're not telling the whole truth when you're in men-only/ women-only groups

- You have looked up a lot of different genders, but find it difficult to fully relate to people in the communities, because they often feel very strongly about being this gender

- You feel exhausted if you have to conform to gender norms

- Feeling exhausted with gender in general

- You feel neither gender euphoria nor dysphoria

- You have gender/ body dysphoria

- If you suddenly woke up as the opposite sex, it would be a change, but ultimately it wouldn't really bother you

- You're cassgender because you want to be free from having to care and think any more about your gender

[mrslittletall]

As soon as video games started to have character creation, I always would make a female character to play with. Because I thought because I am a girl, I need to play as a girl. It would be weird to play as a guy as a girl. But also... those characters were never my self insert. I never wanted to play as me. My husband always just makes himself and gives his character his name, but I never gave her my name or my looks. I think once I named a character after myself after my husband prompted me to and it felt so WEIRD! That was not me, that was a character! I should have named her something else! Then when WoW came around, I discovered roleplaying. I created characters and I gave them backstories. But they still were all girls. Until I decided to give it a try and make a male character. Long story short, that one is one of my longest and most beloved OCs now. And since then... something in me... changed, I guess? I suddenly figured out that I can just make up some guy. But it still took a while. In the meantime I found a way to make my "self insert" work. I always called her "Hikari" (my real name means light and as the weeb I am I used the japanese word for light as nickname) but I always made her in a way that didn't look like me. Red hair, pretty face, only thing from me were the green eyes and I only chose them because they look so good with red hair. If you see me play as a "Hikari" that is my self insert, but I never feel that it is me. And Hikari never ever turns in an OC. That is just my avatar to play the game. Well, but since I created my first male WoW OC I was thinking... why do I always make female characters and they go nowhere? And then I tried to make more guys. And now we have Tempest. And I put Laurence into a bunch of different universes so that he is basically my OC of that universe. And then I made my Tarnished Tobias and while he still needs work, he has a story. And at the same time, I gave another woman character a chance and made Blaze and having a character that is not meant to be myself is so much more fun to me. And when I started FF14 I was like "Heck yeah, I am going to make a catboy RIGHT away" and even though I needed some time to figure him out, I am obsessed over this OC now. I don't even know where I want to go with this... but I think... my OCs and blorbos are a way for me to explore what being a man is like without being one myself? I don't think I am transmasc. I don't want to transition into a man at all. I love female clothing and presenting female. But... I often wish I could just change genders at will or grow a dick and basically be futanari... which is part of why I identify as demigirl under the non binary spectrum. I don't know... I think I just wanted to talk about what it means to me to have male OCs and why I don't like to self insert.

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

Gender Identity: The Latest Social Contagion - Andrew Doyle

One of my shortest-lived jobs was as a teacher at a school for girls near Sloane Square in London. I resigned after just two weeks because the headmistress was a religious zealot who had objected to me teaching a text which featured a gay character. In my resignation letter I explained that I wasn't prepared to work at a school which fostered such antediluvian attitudes. I stayed on to finish the term, but I was delighted when I eventually made my escape.

I had previously worked at a boys' school and I soon noticed that there were some broad differences that manifested in an all-female environment. One of the most concerning was that many of the girls were engaged in what can only be described as competitive starvation. During lunch duties, I was warned to keep an eye out for pupils who had taken just a single lettuce leaf from the salad bar. If I saw any girl doing so, I was told I must immediately intercept her and demand that she return and fill her plate. My first teaching post had been at a mixed-sex school in which cutting one's own skin was the fashion. We even had a visiting expert telling us how to encourage these pupils to hold ice cubes in their hands until they felt shooting pains as a substitute for the razor. I remember at the time thinking this wasn't the best advice, but I was too green to raise an objection. Besides, this speaker had spent a considerable part of the session reminiscing about a shepherd she had once counselled who had over the course of many months on the hillside, used a sharp wire to whittle his penis so that it eventually became forked. To this day I'm none the wiser as to the purpose of this anecdote.

But the shift from cutting to starvation was striking. At the former school, pupils were not refraining from food, and at the latter there were very few who were injuring themselves with blades. It was almost as though only one form of self-harm could predominate at any given time. And when a small group started doing it, the trend spread with remarkable rapidity. I hadn't seen an equivalent back when I was teaching boys.

And I've since learned that social contagions are especially common among teenage girls and that there are numerous historical precedents for this. I've written elsewhere about the Salem Witch Trials of 1692 in which a group of girls began seeing demons in the shadows and accusing members of their own community of being in league with the devil. Then there were the various dancing plagues of the Middle Ages which seemed to impact young women in particular.

In 1892, girls at a school in Germany began to involuntarily shake their hands whenever they performed writing exercises. And when I visited Sweden last year, I was told about a local village where during the medieval period, the girls all inexplicably began to limp.

It's perfectly clear that the latest social contagion to take hold in the western world is that of girls identifying out of their femaleness, either through claims that they are trans or non-binary. Whereas in 2012 there were only 250 referrals, mostly boys, to the NHS's Gender Identity Development Service, or GIDS, by 2021 the figure had risen to more than 5,000 mostly female patients.

Gender activists like to claim that this is simply the consequence of more people "coming out" as society becomes more tolerant. And at the same time, they insist that it's never been a worse time to be trans. Consistency is not their strong suit. Of course, there are no easy answers as to the explosion of this latest fad. But surely the proliferation of social media has something to do with it. Platforms such as TikTok are replete with activists explaining to teenagers that their feelings of confusion are probably evidence that they have been "born in the wrong body."

For pubescent girls who are uncomfortable with their physiological changes, as well as sudden unwanted male sexual attention, the prospect of identifying out of womanhood makes complete sense. These online peddlers have some snake oil to sell. And while a limping epidemic in a medieval village would be unlikely to spread far, social contagions cannot be so confined in the digital age.

Much of this is reminiscent of the recovered memory hysteria of the late 20th century when therapist cranks promoted the idea that most victims of sexual abuse had repressed their traumatic memories from childhood. It led to numerous cases of people imagining that they had been abused by parents and other family members. And many lives were ruined as a result. One of the key texts in this movement was "The Courage to Heal" by Ellen bass and Laura Davis, which made the astonishing and unevidenced claim that, quote, "if you are unable to remember any specific instances... but still have a feeling that something abusive happened to you, it probably did."

A common feature of social contagion is that they depend upon the elevation of intuition over material reality. Just as innocent family members were accused of sexual abuse because of feelings teased out by unscrupulous therapists, many girls are now being urged by online influencers to trust the evidence of their emotions and accept a misalignment between their body and their gendered soul.

We're not talking here about the handful of children who suffer from gender dysphoria, but rather healthy children who have been swept up in a temporary craze. Activists have been quick to demonize the entire notion of social contagion as a transphobic talking point, but the evidence for it is now pretty much indisputable.

The author of a recent review into pediatric gender treatment, Dame Hilary Cass, has recommended that schools stop the social transitioning of children. The Cass Interim Review had already pointed out that enabling pupils to adopt alternative names, pronouns and dress codes was, quote, "not a neutral act." And there is mounting evidence that such an approach consolidates a child's psychological conceptualization of herself as a member of the opposite sex.

While social transitioning is seen as compassionate, in reality it causes long-term harm. It would seem that teenage girls will always be prone to these social contagions, but some are more damaging than others. Whereas limping and dancing and trembling can be overcome, the lifelong impact of puberty blockers, cross- sex hormones and surgery will not be so transient.

Let's hope this particular hysteria soon goes the way of all the others.

==

The idea of a "gender identity" that's separate from and transcends sex - that is, biology - is as supernatural and magically thinking as the idea of an eternal Xian soul that transcends death.

We are not in our bodies. We are not separate from our biology. We are not ghosts inhabiting meat prisons. We cannot have "the wrong body." We are what our bodies do.

One of the most disconcerting things I've seen over the last few years is (some) atheists who laugh at the notion that some aspect of human existence transcends our human bodies, somehow embrace the equally magical notion that some aspect of human nature transcends human biology. Which means you believe in magical gender spirits. Get help.

[weighty-ghosts]

Meet Raina, my first OC that I created for an art collab on Instagram! Raina (pronounced ray-nah) is non-binary, as all their fellow fae folk are, but in the human world they identify as male and like to be called a pretty boy 🤭

They were born with dragonfly wings, although they’ve never really gotten the hang of flying, and a love of nature, although they truly cannot keep plants alive to save their life.

In their spare time Raina likes to lure attractive male humans to the Otherworld……and make them do their gardening. Some fae use their magical charm for nefarious reasons, but Raina just wants some free manual labour!! For the good of their garden!!!🪴🌷

So far all the dumb humans have been terrible at it. But maybe there’s a man with a green thumb who will come along and save Raina’s plants- and steal their heart 👀💚🧚🏼‍♂️

[zoryas-stuff]

What Is Gender To Me?

An explanation.

I was born a female. I will always identify with it for as long as I live. I will always identify with the struggles of a female, the pain of a female, the harassment of a female. However, I am not a woman.

I was not born male. I'll never identify as male. I'll never identify with the struggles of a male, the pain of a male, or the stigma of a male. I am not a male.

I am nonbinary. I am everything and nothing at the same time. I am nothing that anyone can comprehend. Not even myself. And yet, I can see myself in everything.

I am the dark green colors of the forest. The silhouette of a person in the night. I am the certain way a friend laughs. I am a certain short hairstyle seen on a particular person. This explanation always confused people.

The easiest thing to tell people is that I am a girl. That my pronouns are she/her, when they arent. The hardest thing to do is explain that I don't want to be a boy, either. That I'm just nothing. That I simply exist.

So here is a new explanation. One I recently said to a friend.

I feel like I'm floating through the empty void of space. The void is quiet. And calm. And peaceful. It's disconnected from reality. It's as if those on the spectrum of binary (male and female, for example), are in reality, and different dimension. And I am there too, next to them, but I'm transparent. As if the plane I'm on I'd slightly different than theirs.

And as I'm typing this out, as I read it back, maybe it's a much more complicated explanation than the first one. Maybe it makes less sense.

Maybe that's just me.

We are all complicated people. I am a complicated person. And maybe I present feminine. But that doesn't stop me from being apart of the quit void. Free from a gender stereotype that makes me feel hot inside.

[the-unicorn-nick]

Here is my version of the Polysexual Pride Flag. The three stripes go together to meet in the center to be an expression of all of the genders together that they are attracted to. Since Polysexual is an in between of Bisexual and Pansexual, I made this design an inbetween of the Bisexual flag and my Pansexual Flag.

Pink: Attraction to female-identified people. Green: Attraction to people who identify outside the traditional male-female binary. Blue: Attraction to male-identified people.

[junithelooperrrr]

Just non binary really

They/them, although i'm not too bothered

12! 16 now

That they do get out of there and it does ease up. And also to actually eat something because water just makes the hungry stomach ache worse

That my online friends were pressuring me into saying i'm non binary.

I don't know of many celebrities but i do love whoever the actor for Pollution in Good Omens is!

Just normally I guess, bringing it up in conversation.

"I'm fine with genderfluid - just don't get it on my shoes."

At least one but tbh? i just keep track of their pronouns and not so much their labels

my favorite lgbtq character is funnily enough every character i have ever taken an interest in even if they are not canonically lgbtq. funny how that works

lgbtq(+).

Just simple as "person who neither identifies as male nor female".

I like to draw. I couldn't think of anything else rn haha

I still mostly use my regular birth name irl but my online names just generally come to me randomly.

Not in a relationship but my good ex was like "cool, anyways". i honestly think that's a w

Anything's fine, i don't even mind people using gendered terms, i'm not very heavy on terms/pronouns

While labels can help you make sense of the experience, it's better to figure out what makes you happy than what exactly you are.

Just the regular non binary one or, if i feel like a silly goose, the evil one with a more bluish purple and a lime green instead of yellow.

Let the day go by. Having a plush or something nearby to comfort you can help but sometimes it's just A Day that you can't do anything with.

I don't follow many blogs so not really.

feminine but i would like to go more androgynous in some ways?

that i'm (usually) unapologetically myself, that i'm doing better than i was before, and that i feel comfortable being creative!

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Since over 400 of you agreed that it’s Nonbinary November, I decided to do something fun for my nonbinary kids and came up with this: 

22 Questions for Nonbinary November! 

1.Which labels do you use?

2.What are your pronouns?

3.How old were you when you came out to yourself as nonbinary?

4.What’s one thing you’d like to tell your younger self?

5.Is there a myth about nonbinary people that annoys you the most?

6.Is there a nonbinary celebrity you look up to?

7.If you’re out, how did you come out?

8.Is there a gender-related pun you like? 

9.Do you have friends who identify as nonbinary, too?

10.Do you have a favorite lgbt+ character?

11. Lgbt, lgbt+, lgbtqa+… which one do you usually use?

12. How do you explain the term “nonbinary” to people who have no idea what it means?

13.Tell us a fun fact about yourself (gender-related or random!) 

14.How did you find your name? 

15.If you’re in a relationship, how did your partner react to your coming-out?

16.Do you prefer partner, datemate, significant other or something else?

17.A piece of advice for questioning kids?

18.Which flag(s) do you use?

19.Any tips for bad days?

20.Do you have a favorite nonbinary blog on tumblr?

21.Feminine, masculine, androgynous - or none of those things?

22. What are your three favorite things about yourself?

If you’re on the nonbinary spectrum, you can copy those and answer them on your blog (and tag me!).You can do all at once or one a day. Feel free to skip any questions you don’t want to answer. 

I hope this will be a fun way for nonbinary people to share their stories and a way for others to learn more about the nonbinary community! <3 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

[luiandlui]

Curious facts LGBTIQ+

Origin of the term "LGBTIQ+": The acronym has evolved over time to include more identities. Initially, it was just "LGB" (lesbian, gay, and bisexual). Later, the "T" was added for transgender people, the "I" for intersex individuals, and the "Q" for those who identify as queer or are questioning their identity. The "+" sign represents the inclusion of other identities not explicitly mentioned.

The origin of Pride: Pride Month is celebrated in June to commemorate the Stonewall Riots, a turning point in the fight for LGBTIQ+ rights. In 1969, at the Stonewall Inn bar in New York, LGBTIQ+ people resisted a police raid, sparking protests that launched a global movement.

Rainbow flag: The LGBTIQ+ flag was created in 1978 by artist Gilbert Baker. It originally had eight colored stripes, each representing concepts like life, healing, the sun, and nature. The modern version has six stripes: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, and violet.

Countries recognizing same-sex marriage: As of 2024, over 30 countries have legalized same-sex marriage. The Netherlands was the first to do so in 2001. Latin America has also made progress, with Argentina and Mexico leading the way in the region.

Gender pronouns: Many people in the LGBTIQ+ community have promoted the use of inclusive pronouns, such as "they/them" in English or "elle" in Spanish, for individuals who do not strictly identify as male or female. Inclusive language is continuously evolving.

Historical figures: Throughout history, there have been figures who today would be considered part of the LGBTIQ+ community. For example, in Ancient Greece, same-sex relationships were common and socially accepted in certain contexts. Writers like Virginia Woolf and artists like Frida Kahlo also expressed their queer identity through their work.

Diverse gender identities in indigenous cultures: In many indigenous cultures of the Americas, such as the "Two-Spirit" people in Native American tribes, non-binary gender identities were recognized. These individuals often held important roles in society, such as spiritual leaders or mediators.

Cultural impact of the LGBTIQ+ community: The community has deeply influenced popular culture. In art, music, fashion, and film, figures like David Bowie, RuPaul, and Pedro Almodóvar have used their platforms to highlight sexual and gender diversity.

[writer59january13]

Lapsed contra dancer rediscovers his happy place

I tip figurative hat to the late Cathy Robertson, longtime (lifetime) Thomas Paine Unitarian Church member, who unwittingly and quite casually made mention of contra dancing, which inopportunely, inextricably, and inaccurately linkedin to The Contras who were various United States backed and funded right-wing rebel groups that were active from 1979 to 1990 in opposition to the Marxist Sandinista Junta of National Reconstruction Government in Nicaragua, which had come to power in 1979 following the Nicaraguan Revolution. After a hiatus of scores of years, I in tandem with the missus returned to a venue March 14th, 2024 which Thursday night dances currently held at Commodore John Barry Arts and Cultural Center 6815 Emlen Street, Philadelphia, PA 19119 that not only served as palliative per bashfulness, but even remedied yours truly resigned himself living social as a Norwegian bachelor farmer. Life as a high school wallflower served me

analogous as The Idler Wheel Is Wiser Than the Driver of the Screw and Whipping Cords Will Serve You More Than Ropes Will Ever Do without any budding female friendships

until lo… a gent tulle mandate from my late mother uprooted me

from mein kampf

familiar bedrock level road terrain (analogous regarding how a duck takes to water - meaning I identified said aerobic rather cardiovascular workout as an inherent quick study), which venue offered a groundswell of interpersonal opportunities (preferably with persons of female gender)

to blossom forth

into golden sterling resplendent rod of natural equipoise (this an unbiased opinion) and balance with freestyle élan begetting improvisational swinging motions unchained from the moors of formality and lit figurative Saint Elmo’s Sesame Street fiery dance allowing, enabling and providing

this shy awkward self

during his young (emerging) adulthood to cast away four ever thy self embroidered handsome straight as an arrow naturally high as a kite young guy buzzing like a yellow jacket, thus liberating spontaneity that je ne sais quoi joie vivre clamoring headlong toward venus

from healthy pistol packing

overflowing bin laden well nigh testosterone erupting male member toward opposite gender, whereby bravado donned as key to hoe field of whet dreams fostering initial albeit late blooming roll in the hay hormonally rooted rutting squeal. Back in the day, (when genders binary) with nary a care in the webbed wide world I ate, breathed and lived for contra dancing experiencing social anxiety and profusely sweaty palms every mile of the way

(twenty door to door dash)

from (at that time) 324 Level Road to then designated site at Summit Presbyterian Church 6757 Greene Street, Philadelphia, PA 19119, where love's labor lost found yours truly engaged in pitched losing battles

introducing yours truly

(even after expiating my carnal sins)

to romantic liabilities incurred while displaying comedy of errors, when risking a overtures to ask an attractive woman to be my partner not only for one dance, but also to explore the parameters of fun two people can experience while wearing clothes.

[7azrael7]

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Hello! you can call me Azrael or All-Seeing.

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I use He/They/It.

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I enjoy art, needle felting, editing, gaming, writing and baking.

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I will occasionally curse so please keep that in mind. I will tag when I do.

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I am pansexual, asexual and Demi-Romantic. (Turns out I was wrong and I'm actually Demi- thanks to my friend's oc who was based off Me-)

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I might randomly talk about my OC's or things I'm doing. Maybe I might post my art if I want to.

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I have autism and ADHD. So please be patient if I don't understand certain things.

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Also, go say hello to my dearest friend @gamernerdwrites!!! They write and actually post about it!!

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I hyperfixate on a lot of things. So I might mention or talk about those. Or reblog them.

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Characters you can ask about! (+Pronouns, what they identify as and sexualities.)

♦️: Azrael (He/They/It. Transmasc, Pansexual, Demi-Romantic, Asexual.)

♥️: Uriel (He/Him. Male, Bisexual.)

♣️: Da (She/They. Female, lesbian.)

♠️: Ar (She/Her. Trans female, Bisexual.)

🥀: Am (He/Him. Male, Pansexual, asexual.)

🐟: Ch (She/Her. Female, Bisexual.)

✝️: Azz (He/They. Male, questioning.)

❄️: Os (She/They. Female, Bisexual.)

💡: Li (He/Him. Male, Bi-Curious.)

🔥: Sh (Mostly She/Her. Genderfluid, Bisexual, Demi-Romantic.)

⏱️: Ti (He/They. Male, Aroace.)

⭐: Zo (She/Her. Female, Pansexual, Asexual.)

🦌: Bi (She/They. Female, Bisexual.)

🦈: Ac (He/It. Male, Questioning.)

🦚: Ve (She/Her. Female, lesbian.)

🐂: Su (He/Them. Male, Gay.)

🦊: Fi (She/Her. Female, lesbian.)

♊: Ge/In (They/Zem for Ge, They/Zer for In. Non-binary for both, Bisexual for both.) [I recommend adding the Ge or In if you ask about them.]

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Ocs ask blogs: @little-bee-demon @devilish-detective-storm

My lovely wife: @gamernerdwrites

My lovely wife's oc blog: @emerald-green-girl

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[nintendeez]

Nintendo (Unexpectedly) Leads the Way

Nintendo, the beloved gaming titan, synonymous with franchises like Mario and Zelda, is a household name in many regions across the world. With their family-friendly image and emphasis on wholesome fun, they have captivated several generations of gamers over the years.

Lately, Nintendo has taken a turn that is refreshing to see unfold before our very eyes. In recent years, Nintendo has been making strides towards inclusivity and diversity in their games more than ever before — it’s as if Link finally took off his green cap to reveal an ally pin underneath! This change can be witnessed both within their gameplay mechanics as well as character representation; from Animal Crossing New Horizons allowing players complete control over gender presentation down to facial features right up until Breath of the Wild featuring characters who defy binary stereotypes. It also must be noted that moving past Wii era motion controls has improved accessibility for differently abled users as well.

Nintendo’s coziest venture, Animal Crossing: New Horizons, is a shining example of their commitment to inclusivity. This whimsical life simulator takes place on an idyllic island where players can create their own personalized avatars and live out their fantasy lives. Gone are the days of being confined by binary gender choices; now, the tailoring options allow for complete control over character presentation. Players can express themselves in whatever way feels most authentic without fear or judgment from society at large- limited only by their imaginations!

Hyrule Warriors also includes some refreshingly nuanced portrayals of gender identity through its characters such as Linkle who defies traditional stereotypes while providing a positive role model for gamers everywhere. By not adhering to patriarchal roles set forth by past installments in this beloved series a space is made for players across all spectrums and identities to feel seen within mainstream gaming narratives.

Nintendo’s progressive strides forward in representation and inclusivity stand out as a beacon of hope in an industry that has often been mired by the swampy undertones of gaming culture. Though this subculture has long been marred by gatekeeping, sexism, and bigotry, Nintendo’s efforts are like a breath of fresh air. For far too long, the gaming community has catered to a narrow demographic — straight white men who identify as male. However, Nintendo is showing that there is another way forward; one where everyone can feel welcome regardless of their background or identity. It is almost ironic that a family-friendly company has become the standard bearer for inclusivity, but the games speak for themselves.

This positive shift is crucial because it not only reflects but also shapes our society at large. The medium we consume helps form our perceptions about what’s normal or abnormal — these portrayals seep into our subconscious mind until they become part & parcel with how we think about others around us (and even ourselves). By featuring diverse characters and storylines within their games, Nintendo sends a powerful message: all are welcome here!

In the face of political upheaval and those who would prefer we cower in fear, it’s more important than ever to be true to ourselves. When confronted with rivals that champion archaic notions like conversion therapy or slavery erasure, we must remember: there is power in being authentically you! Like Toad from Super Mario Bros., we may be small but mighty when united; our plucky spirits cannot be crushed by even the most formidable foe. And while some lawmakers rush headlong into a past where prejudice ran rampant Nintendo reminds us that life’s truest treasures lie waiting just ahead if only we press onward together hand-in-hand.

To those who may not yet agree with the veracity of this vision, I implore you to draw inspiration from the Triforce itself. Courage is needed most when it’s hardest to find; wisdom lies in understanding others’ truths may differ from your own; and above all else, the power gained from empathy will guide every one of us home. Just as Link braved the depths of dungeons past for his friends and foes alike �� so too must we extend our hands across party lines (and console aisles) towards camaraderie found only through common ground.

Dismissing harmful rhetoric doesn’t mean losing yourself but rather reclaiming what makes gaming great- coming together under the banner of harmless (or even mindless,) fun.