#I hope you like this Ally :)

[chloesimaginationthings]

Can’t spell “Five nights at Freddy’s” without GAY

(Based off @/flashcs5 post)

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[loucifersbitch]

bucktommy + 29

29. sweat

The heatwave terrorizing LA had Tommy wishing he'd chosen an indoor hobby for the day. His gym had AC. So did his little art studio. Even sitting in bed reading would've been a better choice.

Instead, he was leaning under the hood of Evan's Jeep, sweat pouring from his hairline, down his cheeks, and onto the engine where it evaporated almost immediately.

"What's the diagnosis, Mechanic Man?" Evan asked, walking up next to him to lean against the bumper, a glass of lemonade in hand.

Tommy sighed, grabbing the rag out of his back pocket to wipe at his face and greasy hands.

"Your exhaust manifold is cracked. I can replace it, but I'll need to order the parts. It'll probably take a week or so," he explained, nodding gratefully when Evan handed over the glass.

"Good thing I know a great mechanic," Evan smirked. "Not sure I'll have the money right away. Any ideas for other ways I could pay you back?" He grabbed Tommy's waist, pulling them flush together as he batted his eyelashes.

Tommy watched as a bead of sweat made its way down the side of Evan's face, resisting the urge to lick it away.

"I can think of a thing or two," he said, voice dropping slightly. He leaned in toward Evan, stopping just before their lips met. "Starting with the pile of dishes in the sink."

He backed away, turning to head for the shower and smiling at Evan's indignant squawk.

Send me a number and I’ll write a micro story using the word or phrase

[beepboopappreciation]

AM + P03 = .... 3AM?

[emerdoodls]

hiiiiii aftg fandom... pls take my offering of allison reynolds fanart

[allyheart707]

My attack for @brightonstudios !! I wanted to make a little animation for you too! And remembering this audio I immediately made myself depressed at the thought of normal ROTTMNT universe, where Rocko is all alone :(((

SO! I thought I might try and make you depressed about that realization as well!!

[theriacballad]

They're done!!!

Gosh, I've been working all day on these two, but they are finally done! Humanized AM and HAL :]!

[binomaly]

I’m ngl y’all I feel so bad for Cassandra. Imagine having your image entirely remade and reborn and being so eager to help and the cleric who literally reshaped you wants absolutely nothing to do with you. I’d be sick

[constarlations]

Pokémon Timeskip Series: Champion Dawn 🌸❄️

Known as Sinnoh’s Ice Queen, Dawn is best known for her intimidating yet caring nature. She’s fierce and calculating, never leaving any room for error especially when it comes to battling. On her off days you can find her in the contest hall, a hobby she picked up from her mother, or in the Battle Frontier/Pokémon Lab to catch up with her best friends. It is said she was recently engaged to a certain johto boy (Ethan. It’s Ethan.) however they will not publicly revealed their plans for the wedding as of yet

Made a timeskip adult champion Dawn design a while back! It’s still my favorite of my timeskip series hehehe I hope you enjoy!

Twitter link

[cautionwetfloor-png]

here to spread my saikai agenda!! so if you’re up to it maybe you can draw Saiki x Kaido or just Saiki and Kaido being buds :3

guys ..

cant even lie anon, this was surprisingly difficult to draw. i couldnt really figure out how theyd be partners, so i hope ive captured how they act .. the besties and sometimes boyfriends ...

+ w/o text

[accirax]

Could you please draw Ally and Tess sitting on Hunter's shoulders like he's their personal steed?

[curioscurio]

not to be a freak but I think when Trump loses he will either kill himself or Putin will let loose the real assasins. it's just the smart move like he knows too much and he's losing all the power he used to have lol. like if I were putin I'd be worried about what kind of information a desperate man like Trump is willing to surrender once he's caught 👀

[iwieldthesword]

Listen, I’m sure some other Jews will disagree with me but I’m always uncomfortable when gentiles refer to themselves as a goy/goyim

Like first of all, they almost always get it wrong grammatically (“I’m a goyim”), but it also doesn’t make that much sense culturally. “Goyim” translates to “nations” which historically was used for both Jews and gentiles before becoming a word that specifically means in “people from other nations/cultures” or simply “not-us”. It’s an in-word to describe an out group. So it doesn’t really track to call yourself “person from not-our culture” because you’re not part of the “our”.

Secondly, it’s weird because it’s just not your word. It’s very specifically Jewish, it’s a Jewish word, so why are y’all tripping over yourselves to use it when gentile is much more neutral? Like I’m betting most non-Hispanic white Americans would probably not call themselves gringos, so it’s hard to not see gentiles being so into it as an offspring of “haha, Yiddish word funny” that happens in American English, or the desperate need for leftist gentiles to prove that they’re ~in on~ Jewish culture (often without examining their internalized antisemitism but I digress). It’s definitely not cultural appropriation, but it is very weird to me.

And that’s the thing where tbh a gentile calling themselves a goy signals to me that they’re actually not keyed in to being an ally to Jews. Because while y’all can call yourselves whatever with impunity, Jews regularly face overt antisemitism for using the word goy despite it being our own fucking word. See: goy is a slur. See: Jews have sneaky secret words for us. See: the goyim know. It’s fucking loaded and sometimes actively dangerous for us—growing up in an antisemitic part of the word, my sister and I were fully taught not to use the word goy around gentiles because of how easily it was used as justification for antisemitism. So gentiles using “goy” as if it’s a cute word that shows how ~in~ they are with Jewish culture actually tells me that they don’t know much about historic or current antisemitism, or that they’re uninterested in unpacking their privilege to as non-Jews. Idk, it just feels like a slap in the face for gentiles to hold up a banner that says “I can use your language/culture more openly than you can because I won’t face horrific violence for it” and then like… expect extra special ally points for it.

Just say gentile. It means the same thing, it doesn’t come with baggage and you’re less likely to embarrass yourself using it incorrectly.

[two-entire-bits]

I have a confession. I do not care for the soc boys. I'm sure they have very interesting character traits and lore the actors and fandom have come up with and that is so fun and great and I know none of it and I am perfectly content with that. Shout out to all my mutuals who love the soc boys I hope you are having fun with your Ken dolls but I will not be joining you. keep slaying.

[shaadowmilkcookie]

I love ur oc

OIJSNFKDL;ALKFJNG'DKNJLHG????????????????????????????????????????? OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH MY GOD OH MY GOD HELLOOOOO PRETTTY LITTLE BLUE PRINCE HWO I HATE. SO DEARLY. SO MUHC. right in my inbox... oh my gawd.. oHHH MY GAWD u draw him so nice it makes me MAD bc he does not DESERVE this. 5 billion nukes to his location!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[viiinz]

yesterday was A Lot, but one of the funnier parts was definitely my mom telling me in earnest that she thinks I've "deluded" myself into being transgender by "reading too much Dostoyevsky"