#I hope it doesn’t come across that way

[abluishhue]

Here are my system opinions. Believe them, or don’t. I’m not forcing you to do anything! Just hear me out here.

(If you agree though….. wanna be moots? 🥺)

-as long as someone isn’t hurting themselves or others, they’re valid. Let them live. Dont invalidate their lived experience just because you have personal opinions. Noones hurting you by joking around with their system. Noones hurting you when they self soothe by spending time innerworld. Noones hurting you by dating/being close in system. It’s a way to connect with yourself. It’s a way to get closer to yourself. It’s a way to heal. It’s been a big help in exploring ourself after the sexual trauma we’ve experienced. We’ve made leaps and bounds in healing by being close. It’s not roleplay, it’s about caring about ourselves. Self love is so important while healing. Everyone handles it differently. Also m@starbation exists. Is that not self love? Is that not getting closer to yourself and understanding your body on a personal level? Just because you don’t understand something someone else experiences, doesn’t mean you can bring them down and invalidate them for it. I mean, you totally can. It’s just completely anti-healing, rude, and unnecessary.

-endos are NOT d.i.d systems. There are terms for people who kin and people who roleplay. There are communities for you. But if you don’t have repeated and severe childhood trauma, please don’t say you’re a part of our community. It’s hard for us to have respect for you when you invalidate our exclusively trauma based disorder by claiming you have the disorder, but not the trauma. This isn’t a fun club, it’s a serious disorder. I don’t think systems Should be as mean to you as they are, but they’re valid in asking that you respect our wishes that you dont intrude into our community without having trauma. If you find that you have trauma later, maybe you were in denial, at that point, we will welcome you with open arms. But until then, or if that’s not the case, please stay in the Kin or rp community. D.i.d is serious. It’s a trauma disorder that develops in childhood. It’s painful to have our trauma be invalidated. Please understand. (And if it’s really necessary, you can create your own term completely separate from dissociative identity disorder. The definition for DID will always be “trauma based disorder developed in childhood.” Maybe you can say you have…. A non-trauma based manually chosen personality disorder. NTMCPD. That’s a mouthful lmao IDK just don’t say you have this trauma disorder if you don’t, please, that’s all we ask.)

-everyone heals differently. Just like you can’t base the autism experience off of 10 white autistic boys, you can’t base the D.I.D experience off of 10 people with D.I.D. Or 100. Or 1000. Everyone is different. Every trauma is different, every mental reaction will be different. Everyone will handle it differently. Everyone will cope differently. As long as you’re being as safe as possible, and you aren’t intruding on others lives or harming others, you’re valid. Do what makes you happy. Remember! Your intentions and your words matter, and healing should be your end goal, as is the case for most, but how you’ll get there and how you see being “fully healed” will be different. Just communicate with your system. Be kind and patient with yourself, even the meanest parts. At the end of the day, you were a child who went through something horrible. You just need attention, love, and care. That’s why you’re here. That’s why your system is here. To protect you. Make sure you’re protecting it too.

(With consent of course👉) Kiss your favorite alter on the lips right now. Go on, do it. Kiss em square on the lips. /hj Don’t you feel better? Doesn’t that make you smile? THATS what matters. The dissociation is there to distract you from trauma. The amnesia is there to make you forget the trauma. The parts of you are there to hold on to trauma memories. And YOU are there to live life to its fullest. You’re there to smile, to laugh, to love. However you get there, your system worked so hard to make sure you could see it. Kiss YOURSELF on the lips, RN. (Again, with consent lol)

We aren’t here to suffer. We’re here to survive and THRIVE despite the trauma we faced. We’re here to LIVE.

And however you live is completely valid. (As long as you’re being safe to yourself and others!!!!!!!!!!!!)

I love y’all/plat. I hope you sleep well tonight and today is easy.

I just had to get this off my chest. “Syscourse” is so negative. We deal with enough of that without our community infighting. Let’s just be chill and have our own experiences, okay? Okay 🫶🏻

-G💛 & Justin🖤

[kataracy]

Kataang Week 2024 DAY 1 // Cultural Sharing

“I’m nervous. Am I doing okay?”

“You’re doing amazing Sweetie.”

[swordmaid]

i am wide awake thinking about that post canon jb au again when I should be sleeping …!!! such is the nature of the jbrainrot…

[lazzarella]

Didn’t even know who Dunk was at the beginning of the year*, but apparently I’m already willing to defend this boy's acting with my dying breath, so I’m glad I’ve seen so many positive comments about his acting in THK!

I am absolutely loving his performance as Style (note: I’ve enjoyed his acting before this—see above re defending) and, yeah, I’m happy so many other people are too

[strawbubbysugar]

just started reading bethroned and nothing against you at all, but whats the point of referring to the reader as 'they' when they're clearly written as a girl? again, nothing against you, its just disappointing to read something hoping for gender neutral terms the whole story and its very specifically gendered. !!the story and writing is fantastic!! just wish it was more gender neutral.

As the author I don’t personally believe they are written as a ‘girl’. As someone who is nonbinary themselves and presents very femininely, I don’t think the way someone chooses to dress or behave affects their gender. I don’t go into writing them imagining any specific gender, I write them imagining their personality. You could very easily exchange them out for a prince rather than a princess by just changing the word princess to prince.

Also, I’m fairly certain the only gendered term I use for them is ‘princess’, but I could be wrong

[fumifooms]

What do you think of Lamari (Laios and Namari)? Both as a ship and the relationship between the two.

I don’t like it sorry broski 😔 Seeing them interacting in ep 9 again made me see the appeal more, it’s cute how they interact, how they trust each other’s abilities and judgement! But ship wise…… I can’t. I’ve been seeing cute fanart of them around though, and I know a few people on discord that like them too. Like hmmm I guess I can see the appeal in the dynamic even if it doesn’t grab me but I can’t form a narrative for them… Usually I need both to truly get into a ship, a dynamic I find fun or interesting + some sort of progression and impact it’d leave on the characters, I don’t really see the character/relationship arc that’d happen, or at least not one eventful enough for me. When it comes to how I think their relationship is during canon, I see it as being professional and hinting at maybe friends, a neutral rather than negative thing mind you.

With Laios, well I’ve spoken about his character and arc before a bunch, but with Namari the part that interests me most is the whole exile thing, how she works hard to fit in both with keeping a good work reputation and shaving, for example, and how she’s not all that good with it because of presumably her bold personality... Because of this and more, and spoilers but I’ve planning on making a rarepair post about it for a while, I like shipping her with Toshiro mainly. I think that she balances out his doormat tendency but his cool attitude would be soothing and grounding and- Well gdbdgdg you see how it is. And to a certain extent I can see why people would want to apply the same logic to lamari, but… I don’t even think Namari and Laios would be able to bond over both being foreigners much tbh, I feel like Laios would sort of remain an odd mystery to her and though they could connect in a weird roundabout way I don’t think they’d exactly understand each other— and see this is the part of lamari appeal I get, the sort of tentative tension of "oh you actually respect me. That feels… Rare. And nice." Thouuugh like I was saying to be fair, it’s true Laios also tries and fails to fit in so that could be an interesting angle to go at it with. I think Namari wants stability and I just don’t really think it complements Laios well. I think trust’s the most important thing with Laios so on his side him liking her enough to be interested or open to a relationship I could see, though in a kinda mild and dry way imo… Like with Laios especially when defining how he and someone fall in love, there are sort of two modes right, and of course these coexist to some degree, but there’s Laios being his partner’s silly goober, and there’s Laios being very mature, more of his subdued stoic but composed self, all king-like, the more like connecting through meaningful conversations side. And idk how to put it into words but with lamari, I feel like Namari being paired with him doesn’t give a fresh spin on the former, and with the latter I feel like they’d always keep missing each other halfway communication wise, I don’t see them ever getting to that level where they deeply intuitively know and understand each other and how they work, maybe Laios -> Namari yes but Namari -> Laios I don’t see it, like I said I think it’d remain like, a mystery that nags at her and she might feel attracted if anything, but I can’t see them as more than casually dating idkk idk.

Namari has that fun ‘gets fired up about what odd things Laios is doing and reigns him back in’ dynamic but it’s something that literally so many other characters have too. I’m not knee deep into Namari yet so who knows maybe I have a wrong angle, but I did start giving her some thoughts bc I have a fic I have in mind for toshimari I wanna do. But yes it’s cute how protective she can get even if it’s shouty or tough love, like how she looks out for Laios’ equipment and for him not to get scammed, or brings in Toshiro here in the convo because she doesn’t want Toshiro to do his conflict avoidance thing and not stand up for himself & stay in the party even if it sucks hah. That bold borderline rude protective personality of hers with that awkwardness with intimacy/non-professional relationships is what’s unique to her I think, but yeah the laios & namari duo strikes me as strangely distant yet strangely interested coworkers who exhange glances over the cashier desk but personally I can’t see myself doing anything with that.

I’m not here to say it’s a bad ship or anything obviously! It just really doesn’t call to me personally and I don’t see stuff with them that I’d find interesting to analyze, if anything it’d involve the wider party a lot. I do want to make a masterpost on Laios’ career history and the old members of his party so I might analyze how Namari and he interact in those pre-canon comics idk. But yeahh like I find nothing to dig deeper at personally, you could make cute fics of them hinting at interest between the two, if Laios went to get drinks with her at a tavern etc etc, but all I see with them is just what canon straightforwardly showed us and I don’t get the urge to explore the possibility of them at all.

Sorry to disappoint, but yeah I won’t be a good source of lamari content or thoughts. I have wayy too many drafts I actually want to get out so I’ll be storing further Laios & Namari analysis for a big maybe, one day. I feel so bad I really hate to be negative at all and as a fellow rareshipper I send u my best wishes truly, good luck y’all deserve fellow stans and content. Feel free to leave pro-lamari arguments in the comments or reblogs if you want idm but preferably not asks (and just don’t be aggressive & don’t expect me to respond/react 🫶) like truly this post isn’t meant as a diss but anon asked me about my personal thoughts so… I love youuu lamaris hope y’all thrive 🙇🙇

Trying to think of crumbs and it’s true she blushed when she saw him in his cape at the end so y’all got that W. Namari having a thing for tallmen is so real

Edit: oh she went with him for equipment shopping… Ok that’s cute

[velmashaircut]

When I first began reading/ watching OPM I use to really, really hate Tatsumaki. She was probably my least favourite character from the main cast for over a year. I tried to hide it in my posts but I despised her.

Even back then I knew why, Tatsumaki reminded me of my older sister who at the time I did not have a great relationship with. Not only would I say Tatsumaki has my sisters personality and motivations amplified to the extreme, but my sister was seen as ‘better’ by everyone around me, or at least it felt like that to me. My sister obviously isn’t an esper prodigy but she is seen as smarter, prettier, more likeable you know the drill. The Psychic sisters arc was probably one of my least favourite arcs unsurprisingly, I can understand Fubuki’s feelings towards her sister completely. You would think this would make me like Fubuki …but back then I didn’t like her that much either lmao.

The manga, especially the chapters for the monster association arc, did a great job of changing my perspective of Tatsumaki. I can see why she’s the way she is and even if I disagree with her methods I do like her character now, I prefer her to Fubuki. I used to hate webcomic counterpart as well but ever since the mangas MA and psychic sisters arc I like her webcomic self also.

The relationship improvement with my sister played a part in this as well. My sister wanted to make sure I could stand in my own two feet but she went about it the wrong way, which was what Tatsumaki also did. So understanding my sisters motivations and the manga chapters made me understand and like Tatsumaki more.

[ninyard]

hi!!!! do you have any tips or guides are writing socmed au stuff?

I’ll be honest, I don’t know how much I can answer this without getting into my personal likes/dislikes in posts, and how I like my own things to be made, because I don’t want anyone to think the way they do things is “wrong” or “bad” when it’s just not my personal taste. Does that make sense?

I’ve tried to answer this a couple times but it keeps veering into this is how I make them, and what I personally think makes my posts/other posts ““good”” instead of like tips on how to make it your own. I don’t think there’s a blueprint for how to make them, I just have a blueprint for how I do em.

I don’t want to come across like I view my things as the baseline or anything and that’s mostly why I’m hesitant to answer this with tips/guides. Because I don’t know how other people make em, you know? I can just scroll past anything I don’t like and that’s fine. But if I give out tips, and somebody does it differently, I don’t want it to seem like I’m attacking their posts or the way they make them. I can’t really say “this is how you do it” because so many people do it differently. Some things I do personally on my posts are just to my own taste because that’s how I enjoy socmed posts, and the things I think are “tips” are just really my personal opinions.

I guess what I’m trying to say is I don’t really know how to give tips for that kind of thing - it doesn’t really feel the same as writing tips, or something like that, for example. If you have a more specific question on making them, maybe I’d be able to answer it better, but unfortunately I’m not sure exactly what advice to give you! Find a tweet generator, have fun!! Do it for the right reasons!!!

Maybe I’ve made this ask into a bigger deal than it needs to be, but it’s been sitting written and rewritten in my drafts because I’ve felt too bad to post it with a bullet pointed list of tips n tricks ahhhhh

<3

[the-casbah-way]

What’s your opinion on the English

[apoemadaykeepsthehoesaway]

How Do I Love Thee?

-Wilfred Owen (1893-1918)

I cannot woo thee as the lion his mate,

With proud parade and fierce prestige of presence;

Nor thy fleet fancy may I captivate

With pastoral attitudes in flowery pleasance;

Nor will I kneeling court thee with sedate

And comfortable plans of husbandhood;

Nor file before thee as a candidate….

I cannot woo thee as a lover would.

~

To wrest thy hand from rivals, iron-gloved,

Or cheat them by a craft, I am not clever.

But I do love thee even as Shakespeare loved,

Most gently wild, and desperately for ever,

Full-hearted, grave, and manfully in vain,

With thought, high pain, and ever vaster pain.

[vaciena]

Can I have a hug

[fandomsoda]

Most of my friends have normal friend vibes. And then some of y’all it feels like I’ve unofficially adopted-

Shout out to my “kids” @karineverse and @skeletal-storm as well as anyone else who wants me to adopt them. /lh /silly

[tariah23]

ur tags on that kenjaku post… oh my god you saw that too? i was truly horrified

YEAH… I saw that shit, I hate stsg so much lmfaooo. It’s so obvious that they want Getou to be the “girl,” so badly. He’s getting the treatment of every dark haired best friend in a popular shounen 🚶🏾‍♀️. He’s too good of a character for this!

[sharingresourcesforpalestine]

you know, I feel like, as little money as I have, I still haven’t put into perspective how much I have that could still be of use. I’m not so poor that I can’t make a difference. I can still buy a meal if I go out. I can buy a trinket. I’m not so poor or struggling with life that I don’t have food in my stomach and a place to sleep. Donating like I have this week has me wanting to do something that I hope many others are already doing. For every cent I would have spent for myself, on groceries, deliveries, gifts, etcetera (beyond the strikes where I am not spending money on anything but Palestinian causes) I will donate equal or greater that amount to Palestine. Because if I have money for me, I should have money for others. This is not me setting myself on fire to keep others warm, I know I would be of no use long term if I destroyed myself by going entirely broke with no way to survive myself. This is considering things beyond medical bills and life expenses that I need to keep going. When I count groceries, it’s things like when I use Instacart bc I can’t go out, because even though I don’t have a means of transportation, delivery is a luxury and if I can afford to pay for that, I can afford to donate. If I buy something non-essential like some snacks or the like, I have to match it with a donation. Because if I can afford to buy that, I can afford to donate. And just due to the nature of being a reminder, every time I get my period I’m going to donate to sanitary products for Palestine, because while pads are an essential product, donating even a little bit towards helping others get even the opportunity to get the same access as I do is an important reminder. There’s $5 donations available for those, and that’s about the cost of an average subscription I would be able to afford— it won’t buy a whole kit, but it will still put money towards that goal. I may not be able to do all the good the world needs, but the world needs all the good that I can do. As much as I can spare, I will donate. I only wish I could do more.

[cuteniaarts]

I’ve been in a Mermaid AU kind of mood lately :)

[foxgloveinspace]

Hulloooo! I just restarted my island last week! It's my personal nightmare currently but it'll get there. How have you been?

I’ve been pretty good! This weeks been a bit of a time cause I had cold that just completely zapped all my energy, but other then that, I’ve been doin pretty ok. Nothing to stressful or crazy and nothing too like.. exciting to talk about I guess, lol.

Hmmm, I think the most exciting thing that has happened is that I drove home from ‘the big city’ and I even drove in it, so like…. That was a bit crazy! Slowly getting there on the driving thing lmao.

I’m both really excited about starting over my ac island and like. Nervous lmao. I never really got very far in decorating it tho, so I’m looking forward to a completely fresh slate with it!

How about you? Anything cool, or just acnh (nothing wrong with that if it’s the answer tho 🥰).