#I have great friends

[yuseirra]

My friend hasn't really picked up onk for a long time (I think they've read up to vol. 10 or so and they say they're going to read it when the manga reaches its completion. They're WISE) but they know I've been picking up on it lately because I told them the songs for S2 were really good!

They texted me today asking "I've been listening to Mephisto- did Ai and her bf break up when they were just about to become happy together? In that case, this is so cruel."

with no other context and I was really surprised

YEAH... coming to think of it, that is actually true!! But how did they find out??? They're SHARP???

Then again, that song does have that sort of vibe

[antvnger]

Ant Mun, if you had the power to choose one person you have met on here and protect them, who and why? If you want to give top 5 that would be okay?

((Definitely top 5 because I can’t just pick one. There’s more than one I want to hug and protect. Heck, I don’t know if I can keep it to just 5 but I’ll try.

@midnightkens

@frecklystars

@manymusesbym

@strxngetimes

@stargazingcarol

I really could continue, but these are the top 5. I just love them very much, and I think they deserve the world. I want to wrap them all in a weighted blanket, give them their favorite snack, give them a hug, and tell them how amazing they are.))

[mugco]

smile like you mean it 🎶

[just-a-mod]

it is my birthday uwu

some birthday art feat my partner Neos

[fairytail-multishipper]

@fairy-serigala made these for me for my birthday! Thank you, Jaci!

[jellyfishandry]

Man... 😭

[crazydreamercycle]

I asked a friend for a random thing to doodle and was told "someone holding a human heart"

[william-austin]

the groupchat I have with my friends is fucking chaos because last night at 10pm I baked a whole ass chocolate cake, my friend (A) finds out that an avocado is a fruit, A also finds out what three K's means, my other friend (M) spams lyrics from big juicy, I summoned beetlejuice and then texted my gf to tell her to open the groupchat because she'd been gone that whole time, and then my gf joins and gets mad at the other two cause they sent 113 messages total from this one gc 😭

[super-oc-creator]

☄️ for Ciya?

People often assume Xiya isn't smart because of the dumb blonde cheerleading stereotype, but that couldn't be further from the truth. She is my spiderverse original character, so obviously she is a brilliant chemist. Also people assume just because she is a cheer leader she is fearless, but that isn't true either, she actually quit cheer leading after she got bit, and is very shy, traumatized and insecure. One of the only things that is assumed about her at first glace that ends up being true is yes she is clingy and yes she and Faye are dating @bitter-goodbyes

[bookgeekgrrl]

sometimes the mortifying ordeal of being known leads to some really great gifts

[tittyinfinity]

I was hanging out at the karaoke bar, chatting with a beautiful woman, and we were really hitting it off. I threw a couple of flirtatious comments her way. She giggled nervously, but abruptly stopped and looked at the floor.

She told me that she was too nervous to hit on people because she's trans and worries that people will view her as a predator and that she might get hurt.

My heart sank. I let her know that she could hit on me in whatever way she wanted and I would LOVE it. We spent the rest of the night hanging out and flirting. We ended up making out. It was great.

But I can't stop thinking about how that wasn't the first time a trans woman has said that to me. About how unsafe it is for some women that they feel the need to give out fucking disclaimers to have normal interactions with people.

We have GOT to make the world a safer place for trans women. It pisses me off that there are men at the bar who are openly predatory towards me without fear of consequence, yet a trans woman is too scared to even fucking call me pretty. And that's because she IS more likely to face worse consequences for lesser things! Like what the fuck!

You need to always check on your internalized biases. Being queer yourself doesn't absolve you of transmisogynistic thoughts and behaviors. Being bi/pansexual doesn't mean you don't hold those biases either! If you feel differently about a trans woman hitting on you than you feel about a cis woman or a man hitting on you, you need to evaluate that.

Trans women, I love you so fucking much. You should be able to express attraction and love as freely as everyone else. I hope you can always feel safe around me. And I'll never stop fighting until you can feel safe period.

[steviesbicrisis]

To me it’s the fact that Steve assumed Robin had a license but still woke up 3 hours before his work shift to drive her to school everyday.

That is not a plot hole everybody, that is just the kind of person Steve Harrington is.

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[blaithnne]

Live Mel reaction

[cowardlykrow]

Stop light shenanigans

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[captainzigo]