#I have a bias

[gazumirei]

Hear me out

[rj-anderson]

My dash did a thing this morning and I think it's hilarious

[bogwatr]

[pixiedustandpetrichor]

Character: commits atrocities Me (finds out they’re the eldest sibling): don’t worry, baby girl, I got you

[mattzerella-sticks]

Either these two are gonna throw down hard in the Battle for the Cowl or DC will decide to make them the next World's Finest.

[rj-anderson]

I’m sorry this was all I could think of

[bigfatbreak]

Birds of a Feather previous / next

[starlightomatic]

something about how the disability rights movement got watered down, in people's eyes, from "we demand that buildings are built to physically accommodate us, eg with ramps" to "there's nothing we can do about the world around us, but it would be nice if people were more accepting of seeing people stim"

[rj-anderson]

This is just like "Englishman in New York" only the Englishman is Australian and also a Sindarian Elf.

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

"oh please everyone has gay thoughts sometimes" so what i'm hearing is that heteronormativity is so ingrained that a significant percentage of the population regularly experiences bisexual attraction? but dismisses it as something that all straight people experience? this is so concerning are you guys okay

[wanderingmind867]

Snapper Carr is the Rick Jones of the DC Universe. And their stories start similarly. Gardner Fox made Snapper Carr and Stan Lee made Rick Jones, and both men used their young teenage characters as aids to teams like the Justice League and The Avengers. But then we have to talk about the two missourians. Marvel had Roy Thomas succeed Stan Lee in most things, and DC had Denny O'Neil succeed Gardner Fox. And while Roy Thomas largely kept Rick Jones around by making him sidekick to Captain Mar-Vell, Denny O'Neil came in and took a baseball bat to everything good Gardner Fox did. No Martian Manhunter! No Snapper Carr! No nothing!

I won't forgive Denny O'Neil! Not for this, and not for his atorcious Green Lantern and Green Arrow stories. Sure, he had a few hits (like his superman and wonder woman stuff seems okay), but his Justice League was a net loss for DC. And then he was editor when Jason Todd was killed. He was the idiot responsible for getting Frank Miller a job with Daredevil (which would lead to Frank Miller's edginess and darkness also moving to characters like Batman later). Denny O'Neil was a menace, and every good thing he did is compensated by something awful he also did.

I just genuinely love the concept of Snapper Carr. He's just this completely normal teenager who--because they practically meet in his backyard I guess, and because he helped on one of their first adventures--is a junior member of the Justice League. He's fully accepted, he hangs out with them, he goes with them on JLA Work, and he's just NORMAL.

It's audience surrogacy in its purest form, but it's so much to think about. Just...

You're a teenager from a small town in Rhode Island. You have no special abilities, no special traumas, you're just some kid. And yet, on a regular basis, you head over to the mountain (if it can be called that) outside of town, and attend meetings of the Justice League of America.

You walk in complaining about your homework and Superman starts helping with the English essay. You have girl problems and the Flash sits you down and starts giving relationship advice. Batman asks you about music because he's trying to find a good birthday present for Robin and he knows you've got a wide range of music knowledge. Green Lantern tells stories about space and Wonder Woman borrows your history books. You and Aquaman bond over being the two New Englanders in the group. You think you might be the only person in the world who knows what Martian teenagers did in their spare time.

You've been on trips by superspeed and human flight and invisible jet. You've listened to Green Arrow and Green Lantern argue politics in the other room and rolled your eyes with the Flash. You know Superman's favorite books and you've thrown a blanket over Wonder Woman when she collapsed on the couch after a long fight. You've been at those long fights yourself, seen Batman taken by surprise and Martian Manhunter stare into the face of his greatest fears and griefs. The Atom helped you with your college applications and you paid him back in donuts. You exchange music recommendations with Robin long-distance. You have Ralph Dibny's phone number.

You've had your life threatened, and had it saved. You've saved a few people yourself.

You're abducted by the Joker and some other villains, once, because they want to brainwash you: when the heroes find you, you're so mixed up you only sort of know who you are, let alone who they are to you. But they remind you. They will always remind you, between the late nights and the afternoon meetings and the field trips and the gossip and the world-saving.

You're just a guy, it's true. Just a normal guy (as the poisonous whispers told you, before they found you again), surrounded by the extraordinary, and the famous, and the legendary. Overshadowed by them, even.

And that's okay. Because at the end of the day, those tall and shining figures the villains wanted you to feel dwarfed by, to bristle against and resent?

They're your friends.

No more.

No less.

[dunmeshistash]

Kaka & Kiki - Dungeon Meshi

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

[hyacinthsdiamonds]

A lot of you underestimate how prevalent British bias is not only in F1 but across sports generally, and even in other industries.

Max saying he has the wrong passport in the paddock is an accurate statement. Do you think he, Seb, or Michael would've been half as vilified by the British media if they had a British passport instead? Would Fernando? Do you think Yuki would get half as much shit about his radio "conduct" if he was British? Because it's the British commentators who consistently have issues with it, and say shit like it's "unbecoming" for a driver to speak that way, ignoring that 1 it's not his first language and 2 IT WAS ENGLISH PEOPLE HE LEARNT THAT LANGUAGE FROM. Sometimes people misspeak, but Yuki has always taken accountability and apologised if he has and if he caused harm. Martin Brundle did not get nearly as much backlash from the media when he misspoke and called an Asian driver a slur while commentating. He also never apologised for it.

Alex, one of the four Brits on the grid but who drives under the Thai flag, has said that the commentators only call him British born when he does well. He was completely excluded from the Silverstone publicity about the home crowd heroes, whereas George, Lewis & Lando were heralded, not only on race weekend, but for weeks leading up to it.

Alex's statement also reminded me of this Richard Harris quote, "When I'm in trouble, I'm an Irishman. When I turn in a good performance, I'm an Englishman." Genuinely, if I took a shot every time a British organisation/person claimed a talented Irish person was actually a Brit, I'd have died from alcohol poisoning years ago.

Hell, I see George wearing the poppy pin this weekend in the lead up to remembrance Sunday. Do you know the amount of shit James McClean gets every year because he refuses to wear one? And he has very valid reasons for choosing not to wear it, yet he's torn to shreds every year by not only random people on the Internet or on the streets but by commentators and the media too.

Because of how this sport became mainstream and because no one challenged Bernie Eccleston's monopoly on broadcasting rights back in the day (people were given the opportunity to buy a share of the broadcasting rights; the idiots said no), this sport has prioritised the British voice/perspective for decades. I know the other broadcasts are just as biased for their home team/drivers, but the British one is the biggest one, as it's the main broadcast for better and more often for the worst. It's the broadcast with the most reach and influence. Their bias has to be challenged eventually if this sport ever hopes to properly expand and grow. The British bias is so difficult to miss once you start noticing it.