#I hate having to kill spiders

[foldingfittedsheets]

I got into a new store this morning and had to use the bathroom. My training is jumping around between locations. While doing my business a quick dark shape darted right by my leg making me yelp.

A not-Rick-sized-but-nonetheless-substantial spider decided bathroom time really ought to be more social and scuttled right by my leg.

In order to appear competent and brave I dispatched this unfortunate arachnid on my bonny lonesome while quailing inside. Not ten minutes later the district manager dispatched another in the back room.

Apparently this store has a huge spider problem and I’m like we should just pick up and move the store. The spiders can have it, they were here first anyway.

[dirtytransmasc]

no matter how hard they tried to pit you guys against each other, they could never make me hate any of you

just cause I like one, doesn't mean I have to hate the others. I love all 4 of my silly little babies.

[mwagneto]

crazy how you can fr get used to anything. like I've fully just accepted that having to kill 10-15 spiders every day is just part of my routine now

[uss-genderprise]

"average person pays £171 for dragon age: the veilguard" factoid actualy just statistical error. average person paid £60 for dragon age: the veilguard. computers ollie, who has a 10 year old desktop and had to replace half of their computer to play the game, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

[kzele]

Unpopular TSSM Opinion

Sha-Shan was a better example of a serious moral compass love interest to Flash than Gwen was to, well, anybody.

The gal clearly has no problem turning a guy down until they've proven he isn't a too much of a douche. And she doesn't care how popular they are. If they make make the right, but hard choices, then they've got her interest.

Gwen, on the other hand, can’t seem to judge any of her friend’s moods or situations correctly and make an appropriate decision. For instance, whether as friends or love interests she and Harry are a dumpster fire. When the guy passes out in the courtyard and then avoids her, what does she do? Does she (a) tell her COP dad about it at home, (b) tell Harry’s father, (c) tell a teacher/coach/school counselor AKA any other figure in a position of actual authority? Nope. She tells Peter that something’s wrong with Harry, but doesn’t elaborate enough for him to take her concerns seriously, so he puts it among the lesser problems he has to deal with. Because if Peter was actually told the specifics, this would be MUCH higher on his problems list. There’s no way he’d have to be bullied into talking with Harry, otherwise. (Also, how is it possible that she couldn’t sense anything off about Eddie after he returned to the lab? He’s obviously creepy and fake and you’ve known him since you were both in single digits. If it was just Eddie this happened with, I wouldn’t be having my doubts about her judgement.)

This brings me to my next point about boundaries. Peter respects hers more than she respects his. Thus, she can only enforce her boundaries and/or will if someone already respects her. Harry and Gwen’s full-on couple status is proof. Harry’s shoved her against a locker, jumped over her during a villain attack (did he ever apologize for that?), and the first thing he does is ignore his new girlfriend in favor of calling his dad about having a girlfriend. Oh, and she’s ignoring all these red flags in an implied attempt to make Peter jealous. Nuff said about that ball of toxicity they got going on.

Flash saw Sha-Shan as a hot nerd/rebound, then as a challenge, and finally as someone whom he wants to be respected by. She didn’t let him get anywhere by being a jerk or overstepping. Granted, she had the benefit of not caring about Flash’s opinion of her, like Gwen would with long-time friends. And yet, despite being very judgy about him at the start, once they’re together she understands that Flash will say/do dumb things but it doesn’t take away from his good heart. Sha-Shan accepts him and his flaws. Ironically, despite Gwen being in love with Peter over Harry, you’ll be hard-pressed to find a time where she cuts Peter any slack for anything even when it’s not his fault. Including and up to not dying.(Not actually joking about that. See Christmas Tree aftermath s2ep3.) Maybe it’s just me, but I swear Harry and Eddie could be be kicking puppies off the Brooklynn Bridge in front of her and she’d be giving Peter the silent treatment for missing her calls trying to stop it.

I'm aware that Gwen isn't evil whatsoever but I find her immensely frustrating when TSSM has better female characters to choose from. And this post is for other people who agree with me. I'm not denying the flaws of anyone else here, be it Peter or Harry or whoever else, but I can't cover my thoughts on all the dynamics at play here without overloading my laptop and this site. I feel like Gwen's actions in the show get glossed over a lot. I've seen Peter and Harry get criticized for their actions and sympathy for their differently bad lives within the show, but Gwen. . .doesn't get that same scrutiny. She makes objectively horrible/stupid choices about how to go about things in her relationships but somehow she seems to get less spotlight shed on those things. Instead, the responsibility is often shoved the two guys for screwing up, despite either having far more on their plate or a bad home life. Anyways, I've rambled incoherently enough. Hope it brought you some food for thought even if you don't agree with everything.

[my-thoughts-and-junk]

thinking about superheroes unfortunately

[trainloving-cat]

what do you mean minecraft monsters get harder the longer you play

[camellcat]

WTFFF I thought thirteen would be my new girl crush love of my life heart eyes wife you-came-after-twelve-you-must-be-better-than-they're-all-saying bbygirl and then I had to sit down and watch as she told a man who (if he were not a murderer, of course) literally every regeneration before her would've LOVED and FULLY SUPPORTED that "the systems aren't the problem. how people use and exploit the system, that's the problem. people like you" </33333 !?!?

[whatudottu]

Yo imagine instead of being small because Airachnid is vaguely a lady by human standards, what if she was built like a daddy longlegs spider and dwarfed bots after unfolding her copter blades?

They hate to see a girlboss winning 😞😔

[lloyd-007]

@ele-sme honestly this conversation is literally prove that the only reason why spiders hates don’t like spider is bc the only thing have have against him his him saving his dad and honestly after everything that’s happened to him I would to 🗿

[lildoodlenoodle]

Thinking again about how the 2009 Spider Noir run set up the perfect themes of morality and humanity, and could’ve been furthered used to show their relationship to one another and if one matters more than the other.

[my-thoughts-and-junk]

rewatching the fool's gold campaign for the first time in a while and god abby makes me mad. grrrrr she makes me so mad (love her)

[snekdood]

the fact humans think its possible to have an entirely animalless/bugless zone is such hubris and such a dangerous thing to try to pursue in general. life would be so much easier if you learned to coexist with the nature around you instead of constantly try to shove it out, an ultimately fruitless endeavor.

[venomvalley]

just had a vision of screaming "leon! leon, come here!" and he panics and sprints in ready to battle only to see me screeching because "there was a spider and i didn't see where it went so there is no way i am sleeping in this house tonight unless it is dead"

it's just a lovely concept to me bc i was watching re4 gameplay and dude literally fought that giant and didn't shit his pants while i know for sure im running amok after seeing a spider.

anyways, just me yapping. love you and wish you alll the best you're the coolest person on earth!

no cause leon is definitely one of those ppl who uses humor to cope with scary/stressful situations but i know he cries about it when he's alone :((( perhaps he cries a lil for the spider u make him kill who knows!!!

also ily too thank u for being so sweet!!!!

[queenerdloser]

me: oh i want to replay all the dragon age games before the veilguard comes out! i'd better do that during the summer since it's coming out in 2024 sometime

me in june and july: ah well it takes me so long to set up origins bc i mod the hell out of it. and i'm so busy and i actually kind of want to try to finally finish bg3. i guess i'll try to get to dragon age by august, that should be enough time.

datv: we're releasing the new game on oct. 31 (in a month and a half????)

me:

[sereniv]

I saved a daddy long legs!

i was scared and (i know dont @ me) was considering spraying him because I still fear spiders and spider-look-a-likes

up until past few years ive been working really hard on figuring out how to save them rather than kill bc ofc, it doesnt align with my views to kill them

normally i let my dog eat them to justify it- ironically, bc "im not killing them, my dog is"

but he was in one place, not moving and i was on the toilet, so i took the time to read up about him.

i named him, forced myself to, and to call him cute, so that it would make it harder for me to go through with killing him

i tried to imagine him being curious, or scared, or relaxing. Though i know most likely they arent capable of it in a way we can understand, it still helped me see him as no different than my dog or cat or me, rather than "just a bug' or some type of 'scary thing'

and in the end i saved him! container and a folder.

i still was scared, but seeing the (idk another word) humanity in him, the value he has and that he has for himself as a living being, helped make it possible to save him

its still really hard, and on occasion i do end up killing spiders or having my dog eat them when its quick scenarios where i dont have time to think it through

but compared to years ago ive gone from saving 0 to maybe 80%

and this is one of those moments where, its not exactly possible for me to push myself because it can undo all the work ive done. and thats ok.

this is the best i can do right now and im proud of myself.

my best, is not how i imagine my best being. in my mind, i could push myself harder but thats not practical.

doing your best is strategic.

im just so glad i didnt kill him. reading about him, learning about him, appreciating his role, and labeling him cute and giving him a name helped a lot

and sometimes, anthropomorphizing animals can be beneficial. i know he doesnt feel fear and curiosity like i do, but if it means not unnecessarily taking a life, then he does to me in that moment