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kit3ling · 3 months ago

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I once had someone yell at me for asking what I could do to help them because, quote, “you should care enough about me to already know that.”

Bitch idk how to take care of MYSELF. I cant even figure out me and I AM ME. How tf am I supposed to figure out an entire other complex human being.

Please. Just TELL ME WHAT YOU NEED

I hate that thing some people do where it's like. "I left my wallet on the table to see if you'd say anything" or "I wanted to see if you'd wash the car if I stopped doing it"

Cause like

I dont know about anyone else

But I am perpetually hovering three inches above the strong subconscious belief that everyone knows what they're doing at all times except me, so if you change your normal patterns and I notice, then I will assume it is an intentional choice with a thought-out plan behind it and I will avoid interfering

And if I don't notice, because I won't, because why would I, because not much bothers me and if you don't say anything to indicate you are bothered then how would I KNOW

#I can love you and still be incompetent #they’re not mutually exclusive #relationship #seriously #I’m just an idiot

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faaun · 11 months ago

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Jack Marsh (2005), Friendship Otherwise - Toward a Levinasian Description of Personal Friendship

#saw carnation lily lily rose by john singer seargent irl today. it was basically at my doorstep all along idk why i never went to see it #it was placed at a corner in the gallery. me and my friend sat down and sketched the paintings of beautiful naked people quite badly. paper #provided by tate britain. she told me about how she couldnt look her boyfriend in the face after a harrowing film about war. when i say the #interview was informal i mean the person who was supposed to be my boss told me let me get you a cider and then he said after #50 years of life he knows people are inherently good and it only takes a little bit of kindness to save this world. he said he tricked #his wife into keeping the baby and then he said he quit his job at a US bank to help people find meaning and in it #he would have liked to find meaning. instead he started climbing with his friends. he said he chews his cigarettes because its a habit from #when he had to hide things from people. the entire time i felt uncomfortable and incredibly enlightened. this is my friends mentor. she has #his pattern of pauses and expletive and penchant for ends-justify-means attitude. i do think im not very clever #but maybe one day i will love you enough to make up for it. i wrote code i dont understand staring at the final error i thought about how #we both thought of how when we're too old to remember the voices of our friends we would like to stand in the pathway of the LHC beam pipe #cut it open and eat light in the freezing cold vacuum (kills you long before radiation will) the invisible puncture wound unfolding dna #back to the start larger than you ever were. you go to heaven once youve been to hell. my friend is in my bed #practicing calculations of eigenvectors by hand and she is uninterested in a visual proof you are uninterested in incompetence #we catch a train this is your kind of burden you tragic hero wincing at that word you only do this because you have to. im the only one #who can. i am a coward in this for the fucking poetry. the visual proofs. the pretty numbers. an architect who was horrible at maths wanted #to be a philosopher and accidentally ended up neck in deep in 70th Error On Visual Studio Code i want to kiss your eyes before we say #goodbye we both know there is no love in the way there should be. I still have your dress in my wardrobe. i hope you make art.#you think im alright head-wise i think you fucking hate me i think ill never be so clever you want me to tell you my idea?#if you wanted more of this world i would have liked to kiss you harder. we cant both be like this. im sorry i cant be with you the whole wa #the love is gone if you have to ask it. his breath catches his eyes feel stiff it is -1.9 kelvin he is near the beam pipe i miss holding #his hand i miss her singing voice i miss his hair and i found the antonym of pain thank you for carrying me home.

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goldensunset · 1 year ago

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LOL

#i love this man #you can tell he is like working overtime to crank out this mobile game #but with all of the love in the world behind it. he doesn't want a rushed product #but is still behaving this way #mine: kh #khml #kingdom hearts #him acknowledging the uh. what can only be called incompetence #behind the release scheduling for khux and especially wrt global #is so so funny

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mcybree · 10 months ago

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Ok ok ok I'm not Tryna start discourse but bluestars prophecy was my first ever warriors book and bluestar will always be my favourite so I'm gonna make some counterpoints to you about her being a Smajor character

bluestar has always been led by an intense loyalty and dedication to those she loves and cares for - this includes her mum, her sister, her clan, eventually Firepaw when he joins the clan, and she has a VERY strong moral compass when it comes to doing the right thing - when she sees thistleclaw teaching tigerpaw to hurt a then baby scourge she very much discourages it and is against it

Afaik scott is Not like that, he doesn't have an emotional or love-driven moral code, he does things because they're smart decisions in the long term or because he wants to. Granted I havent seen a ton of his stuff but I have seen his limited life and 3rd life perspectives and he is very much a singular team player there, there to look after himself and well if people align with him that's great he's got allies (jimmy and Martyn) but he won't go out of his way to care for them

Bluestars defiance of starclan in the first series is BECAUSE she gave herself to them and what the warrior code demanded so much - yes she broke clan rules by having kids with crookedstar but she did everything in her power to make sure they'd have a happy life and felt terrible that thrushpelt was willing to say they were his to save her reputation. She didn't do it out of a selfish want, she only ever wanted to help her clan and those she loved, and her becoming clan leader is emblematic of that want. When she rejects starclan so wholeheartedly in the first series it's because THINGS KEEP GOING WRONG WHEN SHES TRIED SO HARD TO STOP THEM FROM DOING THAT - starclan has never cared about the sacrifices she made to keep her loved ones and clan safe, she lost her mother, her sister, her kits, her mate, literally everything, and things STILL KEEP GETTING WORSE. it's not a demand that she deserves to have everything good, it's a cry for help that shouldn't something go right after she's tried so hard???

C!Scott isn't like that. He puts himself above others and inherently believes he will get the best if he just plays his cards right, and he is good at it, he's very competent at lasting a long time in life series and getting what he wants - the ruthlessness of gem driven by desperation kills him in secret life, Martyn's complete fucking about face kills him in limited life, and I'm pretty sure it's etho who gets him out in 3rd life by luck. He doesn't plan to look after the ones he cares about, because he cares about himself first and foremost. Yeah you can argue when he doesn't get what he wants he gets annoyed, but his is less of a 'why don't I get this don't I deserve it' and more of a 'oh fuck this didn't work. Ok new plan double down on getting what I want by appeasing to people cos they're easy to read and therefore account for'

I don't doubt Scott would make a bluestar adjacent character if he made a warrior cats oc BUT his character would honestly be closer to darktail or ashfur than bluestar and that's that on that.

(sorry you activated 13 year old me's unskippable cutscene sjdjsjsjja this isnt meant to be a serious argument I just love bluestar a lot and love talking about her)

OKAY 1. this is fucking awesome thank you 2. i am going to do something new and exciting (advocate for scott instead of beating him to death with sticks) because unfortunately this bluestar info has only made me believe she is a smajor character even more.

As a general note when I talk about smajor characters as a collective here I’m referring to characters more in the realm of esmp/traffic/rats/pirates/etc, less vampire scott or necromancer scott who are intended to be villainous.

Scott characters tend to operate under a “If I am not a Good Person I may as well die” rule, and consequently abide by a strict moral code to keep themselves feeling clean. For instance: traffic Scott will never go back on his word, he will avoid dishonesty, and he won’t take from others unless he is sure that he can repay them. He will never betray his seasonal primary ally (even when they betray him first), and will often give people things just because they asked him nicely. He stakes a lot of his own identity on this, because it is through being a “good person” that he justifies his superiority (and, by extension, his own existence); in his mind he deserves the best and *is* the best because he is such a good person. When things don’t go his way, he thinks he doesn’t deserve it because he has been nothing but good, so he tries to place a reason. He often assumes that somebody must “have a vendetta” against him, even if this somebody is the world (see: him asking if limlife episode 1 boogeyman is some kind of joke played on him for not giving in to the boogey curse in Last Life.) which is very Bluestar to me, convinced that her misfortunes are a divine punishment.

This is all to say that Scott does have a strict moral code and deep sense of loyalty. Being a “good person” and devoted partner in the ways he understands it are so ingrained into what he is that I think he definitely has the capacity to be a Bluestar if he were raised being taught clan values, even if his internal systems are often built around never letting gross emotions be fully felt rather than what those emotions compel him to do.

#ive always wanted to partake in pointless character debate on tumblr #considered maintagging this but didnt want people looking at your ask weird. sorry yall we serve fucked up scott here #“But bree” you might ask “what about pearl? He wasnt a very devoted partner then!”#and to that I say: pearl isnt a person to him. and neither is jimmy. Scott fucked up with both of them and unfortunately if he is not good-#and justified 100% of the time he loses his entire identity so convincing himself that they are incompetent or crazy so that he #doesnt have to self reflect is how he gets by. he would literally rather kill himself than earnestly admit fault for anything #… huh. about the above tags I dont remember the lore but is there any parallel there with the whole bright heart thing #genuine question bc I do not remember why blue star did that and I dont trust the wiki #(Trying to space out names so they dont tag)#I really hope this makes sense btw bc I feel like I usually list a lot more examples… but im tired #I can elaborate on any point here if need be ig. I dont talk about this aspect of him often because the literal entire fandom does already #Every scott analysis post out there is about his damn loyalty… anyways yeah scotts loyalty is transactional more often than emotional but #It’s still loyalty and also. hard to draw the line between where the emotions stop sometimes because he can stop giving a fuck about—#most things on a whim. How much scott genuinely cares about something is a forever undefinable concept #asks #he is genuinely a very good ally to have usually. like jimmy was very much the exception there #he does like helping people out he does. he’s just also emotionally detached so he tallies his favors and good deeds to bring up later if—#someone he’s helped decides to go against him. If that makes sense #sorry man I just keep talking. I love this blue animal…….#thanks for the ask genuinely I love when paragraphs about characters #anyways im gonna pass out and. Shakes myself STOP ADDING MORE TAGSSS i think im so tired man

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archduke-enver-gortash · 1 year ago

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having completely normal thoughts (gortash wotr au)

#yeah. it’s bad. not thinking about inserting zeke but GORTASH #he’d start out as aeon for sure #his opinions on companions are so fucking awful #not nearly as awful as the kingmaker au ofc. he’d call reg a sick dog that needs to be put down because his incompetent owner failed him #anyways. this is a deranged wotr post.#of course there’s no one among the companions fit to be his/equal status #but i’d say he’d have the most positive opinions of regill and greybor. as positive as a guy thinking of them as his tools can get.#towards greybor it’s like. ok you don’t see yourself as more than a weapon and neither do i. you do your job as long you get paid i can wor #with that.#meanwhile regill he’d love to have as a knight devoted to him instead of him being a hell knight #this of course never fucking works gortash’s weird manipulation would not pull through with regill in this matter #no romance of course. except for manipulative sex with wenduag probably.#he really wants that mongrel army! will pop a fantasy viagra if wenduag needs to be ‘roughly subdued to calm down.’#he’d be a little more into it than usual because he doesn’t need to hold back with her but it’s still not a true subjugation in the end.#until later he’s like ok. i lied i don’t like sex get on the vivisection table #(aro + fucked version of grayace gortash truther if you didn’t know)#tries to refine her and the poison #he’d be awful to her in general. sees a weapon to be refined. she recognizes him as master now but her loyalty is fickle.#he’d earn all the respect flags #but still would punish her greatly for the first sign of betrayal in the abyss #oh and before this gets too long: one more for cam obviously.#sadly i don’t see a world in which he doesn’t immediately see through the mireya story and kill her in act 3 #but if he didn’t. it’d be so juicy. him in act 5 learning the full story. how her father talks about her.#just stands there frozen for 10 seconds with a thousand yard stare #<- to then go no i don’t think you should kill him you should [REDACTED GRUESOME TORTURE METHOD THAT KEEPS ONE ALIVE & AWAKETHE ENTIRE TIME #in the end he’d execute her anyways but. hm. he’d get triggered for sure #i have more thoughts but i’m gonna shut up now lmao

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whysamwhy123 · 6 months ago

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#Wrestling is Bad Actually #(My hater tag in case you didn't know so block if you don't wanna see anymore of my bitching. Although there might not be much more cuz...)#Ricky isn't injured he's just not being used and he's probably on his way out #The Trent/OC feud is now all about Don Callis for some reason #Toni Storm is still stubbornly/incompetently being booked as a heel despite never getting booed #And Dynamite is essentially just The Young Bucks Show and nothing else anymore #AND NOW Chuck might be legit retired #Sammy Guevara's coming back #And Private Party are done??#Jeez Tony I've already decided to stop watching AEW - you don't need to give me more reasons!#Well. Guess that's all folks!#If anyone wants me you can find me in the corner silently mourning the AEW that I fell in love with all those years ago #Because that AEW is dead and gone #A pity.

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chirpsythismorning · 2 years ago

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Redditors are still in denial about the duffers 'forgetting' Will's birthday

#byler #stranger things #birthdaygate #the way these people are active fans #while also claiming in the same breath the duffers/props department on the show are incompetent and all this other bs #YALL are the ones who refuse to consider the details as important #you LOVED when the duffers denied birthdaygate and in turn caused no one to ask about it again...#bc it meant you can argue all day long that the duffers are stupid and nothing is that deep #and now that it's actually looking like it was intentional...#you're still insisting the show sucks...#all while being active in the sub for said show?#i just dont get it #there were a few fans in the comments with common sense pointing out all the parallels to s2 in s4 #and how it's sus there were so many mentions of birthdays in s4 #but the dudbros still aren't having it #they are SO scared that everything on st is intentional

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cowardstiel · 1 year ago

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i think it should be mandatory that everyone watch The Social Dilemma at least once every six months

#dear everyone saying that tumblr doesn't have an algorithm: yes it does oh my GOD.#i see people say this so often irt twitter and reddit migration #just because tumblr has a different feed system to facebook/inta/twitter doesn't mean the only things you see are exactly what you want #free of influence or coercion #simplest example is tumblr suggesting users and tags for u to follow. what do you think is informing its suggestions?#how does it know which blogs are similar? it's not by fucking chance #please i know we all clown on what a mess this website is and how poorly it delivers ads but let's not forget that that's a choice they mak #if tumblr wanted to deliver ads in the way other social media sites do they could. but it's part of the image they've created for themselve #hence why they feel they can offer a paid subscription to remove ads that has an off switch so u can still see their weird crazy zany ads #because they know how much we love to clown on their shit ads. they know users will screenshot and share ads if they're weird enough #and they want you to. they're not so incompetent that they can't get us classy ads lol. this is their brand. let's not forget that!#anyway this is all triggered by me sending someone (hi bunni <3) a post of misha collin's sfx make up in gotham knights that popped up as a #recommended post despite me never having watched it or searched for it etc. what triggered that post appearing was me searching/tagging spn #a couple times recently. and of course misha collins and spn are frequently cross tagged. anyway since then i have been bombarded with that #godforsaken show constantly on my dash #sorry to gotham knights enjoyers i get the appeal and i am a dc simp but it's just not for me ig #if u read all this i love u im kissing you sloppystyle and or giving u a firm and warm handshake and or a friendly nod like we're walking #past each other on a beautiful day <3 #my post

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rindomness · 2 years ago

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this is how that scene in it devours went, right?

(redraw of the sailor moon meme, under the cut)

thanks @stary-night for giving me the idea. hopefully you can see the @ and it doesnt just get swallowed by tumblr

#wtnv #rin draws stuff #it devours was delightful i love nilanjana #zan and i were talking about how incompetent the secret police are in *practice*#one thing led to another and well!#they're like this across the board btw #i just decided nilanjana specifically because that's. literally the scene #sheriff sam showed up twice and both times i was like #hi sheriff sam. youre still bad at your job. why are you here #it devours #nilanjana sikdar #sheriff sam #maybe if i actually tag characters itll show up for the portion of tumblr that *can* still see me

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shirogane-oushirou · 5 months ago

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sorry to the people whose messages i havent replied to / asks i havent answered ;;; i am going through it. ren save me etc.

i need him to make a little blanket nest and hold me and make comfort food and just like. let me lay on him and run my fingers through his hair while he naps or smth. seeing him feel so comfy would heal me a bit tbh.

#i havent talked about it on here bc i feel like i talk about medical stuff enough LMAO but. man.#got a 'this can't be treated but it can be slowed' diagnosis and i think i know what (who) caused it #(incompetent doctor teehee <3 i love when doctors are worse than useless and are actively harmful <33333)#and. the process for applying to mayo clinic. passes out cutely.#i've just been completely wiped for the past few weeks ;; i get a little burst of energy once every few days and then i'm knocked out.#i've had a couple of ask game asks in my drafts for uh. Far Too Long at this point ;; if i havent answered you it's still there!#and i hope to answer dms asap!! it just feels like i'm able to do one (1) thing per day and for the past while it's been #'tag and queue a couple of posts' or 'work on my carrd for a bit' or 'work on my backlog of ren art'#so now that i'm caught up on tagging maybe i can do some replies. ourgh. ;;;; sowwy for the delay.#📌 [ my posts. ]#💭 [ my thoughts. ]#vent -

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youngpettyqueen · 10 months ago

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you know, I do like when Trek shows get into the failings of Starfleet, the dark side of it, but the way Picard goes about it just... doesnt do it for me