#I ADORE ALLY

[shatcey]

Kate's insults +

I find it quite hilarious and even see the meaning behind it.

After first night together

Before disappearing (after drinking tea together)

After second night together

And one scene from the romantic Blind Love epilogue. Without context.

Did you notice?

The first… she constantly adds compliments between insults. Charming, attractive, pervert. Okay, okay, it's a compliment to the one who accepts it, so it's a compliment. If anyone calls me weird, I'll be happy, I like being weird.

Secondly… she used more and more words.

And the last thing. In the last scene, he genuinely enjoys it.

How I can explain it

At first, she didn't know anything about him and used only the basic words: worst and terrible. But the more time they spend together, the more information she learns about him, and the insults become personal. A womanizer, a liar.

And that's not all. If you don't really like a person, you won't react so strongly to their words and actions. Thus, the more she is interested in him, the more she cares about him, the more emotional she becomes. She insults not only him, but herself as well, because she can't stop loving him despite everything. I really like it.

And about Ally

After the first night, he was pretty calm. She slapped him, but he didn't even react to it. He praises her for finally acting normal, because that's the only reason he pissed her off in the first place, to make her forget. And as soon as he realized that his job was done, he left.

After the second night they spent together, he stayed with her longer, and he already more interested to listen to her thoughts. But… he's still playing with her, teasing her, but he doesn't seem to enjoy it. It's still for her good, not for him.

But in the last scene… his reaction is absolutely sincere. He really likes everything about her, he doesn't care if she's angry or happy, everything is fine, because it's her, her emotions, and they are important to him. Every single one of them.

I'm really glad the devs added this little detail. It's such a small thing that you only notice it if you look really closely. But it gives a lot of additional information. Maybe just for me.

This is just my purely personal and extremely biased opinion. After all, I'm head over heels in love with this guy. You have every right to disagree with me.

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🔝 𝕊𝕋𝔸ℝ𝕋 ℙ𝔸𝔾𝔼 🔝

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[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[shatcey]

I don't pretend to know what happened at the time, just sharing my thoughts. Slight spoilers for Alfons and Elbert's routes.

All the people in Elbert's life find him extremely attractive. He is very handsome, sweet and kind… And back then he was such a sad and lonely child. So no wonder they wanted to help. I think the maids and butlers had the best intentions at first. They were very worried about him and tried to comfort him. Maybe it all starts with simple touches… held hands, stroked his hair, sang a lullaby, and so on. But then he didn't stop them, they gradually became more daring and excessive in showing their affection. Their desire to help him turned into a desire to possess him. Obsessive love.

Ally didn't prevent this (and he could have intervened, he was and remains a very cunning boy), because he really thought it would be better for Elbert. He said it himself in the dramatic mad love ending of Elbert's route.

I still don't quite understand why Ally thinks he's partly to blame for Elbert becoming like this. Maybe because he indulged his obsession, allowed him to nurture his greed. Maybe. But… No matter why he thinks that, Ally always makes decisions in Elbert's best interests. It is not so easy to notice, even he himself doesn't consider his actions as kindness, but he does care. Very much so.

I guess no matter which character I start with, I'll always end up praising Ally...

(Slight spoiler for Elbert's route)

Alfons saying that the maids and butlers might have started with good intentions always struck me as odd.

Like, I don't think it's horribly out of character but there was a nagging feeling in my head that there has to be a reason why he's saying this. I assumed it was some sort of weird coping mechanism of, like, trying to see the best in people or something. Or trying to make a joke distract from how dark the topic is. I dunno.

And then today I thought about how usually he tries to help people out in... his own unique way. Obviously, no where NEAR the same thing. They are very different situations and the maids and butlers deserve to go to hell and die a thousand deaths.

But I feel like he has experience with trying to help, having good intentions, only for it to make things worse. Which might be why he says this to Kate, other than the obvious reason that he knows Elbert enough to know that helping might hurt him more.

[stevenrogered]

Good day, Lord Kilmartin. You left quite abruptly the other morning. Well...you had another caller. I hoped I might see you at the opening of Lord Fuller's collection yesterday.

[samijey]

they are ✨unhinged✨

[5ummit]

by allie_lynee

[allyheart707]

@elliwoods So... Pudding wasn't told about Sprout?? So then, he gets a tiny little green Leo and OF COURSE his first thought for a nickname would be... "Sprout"

[ygamiraito]

harlan saying "i like toys :)!" and giggling will now be forever ingrained in my mind

[itsslivernotsilver]

i’m still not over this btw LOOK AT HERRR!!!!!!!!!

[thisisasundrysideblog]

pov: you're beardsley's dog

[shatcey]

How dare you Liam!

It was extremely silly of you to say that, baby-boy. Ally IS cute! And there is nothing to discuss here.

Sulking... so cute...

Past chronicles Ally and Elbie.

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🔝 𝕊𝕋𝔸ℝ𝕋 ℙ𝔸𝔾𝔼 🔝

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[banannabethchase]

Ally fucking Beardsley dropping a fucking "hey girlie" to a talking jaguar of all things in Never Stop Blowing Up shouldn't have been as surprising as it was.

[cannibalcreeps]

Gives us the most handsome sweetest funniest Ghoul and barely 7 minute's worth of interactive dialogue 😩😭

The CRUELTY of this game!!!!!

[mcytegg]

you can love a character and still admit when they're wrong. i love roshambogames but can acknowledge his flaws (he has none) & can hold him accountable for his wrongdoings (he’s never done anything wrong in his life) & call him out for his actions (which are always correct)

[draw-the-squad-like-this]

Draw your characters like this! (src)

[abyssal-ilk]

posting that sketch yesterday made me remember just how much i love my taashath so i did another doodle <3