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shatcey · 3 days ago
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The developers gave us a HUGE clue about his true identity by giving him a Tarot card.
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The hermit
I found many interpretations of this card and stopped on this one. This explains him very accurately. I'll hide it from the one of you who doesn't want spoilers.
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From here
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🔝 𝕊𝕋𝔸ℝ𝕋 ℙ𝔸𝔾𝔼 🔝
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giantkillerjack · 2 years ago
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
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Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
Plain-text version:
Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
#hlep#original#mental health#my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it#i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support#and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of#huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the#longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel#i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop
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shatcey · 19 days ago
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I don't pretend to know what happened at the time, just sharing my thoughts. Slight spoilers for Alfons and Elbert's routes.
All the people in Elbert's life find him extremely attractive. He is very handsome, sweet and kind… And back then he was such a sad and lonely child. So no wonder they wanted to help. I think the maids and butlers had the best intentions at first. They were very worried about him and tried to comfort him. Maybe it all starts with simple touches… held hands, stroked his hair, sang a lullaby, and so on. But then he didn't stop them, they gradually became more daring and excessive in showing their affection. Their desire to help him turned into a desire to possess him. Obsessive love.
Ally didn't prevent this (and he could have intervened, he was and remains a very cunning boy), because he really thought it would be better for Elbert. He said it himself in the dramatic mad love ending of Elbert's route.
I still don't quite understand why Ally thinks he's partly to blame for Elbert becoming like this. Maybe because he indulged his obsession, allowed him to nurture his greed. Maybe. But… No matter why he thinks that, Ally always makes decisions in Elbert's best interests. It is not so easy to notice, even he himself doesn't consider his actions as kindness, but he does care. Very much so.
I guess no matter which character I start with, I'll always end up praising Ally...
(Slight spoiler for Elbert's route)
Alfons saying that the maids and butlers might have started with good intentions always struck me as odd.
Like, I don't think it's horribly out of character but there was a nagging feeling in my head that there has to be a reason why he's saying this. I assumed it was some sort of weird coping mechanism of, like, trying to see the best in people or something. Or trying to make a joke distract from how dark the topic is. I dunno.
And then today I thought about how usually he tries to help people out in... his own unique way. Obviously, no where NEAR the same thing. They are very different situations and the maids and butlers deserve to go to hell and die a thousand deaths.
But I feel like he has experience with trying to help, having good intentions, only for it to make things worse. Which might be why he says this to Kate, other than the obvious reason that he knows Elbert enough to know that helping might hurt him more.
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stevenrogered · 6 months ago
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Good day, Lord Kilmartin. You left quite abruptly the other morning. Well...you had another caller. I hoped I might see you at the opening of Lord Fuller's collection yesterday.
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allyheart707 · 1 month ago
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@elliwoods So... Pudding wasn't told about Sprout?? So then, he gets a tiny little green Leo and OF COURSE his first thought for a nickname would be... "Sprout"
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ygamiraito · 5 months ago
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harlan saying "i like toys :)!" and giggling will now be forever ingrained in my mind
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thisisasundrysideblog · 10 months ago
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pov: you're beardsley's dog
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banannabethchase · 3 months ago
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Ally fucking Beardsley dropping a fucking "hey girlie" to a talking jaguar of all things in Never Stop Blowing Up shouldn't have been as surprising as it was.
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dayz-ina-daze · 5 months ago
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My contribution to pride month on the last day don’t mind that and ALSO my first piece of proper @clangenrising fanart!!
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My favorite aspec girlies <33 (with their emotional support tom cheering them on!)
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waterdeep-weavemoss · 5 months ago
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i think it's really important to remember that the emperor disabled stelmane. like as a disabled person every playthrough after my first i told that manipulative prick to piss off every chance. i don't give a shit if he was 'only doing it to survive' or if stelmane was a devil worshipper or whatever. my personal experience with disability means that fucker dies on sight in the final fight. i have no empathy and no wish to empathise with the emperor. he is selfish and evil.
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itsslivernotsilver · 2 months ago
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i’m still not over this btw LOOK AT HERRR!!!!!!!!!
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shatcey · 6 days ago
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Just several lines from his cards...
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Actually Kate quite often doesn't believe him. The funny thing is… he may often exaggerate, but he rarely lies…
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🔝 𝕊𝕋𝔸ℝ𝕋 ℙ𝔸𝔾𝔼 🔝
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draw-the-squad-like-this · 6 months ago
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Draw your characters like this! (src)
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abyssal-ilk · 1 month ago
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posting that sketch yesterday made me remember just how much i love my taashath so i did another doodle <3
#dai#dragon age#dragon age inquisition#da inquisitor#the inquisitor#adaar#inquisitor#inquisitor adaar#taashath adaar#some fun facts about her that im hiding in the tags!!#taashath was born under the qun and used to be a tamassran! the left the qun when she discovered one of her#children- her last child in fact- had magic. she didnt want him to be taken as a saarebas and so she tried to leave with him#her kid was killed in the process of leaving :(. she snapped and. surprise. she has magic too. shes just done a really good job of hiding it#she manages to escape with the help of one of the soldiers assigned to protecting her (meraad who another inquisitor in a different run)#but doesnt exactly remember How. all she remembers is waking up on the shore of wycome without meraad#eventually she was found by the valo-kas and taken in by them. they helped teach her how to properly control her magic and they took care of#her as she slowly got back on her feet.#and then she became the inquisitor.#she allied with the mages. conscripted the wardens. and made celene gaspard and briala shake hands. she also sacrificed loghain in the fade.#she doesnt have a canonical romance BUT. she had a few flings with some of the others and spent years pining after vivienne.#she ends up close friends with dorian bull cole and sera! she... does not end up friends with blackwall. but she does spare him#she Was close with solas at the start of inquisiton but she struggled to connect with him. his interactions with some of the other#companions didnt help. but she does care about him!! its just. difficult. it was difficult with sera and dorian at first too. and bull#she is completely Unsure what to think of varric but they are friends. and taashi absolutely adores josephine. leliana scares her just a bit#and she struggles to intetact with cullen but she does care for him. cassandra ends up as her divine (from a game glitch i made canon) even#though she did everything she could to get vivienne on the throne.#shes also trans!!! very big bonding point between her bull and krem is that she is aqun-athlok. everytime dorian or varric mentions mae she#goes :0 as well. uhhh yeah! i love her sm. if anyone has any questions pls pls 🥺🙏 send em
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cannibalcreeps · 5 months ago
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Gives us the most handsome sweetest funniest Ghoul and barely 7 minute's worth of interactive dialogue 😩😭
The CRUELTY of this game!!!!!
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melit0n · 6 months ago
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"Cogito ergo sum; I think therefore I am. I am AM- I AM." dude come on you're built like the ten commandments save some good lines for the rest of us
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