#Household Management

[annachum]

Household management as a Feudal rich/noble/Royal lady include :

. Work to keep a court or villa running

. Efficiently managing servants and household staff

. Ensuring that a whole family has enough resources and such

. Have guards to help defend steads especially in war times and such

. Have staff to help maintain cleanliness of a villa/castle/large estate

. Host regular meetings with housekeepers and butlers of the retinue of household management and such

Actually that's how rich people typically manage a household

Household management is literally a life skill, not a gendered skill

[aroclan]

i read Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky, which mentions her previous book Fair Play several times, so… I read that too. Nobody can stop me now!

Find Your Unicorn Space seems pretty straightforward. It's about how to carve time out of caring for a household in order to pursue what makes you alive. Anything creative that can be shared counts. "But first," tasks have to be divided between members of the household so that "having Unicorn Space" doesn't bring the whole house into chaos. (Ironically, it's Fair Play that contains the anecdotes about how "I quit my creative job to become wife-and-mother, then he ultimately fell out of love with me and divorced.")

Fair Play is about dividing those household chores, all the "invisible work" that usually falls on women in a hetero relationship, by representing each of those tasks as cards in a deck. cards that don't apply, or which don't match the partners' values, are removed from the deck, and the participants choose the remaining task cards. then, whoever has the card is 100% responsible for performing the task. no reminders, no "when are you going to do the thing?" it's completely removed from everyone else's radar. the cardholder has all the authority, autonomy, and responsibility for it.

the main thing that the book falls short on is that the language is extremely heteronormative. despite being tested in multiple households with a diverse group of members, the language used is always about "women doing too much" and "men not being useful." i'm sure it's partly because the author is drawing on her own experience, where her husband stepped back once they had children (as is common), but it's also wearying to notice this constantly throughout the book.

on the flip side of this, the main thing i could not stop thinking about while reading is that “this would work so well for bigger homes. with a third person, everyone could divide all the cards without overloading anyone.” in comparison, for a couple, Rodsky recommends trying to keep the household under 80 cards in play (out of 100, although some are "wild cards" like job loss or moving—they're not meant to be in play all the time.)

the book is focused on struggling women improving their own lives immediately, so it doesn't mention any scenario with more adults in a household, whether that's a multi-generational household, polyamory, or queerplatonic partnerships.

beyond all that, it seems like the Fair Play system is customizable. "lawn & plants" might be split into 3 cards: lawn, landscaping, garden. maybe there's an entirely different card to be put in. but again, the book ends up being very focused on the "getting started" level, so this doesn't get a mention in the text.

ultimately, i didn't personally get a lot out of this book—because of past encounters with Dana White's How to Manage your Household and Gemma Hartley's Fed Up, my partner and i already had a decent balance of domestic work. on the other hand, someone who feels like they are drowning in keeping everything running behind-the-scenes should read Fair Play.

[lightthewaybackhome]

One of my Christmas presents! Excited to dive into this next year!

[isaacsapphire]

Yeah, even now economies of scale are extremely applicable to personal food; it’s way cheaper in materials and labor and even equipment for a cook to add one more serving to a meal they’re already making than to go make 1 serving for yourself.

We invited door closers, automatic doors, and access control systems pretty recently. Also telephones and cellphones so you can call a locksmith to let you in if you have a key related problem, and package lockers.

Doormen were building security, answering machines, automatic lights, transportation coordination, home shipping and receiving, and yes opened and closed doors, including for the disabled and people who weren’t given keys but were allowed in today, such as repairmen and lessons teachers for the children and temporary kitchen help. Big corporate buildings still have many of these positions as full on jobs!

I don't know how strictly accurate this is, but one of the things I find shocking about watching historical dramas is how many people there are around all the time---according to Madame de... (1953) a well-off French household in the Belle Epoque maintains a workforce of at least 3, and the glittering opera has staff just to open doors. According to Shogun (2024) you can expect a deep bench just to mind your household, and again, people who exist to open doors.

Could people....not open doors in the past? Were doors tricky, before the standardization of hinges? Because otherwise, the wealthy used to pay a whole bunch of people to do it for them in multiple contexts, and I find myself baffled.

[lifewritteninthestars]

It's tough trying to balance work and household management with parenting a lively and energetic baby! Baby C is in that in-between stage, where she doesn't enjoy being independent for very long but gets bored hanging out after a while and so we flip flop all day between her being held and her playing on her own.

As much as I would like to spend all day just playing with her, certain needs do have to be met. Namely, I have to work and earn money, because we live in an expensive place and can't afford to be on only one income. Also, basic household tasks! I work from home and so I'm available to do the housework, and I personally need it to be a certain level of clean or my mental health suffers. So that's also a priority.

But I explain to Baby C what I'm doing when she's strapped to my chest, or I sing to her (regular songs and songs I make up for her), and sometimes we dance. That's always fun for us both! When she's more mobile and thus a little more independent, I imagine it will be somewhat easier. But there's something very special about having had to learn how to do all these chores with a baby snuggled up to me.

I worry that I'm not doing enough for her. That we don't read enough, or lay on the floor and play with toys enough. She's not super interested in any of that, yet, although she's definitely getting there. I hope to use that worry to nudge myself into figuring out a new rhythm, one that adds more quality time with Baby C into my already full days. Maybe as she drops naps, I can turn that time into playtime?

I don't intend to worry overly much about it, though. She's new at being a person, and we're new at being parents. We have time to experiment and see how things go and adjust little bits at a time! She's not even crawling yet. We have so much time.

[ckemployment]

Communication Essentials for Maid Employers in Singapore

When it comes to getting a maid in Singapore, effective communication is key to building a harmonious relationship in your household. Finding a good maid agency Singapore is just the first step. Once you've hired a maid, clear and respectful communication ensures smooth cooperation and understanding between you and your domestic helper.

1. Establish Clear Expectations:

Sit down with your maid and discuss your household rules, expectations, and preferences right from the start. Clearly outline her responsibilities, working hours, and any specific tasks you require.

2. Language Proficiency:

Assess your maid's language proficiency during the hiring process. If she is not fluent in your primary language, consider providing language lessons or using translation tools to facilitate communication.

3. Use Simple Language:

Avoid using complex vocabulary or idiomatic expressions, especially if your maid is still learning the language. Speak slowly and clearly, and encourage her to ask questions if she doesn't understand.

4. Encourage Open Communication:

Create a safe and welcoming environment where your maid feels comfortable expressing herself. Encourage her to voice any concerns or issues she may encounter, and address them promptly and respectfully.

5. Regular Check-Ins:

Schedule regular meetings to get in touch with your maid and discuss any feedback or concerns. This allows you to address issues proactively and ensures that both parties are on the same page.

Conclusion:

Effective communication is vital for a successful maid-employer relationship in Singapore. Following these communication essentials can establish a positive and respectful dynamic with your maid, leading to a happier and more harmonious household.

[peachtacular-home-health-care]

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[prettymummasays]

How Mothers Play a Vital Role in Managing Family's Finances

Mothers play a vital role in managing family’s finances by providing financial stability and security for their families. Their skills in budgeting, financial planning, debt management, and household management can help ensure that the family’s financial needs are met and that they are prepared for unexpected expenses or emergencies. For more details, you can visit the HSBC website. Also,…

[bluerosefox]

Anther DPxDC idea (it can be either turn into future Dead on Main or Anger Management, I'm not picky)

With Toddler!Damian~

So

When Jason was being 'trained' by the LOA in a fit of Pit Madness he somehow manged to stumble upon a toddler Damian in the base when he fought his current 'teacher' and fell into Damian's own training room at the time he was training.

Jason, even in a Pit Rage episode and not yet fully 'trained' out of his Robin teaching and his own (deeply buried) morals of protecting children, see's a toddler being trained with a legit sword and see's some of the wounds and cuts the kid has on himself from the training. He does not take it well and in a fit, fights the other teacher and gathers Damian into his arms.

This leads to Jason, in half coherent and half Pit Madness, to try to escape with Damian in his arms and get the heck out of the League with assassins at his heels.

However the fight eventually ends up with them near the Pits itself and in a single wrong move the two fall in.

The two do not resurface.

-x-x-

It was a normal day in Amity Park.

As normal as Amity Park could be to be honest.

When one of the Fenton siblings came down to clean the lab for the day when the protal suddenly flared up and for the lack of better words spat out a teen around their age and a toddler.

Both passed out on the lab floor.

[bulldogblues]

Eve Rodsky's explanation of the parallels between project management in the workplace and household management was a real eye opener.

In the world of work, 'project manager' is a full time job title, with other workers performing the execution of the tasks themselves. Managing the end-to-end journey of a project takes up so much time and energy that it's neither practical nor fair for them to take on all the individual tasks too.

Yet in the home this somehow flies out the window and the designated 'project manager' (in heterosexual relationships, usually the woman...) is also expected to do most of the tasks too.

Having one partner manage the tasks and the mental load and another partner doing them would actually be fair and reasonable if they both agreed to it... but at best the task manager is still expected to go '50/50' and thus in real terms do way more than 50%.

i think men are bad leaders because leadership just doesn’t come naturally to men. it’s easy to see leadership is a forced nature on men. if leadership was naturally part of men’s existence, they wouldn’t have to assert themselves so aggressively over women.

[handelplayssims]

Alrighty ladies, gents and everyone otherwise! It’s time for a special update! We’ve gotten past my benchmark of 175 actively played sims at once! That means it’s time to move households into the unplayed bin. Where they will be subjected to the whims of Neighborhood Stories. Or will they? There are some households I’ll be a bit more lenient towards than others and we’ll talk about those cases as they come along.

The first to be binned is the Cruz Household. This is one of my own creations for those times when I just go to CAS, do the questionaire and figure out a household from there. Alyssa is an actress who primarily focuses on her reoccurring nighttime medical drama series. Her husband Francisco is an athlete. Her eldest daughter aspires to be like her mother and become and actress and the middlest child is...well, as nebulous as Sims kids are. But pretty adventuerous from what I remember of the one time I played this household. And we also got a toddler. They currently live in a home in Strangerville.

Now, I’m going to turn off the Leave a Career option from Neighborhood Stories for them. I rather like their careers and don’t want them to move. I don’t think they have a special attachment to Strangerville, don’t consider them essential characters as such so they can freely move in and out of the world as they wish. ...I will keep the dying in accidents enabled but I’m really really going to wish that it’s Francisco who dies and not Alyssa. I actually have some relationships with Alyssa as an actress that I hope remain…

Next up is the Jacobs household which oh boy this one hurts. Dannie Jacob is a trans gal I made up in cas and maaaaaaaaaaaan, I like her. She also smooched and is dating Island Living’s main gal Nalanai, preventing her from being culled or killed off but now they’re both back on the danger zone. Mmmmmmm. I’m going to mark off leaving a home, since with Nalani around, she’s a Sulani essential but that will vanish if...you know. Please spare them Grim. Please I beg of you.

Next up is what remains of the Sigworth family. You may be wondering where Jess is. I’m going to leave that as a mystery until we get back into this household. Which might happen someday, because I’m going to take off dying in accidents for this household. Some people may want to deal with a teen taking care of two younger siblings, I’m not one of them.

Next up are the Hoapili household. Both can die but no way will either of them leave Sulani at all. Essental NPCs them, being the chieftain and the chieftain in training.

It has been an age since I last visited the Spencer-Kim-Lewis family. Which is a shame because I have put a lot of time and investment into them before, as evidenced by the elders dying away leaving a teenage Olivia and a new kid named Charlotte. They are sticking in Willow Creek. I don’t quite consider them essential as they could be but I’m far faaaar too invested in them to give them up. Also turning off leaving a career as Alice and Eric have jobs I want them to keep.

Out of all the households to be one and done-ers, pretty disappointed that the Eclectic Arts household is one of them. Especially since I managed to get Erwin Pines within the household! Bah bah bah. They’re free to move and free to change as they please, including death.

Contrast that to Meredith Roswell, who is absolutely a Strangerville essential but also has a toddler who needs taken care of. She’s going to remain. Though I’ll still give her freedom in career movement.

Oh here’s a fun one. I despise Akira Kibo but I adore the pizza delivery lady he’s attempting to woo and charm, Semma Archyea. In part because she was a pizza delivery lady for so long and I was pleased to see her join a household! They won’t leave San Myshuno, or at least Akira won’t. Even though he should, would mean less weird camping trips on his collectable aspiration. Nor will they leave their jobs. Akira’s that tech bro he needs to be.

Aww these guys? The Fletcher household I’ve put so much time and investment in? Aww no. No! No! I’m playing the favoritism card and saying no death to accidents, alongside not moving out of their home and leaving their careers.

I’m also playing favoritism on Rohan Elderberry. The dude is on the cusp of the college gameplay and I want to see where he goes! He’s gotta get past uni before he gets axed! He’ll still be free to join another career in the meanwhile at least.

And finally, the Bheeda’s. They won’t be moving out or changing careers but I can see one singular death in that household. And it would be very interesting drama wise for one than the other. hehehe.

There’s also another thing I like to do when doing these clean-ups. I like seeing the percentage of which household is in which neighborhood. See where I tend to play the most at! Out of the 54 active households…

7 are in Willow Creek at near 13%

6 are in Oasis Springs at around 11%.

3 are in Newcrest at 5%.

3 are in Windenburg.

14 (!!!) are in San Myshuno at almost 26%! More than a quarter!

1 is in Forgotten Hollow close to 2%.

3 are in Brindelton Bay.

2 are in Del Sol Valley at near 4%

1 is in Strangerville.

3 are in Sulani.

1 is in Glimmerbrook.

1 is in Britechester.

4 are in Evergreen Harbor at 7%

2 are in Mt. Komorebi.

2 are in Henford-On-Bagley.

1 is in Moonward Mill.

Of said households...

31 are primally made up of premade households.

12 are primally randomized townies adopted into a home.

9 were created by me.

And 2 were taken from Maxis’s gallery offerings.

There’s a reason I consider City Living an ultra important expansion pack for me, outside of having the Singing skill and that’s because thanks to the apartments enabling a sheer number of households available, I can play a sheer number of households within the region. That also seems to be why Evergreen Harbor also gets attention from me than otherwise. Half of the played households are within apartments! They’re also very affordable and I more frequently move new single sims into them.

Thanks to me gaining even more neighborhoods via packs, my played households has spread out even more, as one would expect. The biggest losses were for Sulani and Strangerville. In Sulani’s case, I feel weirdly bad for the premades and my own Sims that I moved to the bin and fear the spectre of Grim’s hand tightening around them. Strangerville is just a location I really like and feel disappointed that I hardly seem to play in it much. Though I do at least have that one household remaining.

I’m still amazed I manage to roll up the Ward and Bailey-Moon households as frequently as I do.

Also for the newest neighborhoods I’ve purchased, Henford-on-Bagley and Moonward Mill, I’ve feel like I’ve only managed to scratch the surface with them! Though I will say, I’m much more invested in getting more werewolves around than I am to do more farming. Personal biases there. Werewolves are now the coolest.

And that’s the households! Next time we hop into a household I enjoy playing, the Zest household!

[lotus-pear]

i think you guys are onto smth..

i unironically got invested in this HELP

[virgothozul]

[fuckyeahgoodomens]

Hey! Thanks for all the work you do for us!

Thought this might interest you. This cooking channel on YouTube has tried to make some of the recipes from Mrs. Beeton's Cookery and Household Management!

In some ways, I can kind of see why Gabriel picked it up....

Oh thank you! :) The only fun fact I remember about the book is this: :D

[apricusapollo]

"and you kissed me in a way that's gonna screw me up forever" but it's luke to han