#Household Management

[annachum]

Household management as a Feudal rich/noble/Royal lady include :

. Work to keep a court or villa running

. Efficiently managing servants and household staff

. Ensuring that a whole family has enough resources and such

. Have guards to help defend steads especially in war times and such

. Have staff to help maintain cleanliness of a villa/castle/large estate

. Host regular meetings with housekeepers and butlers of the retinue of household management and such

Actually that's how rich people typically manage a household

Household management is literally a life skill, not a gendered skill

[aroclan]

i read Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky, which mentions her previous book Fair Play several times, so… I read that too. Nobody can stop me now!

Find Your Unicorn Space seems pretty straightforward. It's about how to carve time out of caring for a household in order to pursue what makes you alive. Anything creative that can be shared counts. "But first," tasks have to be divided between members of the household so that "having Unicorn Space" doesn't bring the whole house into chaos. (Ironically, it's Fair Play that contains the anecdotes about how "I quit my creative job to become wife-and-mother, then he ultimately fell out of love with me and divorced.")

Fair Play is about dividing those household chores, all the "invisible work" that usually falls on women in a hetero relationship, by representing each of those tasks as cards in a deck. cards that don't apply, or which don't match the partners' values, are removed from the deck, and the participants choose the remaining task cards. then, whoever has the card is 100% responsible for performing the task. no reminders, no "when are you going to do the thing?" it's completely removed from everyone else's radar. the cardholder has all the authority, autonomy, and responsibility for it.

the main thing that the book falls short on is that the language is extremely heteronormative. despite being tested in multiple households with a diverse group of members, the language used is always about "women doing too much" and "men not being useful." i'm sure it's partly because the author is drawing on her own experience, where her husband stepped back once they had children (as is common), but it's also wearying to notice this constantly throughout the book.

on the flip side of this, the main thing i could not stop thinking about while reading is that “this would work so well for bigger homes. with a third person, everyone could divide all the cards without overloading anyone.” in comparison, for a couple, Rodsky recommends trying to keep the household under 80 cards in play (out of 100, although some are "wild cards" like job loss or moving—they're not meant to be in play all the time.)

the book is focused on struggling women improving their own lives immediately, so it doesn't mention any scenario with more adults in a household, whether that's a multi-generational household, polyamory, or queerplatonic partnerships.

beyond all that, it seems like the Fair Play system is customizable. "lawn & plants" might be split into 3 cards: lawn, landscaping, garden. maybe there's an entirely different card to be put in. but again, the book ends up being very focused on the "getting started" level, so this doesn't get a mention in the text.

ultimately, i didn't personally get a lot out of this book—because of past encounters with Dana White's How to Manage your Household and Gemma Hartley's Fed Up, my partner and i already had a decent balance of domestic work. on the other hand, someone who feels like they are drowning in keeping everything running behind-the-scenes should read Fair Play.

[isaacsapphire]

Yeah, even now economies of scale are extremely applicable to personal food; it’s way cheaper in materials and labor and even equipment for a cook to add one more serving to a meal they’re already making than to go make 1 serving for yourself.

We invited door closers, automatic doors, and access control systems pretty recently. Also telephones and cellphones so you can call a locksmith to let you in if you have a key related problem, and package lockers.

Doormen were building security, answering machines, automatic lights, transportation coordination, home shipping and receiving, and yes opened and closed doors, including for the disabled and people who weren’t given keys but were allowed in today, such as repairmen and lessons teachers for the children and temporary kitchen help. Big corporate buildings still have many of these positions as full on jobs!

I don't know how strictly accurate this is, but one of the things I find shocking about watching historical dramas is how many people there are around all the time---according to Madame de... (1953) a well-off French household in the Belle Epoque maintains a workforce of at least 3, and the glittering opera has staff just to open doors. According to Shogun (2024) you can expect a deep bench just to mind your household, and again, people who exist to open doors.

Could people....not open doors in the past? Were doors tricky, before the standardization of hinges? Because otherwise, the wealthy used to pay a whole bunch of people to do it for them in multiple contexts, and I find myself baffled.

[lifewritteninthestars]

It's tough trying to balance work and household management with parenting a lively and energetic baby! Baby C is in that in-between stage, where she doesn't enjoy being independent for very long but gets bored hanging out after a while and so we flip flop all day between her being held and her playing on her own.

As much as I would like to spend all day just playing with her, certain needs do have to be met. Namely, I have to work and earn money, because we live in an expensive place and can't afford to be on only one income. Also, basic household tasks! I work from home and so I'm available to do the housework, and I personally need it to be a certain level of clean or my mental health suffers. So that's also a priority.

But I explain to Baby C what I'm doing when she's strapped to my chest, or I sing to her (regular songs and songs I make up for her), and sometimes we dance. That's always fun for us both! When she's more mobile and thus a little more independent, I imagine it will be somewhat easier. But there's something very special about having had to learn how to do all these chores with a baby snuggled up to me.

I worry that I'm not doing enough for her. That we don't read enough, or lay on the floor and play with toys enough. She's not super interested in any of that, yet, although she's definitely getting there. I hope to use that worry to nudge myself into figuring out a new rhythm, one that adds more quality time with Baby C into my already full days. Maybe as she drops naps, I can turn that time into playtime?

I don't intend to worry overly much about it, though. She's new at being a person, and we're new at being parents. We have time to experiment and see how things go and adjust little bits at a time! She's not even crawling yet. We have so much time.

[ckemployment]

Communication Essentials for Maid Employers in Singapore

When it comes to getting a maid in Singapore, effective communication is key to building a harmonious relationship in your household. Finding a good maid agency Singapore is just the first step. Once you've hired a maid, clear and respectful communication ensures smooth cooperation and understanding between you and your domestic helper.

1. Establish Clear Expectations:

Sit down with your maid and discuss your household rules, expectations, and preferences right from the start. Clearly outline her responsibilities, working hours, and any specific tasks you require.

2. Language Proficiency:

Assess your maid's language proficiency during the hiring process. If she is not fluent in your primary language, consider providing language lessons or using translation tools to facilitate communication.

3. Use Simple Language:

Avoid using complex vocabulary or idiomatic expressions, especially if your maid is still learning the language. Speak slowly and clearly, and encourage her to ask questions if she doesn't understand.

4. Encourage Open Communication:

Create a safe and welcoming environment where your maid feels comfortable expressing herself. Encourage her to voice any concerns or issues she may encounter, and address them promptly and respectfully.

5. Regular Check-Ins:

Schedule regular meetings to get in touch with your maid and discuss any feedback or concerns. This allows you to address issues proactively and ensures that both parties are on the same page.

Conclusion:

Effective communication is vital for a successful maid-employer relationship in Singapore. Following these communication essentials can establish a positive and respectful dynamic with your maid, leading to a happier and more harmonious household.

[bulldogblues]

Eve Rodsky's explanation of the parallels between project management in the workplace and household management was a real eye opener.

In the world of work, 'project manager' is a full time job title, with other workers performing the execution of the tasks themselves. Managing the end-to-end journey of a project takes up so much time and energy that it's neither practical nor fair for them to take on all the individual tasks too.

Yet in the home this somehow flies out the window and the designated 'project manager' (in heterosexual relationships, usually the woman...) is also expected to do most of the tasks too.

Having one partner manage the tasks and the mental load and another partner doing them would actually be fair and reasonable if they both agreed to it... but at best the task manager is still expected to go '50/50' and thus in real terms do way more than 50%.

i think men are bad leaders because leadership just doesn’t come naturally to men. it’s easy to see leadership is a forced nature on men. if leadership was naturally part of men’s existence, they wouldn’t have to assert themselves so aggressively over women.

[peachtacular-home-health-care]

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[prettymummasays]

How Mothers Play a Vital Role in Managing Family's Finances

Mothers play a vital role in managing family’s finances by providing financial stability and security for their families. Their skills in budgeting, financial planning, debt management, and household management can help ensure that the family’s financial needs are met and that they are prepared for unexpected expenses or emergencies. For more details, you can visit the HSBC website. Also,…

[bluerosefox]

Portal Passage

Anther DPxDC idea (it can be either turn into future Dead on Main or Anger Management, I'm not picky)

With Toddler!Damian~

So

When Jason was being 'trained' by the LOA in a fit of Pit Madness he somehow manged to stumble upon a toddler Damian in the base when he fought his current 'teacher' and fell into Damian's own training room at the time he was training.

Jason, even in a Pit Rage episode and not yet fully 'trained' out of his Robin teaching and his own (deeply buried) morals of protecting children, see's a toddler being trained with a legit sword and see's some of the wounds and cuts the kid has on himself from the training. He does not take it well and in a fit, fights the other teacher and gathers Damian into his arms.

This leads to Jason, in half coherent and half Pit Madness, to try to escape with Damian in his arms and get the heck out of the League with assassins at his heels.

However the fight eventually ends up with them near the Pits itself and in a single wrong move the two fall in.

The two do not resurface.

-x-x-

It was a normal day in Amity Park.

As normal as Amity Park could be to be honest.

When one of the Fenton siblings came down to clean the lab for the day when the protal suddenly flared up and for the lack of better words spat out a teen around their age and a toddler.

Both passed out on the lab floor.

[benevolenterrancy]

Sect Leader Nie and his Deputy trauma-bonding over sect paperwork (i feel in my heart that the nie sect does NOT produce great administrators and everyone suffers for that)

[lotus-pear]

i think you guys are onto smth..

i unironically got invested in this HELP

[virgothozul]

[fuckyeahgoodomens]

Hey! Thanks for all the work you do for us!

Thought this might interest you. This cooking channel on YouTube has tried to make some of the recipes from Mrs. Beeton's Cookery and Household Management!

In some ways, I can kind of see why Gabriel picked it up....

Oh thank you! :) The only fun fact I remember about the book is this: :D

[apricusapollo]

"and you kissed me in a way that's gonna screw me up forever" but it's luke to han

[fiveredlights]

happy holidays. here's the first 1000 words of a habit to kick 💃🕺

Formula 1 @/F1 · Aug 7

BREAKING: Callan Merritt to join Mercedes on a multi year contract from 2032. 

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[Photo: Callan with his arms crossed and smiling, wearing a Mercedes shirt. Text reads: Callan Merritt with his signature. On the side, tilted vertically has 2032 Mercedes Driver.] 

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mercedesamgf1 Merritt to Mercedes. It just sounds right 😎 

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callanmerritt Excited to get started next year 💚

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callan71merritt

sorry am i seeing things or does that say mercedes instead of red bull 

#hahahaha what #merritt to where #mercedes? #okay! 

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emotionalsupportredbull

they are foul for saying merritt to mercedes just sounds right because i hate how they are absolutely correct. a little alliteration goes a long way. 

#plus it’s a sign of success… ricciardo returns… okay that’s literally the only example i have #but okay did NOT see callan moving to mercedes at all

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verstappenricciardo

has someone asked matthew evans-campbell if HE’S okay with his Secret Third Thing leaving him to move to his rivals? these are the important question we should be asking! 

#teammates to rivals to lovers arc about to hit hard

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Matthew 7 Aug, 2031 at 7:14 am Are you fucking kidding me Or am I imagining things this morning Callan Why didn’t you tell me You told me you were talking with Red Bull Callan fuck you honestly  You could’ve told me I know you’re seeing this  You didn’t turn read receipts off you asshole

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[Video: Matthew tapping his pass and walking through the paddock gates. He’s walking quickly, not stopping to talk to anyone and looking visibly annoyed—though he’s trying to not let it show.

Text reads: @/matthewevca is in bright and early for his team’s home race ☀️]

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ruby @/41EVA · Aug 7

wow Matthew is walking like he’s a man on a mission he is not stopping for ANYONE

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isla @/verstappenone · Aug 7

the TP press conference being horner, daniel and toto.. oh this is going to be MESSY. someone bring the popcorn. 

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F1 — 2031 AUSTRIAN GRAND PRIX — TEAM PRINCIPAL PRESS CONFERENCE TRANSCRIPT

TEAM REPRESENTATIVES: Christian HORNER (Red Bull), Daniel RICCIARDO (RB), Toto WOLFF (Mercedes)

Q: Right, usually I would start with individually asking all of you but given the recent news of RB driver Callan Merritt moving into Mercedes next season and that implicating all of you, I’ll ask all of you instead. Callan to Mercedes? How did it happen? Toto, we might start with you. 

Toto WOLFF: Actually he came to us in April this year to see what options were available with the team. He heard from someone that George was retiring at the end of this year, and we were starting to look into drivers to replace him for the future and I will not lie, he wasn’t on our list. Not because he is a bad driver, he’s very good, but we all assumed that he would stay with Red Bull. We immediately started talks with him shortly after he contacted us, and we are excited that he is joining us from next year. 

Q: Christian, I can only presume that this came quite a surprise for you and the team? 

Christian HORNER: Yes, certainly quite a surprise given that we were still in negotiations until a couple weeks ago. Obviously we’ve always been interested in Callan moving up into Red Bull, he’s a quick driver and you know we saw that in Abu Dhabi last year when he won. It is quite disappointing given that we’ve been working together since his junior career, we did bring him up through the driver academy, but he’s free to do what he wants. And if he thinks that moving to Mercedes is a good move then he’s welcome to do that. 

Q: Daniel, I assume something similar for you? You would’ve been aware that Callan would be in negotiations with Red Bull? Was the announcement a shock for you? 

Daniel RICCIARDO: No, not a shock for us, I was aware of this before the announcement. I’ve always maintained that Callan is an incredibly talented driver and he deserves the chance to be at a team that can fight for wins and championships on a regular basis—something that we’re unfortunately maybe not necessarily equipped to do at RB—so whether it be at Red Bull, Mercedes or whatever, I think it’s the right choice for him. 

CH: Would have been nice to be given a heads up. 

DR: Driver contract negotiations for Red Bull were always between Red Bull and Callan, not RB and Callan. We’ll support him in whatever choice he makes whilst he’s with us. 

TW: I’m very glad I am not sitting in the middle today! 

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bigriccenergy 

babe wake up another edition of christian horner being the last person to find out one of his drivers is leaving just dropped

#is it just me or does daniel genuinely sound annoyed that RB and red bull are so interconnected #i just wonder if he would be happier if RB was more independent #or if he just went straight for the king

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callan71merritt

“We’ve always been interested in Callan moving up into Red Bull.” 

you are a liar, actress, get the fuck out ❤️

#no you haven’t and i know that because the second max was announced to retire it was full steam ahead on the matthew evans-campbell train #even when callan had outscored matthew in those critical weeks you chose matthew #and when callan won in AD that’s when you realise he could do more 

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vcarbohydrates 

why does toto make it sound like daniel helped callan move to mercedes in some capacity because that’s INSANE. “heard from someone that george was retiring” in april—george’s retirement wasn’t announced until last month. who does callan know that is close enough with george for him to reveal he’s retiring… daniel ricciardo

#or daniel has a sixth sense when it comes to retirement and like max he felt it in the air when it came to george #either way works for me

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Kam @/7114117 · Aug 7

Apparently Matthew found out about Callan’s Merc move at the same time we did. Haha. Oh no. We’re gonna be in trouble 😀

[Video: Matthew in the TV pen.

LAURA: Just very quickly before I let you go, we did find out about your former teammate Callan Merritt’s move to Mercedes. Can I just have your reaction to that? 

MATTHEW: I found out this morning along with everyone else. Yeah, I have nothing else to say. I wish him the best at Mercedes.] 

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mal @/vcarbenergy · Aug 7 

CALLAN WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL HIM WHY DIDN’T YOU TELL HIM WHY DIDN’T YOU TELL HIM

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ruby @/41EVA · Aug 7 

oh if i was matthew i would be 100 times more pissed. frankly i don’t think he’s mad enough. WHERE IS YOUR RAGE 

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sophia @/merrittachieved · Aug 7 

matthew finding out along with everyone else is nasty nasty work callan you fucking idiot

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