#Holy shit this is vile

[dreamstormdragon]

I need to put this here... just... wow

This makes me sick.

People are scary man

Sometimes being the mum who exists in fandom spaces leads to awkward, even concerning, conversations. Such as the one which happened this morning. The mum of my daughter's best mate asked me if one of their mutual friends had sent her a specific message. This message was a link to a fic on ao3, if this had been a G rated fic this conversation would not have happened. It was not G rated. It was an E rated fic. Our kids aren't even 12 yet. As it happens, both of our kids have their internet access heavily locked down and monitored. They have phones because of how their school manages homework. The mutual friend, however, is not so monitored. Or she wasn't, given what her mum found she's about to be. This kid had found a fandom, joined it, and found it chock full of antis. The fic had been sent to her by one of them as an example of the sort of terrible people out there who need to be harassed and attacked because they wrote a smutty story.

Someone thought it was appropriate to send written porn to an 11 year old to encourage her to attack the author.

This resulted in a very awkward conversation where I had to explain to multiple horrified parents the anti culture that is becoming so prevalent. The fact that there are adults who use that purity message to groom kids. The way they escalate and how it bleeds into real life. One parent told me she'd wondered why her 14 year old was suddenly concerned about the two year age gap between her parents. The more I explained, the more absolutely ludicrous it sounded and the more baffled these poor mums looked. More than once I was told "but the characters aren't real, it's really weird but it isn't hurting anyone". Which is the point. The fictional situation isn't hurting anyone. The person who sent porn to an 11 year old is.

Was the person who sent it the author? Doubtful, that thing was tagged in the extreme. Was the person who sent it an adult? Almost certainly. The parent who's child received the original message has found more concerning stuff and gone to the police, but from the language the person doing the sending was in the US. We aren't. Did my daughter receive it? No, she isn't interested in that fandom and therefore wouldn't have bothered with it. Is this the fault of the author? No, they didn't send the link, they didn't ask to be harassed, they wrote a story and put it on ao3, the website created in response to rampant censorship and designed to allow for all kinds of fiction. Is this the fault of the parents? Partially, they should have been looking at their daughter's internet use and clocked what was happening sooner. Is this the fault of the child? No, she's 11, she didn't know better.

This has been a difficult day. Multiple parents have had their eyes opened to parts of fandom culture they had no idea existed. And the thing of it is, they aren't concerned about the why of anti rhetoric. They don't care about the adults writing about teens or rape or incest or torture or any of the rest, because they looked at the clearly tagged and rated fics and figured that it worked the same as a warning on any streaming service. They only cared because some utterly vile individual decided to expose their child to something this girl might not have looked at for years.

Proshippers did not cause what I have spent afternoon helping several sets of parents navigate. Antis did. Normally I'm fairly quiet about the whole debate because I just want to get on with my life and share my experiences. Today I got dragged into that mess in my every day life and the adults in the equation didn't react the way Antis like to think they would. They didn't condemn the author. They condemned the anti who shared the work with a preteen.

[astro-b-o-y-d]

Wild how a trans woman can say 'A hatred of men not only harms cis men and trans men, but it's harmful to trans women who don't pass and is just harmful in general and trans women need to let go of that hatred because it will cause them more harm than good' and millions of people will twist themselves into knots to misunderstand, and inevitably prove, her point.

[trash-gremlin]

could you imagine how good spirit animals would be if it wasn't written as a children's series

[luc3ks]

they're in the buckshot roulette bathroom

[hazbinbabbling4ever]

Anna&Georgia hater: We deserve the basic modicum of human respect! We're just reasonable people with a personal opinion!

the opinion: "OMG look at this shallow spiteful bitch celebrating herself on her birthday, instead of hyping her famous husband who doesn't lack accolades for sure! Putting herself first, on her own bday!!! What a shallow bitch!"

[random-lil-illing]

coloured versions of the girlfailure <3

[valkyurii]

everyday i go online and get exposed to the worst takes imaginable and everyday i have to fight the urge not to kill

[fearandhungies]

the nightmarish intersection of racism and misogyny that i navigate as a rinsha dunmeshi fan

[alaskan-wallflower]

every single day i grow more and more appalled that there are actually kyman holocaust aus.

[catsniffer420]

I did groceries today…… i am so brave……

[ssaalexblake]

Well, my day Was boring till a car caught fire and kind of blew up on my street and I’m now nostalgic for the boredom 🤷🏻‍♀️

[iwonderwh0]

The most fucking disturbing things I've ever seen in this fandom always pretended to be something innocent and cute

[justagaycryptid]

Sorry but if you say you single out any breed/type of dog just to specifically say you hate them, big or small, then I don't like you and actually I am going to steal something out of your house!!!!

[leakingeyess]

i cant believe you threw away all that we had, i trusted you

[jackredfieldwasmyjacob]

someone reblogged stuff from the skamesp translation account. 5 dead 7 injured.

[shrimpmandan]

The amount of blatant misogyny, victim blaming, and slut shaming I've seen surrounding Amouranth just because she's doing something moderately gross (making her pussy yeast into beer) is actually fucking insane to me. Like, I don't care if people find it gross, but Cr1tiKaL's comment section is full of people deriding her for being a sex worker, accusing her of lying about her husband's abuse, and insisting that she deserves to be harassed and stalked just because she IS a sex worker. I swear to fucking god e-thot culture is way less of a problem than whatever the fuck you'd classify "this woman is ICKY which means she deserves to be harassed and degraded" as