#Gender feels

[undefbug]

all i do is make my silly little genderqueer self portraits and wonder if all the confusion and hurt is worth it in the end

[assembling--philosophies]

I’ve been having a lot of gender struggles lately.

Realizing that some of the things I did in my medical transition were due to *CIS* expectations rather than what actually made me feel like myself, to the point that I am pausing my medical transition to figure out what would make me most comfortable.

But Butch Wolverine tho.

Butch Wolverine makes me cry. Because it feels… like something. Like close to what my gender feels like.

And people are thirsty about Butch Wolverine.

A hairy butch. A mutant butch. A broad butch.

And it makes me feel not entirely ugly.

[cryngeisdead]

Finally posting my comic, Iosis, that I did for a collab zine about the undead. This year's been a struggle for me (and a lotta folks) re:gender shit in the states and I've been less than chill about it, so I decided to channel that into a comic about queer vampires.

One thing that may not be clear from my net presence is I've got the subtlety of a brick (insert Garth Marenghi shitpost here) but I'm really proud of how this turned out & I hope y'all enjoy it! Cheers to my beloved @bfleuter for tackling the shading on this one! <3

[tmootsie]

Is there a flag for gender neutral?

Or anything to fit me...?

I like he/they pronouns, i wear any gender clothes and any gender haircuts basically that goes for everything but my pronouns

Thx for reading ❤️

[aspecbuddie]

how did it take me this long to realise I'm trans when I spent my teens wanting to look like gerard way and frank iero????

[yaknowlikenyah]

Guy but not a man. Dude but not a boy. You know?

[archqueer]

Yeah hi my gender identity is that winged lion that serves cunt in dungeon meshi

[that-one-genderfluid-trash-rat]

Do you ever have those days where you just don't want to be perceived? Like today I just didn't want to exist. I didn't want pronouns, which is usually fine I'm just gender that day, but today my name didn't even feel right. I just didn't want to be... I felt kinda broken and it wasn't fun. I know I'm valid and that my feelings are valid, it was just a hard day to gender I suppose. Also my space bar is being weird and it's not nice.

[kendrene]

Gender affirming haircut acquired

[nastasya--filippovna]

Gender is something invented by bathroom companies to sell more bathrooms

[your-fathers-favourite-daughter]

Hi dolls ♡

Have been doing a lot of thinking and I decided to officially come out as gender fluid on here. I'm bad at coming out so yipee.

Anyway, love you guys ♡

[lowdowndandy]

I'm a boy in a girl way.

like at recess when one of the girls had to be the prince or knight in armor. my gender is fairy prince at the end of thumbalina (you have to imagine the wings). it's frodo with a stick pretending to fight off orcs on the monkey bars. It's Sun Wukong on the Trampoline with a field hockey stick in place of a staff.

My gender is like that fish that changes when there's so many girls around they've got no other choice than to become handsome.

I mean, who wants to be The Boy™ when we play our games- we're all scraping our knees and tasting blood and trading lunch - but. But. But. But.

You know, I never chose to be the boy. Not then, not when our group was only girls. It was given to me, tenderly, with outstretched arms - hopeful faces I knew thought were placing a burden on my shoulders.

D'you wanna know why they picked me? Over and over game after game through fairy tales and Disney princesses and Lord of the Rings and when we got older and we learned to write our stories down, why they picked me?

Because I'm good at it.

I never got to be the princess because everyone wanted me to be their prince.

And- if I'm being honest, it's not like I'd have ever turned down the opportunity. It's hard to describe gender euphoria when you don't even know the meaning of either word in 4th grade. Or 5th. Or 16th birthday. Or at your high school graduation.

But when I was six I used to play with a little girl down the street. Bugs thawed my ice-incased body, freeing my wings so I could save Thumbalina from marrying the mole. And with a kiss I gave her wings (you have to imagine the wings) but she called me her prince and I was able to fly.

[aoifereal]

It feels kind of silly but I'm still feeling happy because yesterday I was wearing a typical outfit of mine but the t shirt was a heavy one so obscured my boobs pretty completely and I have no confidence in my voice but I still god ma'amed by strangers.

[indigosabyss]

Thoughts on Nina and His Gender Presentation

this is a companion piece to a Hollow Spirit ficlet I'm writing to get my gender feelings out. Felt like I should explain Nina from Nanbaka, seeing how he's the relatively unknown one.

so, in the New Year's East vs West Butoukai Arc, we are introduced to former idol/singer, Inmate 27 (aka Nina), alongside his two bandmates Shina and Mina. (and a third former member Hina) pictured below, see anything interesting?

Yeah. Nina is pretty femme-presenting. Not strange for nanbaka, there are literally a dozen femboys in the cast. Including his three bandmates.

What interests me is how he presents gender, and the context of his life before Nanba Prison.

There are other feminine men in Nanba. Specifically Hitoshi, Kiji, and Ruka are the most well-known examples. Kiji and Ruka put a lot of effort into getting that effect, as seen by how much they obsess over their makeup and hair. Hitoshi is also known to have a pretty deep voice naturally which he pitches up, and he tweaks his appearance a lot, such as with color contacts and his sometimes-ringlets.

Not Nina. He doesn't give a fuck. He hates everything. Openly mocks the idea of idols and just wants to commit mass violence. Only interest he's ever shown in Magidru work is when his bandmates wanted to put on a liveshow once they got parole. Hina at least had an interest in "cute things" and clearly put thought into his presentation, so it's interesting to see how Nina's mindset differs from even people in the same situation as him.

okay, now onto my interpretations of him:

my headcanon is that he's a trans guy. all four of Magidru is. reasoning for this is that they were a very popular idol group outside of Nanba. And the way they present is the brand they displayed before their imprisonment, and it's not likely a guy group got to present like this and reach the heights they did.

So he's trans. and just doesn't care about his appearance as long as people call him the right pronouns (mostly bc he wants an excuse to smash someone's face in). And he thinks his idol job is frivolous, but puts up with it bc he gets money.

This is my interpretation of Nina and how I'll be writing him in the Hollow Spirit AU. I'd like to hear your thoughts!

[aspecbuddie]

fellow trans people:

when quoting someone you're not out to (who uses the wrong name and pronouns) to someone that you are out to (and who knows your deadname)

do you change the quote to the right name and pronouns, or leave it wrong for sake of accuracy?

(eg, me messaging my friend telling them 'my mum just told someone "[deadname] did this but she said she wouldn't" '

instead of changing it to "[new name] did this but he said he wouldn't" which wasn't exactly what was said, but feels better to send to that friend)