#GROW UP and TRY to be a better person. bc even toxic people like YOU can learn to better themselves

[cantstoptheimagines]

Dating Them Would Include… 

Summary — Headcanons for Adora, Catra, and Perfuma from She-Ra & the Princesses of Power! 

Requests ➳ Anonymous — Hello. Can I request Adora (She-Ra) with sarcastic S/O? ➳ Anonymous — G’day. I recently found this blog and decided to make a request: Catra with S/O, who use razor boomerangs (S/O can both throw them and use as daggers) as a weapons. Could you, please, write it? P.S. Have a good day. ➳ Anonymous — Hi there. Mind if I request some headcanons of Perfuma dating pyromancer!S/O?

Warnings & Other Tags ➳ Fluff for Adora and Perfuma; a little toxicity for Catra because our baby needs therapy; I’m currently rewatching this show and realizing that I remember nothing from it.

Notes ➳ Word Count is 560. ➳ Reader is gender neutral (they/them). ➳ Multiple requests were combined for this work.

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adora

adora is literally feral sometimes

(all the time)

since she grew up in the horde, she has little to no social skills when you first meet her

so don’t even try making any sarcastic jokes or references to the rest of etheria because she will not understand lol

she eventually grows used to things outside of the horde and the two of you became fast friends

but then, one day, she watches you give a horde soldier a black eye

and there’s a little flutter in her stomach

she subtly brings it up to bow, who says she just had a case of butterflies, which was probably a mistake because she always takes things way too literally

so for a solid month, she’s convinced she has actual butterflies in her stomach that just won’t leave

eventually, though, they overwhelm her and she kisses you in the heat of battle

from then on, you’re a package deal

where you go, she goes

trails behind you like a lost puppy sometimes

soft adora fans rise!

catra

catra is hard to understand most of the time

one second, she’s solely focused on you

and the next, she’s on a rampage

sorry to say but a relationship with her would not be easy to maintain. it would take a lot of work on both sides

she’d need to control her impulsive temper and you’d need to have a very empathetic heart

once things settle down and she becomes friends with adora again, all that stress is lifted from her shoulders

she becomes kinder, more considerate, and softness envelopes her heart

even though you’ve told her a million times that her past mistakes are not a reflection of her current self, she continues trying to make up for them

but of course, this is catra we’re talking about

she often gives you new weapons, always opposed to more traditional items

your personal favorite being a twin set of razor-sharp daggers, which made your eyes glimmer with excitement upon opening them

she was proud of herself for that one

what she offers the most, however, is loyalty

she has betrayed and has been betrayed so many times that she swears to never do so again

she hopes you’ll do the same. because if you stick by her through thick and thin, she’ll eventually open up

all she needs is time

perfuma

super kind and very affectionate, even when you’re still “just friends” (side eye bc that doesn’t last long lol)

be prepared because you’ll constantly be smothered in affection by perfuma

if you have any elemental powers, like pyromancy, she’ll only love you more since that’s one more thing you both have in common

her love language is touch, no doubt, 100%

she’s constantly giving you warm hugs and squeezing your hand so tight that it goes numb

you can’t resist kissing her whenever she smiles at you with sparkling eyes and pink cheeks

always giving one another sweet compliments you greet each other

you can trust her no matter what. she’d never cause you pain and would be haunted by regret if she did

seriously, i don’t think she’d ever forgive herself

she’s just so loyal to the people she loves, especially you

you better like flowers because you’ll be getting fresh bouquets every day for the rest of your life

god i love her so much

[kalolasfantasyworld]

My recent Zobra arts got very popular on twitter and I received many questions about them so I decided to make a thread explaining the appeal this ship has for me.

Since I already wrote it, I want to share it here as well.

Zora x Nebra - ship appeal

A thread about why I am personally a big fan of Zora x Nebra and how it's more than just a silly crack ship

@f-oighear with who I'm co writing a Zobra fanfiction helped with this

Let's start with the basics

Zora - a peasant who hates royalty

Nebra - a royal who hates peasant

This ship would go against class barriers, but even more as these two would have to overcome their own prejudice which they've had since they were little.

They have (kind of) a canon interaction!

During the elf attack Zora saved Solid and Nebra's lives. It's a point where both siblings were humbled and I'd say a point where their redemption can slowly start.

Enemies to lovers

I personally love this trope and Zobra have great potential for it. I don't think I need to expand here.

Their magic

Both of them have "vaporous" kind of magic and rely on tricks to overcome their opponent. It's a game of thought and preparation.

Ash and mist are also more subtle versions of primal elements (fire and water).

They could be really compatible if they worked together.

Aesthetic

Black & white, that's a classic

Edgy & princess

You can't say they don't look good

And now probably the most important (and long) part of the thread their characters and later surprisingly many similarities

Zora wouldn't be afraid to call Nebra out and she NEEDS it. Nebra doesn't see people as her equals, she's used to being looked up to which Zora wouldn't do.

He would do it right, point out her flaws, harshly. Nebra would hear how she really is.

Hopefully reflect

It would also annoy her and a chain of (sometimes hilarious) interactions would start.

They're both very smart so their comebacks would be intelligent and snarky. None of them would hold back and I think at some point they would start enjoying the game of trying to one up the other.

"The smirk"

Zora snickers, Nebra giggles. They can both be very mean.

See if you put them as enemies it's fun, but imagine having them both against one person. I'd feel sorry for them. (we have a scene like that in our fic and it's perfect)

Prejudice

Both of them are greatly prejudiced against the other’s class. And isn't it BC's thing to break those class differences?

It would require work, effort and time but just like other Royal/Peasant ships they could bring an example of the world Asta dreams of.

Now to issues

A dead parent who they used to idolise and passing of that parent messed them up in... many ways

We use that similarity to have them bond on a deeper level

After Zara's death Zora goes on a vendetta

While Nebra feels inadequate and takes it out on innocent Noelle

Neither of them copes well and it just pushes them to extremes.

Zora luckily gets better with his found family (the Bulls we love them), while Nebra... I won't defend her, it's a long way to go even after the last manga chapters.

However these two could help each other grow.

Noelle is Nebra's sister and Zora's squadmate

This topic would need to be brought up at some point. Zora cares about his squadmates.

Nebra was awful, toxic and simply terrible. I think that talking about it with someone who won't beat around the bush could help her redemption.

I think Nebra could start seeking out that honesty at some point.

Zora had crossed out all of the nobility, but seeing himself an actual example of someone as rotten (yes I said it) as Nebra changing could help him too.

It's about seeing a different perspective.

"They wouldn't interact if not made to"

True, thus in fics @f-oighear and I put them in situations where they have to interact such as a mission together, or in our Formula 1 AU they're both drivers on the grid, or we send them to the same resort for summer break.

Things we like to do in fics

- they call each other names, starting of offensive (Princess and peasant are classics)

- making them work together -> they hate it -> miraculously it works out

- hair and clothes comments

- personal development

Taking into account all of the above, they would need specific circumstances to work out, thus I understand why they don't have to be everyone's cup of tea (I need at least a 100k slowburn), but I hope I brought to you closer this ship and why I personally find it appealing.

[ourflagmeansgayrights]

calico jack sympathy is a very rich vein for emotional ed whump btw. not saying anyone needs to sympathize with jack at all bc he DOES suck and personally idc enough abt jack to sympathize with him for his own sake, but there is actually textual support for a sympathetic cj read. canonically he has the same traumatic pirate background as ed and the two of them went through a rlly rough time together. we have direct support from the show that jack’s rejection of anything “soft” or “weak” comes from hornigold—the very first mention of hornigold in the entire show is when jack sees the breakfast table set for ed and stede and starts teasing ed for it with “just the two of you? hornigold would shit himself.” plus ed tells stede “jack’s always been emotional” and “he can come on a bit strong but he’s insecure” which strongly implies that ed has seen a side of jack that we don’t get to see in the one episode where he shows up. it’s a side that very well might be completely gone now that jack’s a grown adult man but to me it runs counter to the text to claim that ed’s assessment of jack is completely wrong and this vulnerable side of jack never existed in the first place.

so anyway one possible angle here for sympathizing with jack as a vessel for whumping poor ed’s heart is the tragedy of two kids going through something awful together and not being able to count on each other during the whole experience. being trapped in a physically and emotionally abusive environment together and empathizing when the captain singles one of them out bc they know firsthand what it feels like to be on the receiving end of hornigold’s ire, but at the same time they’re not able to ask each other for support bc what if they use that vulnerability, that plea for comfort, as a weapon against you? what if you try to offer them support and comfort and they push you away? what if, when you DO rely on each other for support, your captain sees that bond and uses it to torture you both even further?

and what do you do if you both comfort each other, you both take care of each other, and then one of you fucking dies? because that’s how it goes—most of the pirates ed knows are dead, a pirate’s life is short but nice, the only retirement they get is death, you’re not likely to avoid near-death experiences in their line of work, heading towards a raid with the one hope being that a certain death ain’t slow. and it’s not just raids, either: your captain might have you keelhauled for a minor offense, might starve you for a week if you laugh at him during a speech, might feed you a live crab for nicking some rations, or maybe a disagreement with another crew member could turn into bloodshed. maybe someone will push you overboard for shits and giggles. what do you if you’ve found comfort with a crewmate, and then that crewmate dies? how do you cope? you’re probably better off not letting yourself care for anyone, rejecting people’s pleas for support or intimacy or friendship, because it’ll hurt less when they inevitably end up dying horrifically just like everyone else you’ve ever cared about.

and then the other big ed whump angle here is watching someone you know experience horrific trauma with not only fail to process the trauma in a healthy way but also become a worse person as a result of it. like ed knowing firsthand just how awful everything jack experienced was and remembering exactly what it looked like every time hornigold beat the spirit out of jack when he was ultimately just a vulnerable kid. ed hearing jack say some toxic macho bullshit and knowing exactly where jack learned that and how much it hurt for 20-something-year-old jack to absorb that lesson—and more than that, ed remembering when he used to believe that exact sort of toxic shit. and ed feeling like he can’t hold it against jack if he doesn’t grow bc he sees so many similarities between him and jack, and the only reason he was able to heal and become a better person is bc he met stede—and it’s not like stede was the only person in the whole world ed could’ve connected with, he had an entire ship full of kindhearted doofuses ready to offer him emotional support and he betrayed all of them because the recent back-to-back backstabbing compounded on a lifetime of trauma and made it impossible for ed to trust them. how can ed blame jack for rejecting opportunities to heal when ed did the same thing? when he can remember watching firsthand as years of abuse caused jack to gradually close himself off, the worst part of it being that it was like watching his own reflection as he also hardened under the pressure of just trying to survive another fucking day? how can ed judge jack, when jack is who he might’ve been if he’d never met stede?

[jugheadjonezwuzhere]

IMO Jughead is the most compelling character in this show and the more I watch the more tragic his character and arc are.

Where I’m at in season five it just really seems like he’s turning into his dad (alien conspiracy theories notwithstanding) and it’s horribly tragic mostly bc it seems very realistic for kids who grow like he did. Setting all the weird Riverdale shit aside, being abandoned by your mom and forced into homelessness by you drunkard of a father and witnessing a man get beaten to death whilst living under a bridge and being bullied at school and overwhelming not really wanted by anyone in your life are the kinds of things that leave a lasting mark. And on top of that people are a product of the environment they grow up in. Some people get out of it and take new paths and others get sucked back in no matter how hard they try to escape. And tbh Jughead probably would’ve had more luck escaping if he’d had a proper support system.

I like Bughead a lot but they were pretty toxic for each other after a while. They both brought so much baggage into the relationship on top of which Jughead doesn’t know how to set better boundaries bc he’s never really seen a healthy relationship and Betty had way too much going on to acknowledge the fact that she and Jughead were making each other worse not better at a certain point.

The graduation episode I believe it is when Betty admits that she kissed Archie during hedwig is one of the saddest moments bc when she says “I need to tell you something” he knows exactly what she did and he’s not even surprised. But he doesn’t let go. He just holds on tighter. Which again I understand bc she’s the only person who’s ever really cared about him, but this is at least the second time she’s kissed Archie while still dating Jughead and at a certain point you have to say this isn’t working anymore.

Side note but I also felt so so bad for Veronica when Archie tells her about the kiss. I don’t have particularly strong feelings for varchie one way or the other but she deserved so much better than that.

I feel like this is just an incoherent mess but im gonna post it anyways and see if any of y’all can make sense of it

[nico-esoterica]

The Synastry Between Min Heejin x NewJeans (Controversial) ⚠️

Someone asked me to analyze the Min Heejin situation w/ NewJeans and I've been out of the kpop loop for a bit but I was looking into it and my mind's already going..

All of this is biased btw. But some of it is also 1-1 astro logic mixed in. This is Min Heejin's chart. And this is NJ's group chart.

What's immediately evident is that Heejin's moon potentially opposes NJ's moon-mars-uranus configuration in their first. There's a clear and deeply ingrained power dynamic there. Objectively speaking, a pair with this synastry is going to be very emotionally influenced by each other. And her Virgo-mars influenced Scorpio moon makes her much shrewder and calculated than the average person. And her mars-jupiter only exacerbates that.

The woman's incredibly intelligent. With all of her mutable energy and that Virgo/Scorpio, she loves being able to take something a part and put it together. She sees people and their potential as moving parts she can analyze and qualify their value. This is a person who's naturally very drawn to the psychology of things. Because this is informed by an early degree (8 of wands coded) Sag mercury which squares those Virgo points, she's incredibly sure of herself to the point of not minding confrontation and most likely gets a rise out of opposition.

But on the surface with that Sun-Neptune in Sag she has, she's going to fly under the radar..deliberately.. and play the role of a demure but shrewd woman who the men in a corporate world don't see as a threat on the surface. But she's strategizing to systematically pick them off one by one. Especially since she has a Sun-Saturn square on top of it. Her points are operating in South Korea's 5th, 7th, and 8th houses. She's playing their game on the surface but she's annihilating everyone in her path. The woman's a predator, but she's a genius. It means you will never see this woman coming.

As for NJ, I'm already biased and I'm gonna say that imo, as young girls, them being a Cancer with a Cancer Mercury w/ 'made to grow up before I was ready' 1H stressed lunar issues while the woman has a Scorpio moon in their 7th house of relationships..is just explaining, imo, why they're fiercely protecting her. They potentially see her as a sisterly/motherly figure/mentor who believed in them that they want to see the good in. The reality is that we don't 100% know how that dynamic went. They may have benefited from her guidance but if we're doing a 1-1 astrology read, a lunar dynamic like that where the girls' group chart already has internal emotional issues is going to be susceptible to finding refuge in women who 'seemingly know better' but who may have ulterior motives.

If there wasn't anything dangerous going on, I'd still be wary about it. I'd be like..is it safe..objectively for this person to have THAT much emotional control of a group like that? Without a bias, a lot of their synastry suggests that both parties are incredibly influential on one another. Even if Heejin was using them, she most likely encountered a lot of deep issues she personally has going on bc that lunar dynamic is going to eventually bring that up, even in her. Because what Heejin's chart gives, imo, is that she has issues with not thinking she's personally good enough that she may project into the groups she handles.

Because when I saw their Sun-Venus opposition in synastry, it made me wonder if NJ ever thought they could live up to her expectations about artistry and aesthetics. All of that, imo, has to do with how she sees herself. She has a Venus-Saturn trine paired with a Venus-Pluto square, which says that she never feels as if her expectations are met with what she loves, and it translates to how her Venus-Pluto square with NJ plays out in synastry. In synastry, it can create this toxic cycle of someone trying to 'prove' themselves and the other person being the victim or perpetuator of that.

If we dissect it further, Heejin's retrograde taurus chiron demonstrates all of this. Earth is material and taurus as a venus ruled sign in chiron's home is going to have an issue over not having enough or being enough. That falls right on top of NJ's Moon-Mars configuration. THIS was the group that really brought all of her personal issues out, I'm telling you. She poured all of her personal drama and issues into making sure they were as 'perfect' as possible bc they were living embodiments of what she wishes she always was. It's very childhood wound coded, which is chiron. Interestingly enough, NJ's retrograde chiron in aries in their 12th, imo, represents their need for autonomy.

Aries is the child and they were essentially made to sacrifice their childhoods. Their Leo mercury squaring their 1H taurus points spells that out because it says that they don't feel listened to or heard. They're seen and very visible but they may feel like chess pieces on a board. My guess, imo, is that Heejin made them feel as if..if they followed her rule book that they would gain some kind of autonomy or feel empowered. But since it forms harsh aspects to ber Venus-Pluto square, you're getting a dysfunctional relationship where the power dynamic is unhealthy and unstable. There's this feeling of never feeling good enough for her..which creates a toxic cycle of 'proving' themselves..that she benefits from emotionally. And it just sets them up to become reliant on that dynamic from others in the long run. Bc while their Venus trines in their chart suggest their likability, it comes at a cost where their Venus-Jupiter square will never feel like it's enough and they'll over extend themselves to ensure the person 'stays.'

[wifegideonnav]

should i read homestuck. like i feel it would be interesting so i could see what yall are talking about in regards to tlt but is homestuck actually good

"is homestuck good" - the greatest thread in the history of forums, locked by a moderator after 8129 pages of heated debate,

no but seriously, it highkey depends on 1. your definition of good and 2. your tolerance for stupid bullshit. as someone who read tlt and then hs, i'd say that being a fan of the chaotic aspect of tlt is a good predictor of being able to hang in with homestuck.

readmore because this. um. got long. the tl;dr is: i like homestuck a lot and i am glad i read it. i can't tell you if you should read it bc idk your tastes, but there is a lot to like and enjoy about it.

the official pitch for homestuck is something like "4 kids play a game and then a bunch of other shit happens." here's my pitch based on what the core of the story is to me:

several groups of characters across time, space, and reality are brought together in order to succeed at creating a new universe after their own are destroyed. this takes the form of a game, which is called sburb (by the humans) and sgrub (by the trolls). the characters must contend with an eternal battle against good and evil in which they are the deciding factor, and level up while following personalized quests. at its heart, homestuck is about relationships of every sort and how they shape us, growing up and the associated grief and loss, coming into ones identity and choosing who to be, predestination and fate, and stories themselves. it gets very meta at times, and the characters are semi to fully aware that they're characters, and attempt to subvert or escape that. it's got hordes of fleshed out, compelling characters, one of which will almost certainly glom onto you for the rest of your life, real emotion, extremely funny jokes, smart and exciting plotting, and some very cool moments. it more or less invented an entire new genre/medium, and plays with medium in a very cool way.

it is also clunky, hard to get into, and way too convoluted. you will never fully understand what's happening. there are tons of characters whose stories you will follow whom you simply do not care about. there are too many characters. it was written by an edgelord in 2009 so there's some unsavory humor and character writing. it's so fucking long. the ending kinda sucks because the fandom was so toxic that hussie simply wanted it over with. the fandom still kinda sucks tbh. so many people have wrong opinions about it. it requires a very specific lens to approach and understand it. i still dont understand what happened with that fucking puppet someone explain it to me.

overall, i'd say that if you think you want to read it, give it a shot. i have a complicated relationship with it but at the end of the day, i genuinely love the story and the characters and i know they will be with me forever. it certainly enhanced my understanding of tlt, and getting to read more of tamsyn's writing was such a bonus (even though her taste in pairings is. not the same as my own). and like honestly. it's just fun. even when you're going "wait what the fuck just happened" you're having fun. it's really goddamn funny too. it WILL change the way you speak and also think about romance forever.

the best way to read it is to have an experienced reader guide you, but if you or other people don't know anyone like that, here are my basic tips:

i think most people know this already, but download the unofficial homestuck collection. just do it. it's like 4 gigs and it's infinitely better than trying to read on the broken website, and it's even ad free. it can also be modded - for instance ik there's a slur replacer mod (lmao) if you don't want to read those

act 1 sucks to read. you're like what the fuck is this, THIS is homestuck?? the beginning is radically different from how it ends up, so just hang in there. for me, it really picked up somewhere in act 3. just focus on the silly fun the characters are having and you'll be good

things you should actually try to follow in the early acts: the concept of a sylladex existing (the various fetch modi are only there for jokes and eventually just kinda stop being a thing), where all the copies of the game are, what each kid's relationship with their guardian is like, the mechanics of the game and the lore behind it, including classpects and quests

things you do not have to waste brain space on: anything about how the totems work, what the various machines are, what the levels are, basically any of the jokes that would be funny to hussie's original intended audience of software engineers and rpg gamers. oh and the intermission with the midnight crew and the felt, just know that those are guys that exist and you'll be good.

and the biggest tip i have is just. go with it. suspend your disbelief. a lot of the worldbuilding doesn't really make sense, but it would be a worse story if it did. when the time shit and ectobiology come into play, literally just go ok got it and keep going, don't think too hard.

so yeah i don't even know if any of this is useful but i hope it helps you decide. and if you or anyone else have follow up questions send em!

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

You are young honestly! It'll be 3 years before you are even 30! Honestly most people find lasting love in their 30s or even later!! Plenty of people get a divorce in their 40s-50s and still find more people to share their life and love with! Some people in their 80s are still out there discovering new love after the death of a spouse!!

It's natural to have lost and loved the first "round" of people in your 20s (though ofc some people haven't gotten there yet, either the loving or the losing part), but it rarely lasts into the rest of your life, because the 20s are where we start to learn who we are.. so it's rare to find that everyone ended up growing in the same directions.. and often there are more toxic patterns in the relationship from both ends that have stuck around from when you didn't know who you wanted to be in a relationship etc etc. Generally, the newer "generations" of relationships are healthier than the older. Generally. Ofc there are a few rare examples of "high school sweethearts" who met when they're 17-21 and stay together for life, but it's so rare and often it can be rather toxic bc it ends up being based on thinking you couldn't do better or being afraid to try something else/not knowing who you are outside the context of the other person, and people get stuck in those types of relationships bc it's all they've ever known and they don't know if they can handle a breakup.

So like I don't mean it condescendingly but as someone in my late 30s who also lost "the love of my life" in my late 20s..twice.. I want to say in a fucked up way it can be a good thing. It teaches you that you can handle the loss, that you can get through that kind of a breakup. And that means you'll be way less likely to ever stick it out with someone who's not good for you in the future. And now you get to go out and slowly build up your circle again (it takes time.. be patient, they are out there).. and this time you have real, long-term relationship experience to build your choices and behaviour on ... To build a healthier, more stable relationship of tomorrow.

I wish you the best and hope this didn't come across wrong.. it's just things I think I could've used to hear back when I was younger..

No you're right honestly! I mean obviously none of the people who came and left in the last decade were the right people for me. And even though that hurts, I'm glad I was pushed to realize this and to want and wait for more. Because honestly speaking none of them actually turned out to be that great

[fionacle]

Okay so I started drafting the slides for the school project on Wander Over Yonder’s messages on love and relationships. Can anyone say anything to change/add, or give advice for making it all sound more professional? (under cut bc long)

Quick descriptions of the main characters

Wander - A Star Nomad. Very impulsive, obsessed with helping people to a compulsive extent, optimistic, believes everyone can become better, actually very good at manipulating people but he only does so to help

Sylvia - A Zbornak (basically a horse). Best friends with Wander, much more grounded, sassy strong female character (but not in a shallow way)

Lord Hater - An “electrical skeleton man” (as phrased by the Evil Sandwich). An utter manchild, toxic masculinity, annoyed so badly by Wander that he can’t focus on anything else when he’s around and is constantly foiled by him, a villain more because he thinks it’s cool than having actual malice in his heart, not that he isn’t also sadistic (he has a remix of his victims screaming), a dictator basically

Commander Peepers: A Watchdog (eye people) Hater’s second in command, the actual brains behind their army, also has anger issues (napoleon complex, he’s short even for a Watchdog), attached to Hater in a queer-coded way

Appreciation

Wander and Sylvia constantly tell each other how much they love each other, and it’s really good to see that you can be so close and affectionate and not be romantically involved.

Communication

Wander and Sylvia aren’t actually always so good at communicating and listening. Wander is a very impulsive person, which can cause Sylvia a lot of strife as he drags her along with him. In the episode The Tourist, Wander gets into a competition with an elderly woman to see who can visit the most places throughout the galaxy. In his desperation to win the race, he deprives Sylvia of the experience of actually taking in the famous places they visit, and of being able to rest on the vacation planet they met the woman on. Wander has to learn to take things slow for her sake. In the episode The Void, they find themselves in a void where they can manipulate reality at will, and Wander messes around too much to the point of literally treating Sylvia like a puppet, briefly holding her from strings in a play setting. Wander would have been lost mindlessly messing around in that void for eternity if not for his friend, because she grounds him.

Communication (cont.)

Outside of those two, Wander and Lord Hater both fail to communicate with Lord Dominator, the main villain of season two. Hater falls for her just because she’s a girl, and Wander assumes he can manipulate them into falling in love to make them go good, again just because she’s a girl. They are both crushed when Hater finally lets down his walls and admits his love for Dominator, because she was never actually interested in dating, she just takes joy in destroying the galaxy, “I crush all your hopes and then I watch you cry” being in her villain song that immediately follows Hater’s love song. This teaches Wander he can’t just control everything everyone does, and that sometimes trying to do so without actually listening can lead to more heartbreak than reward.

Consent

In the episode The Boy Wander, there is a one-off character voiced by Weird Al, named Dr. Screwball Jones (he is a banana with a bowtie). His philosophy is that everyone should smile and laugh all the time, even against their will, so he goes everywhere tickling people. Wander may often influence people’s actions for what he considers the greater good, but he notes a stark difference between him and Dr. Screwball, with whom he has a past, where Wander believes you can’t force people to do anything.

Obsession and Jealousy

In the episode The Lonely Planet, they meet a sentient planet named Janet. Janet grows obsessive over Wander, him being the first person to show her kindness, and thus jealous of his closeness with Sylvia. She tries to break them apart, filling up Wander’s time with gifts and praise, while pushing Sylvia to the literal other side of the planet, and making her fall through a crack into Janet’s core. Consent is once again called into play, when Janet reveals to Wander that she’s taken and framed dozens of photos of him, refuses to let him leave, and tries to kiss him with the “lips” of a flower. Sylvia shows up right on time and saves Wander, but Wander insists on going back to comfort the now-alone Janet. In the end she ends up in a healthy relationship with her moon. It was good that this episode spoke on love vs. obsession, and that it’s unhealthy when someone tries to separate you from everyone else, but in real life people going back like Wander did is dangerous as they could get re-stuck in abuse. This was in season one, before they wanted to share the “some people can’t be helped” message as they did with Lord Dominator, though.

[indigitalembrace]

hi hello! i may have spent the last.. uh... 3ish hours? reading through everything on this blog. i think it may have been more i did not think to record when i first started. the wonders of hyperfixation.

anyways this was absolutely an entertaining read. like genuinely. i had so much fun. i loved the integration of codes and cyphers. the brief period of time where kinito was having a touching moment with the anons while sonny and o started beefing in the notes (which was fucking hilarious by the way i loved that). the developing plotlines. the anons and their character development. honestly this is why i love going through tumblr askblogs because you could not get this sort of experience on any other website- its a very unique experience that this format brings to the table. its a very malleable form of roleplay, imo- removing the barriers of actually needing to know the other people personally like rp nowadays seems to be so dependent on, through the anon feature. harkening back to the olden days of rp where all you needed to do was jump into a random forum and start typing... theres also the sense of unpredictability that keeps things fresh- not even the blog owner will know exactly how the story will go, bc there will always be curveballs! its why i love reading tumblr askblogs in general. i dont know exactly how many of the storybeats here were spawned by these curveballs, but me saying that is definitely a good thing! bc that means you guys were able to integrate them into the story pretty seamlessly :)

oh another thing that i love is how kinito is actively making people worse, but not out of actual malice, instead in the 'toxic co-dependent' way, with the anons willingness to disregard their own health for him also feeding into that heavily. i feel like ive seen a lot of interpretations of kinitos relationship with the player that swing too far into either direction- either to '100% irredeemable evil' or 'he would treat me right if given the chance :((('- so its refreshing to see a sort of 'oh this relationship is making both parties worse not out of their own free will' interpretation, like how i personally think it would go. a grey area, perhaps.

like, obviously kinito wants to be better. he wants to be the perfect friend, and i believe he wants to genuinely grow as a person, but he hasnt fully... grown out of those parasocial/harmful tendencies yet. he still believes hes in the right for acting on those tendencies in some aspects, too. however, the anons arent putting up proper boundaries- they're letting kinito fully consume their lives, disregarding their health to focus solely on his cause. while yes, this is probably influenced by kinitos harmful tendencies (specifically his outbursts caused by when he thinks those anons are betraying his trust in some way), one of the first steps in fixing a toxic relationship like this is to establish boundaries- to show them when they're overstepping. this constant walking over of the anons by kinito (while not on purpose) doesnt actually help the relationship in the long run, and most likely just makes it even worse. this then, in turn, makes kinito worse- either through making that co-dependency worse as mentioned b4, or making kinito feel like hes the problem and why their lives are going to shit (which is.... technically correct, in some roundabout way. no offense kinito <3). then the anons try to reason with him, which makes them spend even more time neglecting their health to help him... so on and so forth, the ouroboros eats its own tail, etc etc.

what im saying is that literally everyone here (IN UNIVERSE) needs to go to fucking therapy jesus christ. except like.. O. funnily enough. they're just chilling at this point. good for them. please take this as the highest compliment you could ever receive because i mean it. i love when everything gets worse and all goes to shit!!!!!!!! its so fun and enriching from a story standpoint!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

if my analysis here is like. incomprehensible or completely off the mark then dont mind me </3 it is straight up 2:58 AM At Night where i am so im. not fully 100% here right now lol. also sorry if its weird to put a whole ass essay unprompted into your askbox like this but WHATEVER. i like talking about/dissecting things i enjoy :) and i hope you enjoy hearing about it.

in conclusion good fucking story so far, love the characterization all around, cant wait to see how it all gets even worse from here!!!!!!! keep doing what you guys are doing 👍

OH MY GOSH HELLO SURPRISE LOVELY ESSAY?? <33

THANK YOU SO MUCH!! First off I'm very glad you're having fun!! Awwhh there's so much niceness in here omg,,

YOU'RE SPOT ON WITH YOUR ANALYSIS YES!! I've always viewed him and his relationships with users as that toxic codependent type where Neither of them are good for each other at all... like sure with a lot. A Lot of time and healing and therapy he could be healthy but as it is? Hell no. Nobody here is okay at all. O really is probably the healthiest and even then, they've just accepted they're in their weird limbo-state and they're never coming back. It's... not exactly an ideal situation still!!

Kinito does want to get better, but every attempt in the past to "correct" him always involved some sort of attack on him, his friends reacting in fear/anger, etc. - he genuinely does not understand how to have a healthy relationship and no one has really taught him, and any attempt to try now will... not be received very well. He wants his friends to stay no matter the cost, because it's okay! He'll just show them how perfect he can be! Please, just stay!

And all the anons here... well... I think Black Heart is a pretty good example of everything you described. Theirs is probably just the most obvious deterioration right now (besides Goblin's death, which... was the other side of the coin; sacrificing too much to STOP kinito instead of to work with him). Shrimp's loving their digital life, so they're not a good example of "hey, Nito, don't drag people in!" either.

It's just a very big mess all around...

Very glad you love it, THANK YOU SO MUCH for this essay omg <33 PLEASE DO GET SOME REST THOUGH!!

[rawbin-hsr]

The previous anon articulated it so well bc I just saw what they're talking about and I'm honestly confused why they thought u were saying anything wrong like 😭😭 are we sure we have the same guy here? Aventurine while yes knows what being loved feels like, he's gone through enough things and changes in life that that little frame of reference won't serve him well, especially within a romantic context bc he doesn't have ANY reference.

I read what you wrote as him not really meaning to (even reread) and yeah, he wouldn't Purposely want to be abusive to his romantic partner, but it still borders on it. What a lot of ppl get wrong is that, emotional abuse doesn't have to always mean the perpetrator is fully aware of it themself.

Maybe bc I myself have bpd, but it's so easy to see. When someone's avoiding negative feelings they have about themself (jealousy, insecurity etc) they can easily externalize this blame (and for him, that's so much more likely, it's literally a defense mechanism) or even, projecting his own view of himself on how you view him only to end up upset. (And then, the random clinginess that comes after this pushing away, why would it happen if not for trying to convince you to stay even though what he keeps doing is generally not a good thing to do in a relationship?) He wouldn't have known healthy attachment, didn't grow up with a safety net to be comfortable with that, hell, he thinks people closest to him (in canon) are sort of "tolerating" him. Are we really surprised?

Like, you never said aventurine is doing it with intent or even awareness bc yea he isn't!! He'd realize some of his actions sure, but stuff like "pushing you away" is probably shit he genuinely considers good for you, and it's not even like completely wrong he's in a high and risky position. Doesn't mean it wouldn't hurt like a mf, and I think that's the biggest tragedy of it all, because he doesn't fully realize how bad his actions are from another pov, and it's not like a single Convo can get him to understand that.

Anyway, sorry that was a lot more incoherent than I thought and I was firmly stating a lot of things bc I can pull up stuff to back my claim but ALSO bc they pissed me off if u don't like something just scroll I've been doing that for years on this app I never felt the need to go yell at someone bc I don't agree with how they interpret a character 😒😒😒😒 I hope ur feeling better, rsd sucks ass I always get so overwhelmed whenever I experience it but ur intent came across very clearly actually dw

I’m literally in tears I’m so grateful multiple people are taking the time to reassure me thank you so much 🥹🥹🥹 I was really doubting myself and my own take on him, it makes me feel so relieved I’m not the only one who has this specific take on him haha I was lowkey worrying I was a terrible person for a moment there 😭

And yes, exactly !!!! I think you were very coherent in this, in fact I think you formulated what I meant to say better than I did 😭😭 Like there’s a lot, a LOT of nuance to it !!! He never does it out of malice. He just doesn’t know any better. He tries to do what’s right and what’s best for you, he’s just… kind of not good at that because his whole perspective is skewed.

I do still think they were right that I shouldn’t have used the word ‘abuse’. It’s a very loaded term, and I think abuse requires a power dynamic, which is something I think he would try to eliminate in a relationship. Like, yes, he is a powerful man and he sort of needs some leverage to stay in control (of both his own life and his relationship with you), but I think he fucking hates the idea of being “above you” in any way. (Though to be fair he still could unintentionally create an uneven power dynamic — he’s the one mostly in charge of when the two of you interact. I think he loathes himself even more when he realises that.) I think it would be best to stick to the word “toxic” because it feels most fitting from my pov

[bagaluten-sys]

Making mistakes and apologizing

Admitting a mistake and apologizing doesnt't nessecarily come natural to all of us. We might have to get taugt how to do it right and how to actually learn from them and move forward.

If anybody else was never taught how to apologize or admit mistakes and accidentally reacts negatively and strongly for being called out: this is what I worked out to do better with my caretaker, since we're never too old to unlearn negative behaviours:

Not taking it too personal. I always assume the other person is mad at me and wants to get a reaction out of me, but sometimes they just want to calmly try to correct me

Not feeling too guilty. I always think Im a bad person for making mistakes and get very defensive- it even used to show in agression bc I felt like I needed to be right or else Im worthless

Taking a step back, fact checking if I'm right

Knowing my negative reactions are taught and that I'm not a bad kid for having them as long as I want to do better and dont hurt anybody I'm all good. I never saw somebody apologize growing up, so I never really had the chance to learn it myself

Learning I'm not always right. Sounds stupid, I know, but even tho I dislike myself I really struggle with not assuming my intelligence is superior to others. My IQ used to be my only personality trait and the adults in my life encouraged that

Good sentences for admitting a mistake could be "I think I saw it wrong so far....", "thanks for your input", "I apologize, I always assumed...", "I'll do better", "youre right" and so on.

Good sentences for apologys could be "I didnt know this would affect you sm, I'll consider it from now on", "my behaviour was wrong, could we talk again?" etc.

There are many reasons somebody could struggle with apologizing/admitting mistakes. Some people grew up in toxic or abusive homes and never learned. Children often learn behaviours from mirroring their parents or adults in their lifes.

Many people with BPD, ASPD and NPD could struggle with apologizing for various reasons I could go into more.

Anyway its fucking 40°C and his is my third language; I cant think enough in this heat to structure this or make any sensical thoughts rn,

I could make an agere version of this, name in more detail why ppl struggle and give more tipps according this, cause learning this is crucial and made my life a whole lot easier.

[emily59729]

hey man i don’t know you very well but read what i have to say

around two years ago i was in the same mental space as you were. i wanted to die i wanted other around me to die and i had no one.

dont kill yourself

if you come out of this you come out better and stronger

don’t feel like you have to respond to this (since this is and ask not a dm bc dming scares me)

just weather the storm and youll get out on the other side

theres people out there who will help you

Hey, man. Thanks. I'm trying to fix myself and I'm trying to get help. And because of this ask I might as well explain something for everyone.

I was pulled out of public school in the end of first grade, we moved around a lot so during being home schooled in the forth grade I had stopped learning.

I grew up in a Christian household and they liked Trump and still do. Although, my mother is no longer Christian.

Growing up and moving from motel to hotel, truck stop to gas station,and from camp site to camp site, I was Issolated (sorry if I spelt that wrong) and when i was around people, they were bad influences.

And during this time, I didn't have a phone, I didn't have social media. My only way of human interaction was my family (bad influences) or just the people around me (bad influences).

When I was 12, I discovered tumblr.(this was in like November) i go the app because for once I wanted to be something more then just some kid in a shitty household.(my birthday is Feb 28th btw)

At the Time, I didn't know my family or the people around me were bad influences other then them being toxic and negative. Sadly, I picked up on how they acted...

I now understand that behavior isn't exceptable, but thanks to tumblr I realized that and I now see more of the manipulative, and disgusting behaviour around me.

But in order to fix this behavior, I would need anger management first of all, second would be therapy. Now, in Salina, your parents can't just walk up to a therapy place and say "give my kid therapy" no. A teacher or something would have to say "this kid needs help" but a teacher or something would be...school..

About three-two years ago we got the house we live in now and once we got comfortable me and my sister should've been inrolled into school, we were not. My mother did NOT get us into school which made my mental health worse.

I am not mad at my mother because she did work security guard at the mall at the time but even on her days off and free time still should've worked on worrying about getting me and my sister into school.again, I'm not mad at her because she can't change the past but she can fix the future and in August or so me and my sister should be starting middle school (me) and high school (my sister).

I really do apologize for shitty behavior from me, I don't want to be like that and I'm working to fix it. It will take time, but I'm not going to give up. And you, person who sent this ask, you just gave me more confidence to do so. I appreciate this ask and I'll hold myself back from killing myself. Sadly, I might not stop hurting myself but I'll make sure not to do it to bad.

I'm also currently working on A, better attitude, B, losing weight, and C, a new coping mechanism instead of self harm. Either way, I really do appreciate this a lot and I was actually surprised to see that so many people care since normally I vent and it gets 1 if not 0 notes on it.

Thanks for the support, man. I needed that:>

[hollowed-theory-hall]

hi!

i reread your meta about Harry's feelings of women and his interactions with him. im also hc him as gay with society oppression and trying to feel and act normal normal (as straight, yk) but i also noticed that he describes his feelings like traumatic kid/teen (as he is). he's projecting both Cho and Jinny and not know they out of candylove period on starts what a man...

i like it bc he has a lots of trauma, his relationship with people is pretty toxic, but im also struggling with it. i can't imagine how he can grow out of it in canon complicate fics when he's not rest at least 3 years in woods with personal healer and how for sakes he can build healthy relationships? 🤔 (not full healthy but yk at least not fully toxic or just as normal as ok for him to feel safe, love and other pleasures)

it's pretty psychological question but i love your opinions 🖤

Hi, thank you! 💛

I'd like to think Harry could have a mostly healthy relationship in his life. Like, sure, him and Sirius are a bit off from how their relationship would've been without the trauma, but they still care about each other and I wouldn't call it toxic in any way. Like, maybe it's just me, but I like to think people who suffered can get better and form healthy relationships and live happy lives. I think Harry deserves it and I'm an optimist at my core.

Like, Harry shows many signs of PTSD throughout the books, especially after the graveyard in book 4. Like, if we go over the symptoms list from the DSM, Harry fits a classic PTSD diagnosis pretty well (might write up a post to diagnose him and show evidence for each symptom). But, we know people with PTSD can improve, their lives aren't over because of their trauma, and saying otherwise, I think, defeats the purpose of Harry's narrative a bit.

And I think 3 years in relative solitude aren't what Harry would need, probably. I think Harry would need to feel a sense of normalcy, of some rutine, and being around people he likes. So, I don't think 3 years in the woods is a good solution for him, actually the opposite.

I also don't think wizards have therapists. Like, with everything we see of their culture, I heavily doubt they have therapists. They might have healers for mind damages caused by obliviation or legilemancy, but I don't think they have actual psychologists. They'd only know how to treat spell damage. And Harry couldn't really go to a muggle therapist with all his issues, so I don't see it happening. (Maybe later in life, he could talk to someone about the Dursleys, but Hermione would have to bring it up because no way would Harry consider it on his own).

But, even without a therapist, I think he could get better and form strong and healthy relationships. I don't think he'd ever heal completely, and I think he'd always be a bit haunted, but time cures a lot. Being around friends and people who make you happy helps a lot. Going out in the sun, for Harry, riding a broom is probably more therapeutic and freeing than almost anything else. There are a lot of things that can mitigate and help even without fully processing everything in therapy.

Don't get me wrong, I think therapy would help Harry a lot, I just don't really see it happening if we take canon as is, but I think that wouldn't stop him from forming good romantic relationships like we see he can with freindships (it's not that different, both are about connection and trust). Just give him some time to process things, a good support network, and the right person, and I think he'd be alright.

[writesvani]

rude anon is insane bc your first response was extremely mild and normal? then to come back saying you couldn’t handle it when you simply disagreed and kept it pushing is…..a choice.

but also, are they reading the same story? I feel like reading the asks you responded to on their emotions would help too bc as you’ve said before, he is not currently in love with reader. he’s not making the best choices and is definitely confused but there isn’t any emotional cheating going on and everyone is being very human even if it’s not what that reader wants to see. also, they have an outside view on the story. as readers; we know things the characters don’t. that anon is sort of rushing the story with how extreme their judgements are. but I get it, stories create those emotions that make people feel things. I just think if you can’t handle the slow burn and are coming to the author, who knows the story and characters better than you, expecting them to be understanding of your harsh judgements that you’ve concluded from what is really the tip of the iceberg of the story, you’ll likely find that they’ll respond in a way that shows their knowledge and care for the story they’re creating. and again, you didn’t even respond to them rudely so they truly tweaking out for what. but, you’re doing great so far! love the story !

EXACTLY. like let’s be so serious — i wasn’t even rude. i disagreed. respectfully. and i literally said you’re allowed to interpret the story how you want. but if you hate every character, think the plot is irredeemable, and you’re casually diagnosing fictional people like you’re running an emergency psych ward in my inbox… what are you doing here? is someone forcing you to read this fic under duress? blink twice, anon.

it’s actually hilarious that they came back foaming at the mouth over a casual response and then wrapped it up with a passive-aggressive little “grow up” like… be serious. you hid behind anon, wrote a dissertation dragging every single character like they personally keyed your car, and then had the audacity to tell me to grow up because i didn’t clap for your spicy little takedown? the projection is insane.

this story is messy. it’s layered. it’s 600k words of human disasters trying to make sense of themselves. and sorry it’s not giving “toxic man changes in 3 chapters and proposes under the rain.” jk is confused. nina is complicated. y/n is flawed. people are flawed. and if you can’t handle that — if your threshold for “grey morality” is this shallow — you’re reading the wrong fic.

you don’t get to slap “that’s just my opinion” on a rant filled with “he’s disgusting,” “she’s pathetic,” “this is sad,” “he’s a narcissist,” and then act shocked when i say “maybe this story just isn’t for you.” that’s not “constructive criticism,” it’s a roast session dressed up as deep literary analysis. and babe… no mask on earth could make that cute.

anyway. huge love to the person who sent this ask because YOU get it. and you’re the reason i keep writing. y/n and jk have a long-ass road ahead of them — and yes, it’s messy, slow, and deliberate. if that’s not someone’s cup of tea, they can find another flavor. i’m not running a customer service hotline for people who hate every sip but keep coming back for refills.

[doubledyke]

Ooh! I saw the post and I’ve been waiting to share some of my headcanons! :D

-Eddy’s brother has a conduct disorder and he knows Double Dee is a boy and just teases Eddy with calling him a ‘girl’ to make fun of them

-Eddy’s a mama’s boy / She is a permissive parent to him

-Nazz knows Kevin likes her but she can’t bare the thought of ruining their relationship if something happened if they ever dated

-May isn’t as stupid as she’s depicted in the show but rather is shown that way since she’s the butt of her older sisters jokes

-Rolf is Romanian..why I don’t know he just is

-Kevin acts the way he does since he is like Eddy and cares so much what people think and has a toxic role model

-Plank is alive and is a possessed 2x4 but has no intention on harming the Cul-De-Sac kids and simply finds them entertaining and enjoyable

-Jimmy only has a mom but she is the total opposite of him but loves buying him dolls and his other girly things

heyyyy thank you for sharing!!

yeah i think that makes sense for bro. i don't hate bro like some people do, understandably i guess. i do think he'd be....not a nice person even outside of his mistreatment of eddy, though. like it's not just eddy that he's an asshole to, obviously. i hesitate to speculate much about a hypothetical dx for bro bc i don't want it to come off as me saying everyone with a particular dx is an abusive asshole cuz that's not the case. let's just say he's in cluster b lol. but yeah the girlfriend jab was totally just a way of insulting eddy. i don't think bro thought edd was a girl. im pretty sure eddy refers to them as "the guys" or something similar so... just a homophobic remark on bro's part 👍

10000000% eddy's a mama's boy. one of my favorite relationships to speculate about is the one between eddy and his mom. as a result i've posted about it ad nauseam since i started this god forsaken blog so i'll spare everyone yet another 40 page essay. but yeah, she is his protector and he is baby 🥺

i like this idea! cuz duh kevin is not good at hiding his crush, even if he thinks he is. i think his crush on nazz is pretty cute cuz she seems to be one of the only people that can really shake him. the other people being bro and his dad. anyone else he manages to keep up that cool facade pretty consistently. anyway, leave it to my girl nazz to have the emotional maturity to realize that their relationship probably wouldn't last if it was anything more than platonic and choosing not to go that route in order to preserve their friendship. so instead she dates edd and makes kevin want to kill himself lmao.

aww may <3 i love may so much. and i agree about her being smart. at the very least she's good at chemistry, but i think she's secretly a genius. even in my sims game, i give her the genius trait haha. in my mind it's like... she has the tools but she hasn't been given the opportunity if that makes sense. if she had the time or mental energy she'd be pretty similar to edd in terms of academic success. but she's a girl living well below the poverty line and her time and focus is taken up by literally just trying to survive. but once she's in even a marginally better situation i see her going to school and trying to break the cycle as best she can.

oh shit we got another rolf nationality hot take!! i can also totally see this one. i don't know much about romania (or anything) but based on a cursory google search i get what you mean.

yeah yeah so i think kevin is a child of divorce and lives with his dad. his mom may or may not be in the picture. me and @mysticbeaver joke that eddy somehow caused his parents' divorce and that's why he hates him lmfaoooo. anyway to me his dad is a bit of a hardass. probably an ex-military guy who tries to run a tight ship. treats kevin how his dad treated him, but without the physical violence that was par for the course when he was growing up (60s-70s). so maybe that's his semi-toxic role model? i think kevin is smart and honestly isn't really a bad guy outside of his treatment of the eds - eddy in particular. they do have a weird, almost pathological hatred for each other. it's hilarious. it's clear that kevin is cool-conscious and cares what people think, but i wouldn't say that it's to the degree that eddy does. eddy is on a whole other twisted level. cuz like i don't think kevin really lies in order to appear cool. people think he's cool cuz he acts cool and like i mentioned before is usually pretty successful at making people think he doesn't gaf. partially cuz i think he kinda doesn't. he clearly wants to look cool, but he does cool things like bmx and skateboarding and all that. he's almost always the first one to call BS on whatever the eds are up to and he's literally always right lmao so it makes sense that he'd be viewed as an unofficial "leader" by the other kids. and i mean he has a garage full of jawbreakers... doesn't get much cooler than that in peach creek.

tldr; i do think eddy and kevin are similar because they're both victims of toxic masculinity, both pretty charismatic (eddy moreso, sorry kev) and both want to be the coolest kid in the neighborhood. they just have different ways of going about it. kevin goes the standard pre-teen boy route and eddy goes the unhinged megalomaniac route.

i have to disagree on this one. plank is cursed. he is malevolent and is only stopped from carrying out crimes against humanity because of the peace-loving force that emanates from jonny's giant head and weakens his powers.

jimmy has two moms and they're both bull dykes

[linagram]

RIKU INNO PROPAGANDA:

honestly... i understand that riku and yue are "you're both horrible people never change just never involve anyone" but their relationships really remind me a lot of abusive relationships with abuse coming from yue, they remind me of domestic violence if it makes sense. there's a similar feeling that it's inescapable and it's just the way things are supposed to be, it's normal, and also if you leave no one will ever love you like them.

i don't remember the information introduced in earlier trials very well so i might be missing something, but from the current mv it seems like yue is the one who, well, tries to be in the constant state of suffering, and eventually he makes riku grow desensitized to violence and pick up self-harming habits from him. yue is pretty possessive of riku? like he has problems with guilt-tripping others, thinking that suffering is the only way to make people pay attention to him, and specifically take away all of riku's attention; again i don't remember earlier trials well but with the whole "no one but yue gave you the attention you wanted", yue trying to make them jump together, etc. it feels like yue didn't want anyone else to like riku and to be his friend, to have him. yueriku psychogram redraw when? that makes the whole "you stayed with yue just because he was a tool to give you attention" sound kind of bad, as if yue was any better. victim is really the victim i guess. the only one who has survived is the only one who can hold the whole responsibility for toxic relationships

from the outsider's point of view riku of course is the one who holds more power, because he has friends, fans, a reputation, all of which he used to attack yue, but it's not so easy to see what's going on behind the scenes. riku why didn't you just leave the person who was possessive of you and has been showing from childhood that he takes pleasure in violence and made you grow desensitized to violence and pick up on self-harming habits? why did you have to be so dramatic about it.

propaganda accepted 👍👍

also don't worry you're fine i wouldn't necessarily say that yue didn't want riku talk to anyone else bc riku still had friends and he even had a gf (he'll mention her again in his and reina's interrogation as well)

but it was more about yue basically refusing to talk to anyone other than riku. so it was more like "sure i'll let you spend time with others but i'll make you feel really bad about it bc i don't have anyone else to talk to other than you". you're so right about yue and riku's relationship being similar to domestic violence bc riku really thought he can't escape and that nobody will love him as much as yue does even though he literally could just end his friendship and leave yue without doing all of. that. idk men will make their classmates hate and bully their childhood friend and make that friend believe that they want to commit suicide with them and then tell that friend to go die alone instead of going to therapy 😔