#Fuck the binary

[twiigthetwiink]

androgynous genderfuckery appreciation post<3

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[john4the4leper]

there is a point I have reached as a trans person where I don't care for online discourse about gender and pronouns and sexuality. wake up, go meet queer people in your neighborhood.

[mogai-angel]

something i never liked that i find commonly in the mogai community, and generally more radically leftist queer spaces, (though thankfully less often now) is the pressure to disclose whether or not you're "tme", or in other words, transmisogyny exempt.

it's extremely regressive to expect people to indirectly expose their agab in the name of "intersectionality". it's part of a larger trend of even those who hold more radical views on gender subconsciously upholding a gender binary. it's just a slightly more veiled way of asking someone for their agab, or as all trans people can attest to being inappropriate, asking someone what's in their pants.

is there something to be said for the unique experience of those who are both transfeminine and affected by misogyny? absolutely. however, under true intersectionality, there's something to be said about every overlapping point of an individuals identity. they're all relevant in the appropriate conversations, however trying to list every intersection you personally fall under in a social media bio is futile.

it also completely undermines the unique experience of those who don't fall into the binary of being affected by or exempt from transmisogyny. gender isn't binary, sex isn't binary, transitioning isn't binary. for example, i consider myself both transfeminine and transmasculine. am i supposed to disregard one part of my identity in favor of the other? am i supposed to disregard the ways in which ive been perceived through different stages of my life?

the tldr: you can't progress past a binary by enforcing it under other labels, and there are ways to hold conversations about transmisogyny without expecting everyone by default to disclose their relationship towards it

[nympho-scene-boy]

ABOLISH THE SEX BINARY.

[autism-freaks]

I firmly believe that anything you do to transition should be centered around YOUR comfort and wellbeing, not anyone else's. Want to start hormones, and do voice training because that would make you feel more like yourself? Absolutely go for it! Going through that trouble so that other people will be more comfortable or just to maybe get your identity respected, even though you dont particularly want to aside from those things? FUCK THAT!! If it's something you feel is necessary for your safety, I would consider that as being for your wellbeing and comfort. I know it's not always easy to parse out who you want to take steps in your transition for, but please, don't let cis people, transmeds, and transphobes convince you that you need to do anything transition wise to be validated in who you are. There is a wide community who will already accept you with open arms and celebrate your gender non-comforming traits without misgendering you. I see it all the time.

On that note, can I get a HELL YEAH for girls with deep voices and lots of body/facial hair and big muscles and masculine fashion and chiseled jaws and dicks and flat chests?

Can I get just as big of a FUCK YES for boys with high pitched voices and no facial hair and curves and feminine fashion and soft faces and pussies and big titties?

[thetoastedalmonds]

elf androdgyny

@phoenixwithapencil 2024

[loucifersbitch]

It's so funny that terfs will come onto my posts that specifically say "terfs dni"

Can't believe I need to say this in the Year of Our Suffering 2023, but if you're a terf or you have radfem in your bio or you're transphobic or homophobic or just generally an ignorant piece of sewer fodder, I will block on sight

There are masculine cis women. There are feminine cis men. There are cis people who are both. Or neither. And adding in trans identities takes away nothing. It's all beautiful because we're all humans just doing our best to be our authentic selves

I am trans

I am queer

I can't change who I am, but your inability to comprehend the idea that people are different - that humanity is varied in multiple, beautiful ways - means that your view of the world is so narrow that you will never appreciate it fully

[psychomorphary]

I've been on T for 14.5 weeks. I've grown some facial hair since I started, but I still look pretty fem. I also work at a gas station and am still in the closet there.

I found out that a customer was talking shit about my facial hair the other day.

Lmao buddy, that says more about YOU than ME. I mean, what if I wasn't trans and I had a medical condition that caused excessive hair growth? You'd be making fun of someone for a MEDICAL condition. Either way, you're still making fun of someone for their APPEARANCE. If that's the only bad thing you have to say about me, then I'm doing pretty good. But also, making fun of someone's appearance isn't cool. That just makes you look like a dick, and everyone can see that you're in the wrong here lol

I'm so sorry that me not being a stereotypical man or woman triggers you so much. Even if I wasn't trans, I don't NEED to conform to your bullshit standards of gender and beauty. Even if I was a cis woman, I'm allowed to look HOWEVER TF I WANT. You're a stranger. You don't get to dictate what I look like. You don't get to dictate what anyone else looks like.

And frankly, if you're really that triggered over my damn facial hair and gender noncomformity, you don't need to deal with me. Get someone else to ring your ass out, or just go to a different gas station. You don't like the way I look? DON'T FUCKING LOOK AT ME.

Also, nice going, talking shit behind my back. Guarantee you won't say shit to my face. Fucking coward.

[ohwaitwhatdamn]

Courtesy of Lucy's bathroom

[shy-sub-j]

I got stickers!!!!

[fallandfloat]

PLEASEEEEE de-gender this world, or so help me god.

[iwillnotalso]

Last time I had to tick my gender for a quiz (irl, at school) I noticed that there was M/F and O for other but the O was in purple marker while the other two were in pen, clearly added in as an afterthought

And I was like

"Okay, initial and last name, I don't wanna announce my first name, fuck that"

And then

Alright, do I tick my AGAB to not rustle any feathers? Do I tick the other binary gender because that's what people would understand best and also I don't look like my AGAB anyway? Or do I tick the Other box, the one I feel most drawn to, despite it clearly being added as an afterthought, probably when someone made a stupid comment about "oH, but WhAt AbOuT NoN-BinAry PeOPle??!?!?!?"

So after I wrote my name I burst out laughing in anger and walked out

[imtrying-ok]

People will say "queer people need to get weirder" and then start frothing at the mouth when they hear the words "exclusive fwbs"

[apollos-boyfriend]

just saw a clip where f1nn5ter was saying how at this point, he can’t be cis, but at the same time, he doesn’t feel like he’s trans—he’s just neither. and someone in chat was like “you can’t be neither cis nor trans that’s not how it works” i love finn but why is his chat so fucking bad 😭 stop recreating binaries for the love of god, identity does not have to fall into these neat little boxes for you to police

[aro-ace-axolotl]

ladys, gentlemen, and everyone outside and in between <- stolen from Jan Böhmermann (German satire show host), I feel included, that’s great

“Girls gays and theys” <- uninclusive while trying to be inclusive. Bad. Makes me uncomfortable.

“Ladies, gentlemen, and other distinguished guests” <- inclusive but far, far too formal

“Alrighty gamers” <- Incisive of everyone, informal, and fun to say.

[agendercryptidlev]

We need to talk more about the transmasculine suicide rate.

There's a common saying that every transgender suicide is a murder, because it is the lack of acceptance in society that leads transgender individuals to commit suicide at such a high rate, this is true of trans men who have the highest suicide rate across all gender identities:

[image ID: a stylized graph depicting the percentages of considering & attempted suicide for different gender experiences.

Cisgender boy/man: 28% considered suicide, 8% attempted suicide

Cisgender girl/woman: 37% considered suicide, 10% attempted suicide

Transgender boy/man: 59% considered suicide, 22% attempted suicide

Transgender girl/woman: 48% considered suicide, 12% attempted suicide

Nonbinary/genderqueer: 53% considered suicide, 19% attempted suicide

Questioning: 48% considered suicide, 14% attempted suicide

end ID] ID by @tstomboy

Trans men are not receiving the support they need, and many of them are not surviving because of this. We need to make sure that mental health support and suicide for transgender individuals is as inclusive as possible for these transgender men who are at the highest risk.

We need to ensure trans men feel safe and welcome within the queer community as isolation is one of the more exacerbating factors on one's mental health. We need to make sure resources for victims of sexual violence are inclusive of transmasculine individuals, who face the highest rate of sexual abuse and yet often have to recloset themselves to find support. We have to love trans men because society shows them nothing but hate.

Check in with the trans men in your community, you may just save a life.