#Fuck the binary

[twiigthetwiink]

androgynous genderfuckery appreciation post<3

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[john4the4leper]

there is a point I have reached as a trans person where I don't care for online discourse about gender and pronouns and sexuality. wake up, go meet queer people in your neighborhood.

[mogai-angel]

something i never liked that i find commonly in the mogai community, and generally more radically leftist queer spaces, (though thankfully less often now) is the pressure to disclose whether or not you're "tme", or in other words, transmisogyny exempt.

it's extremely regressive to expect people to indirectly expose their agab in the name of "intersectionality". it's part of a larger trend of even those who hold more radical views on gender subconsciously upholding a gender binary. it's just a slightly more veiled way of asking someone for their agab, or as all trans people can attest to being inappropriate, asking someone what's in their pants.

is there something to be said for the unique experience of those who are both transfeminine and affected by misogyny? absolutely. however, under true intersectionality, there's something to be said about every overlapping point of an individuals identity. they're all relevant in the appropriate conversations, however trying to list every intersection you personally fall under in a social media bio is futile.

it also completely undermines the unique experience of those who don't fall into the binary of being affected by or exempt from transmisogyny. gender isn't binary, sex isn't binary, transitioning isn't binary. for example, i consider myself both transfeminine and transmasculine. am i supposed to disregard one part of my identity in favor of the other? am i supposed to disregard the ways in which ive been perceived through different stages of my life?

the tldr: you can't progress past a binary by enforcing it under other labels, and there are ways to hold conversations about transmisogyny without expecting everyone by default to disclose their relationship towards it

[thelindenpapers]

Reminder:

If bigots really were "naturally superior", then they wouldn't have to oppress anyone.

It's a shame that their beliefs -- that, "only those who are 'superior' should be able to live and thrive" -- drive them to then have to try to be in a superior position at all times….in order to stroke their own egos, and to soothe the deep insecurities that they themselves have made insurmountable and untenable, by endlessly pursuing vectors of pointless domination in the hopes that they can convince everyone to let them hoard the plentiful resources which they refuse to peacefully share.

The world would be so much better if everyone was allowed to just live, and be who they are, and be allowed to be comfortable with each other; without breaking their bodies and minds and spirits to "earn" the birthright of existence and thriving which the Earth simply offers us for free.

[nympho-scene-boy]

ABOLISH THE SEX BINARY.

[autism-freaks]

I firmly believe that anything you do to transition should be centered around YOUR comfort and wellbeing, not anyone else's. Want to start hormones, and do voice training because that would make you feel more like yourself? Absolutely go for it! Going through that trouble so that other people will be more comfortable or just to maybe get your identity respected, even though you dont particularly want to aside from those things? FUCK THAT!! If it's something you feel is necessary for your safety, I would consider that as being for your wellbeing and comfort. I know it's not always easy to parse out who you want to take steps in your transition for, but please, don't let cis people, transmeds, and transphobes convince you that you need to do anything transition wise to be validated in who you are. There is a wide community who will already accept you with open arms and celebrate your gender non-comforming traits without misgendering you. I see it all the time.

On that note, can I get a HELL YEAH for girls with deep voices and lots of body/facial hair and big muscles and masculine fashion and chiseled jaws and dicks and flat chests?

Can I get just as big of a FUCK YES for boys with high pitched voices and no facial hair and curves and feminine fashion and soft faces and pussies and big titties?

[thetoastedalmonds]

elf androdgyny

@phoenixwithapencil 2024

[evanbi-ckley]

It's so funny that terfs will come onto my posts that specifically say "terfs dni"

Can't believe I need to say this in the Year of Our Suffering 2023, but if you're a terf or you have radfem in your bio or you're transphobic or homophobic or just generally an ignorant piece of sewer fodder, I will block on sight

There are masculine cis women. There are feminine cis men. There are cis people who are both. Or neither. And adding in trans identities takes away nothing. It's all beautiful because we're all humans just doing our best to be our authentic selves

I am trans

I am queer

I can't change who I am, but your inability to comprehend the idea that people are different - that humanity is varied in multiple, beautiful ways - means that your view of the world is so narrow that you will never appreciate it fully

[psychomorphary]

I've been on T for 14.5 weeks. I've grown some facial hair since I started, but I still look pretty fem. I also work at a gas station and am still in the closet there.

I found out that a customer was talking shit about my facial hair the other day.

Lmao buddy, that says more about YOU than ME. I mean, what if I wasn't trans and I had a medical condition that caused excessive hair growth? You'd be making fun of someone for a MEDICAL condition. Either way, you're still making fun of someone for their APPEARANCE. If that's the only bad thing you have to say about me, then I'm doing pretty good. But also, making fun of someone's appearance isn't cool. That just makes you look like a dick, and everyone can see that you're in the wrong here lol

I'm so sorry that me not being a stereotypical man or woman triggers you so much. Even if I wasn't trans, I don't NEED to conform to your bullshit standards of gender and beauty. Even if I was a cis woman, I'm allowed to look HOWEVER TF I WANT. You're a stranger. You don't get to dictate what I look like. You don't get to dictate what anyone else looks like.

And frankly, if you're really that triggered over my damn facial hair and gender noncomformity, you don't need to deal with me. Get someone else to ring your ass out, or just go to a different gas station. You don't like the way I look? DON'T FUCKING LOOK AT ME.

Also, nice going, talking shit behind my back. Guarantee you won't say shit to my face. Fucking coward.

[gamptheblue]

[doctor-aceus-art]

Having a good ol' Granda Holmes marathon in the enby household

Quill, in the background (@jellyaris )

Reed, left side of the couch (@shoddy0-0 )

Jay, right side of the couch (me)

[ohwaitwhatdamn]

Courtesy of Lucy's bathroom

[shy-sub-j]

I got stickers!!!!

[thelindenpapers]

I'm a cis woman, but the concept of gender euphoria sounds strangely familiar to me.

I get the feeling of being happy and satisfied to be a woman (though, obviously, not happy with the way that some people and some institutions treat me because of my womanhood 😅), on occasion.

I remember the first time that I felt it.

The first time that I realized that I was a girl.

I couldn't have been older than three, though I suspect that I was only two.

I was in the house, playing in the hallway.

Bright sunlight was spilling from the big window above the kitchen counter at the end of the hall, where my mom was at the stove, cooking.

I ran -- or rather partly-ran, partly-pedaled, partly duck-walked towards the kitchen: because I was sitting on top of a tricycle.

And just outside the entrance to the kitchen, there was a full-length mirror.

So as I passed by, I stopped and turned to my left to take a look.

I saw me:

A plump, strong, healthy, brown little girl; sitting on top of a red-and-white tricycle; dressed in a delicate, pale-yellow, tulle-ruffled dress with short poofy sleeves (it had to have been my birthday or something, it was really pretty and nice).

My eyes were dark, deep-brown; and wide from play and excitement. Taino nose. Natural coily afro hair HUGE and out and floating free in a wild halo of airy softness.

I stuck my tongue out of the side of slightly berry-colored lips.

And after a moment, I grinned wide...

Me.

Hey!

That's me!

YES!!

*n0n* 🥳✨ PERFECT!!!! ✨🥳 (⁠ﾉ⁠◕⁠ヮ⁠◕⁠)⁠ﾉ⁠*⁠.⁠✧

It was pure joy, learning that about myself -- seeing myself, recognizing myself -- and feeling that who I looked like matched who I was completely; and being so happy with that knowledge.

I remember my mom's voice, full of mirth and surprise, asking, "What in the world are you doing over there?"

I giggled with a squeal of absolute delight and finished running towards her...

....

I want that for EVERYONE.

EVERYONE deserves to feel that way.

To look in the mirror, and feel affirmed and at ease and confident in who they are.

I will never understand those who feel that the answer to the pain and discomfort of trans folk is to "just force them to conform".

Fucking fuck that shit. Pure nonsense!

[creativelyabsentminded]

What sucks is it seems trans people can only ever "identify as" and cis people just "are".

[shinygemstone]

When the lady at the restaurant thinks you and your friend are dating so she gives you a free cookie, having mistaken you for a guy and your friend for a girl despite the fact that your friend is just femme while you're androgynous and her brief witnessing of your interaction showed that you study and save money while your friend is actively ditching class, which plays into the men-are-responsible and women-are-thoughtless stereotype, which probably subconsciously made her assume that your hugging your friend was romantic instead of platonic affection

Anyways today was a win for the queers