#False grooming accusations

[sc0moftheanimatiomindustry]

Jane is back, hi Jane! Say do you have no hobbies or something? Must be pretty funny to obsess over someone who can’t hurt you, who is not talking to you, is still in end of life care (which you denied) and you even made up theories of how a totally unrelated person is Ang, damn she really lives rent free in your head!

I also heard that xenocrat, whom you shared murder fantasies with, was your boyfriend! That he’s apparently from Ang’s circle is something i don’t really know about as I don’t remember Ang ever being involved with someone who would stick to a white racist woman, who uses her poor poor uwu victim status that’s completely made up to be transphobic and ableist!

since @angvondrapedo aka Jane amber likes to lie about people “fabricating” evidence, let me just leave a link to an archive of this post. Can’t really fabricate archive entries now, right? So let me get this straight:

Jane Amber, aka @angvondrapedo is allowed to be racist, is allowed to make murder fantasies she sent to her then boyfriend Xenocrat and lie about Ang ever grooming her

Jane Amber, aka @angvondrapedo is allowed to use the n word multiple times as a white trans woman, is allowed to behave like a kiwi farms reject, is allowed to continuously obsess over someone who has never evidently gone after REAL CHILDREN but who you claim is a pedophile regardless over cartoons

And you stick up to your equally racist and weird friends, who make stalker comics about someone you hate, someone you’ve blocked and shouldn’t care about but nooo we continue to shed crocodile tears while living a lavish life, proudly calling herself murderer and crying about getting told to stop being a hobbyless child

because let’s face it, if you really cared about bringing justice, you’d actually involve the authorities. You have the money! You can show us all that your “harassers” are in the wrong! Except you somehow believe they’re not going to do anything, why? Because you’re trans?

more likely because you have no evidence! Not even your own pedobox “evidence” actually proves you were groomed and that people were worried! And only naive idiots who virtue signal how “righteous” and “pure” they are believe your lies and contribute to your scams so you can continue playing the victim!

[bodhrancomedy]

So, uh. I don’t know how up Tumblr is up on The Dreaded Place (Tiktok), but every couple of months (usually 3) a new openly, usually flamboyantly queer person is singled out and pursued as a “groomer” and every time there’s no real evidence, just out of context ten seconds clips and then people start screaming “would you prefer to wait until something happens?!?” and, I’d prefer to wait until you have evidence. Like, I’d prefer to wait until you have evidence and go to the authorities with said evidence because trying to incite mob justice on Tiktok because you don’t like someone’s vibes since that actually does nothing to “protect” the people you think need protecting.

“Would you prefer to wait until something happens.” You do know that trying to get someone hurt/arrested/killed because you think they’re icky without any actual evidence is fascist, right? You do know you’re just repeating Nazi propaganda?

“Would you prefer to wait until something happens.” I would prefer to wait until something exists? Until there is an actual reason to act because otherwise would be the Thought Police you’re so fond of throwing out.

If there is actual evidence that this person is a threat to children, take it to the police. They’re queer. The police will investigate in the way they won’t investigate conservative politicians, conservative beloved entertainers, and priests. Or the police themselves.

[bittersweetbonbon]

Coming out

Okay, I never thought I'd have to make this post, or that I would have to admit this to a thousand strangers, but here goes. Content warnings for grooming, e-rape, false accusations of being a groomer, and suicide ideation. I'll try to keep this brief.

TL;DR: I'm not a groomer. I myself was groomed ten years ago, and I was about to tell the people in the Lore Server this when they kicked me out and are distorting the truth to make me be perceived as a groomer when I never had sexual intentions towards anyone. They are deliberately obscuring and manipulating the truth to damage my reputation for reasons I cannot fathom, and I am now actively suicidal.

If you or someone you love needs help, please, contact https://findahelpline.com/ or a trusted friend or neighbor. You're not alone, there are people out there that care about you, and nobody wants you to die.

At least ten years ago, maybe more, I joined the Fandomstuck fandom under the muse of Hipster Fandom. I don't know if I stated my age, but my behavior probably made it clear that I was a minor. During that time, somebody playing either a Naruto or Inuyasha fandom muse got close to me, gained my trust, and then coerced me into rping sex between our characters. I didn't think anything of it at the time, but my brain blocked out the memory, and I became hypersexual as a result of the event. For years, I constantly sought out, read, and wrote strange porn almost every day. I thought it was just a result of being a teenager, since the memory of being coerced into roleplaying sex had been buried for my own protection. Once I turned eighteen, however, this slowed down, and I, again, believed it was because I was aging out of being a teenager.

In 2020, I made friends with Peachymunmagenta (then peachymun-from-georgia), cryptologicalMystic, and horatioo, among others. We became fast friends in the Lore Server, and we really clicked with each other. For the first time in my life, I had real, genuine friends, people I could trust implicitly without fear. We came up with dozens of awesome AUs, characters, and stories together, stories I wanted to keep forever, and even tell to my children and grandchildren. I also regularly stopped and asked if any of them were uncomfortable if I got a weird response to a message I sent, because I didn't want them to be uncomfortable or weirded out by something I said. In October of 2023, I then joined the Toontown Ask Blog Cinematic Universe server, and though I wasn't exactly adored, people seemed to, at least, tolerate my presence.

On February 20th, 2024, however, my brain had finally determined I was safe, and uncovered the memory of me being groomed. I took some time to process this, as well as to play Side Order, but, on the 26th, when I was going to come forwards to the Lore Server about being groomed, I discovered I had been kicked out of both servers, and that I was being slandered as a groomer. Understandably, I am now actively suicidal, and I genuinely fear for my life. I am not a groomer. I never had sexual intentions towards anyone in the server, especially not Peachymun, who is a minor. I have been proudly against the sexualization of children long before I started my Tumblr blog, and long before I had been groomed. Did I say the wrong things sometimes? Yes. Did I apologize and try to do better whenever it was communicated to me I was making others uncomfortable? Yes. Should I have done things differently? Yes. I'll freely admit that there were times I shouldn't have been stubborn, or shouldn't have said the things I did, but I never wanted to hurt anyone, and I never wanted to make anyone uncomfortable, and I certainly never wanted to make Peachymun think I wanted sexual things from them. Just that fact alone would have made me psychologically ill, so add that to the fact they kicked me out over it, and are trying to claim I'm some sick groomer freak? Of course I'm suicidal. There's no other logical or rational response to that, especially when one had just found out they had been groomed themselves. All I ever wanted was to be friends with them. That's it. There were no ulterior motives whatsoever.

F.A.Q.

What about the pelvic exam thing?

I said two lines about having a pelvic exam. They were "I just had a pelvic exam and it fucking sucked. They couldn't even do it because the tool was too big". The actual point of the vent was that I was in pain, my mother proceeded to infantilize me after an adults-only medical procedure, I smoked some weed with her in the vain hopes of that somehow making her see me as an adult, and I wanted comfort from my only friends because I was in pain and humiliated and intoxicated. I wasn't saying "oooh my pussy so tight aaa uwu", or at least, I don't remember saying anything like that. If I did, I'm sorry. I wasn't graphic or sexual, and besides that, I thought that "pelvic exams suck but they're fine and normal" from someone they trusted would be better for Peachymun to hear instead of "they're gonna shove a r-slur stick in your r-slur hole, now stop crying, r-slur" from their literal abuser. If I could go back, I wouldn't mention any of it whatsoever. I would simply try to deal with the pain and humiliation on my own, and not burden my friends with my problems.

What about the breeding thing?

Okay, that one requires some context to get the full picture. So. That was an AU based off of SCP-3999, and also Wobbledogs. We had an AU called 3999-malevencte, and in it, several characters were put through various torments themed around different things. This particular loop was themed around Wobbledogs, a game where the titular Wobbledogs "breed" by touching noses, and then an egg comes from the room's doorway. I was genuinely unaware that one of the proposed characters was a minor, and when this was brought to my attention, I backed off and scrapped the idea.

What about the roleplay?

In the roleplay, Peachymun wanted several characters to go to the beach together. I, not wanting to step on anyone's toes, tried to abstain from it by having two of my characters, a young child and an omnipresent narrator, have a cute, wholesome time together. Initially, when Peachymun was upset by this, I tried to push through with my plan anyway, but when I realized they were genuinely in distress, I relented, despite my own lack of desire to participate in the beach adventure, or maybe I simply dipped out of the RP during the time of the event. I can't remember.

Why put what happened into the story of your Toontown blogs?

Well, there's several reasons. One, it's a very traumatic event in my life, and the only way I know how to cope with things is through fiction. That's why so many of my stories involved dehumanization and infantilization. If it had been anything else that happened and was traumatic- the death of a pet, the loss of a limb, etc- it would have been added in so that I could cope with it through the medium of fiction. Two, simply retconning the blog would feel disingenuous to me. It would feel like I was saying "Peachymun, all your ideas never mattered and I never liked you to begin with, so I'm taking out everything you contributed, directly or indirectly, because you mean so little to me I can just replace you without a second thought.". Three, 90% of the contents of the blog were related to either Peachymun, the Lore Server, or the TTABCU server. If I got rid of all of those elements, I may as well have just made a new character outright. And four, as callous or distasteful as someone may find it, not bringing it up or retconning it would feel twice as cruel and ill-mannered, to me. It would be like saying none of the stuff that came before and none of the things that happened actually mattered, that I could replace them and not care a lick about their thoughts or feelings. That's far worse, in my opinion, than giving an in-universe explanation and spinning up a new plot about abandonment and loneliness.

What about the messages that got you muted in Toontown?

The first one, I regret immensely. It was supposed to be more lighthearted than it was. I wasn't serious. As soon as I said it, I realized that I had fucked up, and I regret it. I shouldn't have said it. I shouldn't have said anything. It was a dumb argument, and I should have never sent the message to begin with. The second one was supposed to be a silly joke, and I genuinely thought no one would take offense to it, but they did.

Are you really going to kill yourself?

Probably. Maybe. It's not like I have anything left to live for right now, aside from my mother and my cat.

Would you still kill yourself if your friends came back?

Maybe. I don't know. Even if, by some miracle, they did come back, and all was forgiven, I've still undergone severe psychological trauma that I fear I may never recover from. I would never wish any of this onto anyone, not even my worst enemies. This is far beyond being a nightmare scenario. This is a scenario so horrible and cruel that it never would've crossed my mind as something I could ever be put through, even if I had a million years to think of awful, horrible things I might go through.

You're acting very immaturely.

I know. Please, forgive me. This is the first time I've ever lost a friend group. I've never been through this before, even though most people have, and the previous groups I've been in, I either left of my own accord or we drifted apart naturally. Couple this with the fact that I was in a very fragile state, and they're accusing me of being the worst of the worst when I only ever thought the best of them, it's very difficult for me to even speak to other people at all, or to write this message, without simply giving up on interacting with others altogether.

As a result of all of this, I have to say, I have undergone severe psychological harm, and I fear I may never recover. How can one recover, after such a series of events? I'm going to need lots and lots of therapy, at the very least, but I genuinely doubt that I'll ever be as healthy or as stable as I was before February 2024. Despite it all, though, I can't bring myself to be mad at anyone involved. Even if I knew, with 100% certainty, that it would help me heal, and I would be better for it, I doubt I ever could. I'm too soft-hearted for that. In all honesty, the only reason I didn't kill myself on the 28th is because my mother would be devastated, and take her own life, and then the cat would wind up with my shithead brother, and die, too, because he'd try to use her as a mouser when she's an exclusively indoor cat, and as much as I'm in pain and suffering, I don't want either of them to be hurt. I never wanted anyone to be hurt at all, actually.

Anyways, yeah. Peachymun, Mystic, anyone from the Lore Server or TTABCD, if you're reading this, I'm sorry. I really am. I never meant to hurt any of you, and I never meant to make you uncomfortable, or make you think I wanted sexual content from you. That was never my intention. I'm not a groomer, I'm not a pedophile, and I'm not a manipulator. I'm just a socially unaware idiot who was never taught right from wrong when it comes to these kinds of things. I hope all the rest of your lives are filled with love, and joy, and happiness, that all your goals are accomplished, that you live long, fulfilling lives, and that you continue to create wonderful, amazing stories and characters that change people's lives for the better. I hope every day you talk to each other, and laugh, and create things together, and grow into the best versions of yourself you can be. I hope everything comes easily for you, and that you always accomplish what you want without struggle, and that you can remain friends forever and ever. You deserve it. You deserve all of it, and more, and I'm sorry I couldn't provide it for you, despite my best intentions. Most of all, I hope you can look back on the things we made together, and enjoy them, without your untrue perception of me tainting things. All I ever, genuinely wanted was your friendship and happiness, nothing more, and nothing nefarious. I promise.

-Abby.

[teamhawkeye]

i cannot for the life of me get over, that there are a handful of grown ass adults  (all in their 20s at least) who have engaged in stalking fans of the same celebrity as them across multiple social media platforms, harassing them and others associated with them, digging up personal information that was not explicitly listed or made clear in bios, and have moved on to full on doxxing A MINOR-

and these people still think they’re some sort of moral crusaders, when they’re still pushing lies and misinformation and saying with their whole chests “we don’t care <3″

get well and completely fucked, you deranged freaks

[cryptid-artha]

I have a friend who is going through absolute hell because some unhinged kid decided to stalk them and make their life hell. From my understanding, this kid tried to initiate all sorts of inappropriate interactions, which this friend turned down cold. I'm not sure on all the context, but the friend did everything right. Turning the kid down, not shaming the kid, treating the kid like a human being. I believe there was a story-based group RP they were both involved in and some interactions between their characters? But I'm still not entirely sure on the details, just that the kid was taking completely normal stuff and forcing it into a very creepy direction. It got to the point where the friend would interact in the server, but ignore the kid, but the kid kept trying and trying to come on to this friend, even after the friend blocked them. As is perfectly normal for teens, the kid, at least this is what I think may have happened, got a crush on my friend. And of course, no adult in their right mind is going to reciprocate nor encourage such feelings, and of course the kid got rejected. The adult in question did not, in fact, have any feelings for this 13 year old child. As is normal and to be expected from an adult. What is not normal, however, is this kid turning around and making this friend's life a living hell, getting them thrown out of every single community they get involved in with unfounded allegations. Things like.... cracking a dirty joke in a public server to another person while the kid just happened to be in the same server being twisted into a targeted attack with cherry-picked and altered screenshots. A joke, mind you, more mild than the ones the kid himself cracked constantly. Things as simple as... this person has adult content art in their gallery... under an adult content filter, not shared in any public spaces. Being twisted into them showing this art to the kid simply because he found their account, lied about his age to bypass the filters, and actively sought out and viewed the adult content in their gallery. Things like the kid trying to initiate inappropriate conversations and the adult ignoring it or steering it away being twisted into the adult encouraging it and "gr/ooming" the kid. And screenshots of the kid behaving creepily being twisted into evidence that the adult was encouraging it, when the adult was actually actively disengaging and trying to ignore the kid’s advances and talk about other stuff to other people. Many of these screenshots taken after they blocked the kid because his behavior was making them very uncomfortable. Kids having crushes on adults is normal. And it is our responsibility, as adults, to not reciprocate, not encourage it, but also not shame the kid for having these normal feelings. Kid crushes are going to happen, it’s a part of growing up. It’s going to happen no matter what. I had a huge crush on one of my teachers when I was a kid, and nothing unsafe ever came from it because the teacher did not reciprocate but still treated me like a human being. 

It's the adult's responsibility to handle it in a way that is safe for the kid without making the kid feel ashamed of something they can’t help. The kid might be upset at their crush saying no, but it is safer for the kid in the long run, and the right thing to do. Which is exactly what my friend did, did not reciprocate any of the kid’s advances, at all. What is not normal, is kids twisting it around and using it to hurt innocent people. Y'all need to stop always taking the kid's side on these things and actually make sure you know the context before acting to take down somebody who is innocent and was trying to do the right thing. Some of these kids just crave the pity and attention they get from spouting these accusations. Sometimes they have untreated trauma of their own that they are taking out on innocent adults whose only crime was being in the wrong place at the wrong time. The kid gets pity and positive attention, and suffers no consequences... All the while, the person being accused of gr/ooming and being a creep gets their life utterly ruined, even when it is completely untrue and they have proof of it being untrue. People don’t look at their proof, they don’t actually listen to their side at all. The adult loses their friends. They can lose their job, they can even get into legal trouble. They get pushed out of every social circle they are in. They lose their ability to make money from their art because they get connected to the accusations the kid spouted and people can’t just change their art style and rebrand, because they’ll always get ratted out and canceled. Trying to face the accusations and prove them wrong is never enough, or seen as wrong. Trying to stay quiet and let it blow over doesn’t work and is seen as wrong. It always comes back to haunt them. Trying to simply distance themselves and rebrand, letting their old name die doesn’t work and is seen as wrong… they are literally stuck in a situation they are unable to get out of. Their mental health gets chipped away, because wherever they go, these accusations follow them. They can be completely untrue. Completely unfounded, with no actual proof, but people just blindly believe everything they are told and ignore the person’s proof otherwise. And that hurts innocent people. Do not be so quick to villainize and cancel somebody. There are always two sides of a story. Is there actual proof that somebody did something bad? Then yes, spread the news if you feel they are an active danger to kids online. Keep them out of your communities, especially if there are kids around. But if there's no proof... if it's just word of mouth, ignore it. Or, at the very least, ask for the other person's side of the story. Don’t just jump to conclusions from only one side of the story.

Of course, this goes without saying, don’t completely discount every kid that comes forward about inappropriate actions taken towards or around them. Make sure that kids can feel safe around you and in spaces you are a part of or moderate, but please, please actually step back and look at both sides of the story to make sure an innocent person isn’t getting caught up in all this.

[taureleni-alt]

Since our original response to Kallulily's accusations didn't have much reach due to her attempts to silence us, and now that she is being exposed for the lies she's made and hurt she has caused others, please read about our experiences and share.

Kallulily is very manipulative and has a pattern of falsely accusing people she doesn't like of serious transgressions, like calling both Galaxia and Hoco predatory/groomers and accusing Dragator/D00p of being racist (context below).

She still supports a groomer who she claims has changed for the better when they still blame the minor victim for their actions. And she claims she just "knows" when people have changed for the better and when people haven't.

The allegations against Kallulily also go much further than what anyone has revealed publicly, but out of respect for the victims, it's up to them if/when they want to disclose the information.

Warning post for Kallulily

This is a warning post for @/kallulily regarding an incident she was in that happened in January of this year. This is being brought up right now because Kallulily is modding for the Kirby Gijinka Rainbow Zine (as Mod Paintra), a large event in the Kirby community. As this incident happened on Twitter/X it’s not well known here and many continue to support Kallulily without knowing her morals or actions.

Trigger warnings for grooming, abuse, and mentions of NSFW, rape, feral, and incest content in certain links

The incident concerns Kallulily’s friend @/splitser on tumblr and @/splitsterart on twitter (known as “Mod”) being called out for grooming someone starting when the victim was 15 and they were 19-20. A callout was made for this. There were two docs made, both shown in the X link below, with one being explicit, and one being a censored version. Warning for mentions or explicit screenshots of NSFW, rape, feral, incest content being exposed to minors, depending on the document https://x.com/RustyDoodleBot/status/1749553958920577093

Mod would later put out a response to this callout. Despite claiming they don’t condone their own behavior, they gave the excuse of the minor “insisted on seeing [Mod’s] NSFW material”, dismissing their own blame from their inappropriate actions towards minors. 

In the document they portrayed the victim, named Hoco, as the one who made THEM uncomfortable, despite Mod being the adult in the relationship who accepted/continued/sometimes even initiated the advances. Mod ultimately held more power in their dynamic, they could have cut the relationship at any moment before it got sexual. https://x.com/splitsterart/status/1749929155251102148?t=UVpJv9IJPTNiEwVoH-Gv3w

At the same time, Kallulily put out a statement defending her friend. This statement once again blamed the victim, insinuating the victim only came forward with the grooming allegations as an act of revenge (yes, the victim who had been groomed by her friend). Taking it as far as stating that the victim was a greater threat to minors than the groomer ever was.

Kallulily would later delete this statement. These screenshots were saved by another user, and are taken from here: https://x.com/Kaizilero/status/1750261445080883671

Along with this, Kallulily & Mod claimed Hoco knew and enabled a minor to distribute NSFW commissions. This has been cleared up by both the minor and Hoco. It’s important to mention how much making a claim like this can hurt someone’s reputation. https://x.com/RustyDoodleBot/status/1749962678406177246

In no situation is it ever ok to blame or portray a grooming victim as evil for coming out about their abuse. Despite Kallulily claiming she holds her friend accountable, she still brings the victim's reputation down to elevate her friend’s actions. Note that Mod was inappropriate to multiple minors, at least 3, meaning Kallulily and Mod’s argument of this happening because of Hoco’s behavior is null. As Mod has been inactive on all of their accounts since their callout, they are not the focal point of this post. However, other affected minors were recently contacted and new screenshots with both confirmation via memory and hard proof with screenshots of past NSFW conversations and art were given, with permission to share. DM this account for those screenshots if the extra confirmation is necessary.

Kallulily claims her friend has changed, but change isn’t trying to shift the blame onto a minor for starting NSFW conversation. Change isn’t trying to bring down a victim to make yourself and your friends look less bad. The overreaching defenses only come across as a defense of grooming itself.

Regardless of if Hoco did something bad too, it doesn’t take away from Mod’s abuse of them. Both Kallulily and Mod never apologized for claiming Hoco was at fault for being groomed in some way, which is the reason why this post is being made for awareness.

Please do not harass Kallulily, Mod, the Kirby Gijinka Rainbow Zine, or anyone else involved. This post is only to spread awareness.

[emojifarm]

Can we go one day without fighting and absolutely bullshit in this community? No? Okay. Touch fucking grass. Y'all are ridiculous

[auntie-social-acab]

I am a dog groomer. Almost everyone I have ever worked with has been queer as fuck. Home-of-sexual if you will. Just by virtue of us all being queer, this person would think that my coworkers and I were child groomers as well as dog groomers.

Image ID: many people are walking in cold weather gear. A woman in a coat and skinny jeans has a large sign covering her face that reads “groom dogs not children”

[pawberri]

The key problem with "proship vs anti" discourse is that the most extreme versions of each side, the ones who actually bother to identify with these labels, accepted each others worst takes as arguments they had to debate. "Fiction =/= reality" is, in practice, an absurdly reductionist, anti-intellectual, thought-terminating-cliche that dictates we can learn nothing about a person via art and that their fiction reflects no political or moral messaging worthy of critique. In response to this, the "puriteens" who are too young to possibly hope to articulate their discomfort, to untangle their position from what is often real trauma experienced online, simply argue "yes, fiction influences and reflects reality in a 1 to 1 capacity." They, and people who want to use the groundwork they laid to make bad-faith callouts, make bad arguments about how the action of engaging in problematic fiction is on equal ground to real life abuse, or is a clear indicator of interest in real life abuse. Both of these arguments are terrible, but each side seems to radicalize the other further and further into their own brands of anti-intellectual reactionary belief. "Proshippers" become libertarian absolutists about free speech and view all transgression as righteous and alternative and therefore leftist. They gain a reactionary nostalgia for the past, desiring a time when people didn't seem to care about the implications of art. "Antis" become authoritarian and hypervigilant for signs of moral decay, at their worst, willing to align themselves with government bodies that offer carceral solutions to the debate. They are willing to use harassment as a tool of punishment, which then leads to false accusations and a fear of openness that puts people at risk of being triggered via obfuscation. (That said, proshippers also take part in plenty of harassment.)

I will say that I believe both of these movements are equally sensitive to co-opting by right-wing forces. We see the authoritarian tendencies of anti culture in harassment campaigns and even the way Republican law makers co-opt "grooming." The proship/fic crowd has such extreme nostalgia for the past that I often see people align themselves with the cultures of 4chan or other happily right-wing websites. They so heavily reject the idea that a drawn sexual depiction of a child could reflect any desire that they are disinterested in analyzing what the motivation behind the depiction is. i.e If we track the history of lolicon in Japan we do find that is, yes, countercultural, but that counter culture is right wing, very misogynistic, and defensive of patriarchial Japanese culture as it is and was including its culture around rape and abuse. Plenty of fictional content works as radicalization material, and radicalization material needs to be ambiguous. There is a valid reason to be hesitant to trust people who consume this content, even if I do not believe most of them will ever be dangerous towards children. The mere presence of sexuality is not enough to make a movement left wing. This kind of thing can again be seen in right-wing libertarian movements in the US. (And even leftist movements can be bigoted and even "pro-pedophilia" or otherwise disinterested in social reform around abuse.)

Is all content with elements of age-play this way? No. But to me, that is why kink media deserves to be treated as art and analyzed, critiqued, treated seriously. It doesn't have to do anything to anyone to be worthy of a moral critique. Said moral critique just doesn't warrant harassment and cruelty and reactionary exaggerations of the person consuming said content.

Anyway, what's my point in saying all this? I don't know. I'm just begging you to tag your God damn content with specific tags instead of random and nebulous shit like "dead dove" or "dark content", and also begging you to stop harassing people who do tag their content so I don't have to guess what "dead dove" and "dark content" mean. No one will erase incest kink fics or people who feel sickened by the idea of them off this earth because we aren't god, but we could at least all be responsible about tagging, flagging, and age-gating our stuff.

[scrollypoly]

Alex Kister has made a response to the document made by Ven

The link to the document. PLEASE READ THIS DOCUMENT BEFORE SPREADING FALSE CLAIMS

Alright this is a much more concise and well written document than Ven's was, so ill be brief. Im also gonna strike out my neutrality for this, because after reading Ven's document and seeing the behavior of the accusers on tumblr, I have lost what little belief in this document that i had and belief it was made in poor faith to slander and condemn Alex on false claims.

First, the important claims. Alex did not groom anyone. In fact, Alex says that Ven and DB are older than Alex, and Ven's statements of them being in their 29s corroborates this, as Alex is only 20 years old. Stop spreading misinfo that Alex is a pedophile or a groomer

Alex hits every point that Ven makes in their document and talks through them all. He talks only briefly for how Ven went through their prior relationship, just enough to acknowledge that it wasn't a healthy relationship and that Ven also had some responsibility in how the relationship went down, especially around the miscommunication between the two of them. These miscommunications would later come up in DB's relationship with Alex as well. It is not Alex's responsibility to see through others when they communicate that things are fine when they are not. It is up to the other party to properly communicate their feelings and any problems they may be having in the relationship. Even in the screenshots from Ven's document, we see clearly that when Ven or DB express any discomfort about something, Alex apologizes and backpedals. This is good and normal behavior.

Alex also discusses Ven's intentions with this document

Literally all of this could have been solved privately and been so much better for everyone. I acknowledge and respect that Ven and DB were hurt by their relationships with Alex, but a relationship is a private matter, and problems in that relationship should be respectfully handled between those in the relationship. This document was cruel, exposing Alex's sexual discussions to the public, outting his identity as a transgender person, and slandering him with little regard for the truth or hearing his side of the interactions. This matter should have been handled privately.

One of the things i acknowledged Alex being in the wrong for in my post on Ven's document was suicide baiting. I'll let this snippet in his document speak for itself. I am undecided on how i feel about the interaction, but this gives very important insight to it.

Alex also speaks and gives more context and information about his relationship with DB. As stated earlier, DB was also older than Alex. Alex did not groom DB. The same problems with miscommunication Alex had with Ven can also be discussed here. DB was in a consenting relationship with Alex and as Alex shows, responded in kind to Alex's advances and even advanced the relationship further on my own. From Alex's perspective in this document, it looks like he and DB had a comfortable consenting relationship that was suddenly retracted by DB. If DB was uncomfortable with anything in this relationship, they should have spoken up and discussed it with Alex.

All in all, Ven's document already had a lot of flaws, and Alex's response points out many more flaws that I didn't initially see as well. Please note this response is only to Ven's document, and does not acknowledge the other allegations made by donut, mitcha, or any of the others. I assume Alex will also talk about those, I will wait and see before discussing those allegations further.

[hallowpen]

Anil remains of the perspective that Pin's "choice" was made with the intention to hurt her instead of protect her. Their status within their own relationship forced very different reactionary measures that Anil fails to understand from her place of privilege. Anil was ready and willing to sacrifice everything in order to be with Pin, while Pin was willing to sacrifice her own happiness to prevent Anil from being disgraced. Anil has been taught by experience that should she want something, she has the power to make it happen. Pin has lived to serve the royal family and to take responsibility for any wrongdoing that may cause them potential harm.

It was lovely to see Lady Uangfah sympathizing with Pin, especially when it's compared to Princess Patt's harsher approach. Uangfah is in the best position to understand wanting something you simply cannot have... and, thus, succumbing to her own marital fate within society.

สไบ (pronounced 'sa-bai') is a shawl breast cloth that is typically worn for any culturally significant traditions... like a wedding ceremony. Often hand-embroidered, Sbai are made from long pieces of silk that can be draped diagonally around the chest by covering one shoulder and hanging behind the wearer's back. The quality (and color) of its silk and threads were determined by one's status in society. Vibrant and more expensive silks were worn by royalty, with embroideries of gold or silver threads.

Reputational hearsay is disallowed in royal society, as both involved parties typically tend to suffer as a result. Making an accusation against a person of rank requires evidentiary support, otherwise it could look like the intentional spreading of a false rumor. As Pin, Patt, and Anan all point out, should they publicly reveal the truth about Kuea without any proof, his denial could endanger the reputation of the Savettavarit name... which is what this whole insisted-upon marriage is supposed to protect in the first place.

The idea of karmic penance is nothing new in this series (or in Thai Buddhist tradition)... and it is something that has been ingrained into Pin from Patt's influence (re: episode 12). Pin, herself, has described her actions as sinful: that she would "force" Anil to step below her revered standing is considered to be 'immoral'. It can be said that Pin sees herself as a stain against Anil's otherwise pure character. In order to repent for her actions, she must make amends... no matter how much suffering she might endure as a result. And while she may not understand it, Anil can only wish that Pin can endure and find some form of happiness in her pursuit of redemption.

There are several key steps involved in a traditional Thai wedding ceremony...

ขันหมาก (pronounced 'khan maak') is a procession where the groom and his relatives march to the bride's home. The parade will often feature drummers and traditional folk dancers in a lively celebration that announces the groom's arrival. Relatives are often seen carrying monetary gifts to be used as part of the bride's dowry and offerings that represent important aspects of the marriage... such as health, prosperity, fertility and longevity.

พิธีกั้นประตู (pronounced 'phi-thi gan pra-tuu') is the symbolic barring of the groom from approaching the bride. The groom must successfully pass through a number of obstacles that are put in the groom’s way by the bride’s family. These symbolic "doors" can only be entered once the groom has proven his worth to the keepers of the "locks". Gold and silver gates are represented by gold or silver belts, which are held by two female members of the bride’s family and friends. The groom's passage through to the next door will only be granted once a "toll" has been negotiated with the keeper of the lock. The entire process is symbolic of the challenges the groom must overcome in order to be worthy of his bride's love and her family's approval. Upon completion, the dowry (สินสอด or 'sin sod') is then formally presented to the bride's family.

พิธีหลั่งน้ำพระพุทธมนต์ (pronounced 'phi-thi lang naam phra-phuut-ta-mon') is known as the water pouring ceremony. The water pouring is the most important part of a Thai wedding ceremony as it is when a couple can officially be seen as husband and wife.

Before the water pouring can take place, the couple is seated at a traditional water pouring table known as ตั่งรดน้ำ (pronounced 'dtang rot-naam')... with the bride to the left of the groom. They each receive a ceremonial headdress known as มงคล (pronounced 'mong-khol'). The headdress is made from one continuous piece of cotton that forms a circle around each of the bride's and groom's heads... to signify the joining of the two as a couple. Their foreheads are anointed with three dots of white powder to represent the shape of a pyramid, which is symbolic of enlightenment and harmony.

The รดน้ำสังข์ (pronounced 'roht naam sang') is performed by elders pouring blessed water over the couple's hands using a conch shell. The conch shell holds auspicious value through its connection to the Hindu god Vishnu. A trickle of water is poured from the base of the thumb to the fingertips, over first the groom’s and then the bride's, to symbolize the passing of blessings from one generation to the next.

[biteofcherry]

Raised voices and boasts of triumph hushed as if cut with a blade the second you stepped into the brightness of the throne room.

Eerie, how the grand hall always seemed shrouded in soft shadows when your father sat on the throne, but now lit up with brilliance.

It wasn't a blessed change, however.

You knew not to welcome the light, as deceiving as it was, for one monster replaced the other.

You walked across the polished stones, knowing that far below it dungeons spread, where your father's broken body lied.

There was no tune of mourning in your chest. Not for the man who kept you locked and groomed like a pig to be served at the most celebratory feast. It was all you were to your father - a tool to gain more power and riches.

Not allowed to step a foot outside the tightly secured inner walls of the citadel since you were a child. Living in shadows and shrouded in legends he spun about you to the outside world.

Though you knew, thanks to your servants, that as much as others believed you to be of rare beauty and a docile lamb of a potential wife (like your father wanted everyone to believe), there were also mocking rumors that you were kept hidden due to ugliness, or sickness.

Whenever you tried to rebel, it always ended with vicious words, more restrictions and an accusation of being ungrateful for the protection he gave you from the cruel world.

But that protection was false.

The proof of it making you walk through the throne room toward the bloodthirsty conqueror, who broke your father's defences in less than two days of siege.

A beast, who awaited your approach.

His men stared at you, hungry like a pack of wolves ready to strike and rip a pound of flesh.

It only made your spine lock into a steel rod. Your head held high as you continued in a poised stride.

You wore your most ornamental dress; adorned yourself with jewels, as a warrior carries his weapons.

You did not bow, nor court, when you reached the steps on which the throne was raised. Where the new ruler of your kingdom stood, his lips curving into a grin the longer you held his gaze without flinching.

Tall and broad, his dark armor still carrying splatters of blood.

His eyes, however, were a striking hue of blue.

"Look at you," he stepped so close to your side that you could feel the heat of him seeping through the fabric of your dress into your skin.

"Ice and fury barely contained."

There was a delight in his voice, as if he was pleased finding out that you weren't the fragile flower like the rumors claimed.

"You're honed from harder steel than any weapon, aren't you?" He said your name, rolling it on his tongue with a low purr.

One that reminded you of what conquerors did to the Princesses of kingdoms they've just obtained.

"And you have a taste for breaking me." You didn't let your voice quiver, challenging him with a promise of resisting every pain he slashed your way.

"Breaking you?" His brows arched in surprise and then he burst out laughing.

"No, my fury." He shook his head as his laughter faded.

"I have no desire to break you." He touched your cheek with a single finger, tracing it gently.

When you hissed and made a move to turn your face from his touch, he gripped your chin between his thumb and forefinger.

"Rulers have wild animals, leashed and sitting at the foot of their throne. Bobcats and cheetahs. I shall have a wild cat of my own, too."

His words clipped around your neck like aforementioned leash, vowing to keep your life bound to his; this beast who was excited to meet your fury with his own relentless ferocity.

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Who is he?

[bittersweetbonbon]

im not a creep. im not a predator. im not a danger to anyone. im a grooming victim and the people i trusted are genuinely trying to drive me to suicide. i'm so fucking tired

[platinumrosetail]

Yandere Hualian x reader.

Warning: In the fem reader's first life, she was the younger sister of General Pei Ming. She lived as a beautiful young woman loved by her brother, without caring that he was a womanizer. Then, according to Pei Ming's ascension story, when he was accused of treason and broke his sword. However, the reader remained in the mortal realm and was unjustly executed. After 800 years she is reincarnated again, but as a humble traveler, there she meets Xie Lian and Huan cheng (you decide how) after many adventures together. He then reunites with his brother, although at first he does not remember him, although Pei Ming insists that he was once his brother. Little by little she will remember her past life. In the end he has a relationship with Huan cheng and Xie lian, and when he remembers his previous life, he sadly dies, but some time later he is reincarnated again.

(I based this request on some Chinese dramas, thank you for accepting it.)

Oooh interesting, also my first heaven officials blessing/tgcf request yay!

Warning: noob author, female reader, yandere characters, and others.

Characters: hualian (hua cheng and xie lian).

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You were the little sister to pei Ming, you didn’t mind his womanizing ways but you always scold him to be careful as one of those woman he woo’s could seek revenge when he breaks her heart. Though not many gods knew about you as you had died a little after your brother ascended to godhood, falsely accused and executed over a misunderstanding along with how you were the little sister to pei Ming so they thought you had a part in the rebellion even though you were innocent, your brother couldn’t save you as he had only learned after your death that you were in trouble and it was already too late to save you.

Pei Ming has hope that you might reincarnated or turned into a ghost and he just couldn’t find you good enough. He has searched high and low for you, and when he gets frustrated he usually woo women’s hearts and release his frustration by having sex with them and leaving afterwards to continue searching for you after the stress and frustration is out of his body.

Pei Ming was right to think you reincarnated though it was only after 800 years had you finally reincarnated this time as a young female and humble traveler, each time you have left a place he would arrive missing you each time as you have never stayed in one place for too long which resulted you in meeting a nice young man by the name of xie lian who is a humble cultivator also traveling. You soon start having a crush on xie lian as he is such a kind person so it was no surprise when you started developing feelings for the young man.

On your journey with xie lian you meet many interesting people and fight against some enemies as well, though even when you can fight it’s not as good as two junior officials from the heavens and your crush; xie lian, fighting though xie lian always seems to be there for you no matter what and can protect you and your weak spots which warms your heart and love for him.

You soon met hua cheng when you had became a bride bait to lure out the ghost groom or also known as ghost bride as you all soon found out that the ones behind the disappearance of brides was a woman one who shared history with pei Ming, who you find familiar in name but can’t place where it was familiar. Pei jr saw you and noted to tell his father about you.

You later met San lang when he was with you while you and xie lian was riding a cart together to get back home to your little shrine in piqu village, later spending the night there with you and xie lian before the two junior officials came by again with another mission to banyue(?) pass. Many months later and many adventures later you, San lang who you later found out was hua cheng, and xie lian who you also found out later was a god, started a relationship together.

Pei Ming had soon asked xie lian if he could meet you as you very well could be his sister who finally reincarnated, xie lian at first was worried that pei Ming would flirt with you but soon found out that you were pei Ming’s reincarnated sister and let pei Ming meet you though with a subtle warning on if pei Ming hurt you he and hua cheng would show no mercy even if he was your past life brother. You were skeptical about the situation between you and pei as you had no memories and there wasn’t really any proof and pei Ming could have gotten the wrong person but after meeting pei Ming you kept getting memories of your past life but before you could celebrate on finding out the pei Ming is actually your brother you were sadly killed by a jealous woman who had mistaken you for pei Ming’s lover instead of sister.

The woman was soon tortured and killed by hua cheng, xie lian and pei Ming, thankfully the woman was a ghost so xie lian and pei Ming didn’t get in trouble on killing her if she was human, and even if she was it would be easy to hide that fact considering who the three were. Hua cheng and xie lian are now on the hunt for your next life with pei Ming as the two both love you and won’t let you go even after you die and pei had just found you he won’t lose your next life like he did last time which means he gives up on womanizing if it meant you won’t get hurt like you did last time. You won’t ever escape them and no one will ever take you away from them now.

(A/n: hope yall liked it!! I decided on making pei Ming a platonic yandere as I thought it fit plus since xie lian and hua cheng were already yandere i thought why not him too? lol anyway hope yall have a wonderful day/evening/night!!)

[syrena-del-mar]

The Nine Circles of Hell: Dead Friend Forever, Episode 7

First, a trigger warning: I'll be discussing themes of revenge porn, grooming, statutory rape, sexual coercion.

I'm going to discuss this episode with as much upmost care as I can, due to the sheer amount of sensitive material that came out of this week's episode I will also not being using any explicit scene screen captures from this episode. If there's anything you'd like to me to take out or want a more in depth conversation, feel free to use either of my message boxes.

Last week I said DFF had more to offer than just being a campy 90s slasher remake. While I first thought we were already in the depths of hell, thematically, with Non getting beaten by the mafia, I didn't expect this week's episode to somehow double that pain. But here we are. I was lulled into false security with the 5 minute montage of getting to know what Phee and Non's relationship was like. I should have remembered that I'm definitely watching the wrong genre when I expected more of those moments.

Non and Phee

This episode really continues and expands the idea that humans are not these clear-cut, unambiguous, good-or-bad beings that idea has now been depicted through Non and his relationship with Phee. Non has so much love to give and so much want for being loved, it's what leads to Phee in the first place, but it's also what leads to his downfall. Because Non loves so much and so hard, it's also why he wasn't ecstatic that Phee had to lie to his father and say that he was involved, just to get him out of trouble with the police. What started like a sweet date turns a bit bitter, because Non is seeing the consequences of his actions not only affect himself but also the others that he loves. It's also why he couldn't tell Phee about the sheer amount he owed Tee's uncle, because he was now well aware that if Phee found out, he would get himself involved.

Non lies and manipulates Phee, he tells him time and time again that nothing happened between him and Mr. Kreng. Non swears to Phee that he isn't lying to him and that he won't keep any secrets from him anymore. It pains him to do so, he's barely holding himself together by the end of a thread thread once he's Phee's arms and his face is hidden from Phee's view. Yet, he does. He keeps it a secret how big of a hole he has found himself in, because he doesn't want to drag Phee down with him. Non says it himself to Jin, he doesn't want to be burden, he'll figure it out himself. It's a direct parallel to the bigger issues that Non is finding himself in beyond just within the 'movie set'. He has the 300 million baht hanging over his head, his parents (in his point of view) regret having him and find that he does is bring embarrassment to the family, and now he has another adult willing to give him the 300 million baht with a fake sense of care. So he found, what he believes to be, a solution that would get rid of the 300 million baht debt and all it requires is giving up a piece of himself, but at least it won't come at a cost of burdening his parents or Phee.

In trying to protect Phee, his lies ends up costing him the one he loves the most, Phee. Now from this point on, this is all speculation, but when Phee accused Non of 'always doing this', I'm not in the camp that believes that Phee is accusing Non about being a serial cheater. I see why people are in that camp, but I initially jumped to that conclusion as well. Now, I'm more in the line that Phee is accusing of Non always feeding him lies, even after explicitly promising him that he wouldn't. After putting his neck out for him, after letting Non do things his way as long as he promised to tell him the truth, Non goes back to telling lies. Phee lashes out, and at the end of the day he's still a teenager, so he hits Non's weakest point. Just get lost and die. The very words that likely haunt Phee in the present-day, now as an adult. And Non's holds the broken bracelet, punishing himself, because he knew that there was no coming back from losing his lifeline.

Non and Mr. Kreng (Please keep my trigger warnings in mind, they will be heavily discussed in this section.)

Statutory Rape. Grooming. Coerced Sexual Relations. Nonconsensual Sex. Molestation. Sexual Assault. Sexual Abuse. Those are all words to describe the relationship that occurred between Non and Mr. Keng. Let's call exactly what it is. I think I'll lose my mind if I have to see someone another person call Non a cheater. There is no cheating when there is statutory rape.

Non is literally at the end of his rope, Mr. Keng clocked that immediately. He knew that Non was isolated, that he was completely othered by his classmates, he believes that Non has nobody else to turn to, and he knows that Non is in deep in a scam that target teens. In his eyes, he found the perfect victim.

Non is taken advantage of by a person in power, a person that he should be able to trust. Non isn't naïve, he clocked that Mr. Keng wanted something from him since the moment they first met. But he is vulnerable. He's being extorted by the mafia and he sees someone offering him the money that he needs to put an end to that. In his eyes, it was a way out, a means to an end that just cost him a piece of his soul. I truly think Non rationalized it to himself as prostituting himself, because he knew that money was never coming without a price. No matter how much Mr. Keng tried to sell it as 'brotherly' love.

But at the end of the day, it does not matter what Non believed or rationalized, because Mr. Keng was the adult in the situation. He had a duty, as a teacher, to protect Non and provide a safe classroom environment. Instead he target, manipulates, and coerces Non into having sexual relations with him. He knows the power imbalance he holds, first as a teacher and then with the 300 million baht he 'gave' him. Mr. Keng, knowing that Non's not close to his 'friends', physically isolates him. He takes him to his office that's half-lit, located in a long hallway with, seemingly, very little foot traffic. He prods at Non, asking what's been bothering him and has him visibly become emotional, before offering his care. He's a complete and utter predator, in every sense of the term.

I hope he dies a long, painful death.

Non and Jin

First and foremost, whether or not Jin was ultimately the one that posted the video does not matter. Filming a classmate being sexually assaulted is still child porn at the very least and, possibly, revenge porn (if he disseminated the video) at the worst. I was on the same boat as @respectthepetty and their take that Jin had to be the worst of them all. Like they said in that post, Jin is a coward and he even admits to it. There's nothing more cowardly than hiding behind a door, filming you supposed 'friend' getting sexually abused by your teacher, and then even considering putting up on social media for revenge because your heart is broken.

Yes, Top framed Non. Yes, Por demanded (and bullied) money from Non. Yes, Tee brought Non to the mafia. Those are all very bad things, don't get me wrong. All the physical and mental abuse they put Non through was hell. Yet, Jin was the only one aware that Non had already been seeing someone, which seemingly had upset him already. Then he sees him with Mr. Keng and instead of reporting that his alleged friend was being assaulted, he gets angry and films Non at his most vulnerable point in life. Even Fluke didn't want any part of that.

Jin takes away Non's dignity. And at the end of the day, it doesn't matter whether he uploaded it online or not, he was still the one to film, transfer that file onto his computer, and contemplate whether he was going to post it or not. At every point since he found that Non and Mr. Kreng were in that room, he rendered Non powerless. That video would have never been uploaded if it hadn't existed in the first place. With just a point of a camera and click of a button, he is revictimizing Non every. single. time. that video is opened and seen by another person.

There are no words to fully describe or explain that kind of trauma that he has subjected Non to.

Final Thoughts

This episode was nauseating. It honestly took me about two hours just to get to the end. Usually, I can watch through a show I enjoy really quickly, but this episode was so hard to digest. And that's simply due to how realistic they are approaching the subject of Non and Mr. Keng.

Barcode and Ta really are the stars of the show. I'm not saying that the other castmates aren't amazing in their roles, but man TaBarcode really know are hitting every single emotional beat. I was never a TaBarcode nor a MacauChay girlie, but man Be On Cloud has truly brought out their best this time around. Even though I fully know we are heading towards an incredibly heart wrenching ending for PheeNon, I can't help but want to hoard and scramble for moments of them together.

It's crazy how well, everyone was able to pull their weight this episode. There were so many moments that with less talented, less experienced actors, could have fallen flat, but they didn't. Ta and Barcode's PheeNon was so incredibly heart-beating, butterfly inducing before we were brought back into their reality outside of their relationship. 2J and Barcode's scenes were.... so disgustingly real, for lack of better words. I knew that storyline was never going to end well but it had been more than I ever expected Be On Cloud to release. They're tackling such real issues that weigh on teens with incredible tact, there's no romanticizing what happened. Even Phee's reaction was so understandable when you put yourself in the shoes of a teenager. I'll reiterate again and again, whatever you think about Be On Cloud as a management company, as a production company, they really are breaking boundaries and doing something right. Whatever happens in the second half, I think I'll be here, recovering, for a long time.

[mamawasatesttube]

hi! i wanted to know if you had any thoughts about possibilities for the interactions between kon & matrix? as she was supergirl when he came into the scene and i know they interacted at least a little

they did! this is gonna get kinda long, my apologies, but lets gooo.

so kon and mae's relationship is... fascinating. they started off pretty sweet, with her being a warm and friendly presence when he started off as superboy - she invited him for dinner with lex, and all that, plus helped him with the stinger bridge incident. i often also think about the bit during the trial of superman arc where he tried to teach her to play magic the gathering with him:

however. their relationship took a significant turn for the worse shortly after this, during the arc in which knockout groomed kon into a relationship and manipulated him into helping her run from accountability for a murder he thought she was falsely accused of committing. the press turned very negative about kon aiding and abetting her escape, and mae showed up to confront him about it:

superboy (1994) #28

now there is a LOT to say about this arc and this issue, but there are two main things that stand out to me the most. firstly - this is pretty much a textbook example of what NOT to do when someone is in an abusive relationship, i.e. throw an ultimatum that they have to listen to you and leave immediately. it's how to drive them further into their abuser's arms, and that's exactly what happens with kon and knockout (she even literally tells him he doesn't need anyone but her, which is a classic abuse tactic. isolate the victim from his other would-be support.) ironically, this is also exactly how mae herself reacted when clark and the kents objected (much more gently than she did here!) to her relationship with lex luthor. it is so textbook "what not to do when someone you care about is in an abusive relationship" that i really wonder if kesel did it on purpose. i can't say he did with any confidence, though, given how victim blamey the rest of the narrative gets towards kon and how much he clearly still has a boner for knockout even after this arc ends, but... it is fascinating, i guess.

secondly, though, as much as it sucks, i would say this is completely consistent with mae's characterization in her own run (supergirl '96) which starts not too long after this. mae fuses with linda, which means... she and kon never actually work this out between them. however, mae is consistently characterized as someone who means well but can be hotheaded, judgmental, and prone to being pretty holier-than-thou when she jumps into situations without assessing them fully beforehand, like when a priest of a scam church in her name dies in front of her because she ignored him having a heart attack, not realizing he was trying to reach for his pills and begging her to help him reach the bottle he'd dropped, because she thought he was just scared of her and pleading for mercy. so her harshly judging kon for being in an abusive relationship, having recently escaped her own with lex luthor (in supergirl 1994), is in line with her characterization; in fact, it's entirely possible that she's so angry with kon here because it's the misplaced remnants of her anger at herself.

this is pretty much the last nail in the coffin for kon and mae's relationship. as long as mae is the more dominant personality in the linda-mae fusion (i.e. the first 50 issues of supergirl vol 4), she and kon don't really interact much anymore, and when they do it's without the warmth their relationship used to have (the "skyhog!" moment, hilarious as it is, comes to mind). HOWEVER, once mae and linda separate, and linda becomes supergirl, she has other opinions on it:

young justice (1998) #38

kon and linda have a much better relationship than kon and mae - this is the first time kon talks to her since her split from mae, and from there on, their interactions are pretty warm! linda gives him advice on how to patch up his friendship with robin after their fight on apokolips, and takes some inspiration from their conversation to patch up her bond with buzz, too. i won't get too far into linda & kon since that's not what you asked about and this is already a long post, but i do love them dearly 🥺

tl;dr my thoughts on kon and mae are mostly like, i think she saw herself in him in a lot of ways (the naivety, for one), but she didn't always like what she saw, and that put some significant strain on their relationship. there was love to be lost between them, like, in sb94 #28 kon even mentions they were just working together and helping free superman from false accusations, and mae is trying to reach him; she just doesn't go about it in the best way and it blows up in both of their faces, and her run establishes that she's got a proud streak and doesn't really like apologizing. so it's.... complicated! oof.