#FSSW

[richarlotte]

More sugaring advice?

If you’re experienced, have a polished image, offer a high-class experience, and know how to present yourself, then I’d recommend requesting a donation of no less than $900. Once I really learned what I was doing, locked down my social media and focused on providing a relationship that was totally private, and made an effort to meet with men I normally wouldn’t pursue, I was able to raise my minimum to $2000 (adjusted for cost of living) and keep it very high. No woman should be settling for a PPM that’s less than $600; that’s ridiculous and a total ripoff. Do not waste your time with time wasters, hobbyists, or freaks.

 

Vetting is important, but that doesn’t mean digging into people’s personal lives. It’s obviously really important to make sure that you’re keeping yourself safe, but high-profile clients aren’t going to want you to dig through every aspect of their lives. Discretion is key, and if you do find something unsavoury about someone, cut that person off and add him to the blacklist. NDAs and confidentiality agreements aren’t as popular as you’d think, but when they do happen, be sure that you’re not setting yourself up to get taken advantage of in the long run.

 

If you want to prove a truly high-class experience, you need to be willing to do a lot to conform to the image you’re expected to conform to, and you have to be careful with how you act, how you speak, and what you do. If you are in situations with alcohol, make sure you can handle yourself and make sure that you don’t get sloppy drunk. Know the dress code before you go and adhere to it, keep the conversations flowing naturally, and don’t force connections that aren’t going to work. If you’re meeting businessmen, then you have to be business minded, if you’re meeting lawyers, then you have to know the law, and you have to be able to adapt and work with the situations that you find yourself in.

 

There is not one image that men are looking for when it comes to black women. I see so many posts that push the bougie stereotype, but that’s not the only image that’s desired. I have met so many men and succeeded when I’m myself; men absolutely love being around someone who’s bubbly, positive, and able to handle herself. You have to figure out what you want to do but understand that you can’t constantly be updating and rebranding. If you’re young now and plan on being in the game for a number of years, start out with an image that you can work with and that will age naturally. Whatever you do must seem graceful, not forced. Being black means you have to work with the gifts you have been given.

 

Never bring work too close to home. These men should not know your full name or home address; they shouldn’t know how to find you when they want to, they shouldn’t have access to your real social media accounts, and you should be very concerned about your privacy. Do not let men you don’t know pick you up and take you to a second location, don’t let men come near your apartment building or office, consider working in the nearest major city to you instead of staying in your city, and always carry protection on you. Every woman should read The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker and research the number of women and sex workers who are attacked yearly before they don’t take their own safety seriously.

[reincarnatedonthefirst]

I’m miserable. I have gas trapped in my bowels and it’s making me uncomfortable and I have a 10PM outcall that I need to get ready for. 😑 💨

[beauteaful]

I miss the 2019 era. All the blogs are inactive now... Any that are still active, even if you only reblog, please like this post so I can follow<3

[sugarbabenicki]

Tip:

The lingerie under a trench coat move works. Get your rent paid.

[refinementofacourtesan]

If we distill it to the very basics, this is about whether or not people can, and want to, spend time with you. It's important here to practice being contained, you don't want your whole life to spill into the session because this isn't about you. This is also the place to operate from a good, high vibration because if you are upset, anxious, depressed, that energy will feed into the session. So, get your affairs in order, or at least don't bring that into the session.

from Pro Domme by Aleta Cai

While this is from a professional domme, this can be applied to any and all of the SW professions.

[valentinoswhore]

TWO DIFFERENT guys have just offered me coke?

Look, I know that this is popular in this kinda career. I'm just flabbergasted 😂 Not even a day into it, and I'm already receiving "party" invites

[gooddaylovv]

could you talk more about how you made 200k? That’s mad impressive

I am a full-time fssw in a big city charging mid-range rates with hustler mentality. It's not how much profit I make after all my expenses. I'm not a "high end" hoe with multiple whales or anything like that.

I live quite modestly actually :)

[unfriendlyblackthottyy]

6 clients in 30 hours

[lafemmecleopatra]

Learn to be manipulative

Find your target client. For me it’s

• Likable/nice or interesting + respectful(it’s important that I tolerate or like him as much as possible)

• Big wallet. Capable of dinner dates min, overnights, trips

You cultivate that relationship.

It’s emotional labour, but it can be good (it has been for me).

You create the conversation, you show yourself as a trophy, you show yourself vulnerable so it feels authentic, you play the eternal game of ‘seduction’ that women had to learn and have been playing since forever to survive the patriarchy.

You cultivate that relationship

And then you harvest the fruits of that labour

[richarlotte]

This is an essential read and will help keep you safe.

[reincarnatedonthefirst]

What do you wish you would have known before becoming an escort?

How to brand myself as a high end girl next door escort as a black woman?

I recently watched an interview with Nicole knight a very popular escort (I don’t know any popular black escorts)and she has an upwards of 44k followers

Also since I’ve seen this conversation on tiktok as the rise of 304 content has risen again😒 a woman had stated that it is better to date up vanilla and raise your standards so you don’t end up like a girl named “vixenstarr” (check more of her content out) on tiktok who did a 600 overnight which included bare and she stated that if they pay more she is willing to do bare. Rn is she moving around with a “truck” who takes her to her other dates and helps her move etc etc. what are your thoughts on this?

Before becoming an escort, I wish I would have known how to screen clients better. I probably missed out on some opportunities because I was scared that every person who called was out to harm me. There are actually a lot of decent guys out there who just want to hire a girl.

I honestly don’t know what the “girl next door look” entails. But I’ve seen a guy describe it as a girl who seems “accessible”.

Maybe in your photoshoot, you can wear an oversized tee with no pants while sitting in a comfy armchair. Maybe a shot of you wearing a youthful sundress and flat sandals, sitting in the park. Professionally-shot photos will take care of the “high end” part.

I try not to follow too many white women like N. Knight because they are the most sought after ethnicity and I have to market myself differently as a woman of color. Hop on Twitter and you’ll find the cream of the crop when it comes to black escorts.

I think some ladies in the “304” sphere accept low-ball offers because they haven’t learned their worth yet or they’re mainly in survival mode so they have to take what they can get. However, most civilians don’t make $600 in a single day. I think the reason most people might judge the girl for accepting $600 for an overnight is because escorting is largely regarded as a more “glamorous” and high-paying job so, $600 is a small amount compared to what you could actually be earning.

Going bare for only $600 during an overnight is also some more survival mode shit. It’s not necessary or worth the risk but, again: survival.

But there are a lot of girls - including ones who market as “high end” - who offer bare…

I remember seeing a high end sex worker say that, past a certain (high) rate, offering bare to clients is basically a given. And I didn’t see one person argue with her so she must have been stating facts. I can’t remember where I read that but it stuck with me…

The only thing I don’t agree with about “304tok” is that girls are publicizing tools and resources which help keep sex workers safe. This is why I personally wish that TikTok hadn’t made sex work so main stream.

[sweetewa]

I’ve been doing high end escorting for a little bit over a year now and it hit me like a fucking truck last week when I was going to see a John that this man could just fucking murder me.

It turns out he was some pathetic, depressed, boundary pushing, emotionally manipulative alcoholic. And all I could think was I really would like to stab that man. Like he needs to go. And it made me reflect that not all men are physically abusive of course but emotional manipulation and abuse is like second nature to most of them. This pathetic man tried to use some sob story of a disabled foster child to get me to do things I didnt want to do. Isn’t that crazy?

And after that night I had horribly anxious dreams. Dreams that these men were trying to kill me. It’s always been on my mind that these men could kill me but like it hit me in such a devastating way …in the ways they simply don’t see me as a human and thus i am disposable to them.

I could never imagine trauma dumping on a man or a woman to try and emotionally manipulate them so they would be more inclined to give in to my desires because they pitied me. It’s pathetic. And yes I’m not a fat, ugly, old man but this behaviour is amongst the young and fit men too.

But I also don’t have such a rotted brain that I simply don’t see women as not human and simply tools for my sexual pleasure. I don’t seem them as blank dolls, only existing to appease my sexual desires.

[sugarbabenicki]

Tiktok keeps doing this thing where it’s pushing sex work without calling it sex work because that’s for whores.

You are not going to a gala in your 20’s to push your LLC you are going there to push some pussy on a rich man because that’s what FREESTYLING is.

[conveniencestorewoman]

hello ! i never really talk on here. but i am conveniencestorewoman. csw if you will.

my name is Frances, i'm 20. i've been running this blog since i was 16. now there's 3 thousand and something of you. that is insane to me. in terms of internet success, three thousand isn't a lot. but to me it is.

my ask box is always open. if we are mutuals, please reach out. you're all my little besties. stuck in my little television set. ill get you all out i promise.

anyways, i want to share my writing with you all.

since turning 18, i have worked in the sex industry, in every possible way. i have been on both sides of the desk; receptionist, full service worker, dancer, camgirl, escort. i have done and seen it all.

this piece is about that. please let me know what you think.

[valentinoswhore]

I FINALLY did the photo shoot! Normally I hate taking pics of myself, but when it's heaux pics? LOVE IT ✨

[gooddaylovv]

Do you advertise on Twitter/ do you think it’s necessary to?

I think it helps to verify you are a real person and since it's a free platform there is no harm in utilizing it. Follower count does not equate to bookings because most girls who are legitimately busy probably aren't spending much time on Twitter.

I do get clients who do DECIDE to book me because they like my tweets and my personality on it. But I don't consider Twitter to be an ad site for new clients. Guys on Twitter are already clients, they are just addicted to Twitter and that's how they decide on which girls they want to book.