#fssw only

[sweetewa]

I’ve been doing high end escorting for a little bit over a year now and it hit me like a fucking truck last week when I was going to see a John that this man could just fucking murder me.

It turns out he was some pathetic, depressed, boundary pushing, emotionally manipulative alcoholic. And all I could think was I really would like to stab that man. Like he needs to go. And it made me reflect that not all men are physically abusive of course but emotional manipulation and abuse is like second nature to most of them. This pathetic man tried to use some sob story of a disabled foster child to get me to do things I didnt want to do. Isn’t that crazy?

And after that night I had horribly anxious dreams. Dreams that these men were trying to kill me. It’s always been on my mind that these men could kill me but like it hit me in such a devastating way …in the ways they simply don’t see me as a human and thus i am disposable to them.

I could never imagine trauma dumping on a man or a woman to try and emotionally manipulate them so they would be more inclined to give in to my desires because they pitied me. It’s pathetic. And yes I’m not a fat, ugly, old man but this behaviour is amongst the young and fit men too.

But I also don’t have such a rotted brain that I simply don’t see women as not human and simply tools for my sexual pleasure. I don’t seem them as blank dolls, only existing to appease my sexual desires.

[refinementofacourtesan]

Black Friday Lingerie Sales:

If you are making the transition into high end s*xwork now is one of the best times of the year to buy lingerie and begin building your wardrobe. Summer sales, anniversary sales, sample sales and Black Friday/after Christmas sales was when I would buy almost all of my lingerie when I was first starting out.

Most of these sites/designers are a bit on the pricey side (which is another reason to buy when it's on sale) but I put a few mid and lower cost options/brands in here as well because not everyone has Agent Provocateur money.

Agent Provocateur - 30% off site wide (use code AP30) this may not seem like much but if you purchase from their outlet (pieces that are already discounted) it will add up nicely (doing it this way and you can literally buy a set for less than $100).

Bluebella - up to 50% off site wide definitely check out their "outlet" section as well

Bloomingdales - 25% off selected items

Curvy Kate - up to 50% off site wide - great store if you are plus size

Dita Von Teese - 20% off and though that may not be much, her sales page is definitely worth checking out

Fleur du Mal - an EXTRA 30% off of sale items with code 30FLEURYOU

For Love and Lemons (on their site, not VS) - 30% off everything, use code CYBERWEEK (if you're into very feminine, pink, "girly" lingerie, definitely check out their sales page)

Harlow and Fox - 30% off all in stock items (they don't have a large collection of in stock items because their lingerie is usually made to order but I wanted to mention them because their bras go all the way to G cup)

Journelle - 20% off everything which includes their sales page

Moxy Intimates - $10 off $50, $25 off $100, $45 off 150 + free US shipping

Net-A-Porter - up to 50% off select styles

Playful Promises - up to 85% off of everything

Revolve - up to 70% off

Saks Fifth Avenue - up to 80% off of select styles

Studio Pia is having a sale as well (the discount depends on the collection).

The Outnet - an additional 25% off of everything with code BLACKFRIDAY

And my absolute favorite: HONEY BIRDETTE IS 50% OFF select styles (just stop reading and go right now)

Honorable Mentions:

Ann Summers - up to 50% off everything

Yandy - up to 80% off sitewide

I know Ann Summers and Yandy are not considered high end, however, I'm mentioning them because if you need photos, doing online s*xwork or need additional pieces to create content to post on your social media, these 2 sites can really come in handy. However, if you are really slim and/or have a small chest be very careful if you order from Yandy, a lot of their sets have a tendency to run slightly on the bigger side (even their size small) and a lot of their pieces are actually sized S/M and M/L not S, M, L, etc. They do have some XS pieces that will fit A cups fine. But if you are plus size, they have a substantial collection of plus size lingerie.

I'm not mentioning SHEIN because although they are also doing a Black Friday sale, their shit is always cheap lol.

[gooddaylovv]

June 2024

I felt it was pretty slow this month, but just hit 40k. But with all the expenses I have I don't even have half saved this month. I cancelled all my appointments yesterday and today because I really needed a mental health day to just lounge around. I have 3 months left to work/save before my surgery and I won't be able to work for maybe 2 or 3 months.

[eaudeheaux]

no bcs my day job is acting up and i'm this 🤏 far from quitting. bad thing is it justifies heaux income

[lafemmecleopatra]

Starting to do well in FSSW

This year was very hard, between mild doxxing and being rejected at a border, losing clients…

On a personal level, things were shit. I got a lot of bad stuff happening to me, a drugged man attacking me (out of sw btw), a bumble date abused me, oh god life has been so hard and awful. The world doesn’t understand the violence we face as women, not even in sw, just by existing

But things are good now. Im getting paid. €€€€. Im starting to get dates, overnights, regulars. I AM THRIVING ✨

SW in Europe is hard but I’m making it. (Or surviving lol). Fuck. Happy.

[beauteaful]

I miss the 2019 era. All the blogs are inactive now... Any that are still active, even if you only reblog, please like this post so I can follow<3

[drywalldust]

Speaking of my last post, I'm no longer a sex worker due to my relationship but I will never stop advocating for, loving and caring for sex workers.

[sweetewa]

I let myself be swayed by the sentiment that sex appeal is power and using beauty to get money from rich men is some powerful activity and I would read about these incredibly wealthy prostitutes in history and hear the stories of women with millions of pounds of real estate in their name …and so those 5 star hotel rooms, letting a man I do not desire touch me because he gave me wads of cash is I made myself believe it’s… well something that it’s not … power is what these men have, being able to do absolutely anything and get away with it…

I may be richer, I may be able to turn away some tricks, but I’m being suffocated by the yearning to fucking kill these men. This doesn’t feel like power. I want to hurt them so bad but I smile in their face and charm these pathetic wastes of space.

[gooddaylovv]

Love that it's Summer, business is picking up and I'm seeing more of my regulars. I'm gonna try to make a goal of $1K/day, it's a huge stretch but I'm hopeful haha. That or delusional. I hope you heauxs are safe, happy, and busy!

[lafemmecleopatra]

no one:

my clients after spending a night with me:

[trans-axolotl]

actually there are so many things that come up for just like, general intersex sex ed and also intersex sex work specific stuff that me and my friends have talked about that we just can't find public, easily accessible info about ANYWHERE.

like info about contraception options, like the fact that if you have two uteruses you actually would need two IUDs if that's your method of choice. or like. how hormonal birth control methods interact with intersex variations in different ways based on our existing hormonal profiles. or like. so many of the other intersex sex workers i know we needed info about how to Deal with pain from penetration bc every time we had penetrative sex it hurt so fucking much and we needed to figure out a way to make that sustainable. cause only some of us are masochists lmfao. or tips on how to have penetrative sex and diff positions and ways to use your hand as like. a bumper so that your partner's penis doesn't go all the way in and how to sort of maneuver that without your client necessarily seeing. or the fact that they make toys for that now. or like sex ed for okay, what barrier methods do you have when you have a micropenis/clitoromegaly, what do you do if condoms are too large. how do you use an internal condom if you don't have a cervix.

and also like. i've talked a lot with intersex sw friends about how many of us have to purposefully market ourselves as a hermaphrodite and how much that fucks with our head. and like, trying to figure out how and when we disclose to our clients--do we hope that they just don't notice or that we just stick to oral or like. do we tell them upfront? which is the lowest risk of violence? me and so many of my intersex sw friends have gotten hurt really fucking bad by clients who got upset that we were intersex and it's just. like. there's just so much shit and unless we find each other it's really fucking hard to figure a lot of this shit out, especially for fssw. especially for younger sw.

i just want there to be more resources and for it to be easier for intersex sw to find each other and support each other because like, even as much as my trans sw friends have been the people who have come closest to Getting it. there's still a lot of shit that is so intersex specific that i just really want to talk to other intersex people about. and i'm so glad i do have intersex sw friends now but it's like. i didn't have any of that community or knowledge when i Really most needed it

[queencolondarkwing]

AngelicaASMR’s current change

This post only about any info posted as of 7/25/2023 (will update in future if needed).

Ok so I’ve been following the Angelica Asmr shit pretty closely (don’t expect me to comment on gwen gwiz too because that girl is a grifter from the start). And as a mental health worker it REALLY freaks me out for her. I worked in a rehab for awhile. For people quitting drugs, but many of them also had bipolar, ptsd, schizophrenia, and similar diagnosises (some people also had the behavior due to being in crisis as well due to loss, recent homelessness, police brutality, etc.). So I know what psychotic breaks look like. I won’t armchair diagnose anything specific because I am not her medical provider, but while I can’t say she has anything for certain - she has a history of manic episodes in the past.

As someone with ADHD, a history of sexual and religious trauma, and c-ptsd like Angelica, I can honestly see how she fell into this. As someone who is also anti-capitalist, I can see why she thinks finding community would be beneficial (not sure why she would choose the Catholic Church instead of something from less individualistic, Eastern philosophy doesn’t make sense to me personally though...) to finding growth in an online era of isolation following a personal loss in her life. It seems weird how she went from talking about her Jehovahs Witness trauma from her youth...to going full on Orthodox, but I’ll get into details on why mentally this is actually super common in a minute.

I can also see how she would become a SWERF after having done OF, since as a former sex worker myself (camming, porn, fssw) who quit doing it after being raped - I can safely say that I myself am neither pro or anti sex work. I’m pro-decriminalization to keep workers safe, but also do feel a bit sick sometimes that MOST fssw on the streets are marginalized people. It is a complicated issue with nuance that non-sex workers have no business taking a side on. However, she is very hateful recently and anti-sex in general. Which is an issue.

She originally joined OnlyFans during a manic episode. So she HAS a history of mental illness and making major life decisions during mania. 

She went from pro-lgbtq to anti-lgbtq. Deleted her old progressive videos. Claimed to be a victim of MKUltra. Started making up delusions around the Catholic Church being anti-capitalist (Catholics individually can 100% be leftists, but the Church itself is VERY Capitalist). She posted homophobic and transphobic tiktoks where she would yell practically incoherently. Lots of staring. Inability to talk without looking away and laughing (she is normally a skilled actress).  Posting WAY more frequently than ever(she reposted 3 deleted videos last night and deleted them by this morning). She posted a video and lots of shorts and is way more active on Instagram. 

 The worst breakdowns I saw working rehab mostly always cycled through 4 topics: fame/self importance, inconsistent political and religious rambling, and sex. Always. Angelica has shown inconsistent spiritual beliefs (she has been mixing up Catholic, Orthodox, politics, and other religions). She has been focusing on sex in the context of trauma and posted a short of her in a bathtub on youtube again. She has been posting and immediately deleting content that has even positive comments on it.

Some medical signs of possible mania and/or psychosis that she is exhibiting:

Paranoia, trouble talking in a clear way/rambling, withdrawing socially (posting more often/online more but also alienating from her former fans), Confused speech, trailing off/lack of focus in videos, Generally disorganized way of thinking, no sign of restraint in expressing self, racing speech, goal-directed activity (seems to have a new anti-sex work goal), distractable/trails off topic, random giggling at nothing at camera like it is a person she is conversing with...etc. Tbh the amount of red flags I’ve seen are alarming.

I hope she gets support and help. And it is one reason I can’t blame her as hard as I would most, because she seems clearly unwell.  It isn’t an excuse. At all. And I don’t blame people for not supporting her going forward, but I plan to keep an eye on the situation for now and am hoping that somehow she can pull out of this shit, because I’ve seen this shit happen to a LOT of people with hard lives. Hell, I’ve even lashed out in smaller degrees and been delusional during my own ptsd breakdowns too, but when people are as far gone as Angelica is...I don’t usually see them come back again to the same state they were in previously. I’m hoping for the best, as a former fan and as a social worker, but Idk.

[whorejolras]

maybe i am here

jess | 28 | they/them

previously @faevibing

disabled, stoner, autistic

bi non-binary fagdyke soz if you like me ur a little gay ✨

fssw + writer + tarot reader

here 4 les mis & the arcana & to be horny on main

currently writing too many unpublished smutty e/R fanfics (also a fair few e/R/c, eposette, and j/b/m fics)

co-organiser of JBM week 2024 with @combeferres-mothematics over on @jbm-week

oh i'm also the person who's always yelling about fantine and sex work portrayals in les mis and analysis of les mis. hi 👋🏻

oh also i run "les mis if fantine had a gun (18+) the adults only les mis discord server for fans, artists and writers to chat les mis, co-work and share ideas and encourage each other. dm me for a link since they expire after a week 💕

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edit: seen smth about fagdyke being used by transphobes i'm very much not using it like that but like in the i'm trans and non-binary and no matter who i'm with i'm gay and that's a beautiful word to me that sums it up for me way 🙏🏻 i was very much not online enough to know that when i started using the word

[ladyimaginarium]

Sex Worker Pride!

Sex workers were essential to the foundation of Pride as we know it today. Brenda Howard, Mother of Pride was a kinky polyamorous bisexual Jewish sw, and Marsha P Johnson and Sylvia Rivera were also sws of color. We would not have our rights without them and we must acknowledge our history. The red umbrella represents the sex workers rights movement and protection, & we& always make sure to add SWOC into the equation hence the Black, Brown & Tan circles, especially Black and/or Indigenous & Native SW, who're statistically speaking the most likely to be affected by whorephobic stigma, which is why we& added variants with the sacred Medicine Wheel which is very common in many Indigenous circles as a way of healing, the second centering the symbols of First Nations, Métis & Inuit, an Idle No More symbol of a Native fist with a feather that acknowledges Indigenous Sovereignty and represents healing and medicine, a Black Power Fist that must only be used by Black folx, and a Black Power Fist and a feather that represents Two Spirits, which must only be used by Afro-Indigenous folx, and the red butterfly which represents Asians, Pasifika and migrants. The several red stripes represent sexuality, sensuality & desire; to honor those who died to whorephobic violence & STIs as well as homophobia, transphobia & overall queerphobia & honoring the missing relatives who didn't come back home; sws of all genders, orientations, ethnicities & backgrounds whether they're courtesans, sugar babies, escorts, FSSW, cam models, exotic dancers, actors, s.exual s.urrogates, whether or not they've been in the industry for years, are just starting or plan on going into it but can't for whatever reason, regardless of the reason why they started, etc., & hope for a better future.

Flags created by The Imaginarians Galaxy!

Disclaimer: Do not fucking remove credit from us& being the creators of these flags, you may add these to a wiki if you choose to as long as you consult us& first, do not add without our& consent. These were looked over by an anonymous friend of ours& who's a former sw and gave the green light. Do not repost or tag these flags as your own and please give credit if you plan on using these flags, if you want to make edits of these flags, please ask, but please no recolors. These are okay to use for "[insert character] is a s.ex w.orker!" edits & the like. SWERFs and minors are forbidden to use these flags. Civilians may reblog these for sw friends but do not use it for yourselves if you are not a sw or at least haven't considered going into it, please only use these flags if you are/were a sw yourself or at least have considered going into it, or are headcanoning a character to be. Please no discourse interactions on this post.

Tagging @radiomogai for visibility!

[gooddaylovv]

April '23

Had a pretty good month, made about $26k but had a bit of expenses this month. Also I'm really trying to balance my personal and work life, but honestly maybe I should just forget about my personal life because nothing is happening lol. Hoping next month will be decent but you never know. I had a good number of attractive clients so I'm quite happy.

[reincarnatedonthefirst]

I think it’s going to be easier for me to get clients from my FBSM ad now that clients are leaving reviews. I got my first review a few days ago and I think it helped bring in more serious clients. I also got the client from earlier today to leave a review (although, I just read it and it sounds too stiff and sophisticated for the education level of the average client that uses the platform. I hope the ad platform won’t think it’s a fake review).

I’ve learned that you actually have to ask clients to leave reviews. Otherwise, they won’t do it.

I’m really excited with the way things are going with my FBSM persona. I’m attracting decent clients since my rates are higher. I actually raised the rate of one of my services to make it less accessible to trashy clients.

I think I might not renew my ads for my FSSW mid-range persona. Instead, I should use that money on my FBSM ad. Maybe I’ll renew the ad in the future.

I’m also thinking of doing a shoot for my FBSM ad. It can only help if I have more professional photos on my ad. I’m just confused about how to shoot as a massage provider.