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I had a day off yesterday.
And I can already practically hear the assumptions that such a statement is prompting the reader to make. Those assumptions are wrong. I don't mean I didn't work. I did, for about 8 hours. That's not at all what I mean.
I mean my wife took the kids out at 9:30, spent the night with her mom, isn't back yet the next morning.
There are things I NEED people on this website to understand about parenting. And I've talked about it before, and I'll talk about it again, because honestly the way that Tumblr as a cohort talks about parents makes me sick. Multiple polls have shown that only about 2% of people on here are parents. We're a huge minority, and we're constantly talked over, ignored, or accused of being bad parents (like, personally, I have had people reply to my comments or come on to my posts and tell me I shouldn't have my kids). In my case, being a parent means I'm almost 41, I'm married to @ramblingandpie, and our children are inching up on being 8 and 6 years old.
My entire day, and therefore my entire life, revolves around them. I'm up most mornings at 5 AM, because that's the earliest they're "allowed" to wake up, and so my brain just defaults to being awake around then - better to wake up before them, at least then I get a few minutes in the morning. Between 5 and 7, I sit with them, do my social media, work on side blogs, study Chinese. Then it's helping them get ready for school, then my wife or I or both get them on the bus, and then I work until the last possible minute, which is either when I need to go pick them up for an after school activity or when I need to go down and meet them off the bus. My afternoons are after school activities, chores such as washing the dishes and cleaning up toys, talking with them, working with them, playing with them. Their bedtime starts at 7:40, and my son gets scared if I leave before he falls asleep so I sit with him until about 8:15. As soon as he's asleep, I go fall on my face, sleep as best I can, then wake up and do it again. Overnight, it's hard to sleep deeply, because about once a week someone will wake up in the middle of the night and need help. That could be as minimal as a hug or as complex as having to completely change the bedding on a bunk bed at 2 AM while also comforting a child who is afraid they'll be in trouble, or afraid they're sick, or afraid of their nightmare, or, or, or. Further, if a child is awake, there is always noise. I usually study Chinese with two or more competing sources of noise. I read the same way. My life is loud, and active, and consists of constant interruptions.
I adore my family, and I love my children, but this is terrible for me.
I do all of this as an neurodivergent introvert. My clinical depression is at least medicated, mostly because post-partum depression after I gave birth the first time nearly drove me to suicidal in under a week (we were expecting this and were prepared, fortunately, getting help was as simple as a phone call). The constant noise and interruptions and forced socialibility are about the worst combination of home-life I could be subjected to. I spend far too many early mornings just breathing deeply and gearing myself up to be subjected to the wall of Loud, Boisterous, Needing-My-Attention that is every minute when anyone else in the house is awake.
So what did my day off look like?
I helped get the kids ready to go and did some morning chores. I'd been up at 4:30 AM so I also had already social media'd and studied. Then, while my wife finished the preparations, I started work, and I worked from about 8 am to about 4 pm, straight. I didn't get hungry so didn't bother stopping for lunch. No one interrupted me, no one asked me to look at anything they'd built, no one broke my concentration, no sounds could be heard except those I'd chosen myself.
I'd been out the day before at a local shopping street and listened closely to the things the kids said they wanted, so at 4 I grabbed a couple orders I needed to ship for work and drove to our local downtown, dropped the orders in a post box, then went back to the shops and did some Christmas shopping in the 45 minutes or so before everything closed. I think I'm basically done with what we'll get them - other bigger things will be left to grand parents - so that's a load off, I literally had a stress dream earlier this week about it being 12/24 and having forgotten to do the shopping and having to go to (oh horrors) the mall on the day before Christmas. (Reminder: I'm a Jewish atheist. It's just virtually impossible not to Holiday in the Culturally Christian Hellscape that is the US. Also, my wife is Christian. So.) Found something cute for my wife, too, even tho I already know the main thing I'm getting her. Then, I realized - one of my favorite restaurants is on that block. So. I went there. I sat by myself at a table, only the indistinct restaurant hubbub around me. I read four or five chapters of my book, and ate a savory crepe, and drank lovely fruit tea, and got a scone to-go that I'll eat for lunch today. It was more than I probably should have spent on myself - about $25, including tip - but fuck it. I only get maybe a handful of days off all year, and I'm allowed to indulge a little.
Then I came home. There were no lights on. There was no noise. I had considered doing some more merch work while watching TV on the actual television (my kids are too young for subtitled shows, so usually if I want to watch My Shows I either have to do it on my computer when they're not around, or put them on and read all the subtitles aloud while trying to keep up and process the actual meaning of what I'm reading). But when I got back, the quiet and dark was so goddamn NICE that instead I curled up on the couch and read more of my book. I did that until bedtime - still about 8:15, because I'm exhausted. Then...I went to bed. And I slept long and deep, knowing that there was no chance I'd be interrupted and woken up, I didn't have to be, even in sleep, alert to every noise and possibility that I'd be needed.
I'm still exhausted and burned out, but even one night to myself felt really, really nice.
Saying "Tumblr does X" as a universal statement is doomed to failure, but generally speaking, the parenting posts I see on Tumblr, the ones with tens or hundreds of thousands of notes, speak what's apparently widely seen as a truism on here: that unless someone wants to spend 24/7 with their kids, to be 100% emotionally available at all times, is always kind and patient and perfect, they are a bad parent, maybe even abusive. I remember when covid started, there were multiple posts actively mocking the "oh god, my kids are now home all the time, how am I supposed to do this?" attitude that a lot of parents posted in despair. WhY dId YoU hAvE kIdS iF yOu DoN't WaNt To SpEnD tImE wItH tHeM?
Look at what my usual day looks like.
Look at what my day off looked like.
Do you really think I don't want to spend time with my kids? Do you really think I don't love my kids?
But I'm not a fucking MACHINE. I'm a PERSON. That's what people on Tumblr seem to forget. PARENTS ARE PEOPLE. The same tumblrinas who post ~uwu be kind to yourself rest if you need to, you should forgive yourself for that mistake you made~ will turn around, with zero sense of irony, and post "you're a bad parent if you ever raise your voice around a child."
Expecting parents to be perfect means expecting parents to be inhuman. It also means that a parent can't be poor (can't spend all your time being the perfect parent if you have to work multiple jobs or weird hours!), can't be introverted (can't be a perfect parent if you're not completely emotional available, god forbid socializing is exhausting for you), can't be on the ADHD or autism spectrum (what do you mean you forgot to get your kid to a doctor's appointment once? what do you mean over-stimulation can make you angry? how dare you get angry at a kid!), can't be depressed (gotta get out of bed every single day, gotta always be upbeat, patient, happy, or else that's Evil), can't be (like my wife) physically disabled (what do you mean your hands hurt too much to hold a child's hand? are you denying them touch?? CRUEL). And when the only answer you can offer to that is, "if you can't be that perfect you shouldn't be a parent," then you're saying people who aren't middle class to wealthy, people who aren't neurotypical, people who aren't physically able, shouldn't have children.
And honestly...what the fuck is your problem?
I'm not perfect. I tell my kids to just leave me alone sometimes. I raise my voice, especially when one of my kids starts punching the other, but also sometimes just cause I'm exhausted and Can't Anymore. I've forgotten an appointment by accident and felt like a total fucking idiot, and I've skipped an after school activity because I just wasn't up for taking them. I've served them more unbalanced, unhealthy meals than I can count. I've made many, many mistakes, but I've also done my best, and I love my kids, and I hope that when they grow up, they'll still love me even as they recognize that I wasn't perfect, just as I've come to accept my own parents' short-comings while still loving them very much. They're people, too, and the older I get, the more I understand where they were coming from.
When I fuck up, I apologize.
When they tell me they're unhappy with something I've done, I apologize, and I try to do better. Sometimes I even succeed.
This shit is hard, yo. And it's getting harder every year.
I'm BEGGING Tumblr: you need to start seeing parents as people. The way y'all talk about parenting on here is toxic, and genuinely harmful, and frankly exhausting. You have no idea what the reality of raising kids is like, and you need to shut the entire fuck up.
I had a day off yesterday.
I might get one more before the end of 2023.
I already can't wait. I am so, so, so tired. sigh
(if you actually read this whole rant and even a single word of it resonated for you, please reblog it. I'm tired of never seeing positive posts about parenting while I see negative ones with a bajillion notes.)
#unforth rambles#parenting#momblr#nothing prompted this#i just think about writing posts like this all the time#because the low-level background buzz of how much tumblr hates parents is a constant stressor tbh#and every once and a while i tip over the line end up Writing the Thing#and so here we are again#god i have so much to do today and instead i procrastinate with this#oops
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Bryza for @empireants147 🐀🐁🐀 Let me draw ur butch ocs plz
#i got tipped so she got a lil more love 👀#art#drawing#artists on tumblr#illustration#digital art#ocs#black and white#oc artist#art comms open#butch#butch dyke#buzz cut#rats#fallout#post apocalyptic#wastelander#mad max#ttrpg#trans artist#commission
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Btw, just recently rewatch toy story
Kindergarten teacher woody au anyone?
#toy story#woody pride#andy davis#bonnie anderson#btw can someone gimme tips on how to draw buzz istg#toy story 2#toy story 3#toy story 4
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Spilled Prosecco on myself at least three times whilst on the Boat this evening…not working on the boat…I was a passenger for funsies.
#I wasn’t—I wasn’t buzzed I was just!!!#being foolish and trying to take pictures while balancing Prosecco in my hand#and forgetting that if I tilt my phone up to take pics of the sails I am also tipping the Prosecco cup and then it is on my pants
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#onlyingotham does RR show up during the last five minutes of your shift to order the largest number of espresso shots you've ever heard somebody drink (23 in case you're wondering) and end up downing it all in one shot right there and then 😭
~ andie
#he said that his usual place was closed#i feel bad for the staff there#he tipped me $100#red robin#tim drake#batfamily#he entered looking half-dead and left buzzing like a hummingbird#onlyingotham#only in gotham#only in gotham rp#gothamite
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#a little art tip#draw hairline before draw their haircut#it actually helping (at least for me) and their forehead is not dissappear#like every human i drew go thru buzz cut with clear hairline
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Chat how do i make an absolutely horrendous ass hairstyle from feathers? It's for an oc
#c&ai au#I just want to keep the tradition of Keith's family having terrible haircuts#I am finally designing Kid and Ara#And yes I am looking up raptor fursonas for ideas#But also Shitty hairstyles for Kid#I don't want to give her bowlcut even I am not that cruel#Fringed buzz cut (with ponytail) and frosted tips have potential though#Also whatever the fuck Nami's mom was doing. Ngl she pulled it off well
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Learning to draw specifially so I can give Orihime dragonfly wings created from her Shun Shun Rikka
#Listen hoverboard santen kesshun is neato but. Dragonflies. Her brother loved dragonflies#1 fairy on her back to hold the 4 oval shields together that the other 4 are making as wings at the outer tips#When she's flying she leaves a thin gold trail like a dragonfly tail#She wears Tsubaki like a hairpiece that curves up look like antenna and can throw him like sailor moons tiara lmao#Bleach#orihime inoue#Look at my vision boy#buzz buzz
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Some Punk! Evie
#the left was for different hairstyles#the order would be buzzed then the red grows out to the pink tips cut to the blue bangs#on the left I like the pink tips drawing best#and then I like the smoking one best#I don’t like the bottom left on the second picture#disney descendants#descendants#disney descendants 2#descendants 2#descendants 3#disney descendants 3#evie grimhilde#punk! Evie#drawing#my drawing#art#my art
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The Four Comrades / The 4 Comrades
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Creator(s): Maurice Gutwirth
Alias(es): Buzz Brandon, Pudge O'Conner, Tip Addams, Tommy Tompkins
1st Issue w/Uniform: Startling Comics #22
Year/Month of Publication: 1943/07
#superheroes#comics#four comrades#4 comrades#buzz brandon#pudge o'conner#tip addams#tommy tompkins#classic#golden age#red trunks#red underwear
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lost the sunburn report post but today I burnt my goddamn scalp
#pro tip: if you get a number 2 buzz cut you probably want to put sunscreen on your head or better yet acquire a fucking cap#also have random splotches of red many other places even though I *did* apply sunscreen there#would probably be much much worse if I hadn't though. going by the head#I wonder if applying it over substantial sweat is compromising effectiveness? gotta keep a towel I think#m#dumbassery
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send help. it's supposed to be 91 degrees tomorrow. on my day off :(
#a sock speaks#work tag#food tag#it was high 80s today but I didn't even notice bc the air conditioner at restaurant job is punishingly high powered#I was wearing my long sleeved undershirt and leggings without any discomfort#but I have to run errands tomorrow and my car has no AC. the house also has no AC but is okayish at staying cool.#I wanted to make pizza today but didn't have time. might be too hot for pizza tomorrow :( but my ingredients are aging in the fridge#I finally got a paycheck but it's for the 2nd period I worked. I'm missing the first one and need to talk with the regional manager#and he's only in on Thursdays#also gotta request a day off to go to Portland with my cousin in 2 weeks#also gotta request off for orchestra which also starts in 2 weeks#also my aunt is trying to recruit me for a caregiving job and I'd have to take 3 weeks off to get trained#it'd be super easy to schedule both jobs once I'm trained but the training is a big time commitment#also restaurant job scheduled me for all graveyard shifts this week. if I can't adjust my sleep schedule I'll have to give a firm no on it#also gotta go to the bank to deposit my check and. uh. all of August's tips (terrifying)#also gotta call a vital records office in Maine about my mom's birth certificate bc we're trying to take her to Canada for her birthday#I don't think we have enough time but my sister wants to do it#also I want to finish knitting this sock that I started in June. I just have the toe left#also I finally confirmed the color and pattern for a baby blanket I'm preparing as a gift so I gotta get yarn#also I need to buy blackout curtains to fit my windows so I can sleep in the day if I work nights#also sometime this week my sister is cleaning the church. I want to go with her so I have an excuse to get ice cream from a shop nearby#also I need to clean my room and I should hang up the art prints & postcards I've been collecting for months#most of them are green to match my decor but some are just characters or scenes I like#oh! I also owe a postcard to a school friend#I had caffeine for the first time in several days and my brain is buzzing. there's so much I want to do and I have time to do it#and I'm excited about it!
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i like my hair rn but also. the urge to chop it off
#forgive the awkward face censor lol#but i wanna cut like 3 or 4 inches off#get it to the base of my neck#i'm bored of it lol#kiwifae says shit#i'm tired of being able to tie it back /j#for some reason growing my hair out lately has felt very gnc even though it doesn't look like it#but i do want a new haircut for spring#before i shave it in the summer#i'm so excited lol#i adore the grown out buzz look :33#i'm gonna wait until i have like an inch and a half then bleach it (for the first time :00) and dye it bright red#then i'll keep growing it out so i have red tips heheh#vanities
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Mr. Rivers is beckoning you over to him
#the phrase “SAM I'M COMING” can totally have a double meaning here right? RIGHT?!?#I want those fingers to stuff me like a turkey on Thanksgiving#oooooooh the urge to run my palm over that buzz-cut faux-hawk from tip to base (i'm on fire with these double entendres today folks)#I love the way his face is not lit. just hidden by the shadows as he draws you closer to the dark side#Sam Rivers#Limp Bizkit#nu-metal#SAM. I. AM.#Sammy Boy#Bass Boss#Bass Master#Catch me simpin' for Samuel on Sam Rivers Sunday#down the rabbit hole
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thinking about growing my nails out!! My nails are really brittle bc I bite them and they tend to bend a lot when I grow them out
I know some people like the wonderful @wishitweresummer who do acrylics but the thing is taking them off/maintaining them is difficult
So I’m thinking maybe a dip manicure???? I’ve never tried it and I’m also worried ab howbit will look w short nails
Any tips? I have a lot of nail supplies and extension material already so anything is fair game
#I also just want to be able to feel ler with long nails heheeeeee#honey#buzz#hivemind#nail tips#nail growth
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🔥🪽👑 for the new years hockey asks? though if you don’t wanna do that many pick your favorite(s) of those :)
hello legend 🫡 i did 🪽 here and 👑 here and here (i fear i have none left in me at this time) but !
🔥 Give me an unpopular opinion on hockey. Preferably Hot Takes (not serious).
i feel like this counts as a hockey opinion bc i am thinking it abt hockey men.... but i actually have grown and changed as a person and i think (especially blond) men CAN and SHOULD shave their head.... sorry i do love tufts of hair under the helmet but if youre gonna have short hair u should buzz it so it looks nice and fluffy growing out!!!! sorry!!!!!!!!!
hockey-ish asks!
#im in support of whatever the fuck roope has going on#buzzed in the summer growing out in training camp and getting good length midway through the year? yeah! and with the bleached tips????#ask game
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