#But irl? I am insufferable.

[anti-dazai-blog]

hello! It's been a while but can I just say thank you?? 💗 jsjsjs ahahaha idk if you remember me but you gave me advice on sharing controversial opinions + when I made my first "analysis" post (if it can be called that), you were literally the first one to like to it. and that was like. seconds after i posted.

anyways just wanted to say thank you and also that you're an inspiration lol ✨

yuhhh I don't follow your main but I see you 👀 and ahaha you being so participative (if that's the right word?) or good at/enjoying debates encouraged me to do the same/be more outspoken in school and say things no one's brought up.

that's all, ya don't have to reply to this, i jus wanted to let you knoww

hello, it’s great to hear from you again!!

[disclaimer, I’m about to go on a rant about general social communication, so I gotta preface all this with When I say “opinion” I mean harmless personal or media-related opinion. Not political stuff.]

Listen. Ok. Listen to me for a quick second. I’m a communications major so I gotta infodump on you real quick.

In communication studies, there’s a concept called the “spiral of silence” theory. It states that people will tend to withhold opinions that they consider “unpopular” out of fear of social ostracism. Because of this, the most popular opinions gain popularity, while unpopular opinions die out and disappear.

This doesn’t mean that there isn’t a sizable amount of people who hold the unpopular opinions, it just means that they aren’t discussed properly. Everyone enters conversations with these secret biases and thoughts, which contribute to their viewpoint.

It would be easier for everyone if people were able to mention their unpopular views right from the start, so we could all be on the same page and understand where people are coming from with their viewpoints. It shouldn’t be taboo to like something others hate, or to dislike something others love.

But there’s nothing to be done about it. It’s a social and psychological principal that most people tend to avoid social ostracism. Key word “most”.

The standard counter for the spiral of silence theory is that there will always be people who, for whatever reason, are immune to it. Either because in that given moment they consider it okay or safe to say what they’re thinking, or because they’re a public figure who trusts their fans will support them no matter what (think of celebrities talking about weird food combinations they enjoy, which an average middle school girl would be mocked and bullied if she were caught eating), or because they have nothing to lose.

In my case it’s the latter— it won’t have any effect on my life if tumblr thinks my opinions suck. I don’t know if I’d have the same confidence to go to an anime conversation and say “heyyyy ya know Dazai? From hit animanga bungo stray dogs? Yeahhhh he’s kinda a jerk isn’t he?” [also that wouldn’t be the time or place to have that conversation, but that’s besides the point]

But regardless. Ya gotta start somewhere. It’s a good skill to have, to be able to break the spiral of silence. It’s very difficult to start, but once you get going with it, it’ll definitely be a great skill to have for life.

I’m so incredibly proud of you for not only finding the courage to post whatever opinions you want (it’s difficult! It’s scary!), but for also being outspoken on your thoughts irl. You may not realize it yet, but chances are some of your classmates agree with your views and are finding both comfort and courage in you being able to articulate them openly.

AGAIN just gotta cover my bases This Isn’t About Politics.

Just to reiterate— hate speech gets you taken out back and shot. By me personally. Slurs and racist stuff gets your house burned down with you still inside it (also by me personally). So if anyone’s out there thinking of reblogging this for your weird racism agenda. Don’t.

[omnipotentfool]

"Harlan Ellison would hate this" "Harlan Ellison would hate you" okay and? this is internet at its finest? when you write something its bound to be interpreted differently and twisted and that's the glory of art. I hope Harlan Ellison is spinning in his grave. I hope hes doing hand springs. I hope hes getting gold on the parallel bars.

[metomomo]

TVXQ 20th anniversary comeback, big day for annoying people (me and also all Cassies)

[danzainosolitude]

Once again I read fanfiction that seems to have been precisely written to deal psychic damage to me.

[sofastuffing]

i have a headache

[allh3llbreaksloose]

taylor making spn trend again is what i needed from 2024. a good day for the mentally ill bisexuals!

[garoujo]

i’m sorry to all of my moots that i never interact with i just think you’re really funny and cool n im really weird and awkward and will overthink any word i will ever say to you so i will just live in ur notifs to avoid my own internal explosion.

[kenobihater]

the duality of man........ . ... .

[randomseacucumber]

Thank god it's finally October. I can start being even more of a freak than usual now.

[hellonerf]

its kind of fucked up that i get lightheaded over being rly into some characters. its kind of fucked up when my brain takes over and im thinking about hetalia yaoi slamming heads into tables pulling them by the hair clawing at faces blunt force trauma etc etc. and then i get lightheaded.

[dragonji]

FINALLY home . unforch the fervor for expounding my thoughts on qyz has passed and left only exhaustion and a desire to play my viddy james in its place so will not be doing that tonight✌️ It Is on the list though and when I get around to it..... ohhh none of u are ready for the truths I shall speak.........

[astradyke]

I just read a phic called “the end of paralysis” (by dandrogynous on ao3) and I haven’t stopped crying 😭😭😭

DUDE I LOVE THE END OF PARALYSIS!!! i was totally surprised for it because i saw it and i was like... well, i know this author's writing style and am really fond of their other work (if you haven't read their other fics i recommend it!), but i have complicated thoughts about fics inspired off of war. but i set aside and compartmentalized that to give it a read and like, fuck it is so good. i think people underestimate how hard it can be to capture difficult, distressing emotions, and the piece does such a good job of articulating the experiences of the characters in a way that can be visualized. so many lines of dialogue are like, properly implanted into my brain, and i actually reread that fic extremely frequently.

it's not for everyone, for sure, it has a very specific kind of vibe to it by virtue of its AU nature, but the writing is genuinely excellent and i am deeply fond of it. if you haven't read it yet, the link is here.

[housewifebuck]

i am sooooo ready to compete with you on who’s more insufferable. i feel like i can take you easily

Oh you could take me huh. That’s kinda gay dude….

[swinging-stars-from-satellites]

I come as bidden to ask for angsty fic recs! :D (Especially if they end good though, I just watched a TV show from which I am a little physically ill of Bad Things Left Hanging) 💛

ohoho yes good you've come to the right place!!! angst with a happy ending is one of my favorite tropes ever tbh, especially including lots of hurt/comfort!!! without further ado~

protective dad Bruce

family-wide angst with a side of character study

Jason and Bruce have very different ideas of remembrance

very angsty Cass fic for the Cass mutual ft. hope and healing

Damian and Jason have met before

the passing down of warmth from fathers to sons not quite their own

pretty heavy Babs character study (this author is REALLY GOOD)

getting shot is a great way to end a family feud (and Tim is a little bit feral for a hot second)

baby Dickie and a field trip gone bad

Damian thinks he's going to die (he's wrong) and Tim won't let that happen

Tim and Bruce and healing

Steph and Bruce get yoinked back in time and they are not having fun

Bruce just needs to see his kid alive

Steph telling Bruce "I think I'm bad" will stick with me forever

a little bit vague and a lot bit sad but everything is okay at the end, for the whole family

Dick and Jason being brothers

this one made me ache a little bit and then healed the bruises (B and the kids and the finite nature of human life)

I feel like this has probably been recced to you already but OUGGHHHH the family feels from Dami's POV... it's so good

this one is actually pretty soft and has a really cool concept (and ten bucks says you can probably guess why the title caught my eye) with Tim and Bruce

Dick is hallucinating his kid and it just might break him

SAD SAD SAD ANGSTY HOWEVER read the endnotes bc everything's gonna be okay

I KNOW this one's already been recced to you but honestly it fundamentally changed something in me. in the back of my mind I'm always on some level thinking about it. I cannot adequately explain just how much this fic wrecked me and how important it is to me. I'm just gonna say again what I told @called-kept after she first sent it to me: for middle children in the Wayne clan, sometimes dying (and coming back) is what it takes to realize how loved they are. (Kept actually pitched this to me with, essentially, "hey you like fics where the others are comforted in near-death experiences by the fact that Jason's already been through it, right?" though not in those exact words. and if i let myself I'm going to write a hecking epistle to you about this so I'm just gonna uh... stop talking now)

so ya know how I'm really emotional about Dick being a parent to Damian?

Jason is having panic attacks

Jim Gordon is SUCH a good dude.

Jason stress cooks/bakes

growing up is hard when you're a bird-themed vigilante

I don't usually go for soulmate AUs but this is a REALLY GOOD platonic soulmate AU (it made me cry)

ANOTHER fic that's made me cry and also the one that made me realize how deeply bittersweet I feel about Dick Grayson

Timberly dealing with being immunocompromised (a word which my phone apparently does not like smh)

brothers grieving together — sad but has a happy ending!!!!!

INCREDIBLY long oneshot (with a sequel that I also greatly recommend!!) with a lot of angst but!!! it does not stay there!!! as is a theme in this list there's also healing!!!! (Tim needs help to feel again. that's ok bc he has brothers.)

dare I say it THE Batfam angst (presumably with a happy ending) fic? I'm slowly making my way through it and AAAAGHJHHH it's SO GOOD the characterizations and relationships and struggles and fears and never giving up... so so good

basically anything by @envysparkler but I have like 90% of her fics bookmarked and this list is already super long so I'm just going to gesture wildly and excitedly toward Envy's AO3 and leave it at that

and last but not least one of the first Batfam fics I read and really really loved. a bird gets a bird of his own and Damian gets a new understanding and deeper relationship with his next-oldest brother

[padfootastic]

ok not to sound like a terrible human but. why are the tumblr AITAs so damned boring. literally can be summed up as either social anxiety or ignorance. just. where is the spice. the excitement. the nasty. why are people so damned earnest. am i just ruined by reddit n twitter or?

[bueris]

who who wants to who wants to come over and half lay on me until I fall asleep