#Bisexual erasure

[emeldiir]

Thinking about how during the AIDs crisis, both bisexual men and women were demonized and villified under the wildly popular and incredibly fucking abhorrent idea that they were all AIDs carriers, spreading the disease wonton throughout different communities.

it makes me so fucking angry the way they were so horrifically stereotyped and how easily those stereotypes slip even further down the timeline into today.

I have read so fucking many accounts of bisexuals being harassed and verbally abused by literally *everyone else* around them during that crisis and our struggles and trauma are still under recognized and underrepresented.

the stereotypes of bisexuals being greedy sluts, promiscuous freaks who do nothing but suck cock and benefit from ‘straight privilege’ are direct consequences of those same ideas that sprung up during the AIDs crisis.

bisexual women were slut shamed and outcasted from the lesbian community for ‘spreading AIDs’ whilst being violently abused by the cishet community, and bisexual men were demonized for ‘spreading AIDs’ to cishet women, whilst being completely erased by gay men.

and what makes my blood fucking boil is the fact that these exact same stereotypes and beliefs about us still exist today bc no one gives a fucking damn about trying to offer us a crumb of support or understanding!!

we are still experiencing the same abuse we’ve experienced for decades and we are met with blank faces and low funding and disbelief, while both the queer and cishet communities erase our every contribution to greater queer progress as a whole.

I don’t think i’ll ever be able to stop mourning what bisexual erasure has taken from the bisexual community.

[witsserviceablesubstitute]

The way the actors' and showrunner's faces fell and froze when the interviewer called Edwin and Charles a gay/straight friendship continues to bolster my trust.

But also, that was just an accurate bisexual experience.

[scrambleseggy]

I don’t think people realize that erasure within certain groups in queer communities directly affects peoples perceptions of the violence and abuse those people can face and why. Hypervisibility and invisibility are both two sides of the same coin. Neither is better or worse than the other, because while hypervisibility can glorify the violence a group faces and grossly sexualizes it, invisibility aims to turn the camera away from another group so that they don’t get any ideas that people like them exist in the first place — let alone face harm for their presentation and identity.

Erasure isn’t just “feeling invisible” — it’s also the general media and population purposefully trying to undermine issues certain groups can face and ignore them so those groups feel like they have no outlets or support — whether it’s from society or their own communities. It’s often because they want to avoid the idea of the very existence of those groups as well.

I don’t really think people know what erasure truly is. And I think when people try to act like “it’s not that bad” they don’t even realize how that does more harm than good and feeds right into it.

[drchucktingle]

who is sweet barbara????

chucks wife

wildest thing about sweet barbara is that i have talked about her ON AND ON AND ON since my first online post all the way up until this very day (nearly a decade) but nobody seems to notice her because i am queer (she even appears in tinglers and is on the cover of EXPEDITION TO THE FROZEN LAKE)

it is almost as though when you are bisexual your hetero presenting partners become a ghost

in the early days all i would hear online when i would talk about her is: 'chuck is playing a character of a CONFUSED GAY MAN' instead of the VERY OBVIOUS OTHER CONCLUSION that bisexuals exist. imagine that

to be clear that is not at all what this kind asker is doing. this ask is wonderful thank you for your question YOU PROVE LOVE

JUST SAYING i have always found the larger reaction to sweet barbara very interesting and an amazing little social experiment in bisexual erasure

also reason i do not wear a ring is because 1 this tradition kind of makes me feel weird it is okay that others like it but there is a feeling about it that is personally not for me and 2 in a very LITERAL way i cannot wear any jewelry because of my autism i just cannot wear rings without getting riled up and having a dang breakdown

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[ladyorlandodream]

I am going to use this gif so much, you have no idea.

[bisexual-coala]

I'm so sick of people erasing Korrasami's bisexuality. The comments on this are so infuriating

[dopebreadthing]

Something some biphobes and homophobes in the Poolverine fandom don't seem to understand

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Bisexual Books

Bi: The Hidden Culture, History and Science of Bisexuality by Julia Shaw

Red, White and Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston

Perfect On Paper by Sophie Gonzales

Imogen, Obviously by Becky Albertalli

Greedy: Notes From A Bisexual Who Wants Too Much by Jen Winston

The Seven Husbands Of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid

Bi: Notes For A Bisexual Revolution by Shiri Eisner

Verona Comics by Jennifer Dugan

Hani and Ishu's Guide To Fake Dating by Adiba Jaigirdar

Bisexual Men Exist by Vaneet Mehta

Hugged by Verity Ritchie

This Is Why They Hate Us by Aaron H. Aceves

Heartstopper Vol. 1 by Alice Oseman

One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston

Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out by Various Authors

[hellomynameisbisexual]

Bisexual erasure is a pervasive issue that manifests in various ways across different areas of society. These examples highlight how bisexual erasure occurs across different areas of society, contributing to the invisibility and marginalization of bisexual individuals.

[tippenfunkaport]

"She-Ra is bad bisexual rep because all the bi/pan characters end up in m/f relationships!"

Not true! Perfuma is bi/pan and she ends up with Scorpia!

"Oh, well I like to headcanon Perfuma as a lesbian."

...so then you understand that's not the show's fault, right? That that's just a problem you made up in your head?

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Excuse me a second, I need to scream about this...

Because this has come up over and over (esp on Twitter and TikTok) with people who want to claim that every bi/pan SPOP character ends up in a m/f relationship... by conveniently pretending Perfuma is not canonically bi/pan herself. And every time they are asked to elaborate why they are ignoring her canon status, they give the same answer: that they consider Perfuma a lesbian because now that she's with a woman, she's "not bi anymore"

And... yeah... you know that's not how it works, right? That being bi/pan is not just a phase you get over? That a bi/pan woman dating another woman doesn't suddenly make her a lesbian any more than it makes a bi/pan person dating someone of the opposite gender magically straight?

The person you are currently dating does not change your bi/pan status. Ever. And insisting it does, especially just so you can score some points by making up an issue about a show to be mad about, is super GD harm harmful to the real bi/pan people in your life.

(This is the exact same thing The Owl House fandom does with Lumity and why Dana had to make Luz present a whole slideshow in the cartoon reminding everyone she is still very much bi even though Amity is a lesbian. TOH fans kept insisting because Luz is dating Amity now, she's a lesbian. Nope. Her and Amity can be married for a billion years and that wouldn't change Luz's orientation.)

"But I heard that someone's roommate's cousin who worked with someone on the show once liked a fanart that showed Scorfuma with the lesbian flag so it's basically canon!"

First of all, the legend of this grows daily and I think it's really telling that this archival obsessed fandom only talks about this mythical like and yet has never been able to produce a single screenshot of it.

But for the sake of argument, let's say that this really happened and actually exists, that someone related to the show, however distantly, liked fanart once that implied Perfuma was a lesbian somehow. That still doesn't make it canon. People related to the show and even ND himself have liked and reblogged all sorts of stuff that isn't canon, including g/a, and have been very clear that the only canon is what happens within the show itself.

And, in the show, Perfuma is canonically bi/pan. We see her crushing on Bow, She-Ra, Huntara and Scorpia. The fact that people want to pretend the Bow thing never happened when he's the only character we see her actually date over the run of the show AND it's a major Season 1 plot point is wild to me and just shows the lengths people will go for bi/pan erasure.

And I get that some people enjoy using Perfuma to tell a story about comphet or coming out as a lesbian later in life and I am fully in favor of doing your thing with your headcanons in fanworks. But when it reaches the point it has now where fans are attacking other fans for saying Perfuma is bi/pan or attacking the show for not having any bi/pan character in same sex relationships when Perfuma is CANONICALLY bi/pan is ridiculous. 

Keep in mind that your headcanon is literally just something you made up in your head. It's pretend. Fun, yes, but NOT something you can use as justification to attack people over!

Especially when it's something like this that causes real world harm by perpetuating harmful stereotypes about bi/pan people being "just a phase" or a temporary state that changes based on who you date.

[ringo-ichigo]

I called out someone who insisted that no LGBT+ person would ever yell at a bi woman for getting married to a man and celebrating that at a Pride event because "the gays do not do the biphobia." I refuted this by pointing out that I, a bi woman, have experienced more biphobia from fellow LGBT+ people than from straight people. Biphobia absolutely exists within the community and I stated that by denying its existence, the rest of the community perpetuates the biphobia. Their response? Report the comment.

You may say you're not biphobic, but when you do this, you're only proving my point that you actually are. Because within this same period of time, I spoke to a straight person on this who instead of getting mad at the messenger about this, got angry and sad that this happens and instead chose to be a better voice for bi+ people when they could. And asked how to do that. This right here is why the bi+ community won't stop telling the larger LGT community that biphobia isn't a straights vs us issue. It's a gay on gay issue too.

[underthevveather]

I get really tired of people who aren't bisexual trying to define bisexuality for me and other bi people.

If we say, "Bisexuality is being attracted to two or more genders," believe us. If we say that our sexuality includes trans and nonbinary people, believe us. If we explain to you what our own bisexual experience is, believe us and support us.

Stop trying to erase trans/ nonbinary people from a sexuality that you don't even identify with to begin with.

Stop trying to define a sexuality with outdated definitions to fit whatever biphobic agenda you have going on.

And to my fellow bisexuals and bi allies, I love you all, and I hope you have a great day!

[intersexcat-tboy]

"everyone's a little OCD" → "everyone's a little bi" → "everyone's a little ADHD" → "everyone's a little autistic" → "everyone's a little intersex"

🙄

[drchucktingle]

Selena is having a weird day. It starts off simple enough, with a few household items disappearing mysteriously, but things quickly turn heartbreaking when Selena’s office excludes her from a queer teambuilding workshop. According to Selena’s new boss, her current hetero-presenting relationship invalidates her bisexuality.

Now Selena is on a mission to shake up the system and prove her new boss wrong, but as things continue to disappear around her, she realizes there’s more going than meets the eye. It’s quickly revealed that the physical manifestation of bi erasure is on Selena’s trail, and this ignorant living concept will stop at nothing to deny Selena’s queerness.

Fortunately, Selena is surrounded by a loving, supportive community who accept her exactly as she is, and they’re ready to put up a fight!

This important tale is 4,200 words of sexless bisexual validation because your queerness is not predicated by ignorant gatekeeping from a giant pink eraser.

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please enjoy new no sex tingler NOT POUNDED BY BI ERASURE BECAUSE MY CURRENT HETERO-PRESENTING RELATIONSHIP DOES NOT INVALIDATE MY QUEERNESS out now on amazon or true buckaroo tier patreon

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