#Benefits of Learning

[hikercarl]

What Skill Would You Like to Learn?

Discover the value of lifelong learning and explore the skills you’ve always wanted to master. From engineering to creative hobbies, this post dives into the power of learning new skills, why it’s important, and how to get started with accessible resource

Daily writing promptWhat skill would you like to learn?View all responses As hikers, we often find ourselves mastering new techniques to help us navigate the wilderness. Whether it’s refining our map-reading skills, learning how to properly use gear, or understanding the terrain we traverse, our outdoor adventures continually challenge us to grow. But outside of the trail, have you ever thought…

[phoenixsavant]

Self-Care Saturday: Learn a New Skill

Now, unless you’re like me and willing to be a bit insane, I’m not talking about learning a new career skill. Instead, think about the fun things you always wanted to learn to do, but somehow never did. It’s probably a sizeable list if you give yourself time to really think about it. Take something from that list and learn how to do it. You don’t have to pay someone to teach you, though that is…

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Who is this sassy lost child?

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[uncanny-tranny]

I recently had to do a project in one of my psych classes, and man, I knew that CBT was used for every little thing, but seeing over and over, "do CBT! CBT is the best for every mental illness!" was so jarring. I'm absolutely biased because of my own experiences, but I just don't think it's as universal a treatment model as it's touted.

If you didn't benefit from CBT, it's not because you're lazy or didn't try hard enough or lacked intelligence or foresight into your own needs. Frankly, it's a therapy model that (I think) shouldn't be the only readily-accessible model and among the only therapy models covered by insurance. Some of us should not be treated in a CBT model and that's okay. It's not a sign of poor character or unreasonable demands, and if you don't think it's a model that works for you, then it's your right to express that!

[doctorsiren]

GRAHHH THEY TRUST AND UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER 💥💥💥

[m340700]

mimirs

[hypersaw]

A day out and not so emotionally charged, I want to say that I think everyone should work to unpack their internalized fatphobia, but also their aversion to bugs. Yes, I recognize it's an extremely deep seated reaction for many of us, but your life will SIGNIFICANTLY improve once you can look at a bug or a representation of a bug without triggering a fight or flight response. I know it's hard, especially when the source of that aversion is related to personal trauma. I literally have this issue wrt cockroaches to the point where even the emoji can greatly upset me on a bad day, but it used to be a lot worse and applied to more bugs. Now I'm not exactly singing their praises every day, but I'm much less likely to have my day ruined by a surprise visitor. I can look at more things online without having my guard up. I can appreciate newer content for one of my Favorite Games.

You don't have to love bugs, but getting to a point where they are as inconsequential as like, a pigeon, is such a massive improvement in life.

[untitledgoosegay]

re last reblog I do see fanfic culture pushing/replicating a certain model of "what trauma looks like," "how trauma works"

this is a problem across all areas of society obviously, but transformative works are, well, transformative. they're about crafting and modifying narratives where the fan-creator sees a flaw or a lack -- often for the better! don't get me wrong, I've done my fair share of "I take a hammer and I fix the canon," it's the main thing that gets my creative gears spinning -- but what happens when that "flaw" is simply a narrative not conforming to popular expectations?

some people just don't get PTSD from events that sound obviously traumatic. they're not masking, and they're not coping; they just straight-up didn't get the permanently-locked stress-response that defines PTSD. they walk away from a horrible experience going "well, that sucked, but it's over now." some people do get PTSD from events most people wouldn't find traumatic. we don't really know why some people get PTSD and others don't. but fandom has an idea of events that must be traumatizing, of a "correct" way to portray trauma. you see the problems with this lack of understanding in e.g. fans pressuring the devs of Baldur's Gate 3 to add dialogue where the player character badgers Halsin about his own feelings on his abuse -- because he must be traumatized, and his trauma must fit a certain mold and presentation of sexual trauma, under the mistaken impression that anything outside that narrow window is somehow "wrong" and disrespectful or even harmful to survivors.

take, for another example, the very common trope of a traumatized character who hates touch or sex "learning" to like touch or sex as a part of their healing process. certainly that can be healing for some people; other people will never like, or want, touch or sex, because of trauma or because they just don't. the assumption that someone who doesn't want sex or doesn't like to be touched must be traumatized, must be suffering from this perceived lack, is seriously harmful -- to asexual people, to people with sensory issues around touch, and to people for whom healing from trauma means freedom to refuse sex or touch.

and there's a secondary trope, one that's slightly more thoughtful but ultimately repeats the problem -- that once someone has learned that their boundaries will be respected, they'll feel it's safe to soften those boundaries. once they feel safe refusing touch or sex, they'll feel comfortable allowing it on their own terms. but many people don't, and many people won't! many people will simply never want to be touched, and never want sex, and they are not suffering or broken or lacking because of it. the idea that proving you'll respect someone's boundaries entitles you to test those boundaries -- the paradox is obvious, and yet this is something i've seen hurt (re-traumatize) people i care for.

people are imperfect victims. people don't heal in the ways you expect. many people have positive memories of their abuse, of their abusers. many people hurt others in the course of their trauma, in ways that can't easily be unpacked in a 5k oneshot. very few narratives of trauma and recovery actually fit the ones put forward by popular children's media and romance novels -- which are the ones I most see replicated in fandom spaces, because they provide the clearest narrative and easiest catharsis, and so they're easy and soothing to reach for.

that's not necessarily a bad thing! i am not immune to goopy romance tropes. i am not immune to teary catharsis. not every fic has to grapple with ugly realities. but there's a problem when these narratives become predominant, when people think they're accurate and realistic depictions of trauma, when the truth of trauma is unpleasant and uncomfortable, and doesn't fit any single narrative, let alone one of comforting catharsis

[thorough-witness-enjoyer]

Maybe it’s my experiences with my culture and having relatives who are immigrants, but the conflict between humanity and the eliksni reads more to me than just a message on xenophobia.

To me, it’s also about how groups who have experienced oppression are often pitted against each other by the circumstances created by their oppressors to keep them stuck in a cycle of violence and mistrust with one other. This cycle keeps groups who share similar pain and plights from extending mercy to each other and joining forces to fight against the systemic forces that brought them both into a hostile state, which is exactly what those forces want as it keeps those groups powerless and unstable.

[jumjum-crafts]

Colin learns about boundaries

(Teachers who don't usually interact interacting part 2)

[cockringvarric]

buffy telling tara "i can't believe i let spike do those things to me" is making me feel insaneeeee. buffy YOU were doing things to HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! buffy is so obsessed with erasing agency from herself when it comes to her desire for spike. she wants to believe that these actions weren't her choice and aren't indicative of who she is and what she wants. she wants to believe that there's a demon inside her making her want to be with spike. but there was no demon inside tara making her a lesbian and there's no demon inside buffy making her horny for spike. it's all her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

yes exactlyyyyy like the idea of spike makes her SICK it's so crazy. but she still wants him. also with how spike wants her so bad too. like if he didn't fuck her when she was at her lowest perhaps they could have formed a healthy relationship? but he did and so they cant. Truly ohhh so the crime was wanting I get it now 😂👉

[mazken]

brush test slash rendering practice with ayem

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

All he knows is flirt with men and lie.

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[talesfromthecrypts]

*Trump voter voice* they want to get rid of OSHA? But why that's helpful

EVERYTHING THEY ARE GETTING RID OF IS HELPFUL YOU DINGUSES

[uncanny-tranny]

If you need help practicing pronouns, try using the pronouns you struggle with on your pets!

Animals have very little understanding of pronouns and human gender. They won't care if you use he, it, she, xie, bun, literally whatever - they only care about you and their food. They'll be fine! However, your loved ones will appreciate your effort in using pronouns, and using them properly. It's a win-win situation!

[stefisdoingthings]

plagued by the modern au millionsummers visions again………….can u tell i love them