#Authonomy

[daddyd0nt]

My favorite review I ever got on Little Heck like 10 lifetimes ago when I had it on Authonomy under a different title when that was still a thing when I was like 15

[bexmontgomery]

Author Interview: Tony Bayliss Talks Past Continuous

We caught up with Author Tony Bayliss, and chatted with him about Orwell, dreams of playing football for England, and the personal journey of writing his newest book. Your latest book, Past Continuous was recently published by Sparkling Books. Congratulations. Can you tell us a little about it? Past Continuous starts with the death of the hero, an unpromising start to any story, but then takes…

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i get kinda annoyed if i think too hard abt the way some people talk abt post kripke era spn bc really it has its ... some bad moments, of course theres stupid stuff, but like . this fucking show is so fucking good sometimes, like playing with sams authonomy in the first seasons, breaking him, taking every stability from him and then we get to seasons 9 and the most important person in sams life, the center of his whole world, does something so violating, i mean, even dean admitted that sam would rather be dead than letting someone else inside him. he chose to let that angel inside sam. and he takes sams control over his own body he decides to do that so that he would not be alone. and they LOVE each other thats the whole thing, the shows basic and most important premise is that they love each other. like its a stupid show, yeah. but its, idk, maybe involuntarily so, but its so good at showing us how abuse works. how someone you love and who loves you can make horrible things bc of this love

[thal-ent]

Mfs on Tiktok be having the worst reading comprehension in the world

[csueno]

I'VE ALWAYS THOUGHT ABOUT THIS :( of course the actual lore is ambiguous but i adore immensely the prospect of c!dnf growing up together.. knowing each other when they were kids and c!dream was just so happy, wide smiles with a missing tooth, his tiny hands smudged with dirt uprooting flowers.. and he loved the world and he loved george

To Me it IS rather implied that the trust they have due to their long relationship translates to their characters having a rich story, which migth as well be them growing up together ohfhghgh And it truly just exemplifies how fast everything changed. this passionate, deeply caring man that walked into a tramp and kept going down down down until nothing recognizable could be found. and the world hurt him so much AND UET HESTILL LOVED GEORGE. HE JUST COULDNT SHOW IT ANYMORE.

[my-fancy-hat]

Seeing csm discourse if pochita eat devils' names related to denji's most traumatic experiences and painful memories, makima biting his finger, the snowball fight with aki or reze's bitter coffee. Maybe it is about the inavility to move on, to erase the option to even digest and accept the trauma, pochita is making denji forget it's even there. But not having a mouth calls for starvation, death, nothing that entered can exit. He doesn't need to hear, see and eat anything anymore. Also, is a move to proclaim authonomy of his own body, pochita actively choose to cover his mouth, PS wants to use it, he won't let them use denji anymore.

[alyceinwonderland777]

⚠️TW⚠️: INFANTILIZATION AND MENTION OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT

Me: *Trying to explain to him that a person over 30 or over 40 is now completely mentally mature and that a 45 year old dating a 40 year old is not the same as a 25 year old dating a 19 year old and mentioning what happened to me to make him see reason*

Him: "Blah blah blah blah!"

When will y'all fucking stop infantilizing grown ass adults? Can't you see how problematic your behavior is? Can't you see that you are not helping victims? Can't you see that denying a grown ass adult's authonomy is stupid and damaging? Adult grooming exists, but generally it happens only under certain circumstances. A grown ass adult dating another grown ass adult IS NORMAL while a grown ass adult dating a BARELY LEGAL adult IS ACTUALLY PREDATORY.

If this topic is really important for you EDUCATE YOURSELF FIRST. Until then SHUT THE FUCK UP.

Thank you. ❤️✨️

[antiendovents]

i'm so pissed off. today, i've seen endos post, where they appealed to their AVERAGE AGE as an argument that they are right and "endogenic systems" exist. it was just like. how to sign in the absence of at least some scientific arguments not saying it directly.

to context: the post stated that most anti-endos are 23 yo or less, and most pro-endos are about 30 yo or so on (at least, that most pro-endos are elder than most anti-endos). and this VERY QUESTIONABLE point was used as an argument that we (anti-endos) should listen to them (pro-endos). and also, they literally said that our cognitive functions aren't mature enough and are still forming and even appealed to TRAUMA IMPACT ON COGNITIVE FUNCTIONS.

like, at first, where they found that mysterious statistics about average age. please show me WHERE you've found this data and how you have checked it.

at second, okay, let's take as a fact that anti-endos are younger than pro-endos (i really don't think that it's true, but let's just imagine). AND WHAT DOES IT PROVE? how average age of community impacts the idea? spoiler: it doesn't. idea may be proved or disproved by studies, not by characteristics of its supporters.

at third, when you start using rhetoric "you're too young to think for yourself and have argumented opinions", you step in the same ground with "kids can't be trans/be queer/have politic views/have rights/have bodily authonomy" and same shit. and this ground is really gross.

at fourth, if you appeal to our TRAUMA, to our DISORDER to infantilize us, you act extremely ableist. does trauma impact cognitive functions? yes. should it be used to shut us up? NO, NEVER. "presume competence" exists for a reason. you couldn't take our right to make decisions and form opinions away because "oh my cognitive functions is better, so just believe me." it's extremely ableist to ALL neurodivergents, not only to systems. neurodivergent community fight against infantilization for DECADES, and they are just here to say this shit. YOU CAN'T APPEAL TO SOMEONE'S NEURODIVERSITY AS AN ARGUMENT AGAINST THEIR POINT.

i'm so outraged. their ableism worsens every day.

yes, endos are so ableist. To everyone.

Even if this fact was true (it's probably not) I'd be concerned, considering the amount of endos / pro-endos that harass us, I mean I literally just got an ask comparing being anti-endo to being transphobic and saying something about "jerking off" to people misery or whatever the fuck. Like if that community is older than 30 I would be extremely concerned based on how they act. Plus the amount that they harass people younger than them? I hope they realise that this "statistic" literally only makes them look worse

Also if they were that old they should be smart enough to know you can't form a trauma disorder without trauma.

[episims]

This is probably stupid question of mine but...does your BIOTECH STATION and SELLABLE MEDICINE has kind of...authonomy option? What I mean is that do sims (who have medicine in their inventory) option to use medicine authonomsly if/when they are sick, ill?🤔

Hi! No, taking/giving medicine interactions aren't autonomous.

[ariel-seagull-wings]

Otp questions

What are their parenting styles?

Janine x Egon

@bixiebeet @spengnitzed @professorlehnsherr-almashy @inevitablemoment @janeb984 @slimerspengler @hawthorne-spengler-stantz @oreopata

Very based on honesty: when their child has questions, they answer it with the truth, in a matter of fact way. If neither of them know the answer at that moment, they make sure to research to answer the question later.

While nurturing and responsable, Janine still favours giving more freedom, space and authonomy for the child to learn with their trials and mistakes, while Egon is more overprotective and favours setting rules and keeping a watchfull eye.

Janine is more playfull, specially when their child is a baby, while Egon talks to them in a more formal and serious vocabulary to help in their cognitive development.

[mercifullymad]

Oh my good thank you for the post about ocd

Honestly I feel like it’s one of the diagnoses where all the discourse I see is incredibly medicalized and focused on acting as if ERP is literally the only way to treat it and anything else is A Lie and basically immoral to recommend to someone with ocd, lol

When, in my own experience, erp techniques have helped me break out of a few obsessive cicles, but other therapy approaches have helped me a lot more, honestly

Like. I would love to have a conversation about this, if you want to, because I have a lot to say on the subject, and would love to hear more about your perspective, lol. But yeah, the “fighter” approach is so tiresome. And I really hate that erp culture has people promoting attitudes like communally refusing to provide reassurance to someone with ocd because it’s agreed to be universally Bad For Us, without considering specific circumstances, harm reduction or personal authonomy, to give just one example.

Thank you; I’m glad you liked that post and could relate!

I differ a bit in that I don’t think OCD is not particularly unique in being medicalized; the discourse around nearly every mental illness diagnosis is these days. Nor do I think it’s particularly unique in framing recovering from OCD as a “fight,” either — as I mentioned in the tags of that post, the idea of “[X disorder] fighter” is also very popular in eating disorder circles. 

What the framing around OCD does seem fairly unique in is the insistence that there is only one technique for effectively treating it: ERP. With other diagnoses, such as depression and eating disorders, it’s more accepted that a range of techniques, treatments, and/or approaches might help (talk therapy, medication, exercise, etc). But with OCD, any approach other than ERP is framed not only as ineffective, but actively harmful, and this is where we arrive at the conclusion you mentioned, that reassuring someone with OCD is harmful — or even immoral — and shouldn’t be done under any circumstances. Interestingly, this element of the “morality” around (not) reassuring people with OCD is somewhat less (or differently?) moralized than diagnoses where one specific type of medication is framed as The Only Right Treatment, since reassurance is interpersonal and relational. 

To be transparent, I have not done a ton of structured ERP therapy — I've only done a couple months' worth, and it was over Zoom, so very different than doing it in person, at least if I wanted to "more effectively" address my obsessions and compulsions. I was also wary and critical of the ERP framework going in, which definitely contributed to my decision to end treatment "prematurely" (before being "cured," essentially). However, in my limited experience, I have had a similar experience as you around what ERP has and hasn’t helped. In some areas, repeatedly exposing myself to anxiety-inducing situations helped bring my anxiety down over time. In other cases, it did nothing but perpetually raise my anxiety for the length of the exposure treatment. 

My real gripe with ERP is that it removes even the option of attaching meaning to your anxiety, thoughts, and/or experiences. I understand that framing your thoughts/compulsions as “invaders” to your brain or as “just OCD” as opposed to part of “you” can be relieving. It’s easy to see why, and I have also found this framing relieving at times and in certain situations. But in cases where exposure therapy hasn’t worked, I’ve found the most relief and freedom from exploring what meaning might be found in my experiences (and sometimes this relief and freedom comes from simply reframing/shifting/re-relating how I view and think about my experiences). 

I very much agree with your last comments that believing it is Universally Bad to provide reassurance without considering harm reduction, personal autonomy, and individual circumstances is a harmful (and calloused and depersonalized!) approach. And I would love to hear what else you have to say on this topic!

[daddyd0nt]

Id rather make less income overall indie publishing so no mainstream hunger games editor can demand I pear my words down to something more digestible. I had a sort-of book deal when i finished. Harper Collins contacted me after I won both Inkpop and Authonomy and basically told me theyd consider putting me in print but only if I deleted what I consider to be a vital scene for character development that explains later character interactions, a major moral event horizon, etc (my editor also suggested cutting this scene and in the end we flipped a coin over it and the coin said scene stays in) and when i said I wasn't comfortable with both deleting that scene and shaving down a LOT off of the finale and increasing the faux-romance subplot and pretty much taking out or toning down anything considered shocking and i was like "Im not comfortable with that" and they pretty much told me if I changed my mind they'd reconsider me but like Id rather make less overall in profits and be true to my work and not be paying 15% to an agent and another 20% to an editor and getting a pittance from a publishing house who decides if/how the book gets marketed and takes in the majority of the profit. Even if Im making a fraction of what my book would be bringing in while some publishing company gets rich, even if I make less money in the end, I didn't let myself get exploited and I can say that with pride.

[tenok]

The point (one of them) is that both Aziraphale and Crowley actually think they the smartest one in any given situation. And since I relate to Aziraphale much more today I get fixated on his brand of superiority. He starts his journey with rebellion from pretty tame "I don't get why they makes this desisions and it's look horrible on surface evel but I'm sure that they get best ineterests of everyone involved in their hearts and it's probably me the one that didn't get some oblivious detail" to "oh okay I'm sure it's some kind of misundestanding and we can all talk it out as adults because we there work on same goals" to frustrated "they won't ever listen to me and I will get in trouble for arguing and it will be better for everyone if I will make my desisions in secret and go behind their backs because I just can't let THEM make desisions that will destroy everything". It's not straightforward, I'm 30 and still circulate sometimes between "what if it's me the one that wrong aout everything" and "god HOW people can be THAT stupid", but I remember going throught this stages first as good and obedient kid with really stupid parents making stupid desisions and later with school, govermnet, activist spaces etc.

And the problem is, I was the smartest person in the room enough time to develop issues, and Aziraphale lives like his for 6000 years at least. I can only imagine how many times he thought "if only Starmaker listen to me and didn't Fall", "if only God listened to me and didn't make an Apocalypse happen", "if only Heavens listened to me and didn't did this or that that thing", "if only Crowley listen to me and understand in what kind of danger we can get", "if only that human listened to me and haven't dig the body", etc etc. It's awful, to be the one who always gets to say "I told you so", especially when there's such awful consequenses you can't even feel satisfaction, and you will be the one to clen this mess up (and Aziraphae will clean, or better try to prevent). Now, it's of course leads to issues. BIG issues.

1) It's really hard to stop being plotting and maciavellian and communicate things properly when you expect that person will at best argue with you, at worst punish you and double down on their stupid desisons and you will clean this mess up. It also really hard to stop trying to control everything because you already accepted that everything is your responsibility and everyone else would just make things worse. (as someone that relates to Aziraphale I think he did so much progress there, the levels or trust he shows Crowley are amazing for two beings that probably last time heard of psychotherapy when Freud was alive. but such trust is fragile thing, one misstep and you back on your "it will be better if I do everything alone" bullshit. I'm not saying it's good. I'm also not saying that it's bad. it's just how things work)

2) It makes you overstep other people authonomy, because, again, it would be better for everyone if they did what you think best for them. It works funny wih Aziraphale because yes he's all for free choices for humanity!! NOW GO AND DO SMART CHOICES DAMN YOU!!! WHY YOU DON'T PICK THE THING THAT WOULD BE SMART TO PICK I HATE YOU ALL. That's where me and Aziraphale difer a little because at least I somewhat good at stepping into other people shoes and understand why they do what they do. But angel there is autistic (or bad at this specific thing for other reasons), so I think when people he consider reasonable doesn't agree with him for their own reasons he ge's really baffled, like, there arE correct opinion and it's mine, WHY are you being difficult?? to spite me?? And I'm sure that half of the reason why Aziraphale's so comfortable with Crowley is that he perfectly happy to let him buly or manipulate him into doing things Aziraphale picks as right. Usually Crowley know where pick his battles and how to play long game to make Aziraphale agree for really important stuff he wants from him, but otherwise? Sure he will complain how he hates Hamlet but they will watch Hamlet, and Aziraphale will be very pleased with himself. (and than there goes final fifteen and we back at "but WHY won't ypu agree with thing I pick or us IT'S GOOD AND RESONABLE THING" and we should be happy that consent is something that imporant for our angel ok? he would be angry with Crowley for picking wrong but he won't make him do what he doesn't want. they respect each other like that.)

3) It makes you really really tired and tense. You control everything, unfortunately the longer you do it the more things starts really depedend on you, you can't let go, you don't know anyone that can share this burden with you because first they should prove that they won't blow his up and for this you should share at least something with them, but what is they would blow it up? Better be safe than sorry. And look when it's my problems it's credit cards and doctor appointmens and with Aziraphale we talk about people dying. Crowley dying. Now, as I said, he actually shows Crowley so. much. trust. for someone with such issues. Because Crowley was there for 6000 years, and he proved himself capable enough times. But still there's areas where let go and not worry would be impossible for Aziraphale, Crowley's safety being one of such things (you see, you can risk with your life when you deal with your problems because whatever you will clean shit up if needed, but if someone close to you hurt themself?? it's YOUR problem too but it will be SO MUCH HARDER to clean. I think when Aziraphale points to Crowley that hell would be harder on him than he can expect heavens to punish him, it's partially because he believes it's true and partially because he knows how to minimize harm when heavens angry with him but HOW can he do this for Crowley??). Anyway. Lol. The more I think about it the more I sure that Crowley without Aziraphale would be a miserable angry dick, and Aziraphale wihout Crowley would be dead, because it was the one person that kept him one tiny slip away from total burn out.

So yeah there's a lot of posts about how angry heartbroken etc Crowley will be with Aziraphale (I don't agree but that's for other post), less posts about how sad and heartbroken will be Aziraphale, but I hope to see Azyraphale being angry too (it they will be angry with each other at all). Not only for not picking him or leaving or making everything messy and emotional and wasting their first kiss at their fight etc, but also because Aziraphale was trusting him! Trusting that he get another resonable adult in team with him! Someone who he can trust to make resonable desisions and see his ideas as clever and him as capable and being willing to go to the end of the world with him with mild complaints and than!! When he did trust him to understand!! He was like everyone else!! Unresonable and emotional and angry with him and why he asked him at all he should've do it secretly and alone as always and it would've be as usual and it wouldn't hurt but it was Crowley that taught him to trust and to ask him for help!! Breaking his perfectly fine coping mechanisms!! It's all his faut if you think about it huh?? (but of course he's already forgiven. but also Aziraphale would do what he needs to do alone this time, as one and only capable adult in the world.)

Anyway it's not a meta it's just some late night thoughts. And it's in no way whole analizis there's so much more problems inside this angel. It's just something in particular that resonated with me today. Also it's not in any way critisizm of him, mind you, because a) he does really the smartest person in the room most of the time and b) I LOVE how fucked up in the head he is!!! I think he needs to become even more fucked up actually!!! and Crowley should love him for that and I will cheer for him from sidelines!!!

[socoolinmypajamas]

[SPOILERS] D4DJ side;nova stories

I know a lot of people didn't like the whole thing about Lumina's secret, but hear me out: it also opens the door for a very creepy yet very interesting theory about her:

After Neo's mother died when she was a child, her dad tried to train her into becoming a singer just as good as her. Eventually, he abandoned Neo after she couldn't reach her dad's impossible standards. Assuming he never gave up with this idea of training someone who could sing just as well or even better than his late wife, imagine if he just... gave up on FINDING someone he could train.

What if he CREATED a girl for this very specific goal.

There are a few things that support this theory:

1) There's a bit in the first side;nova chapter where Neo mentions that Lumina's voice seems "familiar".

2) It is implied that Lumina can't remember who created her. It is also implied that there are things (like blackouts due to electrical storms) that can seemingly affect her memory banks.

3) Lumina has a surprising level of authonomy. Why is this important? Because she may not be just an AI but a ROGUE AI. It is possible that Neo's dad created Lumina, lost control of her, and then decided to monitor her progress from afar, after she turned out to be quite capable on her own. (She did become viral and got a massive ammount of followers in a short period of time after all).

If this theory turns out to be correct, that would mean that Neo's father was indirectly responsable for UniChord, while Michiru's grandpa (Mitsuhashi Sho, former member of LMO and father of Mitsuhashi Ku, Michiru's uncle and the guy who revived D4DJ in Japan after an 8 years hiatus) is directly responsable for Abyssmare, as he was the one who recruited Neo as a child and then became the current manager of the group.

What do you guys think?

[EDIT: KJJJJ I always confuse Haruki Kaibara and Ku, so the last thing is more like a half-ass thought that came up in the middle of the brainstorm. Still, is interesting how both bands have conections with LMO. I can't wait to see how that plays a part in their stories]

[ilhoonftw]

there's a shitstorm on pólish twitter re: govt plans of making plan b type pill an over the counter medication available to anyone over 15... 'omg they made buying energy drinks illegal if you're not 18 but a 15 will be able to kill a baby!'. age of consent is 15. if a teenager is recognized by law as being able to consent then why can't they use contraception??? if that bothers you then raise the age of consent then? all this mess is proving is that inadequate sex ed ruins lives. i fucking hate when men who have no idea how pregnancy and all that works open their mouths and worse, are being listened to over people whose bodily authonomy is getting discussed.

[set-wingedwarrior]

Every day I read bad news for trans people and my heart breaks a little bit.

I just don't get people, I just don't get all that hate. Why spend so much time and energy to make people's lives harder when you could use it to improve one of the 3948574365247 other problems in the world? Why is stricting freedom so fucking important?

I mean, I know why. I know, I just... I just can't picture it, being there and doing my absolute best to destroy other people.

You disagree with how someone is presenting themselves? Okay, just don't do the same! You can dress the way you want, you can teach your children whatever you want if only you spend some time with them, and you can respect other people's bodly authonomy.

Every time I hear someone disagree with something my general response is just "then don't do that". As simple as that. What you are or aren't comfortable with shouldn't stop other people's freedom to do so if they want to, and that applies for litterally anything that isn't actually destructive to other people. Do you really think I'm 100% on board with EVERYTHING that I see people do? Absolutely not.

There are things I'd NEVER want to no, nor that I understand. Whole bunches of identities and sexualities and stuff that I really cannott comprehend. Sometimes even I can think that something sounds like bulshit if I have to be honest, but guess what? I'm not stopping any of them from being themselves in any way they want. Pronouns, lifestyle, whatever, I just respect that stuff because it's harmless and makes them happy. That I can understand or not is irrelevant.

I'm not sure why I felt the need to rant like this. I don't even know if I'm allowed to write all of this, being cis and all. It's just, so many bad news all around, so much hate, and I'm just tired.