#Atypical Dysphoria Ally

[redacted-coiner]

Atypical Dysphoria Ally, Straight Ally, Objectum Ally

Objectum, Objectra, Objectix

Objectsic, POSIC, Humanotin

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[recovering-radqueers]

"Recovering Radqueer" using transabled and transharm

Anonymous sent: I'm a "recovering radqueer" but I still use transIDs, even the "harmful" ones like transabled and transharmed/ful. They're the only words that meaningfully describe my experience. The anti-transition stance of Dissomei just doesn't work for me when I fully intend to remove an eye and I know nobody in that community would approve. I want to get away from the radqueer community but they are the only ones who will accept me. Every anti-radqueer blog I talk to just spits slurs and tells me to kill myself over my identity. Do you have any advice? Other labels that aren't anti-transition? Blogs that are pro-transID but anti radqueer that I can interact with to separate myself from all the abusers in the RQC?

Hey there, I'm sorry to hear that you've been told to kill yourself. I don't believe anyone deserves that and that's not fair to you.

I can absolutely understand wanting to still use transIDs, and the reasons you gave definitely are common. It sounds like you have some serious intentions, and while obviously I don't want anyone to harm themselves in general, I do also acknowledge that serious dysphoria makes it feel unavoidable. It reminds me a lot, in fact, of people with BID who have performed self amputation. At the end of the day, everyone deserves a chance to be happy - so don't worry, no judgement on that end.

Whether or not your wants/needs are understood by others, it’s important to honor that you’re experiencing something very real that makes you feel connected to these identities. The language you use to describe your experience doesn’t have to come from a bigoted/harmful place. It does suck, though, when it feels like there aren't exactly the right words to describe your identity. :(

Identity-wise:

Some people do genuinely use "transabled" in a 100% good-faith, non-radqueer-associated way. As far as I'm aware, this originated in the BID community, so if it's possible you may fit that disorder's criteria, you could switch to identifying as that. A 100% good-faith, non-radqueer-associated way transabled person. There's even a pride flag for this by antiradqueer if you like.

I recently heard of the term "dysfirming" to be a substitute for "transitioning" that applies to some atypical dysphoria-influenced identities. I don't know if this would be a helpful term?

I would suggest looking into communities focused on body mods, body autonomy, trauma recovery, and identity exploration. Find forums, Discords, Subreddits, etc, and see if it's a space you can vibe with. I think you could potentially find some people who think similarly to you. If you want me to specifically look and link you to some places, feel free to send another ask.

Dissomei as a term actually isn't anti transition! You can see a couple of quotes from the creator on this page, and one mentions that even amputations are accepted. Of course, it'll always be up to you what term you want to use.

Desirdae (Coining post)

Sensus (Coining post)

If you can do some introspection and try to pin down why you identify as any transharmful labels, it might be helpful. For example, if you wanted people to see you as dangerous, maybe a presentation label related to danger/violence, or perspesque (coining post). If it's paraphila-related, maybe Paraphikitós/Paramenos (coining post).

Intenxper (Coining post)

-vior (Coining post)

Archetrope (Tag)

Neurowiry (Coining post)

Enviren (Coining post)

Also general tips:

Find a therapist if you haven't already. I know, you've probably heard "get therapy!!!" a lot, haha, but I don't mean "get into therapy so they can make you stop identifying the way that you do". A truly good therapist would be someone you can trust to talk about how you feel and that includes being transID. And they could also direct you to any local IRL groups that might be good places to hang out!

Phew, sorry my response was so long! Whatever you decide to do, I wish you good luck! Please feel free to send another ask for follow-ups, specific advice, or just to say hi, okay?

-Mod Ally🍄

[atypical-dysphoria-culture-is]

Hii this is a question! Is feeling like you should have a mental disorder that you dont have count as atypical dysphoria? Also how would someone go about handling that in a way that wouldn't hurt people that have that disorder? ( I mean this respectfully, as someone questioning things. ^-^ )

Yes, it would be. Something I would suggest is scrolling through the tags of said disorder or joining a group for it as an ally. Immersing yourself in that community might help. Just remember not to claim to have said disorder.

[transmedicalism-saves-lives]

Reading through your blog, it's obvious that you're not really pro-nonbinary people. You're just not ANTI-nonbinary people. There's a huge difference. Refusing to respect any pronouns other than they/them and refusing to respect any label except "nonbinary", including even the common ones like "agender", makes you very much not a nonbinary ally. As a nonbinary person I don't think I've ever felt so othered by a blog that explicitly claimed to support my identity.

I support nonbinary people, but only to the extent of what’s technically possible. It is technically possible for your brain sex to reach a neutral status, which could potentially cause atypical dysphoria. However, it is not possible for your brain to:

1. Switch sexes, ruling out any kind of ‘fluid’ identity.

2. Be more than one sex at once, ruling out any kind of ‘bigender’ identity.

3. Be halfway between neutral and male or female, it would just become male or female, ruling out any kind of ‘demigender.’

4. Be unrelated to sex characteristics, ruling out neogenders as a whole. 

5. Have no sex characteristic component at all (you will die without a nervous system) ruling out ‘agender.’ 

Neutrality is possible. Brand new made-up genders are not. I’m willing to give ADT nonbinary people the benefit of the doubt, but things that are physically, scientifically impossible are not going to get religious backing from me. I’m an atheist, and asking me to believe something against all logic and proof definitely falls into a religion, which I am free not to practice. 

Have a nice day! 

[lgbtqiarchive]

Non-binary according to binary spectrum

This binary spectrum was perhaps created by some non-binary pals and their allies. There’s a logic behind the phrase “there are only two genders” for them, then saying non-binary is a real thing. Sounds nonsensical, right? I will try explaining!

This image shows how genderless is like the opposite of ambigender (a bigender of male-female), male the opposite of female, neutrois as a balance/equilibrium between all of them, as it’s in the middle of the whole spectrum, between all genders.

After showing the non-binary minimum, I will explain more accurate the gender fundamentalism (what I call this for now), how they sum up ambigender, neutrois and ambigender into one thing: non-binary.

Technically it makes sense that if you are ambigender or agender you’re nongender, in the hypothesis of gender being only the binary, because then you are not conforming gender. 

Keep in mind this hypothesis isn’t 100% accurate, gender non-conforming means that you don’t conform gender roles, gender isn’t just the roles, it’s your identity label. Maveriques (comgender abinary/aporagender) exist.

Obviously nonbinary isn’t only about nonconforming gender, you can conform gender roles while being nonbinary, because there are levels of conformity, and levels of variance (non-conformance). And this can be tied into corporeal gender expression or not, biosex developments or not. 

Atypical transsexuality and cis passability may be contrasted with classical transexuality at this point, atypical transness is generally linked to non binary state, while classical transgenderness linked to binary. 

Note that nonbinary isn’t only about atypical dysphoria, cis people can be gender nonconforming, then these two hypothesis contradict each other forming things like: cis enby, trans enby and paradoxically cistrans.

[no-more-disk-horse]

Hey anon. Not a dumb question! Asking questions is how you learn. I hope you see this, and I'm sorry so many of the responses have been so aggressive. It's important to be able to ask questions, even if you might not say everything correctly, because that's how you learn how to be a good ally! (I'm assuming you're cis, apologies if I'm wrong)

As a trans guy who dates guys, I don't choose who I'm into based on their sexuality. A lot of the time I don't know whether guy is gay or bi. If I'm into him and the situation is appropriate, I'll flirt regardless. Plus, a lot of gay guys are comfortable being with a trans man (especially because a lot of trans guys use strap ons and don't want you to interact with their genitalia anyway!) and I'm not gonna immediately give up on a guy I'm into just because I'm trans and he might not be into me. Rejection is part of dating. If you flirt with a cis gay guy you've got a shot, but if you just assume he's not into you, your chances are 0%.

Also, you can't assume other trans guys are comfortable dating trans men. Lots of guys get dysphoria from being with other trans men, for a variety of reasons.

Exclusively dating bisexuals would really narrow down our dating pool, and it's just not necessary. I've been in a relationship with a cis woman who was 100% straight. My transness was a complete non-issue. There are enough gay cis men and straight cis women who are comfortable dating trans men, that it would be silly to give up on ever dating any of them.

And one more thing: not all trans men have vaginas. You're probably thinking, post op trans men don't look like they have "real" penises, but that's not true! There's a lot of misinformation out there about bottom surgery results. They can actually be pretty good! Plus, a trans man who chooses to remain stealth may have a story he tells that provides an alternative medical explanation; there are cis men who have medical needs that result in a penis with scars or other atypical appearances.

Sorry if this is a dumb question but why do many gay trans guys pursue cis gay men when a lot of cis gay men just aren’t into vagina? Wouldn’t it be more productive to date other trans guys or even a cis bi dude since you can assume either of them would be a lot more comfortable with a vagina?

BECAUSE 👏 GAY👏TRANS👏MEN👏ARE👏MEN👏AND👏ARE👏ATTRACTED👏TO👏MEN👏IN👏GENERAL

[oh-no-politics]

I’m 17, white (with some Russian and Polish mixed in), and a cis ally.

I love writing and drawing too, mainly fantasy and science fiction.

I also have a huge fascination with science, and I’m planning on majoring in something related to animals. Maybe marine biology! Animals are just so fascinating, and I love learning about them.

One of my favorite genres is horror, and I have a basic knowledge about a majority of the horror movies that exist.

I have two budgies, Kaelo and Winston, who are absolute sweethearts. I also have a fish named Mystique, who’s a betta-I’m trying to find a bigger tank for him right now.

I’m chill with nonbinary people. I’m on the fence about atypical dysphoria, but I’ll respect you and your pronouns netherless.

Is it just me or are all truscum just edgy teenagers with the most boring generic hot topic personality ever????

Like they wanna talk about nb people all being technicolor haired Steven universe fans or whatever, when they’re all literally the cookie cutter edgy kid who thinks making triggered jokes is funny??

Honestly what the fuck