#Anti Min

[markantonys]

what's wrong with book!Min (gave up on books right now because i can't anymore, i'm on 4th I think? she is just not there)

book 5 is exactly when she started sucking haha so you stopped at the right time! i do get into some spoilers here, though i tried not to say anything too specific that you wouldn't have already known from the first few books (such as the fact that rand has multiple girlfriends and min is one, which her viewing revealed in book 2). also, maybe you won't even want to read this if you'd rather let your opinion of show!min continue on untainted, because i will say that 90+% of the things i'm about to complain about are very unlikely to be a thing in the show.

basically she just gets hit with an abysmal case of Men Writing Women: out of the blue she decides to throw her whole life away to chase rand down and make him love her, she changes her whole personality and style to try to cater to what she thinks rand would find attractive (i'm all for wanting to look hot for your man, but min herself doesn't seem to enjoy her new clothes or find them comfortable, and that's a problem), she stops having any relationships or connections outside of rand, she barely has scenes with anyone but him and in ensemble scenes she's just there to cling sexily onto him while having 0 dialogue because she has nothing to contribute to the plot-relevant discussion going on, she has no storyline besides barnacling herself to his side and being on tap for sex 24/7, she has no narrative role or in-world obligations besides Being Rand's Girlfriend, etc.

and on top of all that, you have fandom calling her ~Best Girl~ and saying that she is the only one of the 3 women who deserves to be with rand because she Puts Her Man First like a Good Girlfriend should, and fuck the other two for having the audacity to have responsibilities outside of being his girlfriend. fuck them for actually being complex, well-rounded characters with independent storylines and character arcs, right? we only like female characters who exist to serve men's storylines!

and on top of all THAT, she DOESN'T EVEN serve rand's storyline! she literally doesn't do anything! she always makes me think of the "let me ask you a very fair question. what DO you do successfully?" vine. you could cut her out of the entire series and very little would change. min fans claim that she was integral to keeping rand anchored during dark times because min and rand claim that is the case, but the actual scenes between them in the text do not back up that claim. i can think of ONE scene where min actually makes an effort to have a serious conversation with rand about what's worrying him; every other time she just stops his doom-and-gloom talk by punching him or waving knives at him or distracting him with sex. and the way people put her up on a pedestal for taking care of rand at his worst (which she doesn't actually do anyway) is a romanticization of the shitty idea that it's a woman's job to be the sole emotional dumping ground for her male partner. i guess it could simply be that Dating Your Therapist is a romance trope i personally dislike, but ugh, i HATE that vibe of their relationship and especially of the way the fandom talks about their relationship.

and on top of all THAT, their relationship is totally logic-breaking at times because rand will go "i'm so isolated and alone! i'm going to go snuggle up in bed with my live-in girlfriend and think about how isolated i am." he will go "i am so dangerous, i have to push away everyone i love! come on min, i'm taking you into the most dangerous magical event of the age during which many channelers will show up to attack us, even though you're a defenseless civilian and there's no reason you need to be there." it feels like RJ wanted to give rand an isolation arc but also wanted him to have a sexy mistress on his arm at all times, and could not understand that those two things are mutually exclusive (unless said mistress is just no-strings-attached sex, but that was not intended to be the case here, although the cognitive dissonance often makes it feel like rand DOES see min as just no-strings-attached sex rather than a real person whose safety he needs to worry about).

her behavior about the whole romantic situation also drives me nuts because she is SO possessive and jealous, which i personally absolutely hate in romantic relationships, though some people do find it attractive, including min herself - there's a scene where she tries to make rand jealous because she thinks it makes the sex hotter and i was like girl wtf? get some dignity. actually "girl wtf? get some dignity" is my attitude towards all her behavior about the relationship because listen, i fully support girls being silly over their crushes, but christ alive the way min comports herself brings me so much secondhand embarrassment. she'll be like "i'm sooooo mature and worldly, i will never lose my head over a man like OTHER women do, because i am Not Like Other Girls, i'm superior to them" (the Not Like Other Girls vibes is another huge annoyance about her character & fandom reception of her character) and then she'll proceed to go plop down into rand's lap and dandle herself on his knee in the middle of a political meeting to show off to everyone present that he belongs to her. girl, you are a grown-ass woman! get some dignity! she also has a shitty attitude towards the polycule situation, i won't say more since the details of that are beyond book 4 and this post is also getting super long, but suffice it to say that, surprise surprise, possessive and jealous people do not work well in polyamorous relationships.

but most of the above is the fault of the author (or the fandom), not the character. i can't exactly separate the two while reading because "RJ is writing min badly" very quickly blurred into "i feel super annoyed every time she is onscreen" very quickly blurred into "i can't stand this character," but it does mean that the show has a good chance to fix most or all of these problems with her because they aren't necessarily intrinsic to her characterization, they're just symptoms of RJ's weird ideas about het romance and gender norms. the show making her a world-weary 30-something-year-old who takes no shit and who is GNC in a queer-presenting genuinely-doesn't-care-what-straight-men-think-of-her-looks way rather than a not-like-other-girls-tomboy-who-still-caters-to-the-male-gaze way is already a HUGE step in the right direction!

[d-a-mante]

While both are Knife Wives who are chronically attached to their Boys, the difference between Faile and Min is that when separated from her dude, Faile is actually pretty badass, has agency, and is clever is her POVs. Min just gets controlled/pulled along by some other character. Willingly.

[kha0skato]

MY PARNETS HATH APPEARED

[macbcth]

what your favourite dunmeshi ship says about you

farcille: you're classic, you make sense, you like to see the lesbians winning and also you're a bit of a monster fucker: you may or may not specifically have a wing kink

chilshi: you like your men hairy and fat, also you are not immune to panty-shot propaganda, your love language is acts of service

chilaios: you have a size kink

labru: you prefer mlm ships over any other pairing, you think character foils should fuck, you may be a sucker for blue eyes

laimar: your favourite trope is friends to lovers, also you like to see the bisexuals winning, you're also.. what the poets might call.... weird

marchil: your favourite trope is enemies to lovers, your love language is banter, and you're the kind of person who says 'i can fix him' far too often

kabumisu: your ship could burn down the world and violate the geneva convention and you would still call both of them babygirl, also you like angst

laios x monsters: you like tentacle porn

[whorishirishpunk]

my battle jacket! pls excuse lack of patches on the back, i started this last friday. pretty proud of it thus far. any tips?

[yaralulu]

i fully understand having a skewed sense of perception when you’re as traumatised as feyre is i just wish she became more aware of it as she “healed” but no

rhysand could say the sky is green and feyre would be like “i could see it now — with my new fae senses — as it stretched out behind my beautiful mate —the truth tamlin had locked me away to keep me from realising — but rhys had promised me — promised me the world and the truth — and i could feel my bowels becoming solid with the knowledge —“

😭😭😭

You don’t understand how hard this made me laugh because this is really how sjm be writing.Just spreading lies about tamlin as she compares his every breath to rhys and the goddamn ellipses after every thought.Reveal yourself anon you’re hilarious.

[uboatheflesh]

Don't forget, you can still buy "Literal Hell" - an anti-imperial cut-up noise song - from the "Noise for Artsakh" fundraiser, which raises money for mutual aid for Armenians displaced by the ethnic cleansing for Artsakh by Azerbaijan last year (and this aggression is ongoing). It's organised by my dear friend and comrade Blood of a Pomegranate (Tig Harutyunyan, mix engineer/collaborator on Impossible Light). We managed to raise enough money to help pay for a chicken shed for a family - so this charity is legit and direct, and has a lot of my friends from the queer noise community in so-called "australia" involved. Lyrics + mini-essay are available for free/public on my Patreon.

[themadcapmathematician]

The US is like hey if you wanna drive somewhere it's 15 min but you'll spend 40 min and $20 parking. Oh you take the bus? You'll be there in 3 hours. 1.5 hrs of that is walking lol. lmfao even. Oh youre walking? Just walking there?? Asphalt is a pvp enabled zone and the sidewalk is width of a single grape. We have removed all of the benches for your convenience. See you there in 28 hours

[voulezvulcan]

genuinely fascinating to observe the bcktmmy thing because I genuinely can't explain it - they had almost no development, very little screen time, not that much chemistry, they both settled, tommy was so clearly set up as a temporary love interest because the writers chose the route of kicking off buck realizing his sexuality by tying it up to someone. hell, tommy called him evan the whole damn time except for when they break up and he calls him Buck and if that's not a damn neon sign I don't know what is. like 😭

[layla-keating]

It’s definitely a difficult holiday for him.

XO, KITTY — 1.05 “TBH”

[thoughtfulchaos773]

Jung Meta Series:

The Anima Projection

An excerpt from Man & His Symbols audiobook by Carl G Jung on the negative aspect of the Anima in the male psyche.

Tagging: @currymanganese @ambeauty @brokenwinebox @whenmemorydies @vacationship @moodyeucalyptus @turbulenthandholding @mitocamdria @devisrina

(c)thoughtfulchaos773

[rorynightshade]

The Tortured Poets Department by Taylor Swift

[angellple]

you were a buddie shipper until buck kissed an ugly white man,now you hate buddie so your opinion on this ship is invalid sorry not sorry

[cloudysarts]

"What?! Fuck you, Stolas! You spring this 'feelings' bullshit on me-- are you fucking kidding?! Can I get a fucking minute to think after everything you put me through, you pompous, rich asshole?!"

~i don't support vivziepop or her shows + this art/redesign is from my rewrite~

(unblurred ver under the cut)

[yaralulu]

It’s crazy how often I see people not really understanding how tamlin can just assume the absolute worst about rhys when he supposedly knows the real rhys because they used to be friends.Sure buddy tamlin and rhys were friends like a million years ago but I’m afraid that doesn’t mean shit anymore considering everything that’s happened since.

Like are we really gonna blame tamlin for falling for rhys’s evil mask just like everyone else and trying to save feyre from him. “They used to be friends though he knows him 🥺”HE KILLED HIS FAMILY??? Tamlin literally has no reason to be holding onto whatever version of rhys he once knew and has every right to believe that rhys really is the awful guy he portrays himself to be.

[dunsbar]

why won’t they ever let benedict do anything other than have sex. like i know this is the sex having show but cmon now give him SOMETHING TO DO. in season 2 he was going to go to art school and do something and then he just had sex the whole time. he hasnt even painted this season he’s just had sex. WHO CARES? free my boy.