#Amia Srinivasan

[haggishlyhagging]

Were anti-porn feminists being hysterical? Censorious prudes? In the age of internet porn, DVDs and video cassettes, let alone centerfolds and seedy theaters, can be joked about as nostalgic throwbacks. It may seem to some, looking back, that feminist anti-porn campaigners must have been overtaken by anxiety about a mass culture that was becoming more open about sex, and that was quite capable of separating fantasy from fact. Feminists, anxious about sex under patriarchy found it easier, a group of pro-porn feminists wrote in 1983, “to attack the picture of what oppresses us than the mysterious, elusive . . . thing itself.” The implication is that anti-porn feminists were overestimating the power of porn: they had lost perspective. But what if the true significance of the perspective of anti-porn feminists lay not in what they were paying attention to, but when? What if they weren’t hysterical, but prescient?

It was my students who first led me to think about this question. Discussing the "porn question" is more or less mandatory in an introductory class on feminist theory. But my heart wasn't really in it. I imagined that the students would find the anti-porn position prudish and passé, just as I was trying hard to make them see the relevance of the history of feminism to the contemporary moment. I needn't have worried. They were riveted. Could it be that pornography doesn't merely depict the subordination of women, but actually makes it real, I asked? Yes, they said. Does porn silence women, making it harder for them to protest against unwanted sex, and harder for men to hear those protests? Yes, they said. Does porn bear responsibility for the objectification of women, for the marginalization of women, for sexual violence against women? Yes, they said, yes to all of it.

It wasn't just the women students talking; the men were saying yes as well, in some cases even more emphatically. One young woman pushed back, citing the example of feminist porn. "But we don't watch that," the men said. What they watched was the hardcore stuff, the aggressive stuff—what is now, on the internet, the free stuff. My male students complained about the routines they were expected to perform in sex; one of them asked whether it was too utopian to imagine sex that was loving and mutual and not about domination and submission. My women students talked about the neglect of women's pleasure in the pornographic script, and wondered whether it had something to do with the absence of pleasure in their own lives. "But if it weren't for pornography," one woman said, "how would we ever learn to have sex?"

Porn meant so much to my students; they cared so much about it. Like the anti-porn feminists of forty years ago, they had a heightened sense of porn's power, a strong conviction that porn did things in the world. Talking with my graduate teaching assistant after that seminar (she was a handful of years younger than me), I realized what should have been obvious from the start. My students belonged to the first generation truly to be raised on internet pornography. Almost every man in that class would have had his first sexual experience the moment he first wanted it, or didn't want it, in front of a screen. And almost every woman in the class would have had her first sexual experience, if not in front of a screen, then with a boy whose first sexual experience had been. In that sense, her experience too would have been mediated by a screen: by what the screen instructed him to do. While almost all of us today live in a world where porn is ubiquitous, my students, born in the final years of the last century, were the first to have come of age sexually in that world.

My students would not have stolen or passed around magazines or videos, or gathered glimpses here and there. For them sex was there, fully formed, fully interpreted, fully categorized—teen, gangbang, MILF, stepdaughter—waiting on the screen. By the time my students got around to sex IRL—later, it should be noted, than teenagers of previous generations—there was, at least for the straight boys and girls, a script in place that dictated not only the physical moves and gestures and sounds to make and demand, but also the appropriate affect, the appropriate desires, the appropriate distribution of power. The psyches of my students are products of pornography. In them, the warnings of the anti-porn feminists seem to have been belatedly realized: sex for my students is what porn says it is.

-Amia Srinivasan, The Right to Sex: Feminism in the Twenty-First Century

[that-stubborn-feminist]

Academia aesthetic ✨

[aeslinnreads]

"It is often the case that those with power are the ones least capable of seeing how it should be wielded."

The Right to Sex (Amia Srinivasan)

[rakuhoku-kyoto]

Japanese Translation Amia Srinivasan, The Right to Sex, 2021, published by Bloomsbury (UK) and Farrar, Straus and Giroux (USA).

『セックスする権利』、アミア・スリニヴァ���ン、山田文 訳、装幀 佐々木暁、勁草書房、2023刊

[mirrorbreaks]

I just finished The Right to Sex by Amia Srinivasan and was really enamored with her essays on the politics of desire. It’s a topic that gets discussed a lot on here but the arguments always (in my opinion) rely on the reader’s finely tuned instincts honed in this relatively narrow Tumblr ecosystem. I believe there’s an instinct to say that, for example, the Grindr stereotype of ‘no fats, no femmes’ is wrong (and it is!) but I’ve seen that people struggle to justify this position due to the competing instincts that rise to stop one from moralizing another individual’s desire. I think Srinivasan deals with this seeming contradiction sharply and with incredible clarity by differentiating between moralizing and liberating one’s desire. I’d highly recommend the titular essay (linked below!) and the follow up essay written years later when the book was published (The Politics of Desire), though you might have to get the book to read that one. Both are fantastic essays that provided a ton of insight into a topic I’d previously avoided because of what seemed like a contradiction that laid at the center of my ideas on it.

[nethermitage]

First reading of Amia Srinivasan, "Talking to My Students About Porn", The Right to Sex. Need second pass to digest further nuance.

Looking at jurisprudence, the law is not my friend. Second-guess positions that boil down to, "But the law says so", or, "But the law should say something different". The law doesn't say anything. The people making, interpreting, and enforcing the law do.

If I interact with someone else with a tool (the law, PornHub, my penis), am I my tool? Am I my position within the law? Am I doomed to be my penis? Read philosophical instruments.

Dworkin somehow hates sex more than I do, and referring to Women Against Pornography (WAP) repeatedly by acronym in a book published after August 7, 2020 is cunty. I approve.

Read Butler, both Gender Trouble and R. v. Butler, 1992 CanLII 124 (SCC), [1992] 1 SCR 452. If I hold it to be true that speech (porn) is an act (rape) is a performance (masculinity) is an identity (me), then I'm cooked. I have a vested interest in not being cooked.

[imanes]

not counting mangas/manhwas i read 11 books in july. damn it's crazy how much more i read when I'm not down in the dumps sjdlkfjgk. I'm at work and bored out of my mind and I'm actually going to leave two hours early because I've got better things to do but here's my wrap up (in chronological order)

ready or not by cara bastone: big meh, would not recommend

not in love by ali hazelwood: i liked it, probably for all the reasons that habitual hazelwood readers hated it

the art of catching feelings by alicia thomspon: enjoyable but probably her most forgettable book

can the monster speak by paul b. preciado: very enlightening

dragon unleashed by grace draven: nobody can write fantasy romances except this author... i said what i said

the tainted cup by robert jackson bennett: probably my favourite book of the month

a fragile enchantment by allison saft: the concept was there but the execution was disappointing

know my name by chanel miller: very enlightening as well, though not as well written as everybody makes it out to be

senlin ascends by josiah bancroft: perfect for people who are bored of the usual fantasy stories

year of the reaper by makiia lucier: perfect for people who aren't bored of the usual fantasy stories, my second favourite read of the month

the undying by anne boyer: final very enlightening read of the month, and extremely well written, though the last chapters didn't feel as purposeful as the rest

for mangas/manhwas i read all of solo leveling (super fun, not groundbreaking, and i found the end a little disappointing) and the latest instalment in how i met my soulmate (the future of shojo, thank you anashin for your service)

[haggishlyhagging]

When feminists embrace carceral solutions—cops on the street, men sent to prisons—it gives cover to the governing class in its refusal to tackle the deepest causes of most crime: poverty, racial domination, borders, caste. These are also the deepest causes of women's inequality, in the sense that it is these forces and their corollaries—lack of housing, health care, education, childcare, decent jobs—that are responsible for the greater part of women's misery. Globally, most women are poor, and most poor people are women. This is why feminism understood as the fight against "common oppression" comes apart from a feminism that fights for the equality and dignity of all women. A feminism focused on women's common oppression leaves untouched the forces that most immiserate most women, instead seeking gender-equal admission to existing structures of inequality.

-Amia Srinivasan, The Right to Sex: Feminism in the Twenty-First Century

[lighthouselesbian]

I have more things to say about the current state of sex positivity actually which does basically boil down to “telling girls they should have tons of sex because its empowering is not better than telling girls to never have sex because it makes them sluts” like either way girls are pressured into certain actions to appease the men around them. in the case of the latter you obviously have men who think women are more valuable to them if they have never had sex. but in the former category you have (an increasingly mainstream phenomenon of) young men raised on violent and dubious porn who expect their women partners to agree to rough and dangerous sex acts with basically no discussions on safety or consent or anything. this is NOT a critique on S/M sex — frankly mainstream sex culture has a LOT to learn from BDSM culture, which is generally very good at safety and ongoing affirmative consent. but instead of learning those lessons, all that young men took from that culture was “i’m allowed to hit and choke my sex partners with no regard for their safety or desires because i’m a dom.” and then the young women having sex with them — who now think they are now behind their peers or unempowered if they aren’t having any sex, good or not — are engaging in genuinely traumatic sexual encounters for their first time and accepting that as their baseline for good (hot, consensual, safe) sex. not to mention the swaths of underage girls (children) saying stuff like “i can’t wait to turn 18 so i can start an onlyfans!” and having the general response be “she wants this so therefore it is empowering” without ANY internal critical analysis on WHY you want these things and which social forces are pushing you towards them. and suddenly the current progressive culture of hyperindividualism and utter refusal to examine the nuance of anything ever (“everyone’s feelings are valid”) is arguing that all of these trends are, in fact, good, because all of them are technically consensual. and if you talk about any of this people call you a swerf.

[bixels]

I agree; we live in a wildly different public consciousness than the average person. I'll hear about my uncle generating an AI image of his family as the Avengers for Facebook and will say, "that's fun," because I know he's having fun with his family.

But (in response to folks in the notes, not OP) let's not pretend like artists are being unreasonable when we act frustrated or angry. AI memes, fine, whatever, but AI art is not harmless. It's not a topic that artists are removed from and are forcefully inserting ourselves into, we've been unwillingly involved since day one. We know that behind each piece of AI art is a real artist who didn't want this to happen. I have friends whose entire art styles and OCs––fucking OCs––were ripped into a image database, then sold as prompts on AI marketplaces. We have a reason to be mad. Our anger may be counterproductive, but is it apt.

Like it or not, AI art is intrinsically tied to labor politics. It isn't a online-only ideological mini culture war, it's a real problem that's happening in real life to real people.It's just slow enough and quiet enough to not make any big eye-catching waves. It only seems "online-only" because that's where the majority of people have the easiest, most direct contact with the artists who are affected and raising discourse. Just because discourse is happening online doesn't mean it's inconsequential in real life. It doesn't seem real to your average person because art is widely perceived as a "get a real job" hobby, not a viable career that's tied to labor politics or a passion that deserves respect or protection. Take it from an artist who has the great fortune (/s) of attending a tech school. Someone who doesn't know about this and ends up getting blasted will think you're insane. But let's not pretend like getting angry about people fueling an unfair situation that's affecting our livelihoods is insane too.

the thing about ai art is that to most normal, not-overly-online people, its just a little internet gimmick for them to play around with, akin to flash games or funny videos. if you see someone trying it and you come into their inbox telling them they are a horrible person who wants to starve artists, without first explaining the hundred tumblr soundbites and mini culture wars youve immersed yourself in to get to that conclusion, they are probably going to think you are fucking insane

[aeslinnreads]

"There is a paradox in powerlessness. Collectivised, articulated and represented, powerlessness can become powerful. This is not in itself a bad thing. But with new power comes new difficulties and new responsibilities."

The Right to Sex (Amia Srinivasan)

[vagisil]

[zeroground]

★

Tai OFICIALU.

P0RNPOLITIK IS WHAT HAPPENS

When Psychedelic Judaism can't find GODS

in

Taoist sexology.

★

p.s.

Tumbler, Milk some Angels to make more money.

★

PROPHESY

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

You don't take book recommendations, but would you give some? Any good non-fiction books you could suggest?

wow no further specifications? just any nonfiction book I've ever liked? hell yeah. fuck yes. here are some I've enjoyed recently, a word which here means "any time in my adult life."

How to Read Now, Elaine Castillo

From Here to Eternity: Traveling the World to Find the Good Death, Caitlin Doughty

Dear Senthuran: A Black Spirit Memoir, Akwaeke Emezi

Africa Is Not a Country: Notes on a Bright Continent, Dipo Faloyin

Hunger, Roxane Gay

High on the Hog: A Culinary Journey from Africa to America, Jessica B. Harris

We Do This 'Til We Free Us: Abolitionist Organizing and Transforming Justice, Mariame Kaba edited by Tamara K. Nopper

Raw Dog: The Naked Truth About Hot Dogs, Jamie Loftus

I'm Glad My Mom Died, Jennette McCurdy

The Right to Sex: Feminist in the Twenty-First Century, Amia Srinivasan

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Booklist: Seduction, Allure, & Sensuality

Unbound: A Woman's Guide to Power by Kasia Urbaniak 

Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer 

Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power by Carolyn Elliott

Yes, Mistress: Why Men Crave Female Domination by Alicia Zadig

Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés

Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski 

Bitch: On the Female of the Species by Lucy Cooke 

The Right to Sex: Feminism in the Twenty-First Century by Amia Srinivasan 

Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women  by Susan L. Edelman 

All About Love: New Visions by Bell Hooks

For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach 

VIVE LA DIFFERENCE: A FRENCHMAN'S PERSPECTIVE ON AMERICAN WOMEN, LOVE, RESPECT AND RELATIONSHIPS by Guy Blaise

Rethinking Prestige Branding: Secrets of the Ueber-Brands by Wolfgang Schaefer and JP Kuehlwein (you are the luxury brand)

The Luxury Strategy: Break the Rules of Marketing to Build Luxury Brands by Jean-Noël Kapferer (Author), Vincent Bastien 

The Biggest Bluff: How I Learned to Pay Attention, Master Myself, and Win by Maria Konnikova 

[imanes]

doing a lil august reading wrap up because apparently i read 13 (!!) books. in chronological order (bolded are those i recommend):

city of stairs by robert jackson bennett: quite the interesting read. i think the character work in this one is a standout, as well as the world building. the good thing is i have no idea where this trilogy is going so it's exciting. the audiobook for the second book arrives in 2 weeks on my shelves on libby so I'll be reading the sequel soon

braiding sweetgrass by robin wall kimmerer: this one took me a whole entire year to read and finish lol. no comment. or maybe one comment: i think i'd have found this book a lot more eye opening if i had read it three years ago so right book wrong time i guess? i do recommend it i just think it didn't impact me as much as i thought it would

the blighted worlds by megan e. o'keefe: this one hit me like a truck!! i was so obsessed. it's a sci-fi space opera with an element of horror and an interesting romance sub-plot. basically everything i love lmao. i really do recommend this book it might actually be my fave of the month

sanctuary by ilona andrews: i have to stay up to date on all things kate daniels-related to this spin off was high on my tbr. it was a lot of fun but it petered out toward the end

where the dark stands still by a.b. poranek: a bit of a let down not gonna lie. the gist of my opinion is that it felt underdeveloped and in turn i felt under-interested in whatever was going on

shadows of self by brandon sanderson: once again i am begging the protagonists of this series to stop being aggravating

the fractured dark by megan e. o'keefe: continuing my obsession with the devoured worlds trilogy... unfortunately i have to wait on my libby hold to get the audiobook of the next one (i read with my eyeballs and listen at the same time to help with concentration)

the right to sex - feminism in the 21st century by amia srinivasan: i read this book because i know of two people who broke up with their significant other (one of them resulting in a divorce) after reading this book so i had to know what srinivasan had cooked in there and yeah she did cook.

the way of kings by brandon sanderson: just part of my re-read in preparation of the release of wind and truth in December. this month we tackle (again) words of radiance teehee

just for the summer by abby jimenez: womp womp womp. idk what it is with romance authors these days they're in a competition with themselves to portray the healthiest love stories but this one teetered on the wrong side of boring one too many times and the volume to therapy-speech in this one was staggering.

the ex vows by joyce jessica: twas a cute poolside read, it's nothing revolutionary but it was pleasant enough and it didn't make me roll my eyes like just for the summer jdkjgsk at least the love interest had a personality and a life... i mean it's fiction so it's not a life but it appeared as if he contained multitudes or something

funny story by emily henry: I'll go ahead and say it nobody writes a contemporary romance quite like miss henry because she's got the secret recipe for the right balance between heartfelt feelings and amusing situations + her dialogues feel a lot more natural than most (though if i had to nitpick she always has this side character who's a fountain of wisdom and gives you life-changing monologues but i guess such people exist out there)

the thief by megan whalen turner: the megans are really out in full force because this is another book written by a megan that i loved so much. yes half of this book is a fairly episodic journey across made-up countries, yes i ate it up, yes the second half is worth the wait (if you were out of patience, which i wasn't, bc i was having fun) and yes the plot twists are chef's kiss. "gen's ambitions are his own" is the perfect summary. everand has all the audiobooks so you know what I'm gonna do... that's right... listen and read at the same time

as an aside the tandem reads i do with both books and audiobooks happen only when i like the narrators. if i find a narrator i like i stick to them like glue because they're few and far between as far as my picky ass is concerned. i never do romance audiobooks they're the worst...