#3 Mar 20

[mikeywayarchive]

mikeyway: It’s taken me a bit to find the right words for this post. Over ten years ago, I made one of the most important decisions of my life, by getting clean and sober. These little hands helped hold me up, and wouldn’t exist without me taking the leap & changing my life. Thank you to my wife, family and friends for being my support system on this journey. I couldn’t have done it without you. If you’re in the thick of it, hang in there, have faith and stay strong. There’s light on the other side!

[Mar 2, 2024]

[eclectic-sassycoweyes]

Okay. The thing is - we’ll never get everything from this show, we’ll never get to see everything play out. The conversations will always be fractioned and half. It’s a prime time network show that gives us 45 minutes of screen time each episode spread out between a whole cast of characters and plot lines and action sequences.

And my point with that is: Everything outside of what we see in canon is >us< filling in the blanks, interpreting and basically finishing the characters and the storylines.

If you dislike a character or storyline, a large amount of what you dislike will be of your own making. Which means that you created that negative take, only to be negative about it.

If a character isn’t giving all their background and reasons, or isn’t providing what you find to be a sufficient apology for what you believe is a ‘wrong doing’ then that’s you deciding that their reasons were bad instead of valid. You deciding to go ‘I hate this character bc they didn’t apologize’ instead of going ‘I trust that this character apologized but I hate that we didn’t get to see it’ or even ‘I hate that they wrote this character as not apologizing’.

And like. Just because I love these characters and this show or a certain storyline doesn’t mean I think we can’t be critical of it. And it doesn’t mean I expect everyone else to love anything or everything about it. And mostly with this negativity for negativity’s sake, it just makes me think ‘well people are weird’.

Because I literally don’t get watching a show you don’t like and then spending time posting about it using that show’s fandom tags, or painting a character in a bad light just so you can feel negative about it. I don’t get going for drama and negativity when you can go for joy. I get criticizing or even hating the writing, talking about writing that might be problematic, and not resonating with the way a storyline or a character is written, but I don’t get hating a Character that is, in fact, not real and can never be fully fleshed out in a show like this.

But the problem is also when these takes either:

1.) are meant for and created to deliberately reach into other people’s place of joy and create drama.

And, even more so, 2.) when they are racist, ableist, misogynistic in nature and thus are doing real harm to real people. Which, is in fact very much the case when TK is called a ‘twink’ and that term is meant as derogatory or his addiction is being used against him; when Carlos isn’t being emphasized with at all, and attempted to be understood for his reasons, feelings and actions, or isn’t allowed to have complicated, ‘negative’ emotions but is expected to be there to be TK’s ever perfect and present support rock; when Iris is being called words like crazy, or other derogatory terms and her illness or trauma isn’t acknowledged, or she’s being painted stereotypically and as an un-nuanced character bc of her mental illness.

And I don’t get it bc we literally see TK being strong for and supporting Carlos several times in canon. We see Carlos developing and working on his insecurities, educating himself on addiction to best be there for TK. We are told where those insecurities come from. We saw TK’s struggles with active addiction. We literally saw Carlos’ dad being shot in his own home wearing the tux he was supposed to wear as Carlos’ best man, just when their relationship and old wounds were on the mend, heard his mother, who watched it happen, scream down the line while on the phone with Carlos, who also heard it happen. We don’t see anybody but Carlos seeking justice, and we still see Carlos making an effort to spend quality time with TK and communicate openly with him. And we saw TK going to bed without his husband not for the first time, knowing that he’s in pain and that grief has previously let him to feel alone and to close up and end up in a dangerous and unhealthy place, where TK couldn’t reach him or help him. We know that there is past trauma and experience for TK that will make him recognize patterns and make him worry for both Carlos’ wellbeing, and for their marrriage.

And, we see them loving, caring for and forgiving each other through it all. We see a relationship with two people who are not always right, not always perfect, but who are doing the best they can and being by each other’s sides through that. We see nuanced and realistic conflicts with root in both of their trauma. [And loving one character and trusting their judgement but not trusting their love and evaluation of the other is just very difficult for me to understand.]

Everything apart from that, the thoughts, feelings and motivations we assign them, the moments, conversations and apologies we imagine or don’t imagine to have taken place, how two characters came from having a conflict to saying ‘I love you’/‘I forgive you’, or to being friends and dancing at a wedding, what lead characters to say “I’ll keep a light on”/“I feel like we’re starting to drift apart”/“we’re doing great”, what else they might have said, and what they might have felt in that situation, is stuff we make up and put into the story. And so it is up to us whether we try and understand and love these characters or whether we want to make them into bad people, and then hate them for it.

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[noonaracha]

Since my last post before moving was innie birthday, I think it will be fitting to make my first post jinnie bday

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[mar-the-magician]

It’s moon day!!

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HE'S BACKKKKKK

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u guys i know i made 10 posts about this yesterday but i am literally still so upset about my football team losing i’m never getting over this in my life n they’re not getting to another final for atleast another 6 years this was the best season they’ve had since 2017 i’m SICK

[helshades]

Aurélien Pradié, ancien vice-président du groupe L.R. à l'Assemblée nationale, a annoncé ce matin en direct d'Europe 1 son intention de voter la motion de censure transpartisane du LIOT. Il dit co-signer avec « une quinzaine » d'autres députés du groupe Les Républicains. Peut-être pas suffisant pour que la motion passe mais leurs électeurs s'en souviendront probablement aux prochaines législatives...

[xx-emowarz-xx]

I want to say— big anthems I PERSONALLY remember from ~the era~ some of which may be more numetal than emo but were big in my sceneo at least

Red jumpsuit apparatus — you know the one it’s a bad song. Face Down.

3 days grace— literally anything. Hate maybe?

Linkin park— entire discography, but numb I guess

The limp biscuit cover of behind blue eyes lmao

Papa roach — you know, last resort

30 seconds to Mars… this is war?

How mainstream are we going— songs like, death cab 4 qt’s plans tracks?

Sorry, I also wish I was a cooler preteen with better taste in angsty music

Oh God you're right. I personally also remember 3 days grace as well but Idk if they were emo necessarily I loved them so they could be I just know my friends weren't into them. Same with Limp Bizkit, Like I love Limp Bizkit but werent they a little earlier than that. I thought they were 90s but I wasn't a 90s kid so I could be wrong. But Papa Roach and 30 seconds to mars I'm biting myself for not remembering I'm so fake lmao. Red Jumpsuit apparatus has to be on there, they have to be. As for how mainstream we're getting I think I'm gonna include DONTTRUSTME by 3oh!3 idk how mainstream that was because I was like 12 but.

Anyway. Questions comments snide remarks.

[lannisterdaddyissues]

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[mikeywayarchive]

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