#2020 posting schedule

[anistarrose]

Respectfully: yes, of course being sex-positive is incredibly important, but you know what's equally important? Being sex-positive without being fucking aphobic. It's not a herculean task at all; I see aspec and allo people alike who are absolutely able to do both successfully. But it does require a bare minimum amount of critical thinking.

You can defend kink at pride without saying or implying that sex is what makes us human, or that sex is a requisite for the "true" queer experience. You can talk about the indescribable value of gay bars without accusing anyone who isn't interested in them of being either a prude, creepy and antisocial, or a "boring virgin." You can stop arguing that any given queer person or group of queer people you dislike (perhaps even within reason) would be more progressive and less reactionary if they had more sex (and yes, this is a real take I've had to see on this website).

You can, and urgently, should stop pretending that sex negativity as a cultural force is caused by ace people — instead of you know, caused by cultural conservativism and cultural Christianity. And on the flip side, you can stop with that thing where you act sex-positive until you see an aroallo person wanting to have sex without a romantic (closed, nuclear) relationship — and suddenly, throwing all sex positivity out the window as you decide that they're a freak and a manipulator and evil incarnate. (Yes, you need to be kinder to even the cisgender heterosexual aromantic men. That particular discourse encapsulates the feedback loop between arophobia and radfem-lite beliefs, by the way, which is another thing the queer community here is horrible at avoiding in its rhetoric.)

So: sex positivity includes aro-spec allosexuals, who need it for precisely the above reason — because alloromantics demonize them otherwise. And sex positivity includes ace-specs who need it just to talk about their experiences, without getting called inappropriate for merely acknowledging sex out loud, let alone their own relationship with sexual desire.

(Have you already forgotten one of the biggest aphobe talking points in 2016? That aces acknowledging their identity in any capacity were "oversharing," and making people "uncomfortable" — and god forbid you ever mentioned asexuality to a minor?)

At its core, sex positivity includes accepting people can have morally neutral relationships with sex that you wouldn't personally want — and maybe even ones that might make you uncomfortable. And so much of this website seems perfectly able to understand this — or at least, preach this — until the second an ace or aro person shows up.

You're not allowed to exclude us from this movement. You're not allowed to twist this movement's intent to put us down. Kill this new wave aphobia in 2023 or so help me. We're not letting this community do this again.

[icewindandboringhorror]

Little bright colored outfit with a fun vest ~

(shoes from ebay like 10 years ago. everything else is thrifted)

[bad-startrek-aus-unofficial]

guys we missed the Bell Riots

[timely-nobi]

🍉 °○•.☆.•○° 🍉

Doraemon story of seasons (Nintendo switch game, 2020)

YAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYA I FINALLY GOT MY HANDS ONTHE U.S VERSION AND A SWITCH LITE AND ITLL ARRIVE BEFORE MY BIRTHDAY YAYAYAYA

[blade0fgrass]

hey she looks like that girl from arknights

[yyshcul]

i gotta be real for a sec.......... i have been kind of bored of my own characters lately and i find it hard to bring myself to draw or write about them at the moment no matter what i do ;__; i hope it's just my regular october-february depression or the state of my physical health atm and not part of a bigger problem LOL

also i gotta start working on new uni projects soon which is why there will be bigger breaks between my art posts !! xoxo

[zerotosixty]

Kalle Rovanperä and Jonne Halttunen after securing their second world championship title — 2023 Central European Rally

[hongtonie]

i think the video of hongjoong creating matz where it’s 90% in a hotel room instead of in his actual studio speaks volumes

[writinginthesecrettrees]

So… in the week leading up to the 2024 election, this blog is gonna be going heavy on the “the lesser evil is still LESS EVIL” and “for fuckssake, GO VOTE” posts. Because i am scheduling every single one i see between like 6 months ago and the 2024 election to post at that time.

[lokigodofaces]

I'm in the process of watching aos s6 for the first time, and i knew daisy & jemma got high, but it was so ridiculously funny when davis was waaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyy high

[not-enough-eyes]

Im being so genuinely serious when I say this lesbians need 2 start being hornier on main - outside of Tumblr [and even on tumblr tbh] bisexuals, gay men, straight women, straight men etc can start talking abt their sexual escapades no problem but anytime a lesbian starts talking abt how she wants 2 get it on w another woman suddenly were all puritans clutching our pearls - let lesbians talk abt how they wanna fuck nasty !!! They deserve it !!!!!!

[every-sanji]

Woah this little project has been going on for 3 years now! A little crazy that I've managed to keep this thing running but I am nothing if not committed to the bit. Thank you to everyone who has been here since day one and everyone who has followed along more recently in this journey to post every single Sanji! Here's to three more years 🥂

[purplesoup-lad-le]

Mr. Sweeny portrait from the Keeper Sexyman polls of 2024.

[swampycreatures]

[timely-nobi]

⛵️ °○•.☆.•○° ⛵️

Nobita's New dinosaur (2020 remake)

[crossbackpoke-check]

about to be sooo nosy so. my apologies. but. morgan frost? girlfriend? do share (or don’t! again this is so nosy i’m sorry)

for legal purposes i can neither confirm nor deny anything about morgan and his girlfriend but afaik i think he’s single right now? at one point (within the past four years 😭) he did for sure have a girlfriend and that is the extent of my wag knowledge