#20 year old advice

[supernattyoblog]

How to Build Wealth in Your 20s

[cj-marj]

How to express a cute brotherly relationship between two grown men? :3

[biancabelairs]

oh my god lmao

[forcebookish]

ok i'm finally watching only boo ep9 ('s scenes with shone) and is this really what people were mad at shone about? oh my god...? didn't moo sign a contract that said he wouldn't date while he was a trainee????? am i not remembering that correctly?

[amtrak12]

Sobbing because I actually managed to track down the Dreamwidth back up of the LJ writing meta posts I owe so much too T_T

The writer's username was synecdochic and here is their table of contents for ALLLL of their writing meta from back in the mid-2000s.

I already edited my earlier meta posts with the link, but the essays I remember in particular were:

Structure, Complexity, and Hidden Themes

The Embryonic Novel

Point of View

But also Building Your Imaginary Friends, The implied contract with the reader, Flaws and quirks, Identifying and Mimicking style, Hidden character motivations -- just all of them. All of their essays are incredible. Their theater background drives their approach to story-crafting and it made things click for me that other writing advice sources just couldn't. Highly, highly, HIGHLY recommend checking them out if you're a writer/aspiring writer.

[thisselflovecamebacktome]

Thinking about "I know my pain is such an imposition" and "How long could we be a sad song?" in relation to the bigger picture of how society sees mental health challenges, and like as part of that, how I dealt with my own in my 20s again.

[roaringroa]

they should make a life where you don't have appointments, work, school and scheduled events every single day for months on end

[theovergrowth]

Let’s talk about the styles of Fae Courts and how they work in my head, and also Archfae Advisors (because I’ve been thinking. pretty obsessively about it recently)

Fae Courts and Style

I think that when Titus goes to the fae deserts, it’s very much in this theme of “old west cowboy” energy, with an environment that seems heaviky reminiscent of the deserts of the US Southwest. But I think when Macrides was a kid there, it was much more of a desert like the Sahara with a theme more fitting for a fantasy setting.

I think that the courts manifest themselves physically based on whoever rules over them at that point. Korgrove, Macrides’ father, definitely fit more into a dark fantasy setting so the Deserts took that inspiration. When Macrides became king and subsequently fled into the mortal realm, it took on a more “American Frontier” style as he started becoming influenced by the frontiersmen he would see/interact with in the beginnings. And then it just barely shifted over to the old west energy when Titus became king; not because he’s particularly attached to the old west or anything, but because it’s how he imagined wherever Macrides had come from.

Archfae Advisors

This is just sort of a silly idea I had that just really rooted itself in my brain. But I don’t think that far royalty would have actual advisors. There’s too much room for subterfuge, too much importance placed on the solitary power of each courts throne, so how do you get around that?

Well, people can’t be trusted. So they don’t use people.

I think that when an archfae is created, they do so with a demi-being that is created from The Wilds and based on the archfae in question, that Only They Can See. Like a narrator or a Jiminy Cricket that pops up from time to time. For example:

Korgrove’s advisor was a mouse, discreet and calculating, the fur around its mouth matted with the still-fresh blood of its children.

Macrides’ advisor as King of the High Desert was a coyote, sharp teeth and sharper awareness. It never exactly spoke to him, but would lead him places he needed to go (maybe it was even the reason Macrides noticed Titus leaving the commune before his death, maybe maybe)

As King of the Wildfire, Macrides advisor is still the coyote, now bone-thin and smoldering like a dying ember. It bares it’s teeth at every motion, but still leads him where he needs to go. He still follows (i was so so tempted to make it a burning tumbleweed like the vegie tales moses, yall remember that? Moe and the big exit, anyone? ok ill go)

I think that Titus has no clue because his just looks like a guy. And, as Titus changes and grows, the advisor changes with him! But I do think Titus believes he is being haunted for a while.

I think Titus doesn’t meet his advisor until he dies the first time as The Overgrowth. And also it probably caused that. When he sees it the first time, it’s in the treeline, a shadow, a vision of smoke that distracts him as the destruction flies against his head.

In his teen years, I don’t think he sees it at all since this is the time he’s most disconnected from The Wilds. Which gives him enough time to completely forget the strange experience until he runs away.

When Titus is on the road, he stops at camp sites and rest stops and gas stations, and every once in a while he sees this same weird crustpunk dude that he had seen a month ago across the country. At some point, he asks for a ride to another state. Titus refuses at first, but then decides to help out. They drive, the crustpunk in the passenger seat asking him questions and talking for hours about how people don’t understand the beauty that nothing stays forever, that they don’t appreciate the fleeting joys this world has to offer, that everything will always change and grow and die and grow. Titus, largely ignoring the rambling, pulls up to the destination, looks out his side mirror to make sure his parking is good, and looks up to find himself entirely alone. He’s pretty sure that’s ghosts.

But I think the crustpunk advisor keeps showing up the same way, up until Titus settles in Shotgun NV in his 30’s. I haven’t decided what the advisor looks like by then

[pennielane]

in my brief absence from here i’ve managed to fall in love with a man 11 years older than me

[clonerightsagenda]

Sure, getting stabbed in the ass by a middle schooler is embarrassing, but I don't think that's the real root of Lockwood and Kipps' antipathy, especially as Kipps tries to warn Lucy off by telling her that the people around Lockwood always die. That implies he knows about the Jessica thing, and considering her parents moved in Fittes' circles, and they would've been similar ages... maybe they knew each other. Maybe he was one of the agents who reported to the scene. Lockwood likely resents everyone who knows, and Kipps may not be impressed by how he handled and continues to handle it, especially given although this person is only mentioned once, Lucy was hired to replace someone who died. Ofc this would add some irony to Kipps nearly dying in the exact same room. The man should've stuck to his guns.

[b1u3-j4y]

Had to delete Tumblr to clear space, but I’m back for now.

Serious question though, and would really appreciate if anyone has any advice or could help.

On April 25th, I was banned from my Tiktok account @.bluej4y_ for being “under the age of 13”. I had sent an appeal using my COLLEGE ID as the facial thing didn’t think I was 20 years old. :/ (I get enough of that from other adults and my doctors). I have sent countless emails and messages in app and have gotten NO REPLIES. I just made an X/Twitter account and tried there. I’m really reaching with my contact methods here. I can’t be patient when I only have so many days till it’s permanently deleted. I have very important videos in my drafts from when my dog was a puppy and we were fostering in his siblings. Those videos mean a lot to me and I will be so upset if I lose them because Tiktok can’t get It’s crap together.

So please, if anyone has any advice on how best to contact them about this whole thing, or even how to get my account back, it would be so appreciated 😭

[shoveitevil]

im seeing so many bad takes on this site oml

[50stressballs]

Okay, fellow disabled folks who get hot flashes, does anyone have any ACTUAL advice for dealing with them? Every time I try to look it up Google thinks I’m a 60 year old post menopausal woman and tells me to call my grandkids and use a fucking douche or something

[prettyboykatsuki]

hey…,that long ass ask i sent…was i anonymous if not can u like lowkey not show my account😔😔 i have an embarrassing amount of porn saved there also can u pretend u didn’t see it but still if u could perhaps maybe do give me advice still😔😔 sorry if i sound insane my little pookie bear it’s 3 am where i’m at i’m sleep deprived

shorty im fucking crying. i do sympathize with you but ur probably asking the wrong person. im also a youth and i commute to community college. i have been to a few parties (friends w plugs) but i did a lot of my wild shit when i was much too young to be doing it so im not at all concerned about the college experience i fear

im a very solitary person in general so i just have my small group of friends i see once in a while and thats it. i cant tell you whats normal and whats not but i do think the experience of being kind of lonely in your twenties is much more normal than you think. we live in an individualized society and finding community is difficult.

also dont sleep w anyone unless you trust them no matter how horny u r tho. a good sex toy will help u.

[eonars]

also while im here reminiscing about that era of my life when i was like 19/20 a slightly older guy who was friend of friends/bandmate of friends suddenly made this big public thing of Showing Interest In Me and i didn’t really know what to do/had a crippling fear of coming off as shallow or a bitch at the time so i figured ok we can hang out and see what happens? even though thinking of him romantically actually makes me gag, dont wanna give off a vibe that im overly looks focused! but right off the bat he was like oh ive never seen you cry that’s so weird to me you’re so repressed i would LOVE to see you just completely break down sometime i’d be so honored to see it, just let yourself break down, you’re like my little pet project i just want to fix you and make you love yourself, show me your SH scars i wanna see them etc etc and i tried super hard to be like ohhhh i dont think im ready to date actually i dont think this is a good time for me thank you for understanding and he’d just be like THAT’S OK. I’LL WAIT. and for the life of me i couldn’t turn him down in a way he understood until finally one time at a house party i was having he sexually propositioned my roommate and when she was like hey what the fuck what about [My Name] he scoffed and was like oh that ships sailed and then called me damaged goods like BRO???? YOU’RE THE ONE WHO DAMAGED THE GOODS???

[mejomonster]

Trying to date makes me so sad...