#-I want to see this but gay/trans/whatever- is also valid! Just be normal about what it actually is!

[akpaleyreblogs]

Sometimes you see people on the internet say shit and you're like... You realize "interesting dynamic" is not like an inherently gay thing, right? You realize heterosexual relationships are allowed to be interesting and emotionally complex and even queer? You realize this is true even if everyone involved is straight? Like I get hating the standard straight romance tropes, I mostly do too, but. Uh.

[henrioo]

Hiii, since i’ve nothing to do and I love rambling, I’ll ramble abt how much I appreciate your writing.

When i first installed tumblr, i was already attacked by she/hers in fanfics (😥😥). Tbh i was tired of fem blogs, thinking everyone is fem or idk . You’re the first one piece blog i actually like. Whenever i want, i can just re-read your blog’s fics and others. I really like your account !! ^_^ finally a good one piece blog, the others aren’t really safe tbh. Like those who wrotes ‘gn!reader’ but hit you with ‘good girl, wife etc..’ or those who feminized ftm!reader.. like tf… anyway live laugh love your account (its really entertaining !!)

— SOSO’S

YES I LOVE RAMBLING TOO THIS BLOG HAVE MORE ME RUMBLING THAN STORIES PLEASE RUMBLE WITH ME

Yeah ik, honestly i know Tumblr before I even think about myself like a trans person, so having fem content didn't bother me at all at that time

But when I got back here last year I realized how much fem content exists, but I was like "nha it's fine, we still have some gn content I will be fine"

Spoilers, I didn't get fine

It's so rare to have real neutral content in gn content that this makes me so frustrated that when I started my blog, I always got this on writing "if you can't find or it's not good enough for you, then make yourself"

And I did and I went pretty fine I guess, at least my gn are really neutral I hope hahaha

But day by day got me more and more frustrated and my dysphoria was getting worse because I was missing having some real valid male content

I need my favorite look at me and say "I love you like a man, like a boyfriend, I want you to be my husband, the father of my children"

I need to read that they also see me like a man.

And then I went to look for male content and well, things can really be worse the deeper you go

And then I realized that male content here is a totally red flag and basically a big NO

Amab or afab doesn't matter, they all gonna treat you like a super shy delicate boy

You're always gonna be the bottom, and if you are the top then the bottom will be a FTM reader (why can't you top a cis man?)

You're always gonna be feminized and like panties and pink and nicknames to shame you like princess and whatever

The worst for me was seeing that most of that stuff was writing of male writers

Like, you are hating your own identity?

I'm sorry if you like to be some weird femboy that likes to be treated like a woman and a slave

But I'm sure most masc people (cis, trans, NB etc) genuinely don't like that

It's totally fine you wanting someone to validate your gender, regardless of the gender okay? That's why cis women like to be called princess and stuff

But seriously, this just makes my dysphoria really bad because omg can't nobody write just a normal male reader? It's not an alien, we are human like everyone, it's like they write about male like they never interacted with a man in their whole life?

Do you guys know that romantic and platonic relationship between gays are basically the same as a couple of lesbian or straight people? Right? We are not different from anyone

Ofc gays have their own fights but like??? Are you getting? Idk how to explain better

Then again the hit "make yourself" and that's what I'm making lol, I have a lot of hiatus due my mental condition, I'm not gonna lie about that

But I'm always doing my best to have more stories here, maybe I won't give you guys new stories every week, maybe I will take some good months on the ask, maybe I will disappear and get back

But I'm not planning on giving up on this project so soon

Writing male stories is healing not only you guys, but me, really healing me

And that's why I won't stop, I want to write about a lot of things, some stories I will talk about more serious things like dysphoria or homophobia because I think it is fair we have good stories talking about this

I want to write about comfort, about angst, about grief, about transitions, I want to write about children readers and happy families

I want to write for FTM boys, NB boys, cis boys

I want platonic, romantic, nsfw, angst, long, short

I want all

Because I think we deserve that, and if I have the power to do then I will do

And see that not only me is being healed by my blog is always what give more determination to continue

Like I said, maybe not as fast as we all wanted, but I'm promise I'm here and I'm not leaving soon

Okay I talked a lot lol hahahah well thanks for that

I'm always happy to see you guys enjoying here, it really makes me happy, so make yourself welcome and enjoy!

[vyachki]

change my mind — gay clubs do more harm than good and just make us look like degenerates in the eyes of the hets. idgaf if this makes me sound like a #gaysfortrump member.

I have several opinions about this, thank you for asking!

Firstly, I don't see a problem with gay people doing what they want in privately owned establishments like clubs/bars, whether that be dancing, drinking, making out with strangers, or even fucking. Emphasis on "privately owned", because what people do consensually behind closed doors shouldn't be anyone's business. BUT it also should stay behind closed doors. I personally love going to gay bars to drink & dance & sometimes meet men, but I've never been to a leather/kink/sex club & don't think I want to (not trying to catch anything lol).

Secondly, I dislike the idea of gay men being conscious of our behaviour to "appease the heterosexuals". Straight people do freaky, nasty shit too. Strip clubs / gentlemen's clubs exist; heterosexual men act degenerate all the time, and mostly in public! However, they are the majority & het sex will always be considered more "normal" & palatable. As a minority group, I understand the feeling about wanting to "behave" in order to fit in, but I feel it's a bit more nuanced than that.

I don't agree that clubs/bars (i.e. privately owned establishments) are what's doing more harm, but I think it's more how LGBT-identified people are acting now in general. For example, the public debauchery we see happening at Pride events—the public nudity, fetish & kink on display, sexually suggestive/explicit dancing & language, minors present?? etc. People do this shit and then scream homophobia/transphobia when straight people are disgusted & want nothing to do with it.

It goes beyond Pride too—we have "queer" people out here straight up bullying others to validate their identities, the creation of neo/xeno-pronouns & micro-identities, trans people denying biology & forcing their way into opposite sex spaces, trans people guilting/trapping mostly homosexuals for validation & sex (=r*pe), MAPs (p*dophiles) & zoophiles aligning themselves with the LGBTQ+ acronym, the deplatforming & terrorising of women who talk about sex-based oppression... and that's just what I can think of right now.

I'm not a prude & I understand how desperate people are for acceptance, and to be honest, the liberal gays would most definitely call me a #GayForTrump (whatever tf that means) for merely pointing this all out. On Tumblr I've already been sent detailed violent messages & death threats for speaking up for same-sex attracted people & detransitioners... mostly by... (wait for it)... the far-left queers! Weird.

People don't seek out nuance anymore, and we're stuck with people on both the right & left sides of the political spectrum screaming that their opinion is the only correct one & if you don't agree with them, you should die. Plus not to mention the overall decline of reading comprehension & understanding of logic in general. I just mourn how homosexual acceptance in society was progressing in such a good way in the 2000-2010s... and then we got to where we are now. Like... the fuck?

[kirindensetsu]

I don't have enough followers to play this game but I want to answer the question because I so stringently avoid thinking about my disability despite being real Too Crazy To Work.

1. I learned about Mad Pride in like.. 2016? But did not vibe with it because too therapized? And general Disability Pride sometime after that.

2. Hangin' out by myself in my big empty house with nooooo people! No covering, just vibes.

3. Big sunglasses. Too much length or intensity of sun exposure makes my psychosis worse. Also I get migraines without them but those are less bad than than my psychiatric symptoms.

4. No, they are perfect as they are, thank you Julbo and Savile Row.

5. I think? im good?

6. I mean nobody thinks the sunglasses are a disability aid they just think I'm a little Matrix/Trigun/Hellsing/etc freak.

7. I can't answer this because I don't have a community 🫠 I'm gay and trans but I don't go to that Pride either because I am too existentially Alone and it makes me sad.

8. *writhes sideways under the weight of my internalized ableism*

9. No, they always fucking suck. It's always "But you're so [smart/talented/whatever]!" And "Well [so and so] has bipolar and they can--" yeah, I know, I KNOW, every day I have to not think about it or I'll kill myself.

10. One time I had to go for an EEG to see why I was having seizures and the neurologist was my dad's shitty therapist's daughter and she looked at me and told me that there's no meaningful separation between software and hardware and when I think that way I'm just beating myself up.

11. Yes. Psychosis is mostly just the brain finding patterns where there are none but sometimes you and a stranger can get pulled into the same pattern if you have the same seed stimulus and a shared culture/mythology. Also validating to get clocked as a wolf sometimes.

12. White. I identify more with invisibility than with mental illness because I'm not in treatment and my whole life is structured to prevent anyone else from interacting with my symptoms in any way.

13. It's BORING. I spend so much time WAITING IT OUT.

14. Paralyzing fear of the dark in psychosis! I have two modes: "superior night vision, fearless, midnight hikes by starlight" and "the night is full of Horrors I must cover all reflective surfaces please walk me to the toilet"

15. This is dumb, but motion-sensor lightbulbs are extremely helpful to me. An extra layer of reality-checking help.

16. I want to hunt men for sport across the moors.

17. Tylenol and antihistamines.

18. My disability headcanon is that bipolar people have access to shrimp colors a la Van Gogh, I know that's not what you meant but that's how I'm gonna answer

19. New York State Psychiatric Institute babeeeeeey but there was no interacting, just being

20. I wish my IRL life contained more disabled people so someone could have told me that my attempts to ~*overcome*~ my disability were unrealistic but here we are. I spent seven years in undergrad and two doing extra grad school pre-reqs in order to....not be able to work any job because I can't act normal three days in a row! yay!

Disability pride month ask game!

When did you learn about disability pride month/when did you start celebrating it?

Are you doing anything special to celebrate disability pride month?

Do you use any disability aids?

If you have disability aids, do you decorate them?

If you don’t have disability aids, are there any that you would like to have?

Is there anything you consider a disability aid that others may not think of?

What do you love about the disabled community?

Is there anyone you look up to in the community?

Have you had any ableist encounters that were just kinda funny?

Have you had encounters where abled people were great allies to you?

Have you had a nice encounter with a fellow disabled person?

Which stripes of the disability pride flag do you identify with?

What’s something you wish people understood about being disabled?

What’s a symptom you have that you feel is underrepresented?

What would you have in your dream accessible home?

Do you play, or do you want to play, any kind of accessible sport?

What tips have you picked up for low spoon days?

Do you have any disabled headcanons?

Have you ever been somewhere where a majority of the people there were disabled?

Ramble about anything you like!

[rookedonafeeling]

“The negative consequences of the takeover of media by children’s stories are, I think, in part an expression of what happens when people find themselves in spaces where they can egg each other on and deny the value of restraint. But this is really a story of smaller communities, and there the consequences are more personally severe. Not to again bash a network I used to use and frequently found useful, but Tumblr exemplifies the internet’s tendency to push people into more and more extreme versions of every position that’s popular within their subcultures. You can certainly see this in the competitive social justice posturing that went on to infect Twitter and the world, where the actual righteous purpose of increasing equality and justice became subservient to the demand to express that purpose in an arcane vocabulary and with performative conviction. But I think the fandom world is the purest expression of all of this: what Tumblr consistently does is to take people with normal, deep, passionate attachment to a given movie or show or musician, and transform that into a pathological and parasocial dependence. Tumblr takes people who daydream about the characters in their favorite shows and makes them people who cut themselves in order to contain their emotions about them. I’ve gotten really, really, really into the characters and stories in my favorite books, in my life, and I understand that the impulse is both beguiling and dangerous. All you can do is pull yourself back from it when you can tell you’re in too deep, when you can’t fall asleep at night. What Tumblr and similar communities do is to provide you with someone who will always tell you, “don’t pull back, keep going, go deeper.” The site is littered with people talking about how they have developed attachments to fictional characters that are actively harmful to their regular lives. This drives both their sense that they are truer fans than anyone else and also Tumblr’s business model.

You can see this sort of thing, not just at Tumblr but increasingly everywhere, in the positively violent emotional attachment “fandom” people have to their favorite pairings. They will assert the supremacy of a particular couple - often gleefully unrelated to the actual plot of the source material, like Harry Potter and Snape or whatever - and become incredibly animated when someone denies the legitimacy of that pairing or asserts the superiority of another. The pairing off of of characters unconnected in canon goes back a long way, to the original “slash” communities, and is not at all unhealthy in and of itself. These “one true pairings” are fun and healthy, so long as they’re kept in proper perspective, as all things must be. Similarly, there’s the constant tendency to declare that certain characters are “coded” as gay, or queer, or trans, or similar. This too is unobjectionable, if expressed as a provisional claim. But a lot of these fans don’t want any of this to be considered provisional. The pairing they advance is the right pairing. The character they think is gay is gay, no matter how much or how little evidence there is in the text. And they tend to become very upset if anyone suggests otherwise. In literary terms, a reading that two particular characters would be a great pairing, or that there are subtextual hints that they have a romantic or sexual connection, or that they’re queer, is no more or less valid than any other. But the least valid literary reading is always the one that insists that there are no other valid readings, and this is exactly what predominates in those spaces.”

[sniffanimal]

Gender? I barely know- anyways talking gender stuff under that v

When it comes to gendered terms for myself I've gotten a lot less caring but in a way that almost wraps back around to caring. Like on one hand sure just use whatever neutral terms/pronouns for me like anything other than man/woman she/him type stuff but using explicitly third-gendered terms for me feels weird as hell. Stuff like 'princex' or 'auncle' or 've/ver' or something is weird because like.... I don't know I feel distinctly outside of the existence of gender in a way that coming up with New Gender Words does not honor for me. I like they/them and stuff like 'person' 'cousin' etc. Like words you would use to either be inclusive of many genders or you would use when you are unsure of the gender of the person you're talking to. I'm not a third-fourth-nth new gender, I'm saying you can't gender me in a way that matters.

And all that is like unlockable content for meeting me because I would rather strangers either be unsure of my gender or err on the side of male. Most things associated with femininity are very uncomfortable to me in the kind of [insert entire college gender theory class here] way that femininity is seen as something that one drop of feminizes the whole thing. Without writing an entire essay of a post, think about how it's generally less of a social taboo for women to engage with masculinity than it is for men to engage with femininity. Something like wearing skirts or baubles in my hair feels like I'm wearing a big Venus symbol on my head instead of being something minor that even cis masculine men do. If that makes sense. It probably doesn't.

This is the most I've opined about gender in a while. Being post-op and three years on hormones and having the thinky thoughts about What Is My Goal Here and realizing that my body is about as good as it's gonna get for me for now, and now I have to unfortunately engage with the social aspects of gender more now that I definitely don't look Cis in any meaningful way. I like looking trans but unfortunately that comes with consequences, the most minor of which is cis people making me explain being trans and nonbinary to them.

And oh god don't get me started on the cis idea of the nonbinary monolith. Their little heads explode when I say the person I described NOT being at the top of this post and I are both nonbinary in completely normal and valid ways.

I guess while nonbinary is the accurate description for my gender, I see it as more of a political ideal. My gender is transgender and the way I feel sociopolitically about that is nonbinary. Capisce?

Oh and I haven't talked about my biggest hill I'll die the biggest death in: straight people can date nonbinary people and still be meaningfully straight and not be invalidating their partners identity (assuming theyve like. Talked about this.) And same goes for gay couples. And like, say a lesbian is dating a nonbinary person. That nonbinary person doesn't even have to also be a lesbian. They can and often are, but like, I think trying to make nonbinary some mythical category that only bisexuals can access is weird and useless. This was a tangent but I felt like reiterating this.

Anyways I'm gonna look into getting a WA state ID tomorrow and then the steps I'd need to get my gender marker changed to M. I don't like that I have to do this, but I don't pass for F at all anymore and I don't want that to cause issues when giving someone my ID. And I refuse to change it to X even though that's legal here, because I refuse to be on a list of legally trans people, although I feel changing my marker anyways probably puts me on that list.

I need to go to bed I'm eeoy and this is getting annoy8!&)6

[rivetgoth]

Honestly being FTM & like. transitioning and passing and living as a man in my daily life but also being visibly GNC is such an isolating experience in the damn community fr. Everyone talks about GNC trans men as monolithically pre-everything. “Support GNC trans men, it’s valid to have boobs! it’s valid to not be on T!” etc etc, while the majority of transitioning trans men are like. Short masc haircuts, masc men’s clothes, talking abt the gym and wanting to be perceived as manly and venting abt their hair growing out too long and often their disdain for femininity tbqh… I’m sorry but there is never ever any space for trans men who are perceived as gender nonconforming/effeminate men. All trans man discourse is either “is it valid to be a trans man who looks like a woman?” or “how do I look more like the most normal cis[het] man ever?” and I never ever ever see space for men who have been on T for years who have undergone surgery and plan to get more who have long hair who wear jewelry who get called faggots by strangers who have full beards who wear women’s clothing. Etc etc etc.

I think in particular being alternative/a rivethead/goth really doesn’t help cuz I do think that goth/industrial male style is pretty unique in that you’re apart of a community FULL of men who are just as nonconforming as you and who often aren’t even “queer”/LGBT, it’s not even necessarily considered GNC in those spaces in the same way it is in mainstream society, like I don’t consider people like Peter Steele or Nivek Ogre or Robert Smith wildly “GNC” really, not to the point that that’s the first way I’d describe them, and none of them are [openly] queer, but I swear to god 99% ov the time when transmasc spaces talk about being “GNC” they include a ton of traits that these guys have… whereas I could not count on both my fingers & toes the amount of guys I see with long hair or jewelry or whatever every single time I go to goth night or a concert or whatever. I passed in goth clubs bathrooms before I passed anywhere else for real like it feels so foreign to see trans guys talk about what constitutes GNC or not when I’m legit often dressed more masculine than my male peers but fall into every single category they consider GNC or fem… I don’t even really consider myself “fem” but I think I’m objectively GNC because of my style and mannerisms, I’m GNC in my behavior even when I’m dressing more masculine in ways that I couldn’t suppress if I tried/I wouldn’t want to anyway, I don’t mind my effeminate mannerisms and I cannot express that not a single one of these effeminate mannerisms stop me from passing, and I’m consistently just read as a gay or effeminate man… except maybe the few times I’ve been mistaken for a trans woman 🤪

IDK. I have the goth community that’s what matters I guess but damn, it’s crazy how something like that can isolate you from the mainstream FTM community so much because there just doesn’t really seem to be a space for transitioning effeminate guys. It’s like, the only option is “gender nonconforming, not passing, and not transitioning” or “gender conforming, passing, and transitioning.” There is never any dialogue for transitioning gender nonconforming men, transitioning men who pass as faggots, trans men who are neither masc or fem, transitioning alternative trans men, etc etc… And I’m sorry but y’all have no real world experience whatsoever if you think “GNC man” can only ever mean “man who is perceived as a woman.”

[vinecine]

That's a man in the picture dressed up as a woman. If you don't know what "trans" mean then don't talk all big. Too many perverts and weirdo men use the trans community or whatever to wiggle their way into female spaces to commit crime. Many pedophiles have already been arested under the "trans" title. Many men identifying as trans (meaning they're fake trans) are being put in female prisons and there commit rape. IF you haven't heard about this or deny it then it's clear you're biased.

A lot of actual trans people have spoken about lgb drop the t, because being trans is not an identity, it's a mental disorder called gender dysphoria. "Lgb" stands for "lesbian, gay, bi" indicating that only 2genders exists. Being trans means you want to pass as either a man or a woman. Identifying as a dog or a cat is mental illness that should be treated as such and professional help should be sought instead of playing along and furthering a person down a hole they might not get out of. The "lgb" community want to drop the "t" because of you posers who think being trans is a cool identity and think there are trillions of genders. You make us lgb and real transexual people look bad and stupid.

And before you mention intersex people, educate yourself that the majority live as the gender they were "given" at birth and they're finw with that. Intersex people are not as many as the rest of the 2genders, it's relatively rare, that is the 2nd reason it's not seen as a third gender(bc it's not as common as the other 2genders).

And the whole thing is an agenda because you're pushing, brainwashing people with lies.

Neopronouns aren't real or a thing. They're made up by mentally ill people who hate and don't want to be themselves. And instead of taking care of their traumas and mental illnesses they live these stupidities. No sane person with eyes and ears will believe or give into your bullshit just to make you feel better about yourself. If this makes you sad or angry or whatever then you're not ready for the real world and reality. Trans women cannot give birth or menstruate because they're biological men and saying otherwise you're spitting in the faces of so many women. He/him and she/her are not made up pronouns, they're used since forever ago by people with common sense. If you use they/them then you normaly talk about someone you've never sen or heard of, meaning, don't know their gender, meaning, non-binary is not real or a thing. Also calling oneself "it" is just plain sad.

Even if you'd put a uterus in a man's body I don't think it would end well for the carrier's body and life. I can bet on money that the body would reject the organ. Also if the man would have a spontaneous abortion, how would he know? He's not going to bleed down there to know for sure. Pain? Pregnant women go through pain like tone pains and it can be either normal or threatening. So in conclusion a lot of men would die from something that they should have never been doing in the first place.

Real trans women will never go into women's spaces if they don't pass because they don't want to make women feel uncomfortable and bad. Those men who don't give two flying fucks are not trans but predators and mentally deranges individuals.

Bold of you to put homophobic words in my mouth, so I'm just gonna ignore that retarded statement. Going on, a lot of trans men in particular don't tell a man they date that they're trans and when they get "introduced" with the reaction seeing a dick on a "woman" they go make tiktoks how transphobic and wrong these straigth men are. It's almost like being straigth nowdays is a crime. Not everyone wants your dick, not everyone wants your pussy. Deal with it and move on and stop being an idiot. Attacksin these cases happen because your trying to trick or make a straigth person do things they don't want to ingage with which is, I'd say valid. If you don't want to be in a situation like this, be honest of what you are right from the beginning and you'll see how these attacks with fall in number. It's simple as that. If you purposely put yourself in these type of sexual situations just to be able to make stupid tiktoks about it after then you're the perpetrator in the end.

White racism is very real because random white people are being assaulted and murdered by others because, I don't know, to make a stupid point like "this is how we felt like in the history". Why would a white person who hasn't done anything wrong pay or be held accountable for something some white people in history did? How far back does your mentality live? Saying white racism doesn't exist is very racist. Every race in the past were enslaved. The very first slave owner in the US was a black man, just so you know. Idk in what kind of a magickal place you live in, but I live in a country where very minumum diversity exists and people here assume white people to be junkies, murderers and whatnot if they behave like it and give a vibe like such. So basically you're pulling these "facts" out of your ass. It's not right to assume all nation, race is [insert accusation] based on some or many individuals who do/are [insert accusation]. But recently many young kids are beaten up in schools by black people because they're white to the point of death.

I agree that there are many policemen out there who are shitty and not suitted for their jobs because they use their power for evil. But if you disobey a policeman..what else can you expect other than them using force. Policemen job, overall, is not easy and neither you or I know what they have to deal with or go through on daily basis. But the point is the if one black person get killed then they'll be all over the news and social media when so many whites are killed by black people, you won't hear anything because it doesn't fit a narrative for the media. I have so much proof of this, if you want I can always provide. All lives matter because a human life is precious and if you think the color of one's skin determines who is more valuable then you're the one who's super racist in the end.

It's not just the book so it's not one incident, it's also drag queens "reading" to kids (which is insane that a man dressed up as a woman who's job is doing sexual gestures/dances for money). Why not allow veterans and old people read to kids so they could earn some money? Why is everything sexual around kids? What kind of perversion is that? And these..people are put in kids' animation movies singing about drags which is sick. Kids shouldn't know anything about these things or what sexuality a teacher has or what they sleep with. But there's a golden saying for a reason "one life is too many" regardless of a situation.

I personally am not right or left because these weird "ideologies"(idek if that's the right word) don't work where I live. But if you support child abuse like transing minors then..what else can I say.

If you support all trans sisters then you say that you also support Maria Childers. I only support real trans people who are not huge in numbers and are not the wannabes and those who don't make a trend out of transness(like Aurora Bird does).

I don't remember stating that your, as a minor's, opinion isn't valid. There are a lot of flaws that you don't seem to see because your "facts" are based on feelings not science. I lived as a "trans person" for many years too till I grew out of it. And so many detransitioners nowdays do too but they have done such damage to themselves that they either off themselves or just..live on like that because what else option ia there. Gender dysphoria is a mental illness despite what the politicians and the false doctors, who use you as guinee pigs for their modern world Unit731 experiments, say. I know I'm using rough words, but there's no other way to explain it. It's all a huge medical experiment and money grab. Being trans is not an identity one can take on just like that. The whole point of being a transexual is to medically and surgicaly transition to appear as the opposite gender for yourself not the whole world. Ask any real trans person and they'll say the same. And I mean a real trans person like Buck Angel or Marcus Dibs or Scott Newgent or any other.

I want to add that calling biological people "cis" automatically puts a label on your forehead that you are not gonna be respected in the slightest. And no one cares about the stupid "history" of the word. If a person doesn't want to be called it, you don't call them that. Respect goes both ways, it's earned not demanded. So that's something for you to remember.

I already addressed intersex people.

Women who have hysterectomies have cancer, a life threatening situation, bro. So point invalid when it comes to this. Also women who cannot get pregnant have a medical condition therefor cannot get pregnant. It's not the same. I haven't heard of a situation of a woman being born without a womb. If you have proof, I'll gladly see it.

[gloriousmonsters]

hi!! obviously feel free to ignore, but just in case my other ask got lost i wanted to send another :) i just recently got into tgcf and have been going through various tags and i really liked reading your posts!! i was just curious to see how you view sqx's gender since rereading? the more fic ive read since finishing the book, the more surprised ive been to find that most of it (at least that ive read so far) really ignores any discussion of either gender id or having sqx be gnc or anything. like, it seems like if its a serious fic people write him in male form and if its a fun fic people write her in female form (and my/hx in female form as well, which is a whole other convo) and regardless of form its all very much adhering to expectations for whatever gender the author is writing, not really any gnc stuff. anyway! sorry, i got carried away, but i guess im really just looking for an insightful take on gnc cis sqx so that i can have some hope restored that there are people who have a nuanced take lol

hey, sorry for the late reply! I got your other ask, I just have been pretty caught up with work and other distracting things the past few days..../week. what is time

Honestly I haven't read much fic for TGCF at all and less featuring SQX, but i'm... sadly not surprised at hearing what you've mostly run into. People don't often seem to be up for any sort of complicated gender stuff on the average day, so it makes sense it wouldn't be addressed in a lot of fics, and SQX's femininity--in whatever form--being treated mostly as a 'fun' thing instead of a serious part of SQX's gender is... frustrating but again, not surprising.

It's been a bit since I last looked at TGCF, but my personal interpretation remains that SQX is a femme man, much as I view Ling Wen as a butch woman--I very much don't want to say it's not as valid or interesting to interpret either of them as trans, but for me personally both characters are most interesting to read as GNC cis characters. That's its own whole struggle, one that the issue of their worshipers essentially deciding what their gender is for them--because they don't conform to the conventions of their own--is painfully resonant with.

(I'll try not to talk more about Ling Wen more on this SQX gender post, but I'll make a last sidebar about I wish people would talk about Ling Wen's gender more in general.I barely even see people acknowledge that she HAS a male form or any of her character as it relates to her being masc/butch.)

SQX clearly enjoys wearing his female form, and it very much comes across as dressing up in clothes that really express how you feel--he's so much cuter, it's so fun to wear a female form (to such an extent that he will try to pester anyone left alone with him for five seconds into doing so, because how can you NOT ENJOY looking pretty??). But to me he never seems dysphoric about his male form--just bored and sometimes hurt by the limitations it imposes on him. Being a man isn't an issue for him, acting like a man is.

And I understand that for some people there's little difference between those things--a lot of people find their gender nonconformity means they're not that gender at all. I feel like another factor is the well-meaning anvil that got dropped a while ago of 'you can't write a stereotype, so all your queer men have to be normal macho and all your queer women have to be normal feminine' which further erased the very concept of GNC-ness, at least when it came to writing fic. I think that's one of the reasons I'm so attached to cis femme SQX--GNC characters, or even interpretations more complex than 'completely conventionally cis or binary, also conventionally (gender) trans' are thin on the ground in fandom.

(a sidebar: writing a guy as a uke-in-all-but-name is not the same as writing a guy as meaningfully gnc. like pursue your bliss and write what you want and all that, but I had the haunting suspicion that there's probably some 'gay twink that cries a lot and always bottoms' SQXs out there and i want to register that it's nooooot what i'm talking about when i talk about being gnc. WHOLE other discussion packed away inside that one. let's skip it for now)

I wish I had something more specific or insightful to say here, lol. You can enjoy looking like a woman and not be a woman. You can dislike being masculine and still be a man. SQX clearly, despite the not-cool reasons for him having it (because the implications of two gods being close, even if they were brothers, was just TOO GAY, we gotta make it straight! are their worshipers those people who genderbend just one sibling to write incest because i have some Annoyed Words for those people. Stop Making It Boring) is very attached to his female form and enjoys wearing it, and while it's not given a great deal of time, there's obviously friction between him and his brother based in the fact that, even while not wearing a female form, SQX just doesn't... act quite like a man should.

(This is pure personal interpretation/headcanon, but he often doesn't see the problem with how he's acting because he simply has an internal sense of gender that doesn't clash with looking like a woman or not acting like a man--gnc gender identity is no less deeply or completely felt than any other. It takes SWD or someone else reacting badly to remind him, ah, apparently not every man would be like this if he had the chance. Which seems fake, but ok)

if there's a conclusion, there's this--to write SQX as either a straightforward male or female character is just missing his whole point. He can be a gnc man, genderfluid, a trans woman--but whatever he is is complicated, despite how untroubled he usually seems by it all. There's tension between what he is, how he's viewed, and the limited means he has to express himself, and while that obviously can't be the point of every fic he appears in, it's always there. And cis gnc SQX remains, in the end, my favorite lens. It's unlikely, but I do hope someone got that boy a cute outfit at some point postcanon, it's the least he deserves.

[hellboundhimbo]

a tad late but QUEER JOJO HCS FOR PRIDE MONTH !!

phantom blood

jonathan joestar: bi and trans, and while yes i know historically it is impossible for him to medically transition shut the fuck up it’s MY mental illness and I get to choose the coping mechanism

erina pendleton-joestar: cishet but the best goddamn ally you will ever meet in your goddamn life. she will punt a bigot with nothing but sheer force of will and love for her husband and his bf

robert e o speedwagon: canonically gay but as a proud member of the gay agenda i raise you trans speedwagon, and t4t jonawagon on top of that

baron zeppeli: cishet ally. however, he does have a bone to pick with jonathan’s taste in men at first

dio brando: was gonna wait until part 3 to include him but whatever

canonically bi ! we do not claim him however he is a horrible horrible vampire man but also i love him

battle tendency

joseph joestar: bi !! trans most of the jojos are trans fuck you

caesar zeppeli: gay. i could go on a long winded rant about why i have this hc but i won’t bc it would take Forever. am willing to make a seperate post about it tho.

suzi q: this is gonna sound weird but she gives the vibe of being Totally Heterosexual at first but the more she hangs around joseph and caesar (read also: her bf and his bf) she starts to realize “wait shit wanting to kiss girls isn’t normal”

maybe it’s the ditzy vibe she has but i could see it

lisa lisa: another ally!! she loves her bi son :]

the pillar men are not confined by gender nor any label. they simply Be and that’s valid.

also the idea of someone as self righteous as kars even briefly entertaining the thought of confining himself to a label created by mere mortals is laughable

everyone else is either cishet just cuz i didn’t really get any sort of Vibe from them or they’re stroheim and burning in the fiery pits of hell

stardust crusaders

jotaro kujo: gay and trans

him being gay is canon because araki said so and him trans is canon because I said so. i know he’s closeted but i like to think he got to come out at some point

noriaki kakyoin: mmm either bi with a male lean or gay. probably goes by he/they. somewhere on the non binary spectrum they are boy but not Boy

jean pierre polnareff: bisexual and in desperate need of some bitches

muhammad avdol: gay and has basically been dating polnareff for the last 5 months, only problem is polnareff is Very Dense and Stupid

iggy: dog

hol horse: hes reoccurring so i feel obligated to include him. cishet and had a habit of making lowkey offensive jokes from a place of toxic masculinity before josuke entered the picture. it’ll definitely take him a second to remember what it means, but he will answer properly if you ask him his pronouns.

diamond is unbreakable

josuke higashikata: morioh’s resident gay guy. he/they and lowkey has demisexual vibes

okuyasu nijimura: i feel like okuyasu wouldn’t want to label himself. he’d think it was too complicated and unnecessary so he’s just like “well i’m not straight that’s for sure”

koichi hirose: either a trans het or a cis bisexual, maybe somewhere in between.

yukako yamagishi: very very scary ally. if you insult her boyfriend or his friends (slash boyfriends josuyasukoi rights) there will be several knives in your mattress tonight

rohan kishibe: gay. there is nothing heterosexual about rohan kishibe.

tonio trussardi: split between cishet ally or pan. on one hand, i am fully ready to accept the take that he just really loves his unnamed fiancé, but also i could see him being able to share his love and cooking with anyone.

kira is ultra bitchless

golden wind

giorno giovanna: giornos sexuality is an enigma to me, all i know is he is Not straight. i will die on the hill of non binary giorno.

bruno bucciarati: gay father of 5

leone abbachio: gay father of 4 for a hot fucking second before he warms up to giogio

pannacotta fugo: gay and trans ! he/it

narancia ghirga: non binary and demisexual ! no preference. he/they/it

guido mista: like bi or pan, though he doesn’t really give a shit about labels. chics are cool, but so are dudes.

trish una: trans fem bi ICON. her and mista are mlm/wlw solidarity but also they bully each other mercilessly

diavolo is cishet and i mean that in a derogatory sense

stone ocean

jolyne kujo: i went back and forth between lesbian and bi for jolyne initially, but honestly i think ive settled on bi with a preference for women. also trans fem thats very important.

ermes costello: professional woman enjoyer. maybe bi but i lean more towards lesbian

foo fighters: non binary !! literally couldn’t give less of a shit about labels but if someone asks they respond with pan

weather report: bi with a preference for women :]

narciso anasui: ok right off the bat i am a transmasc anasui truther first and a person second.. probably pan but i don’t think he’d really stick to a particular label, all i know is he isnt straight.

enrico pucci: im like 90% sure he’s canonically gay, but if not then he is most definitely gay.

have not finished sbr yet so will probably add more when I finish that + jojolion :]

[feralaot]

AOT characters + an FTM!reader s/o

I had a few requests asking for different characters with an FTM reader so this is just a compilation combining all of those!

warnings: brief mention of dysphoria, brief mention of transphobia

modern setting

Armin

oh lord he’s so sweet. he almost cries when you come out to him because he’s just so honored and happy that you trusted him enough to tell him something like that

after coming out he immediately drops your dead name and uses your preferred pronouns on the spot. he cares a lot and wants you to know that he supports you endlessly

if somebody says something rude to you armin will try to passive aggressively educate them because that’s his boyfriend they’re disrespecting 🤬

if you’re post op and are comfortable with being shirtless around him, armin might offer to paint on your chest and scars. it’s a huge part of his love language and he wants to show you that your body is beautiful no matter what it’s been through. flowers, landscapes, constellations... anything that he thinks is beautiful

with that being said his favorite flowers are cornflowers so expect a lot of those being painted on your skin

Jean

don’t even worry about anyone purposely misgendering you or saying something disrespectful, jean will literally beat them up no hesitation

he’s not very good at comforting someone but he sure does try. awkward pats on the backs calling you handsome and reaffirming your gender identity will probably be the method

he’s definitely a himbo and doesn’t understand it completely so you can expect to get a lot of questions from him about your identity but he won’t push any boundaries or ask uncomfortable things

he does however try his best to research on his own and educate himself to learn what to do to best suit your needs and be as respectful as possible :)

really doesn’t care how masculine you look or how well you pass, no matter what he’s gonna claim that he’s “the worse looking one” in the relationship and he’s totally okay with that

Levi

seems like the kind of person to not give a shit what your gender is. if he likes you and you like him, why should it matter? he doesn’t mind at all is what I’m basically saying

however don’t let that fool you. he’s very gentle and never pushes your boundaries. he’s also going to throw major hands with anyone who’s being transphobic 🙄

while he does seem to give off the attitude that he doesn’t care about anything he does care immensely about you and your mental health. he’s open 24/7 if you ever want to vent to him, he’ll listen with no complaints and be very thoughtful.

he’s surprisingly accommodating for you. obviously being levi’s anything is a difficult task since he’s so closed off to people in general but if he really trusts you then you’ve definitely earned it and you two are inseparable

his love language is using lots of positive affirmations and validating words like “handsome”

Hange

we already know that hange is going to be over enthusiastic about you and your transition, especially if you decide to medically transition. they’re gonna want to know everything about it and always tag along to your bloodwork tests

they’re also hands down the best shopping buddy, they’ll always offer to take you to whatever store you want and buy you whatever clothes you want

if somebody were to say something rude about you or them hange wouldn’t even bother trying to explain they’d just go straight to yelling profanities because “you can’t help stupid” 🙄

if / when you get top surgery they’ll be babying you through the entire recovery process; making sure you took your meds, making sure you have enough blankets, making sure you’re never hungry or thirsty. it’s adorable but can get just a little obnoxious after a bit LMAO

if you aren’t publicly out and don’t want other people to know quite yet, rest assured that it’s completely safe with hange. they may be a loudmouth but they know that this is a level of trust that can never be betrayed. they refer to it as “confidential”

Reiner

we have another himbo here that doesn’t know much about it but he sure does try his best to learn everything he should know so that he doesn’t accidentally say something insensitive

eventually he becomes well versed in vocabulary and quickly realizes that, yes, he is in fact gay for being attracted to you

he asks a lot of questions but stammers and stutters and apologizes as he expresses them. a lot of his questions are asking for clarification on things or specifics for how he can best accommodate your preferences. what’s okay to say in public? how do you prefer to be addressed? he sweats bullets honestly

he’s the most willing to go to pride events because we already know he’s a flaming homosexual and is willing to be loud about it, you’re his boyfriend and he’s gonna be proud of it

he’s gonna validate you with small mocking compliments like “ugh, stop being so damn handsome, I can’t even look at you!”

Bertholdt

when you came out to him he could tell that you were visibly nervous, so he immediately pointed out that it’s absurd to think he would be uncomfortable with it. he’s supportive all the way with whatever you decide to do and will be there for guidance if you ever need it.

he always offers you his clothes because naturally they’re probably very baggy compared to your normal size so a lot of your closet is just sweaters that you’re borrowing from him but he doesn’t mind because he thinks you look adorable in them 💗

I think he’s sort of touchy but it’s not something you see from him much in public, only in private. every day he would ask what you’re okay with, especially if you’re particularly dysphoric. he also checks in through the day to see if anything has changed

if you’re post op and comfortable with being shirtless he would like to gently trace your scars and tell you affirming things about how your body is beautiful, your scars don’t define you if you don’t want them to, etc

he’s very gentle and considerate and will never press you for details that you aren’t comfortable sharing or push any boundaries whatsoever

Annie

she acts like she doesn’t care very much but in fact she’s very grateful that you had enough trust in her for you to feel safe coming out to her. she doesn’t think a lot of people trust her but once you told her this fact she felt.... appreciated

she already knows a bit about gender stuff (porco is a trans guy too, so she had to deal with him when he was going through his transition as well) so you can take it easy and not have to worry about explaining things to her very often

she always reminds you to take your hormones or any medication you need, she’s very thoughtful and probably remembers your schedule better than you do LMAO you better take care of yourself or she’s coming for you

she says a lot of things like “handsome” and “my boyfriend” completely on purpose because that little flush on your face you get when she does is always worth seeing

if you’re okay with it, she’s very physically affectionate and will gently touch your chest or kiss your scars, just making sure that you know you’re appreciated in her eyes no matter what anyone else thinks about you.

[earthly--truth]

What I believe in

These are my beliefs as someone who aligns with democratic socialism and progressivism. Feel free to critique it, challenge it, even just a few sections, whatever, but this is what I believe will make the world a better place, because people (and animals) deserve to live the best possible lives they can live with the only chance at life they got. This is going to be super general and long, and not get into nearly everything, but I hope it sheds a positive light on leftism.

Strong unions so that workers (the majority of people in society) have the ability have better footing to negotiate better wages, work hours, vacation days, benefits, etc. I also believe that in instances where it’s pragmatically viable that there should be a push for more worker co-op’s, in which every employee has a stake in the company they work at, and the ability to give their input (all companies should strive for more democracy). Both of these contribute to healthier, happier, and, and better payed people.

Raising the minimum wage in the U.S to $15 an hour. The current wage of  $7.25 is way too low. It’s just not a livable wage. There’s a reason why McDonald’s and Walmart are called corporate welfare queens, and it’s because they’re employees require welfare to survive, despite being the biggest corporations on the planet with multi-billionaire CEO’s. The richest in society should also pay more in taxes.

Stop investing so much in the American military, cut it by a third if you can. (Firstly this frees up a lot of money for other things) Get the military out of the middle east, and create other more peaceful avenues to ensure it doesn’t crumble like every single time the military pulls out and doesn’t try to actually fix the mess they created. The people in the middle east deserve to be able to rebuild and they’ll need help to do that (just not the type of help where america installs their own leaders).

Healthcare should be universal, paid for by taxes. Every developed nation is capable of doing it. Many developing countries are doing it. Americans pay more in taxes for healthcare than so many other countries, yet a trip to the hospital still can put you in debt for the rest of your life. That is inhumane, and people shouldn’t have to choose between crippling debt and their health.

There’s also an argument to be made for free/way cheaper university, since countries like Canada or America force people to get a degree if they want to live a decent life, yet in order to do that you have to pay $15,000 a year for university. A system like that either forces people to skip out on uni, or again go into major debt. If Europe can figure it out, I think the U.S and Canada can figure it out too.

Black Lives Matter. To be more specific, I want police/criminal justice/prison reform. I want police de-militarized and to stop acting so abusive towards to civilians and real justice for the police that do, I want an end on the war on drugs (this helps drug addicts get help and delivers a blow to gangs and the cartel). I want an end to mass incarceration and laws that make it easier to throw people in jail for years for basically nothing. I want an end to for profit prisons. I want an end to the policy of retribution rather than rehabilitation for inmates (countries who rehabilitate are way more successful at non-returning inmates). I want an end to treating prisoners like slaves so corporations can get cheap labour. I also want the government to actually start caring about the poorest communities, many of which are predominantly black and latino (in cities anyways). (Also the indigenous in Canada). Better infrastructure, better public works programs. These all contribute to the proliferation of these communities and helps lessen the potential for criminality by making their lives better.

The dismantling of gender norms and roles, and de-stigmatization of LGBTQ+ people. I want people to be whoever they want to be. For far too long we have expected men and women to act a certain way. Women have come a long way, but there are still remnants of the old way of looking at things. We still have a lot of social stigma about how women should look, and that they are not worth even paying attention to if they aren’t conventionally attractive. We still have social stigma about sexuality and sex work. We hyper sexualize women in the media, yet shame women as sluts if they have a lot of sex. We shame women who choose abortion as murderers, yet don’t offer any support for the mother once the child has arrived. On top of that, the positions of power are still predominantly very old men. I also believe in helping men. Men are lonelier, men are increasingly staying sexless (not by choice), men are getting more suicidal. I want to address this two ways. One, by tackling toxic masculinity (not masculinity itself, just the bad parts). TM is telling men to man up and not to cry, TM is telling men not to act feminine or gay. TM is telling men to bottle up their emotions and resolve their problems through violence. The second way to address this is through my beliefs about workers. Men are the most suicidal in countries where there is a heavy work culture, like Japan and South Korea. Where they can’t have lives, and live to make money for the company they work at. That isn’t good.

When it comes to LGBTQ+ people, we need more positive representation in the media. We need people to see gay, trans, and non-binary people as normal people. When it comes to trans people specifically, we need to end the constant wars against them. Whether you’re talking about bathrooms, or sports, or children/teens receiving trans affirming healthcare. Let trans people be the gender that they say there are in the places they want to be, and allow them to receive the healthcare they need which is just the overwhelming medical consensus. This, combined with more supportive parents. all goes a long way to reducing the suicide rate amonst trans people.

The proliferation of the developing world. I want developing countries to be more autonomous, and to stop being under the boot of western corporations. I want an end to sweatshop labour or borderline sweatshop labour. I want the west to stop treating these actual people like their robots for pennies to produce our ungodly amounts of junk, and to actually pay these people decent wages. I want the world bank to stop giving money in an exploitative way to poor nations so that they cave to western business interests. These are people, human beings, and they deserve to develop and live good lives just like us. I also want them to fight for democracy in their countries.

Environmentalism. To go off the last section, 100 Corporations are contributing 71% of greenhouse gases. That needs to change. Corporations are participating ungodly amounts of devastations to eco-systems and the atmosphere. Ecosystems destroyed, and the exacerbation of the climate crises. I want a green and blue earth, and that can start by a) changing to green energy as much as humanly possible; solar, wind, and even nuclear (and whatever we come up with in the future) are far better than the fossil fuels we use now, which we’ll run out of anyways. And second we need to hold corporations accountable for destroying the planet. If we don’t do this, we risk the climate crises getting really bad. Oceans rising which will flood coastlines, creating millions of refugees, more periods of extreme dry (no water/bush fires) and extreme cold (look at what happened to texas). Something needs to be done about it.

Finally, veganism, for many reasons. One, the switch to veganism will be a big contributor to saving the planet. Whether you’re talking about the devastation we do to places like the Amazon Rain forest and other ecosystems to clear the way for animal farming, or whether you’re talking about reducing emissions. Most emissions and waste from agriculture are from the production phase of animal farming. So much food, water, and energy is wasted by giving it to billions of animals that we purposefully breed into existence, then slaughter, rinse and repeat, every single year, when we could just grow food and give water to people and skip out the middle man (think about how many people are hungry and without water in the world).

Philosophically, it is also wrong to kill a living creature that desires to live, that is able to connect with other living things and it surrounding, to form bonds. A cow, pig, chicken, lamb, sheep, are no different than a dog, cat, or rabbit, and they should not be killed, exploited, and tortured (confinement, abusive conditions in industrial farms) for pleasure. I know it’s pleasure for most people, because vegans are living proof that you can live happy and healthy lives without animal products. Vegans are statistically healthier than non-vegans, and we can get all the nutrients we need, even on an inexpensive diet. There are exceptions of course. A very small portion of people literally cannot eat plants and can only eat meat, and the developing world doesn’t have the same access to vegan products as the developed world does. Those people are valid, but many many people can make the switch and they should, especially in the developed world

All I see from this is making the world better. Hopefully you can too.

[blogsanscontext]

A Closer Look at: Momoe Sawaki’s character arc; by a nonbinary (trans) viewer.

CW: Major spoilers for Wonder Egg Priority + mentions and discussion of sexual assault, transphobia, lesbophobia, self-harm; please proceed with caution.

Wonder Egg Priority came as a relatively pleasant surprise for me; I heard about it some time after the first few episodes aired, but I never actively went out of my way to ever try to watch it myself until, that is, a few days ago. I must say, I’m glad to have taken the initiative to experience such anime on my own.

With a stunning animation to accompany the heavy subjects this work touches on, I quickly fell in love with it; all the characters feel very grounded in reality, with their struggles (even someone like Neiru’s, who is a literal genius and CEO of her own company) feeling relatable in one way or another. Episode 7 became my favorite due to this very thing, Rika’s problems were things that not only have I seen in other works before, but that I know exist because of the stories told in the news every so often. It only helped, in my opinion, that they gave a character with her background such a hopeful ending.

That being said, Wonder Egg is not a perfect anime, and though I didn’t expect it to be in the first place, I do think talking about why some of the ways it handles a specific character of the main cast are problematic are worth the time. When I mentioned that “all the characters feel very grounded in reality”, I actually only meant three of them, a.k.a.: Ai, Rika and Neiru. The reason Momoe is not included in this group is what I will be discussing in the next paragraphs.

This anime lets you know, right off the bat, that it will not stray away from heavy subjects throughout the duration of its runtime; the show deals with suicidal idealization (and actual suicide as well as its aftermath; in fact, “female suicide” is at the very core of the show and is what essentially moves it forward), self-harm, sexual assault, same-sex relationships, transphobia, and being a gender noncomforming person in a society that punishes you for not adhering to the roles it has imposed on you since childhood. The last points are the ones I took issue with, however, and though they are mostly the show’s fault, they also took it upon themselves to make Momoe be at the center of all three.

See, when we are first introduced to Momoe, we can guess by context that she is a girl, however, the other characters aren’t aware of this fact yet, and so they seemingly go out of their way to call her a boy, which makes her deeply uncomfortable, and this (ie. her reaction to be treated or perceived as a boy) is a running theme throughout her arc. This, in itself, isn’t really the worst creative direction to take with a character, it’s a story that has been told time and time again, but there is a problem with the way Wonder Egg Priority specifically deals with it: Momoe is cisgender, and so far, there hasn’t been a sign of this changing whatsoever, so she will most likely remain cis until the show ends. Normally, a story about a gender noncomforming cis person wouldn’t be seen as anything out of the extraordinary, as I’ve mentioned before, but it seems that they wanted to… “innovate”, so to say, with her character. And it’s this innovation, in my opinion, that which makes Momoe’s struggles miss the mark for me.

Momoe is perceived, almost ridiculously so, as a boy by whoever even so much as stumbles upon her; her followers on Instagram most likely worship her because they’re under the impression that she’s a bishounen, and yet the show goes out of its way to deal with just how uncomfortable this makes her. This is the issue I take with her and her arc: the show has a keen awareness of AFAB people’s issues, and treats them with the respect they deserve (which is not to say some jokes at their expense aren’t made, but in general this tone is kept throughout the duration of the story), and yet the tone-deaf manner in which they deal with her issues feels… disappointing, to say the least.

Momoe’s struggles, though they are valid on their own, are not a societal issue, no matter how one may look at them; if she were a trans person (either a trans girl, boy, or nonbinary), the strong emphasis on her discomfort at being misgendered would have made so much more sense. The reason why ‘switching around’ the stereotype of a tomboy falls flat on its face is that there is no real pressure from society to present feminine, it’s what they want you to, or more accurately, force you to do if you’re perceived as being assigned female at birth; however, this is not where my issues with Momoe’s arc and character end.

At first, I imagined a variety of (albeit vague, still reasonable) reasons as to why this show couldn’t have just made Momoe be trans, and semi-understanding of this decision; that was, of course, until I watched the actual episode mostly focused on her struggles, and that’s when I got slightly mad. Being honest, I still think it was a good episode, and it definitely made Momoe seem way more sympathetic than any of her past appearances, but it also perfectly highlighted my problem with her, and subsequently, the show itself: using queer people’s actual, realistic, problems in order to push her, a cisgender character, forward.

The thing with Wonder Egg Priority is that I love how, despite all these girls literally risking their lives to save a specific person, they still seem to have conflicting feelings about them (ie. Rika’s mocking of Chiemi, Ai’s frustration towards Koito, etc.) but I also take issue with this when it comes to Momoe specifically; Haruka is very much intended to be seen as gay, yet when push comes to shove, we are supposed to be taking Momoe’s side in this conflict. We, the audience, see these events from her point of view, and are therefore made to feel, in one way or another, uncomfortable with Haruka’s attraction for her. Yes, Momoe has worked hard to bring her back to life, but the fact that she’s cis and heterosexual stands; this isn’t just exclusive to Haruka, however, but every egg she’s had to save in order to get her friend back. All of them express a clear attraction for Momoe, “despite her being a girl”, and it’s just very easy to read these attitudes as wlw-phobic, extremely so.

My biggest issue though lies within the very existence of Kaoru’s character, the trans boy she has to protect in the episode mainly focused on her; while he is an endearing and sympathetic character, and I like that despite him presenting ‘majorly female’, Momoe never misgenders him. The thing is: he’s made out to be almost a “parallel” of her own gender-related issues, and this is just a very tone-deaf statement to make; trans people fighting not to be misgendered, fighting to be called their chosen name (something Momoe, while being cis, can just freely enjoy) - trans people’s pain is very much real, which the show is aware of, but Momoe’s is very much an individual’s problem rather than the way society actually works, which Wonder Egg is seemingly unaware of, for whatever reason.

Before I arrive at my last point on why this comparison doesn’t work, I would like to quickly point out the fact that most, if not all, the eggs the girls have had to save until this point were specifically meant to be girls, in one way or another. Therefore, taking this into account, Kaoru makes me feel… a lot of things, the more time I spend thinking about it; the show acknowledges he’s a boy, though not cis of course, but still very much a boy, yet also places him in this very much ‘female’ space; no matter how I looked at it, I could find explanations both for an opinion in favor of this decision (the way a lot of trans men’s problems are defined by our patriarchal society seeing them as women) as well as some for an opinion against this decision (the fact that it could be read as the show ultimately deciding he’s ‘female-aligned’, etc.) and though I won’t be discussing this decision in-depth, I still possess that it’s an event worth examining from different lenses.

Now, onto the actual element that got me heated about Kaoru serving as a parallel to Momoe’s struggles: Kaoru was not only sexually assaulted by a man who’s always thought of him as a ‘pretty, delicate girl’, his death directly relates to the fact that he was abused and then impregnated by this man for not living up to his gross ideal of what a man and a woman are; contrast this to Momoe, who pretty much gets the treatment Kaoru would love to have: she’s pretty much right off the bat seen as a guy, she’s fawned over by women because of this fact as well, they literally call her ‘Momotaro’, etc. Taking all of this into account, it’s simply impossible for me to be okay with a comparison that ultimately decides a cisgender person’s discomfort is, in any sort of way, on equal grounds as a (might I remind you, dead) trans person’s basic human rights.

All in all, though her episode made me take a bigger liking to her character, it also served to almost perfectly highlight the very problem of her existence, as well as the “struggles” she’s intended to represent; I don’t hate Momoe in any sort of way, and though I know there must be someone somewhere who relates to her, I also think that they could’ve done something way more meaningful with her had they just made some changes that made her more realistic (as in, make her at least be LGBT rather than just cis and heterosexual); I will be patiently waiting for the finale, and who knows? Maybe something does change about her in the end, that would be even more of a pleasant surprise.

[awed-frog]

Regarding your post about trans "advocates" I just wanted to point out that the OP has the username "iamsupergender" which suggest they're a member of the "super straight/gay" astroTERF movement. They're trying to ratfuck trans issues by casting all trans people as rapey transwomen who want to invade female spaces to prey on them. I can't check sources of quotes shown atm, but I'd be highly suspicious about the context. Superstraight reddits were just massbanned, so i guess they're here now.

I looked up a few of those quotes before reblogging, and I can assure you that seeing them in context does nothing to make them less creepy. These are things those people actually said and believe, and personally I think it’s gross, and I’m fed up with this cult-like mentality that you either support [vulnerable minority] 100% or you’re a hateful Nazi? Like being part of a vulnerable minority doesn’t automatically make you a good person. I think we can support trans rights while also distancing ourselves from people who openly say “To be female is to become what someone else wants” or “To be the victim of open and undisguised sexism possesses an exhilarating vitality” or “Getting fucked makes you female because fucked is what a female is”. Literally what in the fuck.

And I just want to point out: I post a lot of political things here and I don’t like extremists, so I often answer to people saying ‘kill all men’ and have conversations about the hijab or Jewish Orthodox schools or whatever else, and 99% of the time there is no issue with that. People will either ignore/block me if they don’t feel like answering, which is 100% their right and healthy online behaviour, or they’ll write back - sometimes I change their mind, sometimes they change mine and I learn something new. Win win. But when it comes to transgender issues, every single time I post or reblog something that’s against the party line I get gross hate mail (think ‘choke on my girl dick’ material) and people telling me I can die and so on? Because apparently here you can’t disagree and you can’t point out the obvious: that some people in this community, like some people in every community ever, are actively deranged. You get unbalanced & extremist Jews,  unbalanced & extremist Muslims, unbalanced & extremist gay men and unbalanced & extremist feminists and yes, also unbalanced & extremist trans people and trans activists. That’s how people work, and it shouldn’t be a big taboo to point it out. A person who says being a woman means to get fucked shouldn’t be defended or be an authority on anything. Come on. I truly don’t get why they are untouchable in the way they are? After all, we have no trouble saying “This politician has great left-wing values but also abused two interns and/or made awful and antisemitic jokes, so let’s get him the fuck out”? Why is this any different?

As for OP, I don’t know who they are and I have zero sympathy for that idiotic super straight bullshit alt-right Twitter cooked up, but you know what? You can’t say all self-expression is valid except the self-expression of people you dislike. You’re okay with xenogenders and otherkin and women who marry train stations and people who change gender every season, you need to be okay with idiots who want to be identified as king/kings just to fuck with you. It’s unfortunate, but it’s how it works.

(And by the way, this is one of the reasons I don’t like this trend: because it can very quickly be used in dangerous ways. There was a young British MP a while back who wanted to make a new law based on people’s feelings - something along the lines of, “I know that statistically this is not a problem but many people feel it’s a problem so let’s act” - just think how quickly this can be turned into “I know statistically gay men don’t like children that way but I’m not comfortable with them teaching so let’s ban it” or “Yes, I admit that a majority of Black men are not dangerous but personally I feel threatened, I think this company should not hire any Black employees”? Weren’t there reports of cops temporarily identifying as women so they could search female suspects with impunity? Lots of people are dicks, and since you can’t have one rule for normal people and one law for dicks, you need clear rules that work for everyone.) 

Trans rights are a crucial issue and something any sane person should support. The fact some activists are awful doesn’t change that fact, so I think we can openly say ‘Hey, this person is actually awful’ instead of pretending they’re not and divide the world in this Puritan saint/sinner categories.

[nicomrade]

😳 charlie my friend charlie if you have thoughts on him

I LOVE charlie so much hes everything and hes sooo transmasc. like .. . .... ok i talked about it forever ago on twitter but basically theres this rob mcelhenny quote that goes like "True inclusion is bring the LGBTQ down into the gutter with us." about mac coming out as gay and the logical next step from there is canon trans charlie he is quite literally already in the sewer <3 gender euphoria from charlie high pitch yelling

and.. ok so ive been rewatching iasip w my friend whos never seen it before which is like an incredible experience i keep apologizing on behalf of the show BUT anyway so rewatching the early seasons its kinda like... charlie is waay more evil in those early seasons right... or am i making that up. like doesnt he straight up attack dennis in season 1 or something.... and its not to say charlie doesnt attack people in later seasons but its portrayed as him being Unhinged rather than having a real malicious intent or something.. OH and he schemes the the gang gets held hostage episode is just charlie scheming and i love that for him so much. esp since hes also dyslexic/gets called the r slur a lot its like... charlie is still fucking smart u know. he hatches these plans and theres a reason to his madness and thats really important cause its ALL coping mechanisms AND hes very self aware he just doesnt care. he KNOWS half the shit he does is weird/socially unacceptable but he gave up on fitting in a while ago. i forgot the lore of his highschool and younger days exactly but ye.... hes always been ostracized. at one point u just accept thats ur fate, but u never stop being able to tell what is and isnt Weird u just learn to disregard it.

AND hes all in all really genuine (vs mac having that Tough Cool Guy persona, dennis ... being dennis, frank roleplaying as a poor, and well dee literally wants to be an actress) and that makes him especially vulnerable to the gangs ridicule but he still fits in with them! without having to pretend to be anyone he isnt! and a lot of his traits are just normal charlie things to them so its not like him just Existing is weird, and his weirdness gets celebrated at times! like when hes assigned wildcard, thats his volatile nature being recognized and validated in some way! and thats not something he could get from Outside Society like the gang truly sticks together cause no one else would put up w their awful shit but like.. theres still comfort in someone who knows and sees you as you really are even though theyre making ur life a living hell. a little bit. maybe. idk!

a while back i was thinking bout how he grew up being macs only friend and vice versa and i was getting emotional about it but i forgot why specifically i think its really about how theyve always had each other in their lives and they have so much shared history they intuitively understand each other a lot and they also know theyre friends 4ever basically. theyre bffs.... and charlie genuinely enjoys macs project badass stuff like theyre not... theyre not GREAT friends cause the whole gang is awful but compared to whatever the hell the reynolds have going on charlie/mac friendship is sort of sweet you know.... but its still very important that charlie acts mean and fucked up to mac and dennis sometime because its not like any of them is getting proper therapy so bullying others to cope works just as well actually 🤗

also hes so talented i just wanna say it really quick his music ! his drawings ! we love and support an artist charlie kelly u are everything ♥ ALSO ALSO charlie/dennis friendship underrated... that is all

[sketchy-saram]

Hey everyone! I realize Pride Month just ended, but I wanted to talk about Asexuality for a minute, so I hope you'll indulge me since I have no idea what day it is normally and missed the obvious chance xD 

So my discovery that I was Ace happened when I was in Korea circa 2016, although I'd heard of it a few years before, from the Girls with Slingshots web comic! Both of these things occurred long after I was already an adult, however, and its existence is something I sorely wish I'd known about as a teenager. Hence, I'd really like to spread information about Asexuality to those who might not know anything, so you can be more comfortable with the idea, more informed, and perhaps pass that information to others around you who might be confused and questioning themselves! Pass it on, save a life! (Or at least a LOT of heartache and confusion!) If you already know stuff, great! You’re awesome! <3

So what IS Asexuality? Is it like, budding? Haha, funny joke. (Not really.) Asexuality is simply the lack of sexual attraction to anyone. It is an umbrella term for a lot of different classifications of Aces, but that's the basics. Allosexuals would be what is considered 'normal'--people who do experience sexual attraction. And yes, this is completely different from ROMANTIC attraction! But we'll get to that a bit later!

Why are Asexuals considered part of the LGBTQIA+ rainbow? Well, it's right there in the letters! The A never stood for ally--it always meant Asexual. We've been there since the very beginning! The Queer community envelopes all people whose gender and sexual identities fall outside the norm--so when our society, and humanity as a whole, so idealizes sex and sexual relations, I think not feeling those urges more than qualifies us! And if that weren't enough, Asexuals experience plenty of stigma and harassment--even gatekeeping from within the community, which is extremely unfortunate. In fact, in online social spaces, ESPECIALLY tumblr, Asexuality went through a major witchhunt about 5 years ago, where the waves of anti-Ace rhetoric were so bad that they basically eradicated the community and forced aces back into the closet. Things are better now, but the ramifications are still sorely felt. Aces also have a much higher chance of unstable relationships, as sex and the desire to have sex plays such a large role in romantic relationships. If you are allosexual, imagine being in a relationship where your partner never wants to have sex, and trying to understand that that doesn't reflect at all on you or how much they love you. It's hard, right? I'm not saying that Ace/Allo relationships can't happen, but it takes a LOT of work and communication!! (Uhm, and also plenty of allo people just have a low libido, so please remember not to be forcing your partners into unwanted sexual activities!!)

So let's talk more about the specific wording. 'Sexual attraction'. Simply put, that is the feeling when you look at someone, and you KNOW that you want to have sexual relations with them. Your body has reactions that might let you know this, like an erection, and you could imagine yourself doing those things. Aces aren't like that! We don't have those urges. I could go the rest of my life happily not having sex--and I've never looked at someone and wanted to do that. Now, like I said, there are quite a few umbrella versions, but that is the general description. Important things to note however: Asexual people CAN CHOOSE to have sex! If you're an Allo who has ever done it with someone you weren't exactly turned on by, then you can understand what I'm talking about. Some Aces can even ENJOY the act of sex! The two aren't necessarily related--remember, we're just talking about lacking the basic spark of sexual attraction. On the flip side, some Aces are so sex repulsed that the very idea makes them sick. If you know an Ace person, you should ask their opinion on sex before you talk about it with them--it might make them EXTREMELY uncomfortable! On that note, plenty of Asexual people are in the kink community, and enjoy BDSM. How can that be, you might ask? Well, for one, read above again about Aces and Sexual relations. But also, if you aren't in those communities, you may not realize just how much power plays into that. Some people enjoy the power play more than the sex!! So if your knee-jerk reaction to finding out someone is Ace and has sex is to think they are 'faking it', please...don't. You can't know what a person's internal workings are like.

So, why would an Asexual person want a relationship? How would that even work, anyway? Isn't it just like being friends? Well I'm glad you asked! Remember earlier when I said that Asexuality is only about the lack of SEXUAL attraction? ROMANTIC attraction has its own categories! Aromantics are people who aren't ROMANTICALLY attracted to other people. I won't get into that here, but suffice it to say that Aces can be as romantic and loving as anyone else, and many want a happy relationship! As for being like friends--imagine your partner or spouse. If you suddenly couldn't have sex with them, would it feel like the two of you were 'just friends'? No, of course not! Romantic attachment forms bonds that are completely different from platonic friendship. Lack of sex isn't the only thing that keeps your friendships from being 'romantic relationships', and if it is, you, uh...might want to reevaluate some things!!

A few other common items I want to mention before I bring this quick Ace 101 course to a close: Is being Ace just like being celibate? Not at all! Choosing to remain celibate is just that--a CHOICE. Someone who is celibate still has all their natural sexual attraction, they are just choosing not to act on those feelings for whatever reason. Aces don't have those urges, or that natural sexual attraction! 

Can you become Asexual through trauma or other reasons? The long and the short answer is: Yes. One of the great things about the LGBTQIA+ community is that you should be free to come and go as you discover more about your own truth. That is also why gatekeeping is so dangerous--you shouldn't have to 'register' as Gay or Ace or Trans, or present as those things in a way that suits other people. If you, in your heart, find that one of these labels suits you, then that is what you are for now! Gender and sexuality are a journey most people aren't encouraged to discover until they're older. If you realize you are Ace at 70, you are just as valid as someone who found out earlier, or someone who underwent severe trauma and now no longer feels sexual attraction. If YOU are comfortable with where you're at, that's the only thing that matters! But if it is something that causes you distress, then please look into it. Sometimes lack of sexual attraction IS caused by physical or psychological factors that can be reversed. (Although again, more often than not it simply causes lack of libido, not necessarily lack of attraction.)

Last but not least...what's the thing with the cake? Haha! Good question! When Aces were beginning to find one another and set up their own communities, several inside jokes began to emerge. Imagery of ace playing cards, dragons, 'space ace', and of course cake, sprang up as quirky ways to reference that. The idea being that you would rather have cake than sex!!

I really hope I didn't miss anything obvious, but I'm just writing this on the fly because realizing my Asexuality was such a huge stepping-stone on my path to being more comfortable with myself, and understanding myself as a whole. I spent my teenage years terrified of and yearning for a relationship--the reason being, of course, that in my mind, dating and sex went hand in hand, and I wanted the one but was terrified of the other. So many people take sexual attraction for granted, without realizing how alienating that can be for people who DON'T feel that attraction. It's pervasive!! It's everywhere! And then to be treated as though that expectation isn't as all-encompassing as it is, or that it actually doesn't exist at all, is cultural gaslighting. 

Anyway! I hope everyone had a wonderful pride month. <3 Hope to see you for the next one! Have an awesome July as well, what the heck! And if you have any questions about Asexuality, my messages are always open. I aim to inform. (And feel free to share this if you want!! Knowledge is power, but making things that seem awkward to talk about less taboo is ALSO power!)