i think its a little weird and unreasonable to act like people not only have to do the right thing of being kind, patient, understanding etc but also consistently feel good about those things. like … i can be kind to and play with my niece and nephew and support them even when they’re annoying me, because they’re kids and it’s my responsibility as an adult to be kind to them & i can recognise that my annoyance is my problem and not theirs. i can be annoyed at my adhd friend for forgetting or being late to our plans while still understanding that those actions don’t come from a place of malice, and work out those issues out together calmly & respectfully while still being kinda pissed about it, because i’m an adult capable of having an emotional response and then choosing not to act on it. what i’m not capable of doing is forcing myself to be happy about situations that inconvenience me or are objectively exhausting or frustrating. i as a human being am obligated to act a certain way and to treat ppl with kindness and respect even if i don’t want to. and i do and will continue to do so! but you can’t force people to feel things they don’t naturally feel lol and it’s childish to act like you can or like somebody’s a bad person for feeling an emotion they can’t control
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ok so i was at the worst Its SO Over in a good while, legitimately thinking, sorry gamers i dont think im making it, im talking like. running around at night like a madman in rain, blasting songs from 2016, slowing down to smoke and running back type of feeling. REAL its so over.
so i come back, tearing up, as unsettled as one can get, im calling my friend to say i love you and i just wanted to hear your voice. just so you know. anyway she didnt pick up (god bless shes prolly sleeping no bitterness queen get that sleep) and i was gonna text her something, i was sitting at the balcony, on my phone.
then, the only other person in there, a girl ive spoken once to because she asked for my help in the kitchen, comes, sits across me and tells me "i need to talk to you" so im immediately in Help The Girl mode. she starts telling me shes thinking of leaving the dorms, tells me about the fight she had w her roommates, at first i though she had something Me specific to say but when i questioned she said "i need some guidance and i thought i could talk to you" so probably because im a helpful person -a butch lesbian- and she sensed it. anyway she talks about it all, i give my opinions, she asks for advice, i give advice, she even asked at one point what i thought of her behavior in the fight she had with her roommates, i answered, said she loved the way i speak clearly and purposefully, said she was thankful, somewhere in there we started talking abt school and she asked me if i know this one guy from my major, id probably know him, she didnt want to offend me or anything, veeery reluctantly adding, "hes like a little bit gay" i laughed.
so here i am, having helped a stranger get some worries off her chest at night when she had no one to go to, just like me. holy shit. my pessimistic depressive ass has been taught a lesson of hope and human connection. just like that. all it takes is someone sitting across you and speaking to you.
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