#;; small talk

[smallsinger5901]

rating how high i think death note character’s pain tolerance is

this is very random but i realised i have strong opinions on this. So:

Light- 3/10. I cannot see him as having a high pain tolerance im sorry but he presents himself all godly and YET he would still fold if given a single paper cut

L- 9/10. Conversely, I think L is the kind of person who has absolutely no reaction to any kind of pain unless he’s literally getting mashed into a fine pulp

Mello- 7/10. He had a fairly high threshold for pain before the explosion just by virtue of building it up over years, but afterwards anything touching his scarred areas feels like hell incarnate. And he Hates that.

Near- 6/10. As a chronic pain Near believer i think he knows his limit and generally has a fairly high baseline of pain and knows what to avoid to stop it flaring up, but when it get really bad does he still has to recover for a bit

Misa- 10/10. Girl didnt even think about confessing under literal torture. She has the kind of strength that makes everyone a little scared once they realise she isnt flinching

Matt- 5/10. He’s good at managing to avoid pain but that one time he cracked his neck a weird way from whipping his car around he complained about it for like a month

Matsuda- 4/10. He is NOT good with pain and everyone teases him for it. Even Light, who will never admit that he would have had a wayyyy worse reaction

[blecha168]

WTH SPAWN CULT???

I've been seeing a lot of this kind of content lately. I read about people harming themselves or even worse, other people, for the sake of Spawn's blessing 😭🙏 like dudes Spawn from roblox will not bless you, but rather the developers of forsaken will "cancel" TwoTime.

That's really insane and in some ways it reminds me of the blue whale (2015 child🫠)

this fandom like a prison......

[doumeki]

[hooveringthemotherland]

One of the biggest issues of moving to England as a person who is Ukrainian AND neurodivergent is not knowing how to answer the small talk question of "how are you", but today I was reminded that Ukrainian blessed me with the phrase that roughly translates as "living is hard but dying would be a pity" and can we please naturalise it so I can use it all day every day

[facts-i-just-made-up]

could i get some facts about me to recite when new people ask me to tell them something about myself and my mind goes immediately blank

This is a problem that happens to many people with much on their mind. Here is a set of things you can tell people, no matter what the occasion:

I am not made solely of pine-wood or pine-derivative plastics.

I have between zero and four thousand limbs, inclusive.

I contain several liters of my people's water.

My name is comprised mostly of real letters (Musks may differ).

I am unaware of the contents of soil on most exoplanets.

My spleen is smaller than the Chicago metropolitan area.

I am not, have never been, and may never be you.

Telling people these facts will always put them at ease and quell any concerns they have about your normality.

[spsinclaire]

When the UnSub (or anyone, really) says something stupid and Jason Gideon stares at them like this:

It’s so fucking funny. He says nothing. Just a blank stare. I love it so much.

Gideon, my love, never change.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

The Misconception of Selfishness in Autistic Individuals

The Autistic Teacher

[itsaspectrumcomic]

Why are we making small talk over gchat??

[csuitebitches]

Do you think you speak too fast/ too slow?

Here is what I learned from a speech coach.

warm up:

start this exercise by taking a deep breath and saying “aaaaah” - try to extend this to 30 seconds. Now if it doesn’t go till 30, that’s fine. Aim to work your way to that. If you can work it up to 30, go for 45/60 seconds. Do this 5 times.

next. Download an app called Metronome beats. It’s basically what singers/ musicians use for beats.

Settings: keep beats/bar as 1,

clicks/beats as 1

start at 90. It will start with a click sound and continue “beeping.”

Match your words to the beep. One beep = one word. Now slowly, increase the beat by 5 till you reach 110. Increase it at your own pace but try to spend at least 20 seconds on each number (90 for 20 seconds; 95 for 20; 100 for 20….) That’s when you stop.

either start by reading something out loud and matching the beat, or select a topic and speak freely.

do this every single day. This will help with your breath, if you’re speaking on a topic it will help you think better and improve over time. The best way to further complement this exercise is to improve your vocabulary. Try to learn 1-3 new words a day and incorporate it in your vocabulary.

This is a great tool to use when learning new languages too. You can practice your speaking skills and see how fast you can remember/ read words.

[cryptid-aac]

I can't believe I have to say this but there's. HUGE difference between saying "small talk is actually quite fun" and "small talk is actually fun and if you don't engage with the bit then you have a small soul and are miserable"

Yes, some (LSN) autistics do have the ability to learn how to do small talk. But the vast majority do not and can not. And using confirmation bias doesn't make you not ableist. The truth of the matter is that the vast majority of autistics who have seen your posts and are hurt by it probably don't engage and just block you. Because they've seen how you treated the autistics who are like "hey calling people miserable for not doing the bit is actually pretty damn ableist, even if you didn't mean it". They've seen how you hide behind the autistics who can do the bit and use them as an excuse as a "*they* can do it, so you can to."

[smallsinger5901]

tiktok users will call themselves a crazy freak for being into conventionally attractive men with a couple of scars whereas tumblr users will straightfaced come up to you and be like ‘aha yeah im pretty vanilla i only want to fuck the Normal Amount of computer components :)’

[defectivegembrain]

Like you know what is much more sociable, actually, than expecting everyone to adhere perfectly to your pet social conventions? Adapting your interactions, especially if it's clear that you are significantly more adaptable than your conversation partner. It's deeply unfriendly, actually, to assume that someone who's very quiet or awkward or whatever is just not trying.

[whetstonefires]

also like. you train your smalltalk skills by doing Your Best at social events you are not in any way enjoying but can't reasonably leave right now so that later, when you are having a supremely shit day and are all out of fucks, you have banked enough XP in the art that you stand a decent chance of being acceptably pleasant to your waitress on autopilot.

i once in my youth had to spend five hours being so normal at the funeral of a cousin i had liked but not known well, because making that day in any way more difficult for her sisters was totally unacceptable.

i leveled up in the art of 'prioritizing the comfort of others over sincerity' like three times in that funeral parlor just desperately making sure to not even risk being an ass.

sometimes the ability to do that is very much called-for, is my point ig. and especially if it Does Not come naturally, you gotta grind to get there.

[shmoo06]

I can really suffer through a lot pain and awkwardness.