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Man or Bear?

The question itself is not inherently divisive, but it does touch on sensitive issues related to gender dynamics, safety, and societal expectations. Its intention and impact depend largely on how it is framed and discussed. Here are a few points to consider:

Awareness and Empathy: When framed thoughtfully, this question can raise awareness about the real struggles and fears women face, fostering empathy and understanding among men. It can lead to constructive conversations about gender equality, safety, and respect.

Highlighting Issues: The metaphor is meant to highlight serious issues such as harassment, violence, and systemic sexism that women encounter. It can serve as a powerful illustration to make these issues more understandable and relatable.

Constructive Dialogue: If approached with the aim of promoting dialogue and solutions, the question can bring men and women together to address and resolve the underlying problems. It encourages men to reflect on their own behavior and societal norms that contribute to women’s fear and discomfort.

Potential for Misunderstanding: However, if not handled carefully, the question could be perceived as accusatory or generalizing, which might lead to defensiveness and conflict. Some men might feel unfairly targeted or misunderstood, leading to divisive reactions.

Context Matters: The context in which the question is posed and the manner in which the discussion is facilitated are crucial. Ensuring that the conversation is respectful and focused on mutual understanding can mitigate potential divisiveness.

Overall, the question is a tool that can be used to either bridge understanding or create division, depending on how it is presented and discussed. The goal should be to use it as a means to promote empathy, awareness, and positive change, rather than to pit men and women against each other.

Why are men getting angry when women choose the bear?

A man might get angry that a woman chooses the metaphorical bear for several reasons, often rooted in misunderstandings, societal conditioning, or personal insecurities. Here are some possible explanations:

Perceived Rejection: He might feel personally rejected or insulted by the woman's choice. If he interprets her preference for solitude or non-human companionship as a statement about his own worth or desirability, it can trigger feelings of inadequacy and anger.

Ego and Pride: Some men have their egos tied to being seen as protectors or providers. When a woman chooses to avoid men in favor of safety, it can challenge their self-image and pride, leading to an angry response.

Entitlement: There can be a sense of entitlement where a man believes that women should naturally seek out male companionship. When this expectation is not met, it can provoke anger as it contradicts his ingrained beliefs about gender roles and relationships.

Misunderstanding: He might not fully understand the reasons behind the woman's choice and see it as irrational or exaggerated. Lack of empathy or awareness about the challenges women face can lead to frustration and anger.

Insecurity and Fear: Seeing women choose the bear can make some men feel insecure about their own behavior or the behavior of men in general. They might fear being judged or lumped together with those who have harmed women, leading to defensive anger.

Societal Norms: Societal norms and cultural conditioning often promote the idea that men should be dominant and women should seek their approval. When women reject this notion, it can cause cognitive dissonance and anger as it clashes with deeply held beliefs.

Loss of Control: For some men, anger can stem from a perceived loss of control. If they feel that women are making choices independently and prioritizing their own safety and well-being over traditional roles, it can trigger anger as a response to this shift in dynamics.

Understanding these underlying reasons can help in addressing the root causes of such anger and promoting more empathetic and respectful interactions.

ANGER = DANGER

Now, consider the following points:

Harassment and Abuse: Many women face harassment, assault, or abuse from men, making interactions potentially dangerous. This can happen in public, at work, or even at home.

Lack of Safety: In numerous situations, women may not feel safe around men due to past experiences or societal norms that don't adequately protect them from harm.

Systemic Issues: There are systemic issues like sexism and gender discrimination that make everyday interactions more challenging and stressful for women. These issues can range from being talked over in meetings to not being taken seriously or being paid less for the same work.

Given these struggles, the metaphorical "bear"—representing solitude or a peaceful, non-threatening existence—might be a preferable choice for many women. It signifies a desire for safety and peace over the potential harm that could come from interacting with some men.

So, when women metaphorically "choose the bear," they are expressing a preference for safety and the avoidance of negative experiences associated with certain men, even if it means opting for something that might traditionally seem less appealing or more isolating. This choice underscores the significant impact of the challenges they face and their need for a safe and respectful environment.

When a man gets angry because women choose a metaphorical bear, it can make women feel unsafe for several reasons:

Threat of Violence: Anger can sometimes escalate into aggression or violence. If a man reacts with anger to a woman’s choices or feelings, it can signal a potential threat to her physical safety. Women might fear that this anger could lead to verbal abuse, physical violence, or other forms of harm.

Control and Intimidation: Anger can be used as a tool to intimidate and control. When a man reacts angrily, it can feel like he’s trying to force women to conform to his expectations or desires. This kind of reaction can make women feel trapped and powerless, reinforcing a sense of vulnerability.

Invalidation of Experiences: When a man gets angry at a woman’s preference for safety (the bear), it can feel like he’s dismissing or invalidating her experiences and feelings. This lack of understanding or empathy can be deeply unsettling and contribute to a sense of emotional and psychological insecurity.

Reinforcement of Negative Patterns: If women have previously experienced anger or aggression from men in similar contexts, an angry reaction can trigger memories of past trauma. This reinforcement of negative patterns makes women more wary and fearful of potential harm.

Social Consequences: Anger can also lead to social consequences such as ostracism, gossip, or damage to a woman’s reputation. Fear of these social repercussions can make women feel unsafe in their communities or workplaces.

Barrier to Open Communication: Anger creates a hostile environment where open and honest communication becomes difficult. Women may feel that expressing their true feelings or preferences will only lead to more anger and conflict, making them feel emotionally unsafe and silenced.

Overall, when a man reacts with anger, it exacerbates the very fears and concerns that led women to prefer the metaphorical bear in the first place. It highlights the potential risks associated with interacting with men who don’t respect their choices or understand their need for safety, further entrenching their desire to avoid these negative interactions.

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Photos of gay trans male activist Lou Sullivan throughout his life, as presented in Lou Sullivan: Daring to be a Man Among Men by Brice D. Smith

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We almost forgot to share this here! Check out @vkelleyart if you haven’t already. She’s wonderful!

And please read her graphic novel @manu-graphic-novel - it’s giving us life!

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My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Here’s a hug for those of you who came out and just got a “Well, okay” or “That’s none of my business” as a reply. 

It might seem like a pretty ideal way for a coming-out to go - at least they didn’t get mad at you! But it can still feel uncomfortable or confusing. 

You opened up about something that’s important to you. You were probably nervous, excited, scared (or a mixture of all three!). Maybe you have thought about telling them for a long time, prepared for all kinds of questions they might have… and now you’re kind of hanging in the air. All those feelings have no place to go. 

You may be unsure if they’re really okay with it or if they just hoped it will “go away” if they don’t acknowledge it. Or you may feel like you’re not really as important to them as you thought you were, if they don’t even care/want to hear about it. Perhaps you know they meant well and thought that’s the best way to reply but you wanted to talk about your feelings and now you don’t know how to bring it up again. 

No matter why: It’s okay to feel hurt or confused about a reaction like that.

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

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Pride fans

Pt. 4 Aro/Ace/Aroace

Aro 1( modern) × Aro 2(old) × Grey aro

Asexual

Grey ace × aroace

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My dear lgbt+ kids, 

It’s okay to change labels - and there’s not the one direction that change always takes. 

People often assume younger ones identify with “complicated labels” while still trying to figure their feelings out and as they get older they will change to one of the common ones. 

That can happen, there’s nothing wrong with that. But the opposite can happen, too! 

It’s okay if you used to go by a well-known label and now feel more comfortable with one that many people never heard of. 

It’s okay if you used to go by a more vague label and now feel more comfortable with a really specific one. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

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(TW: Sex) 

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

There can be a big difference between your thoughts on sex and your thoughts on sex involving you. 

You can think that having lots of sex is fine, that we shouldn’t judge people for that - but you personally are happier with only having sex every once in a while. 

You can think that it’s perfectly okay to have sex on the first date, nobody gets to tell other people they have to wait - but it’s important for you to wait until you’re in a commited relationship.  

You can think that masturbation is nothing shameful and that it doesn’t need to be a “dirty secret” - but you prefer not to talk about your habits with your friends. 

Those are just three examples but my point is: You can be sex-positive and still have your own personal boundaries. 

You’re allowed to say no to things. It doesn’t have to mean you’re generally against these things or judging people who say yes to them. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

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I often wonder about all the wonderful books, movies, songs, and art pieces that will never be made because people are too afraid of seeming dumb, or that their ideas aren’t that great. You don’t have to be liked or loved by everyone. Sharing your art is worth it even only 1 other person in the world loves it and is inspired by it. Success is not measured in how many people like you.

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Introduction

Dear visitors,

Our society tends to put significant emphasis on one small aspect of the LGBT community: whether its members are L(esbian), G(ay), B(isexual), or T(ransgender). It clumps diverse individuals into broad categories based solely on their sexual/gender identity, yet these people (like all people) are more than just a letter. They are composites. They are jigsaw puzzles, and their individual experiences are the pieces that fit together, revealing the big picture. So instead of looking at one small piece of the puzzle, our society should make an effort to solve the thing and appreciate the image it creates.

The photographs we have created/altered below illustrate what people can miss by looking at only one part of a comprehensive whole. We designed the page to work like a kind of digital exhibit, with each blog post acting as a single artistic piece and contributing to the overall theme in some way.

This is an art activism project for one of our classes, so we encourage you to give us any feedback that you may have about the art and/or the message. Also, please feel free to share your thoughts and opinions with us.

Enjoy!

Carolyne and Fatima

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if harry potter means a lot to anyone else out there, too, and you're hurt by jk's transphobia today: your idea of hogwarts is your own. the castle and its magic are things that she can't take away from you or lock you out of. they're yours. you do belong in that world and hogwarts will always be there to welcome you home.

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