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This is my take on the alternative disability flag (the one that the original designer @capricorn-0mnikorn came up with because their very pretty but bright thin high-contrast zigzag one was too hard on a lot of people’s brains). I really like the muted colours and broader stripes on the new one a lot, but I don’t like the vertical lines one they came up with very much (this one)

because it reminds me of military decorations, so I thought a diagonal might work better - partly it’s more dynamic, and also because it represents the uphill struggle we all have getting accessibility and agency as disabled people.

I’m curious to know what people think. Could be less steep :)

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Celarian ✨

It rolls off the tongue better and looks pretty. I also love anything celestial.

Quick, what’s a better sounding word

Cenelian (comes from “centrifugal”; moving away from the center)

Celarian (comes from “celestial”)

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Daily reminder that:

-You are not making this up.

-You are not stigmatizing anything.

-Your system has a right to exist and label however they please.

-The problem is society. Not you.

And eventually the world will catch up.

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Referring to nullpronomial people- a guide

Nullpronomial is when someone does not use any 3rd person pronouns (such as he, they, it, xe, thon, or bun). 

In this guide I’ll give you examples on how to refer to these people using an example nullpronomial person named Max and random example pronomial people. This guide may also be useful for referring to pronomial people when their pronouns are unknown, or if you can’t use someone’s preferred pronouns but don’t want to misgender them.

1. Try to understand and respect the person’s identity as nullpronomial. Know that being nullpronomial is not “new” or “a trend���. Examples of historical nullpronomial figures include the Public Universal Friend, who lived from 1752 to 1819.

1. Actively think of what you’re going to say, and think of something else if that sentence requires pronouns. You can (should) also do this for pronomial (pronoun-using) trans people by thinking of things that use their correct pronouns.

2A. To think of something without pronouns, try to use a different sentence structure. The passive voice may be helpful. Sentences without pronouns are sometimes longer or more complicated than those with pronouns, but not always. Remember that your sentence-building possibilities are endless due to the nature of language and think creatively. Ex: “I just looked at thon, and thon’s pretty” becomes “I just looked at that person, who is pretty” or the simpler “I just looked at that pretty person”.

2B. If the sentence requires pronouns and you can’t think of something else, use the person’s name instead of pronouns. Ex: “I just talked to him” becomes “I just talked to Max”.

3. Often it will be easier to use a combination of steps 2A and 2B in your sentences. Ex: “It is named Rot, and chose the name itself” becomes “The person is named Max, and personally chose the name”. Another example is “She looked at her face in the hand-mirror” becomes “Max looked at the mirrored face in the hand-mirror”.

4. Remember that it’s alright to mess up. You’re learning a new way to refer to someone, and it can seem hard at first. If you make a mistake, apologize quickly, correct yourself, and move on. Most people will forgive you for referring to them incorrectly as long as it was unintentional and you try to be better in the future. Don’t give up!! Over time and with practice, your new talent of referring to people without using pronouns will get easier.

5. Once you get good yourself, or even while you’re still learning, correct others if necessary. Ex: Your friend Max is out publicly as nullpronomial, but without Max there to correct xem your other friend Addison uses incorrect language (uses pronouns). You correct xem because you support Max and want people to refer to your friend correctly.

(A nullpronomial/no pronouns flag by @rainbowlack​)

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ND culture is having scars all over yours legs cus you can't stop picking at your skin. 😔✨

ND culture is rubbing your scrapes/cuts

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I am an autistic two spirit indigenous person in desperate need of support

I am in an abusive situation and I need enough money to leave without being (more) homeless . I have no family or friends to fall back on and I am not in my home country.

I can do tarot readings for a price we can agree on. Feel free to DM me here or another platform

I would really appreciate any help

E tr*nsfer - lebarker00@gmail.com

Cash app (PLEASE do not mention abuse if using this) -

$daboynoosey

I fear for my life and safety please I need a support system even if I can just like have a friend

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Hi folks, URGENT help needed!

So I’m approaching the ~danger zone~ financially and do not have the privilege of that being something I can just ‘weather through’.

With the way things are going w political/economic stuff right now I’m going to have to go back to sex work despite doing my best to work outside of it for the past half year. Income is just not keeping up with what I need and while it has been great being able to focus on other areas of healing and growth, it has been a steady drain in my bank account. In fact, as always healing has cost a lot, (therapy has been difficult to afford) most of which I had saved from working my ass off these past several years and I literally do not have the privilege to maintain these things without lots of extra effort. It looks like I’m going to need to go back to SW and I need your help buying time til that starts to pay off.

Some background on me for those who don’t know: NB mixed Black Afro-Caribbean/AAPI Femme DV & SA survivor who had to run away from home (and this has NO familial/generational support) and spend over a decade grinding for $$$ to pay for school and about 30k in hospital & medical bills due to C-PTSD; went into online SW to deal w that and survive capitalism, then had to quit after a while bc it’s emotionally toxic but with late-stage capitalism & colonization being what they are that’s only lasted about 6 mos and lost me around 3k in savings. In this time I’ve been able to get a lot of transitional/liberatory work done and I can’t afford to lose ground on all we’re building. I need your help.

Life rn is a constant back and forth of either being able to hustle to afford to live or stop working to recover from burnout. My rent is $2,200 and I need help with at least half of it until I can get work to pick up & my new roommates arrive at the end of the year. Please help Black ppl BEFORE we are in crisis! Donate to PayP*l.me/ellipsislux so I can afford to keep organizing without having to lose what I’ve saved and rely on exploitative work that saps my mental health.

Again, payp*l.me/ellipsislux

And if you need to get something ‘in return’ instead of just donating then please shop my site https://awingedserpent.big cartel.com

Thanks for reading this and salamat to everyone who boosts, shares & donates 🙏🏾👁🧿

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The Queer Community still hates Autism Speaks!

A special Pride Month post!

[Image Description: Two images set to the background of a flag with three stripes; the upper and lower stripes are both light red, the middle stripe is a darker red. The first image is of the the Queer flag. It is white with two chevrons of equal size in the middle, one a lilac colour and the other a lavender colour. The second image has the Autism Speaks logo crossed out with a ‘no’ sign. Another image at the bottom reads “TERFs, exclusionists, transmeds, and queerphobes, DO NOT INTERACT! You’re out of touch and we hate you almost as much as Autism Speaks”. End Description.]

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The entire LGBTQIA+ Community hates Autism Speaks!

A special Pride Month post!

[Image Description: Two images set to the background of a flag with three stripes; the upper and lower stripes are both light red, the middle stripe is a darker red. The first image is of the eight striped Philadelphia rainbow pride flag. The stripes in descending order are black, brown, red, orange, yellow, green, blue and purple and they go down horizontally. The second image has the Autism Speaks logo crossed out with a ‘no’ sign. Another image at the bottom reads “TERFs, exclusionists, transmeds, and queerphobes, DO NOT INTERACT! You’re out of touch and we hate you almost as much as Autism Speaks”. End Description.]

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A-Spec Relationship Lables

Queerplatonic: a term for a relationship that bends the rules for telling apart romantic relationships from non-romantic relationships. It typically goes beyond what is considered normal or socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but is not romantic in nature or does not fully fit the traditional idea of a romantic relationship.

Iodic: a term for aromantic and other a-spec people that can be used to describe their ideal relationship. an iodic person’s ideal relationship would be more emotionally involved than what’s typically associated with friendship in western society, and would have a similar level of closeness to what is typically associated with romance.

Callistic: a term for aromantic and other a-spec people that can be used to describe their ideal relationship. callistic describes a-spec people who do not want a queerplatonic relationship, close friendship, or anything similar.

Europic: a term for aromantic and other a-spec people that can be used to describe their ideal relationship. a europic person is somewhere inbetween callistic and iodic. their ideal relationship would be more emotionally involved than what’s typically associated with friendship in western society, but they do not want to completely committed to their partner.

Appromour: a type of relationship which is not quite a queerplatonic relationship but also not quite romantic. people in an appromour may desire or be comfortable expressing and performing a number of typically romantic activities, and they may live together or get married. it may look like and may be very close to a romantic relationship but is still decidedly not romantic.

Queeragamic: a term for a deep, emotional connection that transcends common conceptions of friendships and their importance but does not involve sexual acts.

Passionate Friendship: a nonsexual, nonromantic, emotionally and physically intimate relationship between friends. this friendship serves as a primary relationship, so if the people involved create a hierarchy of relationships in their lives, the passionate friendship is either their most important relationship or one of their most important relationships, entirely equal to the other most important. it can also be a relationship where it is unclear whether the feelings are “romantic” or “nonromantic” for one or more of the people involved.

Companionate: where one does not wish to have a romantic or sexual relationship but still wants a deep relationship with someone.

Wavership: a form of relationship where the exact type of relationship changes. for example, one day the relationship might be romantic, the next day it might be queerplatonic, a platonic bond another, and a soft romo relationship another day. wavership can also be used when the exact nature of a relationship isn't known by the people in the relationship, but they know it's a partnership of some kind.

Semiship: a term for relationship that is in a “gray area” of relationships. a semiship is a relationship that isn’t as committed or “deep” as relationships are expected to be, by the preference of those involved.

Softromo: a term used by a-spec communities to describe a relationship that is a "low level romantic relationship". it is typically somewhere in between a romantic relationship and queerplatonic relationship, with the parties having some amount of romantic feelings and/or romantic actions, but not fully, as seen in "normal" romantic relationships.

Delamour: a lover who one shares a bond that is so deep, so profound, that the word ‘love’ is just too simple. it’s not sexual, romantic, platonic, spiritual, or any single type of attraction (though it may share elements with them), nor is it simply a combination of multiple types. it’s beyond any label or category or trope of love.

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Alternatives to QPP

Zucchini: colloquial term used to refer to a person's partner in a queerplatonic relationship.

Mallowfriend: alternative to qpp and zucchini. it's short for marshmallowfriend.

Aromate: aromantic equivalent to datemate.

Quasifriend: quasi- is sometimes used to replace the queer- in queerplatonic. the meaning of quasi- is "seemingly; apparently but not really" or "being partly or almost".

Squishfriend: a squish is the platonic equivalent to a crush.

Plushfriend: a plush is the queerplatonic equivalent to a crush.

Squashfriend: a squash is the less commonly used term for a queerplatonic crush.

QPF / QPfriend: replaces 'partner' with 'friend'.

Partner: a familiar choice that can be used for any type of partnership.

Companion: often used by those who are specifically in a companionate relationship.

PF: a specific term for those who are in a passionate friendship. also known as passfriend, pashfriend, or passionate friend.

Mellon: the elvish word for "friend".

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You can’t argue with transmisogynists. You can’t debate them. You really shouldn’t provide them a platform. Let them stay in their echo chambers, yelling at each other.

What you can do:

Make your undeniable, irrefutable support for trans women known.

Make posts on your blogs, your Twitter, your Facebook. Support crowdfunding for trans women, or at least spread the word about the fundraisers. Tell your friends, your family, your coworkers.

Transmiogynists don’t care what trans women have to say. They don’t want to care. But when cis people make their support known and undeniable, they lose their target demographic. And trans women know, there’s one more person we can feel less afraid around.

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Could somebody be a paramedic if they were missing a forearm?

Y’know, sometimes a question comes along that exposes your biases. I’m really, really glad you asked me this.

My initial instinct was to say no. There are a lot of tasks as a paramedic that require very specific motions that are sensitive to pressure: drawing medications, spreading the skin to start IVs. There’s strength required–we do a LOT of lifting, and you need to be able to “feel” that lift.

So my first thought was, “not in the field”. There are admin tasks (working in an EMS pharmacy, equipment coordinator, supervisor, dispatcher) that came to mind as being a good fit for someone with the disability you describe, but field work….?

(By the way, I know a number of medics with leg prostheses; these are relatively common and very easy to work with. I’m all in favor of disabled medics. I just didn’t think the job was physically doable with this kind of disability.)

Then I asked. I went into an EMS group and asked some people from all across the country. And the answers I got surprised me.

They were mostly along the lines of “oh totally, there’s one in Pittsburgh, she kicks ass” or “my old partner had a prosthetic forearm and hand, she could medic circles around the rest of her class”. One instructor said they had a student with just such a prosthesis, and wasn’t sure how to teach; the student said “just let me figure it out”, and by the end of the night they were doing very sensitive skills better than their classmates.

Because of that group I know of at least a half-dozen medics here in the US with forearm and hand prostheses.

So yes. You can totally have a character with one forearm, who works as a paramedic for a living.

Thanks again for sending this in. It broadened my worldview.

xoxo, Aunt Scripty

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Recognizing Abuse Masterlist

Signs that you’re living in abuse:

Behavioral patterns of living in abuse

Was I abused? Checklist

Not knowing you are a victim

Signs your family is abusive

Making excuses for your abusive parents

Experience of living in secrecy

What they taught you was abuse

Emotional experiences of living in abuse

Shame and guilt: how abused children feel

What makes parents abusers (actions)

Have I been manipulated into believing abuse was my fault? Checklist

Am I being held hostage by abusers? Checklist

You are not allowed to mention the past

Why you still love abusive parents

Parental behaviour that isn’t normal

Shit parents aren’t supposed to say to you

Experience of “not belonging anywhere”

Red flags for abusive parents

Healthy vs Abusive Chores

Was my childhood abusive or just had some bad parts?

Rules always change (unpredictable environment is abusive)

Breakdown of abusive parent’s behaviour:

“This is my house” rule

Start living in the real life!

Why all the children aren’t abused equally in an abusive home

Common abuser hypocrisies

Do your parents want you to be happy or look happy?

Why do they try to convince you that you’re worthless

Why do they pretend you’re a burden? Controlling behaviour

Why your abusers are not good people

Abusive parents are keeping you in false hope they’ll change

Are your parents preventing you from succeeding?

Abusive parents pretending “it wasn’t that bad”

Double Bind (why every choice you make ends wrong)

Incorporating trauma in raising children

Abusers will not allow you to call them out on abuse

Signs your parents are narcissistic:

Stuff delusional narcissists say

Shit narcissistis parents say

Tactics of narcissistic abuse

Recognizing emotional immaturity of narcissistic parents

Examples of narcissistic behaviours

Being punished for growing up by narcissistic parents

What children of narcissists go thru

Signs you’ve been thru sexual abuse:

CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) Symptoms

Signs you might have endured CSA

Was I sexually abused by adults as a child? Checklist

Signs of abusive friendship/relationship:

How to tell if a friend is not a friend

Am I in an abusive relationship/friendship? Checklist

Manufacturing insecurities

Red flags for abusers

Have I been thru social abuse? Checklist

You can recognize abusers by how they make you feel

How abusive childhood teaches you to stay in abusive relationships

Recognizing abusive friendship

Signs you’re struggling with trauma

Trauma processing information

Experiences of traumatized children

Signs you’re recovering from long term abuse

Things abuse survivors think/say

Thoughts of victims of child abuse

Your brain on trauma

How long term childhood abuse develops into complex trauma (comic)

Ups and downs of trauma

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My entire existence is a symptom /hj

being neurodivergent and/or mentally ill is just a constant stream of “wait, this is a SYMPTOM?”

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Sex Positive vs. Sex Favorable

They’re not the same thing.  Sex positive, neutral, and negative describes someone’s opinion on the morality of sex in general and its place in society.  Sex favorable, indifferent, averse, and repulsed have to do with your own interactions with sex.

Favorable, indifferent, averse, and repulsed is mostly used for asexual-spectrum people, and a lot of aromantic-spectrum people use the same scale to describe their feelings towards romance. For instance, as an aroace, I am sex averse and romance indifferent.  But allosexual (non-asexual) people might also find it helpful.  Like, there are people who feel attraction towards other people but are sex averse and don’t want to have sex with anyone they’re attracted to.  (There are also people fitting the same description who do identify as aspec, and that’s valid, too.)

Here’s the chart that’s commonly used used to explain the two scales.  I’m going to add an image description afterwards, but I’m not really familiar with doing them so it may not be great.

[Image description: A picture divided vertically into two halves.  The left half is white with black text and the right half is black with white text.  Each half has several terms written in bold with a smaller description under each one.  The text is in a handwriting-style font.

On the left side, it says, “Sex-positive: To have a positive attitude towards sex in general.  Not necessarily for yourself, but any safe sex between consenting people. Sex-neutral: to have no opinion on sex in general, neither positive nor negative. Sex-negative: to have a negative attitude towards sex in general.  To think sex is bad/wrong, even safe and between consenting people.”

On the right side, it says, “Sex-favorable: to have a positive attitude towards sex for yourself.  To desire sex.  Sex-indifferent: To have no opinion on sex for yourself, neither positive not negative.  Sex-averse: to have a negative attitude toward sex for yourself.  To not desire sex.  Sex-repulsed: To be repulsed by the thought of sex.”

End description.]

People get these two scales mixed up constantly, and/or leave out words.  Y’all, I know it’s hard.  I have to go through both of them in my head before I mention either one to make sure I’m saying the right thing.  But we can do better.  Please!  Like, one of my friends was angry at me when I came out as asexual to her because she thought I was attacking her sexuality.  And yeah, I’m sex averse, but I hadn’t told tell her that, and it has no bearing on what I think of her.  It’s actually a common myth that the concept of asexuality is inherently sex negative, and we don’t need to encourage that by conflating sex negativity with being sex averse or repulsed.

Actually, most people fit somewhere on both scales.  So I made a chart of my own that shows how they fit together.  Personally, I’m in the top right corner, sex averse and (doing my best to be) sex positive.

[Image description: A three-by-three chart, similar to an alignment chart.  The left column is labeled “sex favorable”, the middle column is labeled “sex indifferent”, and the right column is labeled “sex averse/repulsed”.  The top row is labeled “sex positive”, the middle row is labeled “sex neutral”, and the bottom row is labeled “sex negative”.

The box in the top left of the chart reads, “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people having consensual sex, and I personally like to have sex.”  The box in the top middle reads, “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people having consensual sex, and I personally don’t mind having sex.”  The box in the top right reads, “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people having consensual sex, but I personally don’t want to have sex.”

The middle-left box reads, “I think it’s sometimes all right for people to have sex, and I personally like to have sex.”  The center box reads, “I think it’s sometimes all right for people to have sex, and I personally don’t mind having sex.”  The middle-right box says, “I think it’s sometimes all right for people to have sex, but I personally don’t want to have sex.”

The box in the bottom left says, “I think sex is immoral (misspelled as “immortal”), but I personally like to have sex.”  The bottom middle box says, “I think sex is immoral, but I personally don’t mind having sex.”  The bottom right box says, “I think sex is immoral, and I personally don’t want to have sex.”

End description.]

So yeah, you can be sex positive and sex repulsed, or sex neutral and sex averse, or whatever!  I’d say that a lot of American politicians are both sex negative and sex favorable.  If you need more information, I added my own descriptions of the seven terms below the cut.

(I really wish I hadn’t made this so long, LOL.  It took me way too long.  Please reblog so it’s worth it?)

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