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Oh shit next episode tomorrow? That's a bright spot on my day 😊

Thursday or as I like to call it Deep Space Discounts Eve

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Art by Tiina Menzel

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im not even the type of guy to go "actually it's frankenstein's MONSTER" because a painting by rembrandt or picasso or any other artist is often called "a rembrandt" or "a picasso" as shorthand. so in this respect frankenstein's monster can be considered "a frankenstein"

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I'm not forcing anyone to adopt any label, I'm sorry if you interpreted my response to mean that. You're right, people who fall under the non-binary umbrella who also don't want to be referred to as non-binary exist, and they have the right to determine for themselves how they wish to be addressed. My post was purely about propositional logic, and how "x" and "non-x" is an exhaustive list of all possible states.

insinuating that someone's gender has to be either binary or non binary with no other option at all or any room for space in between the two is recreating the gender binary. again. that defeats the purpose of non binary identities altogether. you cant make an identity called "non binary" part of a binary. come on

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I understand the sentiment behind it, but logically have to disagree. The gender binary is a false dichotomy, because it proposes that all people fit into the categories "man" and "woman" and that there is no other option, which is incorrect. However, non-binary and binary is a true dichotomy, because non-binary is a direct negation of binary.

Replace "binary" with "red". Everything is either "red" or "non-red", and there is nothing that is neither red nor non-red. Or maybe Tim; everyone is either Tim or not Tim. This is one of the logical absolutes - the excluded middle. If a true dichotomy (x and not x) exists, there cannot logically be something that fits into neither category.

Now, there are a LOT of identities that fall outside of the gender binary, and they're as different from each other as can get, but all identifies that fall outside the gender binary definitionally fall under the umbrella of non-binary.

insinuating that someone's gender has to be either binary or non binary with no other option at all or any room for space in between the two is recreating the gender binary. again. that defeats the purpose of non binary identities altogether. you cant make an identity called "non binary" part of a binary. come on

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Vic deserved the win here, they clearly got the instrument to replicate the noise the best!

Vic, Mimi, and Maame-Yaa go hurdy-gurdy mode

Watch the full episode on Dropout

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GoFundMe: an unwilling lynchpin of the American healthcare system!

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So right now, I'm leaning towards my identity being demiboy. I use they/them, but he/him doesn't bother me that much, and I've been using male honorifics. I'd like to look a bit more neutral/androgynous than I do now, but still slightly on the masc side of androgyny. I don't know if this is where I land fully, but it's where I feel comfortable right now.

My one issue is the name, "demiboy". It feels weird calling myself a "boy", I'm 31 years old. Is there some other label to point to the same/similar concept, that isn't quite as infantalizing?

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I've been working from home all week, doing video call training for the new job, and so I decided to rock a skirt all week ☺️ it's nice to sort of get comfortable interacting with people while wearing it, in an environment where I don't have to worry about them judging me, so when I do go into public with one, I'm sorta accustomed

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I finally got the party to the astral plane! Now I just need to figure out what to have them do there

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So I've started outwardly going by they/them in normal life, not just friends and family. It's...weird? I still kinda do a double take when people use it for me, like it takes me a second to realize they're talking about me. This happened when it was just my friends too, the first time in the evening that someone did it, it'd be disorienting, but then as they did it more, it felt good and made me happy. That's why I wanted to start doing it in my everyday life too. I figured it'd take a bit to get used to, but when I was accustomed, it'll feel right and good again, like it did with just my friend group. But right now, while I'm still adjusting to this new way of being referred to, I have such bad imposter syndrome 😔

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Something I need to remember

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I was looking at the competitors for an upcoming Rubik's cube competition and I noticed there were two people with the same last name, so I checked their times and one was clearly a lot faster than the other. Tragic

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Got myself a pronoun pin, just in time for the new job 😊

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So I spelled it out nice and proper for my parents. Told them that I'm an adult, and that as an adult, I get to make decisions for my life, including the criteria by which people are removed from my life, and that one such criteria is voting for Donald Trump in 2024. I refuse to keep someone in my life who saw the first time, saw the plan for this time, and was like "yep, sounds good to me". I understand I can't control who I interact with, but I can control who I keep close to me.

My dad understood, and said he respects people's right to choose who is in their life, and said that I can reach out if I ever decide I want to reconnect. Probably an ideal response from him.

My mom said she didn't vote in the presidential race, only local races. I told her if I find out later she's lying, I'm going to be mega pissed, but if that's true, then she doesn't meet the criteria. I can understand why someone would not want to vote for Harris - I had difficulty reconciling her stance on Gaza, her refusal to outright support trans people, and her general platform of "vote for me because I'm not him". I suspect her reasons for not voting for her are different to those, but I digress.

So I guess I'm down to one parent. One more than I thought, I suppose. It's been a stressful time

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So, that new job I got? They want me to fly to Canada for training. Unfortunately, I don't have a passport...

So they fucking sent a letter request for an expedited passport!!