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Censorship of language is my real enemy. I hate the “pdf file” and “grape” bullshit. Say rape, say pedophile, say sex, say racist, say cutting, say all the words before you forget what they mean.

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the self care industry will sell you face masks and teas and whatnot so i'm here to remind you not to forget the most important self care activity which is masturbation

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Okay, so storytime.

I realized a few months ago that my first sexual experience was with my best friend when I was a teenager. We were both very young, very christian, and in our heads we weren't having sex, we were just being girls and comparing our bodies. We weren't having sex because we didn't have penises that could penetrate something, we just like how it felt. We weren't having sex, because we were two girls, and if there's no babies, there's no sex, we weren't having sex, we just like to feel there....

Oh gosh, realizing that was a slap in the face because, for the longest time, i never considered any of this, because i never considered that even though we were very innocent about it, we were having sex, yes, innocently, we didn't know what was happening, we just liked how it felt. Please for the love of god, give kids sex ed, because i was luck that i never caught anything, and neither did she. But please teach sex ed for everybody, because a lot of people think that sex is penis+vagina+penetration. And this can cause so much trouble. Again, i was lucky

reading het romance novels is so fucking goofy because the leads will be like "we shouldn't have sex yet... the time isn't right... it would be Wrong" but then they'll go right back to sucking/eating/fingering/ jerking each other to completion and still be like. "wow good thing we haven't had sex yet we're being so responsible :)" how do these people Live like this

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tumblr please stop showing me dating apps ads. i'll meet girls the old way; never

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I can't keep having the same conversations about love languages, mbti, iq, bmi, "brain fully formed at 25" and shit over and over again...

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ROMAN HOLIDAY 1953 — dir. William Wyler

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not to sound like a medieval peasant but, cheese and bread. garlic and butter. a menagerie of spices. potatoes. that’s what life is all about right there.

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stop saying degenerate you look like a nazi

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I miss talking to people, and by that I don't mean online or just a small conversation with a co-worker, I mean actually talking to people, having actual conversations, being loud and excited about something and receiving the same energy from them, laughing until everything hurts, and then laughing more because we don't remember the joke but we remember the feeling. Being passionate about something that I liked and having the permission to show that without judgement. I miss being able to share parts of myself with other people, sharing secrets and inside jokes.

And it's weird to miss all that because I don't think I ever had it, not to that level. When I laughed, I got comments on how annoying my laugh was, when I talked about something that I liked, I got stares and people moking me, when I talked a little loud because I was excited about something, I was told to shut it. So I just sat down and allowed people to share their lives with me but didn't allow me to be a part of them, I was just allowed to look from the outside. I made myself so small over the years that I can hear and find everyone, but no one can find or hear me.

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Chris Evans on set of sacrifice

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Ngl I totally forgot fandom discourse was a thing. I don’t care man, I have car payments

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I'm currently re-watching, and holy fuck, I forgot how much I hate Hoyt, I really fucking do. If we are going to compare these two characters, I'm just going to say this, Ross Geller was whinny, but that was it, he was annoying, he was clingy, but he never put his friends lives in danger. Hoyt had the same personality as the red pill guys, he was dangerous, it was scary to watch him, and I don't like how they make him and Jessica end up together, which I had completely forgotten about.

Fuck Hoyt Fortenberry

I never thought I would say this, but if I was given a choice between Ross Geller from Friends and Hoyt Fortenberry from True Blood over which character I can tolerate, I’m going with Ross.

Both these characters are “Nice Guys” in that they’re entitled, whiny, immature, and unable to take responsibility for their behavior. However, Hoyt has Ross beat for a number of reasons: Hoyt turned into a misogynistic jackass the moment Jessica wanted to break off the relationship with him. He proceeded to slut-shame Jessica, cruelly threw her out of his house, continued to act entitled to her even though they were no longer in a relationship, got mad at her when she refused to take him back, joined up with a Hate Group and participated with them on one of their raids, and verbally expressed a desire to see Jessica dead. When members of the Hate Group kidnapped Jessica and brought her to Hoyt tied up so that he could kill her, Hoyt sat with Jessica for several hours in an isolated room while the Hate Group members were right outside the door, debated about whether or not to kill her (while holding a gun to her head no less) and only letting her go after more slut-shaming and guilt-tripping. Even after that, he decided he would rather forget about Jessica entirely because she’s no longer his girlfriend, and never apologizes for how disgusting his behavior was. When he comes back 6 months later with another girlfriend named Brigette, he’s awful to her for no reason, goes pining after Jessica when he’s suppose to be in a committed relationship, tries to downplay his behavior when Brigette confronts him on this, and then callously dumps her the moment Jessica decides to take Hoyt back. The next day, he decides to get married to Jessica, and it’s only when he’s minutes away from marrying her that he decides he should apologize to Brigette over the phone.

And yet True Blood kept trying to insist Hoyt was a good person in spite of all of this.

I know Ross gets a lot of flak for how he acts sometimes, and I’m not going to say that he doesn’t deserve some of it, but at least Ross didn’t descend into the extremes Hoyt did. Yes, there’s the “I Hate Rachel” club, and I’m not going to excuse that, but compared to joining with the equivalent of the Ku Klux Klan and expressing a desire to murder someone because of a bad break-up, Hoyt’s behavior is far more disturbing than Ross’s IMO. Plenty of guys go through bad break-ups. Most of them don’t join Hate Groups, or consider murdering their ex-girlfriends.

At least Ross tried to be friends with Rachel after the break-up. At least Ross tried to be accepting when Joey developed feelings for Rachel, and acknowledged he needed to move on from her. At least Ross didn’t consider murdering Rachel. At least Ross had moments on the show where he got called out whenever he did something selfish or douchey.

I know Friends and True Blood are vastly different shows (one is a sitcom whereas the other is a supernatural soap-opera), but they still reflect the character archetype of the Entitled “Nice Guy,” and demonstrate why that kind of character is problematic. The difference is that Ross was occasionally taken to task for his behavior, and because of that, I can tolerate him to some degree. Hoyt never was, and the show rewarded him for being an asshole. The result is Hoyt is insufferable as a character, and his relationship with Jessica is gross.

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When I’m reading smut and the author breaks the flow of the story so that the characters can tell us that they have enthusiastic consent it feels exactly like when Dora the Explorer looks directly into the camera and says ‘Seat belts so we can be safe!’ anytime she gets into a motorized vehicle.

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i told my friend’s dad that he was hot (it was in context with the conversation, he was complaining that he was feeling old, etc), and he said a very genuine thank you and the conversation moved on to other topic, my friend was now talking about something else entirely when his dad goes

“i think if i were born in your generation i might have been bisexual”

and friend got kinda mad at me lmao