#you're not entitled to tags

[everything-a-wolf-could-want]

People are so goddamn stupid. It's willful ignorance is what it is, because the information is being given and they're simply choosing to ignore it.

Chose not to use archive warnings is a very specific tag. It's actually the default tag that will be auto-selected if you don't choose anything else in that section of tags. There are 6 possible tags you can select under Archive Warnings:

No Warnings Apply - this means none of the 4 specific warnings are present in the story

Major Character Death - this means an important character dies and it has a large impact on the story/characters

Graphic Depictions of Violence - this means there is violence in the story and it is described in detail

Underage - this means a character or multiple characters engage in underage sexual intimacy

Rape/non-con - this means some form of rape/non-con/sexual assault occurs in the story

Chose not to use archive warnings - this one means that one or more of the 4 warnings might be present, and the author has chosen not to tell you which one(s) ((if any)) it is.

If you cannot handle any one ((or more)) of the 4 possible Archive Warnings, you should filter that warning ((or warnings if more than one upsets you)) out of your search results. You should also filter out the chose not to use archive warnings tag, as it has the potential to contain any/all of the others.

Choosing option 6 doesn't mean you haven't warned. It means you have warned without specific details. The reader then chooses to take a risk on which of the 4 warnings ((or what combination of them, up to including all 4)) the story contains.

Readers are not entitled to specific tags/warnings. The author has a right - as all authors do, since certainly published books very rarely contain content warnings - to not spoil their story. Now, in conjunction with that, the reader has a right as well. The right to not read a story without specific content warnings.

You aren't entitled to specific warnings/tags. You're just not so get that out of your head right the fuck now. You're not entitled to a single fucking thing, most especially on fanfic which you're receiving for free. But you have the right to say if an author uses the non-specific chose not to use archive warnings tag, I will not read their story since I can't know if it's safe for me to do so.

And that's fine. You're allowed to do that. In fact, you're encouraged to do that. I, personally, always select chose not to use archive warnings even if no warnings apply to my story. I do this because I fully support an author's right to tag - or not tag - as they choose and this is my way of supporting AO3's support of that choice. I use other tag fields to warn for things in my stories, as a personal choice, but I will always pick the chose not to use archive warnings option from that first field. And I know this means that there are swathes of people - people who might enjoy my stories, in fact - who will never see my work, because they filter that tag out. And that's fine. I accept that as the consequence of my personal tagging choice.

But if someone comes into my comments and acts like an entitled, spoiled, whiny brat because they don't like my tagging, I'm going to utilize AO3's block feature. Because if you're going to act like an asshole, you're going to lose speaking privileges in my space.

So no, the original asker is not the asshole. Every one of the spoiled fucking brats responding, on the other hand, is.

AITA For Not Tagging a Work?

I, 32F, write primarily for my own enjoyment, my main platform being AO3. I currently have a multi-chaoter series that includes several major plot twists, including one that includes non-con. To avoid spoiling it, because I believe my stories deserve to be read with as little background info as possible, I only tag it as "Creator CHOSE not to Include Archive Warnings". Which is, as I hope is obvious, is not synonymous with "There Are No Warnings". The point is, I don't use the Rape/Non-con tag. Recently, I got a very upset reader in my comments complaining about how triggering that chapter of my work is, and that's where I have a problem. I believe the corporate obsession content warnings pervading even fanworks to be a major problem. I don't want to sanitize my work, but I do get that they contain pretty heavy themes. But I feel like I seriously do give my stories a disservice by adding labels on them, and maybe I am the asshole for this, but I value my pride and joy (my work) over strangers online. AITA?

What are these acronyms?

[poisonedfate]

bbc merlin - 03x08 The Eye of the Phoenix

the guy who can barely get the words "we're friends" past his lips vs the guy who will call you his best friend within the first day of you meeting aka the different representations of love and affection in bbc merlin

[marzipanandminutiae]

I hope the statue that he is kissing is a modern replica.

The one time I visited the British museum, some people where taking pictures of them sitting in the lap of an Egyptian statue and they got so mad when asked not to do that.

Oh yeah. I've never witnessed it (I would instantly call a guard over; fuck that), but it definitely happens.

And the people who defend it always talk about how they're "just having fun" or "being free spirits" or "honoring what the artist would have wanted [how the hell do you know that? the artist has been dead for, in some cases, thousands of years]." it's presented as this sensual, Romantic thing that's pushing back against a stuffy, repressive museum culture

and like. no. that's not what you're doing at all

This display in the Ashmolean Museum demonstrates the effects of touching different materials- just touching with bare hands, not even putting pressure on them or applying other substances like lipstick or other makeup that might be on your face when you kiss a statue

I work in museums and even for objects where you don't have to wear gloves, I wash my hands before handling and touch them as little as possible. even in private antique jewelry shops, I warn the sellers that I have chemical sunscreen on before asking to try on pieces. once things are in my "collection" I'm often a bit less careful, but if it doesn't belong to me, I take the utmost precautions. and things in museums don't belong to you

they belong to generations that will come after you. they belong to other members of the public. they belong to the world. that's what museums are for. the rules aren't there to ruin your good time; they're there to make sure other people get to enjoy seeing these things, too we're collectively moving away from barriers in the museum world as much as possible, so people CAN see details of these objects more easily, but that relies on a level of trust between us and the guests

it's not cute or beautiful or sexy or Romantic to touch or kiss statues in museums. it's stealing from everyone else for your personal photo op- it's selfish and entitled in the extreme

[glaiveprime]

got distracted. anyways heres all of my personal headcanons for relationships in the hex made as clear as possible (they're all so complicated)

(under cut is more personal hcs, but this time for what they think of each other + their sexuality and genders. sorry if its really hard to read >_>' send me an ask asking for a specific duo n ill write it out for ya..)

and one bonus really fucked up image with all of the lines turned on:

(where theres a little bit of bonus notes but. w/e)

[mildlybizarrecorvid]

Hey everyone doing that Tumblr trick or treat thing.

This post gets you whatever the biggest size of Tootsie Roll is. If you dislike those or are allergic, it's a Snickers. If you dislike those or are allergic, it's Mike and Ikes. If you dislike those or are allergic, I'm out of ideas it's a 20$ candy gift card. Go wild.

[methodwriting]

[pigeonclaw]

Idk man. Not a fan of the theory / headcanon about Moonpaw hearing the voice of the sibling she absorbed in utero. That gets a little too close to "fetuses have souls" for me to feel comfortable around and I seriously hope that's not what's gonna happen. Chimerism doesn't make you into two people. It's not conjoined twins. She's just one cat made with two sets of genes. We don't have to get too weird about how bodies just naturally turn out sometimes. Idk.

[tiggyarts]

/bones crack/ god it's been too long

[veliseraptor]

just thinking about the "xue yang never cared about xiao xingchen he doesn't have real feelings and just thinks of him as a toy" take again and @ameliarating pointed something out to me namely:

Xue Yang broke into peals of laughter. "Wei-qianbei, you're merciless!"

"Fine, laugh. Even if you laugh yourself to death, Xiao Xingchen's soul will still be too broken to put back together. He found you repulsive, yet you still insist on dragging him back so that you can play games with him."

Abruptly, Xue Yang swung from laughter into rage. "Who wants to play games?!"

"Then why did you kneel in front of me and beg me to fix his soul for you?"

Of course, someone as clever as Xue Yang must have been aware that Wei Wuxian was trying to bait him. First, distracting him with anger, and second, provoking him into shouting, Wei Wuxian made it possible for Lan Wangji to deduce his location and strike. But still, Xue Yang couldn't help replying. "Why? Hah! As if you don't know. I want to turn him into a fierce corpse - under my control! Didn't he want to be a pure, virtuous cultivator? Then I'll make him endlessly slaughter people, so he'll never find peace!"

"Ah? You hate him that much? Then why did you kill Chang Ping?"

Xue Yang sneered. "Why did I kill Chang Ping? Do you need to ask, Yiling Patriarch? Didn't I already tell you? I said I was going to kill the entire Yueyang Chang Clan - I wasn't even going to spare one dog!"

[...] Wei Wuxian said, "You sure came up with a good explanation. Too bad the timing doesn't match up. Someone like you, who can't even let a dirty look go without avenging yourself a thousand times over, someone who strikes so swiftly and ruthlessly - if someone like you really wanted to kill off an entire family, why would they wait so many years to finish? You know perfectly well why you killed Chang Ping."

"Then tell me, what do I know? What do I know perfectly well?!"

He shouted this last sentence.

"You killed them, yes. But why lingchi? Killing someone that way signifies that it was punishment. If you were only getting revenge for yourself, why did you use Shuanghua and not your own Jiangzai? Why did you have to dig out Chang Ping's eyes and make him like Xiao Xingchen?"

Xue Yang shouted himself hoarse. "Bullshit! It's all bullshit! It was revenge - was I supposed to let him die comfortably?"

"Indeed, it was revenge. But whose revenge were you seeking? How ridiculous. If you genuinely wanted revenge, you should have sliced yourself into pieces!" (MDZS, Chapter 42)

so if we're meant to buy that interpretation, then...what is the point of this passage? what is it trying to say? is it just to give Wei Wuxian a means of distracting Xue Yang and making him show himself? then why this means? and why are we taking the line that Xue Yang himself, a famously reliable narrator (?) gives (re: wanting to turn Xiao Xingchen into a fierce corpse and control him) as the truth of the situation, as opposed to Wei Wuxian's own interpretation (where Xue Yang is taking revenge on Xiao Xingchen's behalf, albeit expressed onto a different target)? and what is the point of Xue Yang's reaction after this, where he suddenly goes silent and stops responding, meant to indicate? the fact that Xue Yang gets angrier and angrier at Wei Wuxian for pressing the point?

these are all cues present for a narrative purpose, not "just because," and they're pointing in a direction that indicates that Xue Yang in this scene is lying through his teeth, whether or not he admits that to himself.

furthermore, since inevitably "but adaptation" comes up in these conversations, CQL actually retains this scene in a remarkably intact form:

coming to the conclusion based on this scene alone (not even touching the narrative surrounding the events in the past) that people who claim that "xue yang had no genuine feelings about xiao xingchen whatsoever" is to be taken as truth are not just taking the most boring possible read of this text but also at least a little actively reading against it.

[here-there-were-dragons]

i'm seeing three times as many people bitching in the tag about the very idea that someone might not like this breed than i see people actually expressing unambiguous dislike for this breed

[queerofthedagger]

everyone write 100 lines of "'creator chose not to use archive warnings' is proper tagging no matter what else is in that fic and if you OPEN a fic tagged as such it's entirely on you whatever you find in there" before going back to any discourse on dark fic and antis i am BEGGING

[lover-of-mine]

I agree with you on not outing people and stuff, but also the idea of “not speculating” on people’s sexualities has always been weird to me bc it’s only ever said when people think someone may be anything but straight… coming out of the closet is something we have to do for straight people, not for ourselves or our community; within the community, people flag and talk and live

anyways, I think it’s a little offensive to imply that thinking someone may be queer is a bad thing

Okay, look, we're talking about a real situation that involves something that was posted on accident and was quickly deleted and replaced. He clearly didn't want that to be on the internet. No one is implying that it's a bad thing for someone to be queer, it is bad to go around using something someone did on accident to justify crazy rumors that go as far as saying his long term relationship was a beard or that he was cheating on her all throughout their relationship. Who he sleeps with is none of our business. And when we're talking about a public figure, this type of speculation can be harmful. Are we forgetting Kit Connor? No one owes anyone any labels. Who anyone sleeps with is none of our business. But that doesn't make it okay to spread crazy rumors about someone's sexuality and imply he's a cheater just because "being queer is not an insult" when he never openly talked about his sexuality. It's his life. No one should be allowed to talk about it under that "I'm not insulting him, being queer is not an insult" it's not about insulting him. Is about respecting his privacy. He's allowed that. These are real people. He should be allowed to choose not to talk about this and we are expected to respect that. It adds nothing to anyone's life to go around saying he sleeps with men on the side. It's not okay to think that just because someone is famous, they should be expected to label themselves explicitly or just deal with a lifetime of people assuming things. He doesn't talk about it so what rights do I, a random internet user, have over this conversation?

[cosmic-ships]

I'm sorry his hairstyle is really bad though.

I'm sorry your opinion is really wrong though~ ♡

[anastacialy]

y'know, i keep making a habit of swinging my bat at hornets nests, but i have to say i'm getting so, so tired of people complaining about shows not making perfect sense when they aren't even close to done. we're four episodes into this season of doctor who. we're four episodes into this season of bridgerton. and yet in both fandoms i keep seeing people whine that such and such didn't make sense or it wasn't explained all the way and by god you guys i think maybe explanations might come later in the season. this is something most viewers will recognize as being called a 'plot.'

[getvalentined]

Hey, so, it's all well and good to not like newer titles in an older fandom, but the moment that you say that anyone who does like anything about those titles is ignorant and stupid and wrong, the moment you say that anyone engaging with newer material in a positive way doesn't actually care about the source material, you are completely out of line.

I understand disliking later iterations. I do. I've been there, many times. I understand being upset about a piece of media being taken a direction you didn't want it to go, I understand feeling let down by the handling of new media. I understand lamenting about it with friends, on your blog, whatever. That is perfectly valid behavior, that's part of being a fan of something. It's normal and it's human and it's expected. It's fair. It's your right, in fact.

However.

The instant that you turn that frustration into vitriolic insults toward other fans for having the "audacity" to be excited about newer material, the instant that you decide that you get to choose who is and isn't a "real fan," you are grossly out of line.

That's not up to you. What people get out of a series, what people enjoy about a series, what people want to see in a series—that's not up to you. What the creators do with a series, what direction they take it and what declarations they make—that's not up to you.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being upset, with disagreeing with other people in fandom, or even with disagreeing with the creators. But spouting off about people whose only "crime" is interest, asserting that they don't know what they're talking about, that they don't deserve to be here because they don't feel the way you do? That's pure, unadulterated entitlement.

That's not how media works, and it's certainly not how fandom works.

[neverendingford]

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